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Happy New Year!
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Happy New Year everyone! This is the first time I have been on this site since the new year started & since I have gotten on at all! Today happens to be my 24th Alanon birthday; I am so grateful for all the years I have been in alanon & have met some wonderful loving & caring people including al...
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Hoot Nanny
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New member. Just left my addict bf and really need support.
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Hi, I'm new to this message board. I have been in a relationship with my ex bf for going on 5 years. I'm only 25 years old and recently found out he has been addicted to oxycontin for the past 6 months. I always had a gut feeling he was on something but he always denied it which made me crazy! I found out he h...
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Happy New Year!
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((((((Family))))), Pipers and I wanted to take a moment and wish you all a very HAPPY NEW YEAR! I hope you all had wonderful holidays. I'm sorry I've been away for awhile. Work was chaotic and I was spending time w/a friend who has been going through a very difficult time. Between that, work and the h...
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Karilynn
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What to expect from a sponsor?
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Hi, just asked someone to be my sponsor but not sure what that means? This is her first experience at being a sponsor - so we are both new to the relationship. Do I call her to check in? Does she call me? Can I call her when I need to talk? We have set up a regular weekly meeting time to go over the steps, but I am n...
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jasobel
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What do I say to my 8 year old?
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My husband is in recovery - my 8 year old knows he can't drink alcohol. When we went out to eat he said he was drinking beer, it was root beer. I told her it was root beer. She knows he isn't supposed to drink alcohol. Later when we were home she asked, "what will happen to daddy if he drinks alcohol?...
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General Hospital....
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has agreed and will work in cooperation with Al-Anon WSO (World Service Office) to include mention and some description of the Al-Anon Family Groups into their programing on the 29th. They will also run a Al-Anon PSA during the break. How awesome is that....know anyone in program in your local sta...
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Jerry F
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An observation
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For the most part, my husband is improving by drinking less and his personality was starting to improve as well. I was happy with that. The last few days he's been hitting the bottle more than he has been for the last few weeks and his ugly personality showed up today. It's that personality again. W...
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Just a little question....
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I know this question is vague, but what is grief. What should one expect? What is your experience? Thanks and peace, fishinmama
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fishinmama
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Letting Go of Fear
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I just found this picture and set it as my avatar. I took it with my camera phone a couple weeks ago while I was driving to pick up my older son (yes, I pulled over first - haha). It was actually a very small rainbow in the sky - you can't really see it in the picture, but it was there. The coolest thing was, on m...
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spontaneous 10th Step....
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Practicing the "If you keep an open mind...you will find help"; from the ending statement in an Al-Anon meeting I ended up having a spontaneous 10th step moment where I was able to learn some of why I have been dealing with denial and my subconscious mind has been shouting from where ever it h...
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Jerry F
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no new posts
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I was wondering if anyone can let me know why sometimes when I post the black tick pops up at the side saying no new posts. It can be very frustarting when you are seeking esh. Hope this post doesnt get one too thanks -- Edited by Tracy on Sunday 3rd of January 2010 09:00:28 AM
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Feeling alone
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I´m feeling like crap today. Even thouh my husband kicked me out and only calls me to yell at me, I miss my friend. I miss when he was sober we would go to the movies or to eat or just stayed home and lounge. I feel I´ve been betrayed by friends and I feel my life is so out of control right now. Honestly God has bee...
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Priscilla83
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My story...long...
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I am 23 years old And have been with the same boyfriend since I was 15 years old Our puppy dog love, turned into a very close and healthy relationship.. Everyone wanted a relationship like ours.. WOW you guys look so happy.. I wish I had someone. So I could be happy like you two.. No one could have imagine wh...
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He Left Me
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Yesterday my boyfriend of 4 years and the a in my life, whom I moved to Florida to be with told me that our relationship wasn't working anymore. As I type that, it cuts me to the core. All it appears were in attempts to make him feel guilty for not wanting to be with me, which in admitting this, actually makes...
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RunnerChick
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Reminder: Business Meeting
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is tonight at 9 EST (6 PM Pacific) The Agenda Review of December minutes Review of OP meeting schedule Old Business Listing MIP with WSO - sue New Business Reinstating monthly OP meetings Please PM Courage if there are any additional topics (and if time will allow)
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tea2
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inspiration needed
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I've been coming here and going to online meetings for a week now. It's been a great help to me, I feel some hope that I can learn to cope with my A's drinking. He got drunk two nights ago for the first time since I discovered al anon. I was able to tell myself that he has a disease, it's not his fault. I refraine...
