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I don't know what type of lawyer to see, it looks like he has a lung clot and a brain clot, if he lives, what should I do so that I don't lose the house if he has to go into a facility?
usually the local bar association has a panel of lawyers you can go to one at a low fee to ask for a low fee initial consultaton. You can also call the local legal aid association. They can give you a referral to someone local.
My work has an EAP (Employee Assistance Program) where you can get free legal advice. If you're currently employed you can inquire about it with your Human Resources dept. Also, if your husband has held a job his work could have the program and anyone sharing a residence with him is entitled to the service. There are other services included as well, but it sounds like legal advice is the most pressing right now.
I'm sorry I don't have any specific ideas or experience with your question, but I do have some experience in dealing with an AH with a life-threatening illness as my AH had a very serious stroke last year.
All I can offer is to make sure you are looking after you. I know we say that all the time on MIP, but I mean this in a very basic way. I sometimes forgot to eat and sleep and found it really hard to deal with things because I wasn't taking care of myself. Take snacks to the hospital, take breaks, go home for a nap and accept the help of others. I also forgot to pay our regular bills, which made quite a mess for me to later clean up. I think the alanon slogan of "first things first" really applies here. Good luck with getting legal advice.
I don't know where you are. If USA marisie is right.
Also in most states a "legal Separation" means you are married only, and not responsible for any of his debts.
Also do not sign anything!!!!! I mean at the hospital, ambulance anything. I know in Oregon spouses are NOT liable for each others debts! I know, have lost two husbands. The one now has debts and I am not responsible for any of them.
They have to provide help for him no matter what. You just don't do anything!!
I know where you are. My AH has stage IV-V cancer, and last stage aism.
There is also a ombudsman program that may be able to help you. I hope you will access all the services you can to help you through this difficult time.
