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Inpain · Inpain

I went to my individual counselor today. I told her things have been going well in my marriage despite what we have faced in the past 4 months and it's because I'm desperately trying to understand myself and why I control things and trying to let go of that. I have decided to not even ask my husband about...

glad lee · glad lee

I found a powerful quote last week that has stayed with me ever since: "Nothing can be more demoralizing than a clinging and abject dependence upon another human being. This often amounts in the demand for a degree of protection and love that no one could possibly satisfy. So our hope for prote...

maresie · maresie

When I was in a relationship the crucial moments for me was when he said he loved me and when the noun "we" came up. The sooner the better. The crucial moments weren't did we have anything in common, did he have stabiity, did he have an anger issue, did he have a substance abuse problem, did h...

QOD · QOD

My son is in juvie & it has really taken it's toll on me. I thought he'd go to juvie, I'd go visit him a few times and that would be that. But it is so complicated. There are set visitation days and hours. I have to provide him w/any medicine he may need. I even had to make an appt to go in and cut his hair...

chezza · chezza

Hello people Am feeling very emotional tonight as i've been very honest about my feeling to people very close to me this week. I feel I have let loose stuff from inside of me though it does feel incredibly uncomfortable. I have hurt my moms feeling cause I was honest in saying I did not want to go on holida...

J.R. · J.R.

I havent been around too much to post like I used to, but I have been getting in some reading here and there. I just wanted to leave a note to let any who were wondering where I was, so that they wouldnt worry too much and know that I was doing well.

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Take a look at Jerry's recent post on ESH. As always it's honest, encouraging and full of knowledge. I came across a daily reading from our: Courage to Change for April 15. It talks about Alanon's position on safety. Here's part of it: "....Alanon's position is that we must e...

hort7 · hort7

Here's the situation. My A husband had been sober 9 months, attends AA 2-3 times weekly, 2 times with his homegroup. After his meeting the other night, he brought up the fact that a lady in his homegroup is unemployed and has a soft top on her Jeep that is held together by duct tape. It leaks and is miserabl...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Haven't been here for a bit, still trying to find my way back to my program. Haven't let go of it and feel stronger daily but still a far cry from where I need to be. ExABF has told a mutual friend that he will need to be contacting me at some point to get his things (the only things he has left at my house is his g...

haasity · haasity

I have just started my journey into my healing process. I'm just starting counseling and trying to learn as much as I can. I've learned I am quite co dependent. I've also learned I am an ACOA. My husband just came out of rehab the beginning of the month for alcohol. has gone to one meeting, and has drank a co...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I have this incredible urge to just get the heck out of town. Since we had to cancel our Hawaii trip, I feel like I've been jipped out of a vacation. I am thinking about driving to San Diego (it's a 6-hour drive from here). I think it would be nice to sit on the beach and maybe take our son to Sea World. My hu...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Hi MIP family. I'm having a HALT moment (ok, a lot of them in a row) today and just need to vent. I'm Hurt, Angry, Lonely and Tired. So here's the story: Last night my AH is telling me about his gig that he played Saturday afternoon. They had a good crowd, everybody loves them, etc, etc.... Some of our frie...

maresie · maresie

I've manged to get some dental insurance. As you all know getting the card and so being able to begin the treatment takes a while. Of course I want the card yesterday. I've always done this and had no idea how destructive this kind of obsessing is! Maresie.

StephanieKay · StephanieKay

Hello all. My name is Stephanie and I'm a 26 - year old daughter of a recovering addict. Make that a daughter, niece, granddaughter, sister, etc of several current / recovering addicts. I have found this place after many years of detaching. The purpose I want to achieve is to let go of the hurt and be...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family....I was out side doing some carpentry stuff and just focusing and then free wheeling with my brain and then I got locked up on some current events that are growing here in the islands and also up where you all are at. Lots of guns sales. Lots of angry out of control guys out there with guns. ...

HangingOn · HangingOn

Hi All...AH came home from 30 day rehab yesterday. He is saying all the right things and attended AA last night and tonight. I left him alone for 1.5 hours tonight after he returned from his AA meeting. When I got back he seemed high. He took one 100 mg. seroquel (provided by his rehab doc) and claimed...

florida · florida

tried to sign up for DUI class (first time offense) in Florida. Told since it was a MA license I need to do the MA hours requirement. In FL first DUI is 12 hrs, subsequent is 22? - anyone know the amount in MA? I may need to take the 2nd offense DUI class hours YES I got stuck for my boyfriends DUI! changed seats...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Well, I finally took the kids to visit my ex ah. He was released from prison about 6 weeks ago and is living in an oxford house. He paid $500 on his child support this month and I agreed to bring them down to see him. He took them to the beach and out shopping and the kids had a good day. Even the oldest went (...

