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zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

How do you know when it's time to leave your alcoholic loved one and begin a new life? When is enough enough? I've read that only you can know and it's different for every person, but it's something I've been thinking about for the last few weeks. I'm so burned out over my fiance's alcoholism, especia...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

It's been a while since I posted. I've been working my program and steps as has the Abf-sober and we've been doing pretty well. bumps in the road here and there but who doesn't have them? My doc recently put me on Zoloft due to some mega job related stress and mild depression plus he feels I may have PMDD i...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I'm grateful for it; the program, and the people in it and for the recovery and growth. At times I'm even grateful for the hard work and as I remembered this morning before going to make my apology my early sponsor reminding me "liking it is optional". I don't like it when others come after m...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So I saw my AH on thursday at his mom's birthday party and we agreed he couls come over to my house the next day. Once again he started talking about us getting back together, and finally I gave in. I say I gave in cause in the past I told him there was no chance in hell I would get back together with him until he...

reese7968 · reese7968

Hi everyone, I'm new to the board and I'm not sure how this works. I have been to face to face meetings before, but never online meetings or step work on a message board. Someone kindly referred me here and said that my father's brother would be Robert. lol So, would someone here mind pointing me to Robert...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I just wantit to go away = ( I'm so overwhelmed with the kids (my daughter being sick getting my son ready for a camping trip and taking the puppy to training classes) and the constant thought the whole time is the A is having a great old time, can come and go as he pleases and I have no help at all... BUT...

sirpher · sirpher

Here is the story, been with my AW for 15yrs, have two daughters 13 and 11. Her alcoholism started about 6yrs ago just after her gastric bypass. In this process, learned that she just swapped her addiction from food to alcohol. In the past two years, she has been in 3 different rehab places, 5 months in a h...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, Hmmmmm let's see if this thread turns out the way the subject makes it sound . I have stepped out of my comfort zone and volunteered to be the Al-anon co-chair for an AA function coming up in my area in September. It is an AA function with Al-anon participation. You want humor in your life....do...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I no longer want to be around people any longer. I can't handle the the "small things" that seems to be so important to other people, if their food order isn't just right, if the pens they ordered were blue instead of black, who left the light on in the room, my child got a "B" in chem...

Jozie · Jozie

ya know, its funny how HP can guide, and steer me thru life... I have been living in "Insanity" so long that at times it starts to feel normal all over again... I have learned some very valuable lessons here of late, and apparently HP felt the need to give me not one but Many lessons on Acceptanc...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I was writing on a post yesterday. Aparently I did everything right and got good responses Today, however I acted really fast on a thought that came to me. I texted my ex-alcoholic girlfriend to ask if we could get back together... What I wrote: "Good day. I know I'm not supposed to, but I had to sa...

angelbreeze127 · angelbreeze127

Fri nite, I stupidly drank MYSELF to try to get some intimacy after over a year from my ah... I guess I drank to forget he is a loser.. it didn't work and I got pissed and told him his 11 yr old son hates him.. whcih he has told me... so now, instead of addressing the issue of his inability to perform or WHY his s...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am doing better! I did Ok on Sat. not so good on Sunday. Oh well...I will survive & yes, I am reaching out to others & still giving it away even though it sounds like it's "all about me" these days! sleep will always been an issue for me I have grown to accept. I really can't blame my hus...

Sgt_Pepper · Sgt_Pepper

I'm assuming every first post starts with a description of a messy situation so here is mine. My wife of almost 9 years is an binge alcoholic. Her rollercoaster ride has included a revolving door in and out of AA, 2 rehabs,6 weeks of weekend jail, a breathalyzer on our car for 2 years, 3 DUIs in MD, 2 DUI...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I've posted yesterday how my A is threatened by al anon by saying he thinks it is brainwashing me, etc... I get a text this morning telling me the person he is staying with got drunk last night and came after him.... 2 things came to mind 1) now you know how I feel and 2) your really trying hard to get my a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Duh!! ...It's a compulsion of the mind dang it!! Repeat that 1000 times and practice it twice that amount. Oh I had wonderful aim and I knew it was gonna hurt and be a mangled mess but I was compulsed to do it and stay in it until he (an alcoholic with a personality bent) got it!! I tried. I gave him all t...

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

Went to a funeral yesterday. He was one of my AH's best friends through high school. He would come to our house often to party but once my 2 children were like 6 and 3, I told my AH that it was him or us. I couldn't have that going on all the time with two small children. After that, we didn't see him much. At th...

shay57 · shay57

Have been looking in here for a bit and on the chat line. Seems there are not very many male members with alcoholic wives. Have been looking at what strategies and tools there are to deal with situations like this. Exasperated at the moment!!!!!

