Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

I saw the writing on the wall today as clearly as if it were printed out for me. I posted on Thursday about detoxing with beer available as a back up to avoid beng thrown into seizures again. It has worked pretty well but I didn't close my eyes at all last night because he was sweating and twitching all night...

Bevome · Bevome

My husband has been heavy drinker/ alcoholic for many years. He is in complete denial about drinking and failing health. Symptoms are: Petchiae Swelling ankles fingers Nosebleeds Impotence no sex drive Gynomastia (mild) Trembling hands esp. Morning before drinking Dark skin Jaundic...

HoofnIt · HoofnIt

Last monday and tuesday my BF went on a non stop drinking benge with whisky. It got so bad that she got in my face with his nose touching mine. when i didnt move or back down that just pissed him off. If i dont yell or get up set he gets mad....i really dont understand. There is now a huge dent in the hood of my tr...

Oksie · Oksie

Hi guys Some of you may remember... last October I was given a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder. I was seeking help and when I looked into this... boy did it fit... I just sat and nodded till my head nearly dropped off. It felt like someone had been following me around my whole life. I was re...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

I have read for many years. Posted several times. Read everything I could get my hands on. I know that you will all tell me I need to find a meeting. I've tried those, at the time they didn't work for me. But I KNOW that is what I need. I am one of those people that has a hard time telling My A/BF "No" H...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Been waiting for some kind of sign when it is time to get on here again. I was feeling a little left out of the loop for a few days. I felt like I wasn't being heard on here. Why did I feel this way? Maybe it is because I am not having a crisis or that I am boring. I hope that someone sees where I am coming from. I don'...

jitsuka · jitsuka

Went out last night after work for a few drinks with work colleagues - we have a visitor to our workplace from an overseas collaborator who has been here for 2 months and is going back tomorrow. Anyway I let my partner know by phone I was going out after work (she is the A in my life), I was probably a bit unrea...

nyc018 · nyc018

Today I spoke to my AH (we're separated) who is almost 1 year sober. To make a long story short, last year at this time we had just separated, he was drinking himself into insanity an on the verge of losing his job due to it. Anyway he's been in the program all year and trying to get his life back. One of the une...

Nick · Nick

Hello, My name is Nick. Im from Tempe AZ. heres my story.. I met my girlfriend about two years ago and fell head over heels for her. We started dating and I discovered she was using pain meds daily. I was drinking and I would do the pills with her for about three months. The time came for me to drop the pill thi...

CDK · CDK

So, I just had a coworker that I havent seen in a long time ask me what I was doing here. I was like huh? What do you mean? He asked why arent you in Texas? I said, "Why would I be in Texas?" He said "U and he arent together anymore?"....So, I guess exA has moved to texas. I think I turned se...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

Yep, another relapse. It went really well on my end. Short version is that I *know* instantly when he has been drinking no matter how much he has had. There is a certain behavior he exhibits that's subtle but noticable to me. He of course lied a lot and I was very quiet through the lying, I saw it more as...

Pushka · Pushka

It's been so nice being out here and so very relaxing for the most part. There has been drama at home as I've mentioned before however really nothing I can do about it right now. It's been handled as much as it can be and I'm really trying not to focus on it. It's easier said than done right now. We head ho...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I copied and pasted from my journal, FYI: We had a 3 hour long conversation and some went well, some went badly. He said he felt so much better because we were talking but I felt crappy at times because he over exaggerates things and gets out of control. There was one point in the conversation where I to...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Love...You family are the very bestest and just barge into my heart and romp around having fun. You've left me with smiles and laughter and great good feelings oh and yes still the two ducks. You are my most favorite family and all of your experiences with ducks give me great confidence that I ship th...

WORNOUTMOM · WORNOUTMOM

I have been here reading for a few days and it is such a wonderful feeling to know that I am not alone and that there is support!! I am new here and will try to quickly fill you all in on what has led me here. I actually deal with 2 A's daily. First there is my Abf, who drinks every day. He is very high functio...

almostgivenup · almostgivenup

I went to my first al anon meeting last Thursday. The next day, he picked a fight with me and started drinking as soon as he got up saying it was because of me. I went to spend the weekend with a relative, just couldn't watch him drink anymore. I had started posting on this site 2 days before that but I dele...

Jozie · Jozie

Well... Thank You All for Your Thoughts, Understaning, Prayers & ESH... I Am Truly Grateful for ALL of It... I have been doing some Much Needed Soul Searchin Here of Late & Seem to have Figured a Few things Out, and One of My Biggest Problems since Returning Home from Vacation is "Balance...

