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tootired · tootired

I am so hurt. he went in treatment last month, has not be able to be sober 30 days. I saw him today and he was not sober. I am so hurt, I want to believe that we can and will get sober. He is living alone now, not with me. It hurts so bad to see him like that. I have been married to him about 30 years, I feel so stupid...

rtexas · rtexas

((((everyone)))) I feel like making a sign and wearing it around my neck that says... "I'm doing the best I can..." My feelings towards my AW have wavered between irritation to sadness for her. She doesn't want me working a program, but she wants me fixed. Right now. (Or back t...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

He removed the battery from my car this morning, so I had to find another way to work. He's a mechanic and it's kinda scary what he could do. In a fit of anger during a drunken episode once, long ago, he threatened to 'fix my breaks'. Funny - I just remembered that now. How easily...

buzzfree · buzzfree

Ok, so I am sitting here right now taking a quick break from some homework.

I am reading a chapter on "converting change into opportunity." While I am a tad restless since the school year is almost at a close, this really had me glued to it. I thought of all the dragons I have battled against in my...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I know in many of my posts I have made my husband seem like an uncaring monster. Sometimes he does seem that way, now, but not in the past. From the day I met him, part of me knew that the connection he had with his parents was not "normal". I love my Mom anda Dad with all my heart, but I have never been obsesse...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

First of all - thank you for those of you who have taken time to respond to my cries for help! Thank you for helping me to see what was blocking me from my higher power! I have had an epiphany and I need to share this: Last night after almost 2 weeks with no proper sleep, I told him that it was over.&n...

Diva · Diva

Day 17 and counting. Great! Congratulations! I had to make a big deal out of this. It deserves a separate post. Good luck, Diva

megan · megan

Mountain biking with my sister in law. Wednesday night is our night. I kick off work at 4:30 and head home. I get changed , load up my bike and we meet in the woods. I lead and she follows. Speeding through the woods. It is singletrack, narrow and winding. Steep climbs, dangerous descents, roots rocks, ou...

Barbara · Barbara

I got in the door for my lunch break right after A husband got home from work. I call him earlier today to let him know our son has a friend over and he'll be spending the night. We talked about dinner and decided to get pizza. After I walked in the door I suggested eating dinner at the pizza parlor. Of course h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So many of you recently have expressed anxiety, frustration, or just general concern over the 4th step (doing it perfectly, doing it thouroughly, doing it at all) that today's Hazelden Meditation was just too good not to post for y'all. I fully agree with this message--too many people get wra...

Barbara · Barbara

It seems to me that we shouldnt have a Step 4 without a Step 5 and then why shouldnt we ask God to remove our shortcomings? Are Steps 4-7 all interconnected? Did/do you do them all separately or together? Maybe because Ive just begun Step 4, I see Step 8 as beginning an entirely new set of Steps and...

snt · snt

Well, I have his stuff packed up most of it anyway. The locks are changed. I cant deal with the mixed signals anymore. He goes to her house everynight. I kid myself that he is still trying to decide, but who am I kidding. He made the choice. I just hav...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I am having a hard time getting my A off my mind lately. I haven't been able to sleep now for days. At night seems to be the worse when everything is quiet. I try to stay as busy as I can during the day so that my thoughts are not consumed with him but they catch up with me late at night. ...

gardengal · gardengal

Making one think of more positive things can aid recovery.......:idea

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, Life is plugging along here. I assessed the damage on my car yesterday, its not bad, I buffed out the scratches. I can't do much about the dents but they're not that bad. The guy I hit called me yesterday afternoon to say he was sorry again and to let me know that he still...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I have been doing so much thinking and taking a long hard look at my life. On Easter Sunday though we had a nice day, when I look at it nothing has changed. My husband is not here, but his ways are still with us. His not showing up and calling drunk etc. We have learned to continue on without him, but th...

nal · nal

Hi everyone, I'm an ACOA with a dad who has been sober, as far as I know, for 2+ years. It's looking like tomorrow his dog, who he loves more than anything, is going to have to be put to sleep. I'm afraid this will affect his sobriety and mental health. I know I can't control it a...

horselover58 · horselover58

Hi, I can't login to the step board. I did a few days ago (cant remember when). Now it says "account pedning." Can anyone help me? I tried to login from scratch but it told me that my "user name " was being used. No kidding lol Appreciate any help. Debbie