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Big Life Changes
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I'm new to the forum! Though not new to the consequences of alcoholism. The immediate question on my mind is regarding The Big Life Changes that AA encourages those new to sobriety to NOT do. No big moves, no new relationships, no new jobs. No romantic relationships for a year. Is the newly sober pers...
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JackieBrown
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My Grandaughter
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I posted last week as a newbie.. I`am disabled and unable to attend outside meetings but have made it here to one or two. I have my grandaughter here quite a bit to babysit. Her mother was a drug addict but I believe now is drinking. She hurt her little girl last week while they were away on vacation and and m...
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ESH Please!!!
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I got a call from my credit card company. He stole my credit card and racked up a bunch of charges and they called me to see if they are fraudulent. Of course I said yes. I didn't want to but I did. I'm so scared. I pulled up my credit card statement and there are even more charges. I'm struggling financ...
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Ragdolls
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when does unacceptable behavior change?
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So here I am again watching my two young children by myself. It is a familiar scenario to me now. Recovering A has been downstairs doing nothing to help me with the kids and now he has gone "out" for a couple hours. When he gets back from being "out" it will be time for him to go to AA...
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guidance
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I am so confused all the time and begging HP for guidance. When I came home off holidays my sponsor rang and asked if I could visit her. To cut along story short she has met My ABF's sponsor at an open meeting we all attended lately and she knows him from a long time a ago. I have confided in her that he is enco...
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Tracy
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A great reading
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The reading for Jan. 1, in Courage to Change is one of my very favorites. I remember exactly where I was when I read it last year. As the program goes, it was even more meaningful to me when I read it again this year, as I could believe it more from personal experience than just trusting those that go before...
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Loupiness
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poems about my alcoholic dad
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Daddy why dont you ever listen to me? please daddy hear my silent screams for help dont continue to ignore me and pretend you didnt hear them why cant you see my pain? why dont you ever understand me? just once i wish you'd say i love you simply because i am your little princess why cant you admire my true bea...
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Loss
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It's like it has been drummed into me that everything goes away. The only constant is HP. Does a person have to lose so much to realize what really matters? And by then, isn't it too late? Even was blessed with another lady who had a pet pig too. She became my adoptive mom and her husband my dad. She died. No...
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Did I share this?
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That I asked the A the last time we talked, that he said when people get drunk or loaded or whatever, they use that do to whatever they want to do? I mean they get drunk and choose to cheat,steal, fight, laugh, drive, they use that feeling of not caring to do whatever. Was an eye opener to me. But again it was h...
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Debilyn
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Willingness...Am I willing?
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Good Morning Family, Need to sort out some thoughts here. Helps me so much just to post what is swirling in the brain, see the thoughts. So on my brain's agenda this morning seems to be "willingness" I keep asking myself am I willing. I have been reading alot. Not my normal entertaining rea...
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fishinmama
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Anyone else celebrating alone tonight?
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Well, I am not technically alone since my kids are here, but they will be in bed by 8 :) I am alone by choice, and I mostly feel okay about it. AH is going out with his brother and some other people and you should have seen him today...he was so excited, like a kid before Christmas, about getting wasted toni...
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SWgal
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Possible DL reinstatement
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I was wondering if anyone on this forum have experienced their A having their driver license reinstated after a horrible driving record. Anyone know anyone who has had their DL reinstated after a life suspension on an already suspended for life license? Is anyone here living with someone who has n...
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suzydawn
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in with the new....
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My Friends, After 3 pretty ghastly years, I can honestly say I look forward to 2010 with hope. Hope, that I am absolutely certain, would not be there for me without this program. So much to be grateful for! I am healing. My children are healing. There is a level of peace and contentment that is settling...
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Loupiness
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New to all of this...
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Hi everyone. I am new here and new to any type of al-anon group. I plan to join an al-anon group in the next week. My story - Last summer my sister and her husband moved back to our home state. I noticed something was wrong when I went to visit her one time and she had poured vodka into her breakfast drink an...
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Julzy
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it's been a long time
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Hello all and happy new year. I haven't posted in months. I became complacent. Partly because my A had moved out for a year and because of my pride. I am a substance abuse counselor in a rural part of Idaho. When I go to the one local meeting I am confronted by former clients and families of clients who want m...