Country Boy · Country Boy

I went to my home meeting last night & I always felt safe & comfortable but it was different last night. As I sat down, I could FEEL the love in the room, like it was just for me but everyone was sharing it with each other. It was very powerful. As I understand the program more & more I find myself...

usedtobeanyer · usedtobeanyer

My wife's parents are visiting us for the weekend. The last time we saw them was this past Easter, and that was also, as far as I know, the last time that my wife wasn't sober. She had helped herself to some of her mom's pain pills and wound up abusing those for a few days. It was a bad situation but she has come...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

He. Quit. His. Job. Now, he was working for someone that is just a horrible person... and THIS time it wasn't because of drinking... but still. I'm so frustrated right now. -- Edited by ELEKTRAWMN on Friday 3rd of August 2012 01:18:50 PM

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

The ER wouldn't keep my husband last night because he wasn't actively in withdrawl symptoms. They did blood work and nothing was out of whack so they sent him home with a prescription for Ativan. I am worried because his last 2 detoxes were extremely rough. The ativan is being refilled right now but a f...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Over the years I have seen and heard many incidents of health professional bashing over addiction and it really bothers me. I completely understand the need sometimes to place blame somewhere besides our As or ourselves but what can really be expected from another human who is just as powerless as I a...

LCarroll · LCarroll

i have a wondefull boyfriend ,everyone says it . but he is an alcoholic ,he loves me by day ,and hates me by night , he refuses to get help .and i know i cant force it on him .he would rather i leave ,then get help . he has said this to me .he is ok with his life .tonight i had to peel his shoes off ,and put him to bed . a...

Katy · Katy

So today I am off work, I have a wedding reception to attend tonight,and one of my closest friends has the most gorguss tanned skin, she owns and works on a market stall outside,I tell people it is a fake tan so my brother inlaw and sister try and rub it off her and say wow thats a good one lol, so she has bought...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Help Debber Help!! ...Okay any of you old timers figure out what comes next and what I have just done? Two little Duckies or Duckers or Duckareenos or whatever...fell out of a tree at the hotel I do work for. This has happend not too long ago also and those little ones were absconded by cats and mongooses...

katfshh · katfshh

I am having moments of weakness today and tonight. In my mind, I keep flashing memories of the good times. We reconciled after 27 years, he was sober. We were in love. We got engaged in Feb 2011. We went to Kauai last May, it was such a romantic and fun time together. I hate that I have these happy memori...

nmike · nmike

Dear MIP Alanon Friends. I have been offered a job in another state. I am in the process of moving. I have been here 24 years and raised my sons here. My AHsober moved out seven years ago after 30 years of marriage. He demanded a divorce but never filed. We tried counseling but the end result was that he said...

camelot · camelot

I am really struggling with detaching and still getting my needs met in my marriage. Detachment plays really well into my husbands inherent selfishness b/c of his alcoholism (he is dry but not working his program). He is like "Great! You're detaching? Me me me me!" So how do I detach but not...

HypStar · HypStar

I've been married to my alcoholic husband for 17 years but we've been together for 24 years. He recently completed a 28 day inpt program for alcoholism and has been sober for 5 months. He is taking his sobriety VERY seriously, attends AA almost daily, has a sponsor and is working on "steps"....

dragonflys · dragonflys

I keep going back to the same thoughts. How do I help the kids? There are so many things that I want to change... I know I need to take baby steps. My daughter has really bad eating habits. AH always folded and gave her the foods she wanted and I did too, so that my AH would not get irritated by her whining....

Bettina · Bettina

"If we seem to be weathering an endless winter, we mustn't abandon hope. As long as we have hope, spring will come without fail. " Luv, Bettina

tortuga · tortuga

My ABF is out of rehab and sober, I believe for 23 days now...but still struggling with withdrawal, and emotions coming up. I still don't fully understand how that must feel. But there is definetly a lot of distress and confusion and fear. On my side too, because I could only see him once since he is out. H...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

I am burning up this board today. I have found it to be such a comfort, I just wondered if there was one for AA that I could reccommend to hubby?

Country Boy · Country Boy

Things between me & AW are getting bad. I see our relationship going down a road where if we continue, we will end up hating each other. I have been working hard with the program & have made progress, with a tantrum or two along the way, but for the most part I have been doing pretty good. But things...

_heather_ · _heather_

How frustrated, disappointed and sad I am. My AH has been drinking again. He had a period of sobriety for about 3 months but as of last Thursday has found his way back to drinking. I am the primary in control of the finances so he has no way of buying liquor but I know if he wants to drink he will find a way...an...

lnc12 · lnc12

So much has happened since my last post, but I'll just stick to what's recent. I got offered a job yesterday at a local CVS store! I start Monday if my background check comes in at the end of this week. I was a mix of emotions yesterday; nervous, happy, excited, more nervous! Haha I told my husband and he sai...