Bluelady · Bluelady

You were here for my very lowest so I want too share with you some good news. My daughter will get her Masters on June 6 and did it with straight A's. The most important thing I have to tell you she is still sober. She knows you can't dwell on the past yet you can't forget where you have been, just want you too kn...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi As I have written about earlier the contact is broken between me and my ex-girlfriend. I am feeling very down these days but have managed to not contact her. I have had countless times I almost sent her a text, an e-mail or phoned her. But I am more aware of my actions now, and I can see that every time it ha...

Criket · Criket

Hello everyone,I'm Criket and I really struggling with obsessing about my daughter who is an alcoholic. She is 33 and never drank until 4 years ago after she had a gastric bypass and flipped addictions. Now she is a full blown alcoholic. She has almost died many times, has horrible seizures and has tem...

Loshan · Loshan

Hi, I am new here and have a boyfriend who is drinking a little more than I feel comforatable with on a regular basis... and I we have talked about it some... and he tells me that as he is not hiding any of his drinking habits from me/not doing anything in secret. He tells me that means he has no problem with al...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting as I need to be at the hospital with my 87 year old aunt. Hoping someone can step up for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri

Ness · Ness

Right now Im fed up to the back teeth with fn alcoholism, it's rearing it's ugly head in so many ways I'm drowning.......... but tomorrow is a new day.......When I lay my head on the pillow tonight (it's 1am in Scotland) I will compile a gratitude list which I hope will give me rest.........you are...

Hopeless · Hopeless

My daughter had a seizure last night she had one before but this was the first time I actually witnessed it... She has Febrile Seizures which means it's fever induced and now that she had her second it's almost a given that this will happen every time she gets a fever. The good news is they ususally g...

macintosh · macintosh

Hi guys, question 1. Are we allowed to post on the AA board if we are not A? The reason I ask is, my husband had another slip this week, even though he has started going to meetings again. When I came home from work the next day, he was in the basement, just beside himself, he says he doesn't know what's wron...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

this time i will type in small case letters. I am not angry today because I slept better & am planning to enjoy this lovely weekend we are having up here. thanks to all who posted on my post. i think that is the most posts since i got on this wonderful website. thanks for being so honest. w/ all my complai...

adonaisgirl · adonaisgirl

I just wanted to thank all of you for being here on this board. I come in and out, am up and down, commited and lax... but I COUNT ON YOU to be here for me when I get my head either out of the clouds or out of the gutter and start working on my 'stuff'. The YOU's that are active and posting at any one time may chang...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))), Today here in the US is National Armed Forces Day. I know we have MIP family members who serve as well as family members who have loved ones serving. So from the bottom of my heart I salute you all. Thank you for your service to our country. If you are serving other countries too your s...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

I rarely post, but thought I would do so today to encourage anyone who has not yet gotten the book "Getting Them Sober" to get it. I am close to my divorce being finalized. I was stewing about something last night. The book title popped into my brain and I went in search for it. I opened the b...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

IT HAS BEEN OVER A WEEK SINCE I HAVE HAD A GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP! I AM JUST NOW STARTING TO NOT BLAME MY A HUSBAND. HE CAN'T HELP THE FACT THAT HE HAS DIABETES I KNOW BUT IT SEEMS LIKE EVEN WHEN HE APOLOGIZES FOR WAKING ME UP IT ISN'T ENOUGH. I FEEL BAD THAT I CAN'T GET OVER THE FACT THAT I AM MAD OVER THIS EVEN THOUG...

Hopeless · Hopeless

And it's also 1 month ago today that I left my A = ) I would just like to thank every one that has helped because today I feel like a totally different person, today is MY day (i've never had a MY day until I started working this program).... This morning while my son taught my daugther how to say Hap...

Destynee · Destynee

I wrote a few weeks ago that I had to get a PFA on him. I was so tired after 5 months of him coming home after using and not getting help and then using and trying to meet women on the internet and not paying any bills (he gave me no money) and no help with our kids, 2 girls 3 and 1. His drugs of choice were crack an...

Aloha · Aloha

My stepdaughter moved about a week or two after turning 18. I don't feel it was a well thought-out move, as she has another year of high school left before graduating, but it is what it is. Great practice for me to Let Go and Let God. There was a lot of drama and strife from AH, though, who erupted at her annou...

maybethistime · maybethistime

My recovering husband and i are thinking of moving. he has only been sober 60 days, which i have to remind myself. Our oldest daughter is entering kindergarten in the fall. I'm not thrilled with our school. my husband and i are both teachers which might be why this is such a major issue for us. there are pe...

