Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

stephaniej · stephaniej

I don't know about you all, but I could use a positive sharing thread! What's everyone up to this weekend? My daughters will be here, and my oldest (who is almost 13) has decided to cut off her fabulous long hair. She will be donating it to charity, and getting a funky "hip" haircut. She's...

John · John

IT CAN'T BE BLOCKED, NEVER WILL BE... IT'S STRONGER THAN ALL THE MEASURES YOU WILL TAKE AGAINST IT.... IT'S CALLED LOVE. As the Velveteen Rabbit says, "I discovered I was real, when all my hair was pulled from my head, an eye ball was missing, an ear torn, and my stuffing coming out because I was carried...

Pushka · Pushka

Ok, .. I'm going to own the fact my crystal ball is broken and I want a refund darn you Crystal Ball R Us .. soooo not what I ordered!!!

I have had these floating thoughts running rampet in my head recently due to many things that have been coming to pass. Some are right and some like I said big o...

teachmath · teachmath

Once again my alcoholic bf acted out but this time I am taking a stand. I listened to what people here had to say, and I am no longer engaging in his games and not allowing him to ruin my life. He was down here from Wednesday through Monday, and we barely saw each other, except when I helped him out. We did h...

TrudyS85 · TrudyS85

I could use some opinions. Since my AH got out of rehab (about 3 weeks ago) we have seperated, he keeps telling me he wants to be the husband I deserve and will show me by his actions how much he loves me and how dedicated he is to our marriage. I come to find out he is on the internet having all kinds of communi...

ForeverAlanon · ForeverAlanon

WOW, this is harder than I thought! Thanks to the great suggestions I got from my post I was able to be flexible and come up with some, they are pretty basic, but that is where I am at right now... physical care: I spent ten minutes taking a quick hot bath rather than a quickie 5 minute shower mental care: I...

AStrongerMe · AStrongerMe

Me! Boy what an eye opener LOL. I've been battling some sort of non-identifiable illness for over 6 months now. It is the type of illness you do not want to discuss with anyone, can keep you from having a normal day and is humiliating and humbling. I've got medication making it so I can work but the idea...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

I first want to thank everyone for the advice and support. I will be attending my first Al-Anon meeting today. I decided not to tell my wife where I was going, but not lie about it. It is during my lunch break from work and if the wife asks, I went to get some counselling. My thought process is it is none o...

rellik · rellik

This week is hell. My AWs actions and words are completly contradictory. E-mails of love and making up for the pain. Sexy txts to some other guy, about how she wants to be with him. So I told her to accept her fate and move out, move in with him if she wants to. She refused and she keeps telling me she will find...

orchidlover · orchidlover

I have been looking lately how impossible it was for me to say no thanks to relationships that were difficult,mired in problems and complicated. I think I had some compulsion to both suffer and to rescue people from their situation. I felt so responsible for everyone and like it wasn't in my capacit...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I don't often give myself over to anger. I tend to believe that anger is often a mask for another deeper feeling (embarrassment, sadness, disappointment, etc.), and I try to understand what's *really* going on when I feel angry, mostly because I HATE it when other people take their anger out on me and...

TrudyS85 · TrudyS85

Well, it only took 3 weeks out of rehab and my AH is spiraling. He calls me to ask a question about his taxes and from there it goes off the rails. He's going on and on about not having enough money and he is stopping therapy and stopping his meds for his bipolar. I remind him I am paying for his meds and his the...

ForeverAlanon · ForeverAlanon

I struggled with this for so many years. I was the healthy clean living vegan totally drug free health nut, not even OTC drugs, HE was the addict who drank like a fish until he was urinating in any container he could find in the house during blackouts. What? I am sick also? I don't think so, I am the one ke...

Icie · Icie

phoned my granddaughter 3 weeks ago & asked her if she would like a set of my china dishes with crystal glasses, tea pot, coffee pot , cream & sugar absolutely everything, setting for 12 people & complete silver ware set, for her hope chest. Her reply was definitely...I replied please...

mum2three · mum2three

Hi Everyone I am new to the forum and so thankful i found you. My husband has been sober (drugs and alcohol) for 7 years and attends AA regularly. My situation is my husband has recently started socializing with his "old friends" again, most of whom still drink. I had started having some an...

Rick3358 · Rick3358

New to this board. My son's drinking finally caused our family to hit a new low. After a brief altercation I told him to leave. I knew the day would come, prayed that it would not but there is was. He moved out. In following phone conversations I made it clear as long as he his drinking he will n...