HallOfFreedom · HallOfFreedom

Near as I can tell, my mom has been an alcoholic for a large part of my life, only recently called out on it. My dad wants us all to go to Al-Anon meetings, but I'm not really comfortable with it. I don't feel comfortable plugging in to the same meeting that my dad and three siblings do, and I'm not really comf...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Damn you alcoholism for taking away our loved ones. For making us feel like it's our fault. For having so much control over our A's feelings that they lose touch with what is REALLY important in life. I hate you for causing me to be untrusting, for causing me not to forget past things and use that to enc...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

My AH is headed back to the ER tonight for the third time in a year. About to go through withdrawl/detox again. My son took him because I told him last time that if he went back, I wouldn't be there for him. So many thoughts going through my head. Is anyone still awake out there?

Neesabean · Neesabean

Learning to let go is tough. Learning what and how to let go is tough. I've been working on it for a couple of weeks. The first weekend I actually noticed there were no freak outs in the house over the weekend. So today, I'm just really uneasy and just can't focus. I haven't really spoken to my son since...

peacewithin · peacewithin

My AH has been drinking for stright 5 years no sick time in there this time Its been 36 yrs he has and Yes it does get worse a time goes on and the longer it is the more they can tolerate the more they drink. After 2 Weeks of Very Heavy Drinking coz he was on vacation. hes ready to go back to work and he says he is go...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I had dated a few different guys and only one man kind of interested me with no red flags. So I proceeded and 7 dates later over 2 months time he asked if we could be exclusive and I said yes that I was willing to date just him and see where it goes. He is kind, funny, tall and handsome. He made me dinner and likes...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

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Jozie · Jozie

Have ya Ever just had one of those Weeks were Speaking always turns to Tears, and for a Reason you havne't yet found or Pin pointed... That is My Week, I am in Constant Disaray... Went to a Meeting Last Night in HOPES of Finding the Root of My Emotions and Only Came Home more Bummed then when I Left... There i...

agent46 · agent46

Hello. I attended a local Al Anon meeting today. My brother called last week and mentioned he had started in Al-Anon and he felt it was helpful. I know growing up with two alchoholic parents made for a crazy life and lots of problems. I'm very open to the help that Al Anon offers. However, I didn't know i...

Melodi · Melodi

I all. I found this board while searching for Al-Anon. I am currently married to an Alcoholic and is completely losing it and blaming it on me. I have left our house and am currently staying at a friend's house while trying to figure out what I want to do. I am going to my first meeting tonight and don't real...

aanderson0919 · aanderson0919

My husband has been in treatment for 28 days and 7 days before that for alcohol detox. He is coming on Tuesday August 7th. I have visited him once a week and watched him slowly but surely show signs of recovery. He has admitted that he has a problem and sincerly wants to be sober. He wants to work hard to...

harrish27 · harrish27

Hi, I am new to all of this, but I really need someone to listen and maybe guide me in the right direction. My stepdad has been in my life since I was two years old. He was what I would call a functioning alcoholic for most of my childhood. He was the CFO of two major businesses and always in charge. In the la...

Country Boy · Country Boy

I had a dream the other night that AW had cut down a whole row of bushes. It was WAY too many & they were cut WAY too short. I was upset. I then proceeded to tell myself not to react, you're angry & there's nothing you can do about the bushes now anyway. Let it go. Alanon thinking in a dream? Something m...

amills4294 · amills4294

Last night I lead my local F2F meeting and I was given my 1 yr in alanon coin - pretty cool. I keep playing with it and just holding it feels like it gives me strength.

santaclara · santaclara

I have been reading these pages over the last two days and am very thankful that such experience strength and hope can be found online as well as at meetings. I used to go to meetings every week and I even had a sponsor towards the end, but I went travelling and moved cities and never got back into them regu...

willowtree · willowtree

I am getting ready to start the 12 steps and I have some questions for the people who have done the 12 steps. How long did it take you to do all of them? Was there any certain step that was a major turning point for you and why? I would love to hear any experiences you had with the steps since that is what I am o...

mmerc · mmerc

I just found this forum in my soul searching... After 18 years of marriage and living with my husbands multiple addictions (alcohol 26 years ago, gambling, weed) and accompanying bouts of depression, I told him that I want a divorce. We have three teenage children and I don't want them to continue to s...

sober-son · sober-son

Hi all, I am a sober son of a raging life long alcoholic. To keep it short, my dad was raised by a drug addicted, alcoholic party girl with no father (he died early in my dads life). He has been on and off (mostly on) drinking for his entire life and is now 72 years old, cant work, broke, and drinks vodka straig...

