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Not too bad!
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this time i will type in small case letters. I am not angry today because I slept better & am planning to enjoy this lovely weekend we are having up here. thanks to all who posted on my post. i think that is the most posts since i got on this wonderful website. thanks for being so honest. w/ all my complai...
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Thanks for Being Here....
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I just wanted to thank all of you for being here on this board. I come in and out, am up and down, commited and lax... but I COUNT ON YOU to be here for me when I get my head either out of the clouds or out of the gutter and start working on my 'stuff'. The YOU's that are active and posting at any one time may chang...
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adonaisgirl
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Armed Forces Day
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(((((Family)))), Today here in the US is National Armed Forces Day. I know we have MIP family members who serve as well as family members who have loved ones serving. So from the bottom of my heart I salute you all. Thank you for your service to our country. If you are serving other countries too your s...
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Karilynn
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The Book
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I rarely post, but thought I would do so today to encourage anyone who has not yet gotten the book "Getting Them Sober" to get it. I am close to my divorce being finalized. I was stewing about something last night. The book title popped into my brain and I went in search for it. I opened the b...
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GailMichelle
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It has been over a week!
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IT HAS BEEN OVER A WEEK SINCE I HAVE HAD A GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP! I AM JUST NOW STARTING TO NOT BLAME MY A HUSBAND. HE CAN'T HELP THE FACT THAT HE HAS DIABETES I KNOW BUT IT SEEMS LIKE EVEN WHEN HE APOLOGIZES FOR WAKING ME UP IT ISN'T ENOUGH. I FEEL BAD THAT I CAN'T GET OVER THE FACT THAT I AM MAD OVER THIS EVEN THOUG...
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Hoot Nanny
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Today is my Birthday = )
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And it's also 1 month ago today that I left my A = ) I would just like to thank every one that has helped because today I feel like a totally different person, today is MY day (i've never had a MY day until I started working this program).... This morning while my son taught my daugther how to say Hap...
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Hopeless
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I guess I was abandoned by my H
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I wrote a few weeks ago that I had to get a PFA on him. I was so tired after 5 months of him coming home after using and not getting help and then using and trying to meet women on the internet and not paying any bills (he gave me no money) and no help with our kids, 2 girls 3 and 1. His drugs of choice were crack an...
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Destynee
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Grateful I can Mind My Own Business!
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My stepdaughter moved about a week or two after turning 18. I don't feel it was a well thought-out move, as she has another year of high school left before graduating, but it is what it is. Great practice for me to Let Go and Let God. There was a lot of drama and strife from AH, though, who erupted at her annou...
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Aloha
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moving, decision making...ughhh!
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My recovering husband and i are thinking of moving. he has only been sober 60 days, which i have to remind myself. Our oldest daughter is entering kindergarten in the fall. I'm not thrilled with our school. my husband and i are both teachers which might be why this is such a major issue for us. there are pe...
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The Book...
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As I posted before I'm reading "Getting Them Sober" but I have some issues, lol... The book is very oriented around "leaving the situation"... Go and leave for 1 hour, step outside and go for a walk to cool off, etc... What if you can't?!?! What if you have an infant a...
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Hopeless
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From bad to worse
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Hi As I have been writing about here on the forum earlier my alcoholic girlfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. We stayed in touch for a while, speaking on the phone only and it was fine. Then a couple of days ago I went over to see her. It was fine at first, but then she said she was sexually atracted t...
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Cosmos
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crossed boundaries lead to endings
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Hello everyone, I've mentioned before that I had dated a man for about a year and his drinking made me uncomfortable. We stayed friends and been of help to each other at times. 6 or 7 weeks ago he told me during a phone call, and I could tell he had been drinking he needed to talk to me about something. Next fe...
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Jennifer
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I want to leave, but I want to stay
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I've been with my RABF for over 5 yrs now and he's been sober for 2 of these. He was never a nasty drunk, but once he got sober, he became more of a "dry drunk" and a jerk. He works a good job, never in trouble, never broke, none of the real crazy addict things, but it's his emotional state that is tr...
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Dyinginside
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Wondering...
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I've been getting calls from the A saying how much he misses me or he will offer me compliments when I drop off our daughter to him, etc... I'm just sitting here wondering why 1 1/2 months before that I was a loser that would never amount to anything, I was stupid, he couldn't even stand the sight of me, and...
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Hopeless
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Relationship Advice- am I doing this to myself?