Kismet · Kismet

I am so depressed today I just want to go to sleep and wake up to a new life. My AH has been in rehab since early August and is doing very well. He came home last weekend because he had done his step 5 and they start integrating slowly back into the outside world after that stage. We were both extremely anxious...

unsure2012 · unsure2012

I am new to the forum but not new to my codependent way. For several years I went to therapy and I actually believed I was improving. However, I am back at square one. When my husband and I started dating the red flags were all over the place, but I chose to ignore them. I ignored them because he and I had be...

Alan66 · Alan66

I found out 45 days ago that my wife of 21 years is an alcoholic. I always suspected there was a problem going on but couldn't quite put my finger on it. She was a binge drinker, mostly on weekends, who just didn't know when enough was enough. I would try to get her to leave parties when she was drunk but nothi...

ForeverAlanon · ForeverAlanon

Hi, I first joined alanon ten years ago and it helped me tremendously in some ways, well, in the ways that I applied the program. Like many first time alanoners, I mostly came to whine and complain about my A and hope to get some tips on how to deal with a hopeless A. Well, I did get that in the casual conver...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Kakahiaka Ohana `O MIP...Good morning MIP Family...The day has started her on Moku Keawe...The Big Island of Hawaii...much later than many of you and then it's here. Puppers have been walked and the Pinch let out so she can get in her pool. My laughs start with them. The wild birds have been fe...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

Got a call from my AH's boss today @ 4pm. She said that he had failed an alcohol test. They had asked him to have someone pick him up from work but he drove off so the bank attorney's said they had to notify the police. She called me, not knowing that we have been separated for 2 months now, to see if he had mad...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

In a few days, AH will be leaving for his Costa Rica trip. It's a work related trip where his company puts all the salespeople and their spouses(significant others) up for 5 days in a 5 star hotel. This year it's at the Four Seasons resort, on the west coast of Costa Rica. When the trip was announced las...

hdftby100 · hdftby100

I think my wife has an alcohol problem/functioning alcoholic. This has been happening over the last year but the problem has progressed. I don't know how much she drinks but this is what I have seen. She has hidden it from me in the past and lied about it. She claims that its because I "freak out...

hulrich07 · hulrich07

Hi, This is my first time posting. I dated my boyfriend for 4 years, we moved in together after two years. about 9 months ago, he showed me my engagement ring. to make sure i liked it. still hasnt given it to me because shorty after, i kinda discovered that he was addicted to vicodin. he had taken them all th...

Overcome · Overcome

Well, I have effectively done my Step 10 - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it; for today. But here's a question: How do I make amends to my 89 year old mother, who has moderate Alzheimer's for yelling at her yesterday? She will not remember the incident whe...

Diva · Diva

Some fo you DID say something I have never heard before. I will get to that in a minute. First, thank each and every one of you for your replies. I appreciate them all so very much. I have separated from my partner A. Our living together became impossible because of the terrible resentment, hate, an...

lostandhurt33 · lostandhurt33

My husband has always been a heavy drinker and it didn't bother me much when we were dating because his behavior didn't get out of control. Near the time we got married he was prescribed xanax and I suspect he has been abusing the two together. Long story short several angry/violent outbursts are vario...

Barbiegirl · Barbiegirl

sometimes life just doesn't make sense. My husband and I met 25 years ago in Alanon. We left after a few years, made a decision not to drink because of the trouble caused by the alcoholics in our families. We raised a family only to have my 20-something son now with a drinking problem

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi,My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.This weekend, I have been invited to 2 events. One is a birthday party at a nightclub. The other is over at a male friends house to watch the fight. Sometimes I dont truly realize how blessed I am to have such wonderful people in my life who have...

Sam813 · Sam813

He everyone, I just thought that I would share with you all how I am doing recently. I feel that going to meetings has really helped me let go of guilt, fear, and control. I am now able to accept this situation and know that I am powerless over it. Although I miss my A brother, I am choosing to take care of m...

Pushka · Pushka

It's Tuesday .. LOL .. it's been a great weekend. The kids were out of school since Wednesday of last week and we had a blast. Over the weekend my son had his first sleep over and this was actually a big deal because I was terrified for a number of reasons. Probably the biggest one being I'm just not a dome...

serenityseeker444 · serenityseeker444

Finally got the nerve up to do this online connection for SUPPORT..GOT TO FILE LEGAL DOCUMENTS AND GET RESTAINING ORDERS AND IT IS SO FRUSTRATING TO HAVE TO DO THIS DEALING WITH MY OWN FAMILY..THEIR ADDICTION IS KICKING AND THEY CONTINUE TO HARRASS ME..CALLING ME AT HOME AT WORK AND SHOWING UP AT MY HOM...

rellik · rellik

Ok its hard to stay sane right now. AW left for meeting 7:45 with serious urges to drink. She txtd me at 9:45 P.M. Said she still had urge to drink and was going to stick around and chat. I have been reading back through posts ever since. Its now 12:45 A.M. I'm still at home (not driving around looking for her...

rellik · rellik

I had a great f2f meeting at lunch today. I don't have a sponsor yet and I'm honestly not on the steps. I have finally accepted step 1. so i guess I'm on step 2 but still grasping a straws without a sponsor to keep me focused. So obviously I'm not on step 4 but I had a revelation this weekend that I just have to s...

