Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))))))), Let us take a few minutes between the picnics, the games, and the fun times to remember what this day is really all about. This is not a political post. Hubby was a Navy Seal. This is a post about rememberance. To all who have served, are serving, and will serve in our armed for...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I am awaiting to go for further surgery on my back after this coming weekend. Each time I hope it will be the last time. Each time, it has proved not to be the case SO FAR. However, I realise that, physical health goes hand in hand with mental health. WOW, did I mention the dreaded word MENTAL health? Jus...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Many of you will know that I have had trouble saying NO, let alone saying it as a complete sentence. I am practicing more each day and realise that by saying NO - as a complete sentence - I do not have to justify, explain, struggle with the 'reconsider this...' or ' well have to you thought ...'. I answer qui...

JeannineM · JeannineM

Okay, So I havent posted in a couple days and I am fairley new here.I have been leaning on this site for support and venting and it was working for alittle bit but I have slipped up big time and now I feel like there is absolutley no hope for my AH. I know this but why am i letting this happen? Why did I do this a...

Unsure · Unsure

I am slowly losing my ability to trust, not just in mankind, but in faith also. Nothing has gone right for anyone in my family for several months. My son can't find a job, is living out of town, and losing everything he has. A step- son is living with his grandparents and slowly losing touch with real...

jonibaloni21 · jonibaloni21

Hi everyone, I talked to Mandy and she told me to go ahead and post the minutes from May and we'll be talking about emailing minutes to members at the next meeting. Joni MAY BUSINESS MEETING MINUTES: MIP MAY MINUTES: Chair opened with the Serenity Prayer, 1st on agenda was Secretary report: Due to a...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingJune 1, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report ...

round3 · round3

Hi all, With some support from others, some disbelief from others, some fear from others, and (so far) always with love from others, I have made the decision to try again with my A. I don't take this lightly, or without a degree of fear - which I'm hoping to turn into a healthy awareness. I know very few...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

I am seeking help here. I keep wanting to communicate with my estranged AH. I know that it is a deep seeded WANT and certainly not a need. But it is still there, the desire to communicate with my AH. I remind myself that he doesn't want to talk to me or see me and to respect that. Which I do. But the WANT is still...

Jen · Jen

I'm having trouble today making a decision. My AH has almost 9 months sober. He is doing great. I am doing great. One problem we keep stumbling over is he won't be proactive about taking care of his vehicle. Now this would not be a problem for me if I had a good vehicle of my own, but I don't. I will asap, but th...

debilyn · debilyn

Aloha's post was such a good one. The responses too. I was hoping we could explore and share or esh (is that the right abbreviation?) some more. I came here not feeling like a co.Never has been my style.As far as my self worth,that was not an issue either. Thankfully I had a life of love and happiness. Anyw...

Loupiness · Loupiness

My 3.5 yr old is perfectly capable of using the potty consistently, but basically doesn't want to. Given all that is going on in our lives, it is on the bottom of my priority list, and in the whole scheme of things, it doesn't matter. He will when he is ready. That said, last night I was getting him ready for...

JenniferN · JenniferN

I can now place myself in the large group of people who have had the privlige to hear a very special woman speak tonight. Her name is Liz Bailey and she is a remarkable woman who's been sober for 56 years. She goes all over North America to speak at AA meetings. If any of you have an opportunity to hear her, TA...

kitty · kitty

I won't be around anymore... . I just wanted to thank everybody for the support & love over the years. love to you all!

Suzannah · Suzannah

What is it about that slogan that, although Al-anon embraces it, it is so hard for some to accept, for others to practice and for some to allow others (like myself to chose) to accept and use and live by? My Sponsor tells me again and again to LET GO and LET GOD and qualifies it as the act of GIVING MY TROUBLES...

maresie · maresie

The place where the A lived last summer is part of the huge fire which is going on in California at the moment. It would normally be totally natural for me to contact him to talk about what is going on there. The people who he lived with (and who I paid rent to) will have lost everything. There is no way they...

