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Chaya · Chaya

I went to go get the Mr. Unavailable book that was recommended on the board but there weren't any copies at the book store. I did go to the author's blog called Baggage Reclaim and it addresses the many of the same issues we are dealing with here. It focuses a lot on learning to love oneself. As I mentioned,...

dragonflys · dragonflys

So I sat down last night to find something good to watch on TV. I was flipping through ONDemand and found a Dr. Drew TV show. The show had Christi Hall on it and she was talking about her book that she wrote called "Love Isnt Supposed to Hurt" I downloaded the book on my Kindle, and wow!! I have...

Diva · Diva

For ten years I have tried. I have given ALAnon my best shot. I have listened, attempted to learn; I am still angry, hurt, and upset with his nasty drunken binges. I have no peace of mind. I have no understanding of his addiction. I keep trying, and keep hanging on. I don't know why it hasn't worked...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, It has been awhile since I have posted. I use to post always when I was having a hard time. I must admit that some of my greatest inspiration came from this board. However, July is a hard month for me..That is when I lost my husband. It will be 5 years this month and I must say, I am enjoyin...

rehprof · rehprof

So...it's summer...my ex A lives with his sister...no job...living on money he got from me in divorce...etc...none of them work...they all smoke cigs...etc...not the best role models... they have a pool... when my 10 year old is home at my place-- I have to work lots of hours...and am often tired and...

Tigger · Tigger

I know this probably sounds obvious, but (I'm realising on a deeper level today) it's not just an As drinking or other compulsion I can't change, it's their maturity, their availability, their self centredness, their reactions, whether they care, how they see me, their misunderstandings judgeme...

4LittleHens · 4LittleHens

I am new here to the forum. Have attended Al-Anon meetings but haven't found the right one yet. The forum here seemed like the best place to talk about what my recovering AH said to me. My AH went through a 28 program in March. He has been sober since that time and actively works his recovery program...

Tigger · Tigger

Why do we have to love such unavailable people? Who will go to any lengths to keep us in a role and keep us at a distance. We try to make it work, oh how we try, but they have other plans for us. I feel like a hostage to love, kept in the dark and fed the worst parts of my partner. I know the love is there and it is deep...

LeenieBeanie · LeenieBeanie

Hello everyone. I have been reading this MIP page daily since my last post. I have been in AlAnon for two years. Last post I needed to hear from others with an Alcoholic Daughter/Son to see how they were coping as our AD was a few days away from living in her car with our grandson. Took the advise and turned...

Rainbow Woman · Rainbow Woman

I'm really struggling with forgiveness today. Had such a beautiful day yesterday and felt so connected and grateful and then came into contact with someone who pushed my buttons today and felt this rage. Have pushed it down by getting depressed and feel I have lost a chunk of my day to it. It's hyster...

erleichda · erleichda

I keep asking myself why I am so afraid to leave my (a) husband. We have been married less than a year. This isn't the life I thought I was signing up for. So why can't I just go? Why would anyone choose to stay?

noclevername · noclevername

Do I need to contact anyone before going to a face to face Al Anon mtg or can I just show up? And I saw something on this forum about al anon chat sessions. How can I tell when those are held and where do I log on to find them?

imom · imom

Good Morning Everyone, First I want to say how grateful I am that I have this forum. If I didn't have this place to come to "talk" and read I don't know what I would do. Last night I went to hang with the girls for the first time in a long time. It was so nice. We talked, we cried, we laughed. I am...

Fiona · Fiona

hi all just started logging on to this site and its been a great help already - my husband of 14 years is an alcoholic in denial and has been full on drinking since his 'soulmate' pal died two years ago in july. we have two small children so i had to ask him to leave the family home for their safety and min...

willowtree · willowtree

What does everyone like to eat for dinner? I am in a rut with cooking around here and I would really like to cook more family dinners around our home. This summer has been so busy and I atleast want us to sit and eat a yummy dinner together more often. So give me you ideas :) My kids will thank you since chi...

katfshh · katfshh

I am really trying not to focus on his drinking. I am trying to be normal, do things for myself and just go on without everything focusing on him. In the past I have made the mistake of buying him booze when he is "trying to wean." I realize it is all crap. Well, he is just about out of booze right no...

CDK · CDK

Hi all. Having a rough day in my head. I feel anger today. I dont know what to do with it. Im not angry at specific things my ex A did or didnt do. Today, I am angry at alcoholism. Today, I am angry at codependency. I am angry that he, good person, has alcoholism. I am angry that I, a good person, am codependent....