Chaya · Chaya

Hello everyone. Haven't visited for a while. MIP really saved me in those first 30 days and now I mainly get my support through face to face meetings and peers in meetings. I am back because I am having concerns about the relationship with my sponsor. I read some prior threads on here which helped a bit to...

stephaniej · stephaniej

I am so sick of being told I am a bad person. No, it's not a situation where I am made to FEEL like a bad person because of things he says to me. He actually tells me "you're a terrible person." I KNOW it's not true. But I am sick of hearing it. I'm sick of being called names, and yelled at, and al...

Wolfie55 · Wolfie55

Its Thanksgiving in Canada. So if you live in Canada, Happy Thanksgiving. Have a great day and remember to say thank you to everyone you meet. oh and one more thing. Thank you.

tortuga · tortuga

I have been reading this and I liked it so much, I just felt like sharing with you lot: 'Look at your life. Look at the ways in which you define who you are and what you're capable of achieving. Look at your goals. Look at the pressures applied by the people around you and the culture in which you were raised...

decgirl1973 · decgirl1973

I grew up in a home with an alcoholic father and he still drinks. 15 years ago I married an alcoholic. My husband has been sober for 5 years but there's a lot of wreckage left from the 10 years of drinking. I still have anger primarily with the face that he never made amends to me. I saw him write several l...

rellik · rellik

Funny how you can strain your mind and soul to get understanding then out of the blue it just kind of hits you. My 15 yr old daughter asked me why mommy still wants to drink after everything that has been done and going to rehab. I was trying to find a way to explain it so she would understand and SMACK!!! I end...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of the worldwide fellowship of Al-Anon. Over the years growing up in an alcoholic home, I developed a lot of hurt, anger, resentment and jealousy. This has expressed itself in various ways, with one of them being sarcasm. This has lead to a lot of awkwa...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

I've posted here before, Tried to get into chat on Friday, wll try again tonight. Not sure how much longer I will have Internet. I would love to/need to get to a f/f meeting. We only have one car and it has no brakes. I am up to my neck in addicts. My a b/f, my room mate. B/F sells so we have ALL kinds of people com...

Icie · Icie

I went to Al anon many years ago to sober up my alcoholic H I soon found out I was there for my own healing & it worked wonders I was able to make wise calm decisions, not re-act like a crazy person. I was working the 12 steps life was peaceful. I divorced my alcoholic, he totally disappeared out of our liv...

Icie · Icie

Anyone here on face Book ? The reason I ask I need to know if I did wrong. I am on face-book with only family, so we can all stay in touch. My Daughter in law that has a drinking & prescription problem accused me of stealing, because I took a few pictures of her kids, my grandchildren & put them on my...

Diva · Diva

He made the choice to stop into the liquor store. He made the choice to say to himself, "I'll have just one." He made the choice to ignore my pleas that he stop the process of killing himself and destroying our relationship. The choice was his and he chose the booze and the pills. I belie...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I guess I'm yammering away here tonight. A lot of inside changes. Learning to own my power. When I throw my honesty away for others and people-please away my discomfort that someone is manipulating me or crossing my boundaries, I end up in a self-resentment which is the worst kind of resentment. But th...

Chaya · Chaya

Hello everyone. Haven't visited for a while. MIP really saved me in those first 30 days and now I mainly get my support through face to face meetings and peers in meetings. I am back because I am having concerns about the relationship with my sponsor. I read some prior threads on here which helped a bit to...

rellik · rellik

I have tried to go to al-anon meetings. but I always end up the only male at the meetings. I don't like to be codled or nurtured. I feel uncomfortable. I actually had a more comfortable and helpful time at a CMA meeting than any of the al-anon meetings. I just want to find someone who I can relate with. Is i...

TrudyS85 · TrudyS85

Here are some things I love (that have nothing to do with AH) Music - from the Beatles to Lady Gaga, driving in the car, radio up high, singing my guts out My weekly TV shows, I love looking forward to a new episode A clean house Laughing with my coworkers Sunday morning paper with a big cup of coffee ,...

rellik · rellik

What can i say? This place is great. Im having a good day. I feel at peace and have some confidence in myself again. I just wanted to share a big thank you to this site and all who contribute. I fear tomorrow i most likely will be hung up on something and loosing my mind again

TODAY IS GOOD! And i ask that you...

halfwaytree · halfwaytree

Hi everyone. I'm so happy to have found this site. My story is fairly recent. I know a woman who overcame her addiction to substance abuse (not alcohol). She seeked help and with the help of her family she had things under control. To make a long strory short, I moved in with her to a nice appartment in a nic...

rellik · rellik

AW 12 year relationship 6 year marriage. She just got back from rehab two weeks ago. She went to rehab cuz I was done, told her to leave and our marriage was over. Now that she is back home and guess what??? still drinking. I try to end it try to leave. I just can't. I feel pathetic and weak. Before rehab I lost...

