Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Jill · Jill

I am so grateful for AlAnon and MIP. I see that some people expect from us as individuals to "fix" their lives. This is typically newcomers. When I was the newcomer, I was too bewildered to expect someone to fix my life. Nonetheless, for some newcomers, I feel put on the spot, inadequate, a...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. I was up to take my son (my current A) to work at 3 this morning as usual, and I was thinking. (I NEVER guarantee the coherency of my pre-5:00 AM thinking, so bear with me, please) Before I found recovery, I was a victim. If so and so hadn't acted in such a way, certai...

ZiggyDoodles · ZiggyDoodles

I feel like I am just this horrible person, mother, friend, sister. Hardly worthy to walk the earth in some people's eyes. One of the people I hold closest to my heart has just completely broke me down. ANY OTHER person and I could just let it roll off. Lately, she has been real...

Knees · Knees

I've been in program for many years and my family of origin still disappoints me. They haven't changed, so it's me that has the problem. My hurt is an old one. It's a small thing - call, email or send a card to acknowledge my natel birthday. I've asked, explained, and me...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Hmmm !!!!! Been on this site only a couple weeks. Am I still concidered a newbie ? My 1st visit to 12 step program was 40 yrs ago. Been back and forth , in and out the rest of my 52 yrs. Been to all kinds of 12stepin' programs, ACA, ACOA, ALA, EA, SAA, IA, and some I just don't remember. I nev...

hmrnrnmm · hmrnrnmm

Is it at all possible for a non drinker & a alcoholic to continue a relationship? I started drinking at 16. I drank booze for 28 years. we would chug beer, I drank wine, & liquor. We were underage but older people would buy it for us every wekend. A gallon between 4 or 10 peop...

gardengal · gardengal

Alanon's purpose is to help families and friends of alcoholics. We come together to find help and support in dealing with the effects of alcoholism. In time we discover that the principles of our program can be practiced in "all our affairs". But there are times when, in order to work through especial...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Hi All,

My gut sez to refresh the subject. My head ain't to sure how to go abou...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

Hello, I wanted to inform you of my state of being for the time being. I felt the sharks again. I am very glad to have had a couple weeks here to feel the ones who aren't. Both experiences are here in my opinion, as I have felt both. Its awful in my opinion that its this way. There seems to be alot of levels of u...

debilyn · debilyn

--- Sent: Wednesday, April 12, 2006 7:59 AM Subject: A morning at Eden Lately Sauvey (my Great Pyrenees) has been going nuts barking at day break. There are white tailed deer going thru here. They are so beautiful and healthy. Not concerned about this barking beast...

AlaMom · AlaMom

I did something interesting on this site tonight. I went down to the bottom of the message board and lclicked on the started by feature. I reread all of the posts that I had started during my time on this board. It was actually pretty interesting. Reviewing all the positives...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))), Okay I have been nothing but grouchy lately!

I have had it with work, and this morning I decided to give myself a mental health day. I already worked 5 days, and with hubby's disability check, I can afford to treat myself to a day off. A...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((John)))))))))))))), Can we please double check the meeting times that are posted in the chat room? I thought the Saturday meeting was at 11am Est as posted on the board. But when I came on at 10:45am the meeting was already in progress. I am on the East Coast so I don't have to worry...

sparkette · sparkette

Funny how considering what I am spending so much effort on right now that success is the thing I am fearing. I have been in and out of college for the better part of 15 years. I am nearing the end of my Junior year, for those of you who don't know I am an education major. I am terrified now that I might a...

flintfeet · flintfeet

at least for right now.

i decided to quit my disgusting habit of 12yrs. yesturday was my first full day without smoking in a LONG time. i felt fine. i felt a few times during the day when i would normally go outside to smoke, but i quickly remembered that i didn't have any smokes. for me it's not the...

drucilla06 · drucilla06

I have been thinking alot about step 1 since I am starting this step journey.I struggled with powerlessness over 'alcohol' because I am not an alcoholic.Well, I AM powerless over alcohol but in a different way than the alcoholic is.I am powerless over how alcohol entered my life through my father and...

