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looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

-separated from AH almost 8 weeks ago. During that time he weaned himself off clonazepam (prescription). This was done without doctor supervision, but he survived. He suffered through many side effects inlcuding the angry outburst I described here last week. -He had been on the drug for ten years....

jettiesgirl · jettiesgirl

One of my group of friends recently asked the rest of us to please share any and all experience we have with dealing with a recovering alcoholic. Her husband has just recognized his disease, and is starting his path to recovery. Another of the group, who is a recovering alcoholic, sober for about 30 ye...

smartkat · smartkat

My brother's wife is not only hateful and verbally (and on at least one occasion, physically) abusive with him, she is neglectful with the kids. My mother and I have been stepping in to help with the kids but this only means the mother doesn't have to do what she needs to do. But she won't anyway so, if we...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So, my AH doesn't have a car right know cause he got caught drinking and driving and they took his license plates. So, he started to borrow my car until at some poin it's more like his car. Last night he told me he needed the car and I told him no, but he kept pushing until I said yes, only cause he promised that...

johnm · johnm

For me, my codependency issues progressed until they crossed the line into becoming a crippling anxiety disorder, in my case social anxiety disorder. Once I had developed a full-blown social anxiety problem, I needed additional help. I was fortunate to find a 12 Step program specifically focuse...

smartkat · smartkat

Can we get a discussion going how to detatch and how some people THINK they are detatching when they aren't? Sometimes, I go into apathy-mode when I try to detatch. Others have said they felt like they were slipping into denial when trying to detatch. Any ideas? BTW - the A in my life is my SIL and I never be...

mainemom · mainemom

and am I AWFUL for in some ways...wishing it would? My brother has been binge drinking for almost 6 years now. He had a drug and alcohol problem long before that. The binge drinking has had him in and out of Inpatient rehabs, outpatient programs, sober houses, living in many different places with fam...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family....just peeping. I am on of all things a hotel computer....LOL and just checking in to repeat what RLC relayed from our phone conversation. I do miss you all and we are going thru a mother board melt down...HP and Dell and a teck will get it fixed. Stay in unity...(((((hugs)))))

smartkat · smartkat

My mother and I have provided a lot of babysitting for my SIL while she was at work but now she is off for the summer, so we didn't think she needed us to do that much babysitting this supper. But my SIL takes off to do what ever, saying she will get back in time to take care of her daughter before her husband ha...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Hi All! It's been a while since I've posted. Things are OK here, just living one day at a time. I got a sponsor a few months ago and have met with her every week since then. We are taking the steps slowly and I'm alreayd working Step 3. My problem is that I feel like I'm in a rut. I have no ambition at all to wor...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I'm scared for a million reasons regarding my A but the thought of him hurting me physically is haunts me..... The mental abuse was of course getting "progressively" worse and I know in my heart in due time it was bound to get physical... The day where I had enough of his binge drinking he...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Oh good grief the floodgates have released and I can't stop them, please excuse my stuffed up typing. For the last couple weeks I have felt different but had no idea why. I look at my posts and I notice changes, more freedom in writing about specifics, my regrets, what I would do different. Whether fo...

Sheila46 · Sheila46

So....my A (binge drinker) boyfriend left yesterday without telling me that he was leaving. I found out by seeing that his toothbrush and pills were gone. I had not heard anything from him. His daughter had contacted me because she was unable to reach him. I had refrained from trying to contact h...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

This morning I learned that a friend of mine in AA relapsed. She had almost 3 years of sobriety. I prayed for her family this morning - she has a 4 year old daughter and a husband also in the program. This was really just a reminder to me of how horrible this disease is and how much I hate it. It occurred to...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Sometimes it's still pretty hard for me not to take on other people's moods. I have to really remind myself that just because someone else is grumpy and stressed, I don't need to be grumpy and stressed. I'm still working on this, though - today I had lunch with my husband and started to let his bad mood b...

smartkat · smartkat

(My mother is not computer saavy so I am posting this for her & will give her the results) My SIL got mad at my mother in the parking lot of McDonalds, yelling obsenities. Then when my mother quietly drove away, my SIL got into the car and followed her, bumping her car on purpose when my mother stopped a...

maire rua · maire rua

ex- a is annoying the hell out of me, constantly looking for attention, though it was a handy arrangement for a while, I think my time of putting up with him is done, he is starting to encroach on my boundaries so that is not acceptable. I will deal with it when calm though not while reactive, I find that my s...

scooternooch · scooternooch

Hi everyone. I will make this as short as possible. I have been working w/ my best friend of 32 years in an office setting for the last 2 years. She is the manager, I am the asst manager. it is just the 2 of us most of the time. Our supervisior visits occasionally. My friend has a prescription drug problem. I h...