AllieinAlanon · AllieinAlanon

Hey, it's Allie. I fear I may have been very melodramatic in my sharing and I am still very very new to Alanon. Yes, I qualify. But I never qualified to share. Not yet. I need to listen and learn and act before I share again. I will attend lots of meetings and read on here. So, if I don't share at meetings or on...

lislib · lislib

My daughter is a alcoholic with two children she doesn't have custody of. I have enabled her all of her life by taking care of her problems and not letting her grow up. I can't let her come to my house anymore to see her son on the weekends that were hers because of her drinking and temper. Now I have a he...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

Would you please tell me what self-care is and how you do it? Thank you.

NovSun · NovSun

Hi, I have more questions. Surprise, surprise! My AH decided last week to give AA a shot. He has said in the past that he hated it, could never find a group he liked, etc. He never drinks in front of me, always in the afternoons before I get home from work. I can tell almost immediately by his actions, fa...

orchidlover · orchidlover

My levels of people pleasing are complex and many layered. I am aware these days that I have options rather than to kill myself at work, work myself into the ground and get ill and lose my voice completely. I have choices outside of the compulsion. I can also see how incredibly damaging it was to me to p...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

My folks have watched me suffer for years with health issues and a big exhaustion problem. When you are being controlled and abused emotionally by others is saps the energy out of you. I have done all kinds of work in recovery for years and am finally beginning to get better, I'm beginning now to set some...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So....last weekend my ah lost a friend to liver cancer..a strangly sudden death. Sad, tragic....my ah has been full of grief, fear and anxity....hes wondering the obvious...when will it be him. Actually talked to me about quiting, bla, blah, blah. Was home friday nite but left today at noon....its...

