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My son is graduating from Law School tomorrow. He was six when his Mother and I were married. We hear lots of stories on this board about sons who have problems related to addiction or other problems, and my heart always goes out to them. But I felt I needed to to say something about my son, you notice I didn't use the term stepson, because I have never considered him that. His biological father has not had any contact with him since he was 4 years old, he will always have to live with that and that is his loss .
I'm not his biological father, I'm his Daddy. I'm so proud of him and I can honestly say he has never caused his Mother or me one minute of trouble. I couldn't have asked for a better son. Thanks HP.
There is a down side to this but also an up side. The down side---The world already has way to many lawyers, english sparrows, and alcoholics---The up side---His Daddy has a smile on his face not only because he is proud of his Son, but also because no more checks will have to be written to the University. LOL
Congratulations RLC! I am very proud of you because I know, as many here do, the struggles that come along with parenthood - and the overwhelming love for these little people we watch grow and become wonderful human beings.
I too am celebrating a graduation - my daughter is about to graduate high school in 2 weeks. I am so proud - and it is mixed with a little fear and sorrow. I have had her to myself for 18 years - I have raised her alone and we are very good friends - with a nice undertone of respect and discipline. My heart is overflowing with love and pride - so much so it brings tears to my eyes - and I celebrate her successes and try to quell the fear of not having her in my life as much as I have had for the last 2 decades. She is a blessing and I thank God for her several times a day.
Now I get to use the program to walk me through my fears as each day her life becomes more independant and "Mom" is slowly no longer my primary job anymore. She will always be my baby - but I miss her already.
Big, big hugs to you. Thank you for the wonderful smile. Have a great time at the ceremony!
tlc
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*Applause* Congrats to the graduates! And to the parents!
RLC,
My biological father died when I was 2. Like your son I was lucky and recieved my real Dad not long after. I have always felt special and blessed that while most people have a Dad that loves them because they helped create them, I have gotten to experience a love based on nothing but love, and believe me I tested it at times LOL I don't think anything could be as wonderful as knowing he chose me and I chose him.
Well maybe too many attorneys but not enough good ones!
Sounds like you raised a good person so he will be one of the few.
It is sad he has an absent doner which is all he was, just a bio thing. I am sure all he sees and feels as his dad is you. Your family is very fortunate.
CONGRATULATIONS to parents and son!!! No wonder you're proud. You say you couldn't have asked for a better son, I bet he couldn't have asked for a better Daddy. I hope you have a great celebration this weekend.
Dear RLC