Katy · Katy

For those that don't know, we say white rabbits on pinch punch first of the month. So then? I got my car right outside my kitchen window, if I could get it in the house believe me it would be in, I haven't done a lot of driving her yet, been too busy working it's great though because I can park her right outside...

katfshh · katfshh

He seems to think he is such an expert on recovery. "I've been in this program for a very long time." Ugh. Well, he sucks at this program, obviously. I am reading "Getting Them Sober."

imom · imom

Does anyone else have the experience of not being able to talk nicely to the A while they detach? I have been working very hard and have had some small successess (yeah for me!) but sometimes I don't want to even say hi or bye to him because I just want to completely push him out of my life. Maybe I am thinki...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/forum.spark#lastPostAnchor

callmemara · callmemara

One of many of the crazy things that happened on his drunken escapade last night. It was on the floor, seat and all in the toilet seat hinge. It was so nasty and hard to clean it out of the toilet seat hinge. Unfortunately I had to clean it up because he obviously couldn't and that is the only toilet in our hou...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

That is what I want to tell my exAH today! I can't believe how angry I am. I wish I had a meeting I could go to tonight. I do all the running and he turned away having the kids this weekend at the first excuse he could find because there is a big wedding happening near him this weekend which means lots of people p...

texasgal · texasgal

I waited for him to come but then i went to go lie down I feel asleep. I heard the door around 12:30. I just stayed in bed I was so mentally exhausted. He is still asleep & I'm even wodering if i should even mention anything or just let it go. It was a crazy night. I hadn't been through one like that in a long t...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

What is a good comeback or how do you all handle it when your A is just joking or kidding? I am so tied of taking offense to all his "just joking and I can never take a joke! It is never funny to me! But I would like to just know how everyone handles this, Please!

Katy · Katy

I bought myself my first car yesterday, no big shake to some I suspect but to me it's monumentuss, I feel I have comitted to something at last and that I am starting to accept and appreciate life as it is and not how I would have it be, it's been a long process of ye but's,and it has been very very hard to get to t...

pinkchip · pinkchip

I came across this surfing the net basically. At one time or other I definitely used all of these excuses as did my ex-A. I like they way the author explained all this without getting too heady into psychological jargon. **Common stereotyped addictive defenses include but are by no means limited t...

texasgal · texasgal

I checked my husbands FB account & that woman put honey this honey that all over his FB. I called him & yelled and argued. He said he hadn't checked it he didn't know what i was talking about & so i yelled more. I got infuriated and posted a nasty message about how a crazy stalker is checking out...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

My AH seems to think that since he hasn't been getting any lately, that I must be having an affair. He doesn't know what is wrong in our marriage and can't seem to understand why things are bad? All I have to say is: WHAT THE HECK??? Seriously, he has no idea? What planet is he living on? If he's concerne...

noclevername · noclevername

My sister who is an alcoholic is in a rehab facility. Her daughter has been placed with me by child protective services. Her daughter really misses her and vice versa and I want my sister to be successful so she will have a chance to have her daughter back. So my sister is in the program which is a six mont...

imom · imom

Does anyone have any information on wet brain? My ah is showing some weird symptoms. Not sure if it is something he is taking or the beginning of the end. Last week at a swim meet u had to take him home because he was so out of it and he slept for 3 days. He was hospitalized a few months ago but they did not mentio...

CDK · CDK

Hi everyone! My friends in my pocket... :). I think of you daily. Thought Id share my HP funny of the day. I went to the health store in search of something to help me sleep. It continues to be a struggle. Tne lady that helped me is so kind and easy to talk to. And, I shared why I think Im having such physical p...

Amandakay · Amandakay

I don't know... *sigh*.... My AH is in rehab and I have been detaching from him. It's good for both of us. I need to get better too, ya know. And I'm starting to feel better about myself and more confident in myself... But because I am not dong everything he wants me to do and dropping my life to "suppor...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am bored but it is all my fault! My husband used to say that we don't live next to Disneyland so I should be happy right where I am I guess. I can only do what I can where I am coming from. I am going 60 miles tomorrow for some entertainment & R&R. If you all are wondering why I go 60 miles for entertainm...