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	Weekend Plans? (Preview) I don't know about you all, but I could use a positive sharing thread! What's everyone up to this weekend? My daughters will be here, and my oldest (who is almost 13) has decided to cut off her fabulous long hair. She will be donating it to charity, and getting a funky "hip" haircut. She's...	stephaniej	13	530	Oct 12, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Love... (just a quick share) (Preview) IT CAN'T BE BLOCKED, NEVER WILL BE... IT'S STRONGER THAN ALL THE MEASURES YOU WILL TAKE AGAINST IT.... IT'S CALLED LOVE. As the Velveteen Rabbit says, "I discovered I was real, when all my hair was pulled from my head, an eye ball was missing, an ear torn, and my stuffing coming out because I was carried...	John	4	369	Oct 12, 2012 by Highlyfavored
	Floating thoughts turned into a fact .. LOL!! (Preview) Ok, .. I'm going to own the fact my crystal ball is broken and I want a refund darn you Crystal Ball R Us .. soooo not what I ordered!!! I have had these floating thoughts running rampet in my head recently due to many things that have been coming to pass. Some are right and some like I said big o...	Pushka	4	496	Oct 12, 2012 by Pushka
	I am listening and standing my ground with bf (Preview) Once again my alcoholic bf acted out but this time I am taking a stand. I listened to what people here had to say, and I am no longer engaging in his games and not allowing him to ruin my life. He was down here from Wednesday through Monday, and we barely saw each other, except when I helped him out. We did h...	teachmath	5	533	Oct 12, 2012 by Itzli
	Need Some Second Opinions (Preview) I could use some opinions. Since my AH got out of rehab (about 3 weeks ago) we have seperated, he keeps telling me he wants to be the husband I deserve and will show me by his actions how much he loves me and how dedicated he is to our marriage. I come to find out he is on the internet having all kinds of communi...	TrudyS85	19	724	Oct 12, 2012 by TrudyS85
	My thirty minutes of taking care of me, day 1 (Preview) WOW, this is harder than I thought! Thanks to the great suggestions I got from my post I was able to be flexible and come up with some, they are pretty basic, but that is where I am at right now... physical care: I spent ten minutes taking a quick hot bath rather than a quickie 5 minute shower mental care: I...	ForeverAlanon	4	339	Oct 12, 2012 by Itzli
	Bad patient! (Preview) Me! Boy what an eye opener LOL. I've been battling some sort of non-identifiable illness for over 6 months now. It is the type of illness you do not want to discuss with anyone, can keep you from having a normal day and is humiliating and humbling. I've got medication making it so I can work but the idea...	AStrongerMe	5	351	Oct 12, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Was this the bait of the disease for me??? (Preview) I first want to thank everyone for the advice and support. I will be attending my first Al-Anon meeting today. I decided not to tell my wife where I was going, but not lie about it. It is during my lunch break from work and if the wife asks, I went to get some counselling. My thought process is it is none o...	hdftby100	11	660	Oct 12, 2012 by kemmaw
	What a bad week this is turning out to be (Preview) This week is hell. My AWs actions and words are completly contradictory. E-mails of love and making up for the pain. Sexy txts to some other guy, about how she wants to be with him. So I told her to accept her fate and move out, move in with him if she wants to. She refused and she keeps telling me she will find...	rellik	6	592	Oct 12, 2012 by tortuga
	no thanks (Preview) I have been looking lately how impossible it was for me to say no thanks to relationships that were difficult,mired in problems and complicated. I think I had some compulsion to both suffer and to rescue people from their situation. I felt so responsible for everyone and like it wasn't in my capacit...	orchidlover	1	306	Oct 12, 2012 by Pushka
	I am so ANGRY this week! (Preview) I don't often give myself over to anger. I tend to believe that anger is often a mask for another deeper feeling (embarrassment, sadness, disappointment, etc.), and I try to understand what's really going on when I feel angry, mostly because I HATE it when other people take their anger out on me and...	stephaniej	12	574	Oct 12, 2012 by stephaniej
	How Do I Detach From This (Preview) Well, it only took 3 weeks out of rehab and my AH is spiraling. He calls me to ask a question about his taxes and from there it goes off the rails. He's going on and on about not having enough money and he is stopping therapy and stopping his meds for his bipolar. I remind him I am paying for his meds and his the...	TrudyS85	8	603	Oct 12, 2012 by Jerry F
	How is alcoholism a "family" disease when the A is the sick one? (Preview) I struggled with this for so many years. I was the healthy clean living vegan totally drug free health nut, not even OTC drugs, HE was the addict who drank like a fish until he was urinating in any container he could find in the house during blackouts. What? I am sick also? I don't think so, I am the one ke...	ForeverAlanon	10	586	Oct 12, 2012 by Auntyaya
	New Dilemma (Preview) phoned my granddaughter 3 weeks ago & asked her if she would like a set of my china dishes with crystal glasses, tea pot, coffee pot , cream & sugar absolutely everything, setting for 12 people & complete silver ware set, for her hope chest. Her reply was definitely...I replied please...	Icie	10	501	Oct 12, 2012 by Icie
	I'm new and need some perspective (Preview) Hi Everyone I am new to the forum and so thankful i found you. My husband has been sober (drugs and alcohol) for 7 years and attends AA regularly. My situation is my husband has recently started socializing with his "old friends" again, most of whom still drink. I had started having some an...	mum2three	6	522	Oct 12, 2012 by orchidlover