Hopeless · Hopeless

This is stemming from a previous post of mine... People were trying to explain to me that an A does NOT have choice when it comes down to picking up the bottle... I don't understand this and when it was explained to me I found a lot of contradictions! I see this situation differently I feel they have a...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

I've been thinking about leaving my A fiance seriously for the last five weeks. I feel as though I've been on this sinking ship with him, and he's stuck underneath something, and I'm getting to the point where I have to decide whether to stay with him and go down, or jump off and swim to safety and sanit...

tlcate · tlcate

I haven't been around much the last 30 days or so and have missed my family here. Had a big business trip, buying my first house, and daughter just graduated. All very good things that have taken a lot of my focus. Just do the next right thing! I have been lurking, a lot from my phone, so you are here with m...

Linda Papin · Linda Papin

Hello John, to all my precious friends Thank you John for your invitation, the timing was very good. I am doing well since I posted the last time. It does not mean that life is perfect of course, it means that my coping skills have become better. I am still working on them and as long as I live, I am learni...

kablisnow · kablisnow

today i started to work towards my recovery. my husband entered rehab 4 days ago and I have really wanted to focus on getting better myself. so far i love the book and i have already learned so much. thnx to everyone who recommended it.

Tracy · Tracy

Hi Everyone, my A had a little slip about a week ago he bought 8 cans of beer and drank one. Spent all night in the flat alone fighting the urge to drink his AA head will no longer let him try and escape through drink. He was honest with me and his sponsor. I told him I needed a break. I had said after the last...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have been much better since my "crisis again" post I started here a few days ago. I think the reality is catching up with me. Me and my alcoholic ex/girlfriend used to talk on Skype in the past and sometimes chat. Today I opened Skype and looked at some of our old conversations. I was sh...

Sheila46 · Sheila46

I have posted here a couple of times in the past. My A boyfriend is a binge drinker. I travel frequently for work and that is when he tends to drink the majority of the time. The past 6 months I have been dealing with my adult daughter making some bad choices. She has a tendency to get angry and threatens...

Courage · Courage

Opening with the Serenity Prayer AM Mon. - Shimo Tues. - Doxie Wed. - Iona Thurs. - Doxie Fri. - Blendergirl Sat. - Mandy123 Sun. Spiritual - aunitedway PM Mon. - aunitedway Tues. - kerisha Wed. - kerisha Thurs. Step/Trad - courage Fri. - aunitedway Sat. Beginners - courage Sun...

nigel3 · nigel3

**Dear moderators: This thread has been posted with John's permission. If you have any questions, please contact John. Thanks! :)** Hello everyone, and thank you for reading this post. Many thanks also to those of you who have responded with messages of support and/or donated to my cause! My name is...

kerry5 · kerry5

Would appriciate someone chairing Sunday i wont be able to make it Thanks Kerry

Holly09 · Holly09

My a boyfriend and I got into a huge fight that started over my 15yr old son being diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder and the fact that my boyfriend (not my son's real dad) doesn't believe it exists so I feel he gives me no support that is how are fight started, it ended up with him once again tel...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family)))), Just wanted to wish you all a HAPPY NATIONAL DONUT DAY! WOOHOO! I did not know this until I decided to treat myself this morning to a cup of coffee & a donut while I ran errands. I walked into the donut Shop and they gave me a free one. I asked them what was the occasion and they said it w...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have been writing here earlier about my ex-girlfriend who is in recovery and how we have had no contact. Today she phoned me and was absolutely out of it. She had been doing well in most of her life except from with money. I went over to her to help her out with her finances and see where she had gone wron...

Ness · Ness

I heard the news today that my son has been given a deferred sentence. His solicitor and the judge believe he is sick not bad. Alcoholics are so often treated as the lowest of the low and the disease so misunderstood that I was prepared to hear the worst.I wasn''t invited to join the melee which shows me t...

kablisnow · kablisnow

Im scared and lonely. In alot of ways I think that my "A" has become my addiction. I would call constantly to make sure he was ok. I saw a post on here where someone said you cant " love it out of them ". Thats exactly what I have tried to do over the years, that and " Yell it out of him...

Independence76 · Independence76

Tonight I'm just really really tired. My A has been "sober" for 60 days but tonight I found a receipt (I was not snooping, it was on the coffee table and I was cleaning) for the day after his 60th day. He's been really nasty to me lately, he's not working, and now this. I saw the receipt and to...