Hopeless · Hopeless

As I posted before I'm reading "Getting Them Sober" but I have some issues, lol... The book is very oriented around "leaving the situation"... Go and leave for 1 hour, step outside and go for a walk to cool off, etc... What if you can't?!?! What if you have an infant a...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi As I have been writing about here on the forum earlier my alcoholic girlfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. We stayed in touch for a while, speaking on the phone only and it was fine. Then a couple of days ago I went over to see her. It was fine at first, but then she said she was sexually atracted t...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello everyone, I've mentioned before that I had dated a man for about a year and his drinking made me uncomfortable. We stayed friends and been of help to each other at times. 6 or 7 weeks ago he told me during a phone call, and I could tell he had been drinking he needed to talk to me about something. Next fe...

Dyinginside · Dyinginside

I've been with my RABF for over 5 yrs now and he's been sober for 2 of these. He was never a nasty drunk, but once he got sober, he became more of a "dry drunk" and a jerk. He works a good job, never in trouble, never broke, none of the real crazy addict things, but it's his emotional state that is tr...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I've been getting calls from the A saying how much he misses me or he will offer me compliments when I drop off our daughter to him, etc... I'm just sitting here wondering why 1 1/2 months before that I was a loser that would never amount to anything, I was stupid, he couldn't even stand the sight of me, and...

bluerose79 · bluerose79

I've been reading this board all morning and I feel compelled to share what is going on with my BF who has been sober for 5 years. He has been distant and removed lately and i confronted him about it last weekend. He basically said he was scared and didnt know how to feel. but we didnt break up, instead, we s...

Hopeless · Hopeless

As you all know I'm going through my own issues and my priority right now is ME (which is a tough )... One of the hardest things I need to deal with is having the "fix it" mentality, etc... I'm in a situation with my best friend of 26 years! She is 36 years old and just had a baby = ) Her hu...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

I'm starting a new thread because I didn't want to hijack Priscilla83's post (titled "setback"). I LOVED what a reply post said about alcoholism mowing down whatever is in its path!! LOVED IT!!! (Thanks for that, Bettina ;) I had this image in my head of long, beautiful green grass and a...

idontknow · idontknow

Last night with the "encouragement" of someone I went to an al-anon meeting for the first time in a year and a half. I left because of disappointment in the program.. being an adult child of alcoholics, sometimes the teachings of the program feels very cruel and harsh. Strangely enough the...

maresie · maresie

I've been having a hard time with being poor, the economy, loneliness and not knowing where I am going. The best thing I could come up with praying for was the cat poop in the neighbors garden rather than in the litter box. That wasn't answered of course because she is very self conscious and contrary....

maresie · maresie

My siamest Ruby is missing a sensitivity chip much like I am. Whenever she gets hungry she goes on a riff of demands to be fed. Right now the hunger can be any time but there is something of a clock to it. When she is hungry there is no reasoning with her that 2:00 a.m. isn't the right time to be fed. When s...

Jozie · Jozie

I know what "others" say & Feel is NONE of my Business, I know that I can not make them say or do anything that seems right to me... Wether it be the "A" in my life or my Best Friend... This last week has been very tryin...To say the least... As I had stated in my Last Share, My BF (Be...

barisax · barisax

... I still find my answers in meetings. Some people say that the program is in the book, that meetings are just icing on the cake. Not for me. Without meetings, there is no AA for me. So often, I have no idea what is going on with me. I will have a feeling of unease that won't go away, and I can't find it. I'...

Hopeless · Hopeless

WOW!!!! I'm only on Chapter 8 and all I can say again is WOW! From the stomach aches to the OBGYN appts, it's amazing how much this is hitting me right now... I want to send a special thanks to Candianguy for sending me this book for FREE and I advise anyone that doesn't have to click on the thread and g...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Well, I suppose that the saying "death is all part of life" is so true, as my father died last week, at the age of 84. He was an amazing man - someone we were always so blessed to have, and he was as proud of us as we were of him. His health was pretty good until he was 82, but in the end, a combination...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello Everybody, Need a few prayers please. Just came home today from the hospital from an emergency, they had to remove my appendix. Glad I only have one of those things, I do not want a repeat of this experience If anybody could say a quick prayer that my professors will accomodate some extensions or...

bob6502 · bob6502

Please send prayers for danz123 and her family. Danz123's husband passed away today from the effects of alzheimer's disease. She and her family are doing well so far, but prayers are appreciated. Much love to you my friend danz. Take care, and glad that your husband is no longer in pain. Love SenoraBo...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

I went to have lunch with my father and mother in law on Saturday. When we were leaving my AH stopped by and was acting like a jerk to me. When we came back, I stopped by at a friends house and she told me that my AH and her AH went out, and that she wanted me to take her to the bar to see if they were there. That's wer...

soxfan · soxfan

Hello! I am the girlfriend of an addict. We have been together for almost 3 years and we have a son that is 15 months old and i have another son who is 6. He had been fighting the battle but seems to get lost along the way. Since January i have kicked him out 2 times and just yesterday, on Mothers Day, he lef...