Maria123 · Maria123

Friends, It is with a heavy heart that I write this post tonight. Last night, my adopted mom, my very best friend's mom, died after a valiant battle with cancer. We were blessed that she did not suffer very long and died as peacefully as someone with lung cancer does. I was so blessed to have her in my lif...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

My daughter loves Her father even though he has taken her for granted. I love my mom even though that has never meant much to her. Heather's father and my mother have there own motives and motives. I'm not about to take thier inventories. My daughter wishes her dad would spend more time with her. I wished...

momof3angels · momof3angels

I am just needing to vent...... I am questioning myself as to when is enough enough??? My AH has gotten continually worse with his binge drinking over the past few months. He doesn't drink every day, he usually saves it for the weekend, which turns into a 2-3 day drinking fest. He will disappear "...

maresie · maresie

For some reason today I feel very emotional. I have not heard from my sponsor for a while and my therapy is about to end. Money is huge for me. I have medication which is helping my asthma but no way to pay for it. I am stuck in many ways and in other ways moving forward with lots of options for myself when I had...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

hey... so last night my daughter and I were watching the American Idol final and when the winner was announced she cried because her guy didn't win. She just didn't understand that the world wasn't going to end....Made me remember that when I was that age how things like that were bigger than life to me...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((((Family)))))) Hubby has slipped again. We have talked and talked many times about how he can't stay sober by doing it alone. This morning he is seriously thinking about going back to rehab. I think it's a great idea as his head is so far out of the program that it's not working for him anymore. ...

leo · b

Hi all :) I'm an 18 year old girl with a mother whom is an alcoholic (or an A as you seem to call it on here) and I find it hard as we have a terrible relationship due to her lying all the time and bringing my little brother up poorly etc etc etc and i find it really stressful to manage looking after my brother, the...

glad lee · glad lee

Dear Family, This weekend, I am driving 2 states away to go to my niece's wedding. I have been looking forward to this...it feels like a vacation, a change in routine...my chance to see my family since my divorce was final in March. My children, ages 22 and 23 will be joining me. While their dad (my e...

Aloha · Aloha

In no way am I officially on step number 10 (still plugging away at step one with my sponsor), but I feel each of the twelve steps applies to our lives and should be applied when the time is right, regardless if we've officially "worked" the steps before it or not. I don't want to skip and hop all...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((((Family))))) Today we found out that they caught the guy who caused the motorcycle accident that killed my SIL's friends and injured her brothers wifes sister and her husband. He is being charged with 2 counts of operating while intoxicated causing death punishable by up to 15 years, and 2 cou...

Carlene46 · Carlene46

My husband is very prominant and an alcoholic. Is there a chat room for families of alcoholics ? I need someone to talk to.

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family!! Just a note that Jerry F and his spouse will be out of town and at Ruby's house checking her out for the next week seeing if we size up with her. Can't really spoil her however her Mom and Dad can be proxies. Would like to say that I'll be staying in contact and don't think that there's much of...

charr · charr

My ah has a friend (an A) that is in real bad shape, Whiskey in the morning and so on, knows it all. Anyway he told my ah that he doesn't want to mow his lawn or plant sweet corn or cut wood this year. This is deeply bothering my husband. This friend is 61 and is very bloated, whiskey and beer all day long since iv...

Diva · Diva

Somebody's knockin' Should I let him in? Lord it's the devil Would you look at him I've heard about him But I never dreamed He'd have blue eyes and blue jeans; Somebody's talkin' He's whispering to me Your place or my place Well, which will it be? I'm getting weaker And he's coming on strong But I don't wan...

ddub · ddub

Learning to feel feelings can be really hard especially if you have been raised where you are told not to get angry, don't upset others etc so I am aware but confused. I am angry and in the past, I would blame it on an imaginary person called "george" or something for those times it didn't s...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I met with an attorney today that I really like. She is very very expensive, though ($450/hour). After I told her my story and she told me her spiel I said to her: I just got done with grad school and am actively seeking work but do not have a job yet. I am really worried about your bill. She said she would acce...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Ok so I start my day off with a Joyce Meyer's broadcast and then go to the Alanon meeting online. I have my agenda of things to do already set up, so after meeting I start to work on them. Good for me, right? So I have to contact my AH, or do I? Well I wanted to update him on the dryer, which needs repair work done....

cookie1971 · cookie1971

((((Family))) We got some terrible news. Two young couples from my sister in laws church were involved in a terrible motorcycle accident yesterday. One couple was killed instantly, and the other couple was seriously injured both husband and wife each losing a limb. The two couples had just purchas...