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I've been reading this board all morning and I feel compelled to share what is going on with my BF who has been sober for 5 years. He has been distant and removed lately and i confronted him about it last weekend. He basically said he was scared and didnt know how to feel. but we didnt break up, instead, we s...
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Little Guidance...
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As you all know I'm going through my own issues and my priority right now is ME (which is a tough )... One of the hardest things I need to deal with is having the "fix it" mentality, etc... I'm in a situation with my best friend of 26 years! She is 36 years old and just had a baby = ) Her hu...
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Hopeless
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Rogue Mower ;)
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I'm starting a new thread because I didn't want to hijack Priscilla83's post (titled "setback"). I LOVED what a reply post said about alcoholism mowing down whatever is in its path!! LOVED IT!!! (Thanks for that, Bettina ;) I had this image in my head of long, beautiful green grass and a...
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White Rabbit
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run by to-do lists
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Last night with the "encouragement" of someone I went to an al-anon meeting for the first time in a year and a half. I left because of disappointment in the program.. being an adult child of alcoholics, sometimes the teachings of the program feels very cruel and harsh. Strangely enough the...
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idontknow
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Making the dog biscuits.
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I've been having a hard time with being poor, the economy, loneliness and not knowing where I am going. The best thing I could come up with praying for was the cat poop in the neighbors garden rather than in the litter box. That wasn't answered of course because she is very self conscious and contrary....
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maresie
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Sensitivy chip.
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My siamest Ruby is missing a sensitivity chip much like I am. Whenever she gets hungry she goes on a riff of demands to be fed. Right now the hunger can be any time but there is something of a clock to it. When she is hungry there is no reasoning with her that 2:00 a.m. isn't the right time to be fed. When s...
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maresie
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Struggling with "Others" Lack of Compassion
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I know what "others" say & Feel is NONE of my Business, I know that I can not make them say or do anything that seems right to me... Wether it be the "A" in my life or my Best Friend... This last week has been very tryin...To say the least... As I had stated in my Last Share, My BF (Be...
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Jozie
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Even If I Don't Know The Question
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... I still find my answers in meetings. Some people say that the program is in the book, that meetings are just icing on the cake. Not for me. Without meetings, there is no AA for me. So often, I have no idea what is going on with me. I will have a feeling of unease that won't go away, and I can't find it. I'...
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barisax
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Getting Them Sober
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WOW!!!! I'm only on Chapter 8 and all I can say again is WOW! From the stomach aches to the OBGYN appts, it's amazing how much this is hitting me right now... I want to send a special thanks to Candianguy for sending me this book for FREE and I advise anyone that doesn't have to click on the thread and g...
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Hopeless
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Celebration of life...
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Well, I suppose that the saying "death is all part of life" is so true, as my father died last week, at the age of 84. He was an amazing man - someone we were always so blessed to have, and he was as proud of us as we were of him. His health was pretty good until he was 82, but in the end, a combination...
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Need a few prayers
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Hello Everybody, Need a few prayers please. Just came home today from the hospital from an emergency, they had to remove my appendix. Glad I only have one of those things, I do not want a repeat of this experience If anybody could say a quick prayer that my professors will accomodate some extensions or...
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Jennifer
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Prayers for danz123 and her family
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Please send prayers for danz123 and her family. Danz123's husband passed away today from the effects of alzheimer's disease. She and her family are doing well so far, but prayers are appreciated. Much love to you my friend danz. Take care, and glad that your husband is no longer in pain. Love SenoraBo...
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Setback and anxiety.
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I went to have lunch with my father and mother in law on Saturday. When we were leaving my AH stopped by and was acting like a jerk to me. When we came back, I stopped by at a friends house and she told me that my AH and her AH went out, and that she wanted me to take her to the bar to see if they were there. That's wer...
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Hoping for some help
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Hello! I am the girlfriend of an addict. We have been together for almost 3 years and we have a son that is 15 months old and i have another son who is 6. He had been fighting the battle but seems to get lost along the way. Since January i have kicked him out 2 times and just yesterday, on Mothers Day, he lef...
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Cannot Comprehend...
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Just was watching the news and was reflecting on the bad and good in this world and I got angry, angry that something that can be so preventable destroys so many familes... I hate and will never understand this diease!
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Hopeless
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Going too fast? When can I look for a sponsor?