Hopeless · Hopeless

Just was watching the news and was reflecting on the bad and good in this world and I got angry, angry that something that can be so preventable destroys so many familes... I hate and will never understand this diease!

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi. I have only gone to two meetings so far, but have been using a lot of time trying to read and understand how to work the program. My alcoholic who is in recovery says I need to slow down and go to more meetings. She is probably right. I have already seen that there is a lot of things I need to change about mys...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Happy Mother's Day ladies...participated with my wife yesterday (in support only) as she did a little shopping in a local candy store. Remember I said it here "No" is a complete sentence and I said it twice. After my morning meeting a little snack at a local McD's and then home. Before go...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Rest in peace Lena Horne. You broke through barriers so that others didn't have to. You had a voice that could melt the coldest of hearts. You struggled to find your place in a world that didn't want you. You found it through your music. You perservered. You fought hard for the life you wanted to live...

FluffyBob · FluffyBob

Hello everyone, new to the board, but not new to al-anon. My family and I have come to the belief that my father is in the final stages of his struggle. He is 68, his health is failing, and after multiple recovery programs, counseling, AA, he has obviously given up completely. We have taken away his car...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha MIP Family...The whole Eastside AFG District is working the program on this one and we're doing it together and this also includes AA. "We are powerless" over the government (Homeland Security) and the lawyer. Right now were are working "Don't React" and staying op...

