Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

I realize each of us has our own politics. I would like to encourage you to put those aside for a minute as you think about 2 things for a minute.Today is the 20th anniversary of the Tiannemen Square massacre. To me, and this is strictly me, what stands out the most is that we still have no true count of how m...

andica · andica

Hello everyone, Life has been so chaotic that I forgot to come on here and provide my updated story. My love has passed away. He died at 4:55 am on 5/20/09, with me and his niece holding his hands. He was 36 years old! Conciously he did not appear to be aware at all, in a coma. Our children were not there, th...

dickeybird · dickeybird

My husband wants to set up separate households. He wants us to split expenses. He thinks our expense split should reflect the fact that I earn about $1000 more per month than he. I just gave him a proposal where I am paying $1040 more of the joint monthly expenses than he does, and he's angry that I am not p...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

my foreign phone stalkers called...and heard my "created" recording that sounds like an operator...First that awful Squeek then my created "telephone operator recording" saying "the number you have reached is not in service for any incoming calls".. They di...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I haven't been here much lately but my MIP family is never far from my thoughts:) I realized something the other day, it seems like when things are going well and calm-there's not really as much to write about-lol, and I am trying my best to keep my life drama free these days. I've been struggling th...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

What makes ME sad is this drinking and drugging is a CHOICE...They can drag themselves into recovery like the rest of us are and HELP themselves... My eldist sister has cancer, over and over and she TRIES....Now I am not crazy about her, but My heart goes out to her...She does EVERYTHING to keep this d...

Evil_step_mom · Evil_step_mom

Hi everyone. I'm new. To everything it seems. For some superficial reading, it seems that I have a dry drunk in my life (and in my spare room). When I married my darling husband (2 years ago), he came with a natural son, and 3 step children of his own (from his previous marriage). The eldest of these &quo...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

Ok well, I am not going to clutter up the board with my being "stalked" by foreign solicitors.....Handing it over to God....Thanks to the ones who did respond!!!! Its been a bad 2 days.....can't find an affordable window person for updating my house windows.........I MISS my "N&qu...

chris123 · chris123

Well here goes nothing! my first post here. After 3 years of trying to get my partner to get sober and going through all the CRAP, she has now been sober for 9 months....happy times right? Not really, she is now acting well different. More distant, doesn't want to do anything with family. But will spend h...

wp · wp

Hi Karilynn, I left you a message but I think I messed up pretty majorly! Let me know if you find it? pw aka wp aka cynthia

Tenderheartsks · Tenderheartsks

My 20 year old daughter still lives at home with me. She will turn 21 this month. She is a good kid, holds down two jobs during the school year (she's a nanny for a school teacher-finished that job up last Friday), makes her car and insurance payments, and has her own horse she trained from scratch and care...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

One, my AH is livnig in an oxford house and looking for work with no luck. The other day he says he's scared and doesn't know how he's going to pay all the bills he has to pay (including child support which he has paid the last 2 months when he was working). My reply... welcome to the club... Two - my curre...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

all moved in - nothing is working right, started with the water being off, then the phone and cable don't work and the breakers trip for every thing plugged in to an outlet.... Not enough storage in any of the rooms and I miss my old house!!! I hate that I had to move. I spent all day cleaning yesterday a...

Jozie · Jozie

Here I Go... Turn the Page... "One of my Afathers favorite songs was Turn the Page.." Something I can't seem to do... "Turn the Page"... Well what a morning, my head as been so clogged here lately with the finishing of...That I can't seem to get my thoughts straight. I don't know i...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Last night I found my way back to journaling and found that it felt WONDERFUL to get things out and then to reread and actually be able to "see" things that others see when I write. I got away from it because of time/privacy issues (my son and I share a PC) Anyway my question is.......I have Mic...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I just received my first copy of The Forum in the mail today. I'm so excited! I wasn't expecting it to come in an envelope. I think I'll go outside and read a few pages. It's funny the things we get excited about, huh?

Rora · Rora

For those who don't know me, I am separated from my aH. We have a 5 yr old son. He has 2 older grown up kids. We've been together for 10 yrs. As I journey along, I find I have times of great confidence of moving onward with a life that does not include my aH on a romantic level. Those are times when i am most fr...