Oksie · Oksie

As some of you may remember, my Dad has been in AA since 1979. He has not had a drop of alcohol in that time, and still talks about one day at a time. As you may also remember, he is here visiting with my Mum for three months and living in my unit under my house. Every time they visit I know there will be fights et...

ConcernedSister · ConcernedSister

I don't mean to bother anyone with a long backstory, but I'm a first time poster and not sure where to start. I'm 22 and my older brother (25) is completely tearing my family apart with his drinking. He has thyroid and ADHD problems, but started drinking in 7th grade and then smoking marijuana almost dai...

Pushka · Pushka

So I had to share this .. holy cow I don't think I have laughed this hard with my kids for the LONGEST time. Yesterday we spent the day at an amusement park and it was the best time EVER!! Those were the words of the youngest. We were all tired in a good way and the day just went so fast it was crazy!! As we ge...

Diva · Diva

I have told him to leave again and again. He has no interest in the ownership of the home, and he has no lease, nor does he pay rent, so as I understand FLorida law, he has no legal residency in my house. I have insisted he leave my house so that I can get on with my life. He goes, packs nothing, then returns d...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Well... I finally want to go to a F2F meeting. I mean REALLY want to. Checked online and there are absolutely NONE that will work for me. (time/location/lack of babysitting, etc). Now what?

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

So A went to his 3 hour counseling session as well as his mandatory AA meeting this past week. Things have actually calmed down here. I know he'll never admit it but I think he actually got something out of his meeting. Anyway, I have a question regarding those meetings. I understand the concept abo...