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	How did you know when it was time to leave? (Preview) How do you know when it's time to leave your alcoholic loved one and begin a new life? When is enough enough? I've read that only you can know and it's different for every person, but it's something I've been thinking about for the last few weeks. I'm so burned out over my fiance's alcoholism, especia...	zhotdogs99	12	3794	May 19, 2010 by zhotdogs99
	Why can't emotional baggage get lost at baggage claim? (Preview) It's been a while since I posted. I've been working my program and steps as has the Abf-sober and we've been doing pretty well. bumps in the road here and there but who doesn't have them? My doc recently put me on Zoloft due to some mega job related stress and mild depression plus he feels I may have PMDD i...	lizzakiss	6	686	May 19, 2010 by blender_girl
	It's not required that you like it... (Preview) I'm grateful for it; the program, and the people in it and for the recovery and growth. At times I'm even grateful for the hard work and as I remembered this morning before going to make my apology my early sponsor reminding me "liking it is optional". I don't like it when others come after m...	Jerry F	7	971	May 19, 2010 by blender_girl
	Doing the right thing? (Preview) So I saw my AH on thursday at his mom's birthday party and we agreed he couls come over to my house the next day. Once again he started talking about us getting back together, and finally I gave in. I say I gave in cause in the past I told him there was no chance in hell I would get back together with him until he...	Priscilla83	3	832	May 18, 2010 by Jerry F
	New To Message Board (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to the board and I'm not sure how this works. I have been to face to face meetings before, but never online meetings or step work on a message board. Someone kindly referred me here and said that my father's brother would be Robert. lol So, would someone here mind pointing me to Robert...	reese7968	4	892	May 18, 2010 by reese7968
	Have to let go of this ANGER! (Preview) I just wantit to go away = ( I'm so overwhelmed with the kids (my daughter being sick getting my son ready for a camping trip and taking the puppy to training classes) and the constant thought the whole time is the A is having a great old time, can come and go as he pleases and I have no help at all... BUT...	Hopeless	20	1107	May 18, 2010 by Hopeless
	New to the board - just needing support (Preview) Here is the story, been with my AW for 15yrs, have two daughters 13 and 11. Her alcoholism started about 6yrs ago just after her gastric bypass. In this process, learned that she just swapped her addiction from food to alcohol. In the past two years, she has been in 3 different rehab places, 5 months in a h...	sirpher	5	947	May 18, 2010 by sirpher
	Gettin Busy Al-anon Style (Preview) Hi family, Hmmmmm let's see if this thread turns out the way the subject makes it sound . I have stepped out of my comfort zone and volunteered to be the Al-anon co-chair for an AA function coming up in my area in September. It is an AA function with Al-anon participation. You want humor in your life....do...	Mandy123	7	1304	May 18, 2010 by RLC
	I Want To Withdraw From Everyday Life..... (Preview) I no longer want to be around people any longer. I can't handle the the "small things" that seems to be so important to other people, if their food order isn't just right, if the pens they ordered were blue instead of black, who left the light on in the room, my child got a "B" in chem...	DreamsOver	6	1158	May 18, 2010 by Ness
	One more time... (Preview) ya know, its funny how HP can guide, and steer me thru life... I have been living in "Insanity" so long that at times it starts to feel normal all over again... I have learned some very valuable lessons here of late, and apparently HP felt the need to give me not one but Many lessons on Acceptanc...	Jozie	4	610	May 17, 2010 by Jerry F
	Relsapse? (Preview) Hi I was writing on a post yesterday. Aparently I did everything right and got good responses Today, however I acted really fast on a thought that came to me. I texted my ex-alcoholic girlfriend to ask if we could get back together... What I wrote: "Good day. I know I'm not supposed to, but I had to sa...	Cosmos	8	550	May 17, 2010 by hotrod
	turned it around again (Preview) Fri nite, I stupidly drank MYSELF to try to get some intimacy after over a year from my ah... I guess I drank to forget he is a loser.. it didn't work and I got pissed and told him his 11 yr old son hates him.. whcih he has told me... so now, instead of addressing the issue of his inability to perform or WHY his s...	angelbreeze127	5	574	May 17, 2010 by maresie
	Update on me & my struggles (Preview) I am doing better! I did Ok on Sat. not so good on Sunday. Oh well...I will survive & yes, I am reaching out to others & still giving it away even though it sounds like it's "all about me" these days! sleep will always been an issue for me I have grown to accept. I really can't blame my hus...	Hoot Nanny	2	618	May 17, 2010 by Jerry F
	Big Big Mess... (Preview) I'm assuming every first post starts with a description of a messy situation so here is mine. My wife of almost 9 years is an binge alcoholic. Her rollercoaster ride has included a revolving door in and out of AA, 2 rehabs,6 weeks of weekend jail, a breathalyzer on our car for 2 years, 3 DUIs in MD, 2 DUI...	Sgt_Pepper	9	827	May 17, 2010 by sirpher
	Threatened by Al Anon... (Preview) I've posted yesterday how my A is threatened by al anon by saying he thinks it is brainwashing me, etc... I get a text this morning telling me the person he is staying with got drunk last night and came after him.... 2 things came to mind 1) now you know how I feel and 2) your really trying hard to get my a...	Hopeless	7	928	May 17, 2010 by Jozie