Barbara · Barbara

how do you get that connection back once youve grown apart? Someone else just mentioned this at my f2f and yes I identified - been feeling this for quite a while. Its especially glaring at me now that our 13yr son wants his own life, wants to hangout with his friends and not always his mother. My spouse cho...

search41 · search41

I just wanted to share about a reality tv show that is on in the mornings that i really get something out of from time to time. It is a show called "Starting Over" on ABC. it is a home in california where women go to "start over". as in, know they are at a stale-mate in their life, and go the...

Barbara · Barbara

There will be the usual egg hunt for DS13. He still likes waking up Easter morn and looking for the plastic candy filled eggs. Husband & I have an Easter basket for him. Husband bought him the new Narnia DVD. I'll be taking son to the Davis Farmland to see the new baby animals. We do enjoy the farm. No re...

leo · leo

I have been reading a lot of posts here over the last few days with regard to the board and chat room. Some negative some positive. I for one would like to thank John and all the moderators and ops at both sites who give up their own time willingly to provide these services for us. I thin...

Ria · Ria

I just wanted to say a very big thank you to those who offered to help me in chat last night. I asked if I could pm someone re:teenagers. Doubly difficult for me as teen in question isn't mine and as I don't have any children of any age I was working from a very limited frame...

mac57 · mac57

Oh, My God As I wake upon my bed, Push my way to the day ahead, I see the aftermath of a home astray Just like the one where I once played. Driving down the busy highway, Make my way through crowded streets, I see the chaos and the whirling, See the homeless and the hurtin...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

As I sit here thinking about the past few days as much as everything really is the same, things change. Hub sober for 2 days, big deal I say, but really it is to him. To me it's just an illusion of a life that was. It is gone, because this is just a brief stop. I know it's one day at a time, one minute at at time...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I spoke with Swolves tonight and she wants me to say hi to all. Her computer is down and she has a new job and is working a lot of hours. She promises to get her computer fixed soon and get her butt back to meetings. She and her family are all doing well. Josey

unsure24 · unsure24

Today I told my husband about starting to go to celebrate recovery and AA meetings. I also told him about my meetings with my counselor/psychologist. I told him that i wasnt going to enable his drinking anymore. That I would go with him to dinner if he was going to order an alcoholic...

Hanna · Hanna

In my last post I asked for advice and many of you said that you do not give advice here. I think that isn't quite true. Through the strength you show through your writing you are in a way giving advice saying, "i can get through it...so can you". One of the replies to my last post gave me a pretty good ide...

rtexas · rtexas

I just spent the last 30 minutes talking one of my co-workers off the ledge... LOL It's good friday and lots of folks are out, he is responsable for distributing work to our group, and he had a PILE of last minute tasks sent to him for distribution. Since most of the team is gone, he was panic stric...

msykesp · msykesp

This morning was bad. As I was getting ready for work, I rememberec i had no cash on me, so I yelled at him i was goingto take the 50 out of his wallet and bring him home 30 tonight. (did I mention it is his bday today!) Its not like it was the only money there, there was a 100 too, so I wasnt cutting h...

ditto · ditto

We first met three years ago through an internet dating site. I recently looked at the profile I had written. I was requesting an honest, caring, healthy person. I specifically stated I did not want someone who had an addiction to drugs, alcohol, gambling or pornography....

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((Family)))))))))), I wanted to share the story of the camel with you. I treated myself and hubby to some early Easter gifts: 2 books on recovery for him, 1 for me along with the coin. The coin on one side says ODAT and has a picture of a camel on it. The other side of the coin tells this story...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

For those of you miserable at home, don't make my mistake and let the housework go. I moved out the 31st and I am still going back to the other house cleaning up. How did we live like that? I let myself get so depressed, I didn't care. Granted I had days I was ill, but I also got lazy...

Hanna · Hanna

I believed my A when he said he wouldn't drink anymore. I believed when he begged me not to leave me. I believed when he promised he wouldn't make my final semester of university hell. Now I feel stupid. There are two weeks left in the term. I graduate in less then a month. In a month after that I have to p...

rio · rio

I keep seeing people use this phrase in meetings. There is a song by the same name that I listen to many times every day because it has a very powerful message. It's by a member of my favorite band. He's a recovering alcoholic/drug addict himself. If you want to hear it, I uploa...