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	He's On His Own (Preview) I saw the writing on the wall today as clearly as if it were printed out for me. I posted on Thursday about detoxing with beer available as a back up to avoid beng thrown into seizures again. It has worked pretty well but I didn't close my eyes at all last night because he was sweating and twitching all night...	WornOutMrsFixIt	6	617	Aug 5, 2012 by tiredtonite
	I think husband age 60 has cirrhosis (Preview) My husband has been heavy drinker/ alcoholic for many years. He is in complete denial about drinking and failing health. Symptoms are: Petchiae Swelling ankles fingers Nosebleeds Impotence no sex drive Gynomastia (mild) Trembling hands esp. Morning before drinking Dark skin Jaundic...	Bevome	3	609	Aug 5, 2012 by Bevome
	Finally in detox but waiting for him to fail (Preview) Last monday and tuesday my BF went on a non stop drinking benge with whisky. It got so bad that she got in my face with his nose touching mine. when i didnt move or back down that just pissed him off. If i dont yell or get up set he gets mad....i really dont understand. There is now a huge dent in the hood of my tr...	HoofnIt	4	429	Aug 5, 2012 by HoofnIt
	psychologist (Preview) Hi guys Some of you may remember... last October I was given a diagnosis of Borderline Personality Disorder. I was seeking help and when I looked into this... boy did it fit... I just sat and nodded till my head nearly dropped off. It felt like someone had been following me around my whole life. I was re...	Oksie	6	468	Aug 5, 2012 by Oksie
	I Can't take it anymore!!! (Preview) I have read for many years. Posted several times. Read everything I could get my hands on. I know that you will all tell me I need to find a meeting. I've tried those, at the time they didn't work for me. But I KNOW that is what I need. I am one of those people that has a hard time telling My A/BF "No" H...	sisdragonfly1957	4	614	Aug 5, 2012 by hotrod
	haven't been on here in over a week (Preview) Been waiting for some kind of sign when it is time to get on here again. I was feeling a little left out of the loop for a few days. I felt like I wasn't being heard on here. Why did I feel this way? Maybe it is because I am not having a crisis or that I am boring. I hope that someone sees where I am coming from. I don'...	Hoot Nanny	2	357	Aug 5, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Feeling a bit crap and low really. (Preview) Went out last night after work for a few drinks with work colleagues - we have a visitor to our workplace from an overseas collaborator who has been here for 2 months and is going back tomorrow. Anyway I let my partner know by phone I was going out after work (she is the A in my life), I was probably a bit unrea...	jitsuka	8	505	Aug 4, 2012 by jitsuka
	Something AH said (Preview) Today I spoke to my AH (we're separated) who is almost 1 year sober. To make a long story short, last year at this time we had just separated, he was drinking himself into insanity an on the verge of losing his job due to it. Anyway he's been in the program all year and trying to get his life back. One of the une...	nyc018	4	494	Aug 4, 2012 by Pushka
	Deception, lies and learning to trust again Trust (Preview) Hello, My name is Nick. Im from Tempe AZ. heres my story.. I met my girlfriend about two years ago and fell head over heels for her. We started dating and I discovered she was using pain meds daily. I was drinking and I would do the pills with her for about three months. The time came for me to drop the pill thi...	Nick	5	2527	Aug 4, 2012 by jitsuka
	Lil breakdown. (Preview) So, I just had a coworker that I havent seen in a long time ask me what I was doing here. I was like huh? What do you mean? He asked why arent you in Texas? I said, "Why would I be in Texas?" He said "U and he arent together anymore?"....So, I guess exA has moved to texas. I think I turned se...	CDK	8	536	Aug 4, 2012 by Jerry F
	This disease is so sad (Preview) Yep, another relapse. It went really well on my end. Short version is that I know instantly when he has been drinking no matter how much he has had. There is a certain behavior he exhibits that's subtle but noticable to me. He of course lied a lot and I was very quiet through the lying, I saw it more as...	AStrongerMe	3	423	Aug 4, 2012 by WornOutMrsFixIt
	Counting down (Preview) It's been so nice being out here and so very relaxing for the most part. There has been drama at home as I've mentioned before however really nothing I can do about it right now. It's been handled as much as it can be and I'm really trying not to focus on it. It's easier said than done right now. We head ho...	Pushka	6	480	Aug 4, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Had a talk with AH (Preview) I copied and pasted from my journal, FYI: We had a 3 hour long conversation and some went well, some went badly. He said he felt so much better because we were talking but I felt crappy at times because he over exaggerates things and gets out of control. There was one point in the conversation where I to...	ilovedogs	7	474	Aug 4, 2012 by ilovedogs
	Humor surrounded by (Preview) Love...You family are the very bestest and just barge into my heart and romp around having fun. You've left me with smiles and laughter and great good feelings oh and yes still the two ducks. You are my most favorite family and all of your experiences with ducks give me great confidence that I ship th...	Jerry F	8	383	Aug 4, 2012 by wp
