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louise13 · louise13

today he went to bed without getting stoned. with the strenght that im gaining i have told him that its no longer acceptable to smoke drugs in or around the home and i feel great. i know that the road ahead is long and there will bad days but i now know with certain clarity that i have strength, when it comes t...

hope for me n you · hope for me n you

well i just posted this morning on how i used to think if my a and i were separated he would basically run out and begin to share the gifts we receive with others and basically spread serenity wherever he goes .. this was my insanity .. for him to suddenly become sane because why ? i was making him insane ?? th...

Codependent · Codependent

Talked to his mom today. She is torn- well, after talking to me she is torn. I think her original plan was to bond him out as he had asked and then go get him tonight. I do realize that I do not walk in her shoes, but did give my opinion since she asked and told her I didn't believe that bailing him out was necc h...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone I havent visited the site for a while computer probs and been really busy working on me. I have been attending f2f meetings sometimes more than once a week, reading lots and lots of alanon literature and been soaking up tools from my sponsor. Slowely but surely I have realised just how pow...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

My AS will not work, won't or can't get up in time to go to a job. He calls me everyday for money, tells me if he doesn't get any money from me he will go hungry. I know I should not give him the money, but I am afraid he will go without food. My friend says that I should not be afraid to let him go without, and that h...

masspedirn · masspedirn

Hello everyone, I have been lingering in the shadows here, reading posts and commenting when something hits home or I need to vent. I wanted to share with whoever is in a similar situation, that not only does the program work if you keep at it, but stopping the enabling behaviors really do help those we...

maresie · maresie

One thing I am super clear on going into this year is that I am no longer willing to on any level give my power away to another person and let my life go under again. I will be years making it back to beyond survival. For me that will mean that I really have to look at teh whole way I give myself away to others. I...

louise13 · louise13

Hi This is my first time and im desperate. I have been with my husband for 17years and married for 11. We have 2 beautiful children together. I dont want to leave him because I love him but I dont want this life for myself and our kids. He has smoked pot the whole time we have been together and in the beginning...

Codependent · Codependent

Well, he called today from jail and I went ahead and answered it. Had this vivid dream about him last night and was actually reading posts when he called. Anyway, I told him that I had quit drinking- which he already knew- his mom had told him. He told me he thought that was a good decision, etc. Part of th...

glad · glad

When you are bored or lonely and just feel like fighting with them to get some kind of "live" response. When you just feel disappointed that there isn't normal conversation and "normal" stuff in your life. Besides read alanon lit. call sponsor etc. What are some fun things you g...

3boysandonegirl · 3boysandonegirl

I just wanted to let everyone know that I finally attended my first meeting. There was nothing magical or exciting about it initally, just average people like myself - but as the meeting progressed I was so glad that I came and can't wait to get back. I was so very encouraged by the strong women and me...

louise13 · louise13

my husband smokes dope on our balcony. he does this when our daughter is either in her room or in the bath/shower. he will often encourage her to disappear, in a way that she isnt aware. of course i know the games that he is playing. i often divert her so that she doesnt find him. i think that im protecting he...

jade · jade

It all happened about 12 years ago when i was 11yrs old and my mum had twin girls with her parnter at the time, Mark. She suffered postnatal depression but my family have a moto of not showing you are weak and therefore she never got help for it. Around this time she and Mark began drinking quite heavily at n...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

Hernia surgery was more extensive yesterday as it was twice the size surgeon expected, so he had to use mesh to repair. Thank God youngest AD has been around to help. I have a drain in until Monday, of course no showers till then, and wearing a binder to help with the pain. I try to stay away from any strong n...

artygirl · artygirl

Today is CarolinaGirl's birthday! Best wishes for a very happy birthday... you deserve the best! Love,Artygirl.

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Tonight is the Business Meeitng. Here is the agenda I have as of now. Sorry so late in posting this. MIP Al-Anon Business Meeting January 11, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report: Ap...

hope for me n you · hope for me n you

i had an interesting conversation with someone in e-mail from alanon .. after i posted my last topic, My daughter's dad is going to prison .. i felt uncomfortable .. the reason i think is because i pretty much just announced his inventory to the whole room .. it would of been better if i put a different su...

Sincerely · Sincerely

July of 08 I came here very hurt, angry and confused. I had money in hand and I was leaving my A. I met my new family here at MIP and was given some great tools, heard others experience and shares and words of wisdom and was advised not to make any major decisions for 6 months. I was strongly advised to get a...