Aloha · Aloha

I'm definitely starting to recognize "the signs" more and more when my AH has been drinking. And it's weird, the differences between his dry spells and his non-dry spells aren't so very different, but there are subtle differences. If that makes any sense at all. Last night I c...

maresie · maresie

I think my life with the A was pretty much either bleak or at the beginning when he really played into seducing me, pretty nicely, (bascially he couldnt' do enough for me for a few weeks and that was the end of that, after that over time he couldnt do anything for me ever unless I begged him until I was exhaus...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I don't know whether this is something that comes of age, however I feel that I have experienced a wonderfully satisfying and completeness of being this very moment. Just looking around me, I have come to realise that I have everything I need, and there is nothing that I want other than to continue in th...

seekingserenity · seekingserenity

hey y'all... so this weekend my family of origin is gathering for a graduation party. I was invited but I have chosen not to go out of self preservation. eel like I'm strong enough yet to deal with a couple family members, my mom and her sister, who are very dysfunctional. Anyway, I feel some sadness th...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

What does it mean when I feel like I don't have anything to say anymore? I have a vision in my mind of the preacher smacking me on the forehead and saying you're healed... LOL

laurab · laurab

I often think what would my life be like if my A Son was not an A. I definately am an enabler. I have cleaned up after my H screwed things up with money, businesses, and all kinds of stuff. I have lied for him, lived hand to mouth with 4 kids while he was so special, he wouldn't run his business from home in a way t...

Aloha · Aloha

This has been sort of an ongoing disagreement I've been seeing occurring between my sponsor and a couple other Al-Anon members whom I respect, as well, in my Al-Anon meetings. One member who is also a sponsor says us Al-Anoners have the disease of alcoholism just as much as the A's in our lives d...

maresie · maresie

I had no idea that part of my obsessional stuff with the A was about trying to control and influence the uncontrollable. I met a man recently who I had some common interests with. He was pretty dogmatic about what he wanted out of the "relationship". I was open and listened and then at some po...

RLC · RLC

Well I have had several post on MIP, over the last month or so, but never a topic. I will give you a little backgroung. My active AW does not work (last 5 yrs) for the reason most of you here can guess. That is not a problem. She goes to at least 6 to 8 AA meetings a week ( last 3 yrs). I know she tries. But she...

amybear · amybear

I really let myself down the other night... sort of... I had planned to attend my first f2f the other night and then chickened out... Sort of a failure in that regard, but I chose to participate in an online meeting here instead... I knew I needed some ESH but I guess I just wasn't ready for it to be the f2f ki...

JenniferN · JenniferN

Being a cashier for about 15 years, my opinion about the general public isn't very flattering. Being a cashier in the "Bible Belt of the South" can be very surprising at times. And last night I had a nice surprise from a gentleman that had just came from some sort of religous service. I said m...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

14 tons of spilled Oreo cookies snarl Ill. traffic Mon May 19, 9:00 AM ET MORRIS, Ill. - Police say a trailer loaded with 14 tons of double-stuffed Oreos has overturned, spilling the cookies still in their plastic sleeves into the median and roadway. Illinois State Police Sgt. Brian Mahoney says the t...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

My AH and I are seperated, not legally or anything like that but living apart. I have communicated with him on several occassions, through text messaging. I thought that would be alright, a lot of control over whether or not to talk or not. But I keep finding myself falling into chats with him where I res...

Loupiness · Loupiness

I am really beginning to see how my past and my present are connected and must mesh together for me to be able to then sort it all out and start to heal. I had a relatively peaceful day, cleaning out my "office" and sorting, organizing and shredding. Then I came across a coloring book that I hav...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

For those of you keeping up with the "saga", I had to tell my 18 year old to leave the house. I had laid down rules for him to go by in order to stay here, one of which he COULD NOT use my car and had to find his own way to school, work and friends, etc.. Well this morning he came to me and wanted to use my c...

CJ098 · CJ098

Hi all, Thank you so much for everyone's posts to my last entry. I'm having a really hard time with my feelings since my AH moved out. I feel happy, not depressed that he's gone. Yet everyone in my life is constantly asking me how I'm doing and worried I'll take him back. I don't understand why everyon...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Yes, my AH is mad at me for the way I had him removed from our home. He says because the way I was so sneaky about it and why didn't I just talk to him about things. He knows the program of AA and I don't think he is real familiar with Alanon but I just told him that I was scared to tell him because he was either drunk...

charr · charr

It is true, my ah is an a. I never wanted to admit it. for 20 years he has never really showed Huge signs of this disease. (maybe i didn't want to see them) They are coming out full force now, (his choice) I am understanding (i think) the progression of Aism, And where he is taking himself. As i am reading the...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I gotta get this out, thanks for listening. I am getting divorced. Just really sad about all the hope and dreams so far gone, so distorted, such a useless waste of energy, etc. So sad, just a lot of tears. I know it will pass. I know it is grief. I know HP is holding me close. I just am having a lot of uncomfor...