	so glad I found this site!!! (Preview) I have been here reading for a few days and it is such a wonderful feeling to know that I am not alone and that there is support!! I am new here and will try to quickly fill you all in on what has led me here. I actually deal with 2 A's daily. First there is my Abf, who drinks every day. He is very high functio...	WORNOUTMOM	6	415	Aug 4, 2012 by WornOutMrsFixIt
	Broken promises and false hope (Preview) I went to my first al anon meeting last Thursday. The next day, he picked a fight with me and started drinking as soon as he got up saying it was because of me. I went to spend the weekend with a relative, just couldn't watch him drink anymore. I had started posting on this site 2 days before that but I dele...	almostgivenup	5	627	Aug 4, 2012 by troyo
	Slowly Coming Out of the Ditch :) (Preview) Well... Thank You All for Your Thoughts, Understaning, Prayers & ESH... I Am Truly Grateful for ALL of It... I have been doing some Much Needed Soul Searchin Here of Late & Seem to have Figured a Few things Out, and One of My Biggest Problems since Returning Home from Vacation is "Balance...	Jozie	3	478	Aug 4, 2012 by hotrod
	Meetings Help (Preview) I went to my home meeting last night & I always felt safe & comfortable but it was different last night. As I sat down, I could FEEL the love in the room, like it was just for me but everyone was sharing it with each other. It was very powerful. As I understand the program more & more I find myself...	Country Boy	2	266	Aug 4, 2012 by hotrod
	Another chance for growth (Preview) My wife's parents are visiting us for the weekend. The last time we saw them was this past Easter, and that was also, as far as I know, the last time that my wife wasn't sober. She had helped herself to some of her mom's pain pills and wound up abusing those for a few days. It was a bad situation but she has come...	usedtobeanyer	3	405	Aug 4, 2012 by hotrod
	4 words can change everything (Preview) *He. Quit. His. Job. Now, he was working for someone that is just a horrible person... and THIS time it wasn't because of drinking... but still. I'm so frustrated right now.* -- Edited by ELEKTRAWMN on Friday 3rd of August 2012 01:18:50 PM	ELEKTRAWMN	2	374	Aug 4, 2012 by hotrod
	What Would MIP Do? (Preview) The ER wouldn't keep my husband last night because he wasn't actively in withdrawl symptoms. They did blood work and nothing was out of whack so they sent him home with a prescription for Ativan. I am worried because his last 2 detoxes were extremely rough. The ativan is being refilled right now but a f...	WornOutMrsFixIt	12	608	Aug 4, 2012 by WORNOUTMOM
	My thoughts on expectations of health professionals (Preview) Over the years I have seen and heard many incidents of health professional bashing over addiction and it really bothers me. I completely understand the need sometimes to place blame somewhere besides our As or ourselves but what can really be expected from another human who is just as powerless as I a...	Jennifer	4	494	Aug 3, 2012 by Oksie
	first time writter ,i dont know how i feel anymore alcoholic partner (Preview) i have a wondefull boyfriend ,everyone says it . but he is an alcoholic ,he loves me by day ,and hates me by night , he refuses to get help .and i know i cant force it on him .he would rather i leave ,then get help . he has said this to me .he is ok with his life .tonight i had to peel his shoes off ,and put him to bed . a...	LCarroll	10	561	Aug 3, 2012 by orchidlover
	Humour in all our affairs:-) (Preview) So today I am off work, I have a wedding reception to attend tonight,and one of my closest friends has the most gorguss tanned skin, she owns and works on a market stall outside,I tell people it is a fake tan so my brother inlaw and sister try and rub it off her and say wow thats a good one lol, so she has bought...	Katy	1	363	Aug 3, 2012 by Jozie
	Co-duck pendency (Preview) Help Debber Help!! ...Okay any of you old timers figure out what comes next and what I have just done? Two little Duckies or Duckers or Duckareenos or whatever...fell out of a tree at the hotel I do work for. This has happend not too long ago also and those little ones were absconded by cats and mongooses...	Jerry F	17	694	Aug 3, 2012 by Jozie
	Feeling weak tonight ...sad (Preview) I am having moments of weakness today and tonight. In my mind, I keep flashing memories of the good times. We reconciled after 27 years, he was sober. We were in love. We got engaged in Feb 2011. We went to Kauai last May, it was such a romantic and fun time together. I hate that I have these happy memori...	katfshh	8	603	Aug 3, 2012 by pinkchip
	Life changes and moving on (Preview) Dear MIP Alanon Friends. I have been offered a job in another state. I am in the process of moving. I have been here 24 years and raised my sons here. My AHsober moved out seven years ago after 30 years of marriage. He demanded a divorce but never filed. We tried counseling but the end result was that he said...	nmike	4	481	Aug 3, 2012 by Pushka
	Detaching and still getting needs met (Preview) I am really struggling with detaching and still getting my needs met in my marriage. Detachment plays really well into my husbands inherent selfishness b/c of his alcoholism (he is dry but not working his program). He is like "Great! You're detaching? Me me me me!" So how do I detach but not...	camelot	9	663	Aug 3, 2012 by jitsuka
	Being told I need to change .... (Preview) I've been married to my alcoholic husband for 17 years but we've been together for 24 years. He recently completed a 28 day inpt program for alcoholism and has been sober for 5 months. He is taking his sobriety VERY seriously, attends AA almost daily, has a sponsor and is working on "steps"....	HypStar	10	615	Aug 3, 2012 by dragonflys