GypsyRose71 · GypsyRose71

Well, I just wanted to say helllo to all the al-anon members, i have been one for a few years though havent posted in a long time, much has happened since my last post, My A has been on and off the wagon, he made it 16 months, since then he has struggled to get back to where he was. I have learned a lot in the past...

Gailey · Gailey

I had a nice weekend planned at our beach home in Delaware. The weather was about 75 degrees on Saturday. My older A son went to NC for a fishing tournament. My youngerr A son lives in Japan. I could not settle my mind thinking that things were not right with either one of them. I was awake half the night on Sa...

debilyn · debilyn

debilyn here. Karilynn I am so sad about the theft. You are such a nice person and I know you took it hard. When I think about how my aunt did not give me my gma's rings as gma wanted..rrrr I think how I had a special love with grama. I am like you and hold sentimental value for my jewely from others. My daughter...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So, I went with my AH to the beach this easter weekend. Had fun. This is the fist vacation since I got pregnant that he didn't get drunk. Our daughter is so attached to him, she cries when he leaves for the supermarket. As I posted before, we are not currently living together, although we do have a relation...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Although I've mostly posted about my life with my AH, I have a brother who is an A too. His disease came to a head about the same time as my AH's (about 3 yrs ago) but emotionally I could just barely handle my own life. It became obvious very early on that there was nothing I could do but add to my craziness. M...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

I know some of you out there have dealt with or are dealing with an A who has a disease or condition that normally would require them to stop drinking and the keep drinking anyway. The way of their addiction/disease. My Ah has cardiomyopathy, thickening of the heart muscle, this is partially due to untr...

clara · clara

To say I am exhausted would be putting it mildly. Some of you remember my post about my friend being in the hospital. She is in a medically induced coma. I think they are waiting for her sister from California to get to her bedside. Then they plan on disconnecting life support. My friend fought the go...

chezza · chezza

Hello everyone I'd like to share with you people who have helped me so much through your continued posting on here sharing what's really going on. I yesterday realised how far along the way I come due to working my program. I openly admitted fault to playing games and the lying about my deepest feeling...

rosepaull07 · rosepaull07

Hi, I'm rose. I have been to about 3 Al Anon meetings but haven't gone in 3 weeks. Im kind of in a slump and cant seem to make myself do anything. Ive been reading the board for the past few days and decided I want to write. Im hoping there will be some inspirational words here for me, but if not that maybe just...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... Happy Sunday too ya all... I am in a slump...I have stend two days this weekend, trim grass at Dad's and going thru all his belongings, it is draining me of all I have left...I think I spent half the afternoon here once I got back going to his old clothes, see what I can pass on and give away to good wil...

MissyPoo · MissyPoo

I'm new to posting but have been lurking for a while. You have all been very insirational and helpful. I see a myself in all of you. I have been using detachment and boundaries for a while now, and it finally had an impact on my AH. He finally understood over the weekend that he has a huge problem, and...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), My mother's jewlery was taken from my apartment. I noticed this morning when I went to look for a specific pair of earrings and I couldn't find them. I thought I had leant them to my niece for her vacation and couldn't remember doing so. When I went to look for them in my box I noticed some o...

alanonicScotland · alanonicScotland

Dear All, Thank you to the people who facilitate this. I am going to just give it a whirl, and am grateful for the opportuinty. I moved to the UK four years ago and W-O-W are there some cultural differences. Istarted my recovery in NEw York City. I am very much in stress over how to proceed with my recovery...

Ness · Ness

Before I found the ES&H here at MIP, and my f2f meetings, I would not have been able to do what I'm doing now to give support to my son. I feel I have progressed (slowly), step by step, since January when the days seemed so dark I didn't want to get out of bed ever again. In detaching from my A son's d...

Rora · Rora

I've been thinking a lot about acceptance lately. I've always considered myself as one whom is pretty in touch with reality...funny, "considered" does not necessarily mean truth. Having given it further thought, I think that what I do when I don't like my reality or when I find it painfu...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I had mentioned to my husband the other day that I was thinking about going to the 2009 Arizona Area Al-Anon/Alateen Convention being held June 5 - 7 in Tucson. I wasn't sure if I could definitely go since I wasn't sure what my husband's schedule would be like (whether or not he'd be back to work by then)...