Buckles · Buckles

Hi everyone, I'm new to the boards. I'm actually getting married in a few days so I'm getting ready for the big day but at the same time, dealing with some unfortunate circumstances of my fiance. My fiance and I have been together for over 4 years, engaged for a year. When we first started dating, he was...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I think I am finally waking up! Literally! I have been asleep for so many years mentally that I am ready to wake up. I have had trouble sleeping for a long time but today I am awake & it is good! Even my Ah is helping me get it together. I have seen him through a lot too. Lately he has been getting used to...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello and Hugs, This disease makes sad. It's amazing all of the emotions this disease makes us go through. Right now I am sad. My heart and prayers go out to all of the people who have lost loved ones to this disease. Honestly, I never thought about losing someone to this disease. I've always envisi...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I've had anxiety all day today, but as soon as my meeting got started tonight, I slowly felt myself calming down. It was a wonderful feeling. One woman made a comment before the end of the meeting about fear and anxiety - she said that we are all strong individuals for reaching out, asking for help,...

java · java

I've had enough! I've posted on here before about my dry drunk husband and his controlling behaviors, but he went too far the other night and I think it's time to file for divorce. He followed me to my f2f meeting (which I didn't find out about until later) and then when I met with my sponsor at the park, ev...

maresie · maresie

When I first came into al anon years ago before I could embrace it, I heard people talking at a face to face meeting about not dealing with a drunk. One of the people who lives in my house is an alcoholic. On his birthday this last week he made sure he felt sorry for himself. He got drunk and was all over the...

clara · clara

Well, it's me again. Same old story. You guys will get so tired of me. I truly know what I should do about daughter. I know what I would be telling you guys if you were in my shoes, but here I am; with my head held down; tail between my legs(no that was my dog Bonnie Lou). Sorry, got to have a little humour. D...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

So last night my husband was at his AA meeting and I was getting my son ready for bed. We climbed into his bed to read stories and I suddenly felt winded. Of course that brought on some panic because I couldn't figure out why I should be winded. I worked through it as best I could with deep breaths and I as...

Jozie · Jozie

Well today was a bit of a drag'n day, I don't think I have seen but glimpses of Sunlight.. ALL Week!!! I am a girl that NEEDS Sun... Energy, power, the hole 9... Well make it thru today, got some things done was very grateful for that, then hubbie took me to dinner since I did all the Push mowing while he and th...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes I get my heart knocked out of joint when I think of all the friends in my life that have come and gone. Some of them really hurt me especially to let go of them. I am finally seeing that some friends only last for a season. I have had so many of those kinds of friends. But I guess that they have move...

Jozie · Jozie

Hey All :) Well lived thru yet another weekend, with lots of aleve, and an Al-anon book in each pocket, and my Serenity Prayer Bracelet & Ring...lol... Laugh Yes, but true... Well after Fridays kick in the teeth, I honestly didn't know what my husband would want to do, and I didn't really care to ask...

QOD · QOD

On Friday, my son asked if he could go to his karate class. I asked him to clean the kitchen and his room 1st and that I would be glad to take him. So he did what I asked and I took him to class. When I picked him up, he was in a great mood again. Thank goodness! Saturday morning, I was running around the house...

mamichula1019 · mamichula1019

Hello all - I have been searching the internet and just had the idea to search for a web forum for Al-Anon folks and in just reading 2 or 3 threads, i know i am in the right place. I have been with my fiance for 4 1/2 years. We have been engaged for 4 months. His drinking problem never became apparent to me until...

QOD · QOD

I am so frustrated with my teen son. He is sooo moody. The simplest things set him off. Tues and Wed were pretty good nights for us. He went to karate and had a good time. He came home in a great mood both nights. Yesterday we had his weekly court session where he stands in front of this great Drug Court...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Made it through the day without jumping on the Merry Go Round of Insanity. Did real well, kept my focus on HP's will for me and kept reminding myself that the insane behaviors were all an attempt by me to control, manipulate and play God......All part of my sickness. Got to my F2F meeting tonight feeli...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), This past week the Scripps National Spelling Bee took place. Now every year I watch. Every year I feel stupid! But I know I'm not. Every year I vow to improve my vocabulary so that one day I may complete the NY Times Sunday crossword without it taking me 3 weeks! This year after watching i...

Rocky38 · Rocky38

[gbig][spoiler] Hi MIP family! Long time no post, but definetly reading and learning still. Yesterday a great gift of new life came into our world. Our first grand baby boy. Mother and baby are doing well. My son is full of great love. The same love we feel for him. Many of you...

LadyStardust73 · LadyStardust73

Hey everyone. I'm new here, and I first want to say how great I think it is to have a place like this on the internet to help people cope. I hope this message isn't too long and I hope someone will read it because I really just need to get this off of my chest and finally tell someone about the emotional pain I ha...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I still find myself with the uncontrollable urge at times to contact EXABF, or to go to his Myspace page and snoop. Yes I said Snoop-lol.... I have been doing better at catching myself on occassion, but am looking for a quote that I can copy and paste on my PC's at home and work, so that when I look at that qu...

blender_girl · blender_girl

I was writing this in my journal and thought I would share it with you. Take what you like and leave the rest. As I was working on the pool this morning, it occurred to me that there are many aspects related to the upkeep of the pool that are parallel to taking care of myself. If I don't maintain the pool - br...