RLC · RLC

To All MIP Members: As some of you might have noticed Jerry F has not posted on MIP in almost a week. I'll be honest I was getting a little concerned. I just received a phone call from him explaining that he had computer problems and it could be another week before the problem can be corrected. He wanted me t...

maresie · maresie

I had to go to the emergency room over the holiday for an infection that just came up out of nowhere. I went alone and I didn't actually find it that stressful. During my relationship with the ex A I had to go to the emergency room twice. Both times he absolutely did not want to go and I delayed going becaus...

Jozie · Jozie

Hello MIP Family :) Sorry been Gone awhile... Wish I could add Some excuse here but there really isn't one, just not on as much I suppose... Change in the weather finally got warm enough for me to move around, but it also left me Wide Open, to resort back to old ways... I Sooo can't wait to get to a FTF This Sun...

AGO · AGO

Are the result of unhealthy situations... Whether they were in our childhood or later in life, I have found if I am behaving in an unhealthy way I need to address that, but I also need to address the situation I am in. As I was going through life many years into my recovery I noticed that around healthy peop...

Aloha · Aloha

I'm realizing more and more that although I may have gotten rid of the proverbial "monkey" on my back in relation to asking for a divorce from my AH, I still get to apply the Al-Anon program in so many aspects of my life. I know when we've gone our separate ways and we're no longer living togethe...

maresie · maresie

I tend to view anything an alcoholic/addict does as a direct affront to me. The ex A's spiral downward was very very hard for me to deal with and still can find me in a froth of resentment, rage and astonishment. i can stay there for a long time and never get back to the business of moving on with my life. F...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

THANKS TO ALL WHO POSTED ABOUT MY BR! THERE IS MORE TO IT THAN I AM SHARING--I HAVE MORE TRUST ISSUES. I GUESS SOME THINGS ARE BETTER LEFT UNSAID! I CAN SEE THAT A LOT OF US SUFFER WHEN WE DON'T NEED TO. I PERSONALLY HAVE SUFFERED PHYSICALLY & MENTALLY FOR SO MANY YEARS THAT THE THOUGHT OF TAKING CARE OF...

aredhead · aredhead

I found out last week that my ah slept with a co-worker. A woman that I had invited into my home. Things have been bad between us for so long, but I never thought this would happen. He kept saying he would stop drinking. I am devastated, but the only shred of hope i had was that he had hit bottom. I was wro...

buick23 · buick23

So 2 days getting along fine. Today he's upset about who knows what and took it out on me. So I left the house for a while. My daugther told me he 'must be on his period'. What a great way to see it I'm not worried about it. He does do strange things when he's mad. Got mad about pizza so he turns the ac all the way do...

kheopsledaron · kheopsledaron

I haven't even looked at a single post here, I don't really know what this site is like. I just hope I can share stuff here that I've never told anyone and that maybe someone will understand. I don't fucken know..... So voila. I'm in my early 30s, I'm an ex opiate addict. I met a younger man who saved me f...

kamel2010 · kamel2010

Hello! I am not sure if this is the right place to post, but I am really concerned about my husband's drinking and need advice. For the last 3 years or so, my husband has become more of a drinker. I am not sure he is an alcoholic yet, (doesn't have the physical need) but he hides drinking from me, drinks more a...

Sangyaa · Sangyaa

Hi, My boyfriend got serious about recovery a few months ago (he has a big heroin problem, along with alcoholism when he isn't using H). He was going to daily meetings, only hanging out with sober people, had a great sponsor, and was on a suboxone maintenance program. He was also on prozac for depressio...

lyndebi · lyndebi

When my AH was wooing me, then we married, all we went thru with his brain surgery, my mothers cancer and death,I would never imagined I would be taking back my other name. I take in the last papers today. June 15, 10, the judge signs them. We were only married a small time, however we loved each other and we...

20sadyrs · 20sadyrs

I'm not even sure I've ever posted here, but have read and lurked off and on for a long time. At least let me say thanks for you guys, and for all the support here! So, here I am, and I feel like I'm reaching the breaking point in my marriage again. I've done a few months of Celebrate Recovery at church and al...

dimples · dimples

Hi guys. I will try to keep this brief and to the point. I do have a tendency to waffle. Last night I finally came to my senses and stopped denying the obvious. My partner has a drink problem and it is affecting my life as much as his. He was supposed to do the grocery shopping yesterday, but spent 5 hours and h...

peacewithin · peacewithin

I just wish I felt the peace within its been a long time with that too. I just have to get some things off my chest on here that has been keeping me up tonight. I feel like I'm weakened by the dreadfull sickness. I been married 32 yrs. That was normal when we meet coz I lived it . We always put our money together t...