glad · glad

The beer companies paint pictures of "hot" young girls, beautiful "rocky mountains" a room full of "friends" etc. Are all these supposed to represent what drinking will "bring' you. What would our ad campains look like?? I always had a picture of cars crashe...

cookie1971 · cookie1971

(((((Family))))) As many of you know, I recently got a new supervisor, and I was very upset because she was my former partner, and we had some very bad feelings between us while she was at my store. As a result of all of these problems she was moved to another store. I was really afraid that things woul...

debilyn · debilyn

Ok,some of you know I live in a bunkhouse on the end of my barn. I use a toilet you put bags in..... gross, but functional. BUT guess what!!! I sold my FannieAlice to be a breeder to a very nice knowledgeable PLUMBER!! I asked him if he would trade putting a toilet in here for me. He quickly said no problem!!!...

glad · glad

Regarding last post: Hope you guys don't get sick of my "drama" but.... I just realized I need to be thankful, I tried to set boundries, he got offended And he told me so: that is an emotion, He told me about an emotion!!! He told me it made him feel like he was being treated like a baby. He used the...

JenniferN · JenniferN

Reality: working in a gas station as a cashier for $7/hr instead of in the field I spent the last year in school for Dream world: Perfect job, perfect boss, perfect peers Reality: Not being able to take care of my kids because I can't even take care of myself right now Dream World: Having the faculites to c...

glad · glad

The proof is in the end result. The proof is in the way we live our lives. The road to poverty with us is paved with good intentions, for us. We contantly struggle with being out of cash due to paying todays expenses with money that is due tomorrow. He was uspset with me for messing up a good night last nigh...

tma0413 · tma0413

Well the A was sentenced today for his DUI/snowmobile in January. Huge fine...and 10 days in jail/work release. He is to start serving his time next Friday. While it kills me to think that he will be away from the family for 10 (8) days, I am trying to think positive....at least it is ONLY 8 days. But...

