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meagain · meagain

I am really trying to be positive and working on "recovery". I am trying to be assertiv e in a loving way. My oldest son (35) more or less accused me of their marriage problems. My Ex AH always mentally abused me. Now I find my son is doing the exact same thing. This I will not except. I tried whe...

hush · hush

I wanted to say thanks to everyone for encouraging me to go to a face to face Al-Anon meeting. I went this morning. They said I should try to attend 6 meetings in 6 days. I'm not sure where to find one tomorrow, but the place I chose has them every week night, as well as on Saturday. Also, I was told by many...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

Willpower is not the key to the way of life we are seeking. Surrender is. "I have spent much of my life trying to make people be, do, or feel something they aren't, don't want to do, and choose not to feel. I have made them, and myself, crazy in that process," said one recovering woman. I spe...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

We had severe weather move through on Memorial Day, and before I could get my surge protector unplugged, the lightning struck. Casey's General Store behind me went dark as did my house. It sounded like the earth split in two and I felt a tingling into my fingertips. It actually blew one of my breakers. M...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha All!! Took a day to get the time zone, jet lag, blues out of the way and make a report. Ruby Blue (middle name Azulema) is exactly like what a month old doll should be especially when perfectly dressed up by loving Mom and Dad. I had to smile checking out how they are reacting as "new" pare...

glad · glad

Some time ago in a meeting a lady metioned her son had been helped (then relapsed) by a free treatment center in Louisiana. But she did say it helped him I have not yet seen her again to ask the name of the program. Does anyone know of this or any free or low cost treatment centers. and by the way feed back o...

RainyJamie · RainyJamie

It is so sad and screwed up. she was, maybe 10 years older than me. Her husband had a degenerative disability, and she became his caregiver. They had 3 children, and not alot of money. Her husband was one of the few people in this small town that made freinds with my husband. When my husband started drinki...

canadianguy · canadianguy

The recent threads on suicide have reminded me of a learning and awareness that I went through about four years ago.... I had met a friend, in one of my ex's Rehabs - his name was Garry, and he was the most unlikely of all friends for me at the time..... He was a lifelong addict/alcoholic, built like a bodyb...

Aloha · Aloha

I attended an Al-Anon birthday meeting last night. It was the first Al-Anon birthday meeting I've been to, and actually, it was really very small because at least on this side of the island, the region really hasn't set up any official regular birthday meetings for members like AA does. So, my spons...

hush · hush

I wanted to start a new post because I don't want to interrupt someone else's. I hope I get some response, as I'm new to this. I fell in love with an A and I'm struggling. It was his alcoholic grandfather he looked up to, and his own father who was strictly religious and non-alcoholic but very abusive. H...

keithw · keithw

So, I've been dating this girl for about a year. She's an adult child of an alcoholic. I love her and she's been there for me through a lot of tough things, and when we're good together we're really good. But our fights get so bad, it scares me. She has a severe fear of abandonment due to being raised in an alc...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

Tomorrow is going to be one of those days when my inner child just wants to hide under the covers. The kind of day that brings out fear. In the morning I have a meeting with my attorney, who is representing me in a custody case. Who I might add, intimidates me to no end, because she is very direct, matter of...

kitty · kitty

I am not quite sure what is happening other than multiple miracles - biggies - in the last 24 or so hours. My b/f bff (known him just a year, he's not in any 12 steps, not an A) anyway... has been talking to, planting seeds w/ my mother... yesterday after 30 years (I'm 40) of being a literal "parrot...

Aloha · Aloha

It has taken me nearly a month to recover from the drama I caught myself up in last month during the AA/Al-Anon convention. I became overwhelmed and then gravitated to old habits of wondering what my AH's next moves were going to be... when AH became irritable, I didn't know how to respond and berated my...

gardengal · gardengal

I have found lately that I am trying to do more than my body or mind can handle. And when I do not accomplish the tasks at hand I feel as if I have failed. When I analyze this , it takes me back to when I lived with my alcoholic, and all my failed attempts to make him sober, thus making me feel inadequate or a com...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Hey everyone! I haven't been able to post for some time. I can't remember the last time I did actually! I am doing OK. I have been obsessing over somethings but see how I can change that--get out of my head and do something to help me! I also need to keep in touch with my trusted friends in the program. I ha...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Well, as I continue with this programme, I realise that I have to keep on reminding myself that the steps are there for a purpose and if I take one step at a time in order I will reach the top of the ladder. So, I am now looking at Step 6, and to quote Courage to Change, I realise that it again sets out in simple te...