Fina · Fina

I was told not to go ahead with the business meetings until I heard further from John. Now, my posts about the June Business Meeting are no longer found on the boards. Okay, I get it . . . Thanks to those of you who participated in the June meeting.

jorjorjor · jorjorjor

hey all, I just wanted to say how grateful I am for this place. I woke up scared, feeling like i had made some wrong decisions about some travel plans and now everything was ruined, I was going to have a horrible time where I was going, etc. I came here and have been reading peoples posts and have been happy...

texasgal · texasgal

I went to my husbands bday night it went great. He asked me to speak a couple of minutes before he got his chip. I was honored & overwhelmed all at the same time. We fellowshiped & went out to dinner. We had a wonderful evening. And when I got home that woman on his FB had unliked almost all his status...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Hi. hello. Everything is fine. Just real busy. Working full time and I started a small business... Love you all.

texasgal · texasgal

My husband will be speaking tonight at birthday night. He will be celebrating 7 yrs of sobriety. I hadn't gone these last 2 yrs. The first year we had separated two days before bday night the second cuz we had just gotten back together & I didn't feel right going. But this year he asked me to go & I d...

amills4294 · amills4294

I hear all these wonderful stories about sponsors and I would very much like to find one. My "home" meeting really doesn't have anyone that would be available to do so. I'm having a hard time feeling comfortable enough to reach out to someone I don't even know. I need to find another meeti...

katfshh · katfshh

Not sure what to do now? He is here and being sweet, totally a drama king though. He won't eat, is super ancy. Lays down, gets up, lays down, goes and sits on the patio. He is drinking some wine mixed with water. He said that he is trying to taper. I talked to him about moving to sober living. He is receptive. I...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

One thing I have been trying to do that worked real well in the past is that I can get out of myself & do something for others. I have been waiting for awhile for answers but I never really got around to listening. I am so glad that my eyes & ears are opening again to new possibilities. I want to find so...

katfshh · katfshh

I was doing so well. But, I noticed on our phone bill for the last week he calls a number over and over. I checked his voicemail and there was a message from some woman. She was calling him sweetie and telling him she has her kids the next few days but would love to see him. I am just heartbroken. I know he's no...

CDK · CDK

Hi all. Had a great F2F mtg tonight. Makes me feel so much better. I am struggling with an issue, and my mtg reminded me of how much ESH is out there. So, after 4.5 yrs of having to deal with my relationship...while it obviously affected my mental, emotional, spiritual health...it appears to have left so...

canadianguy · canadianguy

Those of you who "know me", know that I am very wary of any insinuation of "strong = leave, and weak = stay" posts, or advice for people on the big stay vs. leave decision.... That being said, I offer up the following bit of E,S&H as a healthy reminder to look at things from all si...

willowtree · willowtree

I just realized something about myself. I have a huge problem with inaction! Specifically regarding exercise. I am very rigid on my exercise - if I don't do it in the morning then I will just not do it all day. I will also come up with excuses as to why I don't have enough time in the morning to exercise (...

Elizabeth10 · Elizabeth10

I was talking with my sponser today and mentioned the reason I don't like texting/calling people first is I always feel like I'm imposing on them. She told me it is just one part of my sickness that Al-Anon can help me with. I never thought of it as part of my "sickness" but I can see what she mea...

Smukke · Smukke

Dear community, I just came home from an Al-Anon meeting and found some marks above the burglary alarm box. It looks like it has burned a bit or so. I don't know how these boxes work, but tried to call my ABF, who had studied electrical engineering. I was irritated and scared at first, and when he did not...

1911A1 · 1911A1

As an ACOA, I grew up with a very distorted view of personal power. Obviously, I was not allowed to own my own power. I grew up believing I had no power, and what little I did have, I was supposed to give away so that people would love me. That's a messed-up way to think and a messed-up way to live. Even after...

holivex · holivex

Last night I attended my first F2F Al Anon meeting. It started at 7:00- AH was supposed to be off work at 4:00, so my plan was to leave the kids with him at home and go. Well, needless to say he didn't come home after work. I found myself getting super angry and the voice in my head telling me that meant I cou...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

I read a lot of posts here about setting boundaries when our A's are drunk. My problem is my A drinks in secret and NEVER admits to drinking. Of course I know when he has been drinking by his behavior but it is difficult for me to set boundaries about his drinking because he denies it. And dare I say to him tha...

oldergal · oldergal

Occasionally, I hear that "when the kids grow up" they will appreciate that you left/divorced the alcoholic, abusive spouse. Is this really true? Its a lot of work, to make a better life for our families, following the Al-Anon steps, lots of stress involved to make serious life changes su...

leeranger · leeranger

I had surgery yesterday for hand cancer and I need my husband's help with the kids more than ever. My right hand/arm is off limits for the next 2 weeks. Well, he decided to go get a 20 pack of beer today and drink it all. He knows my boundary is that he is to stay in his office when he drinks and so I feel like he is...