Hopeless · Hopeless

Just found out from a trusted mutual friend that my A has been drinking = ( Mind you he brags to me how he hasn't had a drink in 42 days, which in his eyes means, "the program isn't for him, he can do it on his own".... I can't say I'm surprised but it still hurts none the less... This diease rea...

buick23 · buick23

So yesterday we both decided to stop arguing. We agreed we needed to get along if we are going to make this work. It was so easy to stop arguing and have been doing fine so far. We even had some small talk and finally had dinner together again. It feels so good. buick

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), As I listened to the sad news last night that the top kill method failed to stop the oil leak I couldn't help thinking about our MIP family members who live in that area. There are several that will be directly affected by this disaster, not to mention the ones who have yet to find their w...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Today I bought myself new dishes. Last time I bought new dishes was to give myself a boost of pretty cupboards after one of my xAH's relapses. I know it was an odd thing to do but as we all know, you do what you need to. Anyway today I noticed that as much as I like my dishes every time I use them that nagging lit...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone one, I feel good. been down for couple of days but my slips do not seem to be lasting as long My A is of trying to fight the illness he had a slip 3 of days ago. He was very honest with me his sponsor rang and told me , he had been honest with his sponsor too. When my ABF did ring I told him I needed a bre...

Gailey · Gailey

I find myself not being able to stay in the moment. I keep waiting for things to change before I can be happy. I know that goes against all the teachings of Alanon. I cannot give up the "what ifs". What if he never gets sober? What if he never moves away from me? What if he doesn't pay his child sup...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi Everyone, I have not possed for abit been reading posts though. My ABf went into Aa a year ago. He was sober for 6 months he has been slipping on off for past 6 months always goes back to AA. A month ago had a bad slip for 3 weeks. Lost his best friend stole 15,00 from him. His kids turned their backs and I...

maire rua · maire rua

On friday after trusting my gut 100%, - first time ever I might add, I set off for an event in which I have invested a lot of time. My brother was supposed to come with me, but it all started to unravel last week, when I tried to firm up arrangements. He told me it was a long time off yet and that we would make arra...

barisax · barisax

I try to mostly work on my own honesty, and not obsess over others - i.e., is this person being honest or not. I found that in working with alcoholics, it's not really all that important to try and guess at everything they say and decide if it's true or not. The message is the same, my duty to pass on my expe...