Becky1 · Becky1

It is with a heavy heart that I have made the decision to leave my AH. We have been thru so much stuff together, it is unreal. I can't even begin to remember all of it. How we started out so happy, then the drinking got worse, then the silent treatments started, then the yelling started. Then the threats...

hush · hush

I wanted to start a new post because I don't want to interrupt someone else's. I hope I get some response, as I'm new to this. I fell in love with an A and I'm struggling. It was his alcoholic grandfather he looked up to, and his own father who was strictly religious and non-alcoholic but very abusive. H...

Passion84ever · Passion84ever

I had the happy opportunity of being reunited with my childhood sweetheart of thirty years ago last year in the summer. It was the happiest I had ever been. He was married 29 years and unhappy, but not yet divorced. This made me feel insecure and vunerable. I also found myself reacting to his mood swings...

kitty · kitty

Dear Everybody, When I made that post the other day... it was not to say I was leaving MIP, I would never do that, finding al-anon on-line has been a life saver for me. I really, truly thought I was going to 'end it all.' I made my preparations and carried out about half of my plans. Somehow hp got to me v...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))), I came across this article on Martin Sheen and how he dealt with his son Charlie's addiction. Go to the aarp website: www.aarpmagazine.org and click on the article. It talks about his own addiction, Alanon and AA. I've always loved Martin Sheen (I secretly harbor a thing for h...

Beajour · Beajour

I've never posted something before and not sure how this goes - so I'm just going to write my thoughts and see if there's any feedback or thoughts from anybody... Two years ago I met "Adam", 9 months ago I finally "figured out" he is an alcoholic - he had hidden it and disguised his b...

glad · glad

The (young) new husband of a little girl (20) I care about as family hurt her, by "going on a blind date" messing around online etc. basicly like he missed the fact that he got married?? Anyway this is a kid who fooled all of us with all this talk of marriage and being excited about building a f...

Aloha · Aloha

I had to chuckle the moment I opened ODAT tonight. I usually read it in the morning, but didn't this morning - got busy being a "human doing" today instead of a "human being". I've been feeding myself self-pity nonsense this evening after I found life wasn't going to go the way I...

Wilted · Wilted

It's been a long time since I've been on here but I feel so desperate right now and I need to vent. Almost 4 years ago I left my home and family and moved four states away to marry a man who I met on a Christian website. We communicated for over two years by email, phone calls, and spent about a month together...

meagain · meagain

I can't remember when the last time it was I was on this board-but anyway I am trying to change my attitude on life! I have started going to a counsellor. I am trying to learn a new way of dealing with my adult sons. On Mothers day my oldest son--more or less blamed me for his whole marriage breakdown. the w...

debilyn · debilyn

but I want other parents to know they are not the only ones. my son has been very absent. I kept some communication. I asked him to come that mothers day sunday,said well call me and let me know. My daughter and grandson were coming. he never called,nothing. I ended up in too much pain to see my daughter. b...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I have been spending some time around people who are happy, content with themselves and their friends and family, have a sense of humor, are not all freaked out and weird all the time. Are predictable and calm and make good decisions. Its quite interesting. I have been seeing this guy (well, now it...

ddub · ddub

I've been reading and feel somewhat validated finding that feeling treasured or valuable is a basic human need. I didn't know that but I sure felt it without knowing how to put it into words. I can see how I became obsessive about caring for others or working too hard or using humor to deflect stress....

lam0204 · lam0204

so I haven't posted anything in so long but sometimes if feels good to vent to people who understand. i have an ex husband and when i left him i was absolutley in love with him BUT i also had two little girls that didn't need to be in a house with an alcoholic. so i commend myself for leaving for them and for my...

maresie · maresie

Tonight I say goodbye to the intern who has been treating me for the past 10 weeks. The 10 weeks flew by. I saw a therapist intern last year who helped me so much when I was leaving the A. Then I had no time or space to see her and that was difficult. I do not do well with goodbyes. I am hoping to get a referral ot...

tma0413 · tma0413

Well I dropped AH off at the correctional facility last night so that he could begin serving his 10 day sentence. I felt sooo sick to my stomach as the big jail doors slammed behind him. I kept it together pretty good, didn't cry till I got to the truck then I prayed to my HP to help me & give me strength...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I find myself always questioning my responses to my AH. Rarely do I know if I do it "right". Thus, I find the need to bounce it off here, thinking each episode is a learning experience. We are getting a significant tax return. First time ever and a true blessing. My AH decided he would keep the...