serendipity · serendipity

my a husband has been "out there" for almost 2 months. i haven't seen him and he hasn't seen the kids. he has tried to be consistent with calling them but he can't be. i have tried to be kind. i really wasn't very angry, just disappointed. we've been doing this every few years for 12 years. but here is my ques...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((everyone))))) I had my al-anon b-day a few months ago, and since then I've been thinking about how I got started, not only how I came thru the doors but especially about a person I met there when I did. My first meeting I cried the entire time, the meeting was about control though I didn't u...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I've wanted to post on this topic for a while, more to get feedback and understanding from those of you who have seasoned knowledge on the progression of this disease. I have experienced alcoholics who have drank most of their lives. The have DT tremors, they can't remember anything, th...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Beware of the rubber conscience and the concrete heart. I read this in the pamphlet Alcoholism the Family Disease this morning. Probably have read it a hundred no maybe hundreds of times LOL but today it stuck out. How many times have I justified actions I am not proud of? thousands H...

Cyn · Cyn

The true backlash of dealing with an A in my life is happening. Its affecting the relationships I have in my life even though he is no longer a part of it anymore. Its been almost 6 months since I have seen, or heard from him. And I have been very happily involved with a stable, ca...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everyone, Quick background ... a couple weeks ago I decided I was tiredof managing AH's personal money, gave it to him and poof it was gone in a couple days ... rough week thinking about how to take care of myself without it benefitting him, dealing with anger over his irresponsibility and poss...

bubbles1990 · bubbles1990

OK I am having a very low night so I was going to talk about the problem but I think instread I will talk about Graditude. I know I have done this before quite a few post back but i have decied to do it again and share it with all of you: 1. I am grateful for HP 2.I am grateful for a roof over my head 3. I am gr...

Barbara · Barbara

A husbands car just broke down. He was on the highway and the brakes went. Im the one with the money Im the one who usually gets stuck paying for everything. Its "expected" of me. He needed car repair a few months ago and I made him put it on his charge card. But then when the tax return came back I gave him 1/2 s...

confused · confused

I am amazed at how this program works. And just wanted to take a minute to share my thoughts on "It works if you work it" I need to just say that each and every time I have allowed the program, the people in the program, the literature, the steps, the slogans... in they have worked. But m...

peewee · peewee

Something I like from Native American Wisdom "When you lose the rhythm of the drumbeat of God, you are lost from the peace and rhythm of life." Cheyenne proverb Just another way of wording what I'm looking for. MsPeewee

search41 · search41

I want to thank all of you who replied to my post a few days ago. They were all so helpful and encouraging. I have done a lot of thinking these past several days since i posted. i'm still not convinced that i'm being a good mom to our 7 yr old, cuz i know i could do better. but s...

tea2 · tea2

(((((Lunamoth)))))

Wanted to wish you a Very Happy Birthday!

love, care and well wishes ~ for the whole year thru

tea2

aunitedway · aunitedway

(((BigHugs to Deblynn & d53 and ALL))) for the subject going on.... I want to write a bit and share. I chose this because it seems to keep coming up lately. Ok, here goes. Where ever you go that are new places &nbs...

Powerless · Powerless

I am checking in from the public library. I got angry last weekend and threw my laptop. I ended up braking the screen and had to send it to Gateway for repairs. It should be back in 7-10 days. I am fine. Sorry for worrying everyone. Been going to f2f meetings every...

nycbt · nycbt

I have realize that I am in love with my husband who is an alchoic. I am in love with him. I do get upset when he drinks like everyone else. I am happy the rest of the time with him. Thanks to the program I have detached at times when he is drinking. The other times I feel the love of him. I love to give my husband hu...

rtexas · rtexas

So I'm standing outside (feeding my addiction) and contemplating the events of last night. My A is totally beside herself about the fact that I will not agree to doing something other than Al-Anon. I mean she has been absolutely hysterical about it for over a month n...

kitty · kitty

Let It Begin With Me When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help ~ let the hand of Al-Anon & Alateen always be there and ~ Let It Begin With Me. I have had this card in my wallet ever since 1987. My One Day at a Time book has my signature and the date April 24, 1987. My ex-husband cared morea bout be...

robyn76 · robyn76

Hi all ~ Just wondering what ESH stands for?????...thanks robyn

doxie · doxie

At the meeting last night someone quoted the "acceptance" paragraph or something like that from the Big Book (AA) I believe. I really cannot remember for sure, as I was at work and trying to do two things at once

. But it was a really cool paragraph. Can someone help me identify where to find it? &...