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, I was thinking about all the tools that alanon has to offer for a better way to live, and all the old tools I use to use in life mearly to survive in an alcoholic home. Pre alanon, i developed a lot of "survival skills" or tools, things i used to get by, get what i thought i needed ect. I learn...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

oh man, i screwed up with this job we are trying to get here at work.........the guy called LAST WEEK at least, ago, and asked me re: our employees or subs doing the actual painting.......i said they worked only for us, been with us for YEARS, but they were paid as sub...

meowpur · meowpur

I'm new here. I sure am having a lousy time. I can't seem to get my stuff together. I am always upset. I have Fibromyalgia and spinal disc problems so I am in a lot of pain. I am trying to become more assertive and not take any abuse from people in my life. I have lost s...

bigthoughts · bigthoughts

I am the child of an alcoholic, I am dating an alcoholic. I didn't know at first, it took awhile for me to realize it and now I just feel so ANGRY!! I have fallen in love with this man---a man with so many good qualities--and I am beginning to feel that I not only shouldn't be with him, I don't want to. Tonight w...

Rebecca · Rebecca

what a differance a day makes... i was trying to get on with my life.... ........when i checked my voicemail on my phone.. there was one from my ex the "A" himself... telling me he had left the country... and that he was sorry for all the pain and sufferig he caused me... all done under the influence...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Today I am grateful for my brother. When he was so ugly in two casts on his feet and a scab from the forceps at birth the family story says I took one look at him started crying and told my Mom "we should have gotten a puppy". At the time and many times after she agreed ... poor kid, two already nutty fema...

Gailey · Gailey

I am having a hard day today. I feel like my HP is trying to show me something but I don't seem to be seeing it or hearing it. Maybe it is just this...Acceptance. I was really touched by Jeff's post on "Loss of potential". That is just what I am having a hard time with today. Why does my son's life have to be...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

We started this thing where he would get off the system he was on, trying to look for other women and give me a chance to 'prove' that I was worthy of HIM. Well I thought that it would do me no harm to start being more responsive and caring toward him, since I had pulled back consid...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

So far this morning is bringing me nothing but panick. I'm not sure even how to breath. I have a racing heart and nothing I seem to be doing is helping. I thought if I could get it out of my head maybe I could start moving. Today is my 33 birthday. I keep thinking...

Goldie · Goldie

Hi I'm new to this board. I'm hoping this is the right place to post, learn, and grow. i am just working step 1, and I'm trying to understand powerlessness. I am powerless, I understand that, but sometimes I feel helpless. My A bent to kiss me yesterday, and the stale alcohol s...

findingmyway · findingmyway

Well... here we go again. Because we're divorcing, my lawyer advised me to file my taxes separately. When my A found out, he hit the roof. He was angry I didn't ask his permission before I did this. The scary part is that he called our accountant. He threatened him but what really worried the acc...

sparkette · sparkette

thank goodness the board is up and running! This was from earlier this morning: Ok I admit it is late which means I am more emotional than usual....but I am gonna write anyways, cause I can :o) also because I just feel compelled to do so. Grateful isn't a word I use regularly. When I first came i...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. I just wanted to first of all thank the good folks who were in the chatroom this morning. I knew I belonged in Alanon for a while, but wonder of wonders, I believed I belonged this morning for the first time. I never realized how impacted I was by the alcoholic behavio...

Barbara · Barbara

What are you doing to keep fit physically? Most mornings I take a 30min walk outside before getting ready for work. We live on a .2mile circle which has gotten the name "gerbil track" due to the times I walk it over and over and over. I also stop at Curves 3-4 nights after work on my way home. Some nights my so...

Jeff Reynolds · Jeff Reynolds

I'm grateful for all the wisdom in the replies to my first post last week. Thank-you. My 23 year old daughter found another half-way house in Florida and begins her second week there. She found work at a restaurant. The mental image of her riding a wobbly bicycle to and from work each day, compare...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((((everyone))))))) On Friday I woke up thinking about the woman I met at my first F2F meeting (my Gypsy ) and how she had touched me. How what she said has stuck with me and kept me coming back to al-anon. Then the yesterday I was just having a hard day, working on being honest with mysel...