Aloha · Aloha

I had an instance with my mother come up earlier this week that I've been kind of putting on the back burner... something I've been kind of wondering about and that sort of thing. Maybe three weeks ago, when talking with my parents over the phone, my mom mentioned that she'd like to fly out to see me and m...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

Life has been crazy busy, and I miss being able to read down through the threads over here, but I do try and read a few during the week. I'm waiting to hear back on my application for grants for college, and whatever isn't covered will be paid by Vocational Rehabilitation, so no more college loans to pay of...

Diva · Diva

A went on a binge Thursday morning, walked out of the house, and did not come back. I have gotten to the point that I do not worry; know I should. But he'll be home in a couple of days, repentent, sorry, embarrassed, ashamed, "I'll never drink again." You know the drill. Well....yesterday mor...

norwood · norwood

I was wondering about that term and found the following in a search; Let there be peace on earth And let it begin with me. It serves as a good reminder when I find myself in a situation where I would tend to react with anger, or judgment, or criticism. Rather than react with anger, I silently sing to myself,...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I decided that an update was due. I have not been here much as I have been in transition from Hawaii and grad school to back on the mainland, back in the Midwest and back near my AH. Its been a tough transition and the end is not in sight but things are going very well overall. I did decide to get a divorce aft...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, I have started to build up a social life again and go out a couple of time of week. I had slowly stared a friendship with a woman from the village who I would meet regularly. Last night she texted me to say she was out, she was supposed to be at a concert and I would meet her later. I went up earlier than...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was on the old nobody new singles site last night and saw a cute new guy and sent him a message and we ended up talking and it looks like we are going to meet tonight. He just moved here from Mississippi. Sooo we'll see what happens, it sure would be nice to have someone of the manly persuasion to hang out...

ddub · ddub

not so happy, down on myself, lonely and how do you love yourself, ..... I feel like a broken record. Progress, then I feel like I am back to square one over and over. Don't even know I am back sliding until I'm back in crazy land & feeling like the odd man out, critical of me & others and negative....

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))))))), Let us take a few minutes between the picnics, the games, and the fun times to remember what this day is really all about. This is not a political post. Hubby was a Navy Seal. This is a post about rememberance. To all who have served, are serving, and will serve in our armed for...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I am awaiting to go for further surgery on my back after this coming weekend. Each time I hope it will be the last time. Each time, it has proved not to be the case SO FAR. However, I realise that, physical health goes hand in hand with mental health. WOW, did I mention the dreaded word MENTAL health? Jus...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Many of you will know that I have had trouble saying NO, let alone saying it as a complete sentence. I am practicing more each day and realise that by saying NO - as a complete sentence - I do not have to justify, explain, struggle with the 'reconsider this...' or ' well have to you thought ...'. I answer qui...

JeannineM · JeannineM

Okay, So I havent posted in a couple days and I am fairley new here.I have been leaning on this site for support and venting and it was working for alittle bit but I have slipped up big time and now I feel like there is absolutley no hope for my AH. I know this but why am i letting this happen? Why did I do this a...

Unsure · Unsure

I am slowly losing my ability to trust, not just in mankind, but in faith also. Nothing has gone right for anyone in my family for several months. My son can't find a job, is living out of town, and losing everything he has. A step- son is living with his grandparents and slowly losing touch with real...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi everyone, I talked to Mandy and she told me to go ahead and post the minutes from May and we'll be talking about emailing minutes to members at the next meeting. Joni MAY BUSINESS MEETING MINUTES: MIP MAY MINUTES: Chair opened with the Serenity Prayer, 1st on agenda was Secretary report: Due to a...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingJune 1, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report ...

round3 · round3

Hi all, With some support from others, some disbelief from others, some fear from others, and (so far) always with love from others, I have made the decision to try again with my A. I don't take this lightly, or without a degree of fear - which I'm hoping to turn into a healthy awareness. I know very few...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

I am seeking help here. I keep wanting to communicate with my estranged AH. I know that it is a deep seeded WANT and certainly not a need. But it is still there, the desire to communicate with my AH. I remind myself that he doesn't want to talk to me or see me and to respect that. Which I do. But the WANT is still...

Jen · Jen

I'm having trouble today making a decision. My AH has almost 9 months sober. He is doing great. I am doing great. One problem we keep stumbling over is he won't be proactive about taking care of his vehicle. Now this would not be a problem for me if I had a good vehicle of my own, but I don't. I will asap, but th...

debilyn · debilyn

Aloha's post was such a good one. The responses too. I was hoping we could explore and share or esh (is that the right abbreviation?) some more. I came here not feeling like a co.Never has been my style.As far as my self worth,that was not an issue either. Thankfully I had a life of love and happiness. Anyw...