Barbara · Barbara

Yup time to go again tomorrow. Last mammo was 14months ago. I go yearly since my older brother had breast cancer 5yrs ago. Im also having my bloodwork done while in the city. Doc keeps track of both my cholesterol and thyroid. Same brother had heart trouble/heart bypass in 2003. I lost 45lbs, got to goal...

unsure24 · unsure24

My name is Tonia. I joined the forum and didnt have the courage to post until i read this. I didnt realize that the things i have been seeing were commonplace i wasnt even sure that i should be here. My husband and i have been married for a year and a half. I am 24 and he is 34. ...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

This was asked in a previous post. Again referring to the Alcoholism the Family Disease pamphlet (P-4) p. 24 "...Our leaders are chosen not to govern, but to serve. No member of Al-Anon should direct, assume authority or give advice. Our program is based on suggestion, intercha...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Don't ya watch tv commercials pa? Happy cows come from California!!!! LOLOLOL Mooooooooooo!!

bill y · bill y

Ok all the replys to my too soon post are great but what I failed to mention was that he is not living at home right now and I nkow he wants to and I want him to but what do I do.

Christy · Christy

An f2f Alanon friend e-mailed this to me, I liked it and thought I'd share... I'm Glad You're In My Dash I read of a man who stood to speak At the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on her tombstone, From the beginning...to the end. He noted that first came her dat...

debilyn · debilyn

Omgosh!!! I believe I have made a hurdle!!!! Becuz my brain is not clogged with the A disease, I have a NEW um avatar!!! go see go see!! It's Estersue!!! love,debilyn