CajunsCheri · CajunsCheri

Can anyone please help me understand why I'm afraid my newly sober (23 days in rehab) AH, who is coming home on Thursday won't love me now that he's sober? I know it's irrational thinking. I know I should live today and not worry about tomorrow. But I realized driving home from visiting him today that he'...

Ness · Ness

My husband has just found, by accident, (we have not long moved into our new build house and he had to move some boxes around in my son's room) a quart bottle of vodka orange mix hidden behind some pictures, half full, and an empty vodka bottle. My A son (in recovery 8 weeks) has shown no sign of h...

mermaid88 · mermaid88

I am still fairly new to alanon and dealing personally with somebody with addiction. My drug addict/ alcoholic fiance took me home to visit his family this week, and while there, he said he was going to work on his sobriety. Instead, he worked on getting high the entire time we were there, avoided his...

clara · clara

I am so upset and angry, I am shaking. ADaughter is supposed to move in her apt. tomorrow. Her soon to be ex husband agreed to pay the apartment rent for one year. well move in date is tomorrow and guess what??? He has not paid a dime and will not answer the phone. So, who does daughter call??? Me of co...

Jozie · Jozie

Could my short fuse be another trait I have gathered from my Afather... Aurggggg... I was having a rather good morning.. No Drama, just get'n it done... I get a package from Fed-ex stating that it was shipped internationally??? So I open it, and find two CD's.. And a packing list... So I call the Number o...

Jozie · Jozie

Ok... Long short, I gave away afathers trailer, "Great DONE", also gave away the Nice shed that was with it... WELL... The land owners came over the other day when the lady was removing the trailer and said that "NO WAY" was she taking the Shed, it did not go with the trailer... She...

florida · florida

back from my evaluation - mind on alcohol took most of the day but we're home from my 2 hr evaluation (in addition to the 12 hr DUI 1st offense school) - i did end up speaking to the counselor and telling her some of my past - left here this morn not sure what way i was going to go with it - end result was not what i w...

florida · florida

lots of extra stress for the past 6-8 months - gained 20 lbs and it wont come back off hard to take care of myself physically when there is so much mental/emotional turmoil

Saved By Grace · Saved By Grace

Today I am struggling with all sorts of feelings. I managed to get out of the house and spoke with my sponsor and two of my closest recovery friends. I am going to sit down and have dinner and attend an open AA meeting tonight. I would be less than honest if I told you that I was really totally okay. I am not. I h...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Saturday is moving day. I am dreading it but at the same time looking forward to it being over. My entire life has been about packing and cleaning for the past month and I am so ready to have my other life back!!! My last move was a disaster I was not prepared and had barely any help. I feel pretty good abo...

maresie · maresie

Today I saw an old friend who used to be my neighbor 10 years ago. The entire time I knew him when I lived near him I over reacted to him day and night. I found him incredibly irritating, I thought condescening, and rigid. Today I saw him for a social call I have not seen him for probably 6 years as I was total...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

SO I brought some clothes and what not went back to the apartment to see if we could be alright and stay there without arguing too much and what not. Well his girlfriend is all psycho and got all jealous when I went back and constantly calls and doesn't let him spend any time there. She obviously doesn't tr...

Saved By Grace · Saved By Grace

Hi Family, Things have changed a lot between my dry drunk bf and I over the last few weeks. I call him a dry drunk because he does not currently attend meetings and has never worked the steps although he says he is an AA for 18 yrs. Over the last few weeks he has been more committed to the relationship and has g...

Jozie · Jozie

I have had a great weekend, and once I got back to my every day Life, and away from camp... I have had time to think and reflect... I guess I am still struggling with the final things of my afathers belongings, I am DONE in a sense, that I don't have too worry about the trailer, but now i still have to go to the ba...

canadianguy · canadianguy

I've been noticing lately that we get an awful lot of newbie post-ers, who post once or twice, and then we never hear from them again.... Always wondered about what may or may not have happened.... are they not ready for recovery, have they found something else, did they get offended or were we not the r...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Not that I have a lot of experience in doing so, but it just feels weird. I keep thinking to myself what it will be like to never talk to EXABF again, or know what is going on in his life, etc. I know it's all for the best, and deep down I know it will get easier.....it always does when we have no contact.....I m...