Loupiness · Loupiness

My 3.5 yr old is perfectly capable of using the potty consistently, but basically doesn't want to. Given all that is going on in our lives, it is on the bottom of my priority list, and in the whole scheme of things, it doesn't matter. He will when he is ready. That said, last night I was getting him ready for...

JenniferN · JenniferN

I can now place myself in the large group of people who have had the privlige to hear a very special woman speak tonight. Her name is Liz Bailey and she is a remarkable woman who's been sober for 56 years. She goes all over North America to speak at AA meetings. If any of you have an opportunity to hear her, TA...

kitty · kitty

I won't be around anymore... . I just wanted to thank everybody for the support & love over the years. love to you all!

Suzannah · Suzannah

What is it about that slogan that, although Al-anon embraces it, it is so hard for some to accept, for others to practice and for some to allow others (like myself to chose) to accept and use and live by? My Sponsor tells me again and again to LET GO and LET GOD and qualifies it as the act of GIVING MY TROUBLES...

maresie · maresie

The place where the A lived last summer is part of the huge fire which is going on in California at the moment. It would normally be totally natural for me to contact him to talk about what is going on there. The people who he lived with (and who I paid rent to) will have lost everything. There is no way they...

Maria123 · Maria123

Friends, It is with a heavy heart that I write this post tonight. Last night, my adopted mom, my very best friend's mom, died after a valiant battle with cancer. We were blessed that she did not suffer very long and died as peacefully as someone with lung cancer does. I was so blessed to have her in my lif...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

My daughter loves Her father even though he has taken her for granted. I love my mom even though that has never meant much to her. Heather's father and my mother have there own motives and motives. I'm not about to take thier inventories. My daughter wishes her dad would spend more time with her. I wished...