Gailey · Gailey

I have a younger sister who is an alcoholic. A few nights ago my older sister was telling me that she thinks it is worse than what we know because she was speaking with younger sister's husband. She was in a panic and told me we need to do something. I was getting angry as I have been in Alanon long enoug...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

On the 4th of this month, I celebrated my 23rd Alanon birthday. I am so blessed to be a member of this wonderful fellowship! It has been a rough time getting to this place in my life but I am very grateful. I haven't always been active in Alanon all these years but I tell ya the time I have been attending meeti...

cdb19 · cdb19

Hello Friends :) Finally, I feel like I am walking the walk while listening to my higher power who for me is God. It did help to leave the site and go into other aspects of my 12 step work that were needed in order to have a solid and firm recovery. These were face to face situations too and not only online. T...

kbrixham · kbrixham

I have been harboring anger and bitterness most of my life. My relatives, primarily three had inappropriate sexual contact with me. With one of these individuals it went on from approx. 8-16 years of age. My mother did not know about it at the time, however when I was in my late 20's and started to try...

luvinmom · luvinmom

I really can put myself first. My son went to court thursday, they sent him to an overnight program then were sending him to a 3/4 house for 30 days. His probation officer called to tell us so that we would not worry when he did not return. Today at 7 pm he called to tell us where he was. We said how much we lo...

RLC · RLC

Hello All, At times over the years I have taken life way to serious. I worried about all those things that I had no control over. Being a fixer as most of us are, I spent a lot of time and effort fixing others problems. I worried about what I would do if this or that happened. Just this week as I sat in my Mond...

Rora · Rora

The history is that Ah and I separated in Oct and have been on again , off again. We spent the holidays together. Never had a talk about him moving back in or not. The other day he said, while we had company, that he's gonna start moving his stuff back in. I didn't respond. The night went on, kids in bed,...

AIOmaha · AIOmaha

-- Edited by AIOmaha at 16:10, 2009-01-10

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I had not really been thinking about it at all but then looked at the date and there was something familiar about it...geesh! Well, I knew you guys would understand the complication of this- the good memories/thoughts and the grief of the loss of it, etc. back and forth a little but not really too much....

Higglytown · Higglytown

Where do I even begin... My older brother is 50 years old, married with two young children and an alcoholic. My parents have always bailed him out of any trouble that he got into. The last five years have been the worst. Every few months he would call my Mom and beg (con) her out of money. My parents are...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

For the past two days I have felt "off", not sad, unhappy or any of those things-just "off". Been sticking with my program and working the steps and reading and couldn't get rid of the "off" feeling. I used HALT (thank you Tricia) and figured out that I was feeling...

meagain · meagain

DH and myself are leaving on Sat. for a much deserved 2 week holiday to Mexico.I am so looking forward to both of us relaxing and "renewing" our relationship. But deep down.. I know its sticking thinkin..but I feel kinda guilty. We have 5 kids and spouses and GK's and no one is having a easy ti...

hope for me n you · hope for me n you

thank you to those of you who supported me with this last doctor's visit .. First off, i would have Never walked through the doors without the loving support of my f2f meetings, my online e-meeting, and finding this site to share in .. I can sigh a breath of relief just for today .. I know we never know wha...

NoVARaif · NoVARaif

Good evening all. I want to thank you all for being here, for I come tonight with a heavy heart. As many of you know, I discovered MIP over a year ago when looking for online meetings I could attend while traveling on business. Since walking through these virtual doors, I have made many friends here, and...

Robinks · Robinks

Today, I am working on step one, I am powerless.... have to remember this always.

maresie · maresie

I'm finding I have a cascade effect when I get into the "victim" role. Christmas was daunting. I got into self pity, then went into procrastination. Now I have more to do. In order not to be in "victim" I have to be absolutely scrupulous about really adhering to a program. I hav...