QOD · QOD

When I got home yesterday from work, my son had his room clean and the dishes in the kitchen cleaned up. He was sitting on the porch when I pulled in. He was in a bit of a foul mood though, instantly making demands. "Mom, give me a bag I can put my karate stuff in." I asked him what was wrong w/th...

Rora · Rora

i've been thinking about control...my addiction to it. I like things my way. Predictable. I like being in charge. I like being the leader. Im not a good follower. this I know about myself. and I am consciously working on this. what I don't know is how to draw the line. or where to draw the line. how to let...

Rora · Rora

At this time in my life, where I am separated from my aH and making changes in my life I am finding that I am in need of new friendships. I work fulltime. Sit on a board of directors. I'm active in my community and do committee work and fundraising work. What I am realizing is that I really suck at making f...

QOD · QOD

Yep. I found myself saying that out loud this afternoon. I HATE MY LIFE!!! How sad is that? Very sad. Sure there are some positive things in my life but b/c of my son, I don't truly get to enjoy them. My daughter for instance. She is a major positive in my life. She is my little luv bug. But my life is...

newday · newday

My ever-texting exbf-A once again tried to get my attention this morning with an "I miss u" text. Once again...I could have chosen to not respond...which would have prompted more texts. Or, I could have text something about his new enabler girlfriend...which would have resulted in mean...

Jozie · Jozie

Just for today, I feel honored to have such a wonderful life, and family...I just made it thru a pretty trying weekend, not that I didn't have a wonderful time, because I did. But I got to try out some of my Al-anon tools in full force and I have to say... It felt pretty dang good :) Most of you have heard me spe...

ThisIsBlythe · ThisIsBlythe

I have been in alanon over two decades and have worked very hard on my program. I have come a LONG way since when I first started. I have gained a measure of serenity and peace, as much as I can have with chaos going on around me most of the time. I don't indulge in mind altering substances, so I am aware of w...