flintfeet · flintfeet

almost everyone in my family is addicted to something. we have our many alcoholics. we also have family members addicted to smoking(i'm guilty of that!). we also have our fair share of druggies, gamblers, "marriage addicts", ...ect . my whole family is addicted to something! today is my first day...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Expectations for Chat Room and Message Board (Preview) I am so grateful for AlAnon and MIP. I see that some people expect from us as individuals to "fix" their lives. This is typically newcomers. When I was the newcomer, I was too bewildered to expect someone to fix my life. Nonetheless, for some newcomers, I feel put on the spot, inadequate, a...	Jill	13	502	Apr 16, 2006 by d53sjurne
	I am not a victim (Preview) Good morning, all. I was up to take my son (my current A) to work at 3 this morning as usual, and I was thinking. (I NEVER guarantee the coherency of my pre-5:00 AM thinking, so bear with me, please) Before I found recovery, I was a victim. If so and so hadn't acted in such a way, certai...	kspear	5	433	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Having trouble letting go and processing. (Preview) I feel like I am just this horrible person, mother, friend, sister. Hardly worthy to walk the earth in some people's eyes. One of the people I hold closest to my heart has just completely broke me down. ANY OTHER person and I could just let it roll off. Lately, she has been real...	ZiggyDoodles	3	293	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Family expectations (Preview) I've been in program for many years and my family of origin still disappoints me. They haven't changed, so it's me that has the problem. My hurt is an old one. It's a small thing - call, email or send a card to acknowledge my natel birthday. I've asked, explained, and me...	Knees	7	280	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Sharks or Trout ??? (Preview) Hmmm !!!!! Been on this site only a couple weeks. Am I still concidered a newbie ? My 1st visit to 12 step program was 40 yrs ago. Been back and forth , in and out the rest of my 52 yrs. Been to all kinds of 12stepin' programs, ACA, ACOA, ALA, EA, SAA, IA, and some I just don't remember. I nev...	d53sjurne	17	602	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Can this relationship last? (Preview) Is it at all possible for a non drinker & a alcoholic to continue a relationship? I started drinking at 16. I drank booze for 28 years. we would chug beer, I drank wine, & liquor. We were underage but older people would buy it for us every wekend. A gallon between 4 or 10 peop...	hmrnrnmm	6	414	Apr 16, 2006 by lalarainbow
	Tapping into other resources (Preview) Alanon's purpose is to help families and friends of alcoholics. We come together to find help and support in dealing with the effects of alcoholism. In time we discover that the principles of our program can be practiced in "all our affairs". But there are times when, in order to work through especial...	gardengal	5	303	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	1st impressions of chat ???Neg or Pos (Preview) Hi All,   My gut sez to refresh the subject. My head ain't to sure how to go abou...	d53sjurne	5	427	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Another Shark Attack (Preview) Hello, I wanted to inform you of my state of being for the time being. I felt the sharks again. I am very glad to have had a couple weeks here to feel the ones who aren't. Both experiences are here in my opinion, as I have felt both. Its awful in my opinion that its this way. There seems to be alot of levels of u...	d53sjurne	8	493	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	sharing a morning at Eden (Preview) --- Sent: Wednesday, April 12, 2006 7:59 AM Subject: A morning at Eden Lately Sauvey (my Great Pyrenees) has been going nuts barking at day break. There are white tailed deer going thru here. They are so beautiful and healthy. Not concerned about this barking beast...	debilyn	7	261	Apr 16, 2006 by maresie
	Seeing our Growth... (Preview) I did something interesting on this site tonight. I went down to the bottom of the message board and lclicked on the started by feature. I reread all of the posts that I had started during my time on this board. It was actually pretty interesting. Reviewing all the positives...	AlaMom	3	272	Apr 16, 2006 by mastiff
	Mental Health Day (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((Roomies)))))))))))))))))), Okay I have been nothing but grouchy lately! I have had it with work, and this morning I decided to give myself a mental health day. I already worked 5 days, and with hubby's disability check, I can afford to treat myself to a day off. A...	Karilynn	6	281	Apr 16, 2006 by Karilynn
	meeting times (Preview) ((((((((((((((((John)))))))))))))), Can we please double check the meeting times that are posted in the chat room? I thought the Saturday meeting was at 11am Est as posted on the board. But when I came on at 10:45am the meeting was already in progress. I am on the East Coast so I don't have to worry...	Karilynn	2	311	Apr 16, 2006 by John
	fear of success (Preview) Funny how considering what I am spending so much effort on right now that success is the thing I am fearing. I have been in and out of college for the better part of 15 years. I am nearing the end of my Junior year, for those of you who don't know I am an education major. I am terrified now that I might a...	sparkette	4	433	Apr 15, 2006 by mac57