TheArtOf · TheArtOf

My former spouse has been fighting the disease for going on ten years. Finally, last year she entered a treatment program to which she bought in to; admitting to herself that she has a problem and wanting to overcome it. She completed that treatment last fall and has had a relapse or two along the way....

clara · clara

A very good friend of mine is in the hospital and is not expected to live. I have known Helen for over 27 years. She and her husband were the first friendship my husband and I formed after we first got married. She survived cancer only to probably die from pneumonia. She is on a respirator and cannot sp...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Good morning my family. Needless to say, it hasn't been a fun couple of days. I am still uncomfortable in my home. Even though there was no forced entry I am sleeping with a light on in the other room. I am double checking my locks, etc. I know this is normal after this. It's gonna take s...

david62 · david62

Good morning, (((Family))) Today is the 5 yr anniversary of the first time I drug myself to a recovery meeting. This meeting was at an AA/Al-Anon conference that my now ex-wife's sponsor asked my ex to suggest I attend. I will be leaving after lunch today to go to that very same conference (I have made...

jiver76 · jiver76

When my (now sober) Abf and I got back together last year I think we were both being niave and unrealistic. I think we thought it would all work out now that he's sober. Unfortunately it's harder than both of us thought it would be. And I think that might be mainly down to me. I'm finding it hard to trust...

RLC · RLC

Hello All, Taking care of yourself first was one of the first things I heard when I walked through the doors of Al-Anon 2 1/2 years ago. After a few meetings it hit home with me and I have done my best to do that very thing. Yet, I was reminded once again last Tuesday night at my Al-Anon meeting that I don't al...

Jozie · Jozie

I haven't been much of a help these last couple of days to anyone, including myself, those that are following along with my "Drama" Know that it has been Long & Drug out when it comes to Abrother, and Deseased Afather's belongings... I am starting to feel more Strength in the things I am g...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

My husband will more than likely be getting out of detox today (been in since Friday). He doesn't want to stay at the facility for their In-Patient program because he's already done that (3 years ago). He said that he plans to go to AA meetings until he can find an Out-Patient Program that works for him...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Yes, PURRRRRFECTION is better than PERFECTION NO, I have NOT LOST THE PLOT: read on... The last couple of weeks have been trying to say the least, however, I am now quite certain that the programme is beginning to work for me in a most incredible way. Some of you will know that my relationship with my daug...

Inpain · Inpain

None of my friends would call me an introvert. However in the past few months, I'm a hermit. I hate leaving my house. My husband has cheated on me and I honestly felt like I had PTSD. I have a very hard time leaving the house. The phone will ring and it shakes me to the core. I'm VERY happy in my comfort zo...

Tracy · Tracy

A new comer is reaching out to me I have given her my number and have given her a lift to meetings ect. I have answered her texts and tried to encourage her to keep coming back. Has anyone got any ESH on the first time in their recovery when new people began to turn to them. I have only been in recovery for 18...

Inpain · Inpain

I am seriously dysfunctional. For many reasons...hey, aren't we all? I'm NOW learning all this about myself and slowly, daily trying to recover from years of self loathing and never feeling worthy enough. If you were to have asked me about my parents BEFORE my husband's infidelity and our big brea...

Dakota111 · Dakota111

Hello I'm new to the board/forum as I need help coping with my wife who is a drunk. she's a funtional drunk as she holds a very good job and when she comes home she starts drinking. yes we've had words about it and now she attempts to hide the bottles all over the house. she doesn't believe she has a drinking p...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I've been attending several Al-Anon meetings for almost 3 weeks now and have found a few "favorites," one of them being Monday night at 8:00 (I really like all the people there). Well I just found out that the Out-Patient Program my husband wants to get into is on Mon., Tue., and Thur. I can...

Holly09 · Holly09

I finally ordered Getting Them Sober. A highly recommended book by al-anoners. I am looking forward to reading it and learning from it! Just another baby step for me. Holly

barisax · barisax

All non-instinctive human behavior is learned. Instinctive would be breathing, eating, going to the bathroom, seeking shelter, a desire for companionship, and a drive to procreate. Pretty much everything else is learned. So where have we learned to be normal? Most of us who grew up in alcohol...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family... Part of my day was taking some "stuff" to the local AA club that they might use in their meetings. It was raining (duh...) still and there was a young fellow sitting in a chair outside in the covered waiting area smoking cigarettes. No eye contact no body language to signa...

Rita G · Rita G

This weekend is the Lake Area Round-Up AA Convention in Lake Charles, Louisiana. On Saturday I will be the Al-Anon Speaker at 1 pm. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers. This will be my first time to share my story since leaving my ex in November. My ex is still attending meetings and "play...

clara · clara

Have not heard from daughter since her phone call admonishing us for not taking her to Houston with us for Easter. She has not called, and neither have I. After listening again to her message, we are very sure she was drinking. She is supposed to be in therapy for the mental part of her addiction. I am n...