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	Questions for those with experience...(long) (Preview) -separated from AH almost 8 weeks ago. During that time he weaned himself off clonazepam (prescription). This was done without doctor supervision, but he survived. He suffered through many side effects inlcuding the angry outburst I described here last week. -He had been on the drug for ten years....	looking_for_peace	7	1183	Jun 9, 2010 by maresie
	This is Brilliant! (closed) (Preview) One of my group of friends recently asked the rest of us to please share any and all experience we have with dealing with a recovering alcoholic. Her husband has just recognized his disease, and is starting his path to recovery. Another of the group, who is a recovering alcoholic, sober for about 30 ye...	jettiesgirl	5	760	Jun 9, 2010 by maresie
	How to respond to someone who chooses to stay in a very bad relationship? (Preview) My brother's wife is not only hateful and verbally (and on at least one occasion, physically) abusive with him, she is neglectful with the kids. My mother and I have been stepping in to help with the kids but this only means the mother doesn't have to do what she needs to do. But she won't anyway so, if we...	smartkat	11	913	Jun 9, 2010 by sirpher
	Shame on me (Preview) So, my AH doesn't have a car right know cause he got caught drinking and driving and they took his license plates. So, he started to borrow my car until at some poin it's more like his car. Last night he told me he needed the car and I told him no, but he kept pushing until I said yes, only cause he promised that...	Priscilla83	8	951	Jun 9, 2010 by Priscilla83
	Codependency and Social Anxiety Disorder codependency social anxiety disorder 12 step program (Preview) For me, my codependency issues progressed until they crossed the line into becoming a crippling anxiety disorder, in my case social anxiety disorder. Once I had developed a full-blown social anxiety problem, I needed additional help. I was fortunate to find a 12 Step program specifically focuse...	johnm	2	10247	Jun 9, 2010 by tlcate
	Detatchment vs not caring - and other confusions (Preview) Can we get a discussion going how to detatch and how some people THINK they are detatching when they aren't? Sometimes, I go into apathy-mode when I try to detatch. Others have said they felt like they were slipping into denial when trying to detatch. Any ideas? BTW - the A in my life is my SIL and I never be...	smartkat	17	1566	Jun 8, 2010 by GailMichelle
	When will it end? (Preview) and am I AWFUL for in some ways...wishing it would? My brother has been binge drinking for almost 6 years now. He had a drug and alcohol problem long before that. The binge drinking has had him in and out of Inpatient rehabs, outpatient programs, sober houses, living in many different places with fam...	mainemom	4	1236	Jun 8, 2010 by Bettina
	Peeping.... (Preview) Aloha Family....just peeping. I am on of all things a hotel computer....LOL and just checking in to repeat what RLC relayed from our phone conversation. I do miss you all and we are going thru a mother board melt down...HP and Dell and a teck will get it fixed. Stay in unity...(((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	4	951	Jun 8, 2010 by Priscilla83
	What to do about a mother who won't take care of her own child? mother child children neglect (Preview) My mother and I have provided a lot of babysitting for my SIL while she was at work but now she is off for the summer, so we didn't think she needed us to do that much babysitting this supper. But my SIL takes off to do what ever, saying she will get back in time to take care of her daughter before her husband ha...	smartkat	2	9769	Jun 8, 2010 by Mobirdie
	In a Rut (Preview) Hi All! It's been a while since I've posted. Things are OK here, just living one day at a time. I got a sponsor a few months ago and have met with her every week since then. We are taking the steps slowly and I'm alreayd working Step 3. My problem is that I feel like I'm in a rut. I have no ambition at all to wor...	N8SMOM	5	621	Jun 8, 2010 by Karilynn
	Scared... (Preview) I'm scared for a million reasons regarding my A but the thought of him hurting me physically is haunts me..... The mental abuse was of course getting "progressively" worse and I know in my heart in due time it was bound to get physical... The day where I had enough of his binge drinking he...	Hopeless	21	995	Jun 8, 2010 by Hopeless
	Egads, what step is this? (Preview) Oh good grief the floodgates have released and I can't stop them, please excuse my stuffed up typing. For the last couple weeks I have felt different but had no idea why. I look at my posts and I notice changes, more freedom in writing about specifics, my regrets, what I would do different. Whether fo...	Jennifer	1	558	Jun 8, 2010 by Karilynn
	Be Careful What You Wish for... (Preview) So....my A (binge drinker) boyfriend left yesterday without telling me that he was leaving. I found out by seeing that his toothbrush and pills were gone. I had not heard anything from him. His daughter had contacted me because she was unable to reach him. I had refrained from trying to contact h...	Sheila46	9	738	Jun 7, 2010 by Bettina
	On my mind today (Preview) This morning I learned that a friend of mine in AA relapsed. She had almost 3 years of sobriety. I prayed for her family this morning - she has a 4 year old daughter and a husband also in the program. This was really just a reminder to me of how horrible this disease is and how much I hate it. It occurred to...	White Rabbit	4	853	Jun 7, 2010 by Bettina