	stopped smoking (Preview) at least for right now. i decided to quit my disgusting habit of 12yrs. yesturday was my first full day without smoking in a LONG time. i felt fine. i felt a few times during the day when i would normally go outside to smoke, but i quickly remembered that i didn't have any smokes. for me it's not the...	flintfeet	5	306	Apr 15, 2006 by nmike
	taking those first steps....... (Preview) I have been thinking alot about step 1 since I am starting this step journey.I struggled with powerlessness over 'alcohol' because I am not an alcoholic.Well, I AM powerless over alcohol but in a different way than the alcoholic is.I am powerless over how alcohol entered my life through my father and...	drucilla06	3	281	Apr 15, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Detachment from spouse while bringing up children - (Preview) how do you get that connection back once youve grown apart? Someone else just mentioned this at my f2f and yes I identified - been feeling this for quite a while. Its especially glaring at me now that our 13yr son wants his own life, wants to hangout with his friends and not always his mother. My spouse cho...	Barbara	4	396	Apr 15, 2006 by AlaMom
	Recommend "Starting Over" (Preview) I just wanted to share about a reality tv show that is on in the mornings that i really get something out of from time to time. It is a show called "Starting Over" on ABC. it is a home in california where women go to "start over". as in, know they are at a stale-mate in their life, and go the...	search41	5	709	Apr 15, 2006 by search41
	How is everyone spending their Easter? (Preview) There will be the usual egg hunt for DS13. He still likes waking up Easter morn and looking for the plastic candy filled eggs. Husband & I have an Easter basket for him. Husband bought him the new Narnia DVD. I'll be taking son to the Davis Farmland to see the new baby animals. We do enjoy the farm. No re...	Barbara	10	417	Apr 15, 2006 by seachange
	unsung heroes (Preview) I have been reading a lot of posts here over the last few days with regard to the board and chat room. Some negative some positive. I for one would like to thank John and all the moderators and ops at both sites who give up their own time willingly to provide these services for us. I thin...	leo	9	335	Apr 15, 2006 by drucilla06
	Chatroom help. Thank you (Preview) I just wanted to say a very big *thank you* to those who offered to help me in chat last night. I asked if I could pm someone re:teenagers. Doubly difficult for me as teen in question isn't mine and as I don't have any children of any age I was working from a very limited frame...	Ria	3	381	Apr 15, 2006 by mac57
	a poem from mac (Preview) Oh, My God As I wake upon my bed, Push my way to the day ahead, I see the aftermath of a home astray Just like the one where I once played. Driving down the busy highway, Make my way through crowded streets, I see the chaos and the whirling, See the homeless and the hurtin...	mac57	14	441	Apr 15, 2006 by mel123
	Just A Little Peace (Preview) As I sit here thinking about the past few days as much as everything really is the same, things change. Hub sober for 2 days, big deal I say, but really it is to him. To me it's just an illusion of a life that was. It is gone, because this is just a brief stop. I know it's one day at a time, one minute at at time...	Andrea12	4	298	Apr 15, 2006 by mel123
	Hello from Swolves (Preview) I spoke with Swolves tonight and she wants me to say hi to all. Her computer is down and she has a new job and is working a lot of hours. She promises to get her computer fixed soon and get her butt back to meetings. She and her family are all doing well. Josey	jrtjosey	2	258	Apr 15, 2006 by buzzfree
	frustrated (Preview) Today I told my husband about starting to go to celebrate recovery and AA meetings. I also told him about my meetings with my counselor/psychologist. I told him that i wasnt going to enable his drinking anymore. That I would go with him to dinner if he was going to order an alcoholic...	unsure24	4	293	Apr 15, 2006 by bobump
	getting through (Preview) In my last post I asked for advice and many of you said that you do not give advice here. I think that isn't quite true. Through the strength you show through your writing you are in a way giving advice saying, "i can get through it...so can you". One of the replies to my last post gave me a pretty good ide...	Hanna	2	299	Apr 15, 2006 by bobump
	The art of being overwhelmed (Preview) I just spent the last 30 minutes talking one of my co-workers off the ledge... LOL It's good friday and lots of folks are out, he is responsable for distributing work to our group, and he had a PILE of last minute tasks sent to him for distribution. Since most of the team is gone, he was panic stric...	rtexas	3	356	Apr 15, 2006 by Barbara
	I reacted... (Preview) This morning was bad. As I was getting ready for work, I rememberec i had no cash on me, so I yelled at him i was goingto take the 50 out of his wallet and bring him home 30 tonight. (did I mention it is his bday today!) Its not like it was the only money there, there was a 100 too, so I wasnt cutting h...	msykesp	9	314	Apr 15, 2006 by unsure24