	Is it too late for them? Has the damage already been done? (Preview) I keep going back to the same thoughts. How do I help the kids? There are so many things that I want to change... I know I need to take baby steps. My daughter has really bad eating habits. AH always folded and gave her the foods she wanted and I did too, so that my AH would not get irritated by her whining....	dragonflys	10	657	Aug 3, 2012 by dragonflys
	Spring cannot be far behind! (Preview) "If we seem to be weathering an endless winter, we mustn't abandon hope. As long as we have hope, spring will come without fail. " Luv, Bettina	Bettina	2	306	Aug 3, 2012 by likemyheart
	letting go...in reality! (Preview) My ABF is out of rehab and sober, I believe for 23 days now...but still struggling with withdrawal, and emotions coming up. I still don't fully understand how that must feel. But there is definetly a lot of distress and confusion and fear. On my side too, because I could only see him once since he is out. H...	tortuga	7	730	Aug 3, 2012 by Jerry F
	Is there a message board like this for AA? (Preview) I am burning up this board today. I have found it to be such a comfort, I just wondered if there was one for AA that I could reccommend to hubby?	WornOutMrsFixIt	5	429	Aug 3, 2012 by WornOutMrsFixIt
	Think its time to seperate (Preview) Things between me & AW are getting bad. I see our relationship going down a road where if we continue, we will end up hating each other. I have been working hard with the program & have made progress, with a tantrum or two along the way, but for the most part I have been doing pretty good. But things...	Country Boy	6	594	Aug 2, 2012 by orchidlover
	AH goes back to the bottle (Preview) How frustrated, disappointed and sad I am. My AH has been drinking again. He had a period of sobriety for about 3 months but as of last Thursday has found his way back to drinking. I am the primary in control of the finances so he has no way of buying liquor but I know if he wants to drink he will find a way...an...	_heather_	7	563	Aug 2, 2012 by _heather_
	Spending a few days apart (Preview) So much has happened since my last post, but I'll just stick to what's recent. I got offered a job yesterday at a local CVS store! I start Monday if my background check comes in at the end of this week. I was a mix of emotions yesterday; nervous, happy, excited, more nervous! Haha I told my husband and he sai...	lnc12	3	437	Aug 2, 2012 by orchidlover
	Christian Alternative (Preview) Near as I can tell, my mom has been an alcoholic for a large part of my life, only recently called out on it. My dad wants us all to go to Al-Anon meetings, but I'm not really comfortable with it. I don't feel comfortable plugging in to the same meeting that my dad and three siblings do, and I'm not really comf...	HallOfFreedom	23	7667	Aug 2, 2012 by All I can be
	Gotta get it out (Preview) Damn you alcoholism for taking away our loved ones. For making us feel like it's our fault. For having so much control over our A's feelings that they lose touch with what is REALLY important in life. I hate you for causing me to be untrusting, for causing me not to forget past things and use that to enc...	ELEKTRAWMN	11	611	Aug 2, 2012 by jitsuka
	So Disappointed Tonight (Preview) My AH is headed back to the ER tonight for the third time in a year. About to go through withdrawl/detox again. My son took him because I told him last time that if he went back, I wouldn't be there for him. So many thoughts going through my head. Is anyone still awake out there?	WornOutMrsFixIt	9	482	Aug 2, 2012 by Pushka
	Unsettled feeling (Preview) Learning to let go is tough. Learning what and how to let go is tough. I've been working on it for a couple of weeks. The first weekend I actually noticed there were no freak outs in the house over the weekend. So today, I'm just really uneasy and just can't focus. I haven't really spoken to my son since...	Neesabean	8	604	Aug 2, 2012 by flinn66
	He Quit Again (DETACHMENT) (Preview) My AH has been drinking for stright 5 years no sick time in there this time Its been 36 yrs he has and Yes it does get worse a time goes on and the longer it is the more they can tolerate the more they drink. After 2 Weeks of Very Heavy Drinking coz he was on vacation. hes ready to go back to work and he says he is go...	peacewithin	5	600	Aug 2, 2012 by peacewithin
	Dating a healthy man is gooooood! update (Preview) I had dated a few different guys and only one man kind of interested me with no red flags. So I proceeded and 7 dates later over 2 months time he asked if we could be exclusive and I said yes that I was willing to date just him and see where it goes. He is kind, funny, tall and handsome. He made me dinner and likes...	Breakingfree	14	608	Aug 2, 2012 by katfshh
	Somhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2c5tc0pdaI&feature=relmfue (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2c5tc0pdaI&feature=relmfu	GailMichelle	4	366	Aug 2, 2012 by Jennifer
	Still Strugglin... Just Wish I Knew Why! (Preview) Have ya Ever just had one of those Weeks were Speaking always turns to Tears, and for a Reason you havne't yet found or Pin pointed... That is My Week, I am in Constant Disaray... Went to a Meeting Last Night in HOPES of Finding the Root of My Emotions and Only Came Home more Bummed then when I Left... There i...	Jozie	4	554	Aug 1, 2012 by glad lee
	Ist Al-Anon meeting today and first post here (Preview) Hello. I attended a local Al Anon meeting today. My brother called last week and mentioned he had started in Al-Anon and he felt it was helpful. I know growing up with two alchoholic parents made for a crazy life and lots of problems. I'm very open to the help that Al Anon offers. However, I didn't know i...	agent46	5	485	Aug 2, 2012 by CDK