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	Memorial Day (Preview) (((((((Family)))))))), Let us take a few minutes between the picnics, the games, and the fun times to remember what this day is really all about. This is not a political post. Hubby was a Navy Seal. This is a post about rememberance. To all who have served, are serving, and will serve in our armed for...	Karilynn	3	320	May 27, 2008 by nmike
	Wondering if I will ever be completely healthy again! (Preview) I am awaiting to go for further surgery on my back after this coming weekend. Each time I hope it will be the last time. Each time, it has proved not to be the case SO FAR. However, I realise that, physical health goes hand in hand with mental health. WOW, did I mention the dreaded word MENTAL health? Jus...	Suzannah	7	600	May 26, 2008 by Jean4444
	Learning to say NO - as a complete sentence. (Preview) Many of you will know that I have had trouble saying NO, let alone saying it as a complete sentence. I am practicing more each day and realise that by saying NO - as a complete sentence - I do not have to justify, explain, struggle with the 'reconsider this...' or ' well have to you thought ...'. I answer qui...	Suzannah	6	978	May 26, 2008 by glad
	If I only had a brain,heart and courage (Preview) Okay, So I havent posted in a couple days and I am fairley new here.I have been leaning on this site for support and venting and it was working for alittle bit but I have slipped up big time and now I feel like there is absolutley no hope for my AH. I know this but why am i letting this happen? Why did I do this a...	JeannineM	5	615	May 26, 2008 by wildthang86
	Just need to trust (Preview) I am slowly losing my ability to trust, not just in mankind, but in faith also. Nothing has gone right for anyone in my family for several months. My son can't find a job, is living out of town, and losing everything he has. A step- son is living with his grandparents and slowly losing touch with real...	Unsure	4	323	May 26, 2008 by Unsure
	May Meeting Minutes (Preview) Hi everyone, I talked to Mandy and she told me to go ahead and post the minutes from May and we'll be talking about emailing minutes to members at the next meeting. Joni MAY BUSINESS MEETING MINUTES: MIP MAY MINUTES: Chair opened with the Serenity Prayer, 1st on agenda was Secretary report: Due to a...	jonibaloni21	0	294	May 25, 2008 by jonibaloni21
	Business Meeting Time Again (Preview) Hello ((((Family)))) This Sunday evening is the monthly business meeting (9pm CST), I hope you can make it! Please try to be there!!! Here is the agenda for the meeting! MIP Al-Anon Business MeetingJune 1, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report ...	Mandy123	0	367	May 25, 2008 by Mandy123
	Round Three..... (Preview) Hi all, With some support from others, some disbelief from others, some fear from others, and (so far) always with love from others, I have made the decision to try again with my A. I don't take this lightly, or without a degree of fear - which I'm hoping to turn into a healthy awareness. I know very few...	round3	10	461	May 25, 2008 by round3
	I Can't Stop wanting to Communicate with my AH (Preview) I am seeking help here. I keep wanting to communicate with my estranged AH. I know that it is a deep seeded WANT and certainly not a need. But it is still there, the desire to communicate with my AH. I remind myself that he doesn't want to talk to me or see me and to respect that. Which I do. But the WANT is still...	wildthang86	6	387	May 25, 2008 by Jean4444
	struggling with vehicles and boundaries. (Preview) I'm having trouble today making a decision. My AH has almost 9 months sober. He is doing great. I am doing great. One problem we keep stumbling over is he won't be proactive about taking care of his vehicle. Now this would not be a problem for me if I had a good vehicle of my own, but I don't. I will asap, but th...	Jen	4	366	May 25, 2008 by Jen
	How does or did addiction of another affect you? (Preview) Aloha's post was such a good one. The responses too. I was hoping we could explore and share or esh (is that the right abbreviation?) some more. I came here not feeling like a co.Never has been my style.As far as my self worth,that was not an issue either. Thankfully I had a life of love and happiness. Anyw...	debilyn	4	622	May 25, 2008 by wildthang86
	Acceptance & Superheroes (Preview) My 3.5 yr old is perfectly capable of using the potty consistently, but basically doesn't want to. Given all that is going on in our lives, it is on the bottom of my priority list, and in the whole scheme of things, it doesn't matter. He will when he is ready. That said, last night I was getting him ready for...	Loupiness	3	376	May 25, 2008 by Peggy7
	Opportunity of a Lifetime (Preview) I can now place myself in the large group of people who have had the privlige to hear a very special woman speak tonight. Her name is Liz Bailey and she is a remarkable woman who's been sober for 56 years. She goes all over North America to speak at AA meetings. If any of you have an opportunity to hear her, TA...	JenniferN	2	419	May 25, 2008 by Jill
	too far gone, hopeless (Preview) I won't be around anymore... . I just wanted to thank everybody for the support & love over the years. love to you all!	kitty	10	604	May 24, 2008 by kitty
	Let Go, Let God... (Preview) What is it about that slogan that, although Al-anon embraces it, it is so hard for some to accept, for others to practice and for some to allow others (like myself to chose) to accept and use and live by? My Sponsor tells me again and again to LET GO and LET GOD and qualifies it as the act of GIVING MY TROUBLES...	Suzannah	21	974	May 24, 2008 by Suzannah