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	Food for thought (Preview) I realize each of us has our own politics. I would like to encourage you to put those aside for a minute as you think about 2 things for a minute.Today is the 20th anniversary of the Tiannemen Square massacre. To me, and this is strictly me, what stands out the most is that we still have no true count of how m...	Tiger2006	5	469	Jun 4, 2009 by Maria123
	AH has passed away (Preview) Hello everyone, Life has been so chaotic that I forgot to come on here and provide my updated story. My love has passed away. He died at 4:55 am on 5/20/09, with me and his niece holding his hands. He was 36 years old! Conciously he did not appear to be aware at all, in a coma. Our children were not there, th...	andica	35	1224	Jun 3, 2009 by angelchar375
	Need advice on money if living separately (Preview) My husband wants to set up separate households. He wants us to split expenses. He thinks our expense split should reflect the fact that I earn about $1000 more per month than he. I just gave him a proposal where I am paying $1040 more of the joint monthly expenses than he does, and he's angry that I am not p...	dickeybird	14	945	Jun 3, 2009 by dickeybird
	update on my phone stalker (Preview) my foreign phone stalkers called...and heard my "created" recording that sounds like an operator...First that awful Squeek then my created "telephone operator recording" saying "the number you have reached is not in service for any incoming calls".. They di...	rosielightshines	5	664	Jun 3, 2009 by maire rua
	Overcoming struggles, and other ponderings... (Preview) I haven't been here much lately but my MIP family is never far from my thoughts:) I realized something the other day, it seems like when things are going well and calm-there's not really as much to write about-lol, and I am trying my best to keep my life drama free these days. I've been struggling th...	shellyj123	4	1243	Jun 3, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	If I can choose life WHY can't she??? (Preview) What makes ME sad is this drinking and drugging is a CHOICE...They can drag themselves into recovery like the rest of us are and HELP themselves... My eldist sister has cancer, over and over and she TRIES....Now I am not crazy about her, but My heart goes out to her...She does EVERYTHING to keep this d...	rosielightshines	13	750	Jun 3, 2009 by rosielightshines
	New to the board, new to Al-Anon, New to so many things - long (sorry) dry drunk (Preview) Hi everyone. I'm new. To everything it seems. For some superficial reading, it seems that I have a dry drunk in my life (and in my spare room). When I married my darling husband (2 years ago), he came with a natural son, and 3 step children of his own (from his previous marriage). The eldest of these &quo...	Evil_step_mom	26	9983	Jun 3, 2009 by Evil_step_mom
	shortening post... (Preview) Ok well, I am not going to clutter up the board with my being "stalked" by foreign solicitors.....Handing it over to God....Thanks to the ones who did respond!!!! Its been a bad 2 days.....can't find an affordable window person for updating my house windows.........I MISS my "N&qu...	rosielightshines	10	641	Jun 3, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Lost (Preview) Well here goes nothing! my first post here. After 3 years of trying to get my partner to get sober and going through all the CRAP, she has now been sober for 9 months....happy times right? Not really, she is now acting well different. More distant, doesn't want to do anything with family. But will spend h...	chris123	8	871	Jun 3, 2009 by chris123
	For Karilynn (Preview) Hi Karilynn, I left you a message but I think I messed up pretty majorly! Let me know if you find it? pw aka wp aka cynthia	wp	1	582	Jun 3, 2009 by Karilynn
	The beauty of working a program for myself... (Preview) My 20 year old daughter still lives at home with me. She will turn 21 this month. She is a good kid, holds down two jobs during the school year (she's a nanny for a school teacher-finished that job up last Friday), makes her car and insurance payments, and has her own horse she trained from scratch and care...	Tenderheartsks	4	730	Jun 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Two things... am I being unreasonable? (Preview) One, my AH is livnig in an oxford house and looking for work with no luck. The other day he says he's scared and doesn't know how he's going to pay all the bills he has to pay (including child support which he has paid the last 2 months when he was working). My reply... welcome to the club... Two - my curre...	carolinagirl	15	895	Jun 3, 2009 by debilyn
	ugh (Preview) all moved in - nothing is working right, started with the water being off, then the phone and cable don't work and the breakers trip for every thing plugged in to an outlet.... Not enough storage in any of the rooms and I miss my old house!!! I hate that I had to move. I spent all day cleaning yesterday a...	carolinagirl	6	710	Jun 3, 2009 by Loupiness
	Here I Go... Turn The Page... (Preview) Here I Go... Turn the Page... "One of my Afathers favorite songs was Turn the Page.." Something I can't seem to do... "Turn the Page"... Well what a morning, my head as been so clogged here lately with the finishing of...That I can't seem to get my thoughts straight. I don't know i...	Jozie	5	860	Jun 3, 2009 by Jerry F
	Question about journaling on PC...need some help (Preview) Last night I found my way back to journaling and found that it felt WONDERFUL to get things out and then to reread and actually be able to "see" things that others see when I write. I got away from it because of time/privacy issues (my son and I share a PC) Anyway my question is.......I have Mic...	shellyj123	7	681	Jun 2, 2009 by Jean4444