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	I am trying to change!! (Preview) I am really trying to be positive and working on "recovery". I am trying to be assertiv e in a loving way. My oldest son (35) more or less accused me of their marriage problems. My Ex AH always mentally abused me. Now I find my son is doing the exact same thing. This I will not except. I tried whe...	meagain	3	589	Jun 1, 2008 by Peggy7
	My First F2F Al-Anon Meeting Today... (Preview) I wanted to say thanks to everyone for encouraging me to go to a face to face Al-Anon meeting. I went this morning. They said I should try to attend 6 meetings in 6 days. I'm not sure where to find one tomorrow, but the place I chose has them every week night, as well as on Saturday. Also, I was told by many...	hush	1	455	Jun 1, 2008 by Peggy7
	Melody B is the best... (Preview) Willpower is not the key to the way of life we are seeking. Surrender is. "I have spent much of my life trying to make people be, do, or feel something they aren't, don't want to do, and choose not to feel. I have made them, and myself, crazy in that process," said one recovering woman. I spe...	Jean4444	7	716	Jun 1, 2008 by kitty
	Good to be back online (Preview) We had severe weather move through on Memorial Day, and before I could get my surge protector unplugged, the lightning struck. Casey's General Store behind me went dark as did my house. It sounded like the earth split in two and I felt a tingling into my fingertips. It actually blew one of my breakers. M...	Tenderheartsks	2	579	May 31, 2008 by Jerry F
	Oh the Ruby Blue!! (Preview) Aloha All!! Took a day to get the time zone, jet lag, blues out of the way and make a report. Ruby Blue (middle name Azulema) is exactly like what a month old doll should be especially when perfectly dressed up by loving Mom and Dad. I had to smile checking out how they are reacting as "new" pare...	Jerry F	13	1260	May 31, 2008 by nmike
	Rehab center information .. Please (Preview) Some time ago in a meeting a lady metioned her son had been helped (then relapsed) by a free treatment center in Louisiana. But she did say it helped him I have not yet seen her again to ask the name of the program. Does anyone know of this or any free or low cost treatment centers. and by the way feed back o...	glad	6	524	May 31, 2008 by Mobirdie
	woman like me commits suicide (Preview) It is so sad and screwed up. she was, maybe 10 years older than me. Her husband had a degenerative disability, and she became his caregiver. They had 3 children, and not alot of money. Her husband was one of the few people in this small town that made freinds with my husband. When my husband started drinki...	RainyJamie	13	905	May 31, 2008 by junehouse
	Whose family is it? (Preview) The recent threads on suicide have reminded me of a learning and awareness that I went through about four years ago.... I had met a friend, in one of my ex's Rehabs - his name was Garry, and he was the most unlikely of all friends for me at the time..... He was a lifelong addict/alcoholic, built like a bodyb...	canadianguy	13	1305	May 31, 2008 by Karilynn
	Al-Anon birthday meeting (Preview) I attended an Al-Anon birthday meeting last night. It was the first Al-Anon birthday meeting I've been to, and actually, it was really very small because at least on this side of the island, the region really hasn't set up any official regular birthday meetings for members like AA does. So, my spons...	Aloha	2	4455	May 30, 2008 by Jerry F
	Why Does it Have to Hurt so Much? (Preview) I wanted to start a new post because I don't want to interrupt someone else's. I hope I get some response, as I'm new to this. I fell in love with an A and I'm struggling. It was his alcoholic grandfather he looked up to, and his own father who was strictly religious and non-alcoholic but very abusive. H...	hush	9	783	May 30, 2008 by hush
	Fell in love with an adult child (Preview) So, I've been dating this girl for about a year. She's an adult child of an alcoholic. I love her and she's been there for me through a lot of tough things, and when we're good together we're really good. But our fights get so bad, it scares me. She has a severe fear of abandonment due to being raised in an alc...	keithw	19	1793	May 30, 2008 by junehouse
	choices (Preview) Tomorrow is going to be one of those days when my inner child just wants to hide under the covers. The kind of day that brings out fear. In the morning I have a meeting with my attorney, who is representing me in a custody case. Who I might add, intimidates me to no end, because she is very direct, matter of...	seekingserenity	7	657	May 30, 2008 by Maria123
	freaking out on positive energy (miraculous) (Preview) I am not quite sure what is happening other than multiple miracles - biggies - in the last 24 or so hours. My b/f bff (known him just a year, he's not in any 12 steps, not an A) anyway... has been talking to, planting seeds w/ my mother... yesterday after 30 years (I'm 40) of being a literal "parrot...	kitty	3	626	May 30, 2008 by leo
	It's good to be back. (Preview) It has taken me nearly a month to recover from the drama I caught myself up in last month during the AA/Al-Anon convention. I became overwhelmed and then gravitated to old habits of wondering what my AH's next moves were going to be... when AH became irritable, I didn't know how to respond and berated my...	Aloha	3	696	May 30, 2008 by Denoraphy
	Do you have reasonable expectations of yourself? (Preview) I have found lately that I am trying to do more than my body or mind can handle. And when I do not accomplish the tasks at hand I feel as if I have failed. When I analyze this , it takes me back to when I lived with my alcoholic, and all my failed attempts to make him sober, thus making me feel inadequate or a com...	gardengal	6	740	May 30, 2008 by Jerry F