surfgirl123 · surfgirl123

In working on my recovery, I realize my mindset is my worst enemy, self pity can really take its toll. Here is my new reality: My life is the collective of MY choices, good and bad. I am not a victim. I make a choice every day to stay with my AH, I too can make a choice tomorrow to leave for any reason or no reaso...

soitgoes13 · soitgoes13

Hello Everyone. I am writing in this forum because I started dating a guy a few months ago and things were going really well then he started to pull away. I questioned him on this and he ultimately came clean with the fact that he is currently in AA and working on his 12 steps and has been discouraged by his s...

AliceD · AliceD

New here, and some basic facts about me: I come from a family of substance users. My parents, aunts, and uncles all use (or used) drugs and/or alcohol, and with the exception of two family members have kept their use predominantly recreational. My parents could, I suppose, be described as "f...

supermom · supermom

So...my husband has been sober for over 6 months this time. I still feel crummy and overwhelmed! He is going to meetings every night. I am going to meetings when I can. Once a week for sure. Twice if I can get him to watch the kids. I can not take our 3 kids to the meetings with me (that is a whole different...

dragonflys · dragonflys

Always looking for good books to read, I jumped on the one posted a little bit ago about verbally abusive relationships. As I am reading, I am trying to remember all of the arguments or crazymaking that occurred with my AH. I cannot seem to remember all the details, or how it started, or what the end resu...

leeranger · leeranger

I posted for the first time a few weeks ago. My husband was dry for about 8 years and goes on benders, his last one being a few weeks ago where he drank 3 bottles of vodka in 3 days. At that point, he was very remorseful and said he would start going to AA. Of course that didn't happen and he hasn't had anything t...

Chaya · Chaya

So, what has caused me the most fear in breaking up with my ex in recovery is what I have been most afraid to share. Here goes... When I look back on our relationship there are few times that were really amazing. There just aren't that many good times to remember, except for sex. In all prior relationship...