Lanchas · Lanchas

I need help with the meeting in the teen room 2nite. i attend meetings i dont run them so i could really use some help in any please. its at 8pm EST. Lanchas

buick23 · buick23

Just wanted to give an update on the court date. The judge asked for us to try and mediate before going into the courtroom. We came up with a good plan without problems. I had been trying to do this with my ex for many years and he always denied. I know that it helped that the guardian was there and she guided u...

luvinmom · luvinmom

Have alcoholic son, 20, still new to Alanon. Really practicing at detachment. Working at not giving "helpful reminders" and "R u OK? haven't heard from u" phone calls. He is not permitted to live at our house but can eat, shower wash clothes here (boundaries are good). ...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Testing In Progress...... 10 years and counting...life with an A....still in progress Met A's family, all addicts. passed, check Took care of A's mother while dieing with cancer. passed, check A had an affair. passed, check He filed for divorce, didn't divorce. passed, check I filed for divorce, d...

luvinmom · luvinmom

Son had court this morning for probation violation. Case could have been dismissed in 6 mos if he had kept his nose clean. The probation officer called me to let me know that son would not be coming home because they sent him to a Jump Start program. Then they are sending him to 3/4 housing. They even f...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Cannot believe a year has passed since I sent in my papers and yet it has and in just ten days time my appeal takes place. Another year of barely making ends meet, and yet I have survived it with the help of caring friends who have rallied to my side. Today, yet again my friend and I sat through ANOTHER gruell...

luvinmom · luvinmom

This morning my son stopped by to drop off his car before going to court. He was on probation, then got an an OUI. He had the arraignment for the OUI on the 5th. Today is court for possible revocation for probation. I know at the arraignment he had a long discussion with the prosecutor about handling b...

JulieSDgirl · JulieSDgirl

So this is my first time here. I got married to an alcoholic at the young age of 22. Fast forward 12 years and we have 2 children (ages 7 and 4). My husband has been sober for about 16 months. I had had enough, filed for divorce and he went into rehab. I was supportive of his rehab and held his hand the enti...

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

It's good as always to come here and read the experience, strength, and hope of others. The holidays were very low key and pleasant for us. Youngest AD had arthroscopy on her right knee on the 30th of December, and they ended up doing extensive shaving in there, so on New Year's Eve, she was home with me, l...

debilyn · debilyn

The septic guys were all so funny and nice. Some idiot had "spliced" the power cord from the pump to the power source! Also the last tenants poured GREASE down the drain and clogged it up! $980 almost all my mortgage. So I have to gather up money at the end of the month and the first to make it. But...

rocky · rocky

I'm having a tuff time thinking that I still can't influence my 21 year old child to seek help. I understand it's her decision and I have even had argumrnts with my wife about another child, our oldest son, and how it's obvious he needs to learn on it his own, that speaking to him won't do any good. ANd ac...

missing out · missing out

Well, today went a little better then yesterday, the phone didn't ring near as much at work and I do enjoy my work but when you have some many distractions that happen ALL day long it can be tough for me seeing as I have a hard enough time consintrating on the NOW... BUT... I got some things done and felt pre...

debilyn · debilyn

Put my main house up for rent, next day the septic pump to drainfield died. $500-$900. Went to AH's court. Found out he has cancer, oral cancer. Was given a months extension to do his chemo etc. LIke he will make it. He then goes to prison. I cannot imagine him living thru this to go to prison, then to die in p...

buick23 · buick23

My daughter just came to me to talk cuz she couldn't sleep because all of this court stuff was bothering her. It felt good that she came to me on her own and I assured her (as I always have before) that I will always love her no matter how things turn out. She said that she wants me to be proud of her and I told he...

luvinmom · luvinmom

I feel so good!

Lyndie · Lyndie

Hi gang. Sorry I haven't been around, was busy with the holidays and then had a major panic attack the Fri. after Christmas that left me feeling blah for days. It's getting to the point where I just don't care anymore. My husband decided it was more important to have 150.00 headphones than pay the mortg...

Canary · Canary

Hi all. I am new here and happy to have a place to come while I am at home. To make a long story short, my husband and I have been together 13 years. The first 4 were rough. On and off drinking on his part only for him to go to rehab and have 9 years of sobriety. During that 9 year period, we married...bought a hous...

missing out · missing out

Well... I don't really no were to begin with this one.... I have been try'n for the last month to get my mind straight, and I just can't... My Father is/was an A... I lost him this past thanksgiving, and ever since I can not swing the fact that I am SOOO Extremely Pissed at him, and I don't know what to do with m...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Just having an "off" day and don't know why. I would imagine it could be readjusting/withdrawing from meds, and that I can cope with. But I think it is more about projecting today and thinking about the ex. I was thinking back to 3 mths ago and how crappy I felt most of the time, and t...

babysteps · babysteps

It has been a long time since I have been on MIP. Here is a quick summary: I have been married for 10 years to my AH. He went to rehab in '05, relapsed immediately upon return. Finally started taking AA seriously in '08, would be sober for 30 days, drink for 30 days... Then he achieved 72 days of sobriety only...

buick23 · buick23

I am going to our final courtdate on Thursday to get divorced and for custody decision of my daugther. We talked with the guardian yesterday and my daugther wants to live with her dad. She has said that a month ago and I thought it was just a phase because of me and her dad having to talk to her about problems...