	Haven't been on in awhile! (Preview) Hey everyone! I haven't been able to post for some time. I can't remember the last time I did actually! I am doing OK. I have been obsessing over somethings but see how I can change that--get out of my head and do something to help me! I also need to keep in touch with my trusted friends in the program. I ha...	Hoot Nanny	2	554	May 30, 2008 by Jerry F
	Reminding myself...everything depends on my integrity... (Preview) Well, as I continue with this programme, I realise that I have to keep on reminding myself that the steps are there for a purpose and if I take one step at a time in order I will reach the top of the ladder. So, I am now looking at Step 6, and to quote Courage to Change, I realise that it again sets out in simple te...	Suzannah	5	624	May 30, 2008 by kitty
	I'm Going, going...gone (Preview) It is with a heavy heart that I have made the decision to leave my AH. We have been thru so much stuff together, it is unreal. I can't even begin to remember all of it. How we started out so happy, then the drinking got worse, then the silent treatments started, then the yelling started. Then the threats...	Becky1	9	562	May 29, 2008 by kitty
	Why Does it Have to Hurt so Much? (Preview) I wanted to start a new post because I don't want to interrupt someone else's. I hope I get some response, as I'm new to this. I fell in love with an A and I'm struggling. It was his alcoholic grandfather he looked up to, and his own father who was strictly religious and non-alcoholic but very abusive. H...	hush	4	616	May 29, 2008 by hush
	I Wish I Could Have Handled Things Better (Preview) I had the happy opportunity of being reunited with my childhood sweetheart of thirty years ago last year in the summer. It was the happiest I had ever been. He was married 29 years and unhappy, but not yet divorced. This made me feel insecure and vunerable. I also found myself reacting to his mood swings...	Passion84ever	5	1254	May 29, 2008 by Passion84ever
	too far gone, hopeless pt 2 (Preview) Dear Everybody, When I made that post the other day... it was not to say I was leaving MIP, I would never do that, finding al-anon on-line has been a life saver for me. I really, truly thought I was going to 'end it all.' I made my preparations and carried out about half of my plans. Somehow hp got to me v...	kitty	8	805	May 29, 2008 by Karilynn
	Martin Sheen article (Preview) ((((((Family))))), I came across this article on Martin Sheen and how he dealt with his son Charlie's addiction. Go to the aarp website: www.aarpmagazine.org and click on the article. It talks about his own addiction, Alanon and AA. I've always loved Martin Sheen (I secretly harbor a thing for h...	Karilynn	4	590	May 28, 2008 by ddub
	Should I just move on? (Preview) I've never posted something before and not sure how this goes - so I'm just going to write my thoughts and see if there's any feedback or thoughts from anybody... Two years ago I met "Adam", 9 months ago I finally "figured out" he is an alcoholic - he had hidden it and disguised his b...	Beajour	7	651	May 28, 2008 by Jean4444
	Seeing others in pain... (Preview) The (young) new husband of a little girl (20) I care about as family hurt her, by "going on a blind date" messing around online etc. basicly like he missed the fact that he got married?? Anyway this is a kid who fooled all of us with all this talk of marriage and being excited about building a f...	glad	3	550	May 28, 2008 by kitty
	ODAT just leaps out at me (Preview) I had to chuckle the moment I opened ODAT tonight. I usually read it in the morning, but didn't this morning - got busy being a "human doing" today instead of a "human being". I've been feeding myself self-pity nonsense this evening after I found life wasn't going to go the way I...	Aloha	5	645	May 28, 2008 by maresie
	I'm at the end of my rope.... (Preview) It's been a long time since I've been on here but I feel so desperate right now and I need to vent. Almost 4 years ago I left my home and family and moved four states away to marry a man who I met on a Christian website. We communicated for over two years by email, phone calls, and spent about a month together...	Wilted	6	735	May 28, 2008 by maresie
	It's so hard.......... (Preview) I can't remember when the last time it was I was on this board-but anyway I am trying to change my attitude on life! I have started going to a counsellor. I am trying to learn a new way of dealing with my adult sons. On Mothers day my oldest son--more or less blamed me for his whole marriage breakdown. the w...	meagain	2	412	May 28, 2008 by maresie
	I hate sharing this (Preview) but I want other parents to know they are not the only ones. my son has been very absent. I kept some communication. I asked him to come that mothers day sunday,said well call me and let me know. My daughter and grandson were coming. he never called,nothing. I ended up in too much pain to see my daughter. b...	debilyn	3	515	May 28, 2008 by leo
	Spending time around "healthy" people? (Preview) I have been spending some time around people who are happy, content with themselves and their friends and family, have a sense of humor, are not all freaked out and weird all the time. Are predictable and calm and make good decisions. Its quite interesting. I have been seeing this guy (well, now it...	Jean4444	4	677	May 27, 2008 by Jen
	Valued is fundamental need (Preview) I've been reading and feel somewhat validated finding that feeling treasured or valuable is a basic human need. I didn't know that but I sure felt it without knowing how to put it into words. I can see how I became obsessive about caring for others or working too hard or using humor to deflect stress....	ddub	5	482	May 27, 2008 by Jen