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	"Is it Love or is it Addiction?" (Preview) I went to go get the Mr. Unavailable book that was recommended on the board but there weren't any copies at the book store. I did go to the author's blog called Baggage Reclaim and it addresses the many of the same issues we are dealing with here. It focuses a lot on learning to love oneself. As I mentioned,...	Chaya	6	657	Jul 2, 2012 by rehprof
	Love Isnt Supposed To Hurt (Preview) So I sat down last night to find something good to watch on TV. I was flipping through ONDemand and found a Dr. Drew TV show. The show had Christi Hall on it and she was talking about her book that she wrote called "Love Isnt Supposed to Hurt" I downloaded the book on my Kindle, and wow!! I have...	dragonflys	5	622	Jul 2, 2012 by dragonflys
	I am a total failure! (Preview) For ten years I have tried. I have given ALAnon my best shot. I have listened, attempted to learn; I am still angry, hurt, and upset with his nasty drunken binges. I have no peace of mind. I have no understanding of his addiction. I keep trying, and keep hanging on. I don't know why it hasn't worked...	Diva	18	635	Jul 2, 2012 by Rocky38
	Living Life (Preview) Hello Friends, It has been awhile since I have posted. I use to post always when I was having a hard time. I must admit that some of my greatest inspiration came from this board. However, July is a hard month for me..That is when I lost my husband. It will be 5 years this month and I must say, I am enjoyin...	Andrea12	5	411	Jul 2, 2012 by Rocky38
	I need to know it will be okay... (Preview) So...it's summer...my ex A lives with his sister...no job...living on money he got from me in divorce...etc...none of them work...they all smoke cigs...etc...not the best role models... they have a pool... when my 10 year old is home at my place-- I have to work lots of hours...and am often tired and...	rehprof	2	409	Jul 2, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Serenity to Accept (Preview) I know this probably sounds obvious, but (I'm realising on a deeper level today) it's not just an As drinking or other compulsion I can't change, it's their maturity, their availability, their self centredness, their reactions, whether they care, how they see me, their misunderstandings judgeme...	Tigger	3	301	Jul 2, 2012 by Tigger
	Dropped a Bomb (Preview) I am new here to the forum. Have attended Al-Anon meetings but haven't found the right one yet. The forum here seemed like the best place to talk about what my recovering AH said to me. My AH went through a 28 program in March. He has been sober since that time and actively works his recovery program...	4LittleHens	13	563	Jul 2, 2012 by abbyal
	Breaking Heart (Preview) Why do we have to love such unavailable people? Who will go to any lengths to keep us in a role and keep us at a distance. We try to make it work, oh how we try, but they have other plans for us. I feel like a hostage to love, kept in the dark and fed the worst parts of my partner. I know the love is there and it is deep...	Tigger	8	812	Jul 2, 2012 by Tigger
	Alcoholic Daughter is back (Preview) Hello everyone. I have been reading this MIP page daily since my last post. I have been in AlAnon for two years. Last post I needed to hear from others with an Alcoholic Daughter/Son to see how they were coping as our AD was a few days away from living in her car with our grandson. Took the advise and turned...	LeenieBeanie	5	705	Jul 2, 2012 by LeenieBeanie
	Forgiveness (Preview) I'm really struggling with forgiveness today. Had such a beautiful day yesterday and felt so connected and grateful and then came into contact with someone who pushed my buttons today and felt this rage. Have pushed it down by getting depressed and feel I have lost a chunk of my day to it. It's hyster...	Rainbow Woman	2	894	Jul 1, 2012 by hotrod
	Why stay with an alcoholic? (Preview) I keep asking myself why I am so afraid to leave my (a) husband. We have been married less than a year. This isn't the life I thought I was signing up for. So why can't I just go? Why would anyone choose to stay?	erleichda	12	1036	Jul 1, 2012 by Path to Serenity
	Question about Al Anon mtgs (Preview) Do I need to contact anyone before going to a face to face Al Anon mtg or can I just show up? And I saw something on this forum about al anon chat sessions. How can I tell when those are held and where do I log on to find them?	noclevername	5	424	Jul 1, 2012 by lacewing
	rough morning (Preview) Good Morning Everyone, First I want to say how grateful I am that I have this forum. If I didn't have this place to come to "talk" and read I don't know what I would do. Last night I went to hang with the girls for the first time in a long time. It was so nice. We talked, we cried, we laughed. I am...	imom	4	452	Jul 1, 2012 by Debilyn
	resentment (Preview) hi all just started logging on to this site and its been a great help already - my husband of 14 years is an alcoholic in denial and has been full on drinking since his 'soulmate' pal died two years ago in july. we have two small children so i had to ask him to leave the family home for their safety and min...	Fiona	6	646	Jul 1, 2012 by Tigger
	Off Topic! :) I need some dinner ideas (Preview) What does everyone like to eat for dinner? I am in a rut with cooking around here and I would really like to cook more family dinners around our home. This summer has been so busy and I atleast want us to sit and eat a yummy dinner together more often. So give me you ideas :) My kids will thank you since chi...	willowtree	12	597	Jul 1, 2012 by Path to Serenity