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Hi. I have only gone to two meetings so far, but have been using a lot of time trying to read and understand how to work the program. My alcoholic who is in recovery says I need to slow down and go to more meetings. She is probably right. I have already seen that there is a lot of things I need to change about mys...
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Cosmos
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Pray always...
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Happy Mother's Day ladies...participated with my wife yesterday (in support only) as she did a little shopping in a local candy store. Remember I said it here "No" is a complete sentence and I said it twice. After my morning meeting a little snack at a local McD's and then home. Before go...
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Jerry F
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RIP Lena Horne
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Rest in peace Lena Horne. You broke through barriers so that others didn't have to. You had a voice that could melt the coldest of hearts. You struggled to find your place in a world that didn't want you. You found it through your music. You perservered. You fought hard for the life you wanted to live...
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Karilynn
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Dealing with the end
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Hello everyone, new to the board, but not new to al-anon. My family and I have come to the belief that my father is in the final stages of his struggle. He is 68, his health is failing, and after multiple recovery programs, counseling, AA, he has obviously given up completely. We have taken away his car...
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FluffyBob
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Update on getting Bro Back..
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Aloha MIP Family...The whole Eastside AFG District is working the program on this one and we're doing it together and this also includes AA. "We are powerless" over the government (Homeland Security) and the lawyer. Right now were are working "Don't React" and staying op...
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Jerry F
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Happy Mother's Day!
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((((((Family))))), To all the MIP mothers out there, Pipers and I wish you a very Happy Mother's Day. The job you do is amazing, hard and inspiring. To my MIP fathers who are also doing doube duty as mothers I include you as well. Any parent has a very hard job to do. I often joke that parents are very ha...
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Karilynn
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HAPPY MOTHERS DAY
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Happy Mothers Day to all of you mom's out there......May today bring you peace and serenity. With Hope, Andrea
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Happy Mother's Day!!!!
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To all my al anon family! This was my present I finally got a portrait of both of my kids together = ) -- Edited by Hopeless on Sunday 9th of May 2010 06:25:14 AM
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Hopeless
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can't go back to sleep!
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WHAT DO YOU DO WHEN YOUR HUSBAND WAKES YOU UP & YOU CAN'T GO BACK TO SLEEP? HE HAS DIABETES & GETS UP IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT& SOMETIMES I CAN'T GET BACK TO SLEEP!!!!!!!!!!!!!! THAT IS WHY I AM ON THE COMPUTER(AT THE LIBRARY) AT 9 AM! I AM SO TIRED & FRUSTRATED! I CAN BARELY STAND IT AN...
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Hoot Nanny
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help understanding ?alcoholic? friend
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I'm new on here, and looking for advice. I've not spent much time around alcoholics (that I knew of), and I'm not even clear on what makes someone an alcoholic. I've had a friend for several years, and he binge drinks sometimes. Mainly, I'm confused as to what to make of his behavior toward me. Has an...
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My handsome son and girlfriend on the way to prom
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Andrea12
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Update on "heartbreaking"
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Just found a letter from the hospital which my AH had tried to hide. It is an appointment for his liver scan on Wednesday. I don't know why he hid it. I would have phoned to check if nothing had arrived by Monday. Perhaps he is a little scared of the result. I think I know the result already - but maybe not. I as...
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Tattyhead
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Worrying...
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Hello, I just wanted to write down my thoughts because I've been so depressed lately over my decision. Starting at the beginning, I was with a kanabis addict for a 6 months (addict from 16 years of age to 24, 3-4 joints a day), until recently I put an end to the relationship, shortly after I began to attend...
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Kattab
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HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO ALL MIP MOTHERS !!!
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I hope all of you have a wonderful day. If there's one thing that always holds true---- that no one can change----and no one can take away---- it's a Mother's Love. It rings loud----and rings eternal. My Mother passed away in 2000 and boy do I still miss her. She's gone, but she left something behi...
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RLC
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I want my bro back!!
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I once thought that when a recovering Alcoholic was taken at gun point from a meeting while on his way from the bathroom that HP could not raise the "test" bar any further. It's true he was taken at gun point (after the fact info) and was gone leaving his Al-Anon wife praying that he hadn't rela...
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Jerry F
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Long week fulll of many lessons
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Hi family, This has been a long hard week and the end of the week is finally visible. Now for the tricky part. I need not carry the crap from this week into the next one. I can leave it here and move on, but I can keep and carry the lessons that I learned this week. The danger of putting yourself out there and...