	the same man...except for the alcohol (Preview) so I haven't posted anything in so long but sometimes if feels good to vent to people who understand. i have an ex husband and when i left him i was absolutley in love with him BUT i also had two little girls that didn't need to be in a house with an alcoholic. so i commend myself for leaving for them and for my...	lam0204	7	754	May 27, 2008 by lin0606
	saying goodbye (Preview) Tonight I say goodbye to the intern who has been treating me for the past 10 weeks. The 10 weeks flew by. I saw a therapist intern last year who helped me so much when I was leaving the A. Then I had no time or space to see her and that was difficult. I do not do well with goodbyes. I am hoping to get a referral ot...	maresie	2	426	May 27, 2008 by maresie
	Struggling with my feelings.... (Preview) Well I dropped AH off at the correctional facility last night so that he could begin serving his 10 day sentence. I felt sooo sick to my stomach as the big jail doors slammed behind him. I kept it together pretty good, didn't cry till I got to the truck then I prayed to my HP to help me & give me strength...	tma0413	6	568	May 27, 2008 by maresie
	always questioning (Preview) I find myself always questioning my responses to my AH. Rarely do I know if I do it "right". Thus, I find the need to bounce it off here, thinking each episode is a learning experience. We are getting a significant tax return. First time ever and a true blessing. My AH decided he would keep the...	Loupiness	6	593	May 27, 2008 by maresie
	Just wondering out loud (Preview) I had an instance with my mother come up earlier this week that I've been kind of putting on the back burner... something I've been kind of wondering about and that sort of thing. Maybe three weeks ago, when talking with my parents over the phone, my mom mentioned that she'd like to fly out to see me and m...	Aloha	7	446	May 27, 2008 by maresie
	Just dropping in to say hello. (Preview) Life has been crazy busy, and I miss being able to read down through the threads over here, but I do try and read a few during the week. I'm waiting to hear back on my application for grants for college, and whatever isn't covered will be paid by Vocational Rehabilitation, so no more college loans to pay of...	Tenderheartsks	4	585	May 27, 2008 by maresie
	Maybe THIS is his bottom....sigh... (Preview) A went on a binge Thursday morning, walked out of the house, and did not come back. I have gotten to the point that I do not worry; know I should. But he'll be home in a couple of days, repentent, sorry, embarrassed, ashamed, "I'll never drink again." You know the drill. Well....yesterday mor...	Diva	11	825	May 27, 2008 by maresie
	let it begin with me (Preview) I was wondering about that term and found the following in a search; Let there be peace on earth And let it begin with me. It serves as a good reminder when I find myself in a situation where I would tend to react with anger, or judgment, or criticism. Rather than react with anger, I silently sing to myself,...	norwood	4	594	May 27, 2008 by maresie
	update (Preview) I decided that an update was due. I have not been here much as I have been in transition from Hawaii and grad school to back on the mainland, back in the Midwest and back near my AH. Its been a tough transition and the end is not in sight but things are going very well overall. I did decide to get a divorce aft...	Jean4444	7	445	May 27, 2008 by maresie
	dealing with alcoholism appearing everywhere (Preview) Dear all, I have started to build up a social life again and go out a couple of time of week. I had slowly stared a friendship with a woman from the village who I would meet regularly. Last night she texted me to say she was out, she was supposed to be at a concert and I would meet her later. I went up earlier than...	maire rua	8	682	May 27, 2008 by Karilynn
	I think I have a date tonight. (Preview) I was on the old nobody new singles site last night and saw a cute new guy and sent him a message and we ended up talking and it looks like we are going to meet tonight. He just moved here from Mississippi. Sooo we'll see what happens, it sure would be nice to have someone of the manly persuasion to hang out...	carolinagirl	4	598	May 27, 2008 by artygirl
	not so good (Preview) not so happy, down on myself, lonely and how do you love yourself, ..... I feel like a broken record. Progress, then I feel like I am back to square one over and over. Don't even know I am back sliding until I'm back in crazy land & feeling like the odd man out, critical of me & others and negative....	ddub	8	481	May 27, 2008 by nmike
	Memorial Day (Preview) (((((((Family)))))))), Let us take a few minutes between the picnics, the games, and the fun times to remember what this day is really all about. This is not a political post. Hubby was a Navy Seal. This is a post about rememberance. To all who have served, are serving, and will serve in our armed for...	Karilynn	3	400	May 27, 2008 by nmike
	Wondering if I will ever be completely healthy again! (Preview) I am awaiting to go for further surgery on my back after this coming weekend. Each time I hope it will be the last time. Each time, it has proved not to be the case SO FAR. However, I realise that, physical health goes hand in hand with mental health. WOW, did I mention the dreaded word MENTAL health? Jus...	Suzannah	7	682	May 26, 2008 by Jean4444
	Learning to say NO - as a complete sentence. (Preview) Many of you will know that I have had trouble saying NO, let alone saying it as a complete sentence. I am practicing more each day and realise that by saying NO - as a complete sentence - I do not have to justify, explain, struggle with the 'reconsider this...' or ' well have to you thought ...'. I answer qui...	Suzannah	6	1069	May 26, 2008 by glad