Inpain · Inpain

Yes. You would see my picture in the dictionary next to the definition. I can't make a decision to save my life. So, I'm hoping others here can give opinions and at least I can TRY to make a decision. First a small history...My AH cheated on me last fall. I found out in December and it's been a horrific e...

aunitedway · aunitedway

acceptance.... came to me to fill my heart as i walked thru the first three steps. ... i knew my life had become unmanageable ... i had accepted i needed alanons help. once i had this .. the will the ability to allow my higher power to help me came easier. it got easier each day to...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Why can't people just say what they're thinking/feeling and let the chips fall where they may? Seems as if it's always I'm gonna tell em this but I'm really thinking that or I'm only gonna tell part of what I'm feeling and not say the rest for fear of what the other may say or do. The other thing is why can'...

Lilly Burn · Lilly Burn

For the strangest reason, i find myself missing my ex AH more not less, even though my life is calmer. Because he got in touch via silent phone calls, i thought he missed me, he was just waiting to have a go at me (see previous post) but now his sister has asked him to leave me alone, now i feel left alone..fri...

Aquastrm · Aquastrm

I just wanted to let everyone know i thank you for all your advise and help on the board. My dad the night b-4 came to me and stated that he wanted me to give my AH a message from him about that he love's and cares about him like a son and he hope's that him and i work it out. I told him why dont you tell him? He said ok...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

...it seems as if its a broken record- try to attend some face to face al-anon meetings and see what happens! All you have to lose is an hour of your time or less because you can always choose to walk out if you want. Its the most basic and most relevant piece of information on this board that is often repea...

Aquastrm · Aquastrm

Hello all, Ok gotta get it off my chest and get opinions on the coversation with my AH this weekend. Well it started off with him getting drunk to the point of falling out of the shower 3 times while taking a 15 min shower. Then when it came down to dinner he wouldnt come into the house due to the fact my parent...