	He wants me to buy booze right now! (Preview) I am really trying not to focus on his drinking. I am trying to be normal, do things for myself and just go on without everything focusing on him. In the past I have made the mistake of buying him booze when he is "trying to wean." I realize it is all crap. Well, he is just about out of booze right no...	katfshh	6	467	Jul 1, 2012 by Path to Serenity
	Anger (Preview) Hi all. Having a rough day in my head. I feel anger today. I dont know what to do with it. Im not angry at specific things my ex A did or didnt do. Today, I am angry at alcoholism. Today, I am angry at codependency. I am angry that he, good person, has alcoholism. I am angry that I, a good person, am codependent....	CDK	4	497	Jul 1, 2012 by ilovedogs
	Good morning campers and white rabbits (Preview) For those that don't know, we say white rabbits on pinch punch first of the month. So then? I got my car right outside my kitchen window, if I could get it in the house believe me it would be in, I haven't done a lot of driving her yet, been too busy working it's great though because I can park her right outside...	Katy	3	441	Jul 1, 2012 by Breakingfree
	AF said the book I am reading is stupid. (Preview) He seems to think he is such an expert on recovery. "I've been in this program for a very long time." Ugh. Well, he sucks at this program, obviously. I am reading "Getting Them Sober."	katfshh	5	373	Jul 1, 2012 by Diva
	detachment (Preview) Does anyone else have the experience of not being able to talk nicely to the A while they detach? I have been working very hard and have had some small successess (yeah for me!) but sometimes I don't want to even say hi or bye to him because I just want to completely push him out of my life. Maybe I am thinki...	imom	3	376	Jul 1, 2012 by Smukke
	Alanon Tradition 5 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/forum.spark#lastPostAnchor	hotrod	1	1837	Jul 1, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Poop on the toilet and floor (Preview) One of many of the crazy things that happened on his drunken escapade last night. It was on the floor, seat and all in the toilet seat hinge. It was so nasty and hard to clean it out of the toilet seat hinge. Unfortunately I had to clean it up because he obviously couldn't and that is the only toilet in our hou...	callmemara	12	597	Jul 1, 2012 by texasgal
	You are the biggest idiot I know!!!! (Preview) That is what I want to tell my exAH today! I can't believe how angry I am. I wish I had a meeting I could go to tonight. I do all the running and he turned away having the kids this weekend at the first excuse he could find because there is a big wedding happening near him this weekend which means lots of people p...	Breakingfree	3	557	Jul 1, 2012 by Breakingfree
	another day? (Preview) I waited for him to come but then i went to go lie down I feel asleep. I heard the door around 12:30. I just stayed in bed I was so mentally exhausted. He is still asleep & I'm even wodering if i should even mention anything or just let it go. It was a crazy night. I hadn't been through one like that in a long t...	texasgal	9	590	Jun 30, 2012 by Pushka
	Question? (Preview) What is a good comeback or how do you all handle it when your A is just joking or kidding? I am so tied of taking offense to all his "just joking and I can never take a joke! It is never funny to me! But I would like to just know how everyone handles this, Please!	sisdragonfly1957	6	483	Jun 30, 2012 by pjm15
	just some stuff (Preview) I bought myself my first car yesterday, no big shake to some I suspect but to me it's monumentuss, I feel I have comitted to something at last and that I am starting to accept and appreciate life as it is and not how I would have it be, it's been a long process of ye but's,and it has been very very hard to get to t...	Katy	4	414	Jun 30, 2012 by Temple
	Excuses (Preview) I came across this surfing the net basically. At one time or other I definitely used all of these excuses as did my ex-A. I like they way the author explained all this without getting too heady into psychological jargon. **Common stereotyped addictive defenses include but are by no means limited t...	pinkchip	6	500	Jun 30, 2012 by Breakingfree
	im so messed up (Preview) I checked my husbands FB account & that woman put honey this honey that all over his FB. I called him & yelled and argued. He said he hadn't checked it he didn't know what i was talking about & so i yelled more. I got infuriated and posted a nasty message about how a crazy stalker is checking out...	texasgal	15	624	Jun 30, 2012 by orchidlover
	AH thinks I'm having an affair? (Preview) My AH seems to think that since he hasn't been getting any lately, that I must be having an affair. He doesn't know what is wrong in our marriage and can't seem to understand why things are bad? All I have to say is: WHAT THE HECK??? Seriously, he has no idea? What planet is he living on? If he's concerne...	ilovedogs	7	737	Jun 30, 2012 by orchidlover
	Did I screw up? (Preview) My sister who is an alcoholic is in a rehab facility. Her daughter has been placed with me by child protective services. Her daughter really misses her and vice versa and I want my sister to be successful so she will have a chance to have her daughter back. So my sister is in the program which is a six mont...	noclevername	6	508	Jun 30, 2012 by Path to Serenity
	Wet brain (Preview) Does anyone have any information on wet brain? My ah is showing some weird symptoms. Not sure if it is something he is taking or the beginning of the end. Last week at a swim meet u had to take him home because he was so out of it and he slept for 3 days. He was hospitalized a few months ago but they did not mentio...	imom	10	3909	Jun 30, 2012 by rehprof