	The Forum (Preview) I just received my first copy of The Forum in the mail today. I'm so excited! I wasn't expecting it to come in an envelope. I think I'll go outside and read a few pages. It's funny the things we get excited about, huh?	N8SMOM	6	566	Jun 2, 2009 by Aloha
	Utter confusion...need ESH (Preview) For those who don't know me, I am separated from my aH. We have a 5 yr old son. He has 2 older grown up kids. We've been together for 10 yrs. As I journey along, I find I have times of great confidence of moving onward with a life that does not include my aH on a romantic level. Those are times when i am most fr...	Rora	9	644	Jun 2, 2009 by maresie
	Not Sure My Fiance is an Alcoholic but I Definitely Fit in At Al-Anon (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to the boards. I'm actually getting married in a few days so I'm getting ready for the big day but at the same time, dealing with some unfortunate circumstances of my fiance. My fiance and I have been together for over 4 years, engaged for a year. When we first started dating, he was...	Buckles	9	667	Jun 2, 2009 by maresie
	WAKE UP! (Preview) I think I am finally waking up! Literally! I have been asleep for so many years mentally that I am ready to wake up. I have had trouble sleeping for a long time but today I am awake & it is good! Even my Ah is helping me get it together. I have seen him through a lot too. Lately he has been getting used to...	Hoot Nanny	2	688	Jun 2, 2009 by Jerry F
	This disease makes me sad!! (Preview) Hello and Hugs, This disease makes sad. It's amazing all of the emotions this disease makes us go through. Right now I am sad. My heart and prayers go out to all of the people who have lost loved ones to this disease. Honestly, I never thought about losing someone to this disease. I've always envisi...	Sincerely	5	917	Jun 2, 2009 by clara
	You gotta love f2f meetings (Preview) I've had anxiety all day today, but as soon as my meeting got started tonight, I slowly felt myself calming down. It was a wonderful feeling. One woman made a comment before the end of the meeting about fear and anxiety - she said that we are all strong individuals for reaching out, asking for help,...	N8SMOM	6	702	Jun 2, 2009 by N8SMOM
	I've had Enough! (Preview) I've had enough! I've posted on here before about my dry drunk husband and his controlling behaviors, but he went too far the other night and I think it's time to file for divorce. He followed me to my f2f meeting (which I didn't find out about until later) and then when I met with my sponsor at the park, ev...	java	9	829	Jun 2, 2009 by maresie
	not dealing with a drunk. (Preview) When I first came into al anon years ago before I could embrace it, I heard people talking at a face to face meeting about not dealing with a drunk. One of the people who lives in my house is an alcoholic. On his birthday this last week he made sure he felt sorry for himself. He got drunk and was all over the...	maresie	6	616	Jun 2, 2009 by maresie
	Ok, it's me again; same old thing as before (Preview) Well, it's me again. Same old story. You guys will get so tired of me. I truly know what I should do about daughter. I know what I would be telling you guys if you were in my shoes, but here I am; with my head held down; tail between my legs(no that was my dog Bonnie Lou). Sorry, got to have a little humour. D...	clara	9	912	Jun 2, 2009 by Christy
	You just have to laugh at it (Preview) So last night my husband was at his AA meeting and I was getting my son ready for bed. We climbed into his bed to read stories and I suddenly felt winded. Of course that brought on some panic because I couldn't figure out why I should be winded. I worked through it as best I could with deep breaths and I as...	N8SMOM	6	677	Jun 1, 2009 by N8SMOM
	A little Spirtitual Humor from above :) (Preview) Well today was a bit of a drag'n day, I don't think I have seen but glimpses of Sunlight.. ALL Week!!! I am a girl that NEEDS Sun... Energy, power, the hole 9... Well make it thru today, got some things done was very grateful for that, then hubbie took me to dinner since I did all the Push mowing while he and th...	Jozie	4	618	Jun 1, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Friends for a season (Preview) Sometimes I get my heart knocked out of joint when I think of all the friends in my life that have come and gone. Some of them really hurt me especially to let go of them. I am finally seeing that some friends only last for a season. I have had so many of those kinds of friends. But I guess that they have move...	Hoot Nanny	8	713	Jun 1, 2009 by Hoot Nanny
	Completion Day :) May 31th 2009... 1 Day Early of my Goal :) (Preview) Hey All :) Well lived thru yet another weekend, with lots of aleve, and an Al-anon book in each pocket, and my Serenity Prayer Bracelet & Ring...lol... Laugh Yes, but true... Well after Fridays kick in the teeth, I honestly didn't know what my husband would want to do, and I didn't really care to ask...	Jozie	2	628	Jun 1, 2009 by hotrod
	Great Weekend!! (Preview) On Friday, my son asked if he could go to his karate class. I asked him to clean the kitchen and his room 1st and that I would be glad to take him. So he did what I asked and I took him to class. When I picked him up, he was in a great mood again. Thank goodness! Saturday morning, I was running around the house...	QOD	3	430	Jun 1, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Engaged and tired (Preview) Hello all - I have been searching the internet and just had the idea to search for a web forum for Al-Anon folks and in just reading 2 or 3 threads, i know i am in the right place. I have been with my fiance for 4 1/2 years. We have been engaged for 4 months. His drinking problem never became apparent to me until...	mamichula1019	10	872	Jun 1, 2009 by MBJ