	If I only had a brain,heart and courage (Preview) Okay, So I havent posted in a couple days and I am fairley new here.I have been leaning on this site for support and venting and it was working for alittle bit but I have slipped up big time and now I feel like there is absolutley no hope for my AH. I know this but why am i letting this happen? Why did I do this a...	JeannineM	5	697	May 26, 2008 by wildthang86
	Just need to trust (Preview) I am slowly losing my ability to trust, not just in mankind, but in faith also. Nothing has gone right for anyone in my family for several months. My son can't find a job, is living out of town, and losing everything he has. A step- son is living with his grandparents and slowly losing touch with real...	Unsure	4	398	May 26, 2008 by Unsure
	May Meeting Minutes (Preview) Hi everyone, I talked to Mandy and she told me to go ahead and post the minutes from May and we'll be talking about emailing minutes to members at the next meeting. Joni MAY BUSINESS MEETING MINUTES: MIP MAY MINUTES: Chair opened with the Serenity Prayer, 1st on agenda was Secretary report: Due to a...	jonibaloni21	0	369	May 25, 2008 by jonibaloni21
	Business Meeting Time Again (Preview) Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingJune 1, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report ...	Mandy123	0	447	May 25, 2008 by Mandy123
	Round Three..... (Preview) Hi all, With some support from others, some disbelief from others, some fear from others, and (so far) always with love from others, I have made the decision to try again with my A. I don't take this lightly, or without a degree of fear - which I'm hoping to turn into a healthy awareness. I know very few...	round3	10	546	May 25, 2008 by round3
	I Can't Stop wanting to Communicate with my AH (Preview) I am seeking help here. I keep wanting to communicate with my estranged AH. I know that it is a deep seeded WANT and certainly not a need. But it is still there, the desire to communicate with my AH. I remind myself that he doesn't want to talk to me or see me and to respect that. Which I do. But the WANT is still...	wildthang86	6	461	May 25, 2008 by Jean4444
	struggling with vehicles and boundaries. (Preview) I'm having trouble today making a decision. My AH has almost 9 months sober. He is doing great. I am doing great. One problem we keep stumbling over is he won't be proactive about taking care of his vehicle. Now this would not be a problem for me if I had a good vehicle of my own, but I don't. I will asap, but th...	Jen	4	443	May 25, 2008 by Jen
	How does or did addiction of another affect you? (Preview) Aloha's post was such a good one. The responses too. I was hoping we could explore and share or esh (is that the right abbreviation?) some more. I came here not feeling like a co.Never has been my style.As far as my self worth,that was not an issue either. Thankfully I had a life of love and happiness. Anyw...	debilyn	4	698	May 25, 2008 by wildthang86
	Acceptance & Superheroes (Preview) My 3.5 yr old is perfectly capable of using the potty consistently, but basically doesn't want to. Given all that is going on in our lives, it is on the bottom of my priority list, and in the whole scheme of things, it doesn't matter. He will when he is ready. That said, last night I was getting him ready for...	Loupiness	3	447	May 25, 2008 by Peggy7
	Opportunity of a Lifetime (Preview) I can now place myself in the large group of people who have had the privlige to hear a very special woman speak tonight. Her name is Liz Bailey and she is a remarkable woman who's been sober for 56 years. She goes all over North America to speak at AA meetings. If any of you have an opportunity to hear her, TA...	JenniferN	2	490	May 25, 2008 by Jill
	too far gone, hopeless (Preview) I won't be around anymore... . I just wanted to thank everybody for the support & love over the years. love to you all!	kitty	10	687	May 24, 2008 by kitty
	Let Go, Let God... (Preview) What is it about that slogan that, although Al-anon embraces it, it is so hard for some to accept, for others to practice and for some to allow others (like myself to chose) to accept and use and live by? My Sponsor tells me again and again to LET GO and LET GOD and qualifies it as the act of GIVING MY TROUBLES...	Suzannah	21	1078	May 24, 2008 by Suzannah
	not contacting the A no matter what. (Preview) The place where the A lived last summer is part of the huge fire which is going on in California at the moment. It would normally be totally natural for me to contact him to talk about what is going on there. The people who he lived with (and who I paid rent to) will have lost everything. There is no way they...	maresie	2	540	May 23, 2008 by nmike
	my adopted "mom" and my HP (Preview) Friends, It is with a heavy heart that I write this post tonight. Last night, my adopted mom, my very best friend's mom, died after a valiant battle with cancer. We were blessed that she did not suffer very long and died as peacefully as someone with lung cancer does. I was so blessed to have her in my lif...	Maria123	19	780	May 23, 2008 by norwood
	intersections (Preview) My daughter loves Her father even though he has taken her for granted. I love my mom even though that has never meant much to her. Heather's father and my mother have there own motives and motives. I'm not about to take thier inventories. My daughter wishes her dad would spend more time with her. I wished...	seekingserenity	1	354	May 23, 2008 by norwood
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