	Takin' on other people's moods (Preview) Sometimes it's still pretty hard for me not to take on other people's moods. I have to really remind myself that just because someone else is grumpy and stressed, I don't need to be grumpy and stressed. I'm still working on this, though - today I had lunch with my husband and started to let his bad mood b...	White Rabbit	2	848	Jun 7, 2010 by hotrod
	When to press charges? charges verbal abuse (Preview) (My mother is not computer saavy so I am posting this for her & will give her the results) My SIL got mad at my mother in the parking lot of McDonalds, yelling obsenities. Then when my mother quietly drove away, my SIL got into the car and followed her, bumping her car on purpose when my mother stopped a...	smartkat	5	3378	Jun 7, 2010 by Jennifer
	sick and tired of ex-a (Preview) ex- a is annoying the hell out of me, constantly looking for attention, though it was a handy arrangement for a while, I think my time of putting up with him is done, he is starting to encroach on my boundaries so that is not acceptable. I will deal with it when calm though not while reactive, I find that my s...	maire rua	2	675	Jun 7, 2010 by maresie
	new here, need advise (Preview) Hi everyone. I will make this as short as possible. I have been working w/ my best friend of 32 years in an office setting for the last 2 years. She is the manager, I am the asst manager. it is just the 2 of us most of the time. Our supervisior visits occasionally. My friend has a prescription drug problem. I h...	scooternooch	6	1022	Jun 7, 2010 by c1grace
	The Power Of Choice.. (Preview) This is stemming from a previous post of mine... People were trying to explain to me that an A does NOT have choice when it comes down to picking up the bottle... I don't understand this and when it was explained to me I found a lot of contradictions! I see this situation differently I feel they have a...	Hopeless	9	783	Jun 7, 2010 by Hopeless
	Planning to leave but need help figuring some things out (Preview) I've been thinking about leaving my A fiance seriously for the last five weeks. I feel as though I've been on this sinking ship with him, and he's stuck underneath something, and I'm getting to the point where I have to decide whether to stay with him and go down, or jump off and swim to safety and sanit...	zhotdogs99	6	971	Jun 7, 2010 by DT1221
	Proud Momma (Preview) I haven't been around much the last 30 days or so and have missed my family here. Had a big business trip, buying my first house, and daughter just graduated. All very good things that have taken a lot of my focus. Just do the next right thing! I have been lurking, a lot from my phone, so you are here with m...	tlcate	6	845	Jun 7, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	I am grateful, more than ever!! (Preview) Hello John, to all my precious friends Thank you John for your invitation, the timing was very good. I am doing well since I posted the last time. It does not mean that life is perfect of course, it means that my coping skills have become better. I am still working on them and as long as I live, I am learni...	Linda Papin	0	468	Jun 7, 2010 by Linda Papin
	Bought the book " getting them sober " today (Preview) today i started to work towards my recovery. my husband entered rehab 4 days ago and I have really wanted to focus on getting better myself. so far i love the book and i have already learned so much. thnx to everyone who recommended it.	kablisnow	3	761	Jun 7, 2010 by afglin
	It's Me (Preview) Hi Everyone, my A had a little slip about a week ago he bought 8 cans of beer and drank one. Spent all night in the flat alone fighting the urge to drink his AA head will no longer let him try and escape through drink. He was honest with me and his sponsor. I told him I needed a break. I had said after the last...	Tracy	2	662	Jun 7, 2010 by afglin
	New evidence from the past (Preview) Hi I have been much better since my "crisis again" post I started here a few days ago. I think the reality is catching up with me. Me and my alcoholic ex/girlfriend used to talk on Skype in the past and sometimes chat. Today I opened Skype and looked at some of our old conversations. I was sh...	Cosmos	6	922	Jun 6, 2010 by sdisnie
	Here we go again..... (Preview) I have posted here a couple of times in the past. My A boyfriend is a binge drinker. I travel frequently for work and that is when he tends to drink the majority of the time. The past 6 months I have been dealing with my adult daughter making some bad choices. She has a tendency to get angry and threatens...	Sheila46	8	936	Jun 6, 2010 by JimmyX
	June Chat Room Business Meeting Agenda (Preview) Opening with the Serenity Prayer AM Mon. - Shimo Tues. - Doxie Wed. - Iona Thurs. - Doxie Fri. - Blendergirl Sat. - Mandy123 Sun. Spiritual - aunitedway PM Mon. - aunitedway Tues. - kerisha Wed. - kerisha Thurs. Step/Trad - courage Fri. - aunitedway Sat. Beginners - courage Sun...	Courage	0	485	Jun 6, 2010 by Courage
	Kindness of stranger update (Preview) Dear moderators: This thread has been posted with John's permission. If you have any questions, please contact John. Thanks! :) Hello everyone, and thank you for reading this post. Many thanks also to those of you who have responded with messages of support and/or donated to my cause! My name is...	nigel3	3	842	Jun 5, 2010 by nigel3
	Need Chair for Sunday &7pm meeting June 6th 2010 (Preview) Would appriciate someone chairing Sunday i wont be able to make it Thanks Kerry	kerry5	0	302	Jun 5, 2010 by kerry5
	what a horrible day today has been (Preview) My a boyfriend and I got into a huge fight that started over my 15yr old son being diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder and the fact that my boyfriend (not my son's real dad) doesn't believe it exists so I feel he gives me no support that is how are fight started, it ended up with him once again tel...	Holly09	6	796	Jun 5, 2010 by Holly09