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	How far does Co-Dependency reach? (Preview) I went to my individual counselor today. I told her things have been going well in my marriage despite what we have faced in the past 4 months and it's because I'm desperately trying to understand myself and why I control things and trying to let go of that. I have decided to not even ask my husband about...	Inpain	9	1097	Apr 22, 2009 by maresie
	I did not disintegrate! (Preview) I found a powerful quote last week that has stayed with me ever since: "Nothing can be more demoralizing than a clinging and abject dependence upon another human being. This often amounts in the demand for a degree of protection and love that no one could possibly satisfy. So our hope for prote...	glad lee	8	580	Apr 22, 2009 by maresie
	Getting to We (Preview) When I was in a relationship the crucial moments for me was when he said he loved me and when the noun "we" came up. The sooner the better. The crucial moments weren't did we have anything in common, did he have stabiity, did he have an anger issue, did he have a substance abuse problem, did h...	maresie	5	648	Apr 22, 2009 by maresie
	It's all so confusing (Preview) My son is in juvie & it has really taken it's toll on me. I thought he'd go to juvie, I'd go visit him a few times and that would be that. But it is so complicated. There are set visitation days and hours. I have to provide him w/any medicine he may need. I even had to make an appt to go in and cut his hair...	QOD	6	674	Apr 22, 2009 by QOD
	feeling a whole load of emotions (Preview) Hello people Am feeling very emotional tonight as i've been very honest about my feeling to people very close to me this week. I feel I have let loose stuff from inside of me though it does feel incredibly uncomfortable. I have hurt my moms feeling cause I was honest in saying I did not want to go on holida...	chezza	4	639	Apr 22, 2009 by Mariner
	One day at a time (Preview) I havent been around too much to post like I used to, but I have been getting in some reading here and there. I just wanted to leave a note to let any who were wondering where I was, so that they wouldnt worry too much and know that I was doing well.	J.R.	2	472	Apr 21, 2009 by Jerry F
	Safety first. (Preview) ((((Family))), Take a look at Jerry's recent post on ESH. As always it's honest, encouraging and full of knowledge. I came across a daily reading from our: Courage to Change for April 15. It talks about Alanon's position on safety. Here's part of it: "....Alanon's position is that we must e...	Karilynn	2	929	Apr 21, 2009 by wp
	Open for thoughts, comments, suggestions (Preview) Here's the situation. My A husband had been sober 9 months, attends AA 2-3 times weekly, 2 times with his homegroup. After his meeting the other night, he brought up the fact that a lady in his homegroup is unemployed and has a soft top on her Jeep that is held together by duct tape. It leaks and is miserabl...	hort7	6	852	Apr 21, 2009 by hort7
	In need of some input and ESH.....not strong enough for this yet... I know it. (Preview) Haven't been here for a bit, still trying to find my way back to my program. Haven't let go of it and feel stronger daily but still a far cry from where I need to be. ExABF has told a mutual friend that he will need to be contacting me at some point to get his things (the only things he has left at my house is his g...	shellyj123	4	807	Apr 21, 2009 by Mariner
	Not quite sure where to start. (Preview) I have just started my journey into my healing process. I'm just starting counseling and trying to learn as much as I can. I've learned I am quite co dependent. I've also learned I am an ACOA. My husband just came out of rehab the beginning of the month for alcohol. has gone to one meeting, and has drank a co...	haasity	6	762	Apr 21, 2009 by maresie
	Too Soon to Travel? (Preview) I have this incredible urge to just get the heck out of town. Since we had to cancel our Hawaii trip, I feel like I've been jipped out of a vacation. I am thinking about driving to San Diego (it's a 6-hour drive from here). I think it would be nice to sit on the beach and maybe take our son to Sea World. My hu...	N8SMOM	6	8945	Apr 21, 2009 by Inpain
	Touching that hot stove (Preview) Hi MIP family. I'm having a HALT moment (ok, a lot of them in a row) today and just need to vent. I'm Hurt, Angry, Lonely and Tired. So here's the story: Last night my AH is telling me about his gig that he played Saturday afternoon. They had a good crowd, everybody loves them, etc, etc.... Some of our frie...	blender_girl	9	958	Apr 21, 2009 by blender_girl
	Patience (Preview) I've manged to get some dental insurance. As you all know getting the card and so being able to begin the treatment takes a while. Of course I want the card yesterday. I've always done this and had no idea how destructive this kind of obsessing is! Maresie.	maresie	2	562	Apr 21, 2009 by Mariner
	Starting (Preview) Hello all. My name is Stephanie and I'm a 26 - year old daughter of a recovering addict. Make that a daughter, niece, granddaughter, sister, etc of several current / recovering addicts. I have found this place after many years of detaching. The purpose I want to achieve is to let go of the hurt and be...	StephanieKay	5	436	Apr 21, 2009 by Jerry F
	My ESH... (Preview) Aloha Family....I was out side doing some carpentry stuff and just focusing and then free wheeling with my brain and then I got locked up on some current events that are growing here in the islands and also up where you all are at. Lots of guns sales. Lots of angry out of control guys out there with guns. ...	Jerry F	7	873	Apr 20, 2009 by Jean4444