Barbara · Barbara

Since middle of March the family has been court ordered to have no contact with my younger brother. He did call my mother's house six times Monday night. My mother hopes he wasnt drinking as he has his urine test today (Wed). (How long does alcohol stay in your system?) Once he put the phone up to his radio...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I just had a major shock to my system tonight. Just needed to write it out, I'm not sure why HP chose this to happen to me or the other person but he/she did. I was on my way to my sis in laws to drop off a chocolate cake. Coming to the turning lane, my light was green. Half way to the li...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, The kids and I had a nice quiet Easter. I felt bad for my little guys. They asked me if they could tell Daddy about their ballgames on Saturday. I really didn't want him there, but they did, so I said ok. Well it didn't matter, he didn't show, he called about 12 noon on my cell and said he overslept. He...

aunitedway · aunitedway

"Unity presents not only the necessary climate for the growth of Al-Anon as a whole but also the atmosphere in which each member within the group may acquire peace of mind. " The Twelve Steps and Traditions (((((( BIGHUG))) to all of you for being her...

confused · confused

Well, the weekend was wonderful. And I did not feel like we "were on our best behavior", just being ourselves and letting it all unfold. My husband and I had not spent any length of time together for four monthsand we went to his sister's for Easter and had a great time. The boys absol...

search41 · search41

I tried to post this twice last night, and both times, when i hit "submit", it never submitted, for some reason. so i'm going to try again! i did end up going to the room, tho, and shared there. thanks to all who were so supportive to me last night! anyway, i was married for 16 yrs befo...

tea2 · tea2

Hello ((((all)))) I thought I would share that today happens to be one of my favorites in our Courage to Change daily reader. April 18 page 109. Because we aren’t allowed to post from our CAL literature I would like to urge anyone who hasn’t read it yet to give it a look

wishes, t

twinmom2 · twinmom2

This weekend was pretty good. The kids and I got out on Saturday morning. My A was supposed to get up with us and go downtown to the market but he stayed out too late the night before, so we got packed up and went anyway. Took the kids for an Easter egg hunt at the church, they had a blast.&...

gknee · gknee

seems like the theme today. Last nite H and I were driving home from my folks house. He had been sort of nasty toward me all day. Nothiing specific, just getting those barbs of disapproval. So, on the ride home he starts into this rant about what time our 13y/o should go to bed and get up. He just want...

bobump · bobump

Well what a day it was. My oldest took on some older sis roles and assisted me w/ some Easter shopping and preparing the baskets and hiding eggs. I was afraid that it was casting her into an adult role which she had too much of in her life, but her outlook was she wanted to see the looks on her siblings fac...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((everyone)))) Have you ever know what the problem is within yourself and just can't let it go? I've been in al-alnon long enough to know that the feelings I'm having right now (that are making me physically sick) are coming from me and I'm not going to have any serenity until I can get thru th...

rtexas · rtexas

Hello ((((Everyone)))) I have been reading some online info on Codependence. I am not sure why I have never looked at it before... (maybe the name threw me) I need to do some more looking, but in the "Are you a ..." section I scored about 8 out of 12. LOL Bare with me... this is a lightbu...

Jeff Reynolds · Jeff Reynolds

My 23 year old daughter just completed 31 days at an inpatient facility. Then instead of jumping right back in at work, she agreed to go to a Half-Way house in FL. She was making great progress until yesterday. The call came from the house manager. Amanda and her roomate were caught drinking on th...

bob6502 · bob6502

What is your serenity worth??? If someone tells you to rob a bank and you won't be punished even if someone gets hurt would you do it??? Is your serenity worth the guilt you might feel afterwards??? If someone hands you a scalding hot potato and says hold this and I will give you a million dol...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

Well I've never posted anything before and I thought I would try to see if getting this junk out of my head will actually help. I'm an adult child of an alcoholic who's been married to an alcoholic and who's also very co dependent. I'm trying to hard to over come all that I'm feeling.....

Cilla · Cilla

I'm sitting here feeling pretty grateful today. I have no voice, and can barely be heard by a whisper. This coming after having surgery two weeks ago on an abscess that grew to the size of what my daughter said was a bowling ball. Saw the surgeon post-op today and although he says it'...

sunny123 · sunny123

I am so glad to have been directed towards this site and have already learned so many things about my past and current behavior. I am just coming to terms with the fact that my husband in an alcoholic. I am going through the whole grieving thing now in the middle of final exams. I clearly missed many signs a...

debilyn · debilyn

I understand there are some underlying issues going on. As usual I am not with the majority. I do not mind being in the unpopular vote. To be honest, it is my nature to be. I am not perfect, but someone else was, a very unpopular person, and he was nailed to a stake and died. To be in the minority of...

