The Alone part - Al-Anon Family Group

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

The Alone part

nal · Senior Member

((Debilyn)),

Thanks for writing this-- sometimes it's hard to appreciate what you have when you have it, so it's nice to be reminded to do so.

Wishing you happiness in the New Year,

Nancy

DreamsOver · Senior Member

((((((((Debilyn)))))))))

You sound like such an amazing person, to have gone through all you have, and the big heart you must have to take care of those precious animals they give us so much love back without asking a lot. Your farm sounds so wonderful.

I have lost both of my parents and too many aunts and uncles, I still have my husband which is a blessing, but I have a dread of something happening to him. I try not to let myself get too far out into the future. I miss my family as the way it used to be that it hurts, my mother and father lived close by and we spent so much time together, our family dinners, cookouts and just being there for each other. My father was the rock of the family, he was my safety net, if dad was there everything was going to be alright.

My husband and I adopted a 5 month old boy in 1980 after infertility, he was our little "gold nugget" (that's what my dad called him) he was the light of our lives, he was such a gift. Then thirteen years later, when I turned forty, very unexpectedly, I became pregnant, six months after son was born by dad died suddenly, my world began to unravel.
My oldest son was turning 14 and becoming a handful, my new little son was diagnosed with Autism, and my mother's health began to decline.

My oldest son progressed into a full blown addict, I never knew what to expect from him, I did manage to get him through high school, but after that he was out of control to the point of getting in jail, DUI's, stealing from us and other family members, we never knew what was coming next. All I could see was my dad's face and what he would have thought, I know now that our HP knows best.

My addicted son is almost 30 now and hasn't learned much from his mistakes, but I have learned a lot thanks to Alanon and all of you. My autistic son is now 16 and is in the 10th grade and is such a blessing, but I fear for him when my husband & I are gone. His brother cannot be trusted to see about him, I think he would take advantage of him. So I stress a lot about him and his future.

I have a dog and cats that I love and take care of and they give me so much pleasure.

I think that when we become a certain age we become invisible, I know that so much of what I loved has gone. My sense of comfortable sameness is gone.

I have a little poem I want to share with you, all of us here can relate.

                     I walked a mile with Pleasure;
                     She chatted all the way;
                     But left me non the wiser
                     For all she had to say.

                     I walked a mile with Sorrow,
                     And ne'er a word said she;
                     But, oh! The things I learned from her,
                     When Sorrow walked with me.

                    ROBERT BROWNING HAMILTON

Keep posting let us know what and how you are doing.

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