	AH home yesterday from rehab...seroquel response or booze???? (Preview) Hi All...AH came home from 30 day rehab yesterday. He is saying all the right things and attended AA last night and tonight. I left him alone for 1.5 hours tonight after he returned from his AA meeting. When I got back he seemed high. He took one 100 mg. seroquel (provided by his rehab doc) and claimed...	HangingOn	9	953	Apr 20, 2009 by HangingOn
	how many hours first time DUI in Massachusetts? (Preview) tried to sign up for DUI class (first time offense) in Florida. Told since it was a MA license I need to do the MA hours requirement. In FL first DUI is 12 hrs, subsequent is 22? - anyone know the amount in MA? I may need to take the 2nd offense DUI class hours YES I got stuck for my boyfriends DUI! changed seats...	florida	3	2824	Apr 20, 2009 by Sincerely
	Took the kids to visit (Preview) Well, I finally took the kids to visit my ex ah. He was released from prison about 6 weeks ago and is living in an oxford house. He paid $500 on his child support this month and I agreed to bring them down to see him. He took them to the beach and out shopping and the kids had a good day. Even the oldest went (...	carolinagirl	3	492	Apr 20, 2009 by wildthang86
	I have returned (Preview) Well, I just wanted to say helllo to all the al-anon members, i have been one for a few years though havent posted in a long time, much has happened since my last post, My A has been on and off the wagon, he made it 16 months, since then he has struggled to get back to where he was. I have learned a lot in the past...	GypsyRose71	1	458	Apr 20, 2009 by Karilynn
	my immagination ruined my weekend (Preview) I had a nice weekend planned at our beach home in Delaware. The weather was about 75 degrees on Saturday. My older A son went to NC for a fishing tournament. My youngerr A son lives in Japan. I could not settle my mind thinking that things were not right with either one of them. I was awake half the night on Sa...	Gailey	8	731	Apr 20, 2009 by abbyal
	Hi, missed ya'll so much (Preview) debilyn here. Karilynn I am so sad about the theft. You are such a nice person and I know you took it hard. When I think about how my aunt did not give me my gma's rings as gma wanted..rrrr I think how I had a special love with grama. I am like you and hold sentimental value for my jewely from others. My daughter...	debilyn	6	762	Apr 20, 2009 by Rita G
	This is so hard! (Preview) So, I went with my AH to the beach this easter weekend. Had fun. This is the fist vacation since I got pregnant that he didn't get drunk. Our daughter is so attached to him, she cries when he leaves for the supermarket. As I posted before, we are not currently living together, although we do have a relation...	Priscilla83	7	1739	Apr 20, 2009 by maresie
	is it worth it? (Preview) Although I've mostly posted about my life with my AH, I have a brother who is an A too. His disease came to a head about the same time as my AH's (about 3 yrs ago) but emotionally I could just barely handle my own life. It became obvious very early on that there was nothing I could do but add to my craziness. M...	Loupiness	8	927	Apr 20, 2009 by maresie
	How sick am I? (Preview) I know some of you out there have dealt with or are dealing with an A who has a disease or condition that normally would require them to stop drinking and the keep drinking anyway. The way of their addiction/disease. My Ah has cardiomyopathy, thickening of the heart muscle, this is partially due to untr...	wildthang86	5	795	Apr 20, 2009 by hotrod
	Did not know a person could be this tired!!!! (Preview) To say I am exhausted would be putting it mildly. Some of you remember my post about my friend being in the hospital. She is in a medically induced coma. I think they are waiting for her sister from California to get to her bedside. Then they plan on disconnecting life support. My friend fought the go...	clara	2	642	Apr 20, 2009 by Tiger2006
	breaking the chain of lies and deceit (Preview) Hello everyone I'd like to share with you people who have helped me so much through your continued posting on here sharing what's really going on. I yesterday realised how far along the way I come due to working my program. I openly admitted fault to playing games and the lying about my deepest feeling...	chezza	3	551	Apr 20, 2009 by Jozie
	new to the board, new to al anon (Preview) Hi, I'm rose. I have been to about 3 Al Anon meetings but haven't gone in 3 weeks. Im kind of in a slump and cant seem to make myself do anything. Ive been reading the board for the past few days and decided I want to write. Im hoping there will be some inspirational words here for me, but if not that maybe just...	rosepaull07	6	753	Apr 20, 2009 by rosepaull07
	Blahhhh (Preview) Welp... Happy Sunday too ya all... I am in a slump...I have stend two days this weekend, trim grass at Dad's and going thru all his belongings, it is draining me of all I have left...I think I spent half the afternoon here once I got back going to his old clothes, see what I can pass on and give away to good wil...	Jozie	6	675	Apr 20, 2009 by rosepaull07
	How to Prepare for Hubby home from detox (Preview) I'm new to posting but have been lurking for a while. You have all been very insirational and helpful. I see a myself in all of you. I have been using detachment and boundaries for a while now, and it finally had an impact on my AH. He finally understood over the weekend that he has a huge problem, and...	MissyPoo	10	780	Apr 20, 2009 by MissyPoo
	Robbed (Preview) (((Family))), My mother's jewlery was taken from my apartment. I noticed this morning when I went to look for a specific pair of earrings and I couldn't find them. I thought I had leant them to my niece for her vacation and couldn't remember doing so. When I went to look for them in my box I noticed some o...	Karilynn	16	869	Apr 20, 2009 by Jean4444