Maria123 · Maria123

great site on detachment if you are interested . . . . http://www.coping.org/control/detach.htm#develop yours in recovery, Maria

AlaMom · AlaMom

you really your really working your program? You get the best of all possible worlds. I had a pretty scary situation for me last night. My middle daughter let my dog out (not on her leash) then forgot about her. I was busy making dinner and did not realize the dog was out. It w...

agatha · agatha

Well, here we go again. It's been about six months since I desided not to post here again. Not because of anyone here but out of embarrassment and humiliation. I swore I would never put my thoughts and feelings in print again. For those of you who know, I apologize again and for those of you who don't, ma...

nmike · nmike

When I logged in it said posts: 499. My thought was that that is alot and I wonder if I have learned anything, changed, found serenity, or helped anyone else. So I know that I am immature. That I am alone and keep asking why? I spent some time with my A today and our interaction was still sick. Maybe more on my...

abbyal · abbyal

And we come to this program to heal, this is a disease of perception. How I feel about a situation does not have to agree with how anyone else feels. We have been given the courage to finally speak up and take a chance and voice an opinion , that is a big deal . Perception is tricky ki...

hudsond · hudsond

This weekend was so nice! I had the day off Friday b/c it was Good Friday. My a husband and I and step-daughter spent Friday and Saturday fishing on the river. It went well, only got yelled at a few times, but I would stare at him intently and then not speak to him for awhile and he would s...

kspear · kspear

Hello all... I've apparently gotten up on the wrong side of the bed this morning or something. I'm just kind of aching over my son right now. I just feel like it's such a hopeless situation today, and that I just have to "endure" another day. I'm kind of tired of enduring. ...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((((((((Family)))))))))))), Just wanted to say thank you to all of you that were in the chat room last night. I came in needing support, and you all surrounded me with your love, support and understanding. That's what the chat room is for. Had to have hubby taken away in an ambulance bec...