	Asking son to leave (Preview) New to this board. My son's drinking finally caused our family to hit a new low. After a brief altercation I told him to leave. I knew the day would come, prayed that it would not but there is was. He moved out. In following phone conversations I made it clear as long as he his drinking he will n...	Rick3358	8	549	Oct 12, 2012 by orchidlover
	Depressed and feeling hopeless (Preview) I am so depressed today I just want to go to sleep and wake up to a new life. My AH has been in rehab since early August and is doing very well. He came home last weekend because he had done his step 5 and they start integrating slowly back into the outside world after that stage. We were both extremely anxious...	Kismet	14	572	Oct 12, 2012 by orchidlover
	Here I am.... (Preview) I am new to the forum but not new to my codependent way. For several years I went to therapy and I actually believed I was improving. However, I am back at square one. When my husband and I started dating the red flags were all over the place, but I chose to ignore them. I ignored them because he and I had be...	unsure2012	7	617	Oct 11, 2012 by orchidlover
	New to this (Preview) I found out 45 days ago that my wife of 21 years is an alcoholic. I always suspected there was a problem going on but couldn't quite put my finger on it. She was a binge drinker, mostly on weekends, who just didn't know when enough was enough. I would try to get her to leave parties when she was drunk but nothi...	Alan66	11	517	Oct 11, 2012 by orchidlover
	Use it or lose it (Preview) Hi, I first joined alanon ten years ago and it helped me tremendously in some ways, well, in the ways that I applied the program. Like many first time alanoners, I mostly came to whine and complain about my A and hope to get some tips on how to deal with a hopeless A. Well, I did get that in the casual conver...	ForeverAlanon	10	574	Oct 11, 2012 by orchidlover
	Ready Set...Go!! (Preview) Aloha Kakahiaka Ohana `O MIP...Good morning MIP Family...The day has started her on Moku Keawe...The Big Island of Hawaii...much later than many of you and then it's here. Puppers have been walked and the Pinch let out so she can get in her pool. My laughs start with them. The wild birds have been fe...	Jerry F	5	423	Oct 11, 2012 by orchidlover
	Been Dreading It & Today Was The Day (Preview) Got a call from my AH's boss today @ 4pm. She said that he had failed an alcohol test. They had asked him to have someone pick him up from work but he drove off so the bank attorney's said they had to notify the police. She called me, not knowing that we have been separated for 2 months now, to see if he had mad...	WornOutMrsFixIt	11	644	Oct 11, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Sad, but proud of myself, too (Preview) In a few days, AH will be leaving for his Costa Rica trip. It's a work related trip where his company puts all the salespeople and their spouses(significant others) up for 5 days in a 5 star hotel. This year it's at the Four Seasons resort, on the west coast of Costa Rica. When the trip was announced las...	ilovedogs	8	535	Oct 11, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Unfamiliar territory (Preview) I think my wife has an alcohol problem/functioning alcoholic. This has been happening over the last year but the problem has progressed. I don't know how much she drinks but this is what I have seen. She has hidden it from me in the past and lied about it. She claims that its because I "freak out...	hdftby100	9	503	Oct 11, 2012 by AStrongerMe
	Help ): (Preview) Hi, This is my first time posting. I dated my boyfriend for 4 years, we moved in together after two years. about 9 months ago, he showed me my engagement ring. to make sure i liked it. still hasnt given it to me because shorty after, i kinda discovered that he was addicted to vicodin. he had taken them all th...	hulrich07	9	573	Oct 11, 2012 by hulrich07
	How do you make amends to someone with Alzheimer's? (Preview) Well, I have effectively done my Step 10 - Continued to take personal inventory and when we were wrong promptly admitted it; for today. But here's a question: How do I make amends to my 89 year old mother, who has moderate Alzheimer's for yelling at her yesterday? She will not remember the incident whe...	Overcome	7	462	Oct 11, 2012 by Debilyn
	I think Diva finally understands and accepts. (Preview) Some fo you DID say something I have never heard before. I will get to that in a minute. First, thank each and every one of you for your replies. I appreciate them all so very much. I have separated from my partner A. Our living together became impossible because of the terrible resentment, hate, an...	Diva	9	513	Oct 11, 2012 by Debilyn
	Husband has chosen alcohol over me (Preview) My husband has always been a heavy drinker and it didn't bother me much when we were dating because his behavior didn't get out of control. Near the time we got married he was prescribed xanax and I suspect he has been abusing the two together. Long story short several angry/violent outbursts are vario...	lostandhurt33	5	4906	Oct 11, 2012 by In my head
	can't believe I'm back after 20 years (Preview) sometimes life just doesn't make sense. My husband and I met 25 years ago in Alanon. We left after a few years, made a decision not to drink because of the trouble caused by the alcoholics in our families. We raised a family only to have my 20-something son now with a drinking problem	Barbiegirl	9	467	Oct 11, 2012 by Aloha
	Random sharing :s (Preview) Hi,My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon.This weekend, I have been invited to 2 events. One is a birthday party at a nightclub. The other is over at a male friends house to watch the fight. Sometimes I dont truly realize how blessed I am to have such wonderful people in my life who have...	slogan_jim	5	520	Oct 10, 2012 by Pushka
