Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Rose · Rose

Hi all, I haven't posted much but I read a lot of the messages and just want to scream at the world that the majority of the posts are exactly what I am feeling. This is a great place to come to know that you are not alone in this world. So my story continues.......my AH is still drinking. Can't seem to make it...

Jozie · Jozie

What Day... THAT Day :) I sat down at my kitchen table, 10 years ago today... I sat down & wrote a letter to My Grandma in heaven... I wanted to share a piece of it with you... "I can sit down here & I can write my memories of her: Her memory will live with me forever, along with her STRENGTH, her C...

Acatnip · Acatnip

AH has been hitting the bottle pretty hard, starting early yesterday with much drama as evident by my last post. He keeps telling me he loves me but I know he loves the bottle more. So today, left AH at home and spent the day with my daughter. I missed a call from him and he left a message saying he was "...

Gailey · Gailey

has just arrived. I am so excited but will not get to meet her until 4/17. We will be leaving for Japan that day. Her name is Julia and they have waited a long time for a baby. What a joy!!!!!

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

My AH is half way through his treatment. I am more confused now more than ever. I have been talking to him almost nightly since he went in. Some things are really troubling me... I'm thoroughly enjoying him being gone. I like that I can do what I want and don't have to even think about what he is doing. I li...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Hi All. Just feeling down. My dear father died a week ago in hospital. They rang but I live 2 hours away and didn't get there in time. He would have been 89 next month and he has been ill for some time so in some ways it was a relief and a release for him. At last he is in peace. I have spent the last 2 days sorting ou...

Rodney2009 · Rodney2009

I am still struggling here re my family still using I cant seam to get a sponsor face to face for this program what is your advice thanks Rod from Canada

hotrod · hotrod

Hi Everyone It seems strange that there has been no new posts on this board in several hours . I was unable to attend last nights meeting, as I could not connect to the chat room Just wondering about the results. Hope everyone has a great day

loss a family member · Rodney2009

I have had desire to drink in the past while thank God i did not do it but please keep me in prayers thanks Rod

Karilynn · Karilynn

To all of my MIP that celebrates Passover this week, I wish you much joy & blessings. Enjoy the celebration. Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

hotrod · hotrod

Good Morning Everyone A few weeks ago we decided to post a Step a week on the Step Board. We did begin with Step One and since it has been 2 weeks since the last post I have Posted my experience with Step 2 on the Step Board. I would love to read your experience with this Step Thanks

rachweb · rachweb

What the heck is it about weekends? I don't get it. My husband and I pass in the night all week long and when Thursday night comes Dr. Jekyll starts to appear. Our weekends and holidays SUCK. Like I have mentioned before, my husband's drinking is not active all the time, in fact, he has not gotten drun...

babysteps · babysteps

Thank God for this website. My AH and I have been separated for 15 months. He has lived 4 hours away from me and our daughter since separating. He was/is a chronic alcoholic. He has seen our daughter for holidays, long weekends once a month, and five weeks last summer. He has only come to our town once sinc...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi Everyone, I have been to weekend convention this weekend and had a very strange experience. I asked my Hp before I left to help me to keep the focus on me. The convention is called new beginnings and I wanted to really start to focus on my recovery. My sober ABF was attending the convention also and a...

Acatnip · Acatnip

AH checked himself in last night for a voluntary three day hold to get help. I do not know if he did it to quit drinking or to prevent another suicide attempt. I was not home and he sought out his son to assist him. As a result, I have no idea what to expect. I am planning to move out and am fearful that they are go...

fingersxd · fingersxd

Hi. I'm new on here and hope to benefit from your advice and posts and to 'let off some steam' if I'm honest!! My 44 yr old sister ... married with 3 kids ... is an alcoholic and has been for years. She spent 6 weeks in a clinic on a de-tox programme 5 years ago and spent a considerable time sober. I took her...

wifeofalcoholic · wifeofalcoholic

Hi Everybody, You have all encouraged me. My husband relapsed 3 weeks ago and I have gone through alot of soul searching and prayer. After reading all the posts on this board and the inspiring messages, I decided to go to an Al-Anon meeting after being absent for over a year. I am so glad I went!!!! It w...

weggie · weggie

Another lonely night thinking where is he. My A just came home awhile ago and of course...drunk. ..As he passed out on the bed, I cried out to my God "Plese take him or me, I can't take this anymore." I must have cried out for 1/2 hour repeating the same words to God..." Please, him or me,,...