Pantera · Pantera

My apparently sober AH came home from the halfway house last week. He said he was laid-off at his job? Hmmm... I had told him repeatedly I was not ready to try to live with him yet, and that's why he was staying at the halfway house after rehab (second time through). I have been looking for a place of my o...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

Hi MIP family! For a while now I've been thinking about doing step 4 again. When I first did it last year, I used an alanon book that helped me think through my inventory - a workbook of soughts. It was very helpful. Over the weekend, I took a look at what I noted down as my character defects and really ha...

missing out · missing out

OK long story short...My husband and myslef run our own business, this year make 20 years for my husband, and we try really hard in todays world to run it the way it should run to survive in todays crazy world... I have told my family, (Mother, sister,brother) all thee above, ONLY call me at work IF there...

Wittsend · Wittsend

I don't know what type of lawyer to see, it looks like he has a lung clot and a brain clot, if he lives, what should I do so that I don't lose the house if he has to go into a facility?

maresie · maresie

There is a show on A & E called Intervention. When I first started watching it my eyes were on the alcoholic and the addict and how terrible it all was. Now my eyes are on the codependents, the family system that "enables" them. I'm so aware of how much I can be like them. I've gone from b...

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	a good day (Preview) today he went to bed without getting stoned. with the strenght that im gaining i have told him that its no longer acceptable to smoke drugs in or around the home and i feel great. i know that the road ahead is long and there will bad days but i now know with certain clarity that i have strength, when it comes t...	louise13	0	351	Jan 13, 2009 by louise13
	My daughter's dad is going to prison (Preview) well i just posted this morning on how i used to think if my a and i were separated he would basically run out and begin to share the gifts we receive with others and basically spread serenity wherever he goes .. this was my insanity .. for him to suddenly become sane because why ? i was making him insane ?? th...	hope for me n you	3	505	Jan 13, 2009 by cdb19
	His mom...bailing him out (Preview) Talked to his mom today. She is torn- well, after talking to me she is torn. I think her original plan was to bond him out as he had asked and then go get him tonight. I do realize that I do not walk in her shoes, but did give my opinion since she asked and told her I didn't believe that bailing him out was necc h...	Codependent	3	636	Jan 13, 2009 by cdb19
	up date (Preview) Hi everyone I havent visited the site for a while computer probs and been really busy working on me. I have been attending f2f meetings sometimes more than once a week, reading lots and lots of alanon literature and been soaking up tools from my sponsor. Slowely but surely I have realised just how pow...	Tracy	4	509	Jan 12, 2009 by Jerry F
	What Am I Afraid Of??? (Preview) My AS will not work, won't or can't get up in time to go to a job. He calls me everyday for money, tells me if he doesn't get any money from me he will go hungry. I know I should not give him the money, but I am afraid he will go without food. My friend says that I should not be afraid to let him go without, and that h...	DreamsOver	9	637	Jan 12, 2009 by Jerry F
	Stopping the enabling is sooo hard, but in the end it is sooo worth it (Preview) Hello everyone, I have been lingering in the shadows here, reading posts and commenting when something hits home or I need to vent. I wanted to share with whoever is in a similar situation, that not only does the program work if you keep at it, but stopping the enabling behaviors really do help those we...	masspedirn	2	612	Jan 12, 2009 by Marshmallow
	from fearful supergluedness to adamant independence (Preview) One thing I am super clear on going into this year is that I am no longer willing to on any level give my power away to another person and let my life go under again. I will be years making it back to beyond survival. For me that will mean that I really have to look at teh whole way I give myself away to others. I...	maresie	6	651	Jan 12, 2009 by maresie
	my husband is a pot addict (Preview) Hi This is my first time and im desperate. I have been with my husband for 17years and married for 11. We have 2 beautiful children together. I dont want to leave him because I love him but I dont want this life for myself and our kids. He has smoked pot the whole time we have been together and in the beginning...	louise13	10	1515	Jan 12, 2009 by maresie