	new to group - need suggestions: sick meetings (Preview) Dear All, Thank you to the people who facilitate this. I am going to just give it a whirl, and am grateful for the opportuinty. I moved to the UK four years ago and W-O-W are there some cultural differences. Istarted my recovery in NEw York City. I am very much in stress over how to proceed with my recovery...	alanonicScotland	4	514	Apr 19, 2009 by hotrod
	Coping.... (Preview) Before I found the ES&H here at MIP, and my f2f meetings, I would not have been able to do what I'm doing now to give support to my son. I feel I have progressed (slowly), step by step, since January when the days seemed so dark I didn't want to get out of bed ever again. In detaching from my A son's d...	Ness	3	631	Apr 19, 2009 by debilyn
	Accepting my reality...even if it is painful (Preview) I've been thinking a lot about acceptance lately. I've always considered myself as one whom is pretty in touch with reality...funny, "considered" does not necessarily mean truth. Having given it further thought, I think that what I do when I don't like my reality or when I find it painfu...	Rora	5	1006	Apr 18, 2009 by nmike
	That was a Shock!! (Preview) I had mentioned to my husband the other day that I was thinking about going to the 2009 Arizona Area Al-Anon/Alateen Convention being held June 5 - 7 in Tucson. I wasn't sure if I could definitely go since I wasn't sure what my husband's schedule would be like (whether or not he'd be back to work by then)...	N8SMOM	2	715	Apr 18, 2009 by Jerry F
	Recovery (Preview) My former spouse has been fighting the disease for going on ten years. Finally, last year she entered a treatment program to which she bought in to; admitting to herself that she has a problem and wanting to overcome it. She completed that treatment last fall and has had a relapse or two along the way....	TheArtOf	1	614	Apr 18, 2009 by Jerry F
	So sad tonight!!!! (Preview) A very good friend of mine is in the hospital and is not expected to live. I have known Helen for over 27 years. She and her husband were the first friendship my husband and I formed after we first got married. She survived cancer only to probably die from pneumonia. She is on a respirator and cannot sp...	clara	11	738	Apr 18, 2009 by RLC
	Coping & Gratitude (Preview) (((Family))), Good morning my family. Needless to say, it hasn't been a fun couple of days. I am still uncomfortable in my home. Even though there was no forced entry I am sleeping with a light on in the other room. I am double checking my locks, etc. I know this is normal after this. It's gonna take s...	Karilynn	4	613	Apr 18, 2009 by RLC
	The 12 Steps of Pre-Program (Preview) Good morning, (((Family))) Today is the 5 yr anniversary of the first time I drug myself to a recovery meeting. This meeting was at an AA/Al-Anon conference that my now ex-wife's sponsor asked my ex to suggest I attend. I will be leaving after lunch today to go to that very same conference (I have made...	david62	12	736	Apr 18, 2009 by masspedirn
	Reality (Preview) When my (now sober) Abf and I got back together last year I think we were both being niave and unrealistic. I think we thought it would all work out now that he's sober. Unfortunately it's harder than both of us thought it would be. And I think that might be mainly down to me. I'm finding it hard to trust...	jiver76	4	782	Apr 18, 2009 by Inpain
	Always Take Care Of Yourself First (Preview) Hello All, Taking care of yourself first was one of the first things I heard when I walked through the doors of Al-Anon 2 1/2 years ago. After a few meetings it hit home with me and I have done my best to do that very thing. Yet, I was reminded once again last Tuesday night at my Al-Anon meeting that I don't al...	RLC	6	1540	Apr 18, 2009 by wildthang86
	Still Learning My Strengths & Weakness's (Preview) I haven't been much of a help these last couple of days to anyone, including myself, those that are following along with my "Drama" Know that it has been Long & Drug out when it comes to Abrother, and Deseased Afather's belongings... I am starting to feel more Strength in the things I am g...	Jozie	3	885	Apr 18, 2009 by Jerry F
	Is this being too controlling (Preview) My husband will more than likely be getting out of detox today (been in since Friday). He doesn't want to stay at the facility for their In-Patient program because he's already done that (3 years ago). He said that he plans to go to AA meetings until he can find an Out-Patient Program that works for him...	N8SMOM	6	713	Apr 17, 2009 by debilyn
	Purrrrrfection is better than perfection... (Preview) Yes, PURRRRRFECTION is better than PERFECTION NO, I have NOT LOST THE PLOT: read on... The last couple of weeks have been trying to say the least, however, I am now quite certain that the programme is beginning to work for me in a most incredible way. Some of you will know that my relationship with my daug...	Suzannah	4	662	Apr 17, 2009 by debilyn
	Introverted anyone? (Preview) None of my friends would call me an introvert. However in the past few months, I'm a hermit. I hate leaving my house. My husband has cheated on me and I honestly felt like I had PTSD. I have a very hard time leaving the house. The phone will ring and it shakes me to the core. I'm VERY happy in my comfort zo...	Inpain	7	723	Apr 17, 2009 by Maria123
	sponsorship (Preview) A new comer is reaching out to me I have given her my number and have given her a lift to meetings ect. I have answered her texts and tried to encourage her to keep coming back. Has anyone got any ESH on the first time in their recovery when new people began to turn to them. I have only been in recovery for 18...	Tracy	2	484	Apr 17, 2009 by Maria123