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	So hurt (Preview) I am so hurt. he went in treatment last month, has not be able to be sober 30 days. I saw him today and he was not sober. I am so hurt, I want to believe that we can and will get sober. He is living alone now, not with me. It hurts so bad to see him like that. I have been married to him about 30 years, I feel so stupid...	tootired	13	656	Apr 21, 2006 by Becky1
	"I'm doing the best I can" (Preview) ((((everyone)))) I feel like making a sign and wearing it around my neck that says... "I'm doing the best I can..." My feelings towards my AW have wavered between irritation to sadness for her. She doesn't want me working a program, but she wants me fixed. Right now. (Or back t...	rtexas	8	782	Apr 21, 2006 by twinmom2
	UPDATE - but I'm still cool ... (Preview) He removed the battery from my car this morning, so I had to find another way to work. He's a mechanic and it's kinda scary what he could do. In a fit of anger during a drunken episode once, long ago, he threatened to 'fix my breaks'. Funny - I just remembered that now. How easily...	HadEnuff	9	636	Apr 21, 2006 by twinmom2
	Turning Dragons into Caterpillars (Preview) Ok, so I am sitting here right now taking a quick break from some homework. I am reading a chapter on "converting change into opportunity." While I am a tad restless since the school year is almost at a close, this really had me glued to it. I thought of all the dragons I have battled against in my...	buzzfree	5	497	Apr 21, 2006 by david62
	Reflecting on how it was (Preview) I know in many of my posts I have made my husband seem like an uncaring monster. Sometimes he does seem that way, now, but not in the past. From the day I met him, part of me knew that the connection he had with his parents was not "normal". I love my Mom anda Dad with all my heart, but I have never been obsesse...	Jeannie	10	554	Apr 21, 2006 by Barbara
	WOW - An Epiphany for ME! (Preview) First of all - thank you for those of you who have taken time to respond to my cries for help! Thank you for helping me to see what was blocking me from my higher power! I have had an epiphany and I need to share this: Last night after almost 2 weeks with no proper sleep, I told him that it was over.&n...	HadEnuff	9	632	Apr 20, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Buzzfree is smokefree!!! (Preview) Day 17 and counting. Great! Congratulations! I had to make a big deal out of this. It deserves a separate post. Good luck, Diva	Diva	13	627	Apr 20, 2006 by John_R
	Progress report (Preview) Mountain biking with my sister in law. Wednesday night is our night. I kick off work at 4:30 and head home. I get changed , load up my bike and we meet in the woods. I lead and she follows. Speeding through the woods. It is singletrack, narrow and winding. Steep climbs, dangerous descents, roots rocks, ou...	megan	12	553	Apr 20, 2006 by megan
	I have to learn to react quicker (Preview) I got in the door for my lunch break right after A husband got home from work. I call him earlier today to let him know our son has a friend over and he'll be spending the night. We talked about dinner and decided to get pizza. After I walked in the door I suggested eating dinner at the pizza parlor. Of course h...	Barbara	1	404	Apr 20, 2006 by QOD
	4th step meditation (Preview) So many of you recently have expressed anxiety, frustration, or just general concern over the 4th step (doing it perfectly, doing it thouroughly, doing it at all) that today's Hazelden Meditation was just too good not to post for y'all. I fully agree with this message--too many people get wra...	Tiger2006	3	541	Apr 20, 2006 by abbyal
	are steps 4-7 interconnected for you? (Preview) It seems to me that we shouldnt have a Step 4 without a Step 5 and then why shouldnt we ask God to remove our shortcomings? Are Steps 4-7 all interconnected? Did/do you do them all separately or together? Maybe because Ive just begun Step 4, I see Step 8 as beginning an entirely new set of Steps and...	Barbara	4	576	Apr 20, 2006 by rosie light shines
	This hurts (Preview) Well, I have his stuff packed up most of it anyway. The locks are changed. I cant deal with the mixed signals anymore. He goes to her house everynight. I kid myself that he is still trying to decide, but who am I kidding. He made the choice. I just hav...	snt	8	502	Apr 20, 2006 by nmike
	I can't seem to get him off my mind (Preview) I am having a hard time getting my A off my mind lately. I haven't been able to sleep now for days. At night seems to be the worse when everything is quiet. I try to stay as busy as I can during the day so that my thoughts are not consumed with him but they catch up with me late at night. ...	JulieLynn	5	457	Apr 20, 2006 by canadianguy
	What are YOU grateful for? (Preview) Making one think of more positive things can aid recovery.......:idea	gardengal	5	430	Apr 20, 2006 by jrtjosey
	A Quick update... (Preview) Hello Group, Life is plugging along here. I assessed the damage on my car yesterday, its not bad, I buffed out the scratches. I can't do much about the dents but they're not that bad. The guy I hit called me yesterday afternoon to say he was sorry again and to let me know that he still...	twinmom2	2	399	Apr 20, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Running out of choices (long) (Preview) Hi, I have been doing so much thinking and taking a long hard look at my life. On Easter Sunday though we had a nice day, when I look at it nothing has changed. My husband is not here, but his ways are still with us. His not showing up and calling drunk etc. We have learned to continue on without him, but th...	Jeannie	5	498	Apr 20, 2006 by Jennifer