	not contacting the A no matter what. (Preview) The place where the A lived last summer is part of the huge fire which is going on in California at the moment. It would normally be totally natural for me to contact him to talk about what is going on there. The people who he lived with (and who I paid rent to) will have lost everything. There is no way they...	maresie	2	464	May 23, 2008 by nmike
	my adopted "mom" and my HP (Preview) Friends, It is with a heavy heart that I write this post tonight. Last night, my adopted mom, my very best friend's mom, died after a valiant battle with cancer. We were blessed that she did not suffer very long and died as peacefully as someone with lung cancer does. I was so blessed to have her in my lif...	Maria123	19	680	May 23, 2008 by norwood
	intersections (Preview) My daughter loves Her father even though he has taken her for granted. I love my mom even though that has never meant much to her. Heather's father and my mother have there own motives and motives. I'm not about to take thier inventories. My daughter wishes her dad would spend more time with her. I wished...	seekingserenity	1	276	May 23, 2008 by norwood
	When is it enough? (Preview) I am just needing to vent...... I am questioning myself as to when is enough enough??? My AH has gotten continually worse with his binge drinking over the past few months. He doesn't drink every day, he usually saves it for the weekend, which turns into a 2-3 day drinking fest. He will disappear "...	momof3angels	7	419	May 23, 2008 by wildthang86
	Sad, angry lonely in total HALT (mentions Rescue) (Preview) For some reason today I feel very emotional. I have not heard from my sponsor for a while and my therapy is about to end. Money is huge for me. I have medication which is helping my asthma but no way to pay for it. I am stuck in many ways and in other ways moving forward with lots of options for myself when I had...	maresie	3	547	May 23, 2008 by maire rua
	the innocence of a child (Preview) hey... so last night my daughter and I were watching the American Idol final and when the winner was announced she cried because her guy didn't win. She just didn't understand that the world wasn't going to end....Made me remember that when I was that age how things like that were bigger than life to me...	seekingserenity	3	529	May 23, 2008 by barisax
	Prayers for rehab. (Preview) (((((((Family)))))) Hubby has slipped again. We have talked and talked many times about how he can't stay sober by doing it alone. This morning he is seriously thinking about going back to rehab. I think it's a great idea as his head is so far out of the program that it's not working for him anymore. ...	Karilynn	17	546	May 23, 2008 by leo
	Hello I'm new :) (Preview) Hi all :) I'm an 18 year old girl with a mother whom is an alcoholic (or an A as you seem to call it on here) and I find it hard as we have a terrible relationship due to her lying all the time and bringing my little brother up poorly etc etc etc and i find it really stressful to manage looking after my brother, the...	b	6	546	May 23, 2008 by leo
	Family wedding boundaries (Preview) Dear Family, This weekend, I am driving 2 states away to go to my niece's wedding. I have been looking forward to this...it feels like a vacation, a change in routine...my chance to see my family since my divorce was final in March. My children, ages 22 and 23 will be joining me. While their dad (my e...	glad lee	7	377	May 23, 2008 by Jen
	...and when we were wrong, promptly admitted it. (Preview) In no way am I officially on step number 10 (still plugging away at step one with my sponsor), but I feel each of the twelve steps applies to our lives and should be applied when the time is right, regardless if we've officially "worked" the steps before it or not. I don't want to skip and hop all...	Aloha	3	1017	May 23, 2008 by cookie1971
	MORE NEWS ABOUT ACCIDENT (Preview) ((((((Family))))) Today we found out that they caught the guy who caused the motorcycle accident that killed my SIL's friends and injured her brothers wifes sister and her husband. He is being charged with 2 counts of operating while intoxicated causing death punishable by up to 15 years, and 2 cou...	cookie1971	6	387	May 22, 2008 by cookie1971
	Need a chat room (Preview) My husband is very prominant and an alcoholic. Is there a chat room for families of alcoholics ? I need someone to talk to.	Carlene46	2	323	May 22, 2008 by rtexas
	Just a note.... (Preview) Aloha Family!! Just a note that Jerry F and his spouse will be out of town and at Ruby's house checking her out for the next week seeing if we size up with her. Can't really spoil her however her Mom and Dad can be proxies. Would like to say that I'll be staying in contact and don't think that there's much of...	Jerry F	11	442	May 22, 2008 by Loupiness
	My AH and his AFriend Question (Preview) My ah has a friend (an A) that is in real bad shape, Whiskey in the morning and so on, knows it all. Anyway he told my ah that he doesn't want to mow his lawn or plant sweet corn or cut wood this year. This is deeply bothering my husband. This friend is 61 and is very bloated, whiskey and beer all day long since iv...	charr	4	573	May 21, 2008 by Christy
	This is Bad, Bad Bill...... (Preview) Somebody's knockin' Should I let him in? Lord it's the devil Would you look at him I've heard about him But I never dreamed He'd have blue eyes and blue jeans; Somebody's talkin' He's whispering to me Your place or my place Well, which will it be? I'm getting weaker And he's coming on strong But I don't wan...	Diva	7	671	May 21, 2008 by Jill