	And I shall take the blame (Preview) We first met three years ago through an internet dating site. I recently looked at the profile I had written. I was requesting an honest, caring, healthy person. I specifically stated I did not want someone who had an addiction to drugs, alcohol, gambling or pornography....	ditto	9	533	Apr 14, 2006 by leo
	Kari & the Camel (Preview) ((((((((((((Family)))))))))), I wanted to share the story of the camel with you. I treated myself and hubby to some early Easter gifts: 2 books on recovery for him, 1 for me along with the coin. The coin on one side says ODAT and has a picture of a camel on it. The other side of the coin tells this story...	Karilynn	3	365	Apr 14, 2006 by leo
	Don't make my mistake (Preview) For those of you miserable at home, don't make my mistake and let the housework go. I moved out the 31st and I am still going back to the other house cleaning up. How did we live like that? I let myself get so depressed, I didn't care. Granted I had days I was ill, but I also got lazy...	jrtjosey	9	409	Apr 14, 2006 by aunitedway
	He promised (Preview) I believed my A when he said he wouldn't drink anymore. I believed when he begged me not to leave me. I believed when he promised he wouldn't make my final semester of university hell. Now I feel stupid. There are two weeks left in the term. I graduate in less then a month. In a month after that I have to p...	Hanna	10	497	Apr 14, 2006 by nmike
	Trust The Process (Preview) I keep seeing people use this phrase in meetings. There is a song by the same name that I listen to many times every day because it has a very powerful message. It's by a member of my favorite band. He's a recovering alcoholic/drug addict himself. If you want to hear it, I uploa...	rio	0	267	Apr 14, 2006 by rio
	any comments? (Preview) my a husband has been "out there" for almost 2 months. i haven't seen him and he hasn't seen the kids. he has tried to be consistent with calling them but he can't be. i have tried to be kind. i really wasn't very angry, just disappointed. we've been doing this every few years for 12 years. but here is my ques...	serendipity	5	324	Apr 14, 2006 by serendipity
	You never know who you will touch (Preview) ((((everyone))))) I had my al-anon b-day a few months ago, and since then I've been thinking about how I got started, not only how I came thru the doors but especially about a person I met there when I did. My first meeting I cried the entire time, the meeting was about control though I didn't u...	Lunamoth	8	356	Apr 14, 2006 by Maria123
	What does the progression of Alcoholism look like? (Preview) I've wanted to post on this topic for a while, more to get feedback and understanding from those of you who have seasoned knowledge on the progression of this disease. I have experienced alcoholics who have drank most of their lives. The have DT tremors, they can't remember anything, th...	twinmom2	8	2034	Apr 14, 2006 by megan
	Beware (Preview) Beware of the rubber conscience and the concrete heart. I read this in the pamphlet Alcoholism the Family Disease this morning. Probably have read it a hundred no maybe hundreds of times LOL but today it stuck out. How many times have I justified actions I am not proud of? thousands H...	Jennifer	4	526	Apr 14, 2006 by Ria
	Rearing its ugly head (Preview) The true backlash of dealing with an A in my life is happening. Its affecting the relationships I have in my life even though he is no longer a part of it anymore. Its been almost 6 months since I have seen, or heard from him. And I have been very happily involved with a stable, ca...	Cyn	3	277	Apr 14, 2006 by flintfeet
	taking care of me is so easy :-) (Preview) Hello Everyone, Quick background ... a couple weeks ago I decided I was tiredof managing AH's personal money, gave it to him and poof it was gone in a couple days ... rough week thinking about how to take care of myself without it benefitting him, dealing with anger over his irresponsibility and poss...	Jennifer	5	292	Apr 14, 2006 by leo
	Another Graditude list....... (Preview) OK I am having a very low night so I was going to talk about the problem but I think instread I will talk about Graditude. I know I have done this before quite a few post back but i have decied to do it again and share it with all of you: 1. I am grateful for HP 2.I am grateful for a roof over my head 3. I am gr...	bubbles1990	4	289	Apr 14, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Finances - do you just keep paying for the A? (Preview) A husbands car just broke down. He was on the highway and the brakes went. Im the one with the money Im the one who usually gets stuck paying for everything. Its "expected" of me. He needed car repair a few months ago and I made him put it on his charge card. But then when the tax return came back I gave him 1/2 s...	Barbara	7	603	Apr 14, 2006 by KathyS
	the power of sponsorship (Preview) I am amazed at how this program works. And just wanted to take a minute to share my thoughts on "It works if you work it" I need to just say that each and every time I have allowed the program, the people in the program, the literature, the steps, the slogans... in they have worked. But m...	confused	2	258	Apr 14, 2006 by KathyS
	Peace (Preview) Something I like from Native American Wisdom "When you lose the rhythm of the drumbeat of God, you are lost from the peace and rhythm of life." Cheyenne proverb Just another way of wording what I'm looking for. MsPeewee	peewee	3	311	Apr 14, 2006 by leo
