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I had dated a few different guys and only one man kind of interested me with no red flags. So I proceeded and 7 dates later over 2 months time he asked if we could be exclusive and I said yes that I was willing to date just him and see where it goes. He is kind, funny, tall and handsome. He made me dinner and likes to stay active and walk every night while holding my hand. I am trying not to get carried away, but man does everything seem grand. We just spent a few days together and it was awesome no drinking nor wanting to. I am having a hard time not feeling codependent and calling him too much, but other than that it feels very healthy. He teases me, because I have talked to him online and over the phone on and off for a year and he says he made it through the toughest screening process ever and won the prize. Wow, me a prize? I love how this is starting and I am taking it as slow as I can. Thank God for Al-anon that I stayed alone long enough to find this man. My exAH however does not know and I am afraid of how to break it to him that I now have a boyfriend and just tonight he called and was cussing at me for seriously no reason whats so ever. I just hung up and will not respond, but it is something I am a bit worried about. Sending you all love and support!
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Sending you love and support on your journey always! BreakingFree
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" Pain is inevitable, suffering is optional."
"Serenity is when your body and mind are in the same place."
Good for you, and yes, not only is "healthy" very refreshing for the soul, it also quite often takes a bit of getting used to..... I still find myself almost "expecting chaos", and then seem genuinely surprised when it does not happen!!
I say.... enjoy the new relationship, and don't ever forget that the "new you" is a big part of allowing all this good to happen
Take care
Tom
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"He is either gonna drink, or he won't.... what are YOU gonna do?"
"What you think of me is none of my business"
"If you knew the answer to what you are worrying about, would it REALLY change anything?"
I am SO happy for you. It gives me hope that there is someone out there for me. I have a second date planned with someone (my first foray into dating in 7 months)..and there's another person who I really like ( don't know if it will go beyond friends).
I LOVE this too!!! It gives me much hope there is something to be said about a healthy relationship!!! Thanks for sharing your journey with us!!! Hugs hugs hugs!! Lot of love and support enjoy and don't worry about the pressure of telling. You will when the time is right and it sounds like it's best to just hang out and have fun!!
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Stepping onto a brand-new path is difficult, but not more difficult than remaining in a situation, which is not nurturing to the whole woman.- Maya Angelo
Of course you're a prize! We are all prizes and beautiful in our Higher Power's eyes. So great to hear your update and I hope you keep us updated as time goes on! Have lots of fun!
Awesome! Happy for you. Just keep up your boundaries with the EX-A. Eventually, your new BF will be in a situation to hear EX-A verbally abusing you and that could get hairy.
((((BF)))) Healthy is always a Great Place to be ... Sounds Like a Wonderful start for the both of you... Wishing You Well & Congrats on Real Happiness :)
You deserve to be happy. TT