	I answered the phone (Preview) Well, he called today from jail and I went ahead and answered it. Had this vivid dream about him last night and was actually reading posts when he called. Anyway, I told him that I had quit drinking- which he already knew- his mom had told him. He told me he thought that was a good decision, etc. Part of th...	Codependent	5	470	Jan 12, 2009 by maresie
	What do you do? (Preview) When you are bored or lonely and just feel like fighting with them to get some kind of "live" response. When you just feel disappointed that there isn't normal conversation and "normal" stuff in your life. Besides read alanon lit. call sponsor etc. What are some fun things you g...	glad	5	631	Jan 12, 2009 by maresie
	my first f2f meeting (Preview) I just wanted to let everyone know that I finally attended my first meeting. There was nothing magical or exciting about it initally, just average people like myself - but as the meeting progressed I was so glad that I came and can't wait to get back. I was so very encouraged by the strong women and me...	3boysandonegirl	5	381	Jan 12, 2009 by canadianguy
	aiding his addiction? (Preview) my husband smokes dope on our balcony. he does this when our daughter is either in her room or in the bath/shower. he will often encourage her to disappear, in a way that she isnt aware. of course i know the games that he is playing. i often divert her so that she doesnt find him. i think that im protecting he...	louise13	3	396	Jan 12, 2009 by kismetstrand
	My mum is an alcoholic and i dont know how to help her (Preview) It all happened about 12 years ago when i was 11yrs old and my mum had twin girls with her parnter at the time, Mark. She suffered postnatal depression but my family have a moto of not showing you are weak and therefore she never got help for it. Around this time she and Mark began drinking quite heavily at n...	jade	4	770	Jan 12, 2009 by Lanchas
	Quick check-in post-op (Preview) Hernia surgery was more extensive yesterday as it was twice the size surgeon expected, so he had to use mesh to repair. Thank God youngest AD has been around to help. I have a drain in until Monday, of course no showers till then, and wearing a binder to help with the pain. I try to stay away from any strong n...	Tenderheartsks	6	534	Jan 11, 2009 by buick23
	Birthday wishes (Preview) Today is CarolinaGirl's birthday! Best wishes for a very happy birthday... you deserve the best! Love,Artygirl.	artygirl	3	425	Jan 11, 2009 by buick23
	Business meeting tonight (Preview) Tonight is the Business Meeitng. Here is the agenda I have as of now. Sorry so late in posting this. MIP Al-Anon Business Meeting January 11, 2008Open with Serenity PrayerSecretary's Report: Ap...	Mandy123	0	301	Jan 11, 2009 by Mandy123
	focusing on me (Preview) i had an interesting conversation with someone in e-mail from alanon .. after i posted my last topic, My daughter's dad is going to prison .. i felt uncomfortable .. the reason i think is because i pretty much just announced his inventory to the whole room .. it would of been better if i put a different su...	hope for me n you	4	465	Jan 11, 2009 by hope for me n you
	6 Months and counting (Preview) July of 08 I came here very hurt, angry and confused. I had money in hand and I was leaving my A. I met my new family here at MIP and was given some great tools, heard others experience and shares and words of wisdom and was advised not to make any major decisions for 6 months. I was strongly advised to get a...	Sincerely	3	349	Jan 11, 2009 by serendipity
	my older sister wants me to engage in someone's problem (Preview) I have a younger sister who is an alcoholic. A few nights ago my older sister was telling me that she thinks it is worse than what we know because she was speaking with younger sister's husband. She was in a panic and told me we need to do something. I was getting angry as I have been in Alanon long enoug...	Gailey	3	481	Jan 11, 2009 by Karilynn
	Another year; another Alanon birthday! (Preview) On the 4th of this month, I celebrated my 23rd Alanon birthday. I am so blessed to be a member of this wonderful fellowship! It has been a rough time getting to this place in my life but I am very grateful. I haven't always been active in Alanon all these years but I tell ya the time I have been attending meeti...	Hoot Nanny	4	408	Jan 11, 2009 by RLC
	Finally Walking the Walk :) (Preview) Hello Friends :) Finally, I feel like I am walking the walk while listening to my higher power who for me is God. It did help to leave the site and go into other aspects of my 12 step work that were needed in order to have a solid and firm recovery. These were face to face situations too and not only online. T...	cdb19	2	570	Jan 10, 2009 by nmike