	anger, martyr or self pity? (Preview) Learning to feel feelings can be really hard especially if you have been raised where you are told not to get angry, don't upset others etc so I am aware but confused. I am angry and in the past, I would blame it on an imaginary person called "george" or something for those times it didn't s...	ddub	9	771	May 21, 2008 by maresie
	HP blessed me today (Preview) I met with an attorney today that I really like. She is very very expensive, though ($450/hour). After I told her my story and she told me her spiel I said to her: I just got done with grad school and am actively seeking work but do not have a job yet. I am really worried about your bill. She said she would acce...	Jean4444	5	453	May 21, 2008 by maresie
	Just need to vent... (Preview) Ok so I start my day off with a Joyce Meyer's broadcast and then go to the Alanon meeting online. I have my agenda of things to do already set up, so after meeting I start to work on them. Good for me, right? So I have to contact my AH, or do I? Well I wanted to update him on the dryer, which needs repair work done....	wildthang86	3	381	May 21, 2008 by maresie
	Prayers Requested (Preview) ((((Family))) We got some terrible news. Two young couples from my sister in laws church were involved in a terrible motorcycle accident yesterday. One couple was killed instantly, and the other couple was seriously injured both husband and wife each losing a limb. The two couples had just purchas...	cookie1971	7	331	May 21, 2008 by Leetle
	Open eyes (Preview) I'm definitely starting to recognize "the signs" more and more when my AH has been drinking. And it's weird, the differences between his dry spells and his non-dry spells aren't so very different, but there are subtle differences. If that makes any sense at all. Last night I c...	Aloha	3	458	May 21, 2008 by Loupiness
	shades of grey rather than black and white (Preview) I think my life with the A was pretty much either bleak or at the beginning when he really played into seducing me, pretty nicely, (bascially he couldnt' do enough for me for a few weeks and that was the end of that, after that over time he couldnt do anything for me ever unless I begged him until I was exhaus...	maresie	3	620	May 21, 2008 by wildthang86
	Counting my blessings (Preview) I don't know whether this is something that comes of age, however I feel that I have experienced a wonderfully satisfying and completeness of being this very moment. Just looking around me, I have come to realise that I have everything I need, and there is nothing that I want other than to continue in th...	Suzannah	7	449	May 20, 2008 by Maria123
	a tinge (Preview) hey y'all... so this weekend my family of origin is gathering for a graduation party. I was invited but I have chosen not to go out of self preservation. eel like I'm strong enough yet to deal with a couple family members, my mom and her sister, who are very dysfunctional. Anyway, I feel some sadness th...	seekingserenity	3	307	May 20, 2008 by cookie1971
	What does it mean? (Preview) What does it mean when I feel like I don't have anything to say anymore? I have a vision in my mind of the preacher smacking me on the forehead and saying you're healed... LOL	carolinagirl	5	447	May 20, 2008 by Loupiness
	Did I need to live in crazyland? (Preview) I often think what would my life be like if my A Son was not an A. I definately am an enabler. I have cleaned up after my H screwed things up with money, businesses, and all kinds of stuff. I have lied for him, lived hand to mouth with 4 kids while he was so special, he wouldn't run his business from home in a way t...	laurab	2	389	May 20, 2008 by maresie
	The disease of alcoholism - do we have it, too? (Preview) This has been sort of an ongoing disagreement I've been seeing occurring between my sponsor and a couple other Al-Anon members whom I respect, as well, in my Al-Anon meetings. One member who is also a sponsor says us Al-Anoners have the disease of alcoholism just as much as the A's in our lives d...	Aloha	12	2818	May 20, 2008 by Diva
	really commiting to the three C's (Preview) I had no idea that part of my obsessional stuff with the A was about trying to control and influence the uncontrollable. I met a man recently who I had some common interests with. He was pretty dogmatic about what he wanted out of the "relationship". I was open and listened and then at some po...	maresie	5	397	May 20, 2008 by maresie
	My First Topic Posted (Preview) Well I have had several post on MIP, over the last month or so, but never a topic. I will give you a little backgroung. My active AW does not work (last 5 yrs) for the reason most of you here can guess. That is not a problem. She goes to at least 6 to 8 AA meetings a week ( last 3 yrs). I know she tries. But she...	RLC	4	520	May 20, 2008 by Jerry F
	Working up your courage... for your first f2f (Preview) I really let myself down the other night... sort of... I had planned to attend my first f2f the other night and then chickened out... Sort of a failure in that regard, but I chose to participate in an online meeting here instead... I knew I needed some ESH but I guess I just wasn't ready for it to be the f2f ki...	amybear	9	622	May 20, 2008 by canadianguy
	Surprising People (Preview) Being a cashier for about 15 years, my opinion about the general public isn't very flattering. Being a cashier in the "Bible Belt of the South" can be very surprising at times. And last night I had a nice surprise from a gentleman that had just came from some sort of religous service. I said m...	JenniferN	2	264	May 20, 2008 by debilyn