	My HP has a sense of humor...again. (Preview) Hi everyone! My friends in my pocket... :). I think of you daily. Thought Id share my HP funny of the day. I went to the health store in search of something to help me sleep. It continues to be a struggle. Tne lady that helped me is so kind and easy to talk to. And, I shared why I think Im having such physical p...	CDK	4	363	Jun 30, 2012 by katfshh
	I feel like my husband hates me... (Preview) I don't know... sigh.... My AH is in rehab and I have been detaching from him. It's good for both of us. I need to get better too, ya know. And I'm starting to feel better about myself and more confident in myself... But because I am not dong everything he wants me to do and dropping my life to "suppor...	Amandakay	9	762	Jun 29, 2012 by Path to Serenity
	bored but my fault! (Preview) I am bored but it is all my fault! My husband used to say that we don't live next to Disneyland so I should be happy right where I am I guess. I can only do what I can where I am coming from. I am going 60 miles tomorrow for some entertainment & R&R. If you all are wondering why I go 60 miles for entertainm...	Hoot Nanny	3	296	Jun 30, 2012 by Tigger
	There will be no business meeting (that I know of) in July business meeting agenda July 2012 (Preview) I was told not to go ahead with the business meetings until I heard further from John. Now, my posts about the June Business Meeting are no longer found on the boards. Okay, I get it . . . Thanks to those of you who participated in the June meeting.	Fina	0	6941	Jun 29, 2012 by Fina
	detaching from fear! (Preview) hey all, I just wanted to say how grateful I am for this place. I woke up scared, feeling like i had made some wrong decisions about some travel plans and now everything was ruined, I was going to have a horrible time where I was going, etc. I came here and have been reading peoples posts and have been happy...	jorjorjor	4	419	Jun 30, 2012 by Pushka
	grateful (Preview) I went to my husbands bday night it went great. He asked me to speak a couple of minutes before he got his chip. I was honored & overwhelmed all at the same time. We fellowshiped & went out to dinner. We had a wonderful evening. And when I got home that woman on his FB had unliked almost all his status...	texasgal	5	350	Jun 29, 2012 by Green Eyes
	Hi. Just me. (Preview) Hi. hello. Everything is fine. Just real busy. Working full time and I started a small business... Love you all.	Wolfie55	5	279	Jun 29, 2012 by GailMichelle
	to go or not to go?!? (Preview) My husband will be speaking tonight at birthday night. He will be celebrating 7 yrs of sobriety. I hadn't gone these last 2 yrs. The first year we had separated two days before bday night the second cuz we had just gotten back together & I didn't feel right going. But this year he asked me to go & I d...	texasgal	6	475	Jun 29, 2012 by pinkchip
	Finding a sponsor (Preview) I hear all these wonderful stories about sponsors and I would very much like to find one. My "home" meeting really doesn't have anyone that would be available to do so. I'm having a hard time feeling comfortable enough to reach out to someone I don't even know. I need to find another meeti...	amills4294	4	315	Jun 29, 2012 by Breakingfree
	He came home (Preview) Not sure what to do now? He is here and being sweet, totally a drama king though. He won't eat, is super ancy. Lays down, gets up, lays down, goes and sits on the patio. He is drinking some wine mixed with water. He said that he is trying to taper. I talked to him about moving to sober living. He is receptive. I...	katfshh	4	427	Jun 29, 2012 by Mattie
	get out of myself & live! (Preview) One thing I have been trying to do that worked real well in the past is that I can get out of myself & do something for others. I have been waiting for awhile for answers but I never really got around to listening. I am so glad that my eyes & ears are opening again to new possibilities. I want to find so...	Hoot Nanny	2	408	Jun 29, 2012 by Andrea12
	I'm so hurt, sick, and betrayed. (Preview) I was doing so well. But, I noticed on our phone bill for the last week he calls a number over and over. I checked his voicemail and there was a message from some woman. She was calling him sweetie and telling him she has her kids the next few days but would love to see him. I am just heartbroken. I know he's no...	katfshh	19	822	Jun 28, 2012 by Aloha
	Healing the body... (Preview) Hi all. Had a great F2F mtg tonight. Makes me feel so much better. I am struggling with an issue, and my mtg reminded me of how much ESH is out there. So, after 4.5 yrs of having to deal with my relationship...while it obviously affected my mental, emotional, spiritual health...it appears to have left so...	CDK	5	384	Jun 28, 2012 by Aloha
	What are we really showing our children? (Preview) Those of you who "know me", know that I am very wary of any insinuation of "strong = leave, and weak = stay" posts, or advice for people on the big stay vs. leave decision.... That being said, I offer up the following bit of E,S&H as a healthy reminder to look at things from all si...	canadianguy	13	2530	Jun 28, 2012 by Chaya
	My issue with inaction (Preview) I just realized something about myself. I have a huge problem with inaction! Specifically regarding exercise. I am very rigid on my exercise - if I don't do it in the morning then I will just not do it all day. I will also come up with excuses as to why I don't have enough time in the morning to exercise (...	willowtree	4	577	Jun 28, 2012 by pinkchip