	Struggling to forgive (Preview) I have been harboring anger and bitterness most of my life. My relatives, primarily three had inappropriate sexual contact with me. With one of these individuals it went on from approx. 8-16 years of age. My mother did not know about it at the time, however when I was in my late 20's and started to try...	kbrixham	7	689	Jan 10, 2009 by nmike
	Did I really Say That? (Preview) I really can put myself first. My son went to court thursday, they sent him to an overnight program then were sending him to a 3/4 house for 30 days. His probation officer called to tell us so that we would not worry when he did not return. Today at 7 pm he called to tell us where he was. We said how much we lo...	luvinmom	7	576	Jan 10, 2009 by nmike
	It Finally Dawned On Me (Preview) Hello All, At times over the years I have taken life way to serious. I worried about all those things that I had no control over. Being a fixer as most of us are, I spent a lot of time and effort fixing others problems. I worried about what I would do if this or that happened. Just this week as I sat in my Mond...	RLC	6	710	Jan 10, 2009 by hope for me n you
	Ughh...just so lost and unmanageable today.... (Preview) The history is that Ah and I separated in Oct and have been on again , off again. We spent the holidays together. Never had a talk about him moving back in or not. The other day he said, while we had company, that he's gonna start moving his stuff back in. I didn't respond. The night went on, kids in bed,...	Rora	3	653	Jan 10, 2009 by Karilynn
	Thanks (Preview) -- Edited by AIOmaha at 16:10, 2009-01-10	AIOmaha	5	1217	Jan 10, 2009 by missing out
	Today used to be my wedding anniversary... (Preview) I had not really been thinking about it at all but then looked at the date and there was something familiar about it...geesh! Well, I knew you guys would understand the complication of this- the good memories/thoughts and the grief of the loss of it, etc. back and forth a little but not really too much....	Jean4444	7	635	Jan 9, 2009 by maresie
	Am I doing the right thing? (Preview) Where do I even begin... My older brother is 50 years old, married with two young children and an alcoholic. My parents have always bailed him out of any trouble that he got into. The last five years have been the worst. Every few months he would call my Mom and beg (con) her out of money. My parents are...	Higglytown	6	617	Jan 9, 2009 by Higglytown
	What has been wrong is nothing is wrong!!!UGHHHHH (Preview) For the past two days I have felt "off", not sad, unhappy or any of those things-just "off". Been sticking with my program and working the steps and reading and couldn't get rid of the "off" feeling. I used HALT (thank you Tricia) and figured out that I was feeling...	shellyj123	1	598	Jan 9, 2009 by RLC
	Sign of the times... (Preview) DH and myself are leaving on Sat. for a much deserved 2 week holiday to Mexico.I am so looking forward to both of us relaxing and "renewing" our relationship. But deep down.. I know its sticking thinkin..but I feel kinda guilty. We have 5 kids and spouses and GK's and no one is having a easy ti...	meagain	5	514	Jan 9, 2009 by maresie
	My Doctor Results (Preview) thank you to those of you who supported me with this last doctor's visit .. First off, i would have Never walked through the doors without the loving support of my f2f meetings, my online e-meeting, and finding this site to share in .. I can sigh a breath of relief just for today .. I know we never know wha...	hope for me n you	1	632	Jan 9, 2009 by missing out
	Stepping down, effective immediately, as a meeting co-chair (Preview) Good evening all. I want to thank you all for being here, for I come tonight with a heavy heart. As many of you know, I discovered MIP over a year ago when looking for online meetings I could attend while traveling on business. Since walking through these virtual doors, I have made many friends here, and...	NoVARaif	2	355	Jan 9, 2009 by John
	What step am I working today? (Preview) Today, I am working on step one, I am powerless.... have to remember this always.	Robinks	1	473	Jan 9, 2009 by serendipity
	procrastination (Preview) I'm finding I have a cascade effect when I get into the "victim" role. Christmas was daunting. I got into self pity, then went into procrastination. Now I have more to do. In order not to be in "victim" I have to be absolutely scrupulous about really adhering to a program. I hav...	maresie	3	739	Jan 9, 2009 by maire rua
	meeting help needed (Preview) I need help with the meeting in the teen room 2nite. i attend meetings i dont run them so i could really use some help in any please. its at 8pm EST. Lanchas	Lanchas	1	471	Jan 9, 2009 by Jerry F