	Frustration (Preview) I am so frustrated with my teen son. He is sooo moody. The simplest things set him off. Tues and Wed were pretty good nights for us. He went to karate and had a good time. He came home in a great mood both nights. Yesterday we had his weekly court session where he stands in front of this great Drug Court...	QOD	13	965	Jun 1, 2009 by QOD
	Just plain confused~Feel like I am fighting a loosing battle~In need of some ESH.... (Preview) Made it through the day without jumping on the Merry Go Round of Insanity. Did real well, kept my focus on HP's will for me and kept reminding myself that the insane behaviors were all an attempt by me to control, manipulate and play God......All part of my sickness. Got to my F2F meeting tonight feeli...	shellyj123	13	898	May 31, 2009 by serendipity
	Recovery & The National Spelling Bee (Preview) (((Family))), This past week the Scripps National Spelling Bee took place. Now every year I watch. Every year I feel stupid! But I know I'm not. Every year I vow to improve my vocabulary so that one day I may complete the NY Times Sunday crossword without it taking me 3 weeks! This year after watching i...	Karilynn	7	985	May 31, 2009 by clara
	Great joy - one of the "ups" in the "ups and downs". (Preview) [gbig][spoiler] Hi MIP family! Long time no post, but definetly reading and learning still. Yesterday a great gift of new life came into our world. Our first grand baby boy. Mother and baby are doing well. My son is full of great love. The same love we feel for him. Many of you...	Rocky38	8	825	May 31, 2009 by clara
	So sick of feeling like this :( (Preview) Hey everyone. I'm new here, and I first want to say how great I think it is to have a place like this on the internet to help people cope. I hope this message isn't too long and I hope someone will read it because I really just need to get this off of my chest and finally tell someone about the emotional pain I ha...	LadyStardust73	7	826	May 31, 2009 by LadyStardust73
	Looking for a quote~ (Preview) I still find myself with the uncontrollable urge at times to contact EXABF, or to go to his Myspace page and snoop. Yes I said Snoop-lol.... I have been doing better at catching myself on occassion, but am looking for a quote that I can copy and paste on my PC's at home and work, so that when I look at that qu...	shellyj123	8	755	May 31, 2009 by kitty
	Zen and the Art of Swimming Pool Maintenance (Preview) I was writing this in my journal and thought I would share it with you. Take what you like and leave the rest. As I was working on the pool this morning, it occurred to me that there are many aspects related to the upkeep of the pool that are parallel to taking care of myself. If I don't maintain the pool - br...	blender_girl	6	943	May 31, 2009 by Mariner
	Fear He won't love me now that he's sober... (Preview) Can anyone please help me understand why I'm afraid my newly sober (23 days in rehab) AH, who is coming home on Thursday won't love me now that he's sober? I know it's irrational thinking. I know I should live today and not worry about tomorrow. But I realized driving home from visiting him today that he'...	CajunsCheri	14	3836	May 30, 2009 by rosielightshines
	My Ason is relapsing....help please..... lots of ES&H needed (Preview) My husband has just found, by accident, (we have not long moved into our new build house and he had to move some boxes around in my son's room) a quart bottle of vodka orange mix hidden behind some pictures, half full, and an empty vodka bottle. My A son (in recovery 8 weeks) has shown no sign of h...	Ness	14	895	May 30, 2009 by Ness
	Sitting at the Airport (Preview) I am still fairly new to alanon and dealing personally with somebody with addiction. My drug addict/ alcoholic fiance took me home to visit his family this week, and while there, he said he was going to work on his sobriety. Instead, he worked on getting high the entire time we were there, avoided his...	mermaid88	4	1115	May 30, 2009 by abbyal
	Should have seen this coming--never so angry in my life!!!! (Preview) I am so upset and angry, I am shaking. ADaughter is supposed to move in her apt. tomorrow. Her soon to be ex husband agreed to pay the apartment rent for one year. well move in date is tomorrow and guess what??? He has not paid a dime and will not answer the phone. So, who does daughter call??? Me of co...	clara	13	922	May 30, 2009 by Karilynn
	My Short Fuse... (Preview) Could my short fuse be another trait I have gathered from my Afather... Aurggggg... I was having a rather good morning.. No Drama, just get'n it done... I get a package from Fed-ex stating that it was shipped internationally??? So I open it, and find two CD's.. And a packing list... So I call the Number o...	Jozie	3	638	May 30, 2009 by maresie
	So it Continues...Aurggggg (Preview) Ok... Long short, I gave away afathers trailer, "Great DONE", also gave away the Nice shed that was with it... WELL... The land owners came over the other day when the lady was removing the trailer and said that "NO WAY" was she taking the Shed, it did not go with the trailer... She...	Jozie	4	699	May 29, 2009 by Sincerely
	thank you Tiger (Preview) back from my evaluation - mind on alcohol took most of the day but we're home from my 2 hr evaluation (in addition to the 12 hr DUI 1st offense school) - i did end up speaking to the counselor and telling her some of my past - left here this morn not sure what way i was going to go with it - end result was not what i w...	florida	1	512	May 29, 2009 by Tiger2006
	all the stress is affecting me physically (Preview) lots of extra stress for the past 6-8 months - gained 20 lbs and it wont come back off hard to take care of myself physically when there is so much mental/emotional turmoil	florida	9	906	May 29, 2009 by peacewithin