	Feeling Positive (Preview) He everyone, I just thought that I would share with you all how I am doing recently. I feel that going to meetings has really helped me let go of guilt, fear, and control. I am now able to accept this situation and know that I am powerless over it. Although I miss my A brother, I am choosing to take care of m...	Sam813	5	446	Oct 10, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Hp in all things .. (Preview) It's Tuesday .. LOL .. it's been a great weekend. The kids were out of school since Wednesday of last week and we had a blast. Over the weekend my son had his first sleep over and this was actually a big deal because I was terrified for a number of reasons. Probably the biggest one being I'm just not a dome...	Pushka	7	499	Oct 10, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Input needed please..staying grounded during family crisis number 9001 (Preview) Finally got the nerve up to do this online connection for SUPPORT..GOT TO FILE LEGAL DOCUMENTS AND GET RESTAINING ORDERS AND IT IS SO FRUSTRATING TO HAVE TO DO THIS DEALING WITH MY OWN FAMILY..THEIR ADDICTION IS KICKING AND THEY CONTINUE TO HARRASS ME..CALLING ME AT HOME AT WORK AND SHOWING UP AT MY HOM...	serenityseeker444	4	448	Oct 10, 2012 by Breakingfree
	MIP is all i have keeping me sane right now. (Preview) Ok its hard to stay sane right now. AW left for meeting 7:45 with serious urges to drink. She txtd me at 9:45 P.M. Said she still had urge to drink and was going to stick around and chat. I have been reading back through posts ever since. Its now 12:45 A.M. I'm still at home (not driving around looking for her...	rellik	6	402	Oct 10, 2012 by Zimmy
	God's will God's way (Preview) I had a great f2f meeting at lunch today. I don't have a sponsor yet and I'm honestly not on the steps. I have finally accepted step 1. so i guess I'm on step 2 but still grasping a straws without a sponsor to keep me focused. So obviously I'm not on step 4 but I had a revelation this weekend that I just have to s...	rellik	9	549	Oct 10, 2012 by Zimmy
	Sponsor question (Preview) Hello everyone. Haven't visited for a while. MIP really saved me in those first 30 days and now I mainly get my support through face to face meetings and peers in meetings. I am back because I am having concerns about the relationship with my sponsor. I read some prior threads on here which helped a bit to...	Chaya	6	435	Oct 10, 2012 by Chaya
	so, so tired of it (Preview) I am so sick of being told I am a bad person. No, it's not a situation where I am made to FEEL like a bad person because of things he says to me. He actually tells me "you're a terrible person." I KNOW it's not true. But I am sick of hearing it. I'm sick of being called names, and yelled at, and al...	stephaniej	12	570	Oct 9, 2012 by stephaniej
	Gratitude, Canadian Style (Preview) Its Thanksgiving in Canada. So if you live in Canada, Happy Thanksgiving. Have a great day and remember to say thank you to everyone you meet. oh and one more thing. Thank you.	Wolfie55	11	459	Oct 10, 2012 by likemyheart
	loving.hope.life. (Preview) I have been reading this and I liked it so much, I just felt like sharing with you lot: 'Look at your life. Look at the ways in which you define who you are and what you're capable of achieving. Look at your goals. Look at the pressures applied by the people around you and the culture in which you were raised...	tortuga	1	239	Oct 10, 2012 by NovSun
	My alcoholic husband tells me I need Al-Anon (Preview) I grew up in a home with an alcoholic father and he still drinks. 15 years ago I married an alcoholic. My husband has been sober for 5 years but there's a lot of wreckage left from the 10 years of drinking. I still have anger primarily with the face that he never made amends to me. I saw him write several l...	decgirl1973	8	574	Oct 9, 2012 by pinkchip
	Talking to daughter helped me. (Preview) Funny how you can strain your mind and soul to get understanding then out of the blue it just kind of hits you. My 15 yr old daughter asked me why mommy still wants to drink after everything that has been done and going to rehab. I was trying to find a way to explain it so she would understand and SMACK!!! I end...	rellik	4	413	Oct 9, 2012 by pinkchip
	I feel like I have a lot of damage to undo. (Preview) Hi, my name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of the worldwide fellowship of Al-Anon. Over the years growing up in an alcoholic home, I developed a lot of hurt, anger, resentment and jealousy. This has expressed itself in various ways, with one of them being sarcasm. This has lead to a lot of awkwa...	slogan_jim	6	494	Oct 9, 2012 by tiredtonite
	I am so Lost, I feel there is NO Way OUT!!! (Preview) I've posted here before, Tried to get into chat on Friday, wll try again tonight. Not sure how much longer I will have Internet. I would love to/need to get to a f/f meeting. We only have one car and it has no brakes. I am up to my neck in addicts. My a b/f, my room mate. B/F sells so we have ALL kinds of people com...	sisdragonfly1957	3	430	Oct 9, 2012 by tiredtonite
	Sick & tired of being sick & tired (Preview) I went to Al anon many years ago to sober up my alcoholic H I soon found out I was there for my own healing & it worked wonders I was able to make wise calm decisions, not re-act like a crazy person. I was working the 12 steps life was peaceful. I divorced my alcoholic, he totally disappeared out of our liv...	Icie	3	445	Oct 8, 2012 by Icie