	New here and going to first Al-Anon meeting tonight (Preview) I all. I found this board while searching for Al-Anon. I am currently married to an Alcoholic and is completely losing it and blaming it on me. I have left our house and am currently staying at a friend's house while trying to figure out what I want to do. I am going to my first meeting tonight and don't real...	Melodi	4	412	Aug 2, 2012 by Jerry F
	Husband Coming Home Next Week From Treatment--Help!! (Preview) My husband has been in treatment for 28 days and 7 days before that for alcohol detox. He is coming on Tuesday August 7th. I have visited him once a week and watched him slowly but surely show signs of recovery. He has admitted that he has a problem and sincerly wants to be sober. He wants to work hard to...	aanderson0919	14	585	Aug 1, 2012 by abbyal
	Bad situation with parents (Preview) Hi, I am new to all of this, but I really need someone to listen and maybe guide me in the right direction. My stepdad has been in my life since I was two years old. He was what I would call a functioning alcoholic for most of my childhood. He was the CFO of two major businesses and always in charge. In the la...	harrish27	6	434	Aug 1, 2012 by harrish27
	It must be sinking in (Preview) I had a dream the other night that AW had cut down a whole row of bushes. It was WAY too many & they were cut WAY too short. I was upset. I then proceeded to tell myself not to react, you're angry & there's nothing you can do about the bushes now anyway. Let it go. Alanon thinking in a dream? Something m...	Country Boy	3	317	Aug 1, 2012 by Pushka
	Got my 1 yr anniversary coin! (Preview) Last night I lead my local F2F meeting and I was given my 1 yr in alanon coin - pretty cool. I keep playing with it and just holding it feels like it gives me strength.	amills4294	9	489	Aug 1, 2012 by tiredtonite
	An Al-anon rock bottom? (Preview) I have been reading these pages over the last two days and am very thankful that such experience strength and hope can be found online as well as at meetings. I used to go to meetings every week and I even had a sponsor towards the end, but I went travelling and moved cities and never got back into them regu...	santaclara	9	694	Aug 1, 2012 by santaclara
	Question about your 12 step experience (Preview) I am getting ready to start the 12 steps and I have some questions for the people who have done the 12 steps. How long did it take you to do all of them? Was there any certain step that was a major turning point for you and why? I would love to hear any experiences you had with the steps since that is what I am o...	willowtree	4	544	Jul 31, 2012 by orchidlover
	Can a person change? (Preview) I just found this forum in my soul searching... After 18 years of marriage and living with my husbands multiple addictions (alcohol 26 years ago, gambling, weed) and accompanying bouts of depression, I told him that I want a divorce. We have three teenage children and I don't want them to continue to s...	mmerc	15	580	Jul 31, 2012 by Oksie
	>>Help with Dad (Preview) Hi all, I am a sober son of a raging life long alcoholic. To keep it short, my dad was raised by a drug addicted, alcoholic party girl with no father (he died early in my dads life). He has been on and off (mostly on) drinking for his entire life and is now 72 years old, cant work, broke, and drinks vodka straig...	sober-son	13	588	Jul 31, 2012 by orchidlover
	A truce (Preview) As some of you may remember, my Dad has been in AA since 1979. He has not had a drop of alcohol in that time, and still talks about one day at a time. As you may also remember, he is here visiting with my Mum for three months and living in my unit under my house. Every time they visit I know there will be fights et...	Oksie	13	582	Jul 31, 2012 by Oksie
	First Time Poster.... Help! (Preview) I don't mean to bother anyone with a long backstory, but I'm a first time poster and not sure where to start. I'm 22 and my older brother (25) is completely tearing my family apart with his drinking. He has thyroid and ADHD problems, but started drinking in 7th grade and then smoking marijuana almost dai...	ConcernedSister	6	687	Jul 31, 2012 by orchidlover
	Life with Mom (Preview) So I had to share this .. holy cow I don't think I have laughed this hard with my kids for the LONGEST time. Yesterday we spent the day at an amusement park and it was the best time EVER!! Those were the words of the youngest. We were all tired in a good way and the day just went so fast it was crazy!! As we ge...	Pushka	7	393	Jul 31, 2012 by amills4294
	Good God, he is crazy! And I will not allow him to take me down with him! (Preview) I have told him to leave again and again. He has no interest in the ownership of the home, and he has no lease, nor does he pay rent, so as I understand FLorida law, he has no legal residency in my house. I have insisted he leave my house so that I can get on with my life. He goes, packs nothing, then returns d...	Diva	5	751	Jul 31, 2012 by Rocky38
	F2F Meeting... Or not. (Preview) Well... I finally want to go to a F2F meeting. I mean REALLY want to. Checked online and there are absolutely NONE that will work for me. (time/location/lack of babysitting, etc). Now what?	ELEKTRAWMN	3	451	Jul 30, 2012 by ELEKTRAWMN
	Question about AA and religion (Preview) So A went to his 3 hour counseling session as well as his mandatory AA meeting this past week. Things have actually calmed down here. I know he'll never admit it but I think he actually got something out of his meeting. Anyway, I have a question regarding those meetings. I understand the concept abo...	ELEKTRAWMN	9	592	Jul 30, 2012 by ELEKTRAWMN
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