	Of all the times to NOT have milk! (Preview) 14 tons of spilled Oreo cookies snarl Ill. traffic Mon May 19, 9:00 AM ET MORRIS, Ill. - Police say a trailer loaded with 14 tons of double-stuffed Oreos has overturned, spilling the cookies still in their plastic sleeves into the median and roadway. Illinois State Police Sgt. Brian Mahoney says the t...	Tiger2006	3	463	May 19, 2008 by cookie1971
	Do I want an AH or ex-husband? (Preview) My AH and I are seperated, not legally or anything like that but living apart. I have communicated with him on several occassions, through text messaging. I thought that would be alright, a lot of control over whether or not to talk or not. But I keep finding myself falling into chats with him where I res...	wildthang86	5	662	May 19, 2008 by amybear
	me and Raggedy Ann (Preview) I am really beginning to see how my past and my present are connected and must mesh together for me to be able to then sort it all out and start to heal. I had a relatively peaceful day, cleaning out my "office" and sorting, organizing and shredding. Then I came across a coloring book that I hav...	Loupiness	6	397	May 19, 2008 by Jean4444
	Starting to question my abilities to cope... (Preview) For those of you keeping up with the "saga", I had to tell my 18 year old to leave the house. I had laid down rules for him to go by in order to stay here, one of which he COULD NOT use my car and had to find his own way to school, work and friends, etc.. Well this morning he came to me and wanted to use my c...	wildthang86	14	755	May 19, 2008 by maresie
	A's love to make you feel guilty (Preview) Hi all, Thank you so much for everyone's posts to my last entry. I'm having a really hard time with my feelings since my AH moved out. I feel happy, not depressed that he's gone. Yet everyone in my life is constantly asking me how I'm doing and worried I'll take him back. I don't understand why everyon...	CJ098	8	1214	May 19, 2008 by maresie
	My AH is mad at me....boohoo!! I love me more and more each day (Preview) Yes, my AH is mad at me for the way I had him removed from our home. He says because the way I was so sneaky about it and why didn't I just talk to him about things. He knows the program of AA and I don't think he is real familiar with Alanon but I just told him that I was scared to tell him because he was either drunk...	wildthang86	4	691	May 19, 2008 by maresie
	My awakening (Preview) It is true, my ah is an a. I never wanted to admit it. for 20 years he has never really showed Huge signs of this disease. (maybe i didn't want to see them) They are coming out full force now, (his choice) I am understanding (i think) the progression of Aism, And where he is taking himself. As i am reading the...	charr	4	564	May 19, 2008 by maresie
	so sad (Preview) I gotta get this out, thanks for listening. I am getting divorced. Just really sad about all the hope and dreams so far gone, so distorted, such a useless waste of energy, etc. So sad, just a lot of tears. I know it will pass. I know it is grief. I know HP is holding me close. I just am having a lot of uncomfor...	Jean4444	16	498	May 19, 2008 by maresie
	What would your advertisement look like?? (Preview) The beer companies paint pictures of "hot" young girls, beautiful "rocky mountains" a room full of "friends" etc. Are all these supposed to represent what drinking will "bring' you. What would our ad campains look like?? I always had a picture of cars crashe...	glad	6	647	May 19, 2008 by Tiger2006
	GOOD NEWS!! (Preview) (((((Family))))) As many of you know, I recently got a new supervisor, and I was very upset because she was my former partner, and we had some very bad feelings between us while she was at my store. As a result of all of these problems she was moved to another store. I was really afraid that things woul...	cookie1971	4	307	May 19, 2008 by Tiger2006
	I got dumped on.....by HP (Preview) Ok,some of you know I live in a bunkhouse on the end of my barn. I use a toilet you put bags in..... gross, but functional. BUT guess what!!! I sold my FannieAlice to be a breeder to a very nice knowledgeable PLUMBER!! I asked him if he would trade putting a toilet in here for me. He quickly said no problem!!!...	debilyn	8	670	May 18, 2008 by cookie1971
	Blessed and almost missed it!!!! (Preview) Regarding last post: Hope you guys don't get sick of my "drama" but.... I just realized I need to be thankful, I tried to set boundries, he got offended And he told me so: that is an emotion, He told me about an emotion!!! He told me it made him feel like he was being treated like a baby. He used the...	glad	2	418	May 18, 2008 by Maria123
	Reality Stinks (Preview) Reality: working in a gas station as a cashier for $7/hr instead of in the field I spent the last year in school for Dream world: Perfect job, perfect boss, perfect peers Reality: Not being able to take care of my kids because I can't even take care of myself right now Dream World: Having the faculites to c...	JenniferN	4	479	May 18, 2008 by glad
	The proof is in the way we live our lives! (Preview) The proof is in the end result. The proof is in the way we live our lives. The road to poverty with us is paved with good intentions, for us. We contantly struggle with being out of cash due to paying todays expenses with money that is due tomorrow. He was uspset with me for messing up a good night last nigh...	glad	1	686	May 18, 2008 by nmike
	What happens from here.... (Preview) Well the A was sentenced today for his DUI/snowmobile in January. Huge fine...and 10 days in jail/work release. He is to start serving his time next Friday. While it kills me to think that he will be away from the family for 10 (8) days, I am trying to think positive....at least it is ONLY 8 days. But...	tma0413	4	460	May 18, 2008 by tma0413
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