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Mandy123
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60 days
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Today is my AH's 60th day sober. He is doing very well. I'm very proud of him, he is going to meetings, reading the literature and trying to be true to himself. We are getting along very well. I am apprehensive because soon is will be 3 months and that is usually when he falls off. Last night I had a nightma...
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Sweet Stanley
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Life Goes on (24th wedding anniversary)
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(((((((((((((Hello Friends)))))), Today I have been reading some very heartfelt posts......this disease destroys so many families and takes so many lives. I have learned thru my process of life that some get sober and stay there and some do not....we have absolutely no control over the disease. I...
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Andrea12
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Hi-My story
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Hi everyone. I've been reading the posts on here for the past couple of days. They have all been VERY helpful. To share a little about myself: I have recently moved in with my BF in January, pretty much cross country from the home that I was living in. This is a man that I have known since I was very young an...
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Nalina
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Dating an alcoholic in recovery.
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I met my alcoholic girlfriend from England three years ago, when I was still living in Norway. We met online, so for the first two months or so our only contact was through internet and phone calls. She told me that she was in AA and that she had been sober for 5 years at that time. I remember thinking that th...
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Cosmos
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Emotional Overload...
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I know that God only hands what is felt we can handle, and I know there is a great lesson in what is happening around me currently, however, I am so exausted I don't know that i can take much more in this moment... My back & neck have been stiff with tension for the last 10days... Day one being the Vewing...
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Jozie
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Not adding to the burden.
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My life is very challenging at the moment. My finances are poor, I have a lot of obstacles in my way whatever way I turn, second job, bills, and more bills..... Normally I would be totally submerged in self pity, catastrophe and depression. Now I am working the program I have to let so much that is out of my...
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maresie
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Cunning, Baffling, Powerful but Not Surprising
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I'm shocked and saddened to learn of the alcoholic death of an old friend from the program. Yet, like my father's death many years ago, it's not surprising that a person would die from a fatal disease. My friend had some years of sobriety. He was a good friend, we did have other activities together bes...
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barisax
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Identifying the early stage?
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Hi everyone, I've thought about Al-Anon for a while now, but I haven't been sure if I belong here. I know you get lots of new members and stories all the time, and you probably hear the same thing over and over again though we all probably think our story is unique. However, I'd appreciate it if you'd be wil...
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wunderbar
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Fifth Step
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I did a Fifth Step with my sponsor over last weekend. It's absolutely amazing how much better I feel. I sometimes really let myself believe that I am a terrible person that has done terrible things to other people and to myself. The Fifth Step really helped me to realize that I am not a terrible person...
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White Rabbit
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Thank you!
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I just want to thank everyone for the support over the past several days. Especially Kitty! You've been awesome! This is one wife who now feels empowered and not victimized. I've never felt so not-alone in this and am so grateful to have found this site. You have helped me go from feeling sorry for...
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jimswife
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delial,denial,denial
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hi family, dont write on here much,but with you ever day. just got back from the doc,s with ah,hes having trouble eating,coughing up gunk. she explains this is a typical alcoholic,s complaint,burning the esophagus,and having a hitus hernia at the bottom of it. she has a chat to him about AA,he says he...
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ollie
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new to this
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Hi everybody, I am in a relationship w an addict. I know this site is mainly for alcoholics, but I don't know where else to turn. I began this relationship with knowledge that my bf had a history of drug abuse but I had no knowledge of this disease and therefore i thought this was something that was in his pa...
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brittg0403
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Overwhelmed...
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I'm trying to focus soley on this program (which has been a God sent).... I'm starting to feel overwhelmed with setting boundaries, allowing A to see our kids w/o him taking advantage of the situation, detaching myself from his issues and focusing on mine = ) I'm sure I'm not the only one on her...
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Hopeless
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Tough decisions (long)
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Thanks to al anon, I have learned the importance of taking care of ME. I have been a "caretaker" all of my life...took care of my mom through various bouts with alcohol and drugs...assumed all of the household responsibility when I was growing up due to mom working midnight shifts...it's...
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kml26385
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hey everyone, new here
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I have been reading the posts for quite awhile now and figured it was time to introduce myself. My situation is not really different than most others. Married for 18 years, two boys, 16 and 14. My husband has always drank but was always a responsible person. I used to party every weekend too, before havi...
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macintosh
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