	Family of Origin! (Preview) I am seriously dysfunctional. For many reasons...hey, aren't we all? I'm NOW learning all this about myself and slowly, daily trying to recover from years of self loathing and never feeling worthy enough. If you were to have asked me about my parents BEFORE my husband's infidelity and our big brea...	Inpain	2	736	Apr 17, 2009 by Maria123
	Hello everybody (Preview) Hello I'm new to the board/forum as I need help coping with my wife who is a drunk. she's a funtional drunk as she holds a very good job and when she comes home she starts drinking. yes we've had words about it and now she attempts to hide the bottles all over the house. she doesn't believe she has a drinking p...	Dakota111	11	693	Apr 17, 2009 by maresie
	Feeling very Selfish (Preview) I've been attending several Al-Anon meetings for almost 3 weeks now and have found a few "favorites," one of them being Monday night at 8:00 (I really like all the people there). Well I just found out that the Out-Patient Program my husband wants to get into is on Mon., Tue., and Thur. I can...	N8SMOM	10	710	Apr 17, 2009 by glad lee
	For Myself (Preview) I finally ordered Getting Them Sober. A highly recommended book by al-anoners. I am looking forward to reading it and learning from it! Just another baby step for me. Holly	Holly09	3	333	Apr 17, 2009 by Priscilla83
	Where Did We Learn To Be Normal? (Preview) All non-instinctive human behavior is learned. Instinctive would be breathing, eating, going to the bathroom, seeking shelter, a desire for companionship, and a drive to procreate. Pretty much everything else is learned. So where have we learned to be normal? Most of us who grew up in alcohol...	barisax	15	966	Apr 16, 2009 by barisax
	Can't outdistance my HP... (Preview) Aloha Family... Part of my day was taking some "stuff" to the local AA club that they might use in their meetings. It was raining (duh...) still and there was a young fellow sitting in a chair outside in the covered waiting area smoking cigarettes. No eye contact no body language to signa...	Jerry F	6	1024	Apr 16, 2009 by Tracy
	Lake Area Round-Up Convention (Preview) This weekend is the Lake Area Round-Up AA Convention in Lake Charles, Louisiana. On Saturday I will be the Al-Anon Speaker at 1 pm. Please keep me in your thoughts and prayers. This will be my first time to share my story since leaving my ex in November. My ex is still attending meetings and "play...	Rita G	6	796	Apr 16, 2009 by Rita G
	Is this the calm before the storm (Preview) Have not heard from daughter since her phone call admonishing us for not taking her to Houston with us for Easter. She has not called, and neither have I. After listening again to her message, we are very sure she was drinking. She is supposed to be in therapy for the mental part of her addiction. I am n...	clara	3	739	Apr 16, 2009 by abbyal
	Typical Co-Dependent (Preview) Yes. You would see my picture in the dictionary next to the definition. I can't make a decision to save my life. So, I'm hoping others here can give opinions and at least I can TRY to make a decision. First a small history...My AH cheated on me last fall. I found out in December and it's been a horrific e...	Inpain	8	670	Apr 16, 2009 by Inpain
	acceptance.... (Preview) *acceptance....* came to me to fill my heart as i walked thru the first three steps. ... i knew my life had become unmanageable ... i had accepted i needed alanons help. once i had this .. the will the ability to allow my higher power to help me came easier. it got easier each day to...	aunitedway	4	1008	Apr 16, 2009 by david62
	Why cant???? (Preview) Why can't people just say what they're thinking/feeling and let the chips fall where they may? Seems as if it's always I'm gonna tell em this but I'm really thinking that or I'm only gonna tell part of what I'm feeling and not say the rest for fear of what the other may say or do. The other thing is why can'...	carolinagirl	5	539	Apr 16, 2009 by Jean4444
	How can I miss him..am I delusional (Preview) For the strangest reason, i find myself missing my ex AH more not less, even though my life is calmer. Because he got in touch via silent phone calls, i thought he missed me, he was just waiting to have a go at me (see previous post) but now his sister has asked him to leave me alone, now i feel left alone..fri...	Lilly Burn	10	603	Apr 16, 2009 by Jean4444
	Thanks (Preview) I just wanted to let everyone know i thank you for all your advise and help on the board. My dad the night b-4 came to me and stated that he wanted me to give my AH a message from him about that he love's and cares about him like a son and he hope's that him and i work it out. I told him why dont you tell him? He said ok...	Aquastrm	2	516	Apr 16, 2009 by Jerry F
	F2F (Preview) ...it seems as if its a broken record- try to attend some face to face al-anon meetings and see what happens! All you have to lose is an hour of your time or less because you can always choose to walk out if you want. Its the most basic and most relevant piece of information on this board that is often repea...	Jean4444	7	702	Apr 15, 2009 by Maria123
	Ruff Weekend (Preview) Hello all, Ok gotta get it off my chest and get opinions on the coversation with my AH this weekend. Well it started off with him getting drunk to the point of falling out of the shower 3 times while taking a 15 min shower. Then when it came down to dinner he wouldnt come into the house due to the fact my parent...	Aquastrm	6	766	Apr 15, 2009 by freefalling
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