	So when it was done I'd blown my foot off!! (Preview) Duh!! ...It's a compulsion of the mind dang it!! Repeat that 1000 times and practice it twice that amount. Oh I had wonderful aim and I knew it was gonna hurt and be a mangled mess but I was compulsed to do it and stay in it until he (an alcoholic with a personality bent) got it!! I tried. I gave him all t...	Jerry F	11	910	May 17, 2010 by Jozie
	The reality of alcoholism (Preview) Went to a funeral yesterday. He was one of my AH's best friends through high school. He would come to our house often to party but once my 2 children were like 6 and 3, I told my AH that it was him or us. I couldn't have that going on all the time with two small children. After that, we didn't see him much. At th...	Sweet Stanley	5	1284	May 17, 2010 by mikeco
	Alcohilic Wife (Preview) Have been looking in here for a bit and on the chat line. Seems there are not very many male members with alcoholic wives. Have been looking at what strategies and tools there are to deal with situations like this. Exasperated at the moment!!!!!	shay57	11	1342	May 16, 2010 by LG
	update on my daughter (Preview) You were here for my very lowest so I want too share with you some good news. My daughter will get her Masters on June 6 and did it with straight A's. The most important thing I have to tell you she is still sober. She knows you can't dwell on the past yet you can't forget where you have been, just want you too kn...	Bluelady	6	688	May 16, 2010 by DreamsOver
	Nervous about meeting today (Preview) Hi As I have written about earlier the contact is broken between me and my ex-girlfriend. I am feeling very down these days but have managed to not contact her. I have had countless times I almost sent her a text, an e-mail or phoned her. But I am more aware of my actions now, and I can see that every time it ha...	Cosmos	7	1184	May 16, 2010 by hotrod
	Pretty New to this need help! (Preview) Hello everyone,I'm Criket and I really struggling with obsessing about my daughter who is an alcoholic. She is 33 and never drank until 4 years ago after she had a gastric bypass and flipped addictions. Now she is a full blown alcoholic. She has almost died many times, has horrible seizures and has tem...	Criket	8	991	May 16, 2010 by xeno59
	boyfriend says he has no problem with alcohol ... but I am concerned... how do I know if there is a real problem? (Preview) Hi, I am new here and have a boyfriend who is drinking a little more than I feel comforatable with on a regular basis... and I we have talked about it some... and he tells me that as he is not hiding any of his drinking habits from me/not doing anything in secret. He tells me that means he has no problem with al...	Loshan	14	1132	May 16, 2010 by xeno59
	MONDAY A.M. MEETING (Preview) I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting as I need to be at the hospital with my 87 year old aunt. Hoping someone can step up for me. Thanks. Love in recovery, Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	0	258	May 16, 2010 by shimo
	New day (Preview) Right now Im fed up to the back teeth with fn alcoholism, it's rearing it's ugly head in so many ways I'm drowning.......... but tomorrow is a new day.......When I lay my head on the pillow tonight (it's 1am in Scotland) I will compile a gratitude list which I hope will give me rest.........you are...	Ness	5	634	May 16, 2010 by Ness
	Really down right now... (Preview) My daughter had a seizure last night she had one before but this was the first time I actually witnessed it... She has Febrile Seizures which means it's fever induced and now that she had her second it's almost a given that this will happen every time she gets a fever. The good news is they ususally g...	Hopeless	13	1204	May 16, 2010 by MissyPoo
	posting threads on another board (Preview) Hi guys, question 1. Are we allowed to post on the AA board if we are not A? The reason I ask is, my husband had another slip this week, even though he has started going to meetings again. When I came home from work the next day, he was in the basement, just beside himself, he says he doesn't know what's wron...	macintosh	8	1196	May 16, 2010 by Mandy123
	Not too bad! (Preview) this time i will type in small case letters. I am not angry today because I slept better & am planning to enjoy this lovely weekend we are having up here. thanks to all who posted on my post. i think that is the most posts since i got on this wonderful website. thanks for being so honest. w/ all my complai...	Hoot Nanny	2	647	May 15, 2010 by Jerry F
	Thanks for Being Here.... (Preview) I just wanted to thank all of you for being here on this board. I come in and out, am up and down, commited and lax... but I COUNT ON YOU to be here for me when I get my head either out of the clouds or out of the gutter and start working on my 'stuff'. The YOU's that are active and posting at any one time may chang...	adonaisgirl	3	650	May 15, 2010 by Jerry F
	Armed Forces Day (Preview) (((((Family)))), Today here in the US is National Armed Forces Day. I know we have MIP family members who serve as well as family members who have loved ones serving. So from the bottom of my heart I salute you all. Thank you for your service to our country. If you are serving other countries too your s...	Karilynn	4	706	May 15, 2010 by RLC
	The Book (Preview) I rarely post, but thought I would do so today to encourage anyone who has not yet gotten the book "Getting Them Sober" to get it. I am close to my divorce being finalized. I was stewing about something last night. The book title popped into my brain and I went in search for it. I opened the b...	GailMichelle	0	451	May 15, 2010 by GailMichelle