	Trying not to worry... (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm an ACOA with a dad who has been sober, as far as I know, for 2+ years. It's looking like tomorrow his dog, who he loves more than anything, is going to have to be put to sleep. I'm afraid this will affect his sobriety and mental health. I know I can't control it a...	nal	12	709	Apr 20, 2006 by Jeannie
	Trouble with Step board (Preview) Hi, I can't login to the step board. I did a few days ago (cant remember when). Now it says "account pedning." Can anyone help me? I tried to login from scratch but it told me that my "user name " was being used. No kidding lol Appreciate any help. Debbie	horselover58	1	357	Apr 20, 2006 by confused
	whatcha got in your toolbelt? (Preview) Hi all, I was thinking about all the tools that alanon has to offer for a better way to live, and all the old tools I use to use in life mearly to survive in an alcoholic home. Pre alanon, i developed a lot of "survival skills" or tools, things i used to get by, get what i thought i needed ect. I learn...	mastiff	8	714	Apr 20, 2006 by Barbara
	oops i hope i didn't mess up (Preview) oh man, i screwed up with this job we are trying to get here at work.........the guy called LAST WEEK at least, ago, and asked me re: our employees or subs doing the actual painting.......i said they worked only for us, been with us for YEARS, but they were paid as sub...	rosie light shines	5	427	Apr 20, 2006 by megan
	Hi Kids (Preview) I'm new here. I sure am having a lousy time. I can't seem to get my stuff together. I am always upset. I have Fibromyalgia and spinal disc problems so I am in a lot of pain. I am trying to become more assertive and not take any abuse from people in my life. I have lost s...	meowpur	4	415	Apr 20, 2006 by leo
	So Angry (Preview) I am the child of an alcoholic, I am dating an alcoholic. I didn't know at first, it took awhile for me to realize it and now I just feel so ANGRY!! I have fallen in love with this man---a man with so many good qualities--and I am beginning to feel that I not only shouldn't be with him, I don't want to. Tonight w...	bigthoughts	5	425	Apr 19, 2006 by just me
	LIFE CHANGES.... (Preview) what a differance a day makes... i was trying to get on with my life.... ........when i checked my voicemail on my phone.. there was one from my ex the "A" himself... telling me he had left the country... and that he was sorry for all the pain and sufferig he caused me... all done under the influence...	Rebecca	3	440	Apr 19, 2006 by just me
	Today's love and gratitude thought (Preview) Today I am grateful for my brother. When he was so ugly in two casts on his feet and a scab from the forceps at birth the family story says I took one look at him started crying and told my Mom "we should have gotten a puppy". At the time and many times after she agreed ... poor kid, two already nutty fema...	Jennifer	3	475	Apr 19, 2006 by Maria123
	Acceptance (Preview) I am having a hard day today. I feel like my HP is trying to show me something but I don't seem to be seeing it or hearing it. Maybe it is just this...Acceptance. I was really touched by Jeff's post on "Loss of potential". That is just what I am having a hard time with today. Why does my son's life have to be...	Gailey	3	456	Apr 19, 2006 by mebjk
	Really Suffering Today ... (Preview) We started this thing where he would get off the system he was on, trying to look for other women and give me a chance to 'prove' that I was worthy of HIM. Well I thought that it would do me no harm to start being more responsive and caring toward him, since I had pulled back consid...	HadEnuff	8	579	Apr 19, 2006 by mebjk
	trying to breath (Preview) So far this morning is bringing me nothing but panick. I'm not sure even how to breath. I have a racing heart and nothing I seem to be doing is helping. I thought if I could get it out of my head maybe I could start moving. Today is my 33 birthday. I keep thinking...	katrina2000	8	531	Apr 19, 2006 by Diva
	Helpless VS Powerless (Preview) Hi I'm new to this board. I'm hoping this is the right place to post, learn, and grow. i am just working step 1, and I'm trying to understand powerlessness. I am powerless, I understand that, but sometimes I feel helpless. My A bent to kiss me yesterday, and the stale alcohol s...	Goldie	6	421	Apr 19, 2006 by aunitedway
	Maybe it's time to be worried (Preview) Well... here we go again. Because we're divorcing, my lawyer advised me to file my taxes separately. When my A found out, he hit the roof. He was angry I didn't ask his permission before I did this. The scary part is that he called our accountant. He threatened him but what really worried the acc...	findingmyway	6	497	Apr 19, 2006 by aunitedway
	Gratitude (Preview) thank goodness the board is up and running! This was from earlier this morning: Ok I admit it is late which means I am more emotional than usual....but I am gonna write anyways, cause I can :o) also because I just feel compelled to do so. Grateful isn't a word I use regularly. When I first came i...	sparkette	8	546	Apr 19, 2006 by sparkette