	National Donut Day! (Preview) (((((Family)))), Just wanted to wish you all a HAPPY NATIONAL DONUT DAY! WOOHOO! I did not know this until I decided to treat myself this morning to a cup of coffee & a donut while I ran errands. I walked into the donut Shop and they gave me a free one. I asked them what was the occasion and they said it w...	Karilynn	4	622	Jun 5, 2010 by White Rabbit
	Crisis again (Preview) Hi I have been writing here earlier about my ex-girlfriend who is in recovery and how we have had no contact. Today she phoned me and was absolutely out of it. She had been doing well in most of her life except from with money. I went over to her to help her out with her finances and see where she had gone wron...	Cosmos	25	1492	Jun 5, 2010 by Cosmos
	Jail v courage to change (Preview) I heard the news today that my son has been given a deferred sentence. His solicitor and the judge believe he is sick not bad. Alcoholics are so often treated as the lowest of the low and the disease so misunderstood that I was prepared to hear the worst.I wasn''t invited to join the melee which shows me t...	Ness	8	713	Jun 5, 2010 by Karilynn
	New to site and my "A" just entered rehab 2 days ago (Preview) Im scared and lonely. In alot of ways I think that my "A" has become my addiction. I would call constantly to make sure he was ok. I saw a post on here where someone said you cant " love it out of them ". Thats exactly what I have tried to do over the years, that and " Yell it out of him...	kablisnow	7	907	Jun 5, 2010 by FreeToBMe
	Really Really tired (Preview) Tonight I'm just really really tired. My A has been "sober" for 60 days but tonight I found a receipt (I was not snooping, it was on the coffee table and I was cleaning) for the day after his 60th day. He's been really nasty to me lately, he's not working, and now this. I saw the receipt and to...	Independence76	8	628	Jun 4, 2010 by Independence76
	News From Jerry F (Preview) To All MIP Members: As some of you might have noticed Jerry F has not posted on MIP in almost a week. I'll be honest I was getting a little concerned. I just received a phone call from him explaining that he had computer problems and it could be another week before the problem can be corrected. He wanted me t...	RLC	18	977	Jun 4, 2010 by Christy
	the need to be right (Preview) I had to go to the emergency room over the holiday for an infection that just came up out of nowhere. I went alone and I didn't actually find it that stressful. During my relationship with the ex A I had to go to the emergency room twice. Both times he absolutely did not want to go and I delayed going becaus...	maresie	11	1073	Jun 4, 2010 by JanieB
	Priorities verses Time verse Ticked (Preview) Hello MIP Family :) Sorry been Gone awhile... Wish I could add Some excuse here but there really isn't one, just not on as much I suppose... Change in the weather finally got warm enough for me to move around, but it also left me Wide Open, to resort back to old ways... I Sooo can't wait to get to a FTF This Sun...	Jozie	2	1084	Jun 4, 2010 by hotrod
	Unhealthy Behaviors (Preview) Are the result of unhealthy situations... Whether they were in our childhood or later in life, I have found if I am behaving in an unhealthy way I need to address that, but I also need to address the situation I am in. As I was going through life many years into my recovery I noticed that around healthy peop...	AGO	4	954	Jun 4, 2010 by JanieB
	Working the program "in all our affairs" (Preview) I'm realizing more and more that although I may have gotten rid of the proverbial "monkey" on my back in relation to asking for a divorce from my AH, I still get to apply the Al-Anon program in so many aspects of my life. I know when we've gone our separate ways and we're no longer living togethe...	Aloha	2	1874	Jun 4, 2010 by JanieB
	hitting bottom. (Preview) I tend to view anything an alcoholic/addict does as a direct affront to me. The ex A's spiral downward was very very hard for me to deal with and still can find me in a froth of resentment, rage and astonishment. i can stay there for a long time and never get back to the business of moving on with my life. F...	maresie	6	1256	Jun 4, 2010 by Ness
	I FEEL BETTER! (Preview) THANKS TO ALL WHO POSTED ABOUT MY BR! THERE IS MORE TO IT THAN I AM SHARING--I HAVE MORE TRUST ISSUES. I GUESS SOME THINGS ARE BETTER LEFT UNSAID! I CAN SEE THAT A LOT OF US SUFFER WHEN WE DON'T NEED TO. I PERSONALLY HAVE SUFFERED PHYSICALLY & MENTALLY FOR SO MANY YEARS THAT THE THOUGHT OF TAKING CARE OF...	Hoot Nanny	1	630	Jun 4, 2010 by Karilynn
	I thought it was hitting bottom (Preview) I found out last week that my ah slept with a co-worker. A woman that I had invited into my home. Things have been bad between us for so long, but I never thought this would happen. He kept saying he would stop drinking. I am devastated, but the only shred of hope i had was that he had hit bottom. I was wro...	aredhead	8	650	Jun 4, 2010 by tlcate
	made it 2 days (Preview) So 2 days getting along fine. Today he's upset about who knows what and took it out on me. So I left the house for a while. My daugther told me he 'must be on his period'. What a great way to see it I'm not worried about it. He does do strange things when he's mad. Got mad about pizza so he turns the ac all the way do...	buick23	5	703	Jun 4, 2010 by pineapple
	Feeling desperate, stupid and hopeless (Preview) I haven't even looked at a single post here, I don't really know what this site is like. I just hope I can share stuff here that I've never told anyone and that maybe someone will understand. I don't fucken know..... So voila. I'm in my early 30s, I'm an ex opiate addict. I met a younger man who saved me f...	kheopsledaron	2	2924	Jun 3, 2010 by hotrod