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lostcadc
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loneliness
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I am tired of putting up with the loneliness attached to alcoholism, I know I need to detach but unfortunately weather conditions have me housebound at present so am having a bit of a rough time. I also gathering resentments by the newtime. Every day the weather just gets a little worse than what it did t...
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Expectations, Rejection and Acceptance
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Tonights meeting in the chat room was on Expectations, Rejection and Acceptance. I sat and listened (read) the shares and kept thinking that I needed to share, but kept putting it off. I really needed to share on these topics so thought I might post something here. Here's my dilema that these topics re...
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Overcome
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The Alone part
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I sure to relate to people not wanting to leave, they think about the "alone" part. I can say with huge esh, it can be hades. Some of you know I have no one left. No more family reunions or going to see the new baby in our family, no more visiting or anyone caring, or would know if you were dead a mont...
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Debilyn
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Dear Abby
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I just read today's Dear Abby and thought I'd share. http://www.uexpress.com/dearabby/
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N8SMOM
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Resolution Smesolution I am changing it up and making promises to me instead
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Hi all, 2009 was one of the hardest years I have ever gone through. Not because so much bad happened to me, just so much happened. One of the best things that happened this year is that I was able to meet three people in person that I met on MIP. It was an amazing experience! One of the worst things that happen...
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Mandy123
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Early morning work out and then some :)
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Hi all, I was doing my Wii Fit this morning and listening to Pandora (an online radio where you can create your own stations) and something happened that just has me laughing at my HPs sense of humor. I was just going through the motions of the work out, not really feeling like doing it. I love the energy it...
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Relections on 2009.....My first year in AlAnon
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I spent almost all day yesterday finishing off my daily readers. I finished One Day at a Time, Courage to Change, Keep It Simple, Hope for Today and the Language of Letting Go. I then went back through my journal of the past year and re read everything in it, including much ESH from my MIP family that I co...
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shellyj123
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Too New Beginnings....
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WELP... Here it is the Start of a New Year Coming on me Fast, and in all that, I got to thinking back about what 2009 brought to my life... ;) Now Granted, I started the Boards in LATE 2008, under the Name of "Missing Out" but it wasn't long after entering this program that I realized, I wasn't Mis...
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Jozie
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Thank you and Happy New Year
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As the turn of the year approaches I want to give thanks to all of you who have supported and inspired me on my healing journey. Everyone who posts here has my love and gratitude, oldies and newbies, I cant do it without you. I hit rock bottom this time last year. As the bells chimed out at midnight bringin...
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Finally Laid To Rest
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My Friend Laura Was Finally Laid To Rest This Morning God Grant Her To Eternal Life And May She And All The Faithfully Departed Rest In Peace. Its Been A Long Road For Us All Esp her poor dad and sons This Is The 4th Child Her Dad Has Had To Bury(her 2 brothers older and a younger sis all had an illness) Please...
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Hi! New guy here!
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Hello Al Anon family! I just found this website, and hope to gain a lot, and maybe help some too... As an intro, here's my story... Five years ago today I was independent, strong, and single. I was on a remote Pacific island studying butterflies; when the big tsunami hit the Pacific I had no idea, since w...
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CJ recovery
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HAPPY NEW YEAR MIP FAMILY !!!
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2010 is upon us. With each new year it gives us a chance to start over. But, it only comes once a year. I make and break a lot of New Year's resolutions each year as I am sure some of you do also. With that in mind, I was thinking what a great program Al-Anon really is because the program allows us to start over e...
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Day jaw voo all over again....LOL
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So a part of my family have all been wearing body explosives and setting themselves off at very weird times while trying to find a time when they can do a coordinated blast. When did I think the tape of my past was totally destroyed and would not earn re-run status? Of course one part of the family runs t...
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Jerry F
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The Disease Only Lays Dormant, It Never Dies !!
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On Dec. 24th my AW became active again. She had been sober for over 8 months. I don't know why the holidays and in particular Christmas seems to bring that miserable beast out of hiding. I feel like the disease is laughing saying, I'm back, I won, I'm in control again. Truth be known, that is the case with m...