	court is over with (Preview) Just wanted to give an update on the court date. The judge asked for us to try and mediate before going into the courtroom. We came up with a good plan without problems. I had been trying to do this with my ex for many years and he always denied. I know that it helped that the guardian was there and she guided u...	buick23	7	757	Jan 8, 2009 by nmike
	Detached but Supportive - How can you be both? (Preview) Have alcoholic son, 20, still new to Alanon. Really practicing at detachment. Working at not giving "helpful reminders" and "R u OK? haven't heard from u" phone calls. He is not permitted to live at our house but can eat, shower wash clothes here (boundaries are good). ...	luvinmom	5	562	Jan 8, 2009 by kitty
	Testing In Progress (Preview) Testing In Progress...... 10 years and counting...life with an A....still in progress Met A's family, all addicts. passed, check Took care of A's mother while dieing with cancer. passed, check A had an affair. passed, check He filed for divorce, didn't divorce. passed, check I filed for divorce, d...	Sincerely	5	611	Jan 8, 2009 by Sincerely
	HP looking out for son (Preview) Son had court this morning for probation violation. Case could have been dismissed in 6 mos if he had kept his nose clean. The probation officer called me to let me know that son would not be coming home because they sent him to a Jump Start program. Then they are sending him to 3/4 housing. They even f...	luvinmom	7	728	Jan 8, 2009 by Rocky38
	Time ticks away so slowly and then... (Preview) Cannot believe a year has passed since I sent in my papers and yet it has and in just ten days time my appeal takes place. Another year of barely making ends meet, and yet I have survived it with the help of caring friends who have rallied to my side. Today, yet again my friend and I sat through ANOTHER gruell...	Suzannah	4	596	Jan 8, 2009 by maire rua
	Court today (Preview) This morning my son stopped by to drop off his car before going to court. He was on probation, then got an an OUI. He had the arraignment for the OUI on the 5th. Today is court for possible revocation for probation. I know at the arraignment he had a long discussion with the prosecutor about handling b...	luvinmom	5	558	Jan 8, 2009 by Jerry F
	Newly Separated after supporting husband through rehab (Preview) So this is my first time here. I got married to an alcoholic at the young age of 22. Fast forward 12 years and we have 2 children (ages 7 and 4). My husband has been sober for about 16 months. I had had enough, filed for divorce and he went into rehab. I was supportive of his rehab and held his hand the enti...	JulieSDgirl	10	3256	Jan 8, 2009 by jeanmarie
	An update from Kansas... (Preview) It's good as always to come here and read the experience, strength, and hope of others. The holidays were very low key and pleasant for us. Youngest AD had arthroscopy on her right knee on the 30th of December, and they ended up doing extensive shaving in there, so on New Year's Eve, she was home with me, l...	Tenderheartsks	5	569	Jan 8, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	another boring update (Preview) The septic guys were all so funny and nice. Some idiot had "spliced" the power cord from the pump to the power source! Also the last tenants poured GREASE down the drain and clogged it up! $980 almost all my mortgage. So I have to gather up money at the end of the month and the first to make it. But...	debilyn	3	505	Jan 8, 2009 by maresie
	Does powerless imply non-influencial? (Preview) I'm having a tuff time thinking that I still can't influence my 21 year old child to seek help. I understand it's her decision and I have even had argumrnts with my wife about another child, our oldest son, and how it's obvious he needs to learn on it his own, that speaking to him won't do any good. ANd ac...	rocky	11	617	Jan 8, 2009 by glad lee
	To another good day.... (Preview) Well, today went a little better then yesterday, the phone didn't ring near as much at work and I do enjoy my work but when you have some many distractions that happen ALL day long it can be tough for me seeing as I have a hard enough time consintrating on the NOW... BUT... I got some things done and felt pre...	missing out	3	545	Jan 8, 2009 by Suzannah
	Everything will be ok? (Preview) Put my main house up for rent, next day the septic pump to drainfield died. $500-$900. Went to AH's court. Found out he has cancer, oral cancer. Was given a months extension to do his chemo etc. LIke he will make it. He then goes to prison. I cannot imagine him living thru this to go to prison, then to die in p...	debilyn	13	505	Jan 8, 2009 by Suzannah