	New here..need advice (Preview) Hello! I am not sure if this is the right place to post, but I am really concerned about my husband's drinking and need advice. For the last 3 years or so, my husband has become more of a drinker. I am not sure he is an alcoholic yet, (doesn't have the physical need) but he hides drinking from me, drinks more a...	kamel2010	7	866	Jun 3, 2010 by kablisnow
	To confront, or not to confront? (Preview) Hi, My boyfriend got serious about recovery a few months ago (he has a big heroin problem, along with alcoholism when he isn't using H). He was going to daily meetings, only hanging out with sober people, had a great sponsor, and was on a suboxone maintenance program. He was also on prozac for depressio...	Sangyaa	3	908	Jun 3, 2010 by soxfan
	almost final (Preview) When my AH was wooing me, then we married, all we went thru with his brain surgery, my mothers cancer and death,I would never imagined I would be taking back my other name. I take in the last papers today. June 15, 10, the judge signs them. We were only married a small time, however we loved each other and we...	lyndebi	6	711	Jun 3, 2010 by maresie
	Back after a couple years (Preview) I'm not even sure I've ever posted here, but have read and lurked off and on for a long time. At least let me say thanks for you guys, and for all the support here! So, here I am, and I feel like I'm reaching the breaking point in my marriage again. I've done a few months of Celebrate Recovery at church and al...	20sadyrs	5	1102	Jun 3, 2010 by maresie
	Time to wake up and smell the alcohol (Preview) Hi guys. I will try to keep this brief and to the point. I do have a tendency to waffle. Last night I finally came to my senses and stopped denying the obvious. My partner has a drink problem and it is affecting my life as much as his. He was supposed to do the grocery shopping yesterday, but spent 5 hours and h...	dimples	4	576	Jun 3, 2010 by dimples
	Been a loooong time for me comming here (Preview) I just wish I felt the peace within its been a long time with that too. I just have to get some things off my chest on here that has been keeping me up tonight. I feel like I'm weakened by the dreadfull sickness. I been married 32 yrs. That was normal when we meet coz I lived it . We always put our money together t...	peacewithin	3	702	Jun 3, 2010 by maresie
	Blah = ( (Preview) Just found out from a trusted mutual friend that my A has been drinking = ( Mind you he brags to me how he hasn't had a drink in 42 days, which in his eyes means, "the program isn't for him, he can do it on his own".... I can't say I'm surprised but it still hurts none the less... This diease rea...	Hopeless	16	1257	Jun 3, 2010 by tlcate
	getting along again (Preview) So yesterday we both decided to stop arguing. We agreed we needed to get along if we are going to make this work. It was so easy to stop arguing and have been doing fine so far. We even had some small talk and finally had dinner together again. It feels so good. buick	buick23	4	607	Jun 3, 2010 by buick23
	Prayers for our MIP family members in the Gulf (Preview) ((((Family))), As I listened to the sad news last night that the top kill method failed to stop the oil leak I couldn't help thinking about our MIP family members who live in that area. There are several that will be directly affected by this disaster, not to mention the ones who have yet to find their w...	Karilynn	2	670	Jun 3, 2010 by Rita G
	New dishes (Preview) Today I bought myself new dishes. Last time I bought new dishes was to give myself a boost of pretty cupboards after one of my xAH's relapses. I know it was an odd thing to do but as we all know, you do what you need to. Anyway today I noticed that as much as I like my dishes every time I use them that nagging lit...	Jennifer	8	885	Jun 2, 2010 by Jennifer
	must be improving (Preview) Hi everyone one, I feel good. been down for couple of days but my slips do not seem to be lasting as long My A is of trying to fight the illness he had a slip 3 of days ago. He was very honest with me his sponsor rang and told me , he had been honest with his sponsor too. When my ABF did ring I told him I needed a bre...	Tracy	2	515	Jun 2, 2010 by Mandy123
	still living for the future (Preview) I find myself not being able to stay in the moment. I keep waiting for things to change before I can be happy. I know that goes against all the teachings of Alanon. I cannot give up the "what ifs". What if he never gets sober? What if he never moves away from me? What if he doesn't pay his child sup...	Gailey	7	821	Jun 2, 2010 by maresie
	I don't like reality (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have not possed for abit been reading posts though. My ABf went into Aa a year ago. He was sober for 6 months he has been slipping on off for past 6 months always goes back to AA. A month ago had a bad slip for 3 weeks. Lost his best friend stole 15,00 from him. His kids turned their backs and I...	Tracy	5	825	Jun 2, 2010 by maresie
	My A-Family - totally unreliable (Preview) On friday after trusting my gut 100%, - first time ever I might add, I set off for an event in which I have invested a lot of time. My brother was supposed to come with me, but it all started to unravel last week, when I tried to firm up arrangements. He told me it was a long time off yet and that we would make arra...	maire rua	5	815	Jun 2, 2010 by idontknow
	Honesty (Preview) I try to mostly work on my own honesty, and not obsess over others - i.e., is this person being honest or not. I found that in working with alcoholics, it's not really all that important to try and guess at everything they say and decide if it's true or not. The message is the same, my duty to pass on my expe...	barisax	10	1099	Jun 2, 2010 by Rita G
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