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Hi MIP family! Long time no post, but definetly reading and learning still.
Yesterday a great gift of new life came into our world. Our first grand baby boy. Mother and baby are doing well. My son is full of great love. The same love we feel for him.
Many of you know my son is only 16 and once, I would have been filled with nothing but sad feelings regarding this event. Through this program I have learned to feel my feelings , put them in perspective, see things as they really are and be grateful for the joy and love that new life represents.
My son and his girl have their hands full, but they also have the love and support of both families forming a net to support them through the tough times. We all have more chances to grow in this. For me, I will be learning how to offer love and support without controlling or enabling avoidance of responsibility by my son and his girl. I'll be learning how to treat him as a man, when he's still a boy. I'll learn again how to detach with love.
I'll also learn that great grandparent priviledge of spoiling the grandbaby rotten . Can't resist that!
Quick update on husband with alcoholism. The good news is no hospitalizations since Christmas. He remains active, but recently achieved 3 1/2 weeks dry. Some may say that's nothing but for him a very big something. He had not attempted sobriety for a very long time and he had never in 6 years lasted longer than a week on his own. I had hoped he would reach out to AA but did not. I stayed out of it and offered support and encouragement, but did not try to be his HP. Even my son told him he was proud and to keep it up. More joy and healing from that moment for all.
I am at this moment so grateful for the "ups" to balance out the "downs".
My little grandchild is now 2 yrs old. She arrived in this world as my Ason was spiralling downward in his disease....and she has been a lifesaver to me... She is the best distraction, and source of kisses and cuddles, ever. When I feel down I just bring to mind her cheeky grin.....lifts me up every time!
Best wishes to you and all your family on this joyous occasion.
Congrats on the new g-baby. My daughter had a baby one year ago today!!! She is the best thing that ever happened to me.
My daughter was 17 when she got pregnant.....Enable her...no...help her yes, she just graduated from high school and is starting nursing school in the fall.... She still lives with me and I adore my g-daughter.
Best wishes with your husband, where there is life there is hope!!!! Hey 6 weeks sober is wonderful.....
Congratulations on this new little angel in your life. My oldest children are 18 and 15 and if they were bringing new life into the world at such a young age, I would hope to have your strength to help and support them as you have.
My littlest just turned 2 and was conceived and born at a time when his loving daddy was already headed into his end. Over the last 2 years, especially the last month, he has been my little rock. I hug him and kiss his chunky little cheeks. He is the spitting image of his daddy and reminds me of him constantly. He reminds me of the sweetness and love that his father had even within the battle of alcohol.
Rocky---Congratualtions on the grand baby. Speaking from experience, there is nothing like it. I myself am the Nana of twin (8 years old) granddaughters. They are the light of our life.
Congratulations also on husbands 3 week soberity. It is just one day at a time and he (and you) have had 21 days---at a timne.
Enjoy the grandbaby.
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Clara
------------------------------------ What don't kill you, makes you stronger!!!
. Can't resist that!