	Amazing (Preview) Good morning, all. I just wanted to first of all thank the good folks who were in the chatroom this morning. I knew I belonged in Alanon for a while, but wonder of wonders, I believed I belonged this morning for the first time. I never realized how impacted I was by the alcoholic behavio...	kspear	2	415	Apr 19, 2006 by hudsond
	so how are YOU keeping fit physically? (Preview) What are you doing to keep fit physically? Most mornings I take a 30min walk outside before getting ready for work. We live on a .2mile circle which has gotten the name "gerbil track" due to the times I walk it over and over and over. I also stop at Curves 3-4 nights after work on my way home. Some nights my so...	Barbara	7	528	Apr 19, 2006 by irena
	The Loss of Potential Is Still So Sad (Preview) I'm grateful for all the wisdom in the replies to my first post last week. Thank-you. My 23 year old daughter found another half-way house in Florida and begins her second week there. She found work at a restaurant. The mental image of her riding a wobbly bicycle to and from work each day, compare...	Jeff Reynolds	11	549	Apr 19, 2006 by Jeff Reynolds
	To those who responded to my last 2 posts, please read :-) (Preview) ((((((everyone))))))) On Friday I woke up thinking about the woman I met at my first F2F meeting (my Gypsy ) and how she had touched me. How what she said has stuck with me and kept me coming back to al-anon. Then the yesterday I was just having a hard day, working on being honest with mysel...	Lunamoth	7	444	Apr 19, 2006 by hudsond
	brother called my mother 6xs Mon night (Preview) Since middle of March the family has been court ordered to have no contact with my younger brother. He did call my mother's house six times Monday night. My mother hopes he wasnt drinking as he has his urine test today (Wed). (How long does alcohol stay in your system?) Once he put the phone up to his radio...	Barbara	2	378	Apr 19, 2006 by hudsond
	HP worked a miracle tonight... (Preview) I just had a major shock to my system tonight. Just needed to write it out, I'm not sure why HP chose this to happen to me or the other person but he/she did. I was on my way to my sis in laws to drop off a chocolate cake. Coming to the turning lane, my light was green. Half way to the li...	twinmom2	5	385	Apr 19, 2006 by d53sjurne
	He chose not to come (Preview) Hi, The kids and I had a nice quiet Easter. I felt bad for my little guys. They asked me if they could tell Daddy about their ballgames on Saturday. I really didn't want him there, but they did, so I said ok. Well it didn't matter, he didn't show, he called about 12 noon on my cell and said he overslept. He...	Jeannie	7	550	Apr 19, 2006 by smpoli
	Grateful for the Unity of Alanon (Preview) "Unity presents not only the necessary climate for the growth of Al-Anon as a whole but also the atmosphere in which each member within the group may acquire peace of mind. " The Twelve Steps and Traditions (((((( BIGHUG))) to all of you for being her...	aunitedway	5	781	Apr 19, 2006 by d53sjurne
	it works it really does!!! (Preview) Well, the weekend was wonderful. And I did not feel like we "were on our best behavior", just being ourselves and letting it all unfold. My husband and I had not spent any length of time together for four monthsand we went to his sister's for Easter and had a great time. The boys absol...	confused	5	2294	Apr 19, 2006 by smpoli
	Need to turn it over big time (Preview) I tried to post this twice last night, and both times, when i hit "submit", it never submitted, for some reason. so i'm going to try again! i did end up going to the room, tho, and shared there. thanks to all who were so supportive to me last night! anyway, i was married for 16 yrs befo...	search41	6	401	Apr 18, 2006 by search41
	todays reading (Preview) Hello ((((all)))) I thought I would share that today happens to be one of my favorites in our Courage to Change daily reader. April 18 page 109. Because we aren’t allowed to post from our CAL literature I would like to urge anyone who hasn’t read it yet to give it a look wishes, t	tea2	4	458	Apr 18, 2006 by d53sjurne
	A moral to this story.... (Preview) This weekend was pretty good. The kids and I got out on Saturday morning. My A was supposed to get up with us and go downtown to the market but he stayed out too late the night before, so we got packed up and went anyway. Took the kids for an Easter egg hunt at the church, they had a blast.&...	twinmom2	4	516	Apr 18, 2006 by jrtjosey
	trying to regain serenity (Preview) seems like the theme today. Last nite H and I were driving home from my folks house. He had been sort of nasty toward me all day. Nothiing specific, just getting those barbs of disapproval. So, on the ride home he starts into this rant about what time our 13y/o should go to bed and get up. He just want...	gknee	5	498	Apr 18, 2006 by Jeannie
	Easter has passed yet the feeling remains (Preview) Well what a day it was. My oldest took on some older sis roles and assisted me w/ some Easter shopping and preparing the baskets and hiding eggs. I was afraid that it was casting her into an adult role which she had too much of in her life, but her outlook was she wanted to see the looks on her siblings fac...	bobump	12	612	Apr 18, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Could use a little help ... (Preview) ((((everyone)))) Have you ever know what the problem is within yourself and just can't let it go? I've been in al-alnon long enough to know that the feelings I'm having right now (that are making me physically sick) are coming from me and I'm not going to have any serenity until I can get thru th...	Lunamoth	10	564	Apr 18, 2006 by QOD