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God I hope this helps - finally got a sponsor
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I haven't been posting much the past few weeks. My alcoholic boyfriend had left me to binge with another woman at her place. He called me in a horrible place to pick him up and I did, brought him home to detox - he stayed with me - said he wanted to be with me again, until he painfully left 2 weeks later and now i...
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jasobel
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Let the Anxiety Begin (again)
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For the past week or so my anxiety has been in over-drive. At first I thought perhaps it was hormones because I was off my BC pill. But I'm back on now and still have the anxiety. In 2 weeks, my husband is supposed to be going into jail for 45 days for a DUI and I'm pretty sure that's the source of my anxiety. ...
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Once the kid watching, now the adult denying
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So here I am 27 years old. I watched my mom marry and divorce my recovering-alcoholic step dad, who relapsed in 1999 and never made it back to the place of recovery. I now watch that same stepdad play mind games with my brother. I have always sat back and watched it waiting for someone to ask me how it all...
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2010
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I am going to really work at this new year to be the best that I can make it. It is going to be a year of taking care of myself, finding my own happiness within and diving more into Alanon then I ever have. I am going to do whatever I have to do to stay out of the drama of my A son and just have hope without any expecta...
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Gailey
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Anonymity?
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I have noticed that many people are beginning to post real pictures of themselves and their children here, which show up when they post. To each his own I know, but I am wondering, aren't they afraid that their alcoholic or drug addict may figure out they are on here and easily find their posts? I know t...
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I'm back and while so much as changed so much still the same.
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It has been quite a while since I wrote last. The holidays seem to be really hard on me. It brings out my loneliness as, yes, I am still alone. Well, I say that but my little boy is 5 now and the joy of my life. My sister and her family still live with me as well. The A in my life is still around. We have conta...
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The power of a post
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One fact must be kept in mind, namely, the need to distinguish between submission and surrender . In submission, an individual accepts reality consciously, but not unconsciously. He or she accepts as a practical fact that he or she cannot at that moment lick reality, but lurking in the unconscious i...
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Karilyn
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I haven't seen you post in a while and know that this time of the year is a very busy one for you. I hope you and Pipers Kitty had a peaceful holiday and I'm praying 2010 will be a peaceful loving, profitable year for you. Your program has been a great inspiration and guide for me in difficult times. Maresi...
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maresie
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glad to see so many posting at Christmas!
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Just glad to be here on Christmas day. I spent an hour here answering posts and seeing who is posting on this joyous day. I love seeing other alanon's coping with and celebrating holidays! I am doing the same. Peace! Carol
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Carol_Lynn
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January Business Meeting Agenda
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Business meeting Sunday, January 3, 2010 9 p.m. Eastern (6 p.m. Pacific) Agenda Review of December minutes Review of OP meeting schedule Old Business Listing MIP with WSO - sue New Business Reinstating monthly OP meetings Please pm me if you have any additional items Thank you. Courage
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Courage
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Mindgames UGH!
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Hi all, I am so sick of mindgames. My "A" and I are seperated. Divorce is set to be final 03/02/10. He left the state last Sunday because he was mad at me. He sent me a text saying he never wanted to hear from me again and that he was sure he would never see his kids again. I didn't reply since he said h...
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Mandy123
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12.06.09 MIP Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes
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12.06.09 Chat Room Group Business Meeting Minutes: The Chair opened the meeting with "The Serenity Prayer" First Item:Approval of November's Minutes -Vote was held and the Minutes were approved as posted on Message Board.- - Next Item:Rundown of the Agenda Topics - Review of Nove...
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History repeats itself
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Saturday I went to a BBQ with some "friends" and with my AH. I was having a terrible time cause I was still upset about the fact he didn't spent X-Mas with us, but with his friends getting drunk. I made the HORRIBLE mistake to confide in a "friend" that I was very tired of the situatio...
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Priscilla83
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He's drunk right now, I think
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I think he's drunk. But the sick part is that I can't even confirm it. I think I smell it, his behavior is not normal, and he's doing things that he would normally do if he had been drinking (smoking too much, using the bathroom a lot, "falling asleep" while playing a computer game). As al a...
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Ragdolls
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Step One step meeting...........Need some insight
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Our f2f group decided that the first Friday meeting of everymonth we would now devote to a Step Meeting. A step a month for 2010. We all loveeee the idea....This was decided AFTER I had already signed up to lead that night as it will be my one year anniversary. I did my first round through the steps with a...
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