	Closure (Preview) Today I am struggling with all sorts of feelings. I managed to get out of the house and spoke with my sponsor and two of my closest recovery friends. I am going to sit down and have dinner and attend an open AA meeting tonight. I would be less than honest if I told you that I was really totally okay. I am not. I h...	Saved By Grace	1	627	May 29, 2009 by Jerry F
	Moving day is upon me (Preview) Saturday is moving day. I am dreading it but at the same time looking forward to it being over. My entire life has been about packing and cleaning for the past month and I am so ready to have my other life back!!! My last move was a disaster I was not prepared and had barely any help. I feel pretty good abo...	carolinagirl	5	708	May 29, 2009 by Loupiness
	Controlling and over reacting (Preview) Today I saw an old friend who used to be my neighbor 10 years ago. The entire time I knew him when I lived near him I over reacted to him day and night. I found him incredibly irritating, I thought condescening, and rigid. Today I saw him for a social call I have not seen him for probably 6 years as I was total...	maresie	11	588	May 28, 2009 by wildthang86
	Not going back..tried it past couple days.. (Preview) SO I brought some clothes and what not went back to the apartment to see if we could be alright and stay there without arguing too much and what not. Well his girlfriend is all psycho and got all jealous when I went back and constantly calls and doesn't let him spend any time there. She obviously doesn't tr...	Melissa21	9	840	May 28, 2009 by Inpain
	Confrontation & Taking Care of "ME" (Preview) Hi Family, Things have changed a lot between my dry drunk bf and I over the last few weeks. I call him a dry drunk because he does not currently attend meetings and has never worked the steps although he says he is an AA for 18 yrs. Over the last few weeks he has been more committed to the relationship and has g...	Saved By Grace	11	1190	May 28, 2009 by Saved By Grace
	Searching for ESH, and maybe a push! (Preview) I have had a great weekend, and once I got back to my every day Life, and away from camp... I have had time to think and reflect... I guess I am still struggling with the final things of my afathers belongings, I am DONE in a sense, that I don't have too worry about the trailer, but now i still have to go to the ba...	Jozie	9	763	May 28, 2009 by kitty
	I wonder what happens..... curiosity..... (Preview) I've been noticing lately that we get an awful lot of newbie post-ers, who post once or twice, and then we never hear from them again.... Always wondered about what may or may not have happened.... are they not ready for recovery, have they found something else, did they get offended or were we not the r...	canadianguy	13	951	May 28, 2009 by QOD
	Letting go feels weird~ (Preview) Not that I have a lot of experience in doing so, but it just feels weird. I keep thinking to myself what it will be like to never talk to EXABF again, or know what is going on in his life, etc. I know it's all for the best, and deep down I know it will get easier.....it always does when we have no contact.....I m...	shellyj123	9	698	May 28, 2009 by serendipity
	Last night turned out to be a pretty good night! (Preview) When I got home yesterday from work, my son had his room clean and the dishes in the kitchen cleaned up. He was sitting on the porch when I pulled in. He was in a bit of a foul mood though, instantly making demands. "Mom, give me a bag I can put my karate stuff in." I asked him what was wrong w/th...	QOD	6	838	May 28, 2009 by QOD
	the facade of control... (Preview) i've been thinking about control...my addiction to it. I like things my way. Predictable. I like being in charge. I like being the leader. Im not a good follower. this I know about myself. and I am consciously working on this. what I don't know is how to draw the line. or where to draw the line. how to let...	Rora	9	542	May 27, 2009 by maresie
	Making friends... (Preview) At this time in my life, where I am separated from my aH and making changes in my life I am finding that I am in need of new friendships. I work fulltime. Sit on a board of directors. I'm active in my community and do committee work and fundraising work. What I am realizing is that I really suck at making f...	Rora	6	676	May 27, 2009 by maresie
	Today, I HATE my life!!! (Preview) Yep. I found myself saying that out loud this afternoon. I HATE MY LIFE!!! How sad is that? Very sad. Sure there are some positive things in my life but b/c of my son, I don't truly get to enjoy them. My daughter for instance. She is a major positive in my life. She is my little luv bug. But my life is...	QOD	9	739	May 27, 2009 by Jean4444
	Another "boundary" test passed! (Preview) My ever-texting exbf-A once again tried to get my attention this morning with an "I miss u" text. Once again...I could have chosen to not respond...which would have prompted more texts. Or, I could have text something about his new enabler girlfriend...which would have resulted in mean...	newday	6	724	May 27, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Just for Today :) (Preview) Just for today, I feel honored to have such a wonderful life, and family...I just made it thru a pretty trying weekend, not that I didn't have a wonderful time, because I did. But I got to try out some of my Al-anon tools in full force and I have to say... It felt pretty dang good :) Most of you have heard me spe...	Jozie	2	631	May 27, 2009 by Jozie
	Alcoholism a blessing for us? (Preview) I have been in alanon over two decades and have worked very hard on my program. I have come a LONG way since when I first started. I have gained a measure of serenity and peace, as much as I can have with chaos going on around me most of the time. I don't indulge in mind altering substances, so I am aware of w...	ThisIsBlythe	12	881	May 27, 2009 by java
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