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Well, the weekend was wonderful. And I did not feel like we "were on our best behavior", just being ourselves and letting it all unfold. My husband and I had not spent any length of time together for four monthsand we went to his sister's for Easter and had a great time. The boys absolutely loved spending time with their cousins. I had a great time visiting with my sister in law and the time spent with my husband was great. I was not obsessed with whether or not he is drinking or using. One fleeting moment of suspicion but I was able to let it go and more importantly I did not sleuth around. When I thought I smelled liquor I did not try to sneak a kiss or any of the other insane things I would have done four months ago. I did not go looking through his suitcase for evidence... I just let it go. There was/is nothing I can do about it if he was/is drinking or using. So in that moment I had a choice, to either become obsessed or let it go and continue to enjoy the weekend. The voices of the program were in my head, "What difference does it make? What will you differently RIGHT now if he is?" The answer was that it would not make a difference for that moment, that day. And that is all I have is today. What it means tomorrow is tomorrow, I will deal with that when it comes. WOW!! The freedom in that thinking was/is overwhelming.
Grateful for this program, my willingness to work it and my Higher Power who is continually showing me that "it works if you work it",
i could relate because whenever i am around my family, all my obsessions with my a seem to melt away, too. i understand you were with in-laws, but obviously they are good for you! along with what you practiced from alanon, of course!
cause it sure sounds like it make you feel good.