	Always Feel Like I'm Imposing (Preview) I was talking with my sponser today and mentioned the reason I don't like texting/calling people first is I always feel like I'm imposing on them. She told me it is just one part of my sickness that Al-Anon can help me with. I never thought of it as part of my "sickness" but I can see what she mea...	Elizabeth10	9	4382	Jun 28, 2012 by orchidlover
	No kids with him (Preview) Dear community, I just came home from an Al-Anon meeting and found some marks above the burglary alarm box. It looks like it has burned a bit or so. I don't know how these boxes work, but tried to call my ABF, who had studied electrical engineering. I was irritated and scared at first, and when he did not...	Smukke	9	582	Jun 28, 2012 by ilovedogs
	Power (Preview) As an ACOA, I grew up with a very distorted view of personal power. Obviously, I was not allowed to own my own power. I grew up believing I had no power, and what little I did have, I was supposed to give away so that people would love me. That's a messed-up way to think and a messed-up way to live. Even after...	1911A1	7	480	Jun 28, 2012 by 1911A1
	I did it!!! Now I have questions.. (Preview) Last night I attended my first F2F Al Anon meeting. It started at 7:00- AH was supposed to be off work at 4:00, so my plan was to leave the kids with him at home and go. Well, needless to say he didn't come home after work. I found myself getting super angry and the voice in my head telling me that meant I cou...	holivex	8	587	Jun 28, 2012 by Pushka
	Setting Boundaries When They Won't Admit (Preview) I read a lot of posts here about setting boundaries when our A's are drunk. My problem is my A drinks in secret and NEVER admits to drinking. Of course I know when he has been drinking by his behavior but it is difficult for me to set boundaries about his drinking because he denies it. And dare I say to him tha...	surfgirl123	6	1118	Jun 28, 2012 by Oksie
	Question, Do the kids ever appreciate it? (Preview) Occasionally, I hear that "when the kids grow up" they will appreciate that you left/divorced the alcoholic, abusive spouse. Is this really true? Its a lot of work, to make a better life for our families, following the Al-Anon steps, lots of stress involved to make serious life changes su...	oldergal	13	613	Jun 28, 2012 by Oksie
	So mad. Trying to be strong. (Preview) I had surgery yesterday for hand cancer and I need my husband's help with the kids more than ever. My right hand/arm is off limits for the next 2 weeks. Well, he decided to go get a 20 pack of beer today and drink it all. He knows my boundary is that he is to stay in his office when he drinks and so I feel like he is...	leeranger	12	522	Jun 28, 2012 by Breakingfree
	My New Truths (Preview) In working on my recovery, I realize my mindset is my worst enemy, self pity can really take its toll. Here is my new reality: My life is the collective of MY choices, good and bad. I am not a victim. I make a choice every day to stay with my AH, I too can make a choice tomorrow to leave for any reason or no reaso...	surfgirl123	8	482	Jun 28, 2012 by Tigger
	Non-Alcoholic Dating Someone in AA, any advice? (Preview) Hello Everyone. I am writing in this forum because I started dating a guy a few months ago and things were going really well then he started to pull away. I questioned him on this and he ultimately came clean with the fact that he is currently in AA and working on his 12 steps and has been discouraged by his s...	soitgoes13	15	9012	Jun 27, 2012 by flyagain
	New Here, Believe I am Enabling an Addict, and Need Help! (Preview) New here, and some basic facts about me: I come from a family of substance users. My parents, aunts, and uncles all use (or used) drugs and/or alcohol, and with the exception of two family members have kept their use predominantly recreational. My parents could, I suppose, be described as "f...	AliceD	5	535	Jun 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	he is sober, so why I am I still feeling so crummy? (Preview) So...my husband has been sober for over 6 months this time. I still feel crummy and overwhelmed! He is going to meetings every night. I am going to meetings when I can. Once a week for sure. Twice if I can get him to watch the kids. I can not take our 3 kids to the meetings with me (that is a whole different...	supermom	10	656	Jun 27, 2012 by supermom
	Memory Loss??? Will it come back??? (Preview) Always looking for good books to read, I jumped on the one posted a little bit ago about verbally abusive relationships. As I am reading, I am trying to remember all of the arguments or crazymaking that occurred with my AH. I cannot seem to remember all the details, or how it started, or what the end resu...	dragonflys	11	674	Jun 27, 2012 by mags123
	Setting boundaries.. (Preview) I posted for the first time a few weeks ago. My husband was dry for about 8 years and goes on benders, his last one being a few weeks ago where he drank 3 bottles of vodka in 3 days. At that point, he was very remorseful and said he would start going to AA. Of course that didn't happen and he hasn't had anything t...	leeranger	5	881	Jun 27, 2012 by Oksie
	Worried I won't make a connection like that again (Preview) So, what has caused me the most fear in breaking up with my ex in recovery is what I have been most afraid to share. Here goes... When I look back on our relationship there are few times that were really amazing. There just aren't that many good times to remember, except for sex. In all prior relationship...	Chaya	8	400	Jun 27, 2012 by Jerry F
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