	Facebook question (Preview) Anyone here on face Book ? The reason I ask I need to know if I did wrong. I am on face-book with only family, so we can all stay in touch. My Daughter in law that has a drinking & prescription problem accused me of stealing, because I took a few pictures of her kids, my grandchildren & put them on my...	Icie	8	961	Oct 8, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Diva still doesn't understand (Preview) He made the choice to stop into the liquor store. He made the choice to say to himself, "I'll have just one." He made the choice to ignore my pleas that he stop the process of killing himself and destroying our relationship. The choice was his and he chose the booze and the pills. I belie...	Diva	19	642	Oct 8, 2012 by Maiasaura
	A Thought to Lessen Codependent Guilt (Preview) I guess I'm yammering away here tonight. A lot of inside changes. Learning to own my power. When I throw my honesty away for others and people-please away my discomfort that someone is manipulating me or crossing my boundaries, I end up in a self-resentment which is the worst kind of resentment. But th...	WorkingThroughIt	11	678	Oct 8, 2012 by LulaMay
	Sponsor question (Preview) Hello everyone. Haven't visited for a while. MIP really saved me in those first 30 days and now I mainly get my support through face to face meetings and peers in meetings. I am back because I am having concerns about the relationship with my sponsor. I read some prior threads on here which helped a bit to...	Chaya	1	209	Oct 8, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Why are male sponsors so rare? (Preview) I have tried to go to al-anon meetings. but I always end up the only male at the meetings. I don't like to be codled or nurtured. I feel uncomfortable. I actually had a more comfortable and helpful time at a CMA meeting than any of the al-anon meetings. I just want to find someone who I can relate with. Is i...	rellik	8	670	Oct 8, 2012 by canadianguy
	Things I Love (Preview) Here are some things I love (that have nothing to do with AH) Music - from the Beatles to Lady Gaga, driving in the car, radio up high, singing my guts out My weekly TV shows, I love looking forward to a new episode A clean house Laughing with my coworkers Sunday morning paper with a big cup of coffee ,...	TrudyS85	11	603	Oct 8, 2012 by rellik
	Flip flop bounce around (Preview) What can i say? This place is great. Im having a good day. I feel at peace and have some confidence in myself again. I just wanted to share a big thank you to this site and all who contribute. I fear tomorrow i most likely will be hung up on something and loosing my mind again TODAY IS GOOD! And i ask that you...	rellik	4	482	Oct 8, 2012 by rellik
	First Post (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm so happy to have found this site. My story is fairly recent. I know a woman who overcame her addiction to substance abuse (not alcohol). She seeked help and with the help of her family she had things under control. To make a long strory short, I moved in with her to a nice appartment in a nic...	halfwaytree	2	370	Oct 8, 2012 by Zimmy
	Why can't I just leave!!! (Preview) AW 12 year relationship 6 year marriage. She just got back from rehab two weeks ago. She went to rehab cuz I was done, told her to leave and our marriage was over. Now that she is back home and guess what??? still drinking. I try to end it try to leave. I just can't. I feel pathetic and weak. Before rehab I lost...	rellik	8	561	Oct 8, 2012 by Kate123
	Making a "listening and learning" commitment listening talking the cotton out of my ears (Preview) Hey, it's Allie. I fear I may have been very melodramatic in my sharing and I am still very very new to Alanon. Yes, I qualify. But I never qualified to share. Not yet. I need to listen and learn and act before I share again. I will attend lots of meetings and read on here. So, if I don't share at meetings or on...	AllieinAlanon	6	959	Oct 7, 2012 by NovSun
	Stuck and worried (Preview) My daughter is a alcoholic with two children she doesn't have custody of. I have enabled her all of her life by taking care of her problems and not letting her grow up. I can't let her come to my house anymore to see her son on the weekends that were hers because of her drinking and temper. Now I have a he...	lislib	1	281	Oct 7, 2012 by Jerry F
	Self-Care - What is it? (Preview) Would you please tell me what self-care is and how you do it? Thank you.	WorkingThroughIt	12	1539	Oct 7, 2012 by Breakingfree
	Bargaining? (Preview) Hi, I have more questions. Surprise, surprise! My AH decided last week to give AA a shot. He has said in the past that he hated it, could never find a group he liked, etc. He never drinks in front of me, always in the afternoons before I get home from work. I can tell almost immediately by his actions, fa...	NovSun	6	601	Oct 7, 2012 by NovSun
	Being a team player and people pleasing. (Preview) My levels of people pleasing are complex and many layered. I am aware these days that I have options rather than to kill myself at work, work myself into the ground and get ill and lose my voice completely. I have choices outside of the compulsion. I can also see how incredibly damaging it was to me to p...	orchidlover	5	683	Oct 7, 2012 by Katy
	Do They know What They're Doing? (Preview) My folks have watched me suffer for years with health issues and a big exhaustion problem. When you are being controlled and abused emotionally by others is saps the energy out of you. I have done all kinds of work in recovery for years and am finally beginning to get better, I'm beginning now to set some...	WorkingThroughIt	8	652	Oct 7, 2012 by pinkchip
	Yup...out again...friend died (Preview) So....last weekend my ah lost a friend to liver cancer..a strangly sudden death. Sad, tragic....my ah has been full of grief, fear and anxity....hes wondering the obvious...when will it be him. Actually talked to me about quiting, bla, blah, blah. Was home friday nite but left today at noon....its...	Theoceancalls	2	419	Oct 7, 2012 by Theoceancalls
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