	feeling somewhat better and calmer (Preview) My daughter just came to me to talk cuz she couldn't sleep because all of this court stuff was bothering her. It felt good that she came to me on her own and I assured her (as I always have before) that I will always love her no matter how things turn out. She said that she wants me to be proud of her and I told he...	buick23	4	681	Jan 8, 2009 by Suzannah
	After an f2f meeting... (Preview) I feel so good!	luvinmom	4	520	Jan 8, 2009 by abbyal
	update on me (Preview) Hi gang. Sorry I haven't been around, was busy with the holidays and then had a major panic attack the Fri. after Christmas that left me feeling blah for days. It's getting to the point where I just don't care anymore. My husband decided it was more important to have 150.00 headphones than pay the mortg...	Lyndie	3	690	Jan 7, 2009 by Jerry F
	New here. Asked husband to leave for good. Devastated yet proud. (Preview) Hi all. I am new here and happy to have a place to come while I am at home. To make a long story short, my husband and I have been together 13 years. The first 4 were rough. On and off drinking on his part only for him to go to rehab and have 9 years of sobriety. During that 9 year period, we married...bought a hous...	Canary	10	2162	Jan 7, 2009 by Marley's Mom
	Lost my father to A last month how do I let go of the anger that gets me down everyday???? (Preview) Well... I don't really no were to begin with this one.... I have been try'n for the last month to get my mind straight, and I just can't... My Father is/was an A... I lost him this past thanksgiving, and ever since I can not swing the fact that I am SOOO Extremely Pissed at him, and I don't know what to do with m...	missing out	10	526	Jan 7, 2009 by missing out
	Could someone please help me with this board???? (Preview) Just having an "off" day and don't know why. I would imagine it could be readjusting/withdrawing from meds, and that I can cope with. But I think it is more about projecting today and thinking about the ex. I was thinking back to 3 mths ago and how crappy I felt most of the time, and t...	shellyj123	4	585	Jan 7, 2009 by missing out
	Update (Preview) It has been a long time since I have been on MIP. Here is a quick summary: I have been married for 10 years to my AH. He went to rehab in '05, relapsed immediately upon return. Finally started taking AA seriously in '08, would be sober for 30 days, drink for 30 days... Then he achieved 72 days of sobriety only...	babysteps	6	457	Jan 7, 2009 by artygirl
	court coming up (Preview) I am going to our final courtdate on Thursday to get divorced and for custody decision of my daugther. We talked with the guardian yesterday and my daugther wants to live with her dad. She has said that a month ago and I thought it was just a phase because of me and her dad having to talk to her about problems...	buick23	7	609	Jan 7, 2009 by buick23
	AH wants everything to go back to normal (Preview) My apparently sober AH came home from the halfway house last week. He said he was laid-off at his job? Hmmm... I had told him repeatedly I was not ready to try to live with him yet, and that's why he was staying at the halfway house after rehab (second time through). I have been looking for a place of my o...	Pantera	9	599	Jan 7, 2009 by maresie
	Another look at step 4 (Preview) Hi MIP family! For a while now I've been thinking about doing step 4 again. When I first did it last year, I used an alanon book that helped me think through my inventory - a workbook of soughts. It was very helpful. Over the weekend, I took a look at what I noted down as my character defects and really ha...	Rocky38	3	636	Jan 7, 2009 by abbyal
	Just a small Vent.... (Preview) OK long story short...My husband and myslef run our own business, this year make 20 years for my husband, and we try really hard in todays world to run it the way it should run to survive in todays crazy world... I have told my family, (Mother, sister,brother) all thee above, ONLY call me at work IF there...	missing out	3	615	Jan 7, 2009 by maresie
	He's in the last stage (Preview) I don't know what type of lawyer to see, it looks like he has a lung clot and a brain clot, if he lives, what should I do so that I don't lose the house if he has to go into a facility?	Wittsend	6	693	Jan 7, 2009 by maresie
	Intervention (Preview) There is a show on A & E called Intervention. When I first started watching it my eyes were on the alcoholic and the addict and how terrible it all was. Now my eyes are on the codependents, the family system that "enables" them. I'm so aware of how much I can be like them. I've gone from b...	maresie	10	838	Jan 7, 2009 by maresie
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