	It has been over a week! (Preview) IT HAS BEEN OVER A WEEK SINCE I HAVE HAD A GOOD NIGHT'S SLEEP! I AM JUST NOW STARTING TO NOT BLAME MY A HUSBAND. HE CAN'T HELP THE FACT THAT HE HAS DIABETES I KNOW BUT IT SEEMS LIKE EVEN WHEN HE APOLOGIZES FOR WAKING ME UP IT ISN'T ENOUGH. I FEEL BAD THAT I CAN'T GET OVER THE FACT THAT I AM MAD OVER THIS EVEN THOUG...	Hoot Nanny	7	1046	May 15, 2010 by xeno59
	Today is my Birthday = ) (Preview) And it's also 1 month ago today that I left my A = ) I would just like to thank every one that has helped because today I feel like a totally different person, today is MY day (i've never had a MY day until I started working this program).... This morning while my son taught my daugther how to say Hap...	Hopeless	19	1053	May 15, 2010 by Karilynn
	I guess I was abandoned by my H (Preview) I wrote a few weeks ago that I had to get a PFA on him. I was so tired after 5 months of him coming home after using and not getting help and then using and trying to meet women on the internet and not paying any bills (he gave me no money) and no help with our kids, 2 girls 3 and 1. His drugs of choice were crack an...	Destynee	6	1124	May 15, 2010 by Mattie
	Grateful I can Mind My Own Business! (Preview) My stepdaughter moved about a week or two after turning 18. I don't feel it was a well thought-out move, as she has another year of high school left before graduating, but it is what it is. Great practice for me to Let Go and Let God. There was a lot of drama and strife from AH, though, who erupted at her annou...	Aloha	4	829	May 14, 2010 by Aloha
	moving, decision making...ughhh! (Preview) My recovering husband and i are thinking of moving. he has only been sober 60 days, which i have to remind myself. Our oldest daughter is entering kindergarten in the fall. I'm not thrilled with our school. my husband and i are both teachers which might be why this is such a major issue for us. there are pe...	maybethistime	6	869	May 14, 2010 by wp
	The Book... (Preview) As I posted before I'm reading "Getting Them Sober" but I have some issues, lol... The book is very oriented around "leaving the situation"... Go and leave for 1 hour, step outside and go for a walk to cool off, etc... What if you can't?!?! What if you have an infant a...	Hopeless	8	662	May 14, 2010 by Hopeless
	From bad to worse (Preview) Hi As I have been writing about here on the forum earlier my alcoholic girlfriend broke up with me a couple of weeks ago. We stayed in touch for a while, speaking on the phone only and it was fine. Then a couple of days ago I went over to see her. It was fine at first, but then she said she was sexually atracted t...	Cosmos	10	1068	May 14, 2010 by Bella333
	crossed boundaries lead to endings (Preview) Hello everyone, I've mentioned before that I had dated a man for about a year and his drinking made me uncomfortable. We stayed friends and been of help to each other at times. 6 or 7 weeks ago he told me during a phone call, and I could tell he had been drinking he needed to talk to me about something. Next fe...	Jennifer	6	848	May 13, 2010 by kitty
	I want to leave, but I want to stay (Preview) I've been with my RABF for over 5 yrs now and he's been sober for 2 of these. He was never a nasty drunk, but once he got sober, he became more of a "dry drunk" and a jerk. He works a good job, never in trouble, never broke, none of the real crazy addict things, but it's his emotional state that is tr...	Dyinginside	13	887	May 13, 2010 by Dyinginside
	Wondering... (Preview) I've been getting calls from the A saying how much he misses me or he will offer me compliments when I drop off our daughter to him, etc... I'm just sitting here wondering why 1 1/2 months before that I was a loser that would never amount to anything, I was stupid, he couldn't even stand the sight of me, and...	Hopeless	18	994	May 13, 2010 by Hopeless
	Relationship Advice- am I doing this to myself? love relationships fear cheating sober (Preview) I've been reading this board all morning and I feel compelled to share what is going on with my BF who has been sober for 5 years. He has been distant and removed lately and i confronted him about it last weekend. He basically said he was scared and didnt know how to feel. but we didnt break up, instead, we s...	bluerose79	11	9676	May 12, 2010 by soxfan
	Little Guidance... (Preview) As you all know I'm going through my own issues and my priority right now is ME (which is a tough )... One of the hardest things I need to deal with is having the "fix it" mentality, etc... I'm in a situation with my best friend of 26 years! She is 36 years old and just had a baby = ) Her hu...	Hopeless	10	1448	May 12, 2010 by soxfan
	Rogue Mower ;) (Preview) I'm starting a new thread because I didn't want to hijack Priscilla83's post (titled "setback"). I LOVED what a reply post said about alcoholism mowing down whatever is in its path!! LOVED IT!!! (Thanks for that, Bettina ;) I had this image in my head of long, beautiful green grass and a...	White Rabbit	6	911	May 12, 2010 by soxfan
	run by to-do lists (Preview) Last night with the "encouragement" of someone I went to an al-anon meeting for the first time in a year and a half. I left because of disappointment in the program.. being an adult child of alcoholics, sometimes the teachings of the program feels very cruel and harsh. Strangely enough the...	idontknow	7	971	May 12, 2010 by idontknow
	Making the dog biscuits. (Preview) I've been having a hard time with being poor, the economy, loneliness and not knowing where I am going. The best thing I could come up with praying for was the cat poop in the neighbors garden rather than in the litter box. That wasn't answered of course because she is very self conscious and contrary....	maresie	6	1110	May 12, 2010 by maresie