	My thoughts to all who replied... (Preview) I want to thank all of you who replied to my post a few days ago. They were all so helpful and encouraging. I have done a lot of thinking these past several days since i posted. i'm still not convinced that i'm being a good mom to our 7 yr old, cuz i know i could do better. but s...	search41	2	246	Apr 14, 2006 by search41
	HaPpY bIrThDaY Lunamoth (Preview) (((((Lunamoth))))) Wanted to wish you a Very *Happy Birthday*! love, care and well wishes ~ for the whole year thru tea2	tea2	14	420	Apr 13, 2006 by DebC
	Chat room Subjects and POS NEG to NEWBIES and ALL (Preview) (((BigHugs to Deblynn & d53 and ALL))) for the subject going on.... I want to write a bit and share. I chose this because it seems to keep coming up lately. Ok, here goes. Where ever you go that are new places &nbs...	aunitedway	4	449	Apr 13, 2006 by DebC
	Checking in from the library (Preview) I am checking in from the public library. I got angry last weekend and threw my laptop. I ended up braking the screen and had to send it to Gateway for repairs. It should be back in 7-10 days. I am fine. Sorry for worrying everyone. Been going to f2f meetings every...	Powerless	8	283	Apr 13, 2006 by leo
	my husband (Preview) I have realize that I am in love with my husband who is an alchoic. I am in love with him. I do get upset when he drinks like everyone else. I am happy the rest of the time with him. Thanks to the program I have detached at times when he is drinking. The other times I feel the love of him. I love to give my husband hu...	nycbt	18	477	Apr 13, 2006 by Krze_kel
	Even Buzzards are beautiful sometimes... (Preview) So I'm standing outside (feeding my addiction) and contemplating the events of last night. My A is totally beside herself about the fact that I will not agree to doing something other than Al-Anon. I mean she has been absolutely hysterical about it for over a month n...	rtexas	11	426	Apr 13, 2006 by leo
	Let It Begin with Me (Preview) Let It Begin With Me When anyone, anywhere reaches out for help ~ let the hand of Al-Anon & Alateen always be there and ~ Let It Begin With Me. I have had this card in my wallet ever since 1987. My One Day at a Time book has my signature and the date April 24, 1987. My ex-husband cared morea bout be...	kitty	3	303	Apr 13, 2006 by kitty
	Lingo Help (Preview) Hi all ~ Just wondering what ESH stands for?????...thanks robyn	robyn76	1	327	Apr 13, 2006 by aunitedway
	At the meeting last night.... (Preview) At the meeting last night someone quoted the "acceptance" paragraph or something like that from the Big Book (AA) I believe. I really cannot remember for sure, as I was at work and trying to do two things at once . But it was a really cool paragraph. Can someone help me identify where to find it? &...	doxie	2	373	Apr 13, 2006 by kismetstrand
	mammogram and cholesterol & thyroid bloodwork (Preview) Yup time to go again tomorrow. Last mammo was 14months ago. I go yearly since my older brother had breast cancer 5yrs ago. Im also having my bloodwork done while in the city. Doc keeps track of both my cholesterol and thyroid. Same brother had heart trouble/heart bypass in 2003. I lost 45lbs, got to goal...	Barbara	5	322	Apr 13, 2006 by leo
	unsure (Preview) My name is Tonia. I joined the forum and didnt have the courage to post until i read this. I didnt realize that the things i have been seeing were commonplace i wasnt even sure that i should be here. My husband and i have been married for a year and a half. I am 24 and he is 34. ...	unsure24	10	351	Apr 13, 2006 by unsure24
	What is Dominance... (Preview) This was asked in a previous post. Again referring to the Alcoholism the Family Disease pamphlet (P-4) p. 24 "...Our leaders are chosen not to govern, but to serve. No member of Al-Anon should direct, assume authority or give advice. Our program is based on suggestion, intercha...	kismetstrand	0	1035	Apr 13, 2006 by kismetstrand
	David...re Happy Cows (Preview) Don't ya watch tv commercials pa? Happy cows come from California!!!! LOLOLOL Mooooooooooo!!	kismetstrand	8	395	Apr 13, 2006 by kismetstrand
	Replys (Preview) Ok all the replys to my too soon post are great but what I failed to mention was that he is not living at home right now and I nkow he wants to and I want him to but what do I do.	bill y	2	294	Apr 13, 2006 by Jeannie
	I'm glad you're in my dash :) (Preview) An f2f Alanon friend e-mailed this to me, I liked it and thought I'd share... I'm Glad You're In My Dash I read of a man who stood to speak At the funeral of a friend. He referred to the dates on her tombstone, From the beginning...to the end. He noted that first came her dat...	Christy	6	855	Apr 13, 2006 by jonibaloni21
	progree jest fer me!!! (Preview) Omgosh!!! I believe I have made a hurdle!!!! Becuz my brain is not clogged with the A disease, I have a NEW um avatar!!! go see go see!! It's Estersue!!! love,debilyn	debilyn	9	370	Apr 13, 2006 by Lunamoth
	addictive personality!! (Preview) almost everyone in my family is addicted to something. we have our many alcoholics. we also have family members addicted to smoking(i'm guilty of that!). we also have our fair share of druggies, gamblers, "marriage addicts", ...ect . my whole family is addicted to something! today is my first day...	flintfeet	3	305	Apr 13, 2006 by hudsond
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