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WornOutMrsFixIt · Senior Member

What Would MIP Do?

Amandakay · Veteran Member

Just want you to know my thoughts and prayers are with you. I can only imagine how difficult this is! ((((HUGS))))

Pushka · ~*Service Worker*~

Sending lots of love and support I have no esh to give. You are both in my prayers. Hugs P

Jerry F · ~*Service Worker*~

Aloha WOMFI and what's also important is that you also come out of this whole. Another source of help is a phone call to the AA Central Office in your area and ask if they have recovering Alcoholics who make "wet" calls...visits to alcoholics who are in trauma. I've done a couple myself. One is still in recovery as far as I know and the other I don't know at all. It takes one to know one and it is history that a recoverying one can best help the other along the way. Just some real experience. Let go and Let God. ((((hugs)))) smile

abbyal · ~*Service Worker*~

I can relate to your post this morning as I went thru the same thing with my husb . I let my husb detox at home twice ugh ! I too was told to have a beer ready if with drawl became too painful , I gave my husb a small glass of beer only once on his second day of with drawl as he was in so much pain , a few swallows got him thru the day and I never gave him another glass . If i had it to do over again I would have insisted he go to hospital as I didnt realize how dangerous this was . second time I did tell him if he so much as looked cross eyed I was calling an ambulance wether he liked it or not . My husb lay in fetal position for 3 days before he could walk to the wash room , he halucinated was violently ill . Do what you think is best . I will be thinking of you today . Louise

WornOutMrsFixIt · Senior Member

Thanks for the good wishes. I will be breathing easier in 48 hours. I told him I am here because I love him and will help to see him through a dangerous time. I also told him that I can't do this much longer, that I have to think of my own health and what the stress is doing to me. I feel like I have aged 5 years in the one year that things have been really rough.

My plan B is pretty much in order and I am reaching the point that I said I needed to reach to enact it - to feel that I had done everything I could do. I have figured out most of the details in my head and my dear grandma gave me $2,000 and told me to put it back as my escape money if I needed it. She was married to an ausive alcoholic for years.

Am still praying for a controllable withdrawl/tapering off at home and a change in his heart and mind. Hope springs eternal! I am taking care of me, as much as possible, and am so happy to have all of you here to listen to me think out loud and get feedback.

AStrongerMe · ~*Service Worker*~

Does anyone here know how sugar plays into it? I keep hearing from my BF that they have the guys eat a lot of chocolate and sugar during detox. Is that just to help cravings or does it help detox? Just wondering if anyone here knows.

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

Yes because alcohol converts into sugar in the body, so thats really what the body is craving. Chocolate does help. @ AA they get a lot of donuts and chocolate and coffee. So, sugar wont hurt. When my X was detoxing he would get a lot of Gatorade.

Debilyn · ~*Service Worker*~

If he cannot get into a detox program, then get ready to call 911. That is whatcha do. Have an ambulance come and they will evaluate.

I find it totally strange they would give you ativan for an addict. Usually they monitor it so carefully. The medical system we have is a joke anymore. This does not surprise me. But in my experience, EMT's are gold.

hugs hon, oh and it does not matter how much or what he drank. Soo as he relapses his body goes right back where it was when he stopped.

prayers!! 911!! DEBILYN

Bettina · ~*Service Worker*~

When I was with the A, can you believe they gave him Prozac and said "Now you promise you wont drink now". Two days later he is drinking, taking the prozac and falling all over the place and saying "Wow I like this high". He even fell down a flight of stairs.

I took those pills and threw them down the toilet. Then his counselor had the nerve to say , does your wife think she is a counselor. I really didnt care what that counselor thought at that point.

He was given Ativan also one time. Drs. do not have a clue when it comes to alcoholism, its like an area they dont want to deal with.

Nickie Jo · Newbie

I work at a hospital, and unfortunately most do not have de-tox wards anymore... they are not "moneymakers" I guess. It then falls on centers totally set up for that, which our city has one. The only one on the west side of our state! But, that may be why they did the quick fix of a pill and sent him on his way.

That does not make it any easier for you tho'. I am praying that you can get through these next few days, and see some light on the other side! Like was said before, If you need to call 911. EMT's are awsome, and will at least help during the hardest part, it does not mean that they have to take him somewhere... they are always there.

Look into a center and see if you can get help there also.

(((Hugs)))

Nickie Jo

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Ativan will prevent a seizure - but it will also build another addiction and it's super dangerous to take with alcohol...sigh. I think they know what they are doing - medically covering their butts but not really caring if he gets sober in the long term or picks up a new addiction.

WORNOUTMOM · Member

I feel for you and i know how scary this is. I have been through detox with SIL a few times now and it never seems to get any better or easier and does not seem to matter how much she was drinking or for how long. I have had her in the hospital for drinking and come out with scripts for ativan on several occasions. One of my biggest disagreements with her current care is that they started to give her morphine. They have continually increased it over the past year and the thing is I honestly don't think she has the pain that justifies this. She is an addict and morphine has just replaced the booze. It is crazy!! Now they have decided they don't think she needs all of this and are weaning her off the meds. This ofcourse is in part because where she is going they do not want to have to deal with this level of narcotics. Truth is I don't think that she ever needed it, they gave it to her to shut her up. This makes me think that the liklihood of her drinking in her new enviroment will be even greater as she will be literally raw. She went from drunk all the time to stoned out of her mind on morphine most of the time and now there will be nothing. I know that this is her choice and she will have to make the right choices to survive but it sure seems to some degree the deck is really stacked against her this time.

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