	Sensitivy chip. (Preview) My siamest Ruby is missing a sensitivity chip much like I am. Whenever she gets hungry she goes on a riff of demands to be fed. Right now the hunger can be any time but there is something of a clock to it. When she is hungry there is no reasoning with her that 2:00 a.m. isn't the right time to be fed. When s...	maresie	3	814	May 12, 2010 by maresie
	Struggling with "Others" Lack of Compassion (Preview) I know what "others" say & Feel is NONE of my Business, I know that I can not make them say or do anything that seems right to me... Wether it be the "A" in my life or my Best Friend... This last week has been very tryin...To say the least... As I had stated in my Last Share, My BF (Be...	Jozie	9	889	May 12, 2010 by hotrod
	Even If I Don't Know The Question (Preview) ... I still find my answers in meetings. Some people say that the program is in the book, that meetings are just icing on the cake. Not for me. Without meetings, there is no AA for me. So often, I have no idea what is going on with me. I will have a feeling of unease that won't go away, and I can't find it. I'...	barisax	9	804	May 11, 2010 by tlcate
	Getting Them Sober (Preview) WOW!!!! I'm only on Chapter 8 and all I can say again is WOW! From the stomach aches to the OBGYN appts, it's amazing how much this is hitting me right now... I want to send a special thanks to Candianguy for sending me this book for FREE and I advise anyone that doesn't have to click on the thread and g...	Hopeless	8	2693	May 11, 2010 by tlcate
	Celebration of life... (Preview) Well, I suppose that the saying "death is all part of life" is so true, as my father died last week, at the age of 84. He was an amazing man - someone we were always so blessed to have, and he was as proud of us as we were of him. His health was pretty good until he was 82, but in the end, a combination...	canadianguy	17	906	May 11, 2010 by tlcate
	Need a few prayers (Preview) Hello Everybody, Need a few prayers please. Just came home today from the hospital from an emergency, they had to remove my appendix. Glad I only have one of those things, I do not want a repeat of this experience If anybody could say a quick prayer that my professors will accomodate some extensions or...	Jennifer	12	708	May 11, 2010 by wp
	Prayers for danz123 and her family (Preview) Please send prayers for danz123 and her family. Danz123's husband passed away today from the effects of alzheimer's disease. She and her family are doing well so far, but prayers are appreciated. Much love to you my friend danz. Take care, and glad that your husband is no longer in pain. Love SenoraBo...	bob6502	18	1008	May 11, 2010 by nigel3
	Setback and anxiety. (Preview) I went to have lunch with my father and mother in law on Saturday. When we were leaving my AH stopped by and was acting like a jerk to me. When we came back, I stopped by at a friends house and she told me that my AH and her AH went out, and that she wanted me to take her to the bar to see if they were there. That's wer...	Priscilla83	8	922	May 11, 2010 by Bettina
	Hoping for some help (Preview) Hello! I am the girlfriend of an addict. We have been together for almost 3 years and we have a son that is 15 months old and i have another son who is 6. He had been fighting the battle but seems to get lost along the way. Since January i have kicked him out 2 times and just yesterday, on Mothers Day, he lef...	soxfan	8	876	May 11, 2010 by soxfan
	Cannot Comprehend... (Preview) Just was watching the news and was reflecting on the bad and good in this world and I got angry, angry that something that can be so preventable destroys so many familes... I hate and will never understand this diease!	Hopeless	9	785	May 10, 2010 by soxfan
	Going too fast? When can I look for a sponsor? (Preview) Hi. I have only gone to two meetings so far, but have been using a lot of time trying to read and understand how to work the program. My alcoholic who is in recovery says I need to slow down and go to more meetings. She is probably right. I have already seen that there is a lot of things I need to change about mys...	Cosmos	12	857	May 10, 2010 by maresie
	Pray always... (Preview) Happy Mother's Day ladies...participated with my wife yesterday (in support only) as she did a little shopping in a local candy store. Remember I said it here "No" is a complete sentence and I said it twice. After my morning meeting a little snack at a local McD's and then home. Before go...	Jerry F	6	532	May 10, 2010 by hotrod
	RIP Lena Horne (Preview) Rest in peace Lena Horne. You broke through barriers so that others didn't have to. You had a voice that could melt the coldest of hearts. You struggled to find your place in a world that didn't want you. You found it through your music. You perservered. You fought hard for the life you wanted to live...	Karilynn	1	617	May 10, 2010 by Jerry F
	Dealing with the end (Preview) Hello everyone, new to the board, but not new to al-anon. My family and I have come to the belief that my father is in the final stages of his struggle. He is 68, his health is failing, and after multiple recovery programs, counseling, AA, he has obviously given up completely. We have taken away his car...	FluffyBob	8	893	May 10, 2010 by FluffyBob
	Update on getting Bro Back.. (Preview) Aloha MIP Family...The whole Eastside AFG District is working the program on this one and we're doing it together and this also includes AA. "We are powerless" over the government (Homeland Security) and the lawyer. Right now were are working "Don't React" and staying op...	Jerry F	5	784	May 9, 2010 by lacewing
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