	Codependent? (Preview) Hello ((((Everyone)))) I have been reading some online info on Codependence. I am not sure why I have never looked at it before... (maybe the name threw me) I need to do some more looking, but in the "Are you a ..." section I scored about 8 out of 12. LOL Bare with me... this is a lightbu...	rtexas	7	651	Apr 18, 2006 by rtexas
	Living It Out (Preview) My 23 year old daughter just completed 31 days at an inpatient facility. Then instead of jumping right back in at work, she agreed to go to a Half-Way house in FL. She was making great progress until yesterday. The call came from the house manager. Amanda and her roomate were caught drinking on th...	Jeff Reynolds	11	544	Apr 18, 2006 by Jeff Reynolds
	What is your serenity worth??? (Preview) What is your serenity worth??? If someone tells you to rob a bank and you won't be punished even if someone gets hurt would you do it??? Is your serenity worth the guilt you might feel afterwards??? If someone hands you a scalding hot potato and says hold this and I will give you a million dol...	bob6502	11	598	Apr 17, 2006 by mastiff
	the outside matches my insides (Preview) Well I've never posted anything before and I thought I would try to see if getting this junk out of my head will actually help. I'm an adult child of an alcoholic who's been married to an alcoholic and who's also very co dependent. I'm trying to hard to over come all that I'm feeling.....	katrina2000	6	570	Apr 17, 2006 by Jill
	Day By Day (Preview) I'm sitting here feeling pretty grateful today. I have no voice, and can barely be heard by a whisper. This coming after having surgery two weeks ago on an abscess that grew to the size of what my daughter said was a bowling ball. Saw the surgeon post-op today and although he says it'...	Cilla	0	414	Apr 17, 2006 by Cilla
	new to all this (Preview) I am so glad to have been directed towards this site and have already learned so many things about my past and current behavior. I am just coming to terms with the fact that my husband in an alcoholic. I am going through the whole grieving thing now in the middle of final exams. I clearly missed many signs a...	sunny123	8	578	Apr 17, 2006 by aunitedway
	Letting out feelings, how many times is enough? (Preview) I understand there are some underlying issues going on. As usual I am not with the majority. I do not mind being in the unpopular vote. To be honest, it is my nature to be. I am not perfect, but someone else was, a very unpopular person, and he was nailed to a stake and died. To be in the minority of...	debilyn	2	473	Apr 17, 2006 by matisa
	detachment (Preview) great site on detachment if you are interested . . . . http://www.coping.org/control/detach.htm#develop yours in recovery, Maria	Maria123	6	488	Apr 17, 2006 by peewee
	What happens when... (Preview) you really your really working your program? You get the best of all possible worlds. I had a pretty scary situation for me last night. My middle daughter let my dog out (not on her leash) then forgot about her. I was busy making dinner and did not realize the dog was out. It w...	AlaMom	8	474	Apr 17, 2006 by Juster
	same as it ever was (Preview) Well, here we go again. It's been about six months since I desided not to post here again. Not because of anyone here but out of embarrassment and humiliation. I swore I would never put my thoughts and feelings in print again. For those of you who know, I apologize again and for those of you who don't, ma...	agatha	8	557	Apr 17, 2006 by sparkette
	500th Post (Preview) When I logged in it said posts: 499. My thought was that that is alot and I wonder if I have learned anything, changed, found serenity, or helped anyone else. So I know that I am immature. That I am alone and keep asking why? I spent some time with my A today and our interaction was still sick. Maybe more on my...	nmike	2	480	Apr 17, 2006 by sparkette
	We are hearts that hurt!! (Preview) And we come to this program to heal, this is a disease of perception. How I feel about a situation does not have to agree with how anyone else feels. We have been given the courage to finally speak up and take a chance and voice an opinion , that is a big deal . Perception is tricky ki...	abbyal	8	513	Apr 17, 2006 by Maria123
	good weekend (Preview) This weekend was so nice! I had the day off Friday b/c it was Good Friday. My a husband and I and step-daughter spent Friday and Saturday fishing on the river. It went well, only got yelled at a few times, but I would stare at him intently and then not speak to him for awhile and he would s...	hudsond	3	409	Apr 17, 2006 by twinmom2
	Rough morning for me (Preview) Hello all... I've apparently gotten up on the wrong side of the bed this morning or something. I'm just kind of aching over my son right now. I just feel like it's such a hopeless situation today, and that I just have to "endure" another day. I'm kind of tired of enduring. ...	kspear	3	639	Apr 17, 2006 by Diva
	Thank you (Preview) (((((((((((((Family)))))))))))), Just wanted to say thank you to all of you that were in the chat room last night. I came in needing support, and you all surrounded me with your love, support and understanding. That's what the chat room is for. Had to have hubby taken away in an ambulance bec...	Karilynn	12	511	Apr 17, 2006 by lebe27
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