CharlieDog · CharlieDog

I am currently sitting at home with my ten month old baby. Monday I pick my AH from rehab. I am such a ball of stress, I do not know what to do, where to go, how to act. I have seen him twice since he went in. I like the guy I have talked to. I just don't know him and I don't trust ANY of it. Logically, in my head I t...

rachweb · rachweb

Well, I am new to Al-Anon and brand new to this site. I just stumbled upon it. I could really use some advice/help. My first Al-anon meeting was Thursday, March 11. I felt invincible after the meeting. I loved it. I felt a bit sad when I got home and couldn't share any of what I learned with my husband....

Hurt Nurse · Hurt Nurse

My boyfriend of 1 year is an alcoholic. A month ago he called me and said "I think we need to take a break, I need to work on myself" Up to this point his drinking went from drinking on weekends to drinking every night. So I gave him his space, thinking maybe he was going to get help. But now I find ou...

xter · xter

my AH moved out and i immediately took up with someone else. another A. it was all physical at first. i thought i deserved it, i thought i could handle it and keep my emotions out of it. but then i stopped going to al anon, and i fell head over heels for this guy. he was great at first. of course. but the p...

xter · xter

ex ABF showed up to a work event with his pregnant wife last night and i feel so low because of it. my apartment is a mess and i have no time to clean until tomorrow after my meeting and i feel so guilty about it. there's so much to do at the office, i'm overwhelmed. i was crying this morning already and i'm reac...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hey Gang, Been a long time since I have been able to get here. HALT ... I am not hungry or angry, I am lonely and tired. Full time work, 3/4 time school and that leaves enough time to sleep and play with the moostiff. My apologies for not being here to give back as much as I have recieved. It re-entered my head t...

farmgirlmay · farmgirlmay

My AH and I have been separated for the last year, he just recently spent 30 days in rehab after totalling his car on Valentines. About 2 weeks ago I learned that he had been having a year long affair with a former student of his who is all of 22 now (he is twice that age). My son and I visited him in treatment a...

sdisnie · sdisnie

The past week I've been struggling with missing the ex AH. This surprises me in a way because there was quite awhile that I felt ok with him being gone. However.....this time last year, he was sober and things were pretty good. He had been sober from the fall on (2008) after being hospitalized for bi...

Love Always Hopes · Love Always Hopes

Hi I'm new here. And new to Al-Anon. Actually, I've never even been to a meeting. I am in a committed relationship with an alcoholic. When we met, he had completed a full year in-house recovery program. Last June he started drinking occasionally and now is full blown drunk most of the time. Befor...

weggie · weggie

I have been away from Alaon for whatever reason, work, family, no time, I thought I could handle it myself. etc..I have been reading all the lit on Alaon with some great results for myself. I am starting back with my f to f meeting on Wed. I am going thru a bad time with my A as I really think he has reached ro...

maybethistime · maybethistime

Long (10 year relationship) story in a shortened version... We met and I fell head over heels for his passion, anger and screw you attitude. We partied A LOT. Our relationship was tumultous from the start. Lots of fighting that accompained the drinking. He asked me to marry him. While planning the...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, When I first started my posts almost four years ago, I had come out of a terrible dilemma with one of my brothers. He had taken me for a complete rid for about 7 months and I was very upset when we fell out. However, it forced me to address issues that I had with my family situation and my life improve...

Bettina · Bettina

Just some thoughts, now that I have reached the ripe young age of 64 its kind of freeing. Looking back over my life, I took some turns that I would like to do over, but glad Im where I am at and have few regrets. Im divorced from the xah that I was married too for 26 years and would you believe I even managed to...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I am needing to vent. Things have been going very well for me. I have been focusing on me and taking care of me as never before. It has been a while since I have allowed myself to obsess about somthing that I have almost forgot what the hampster wheel sounded like, but the hampster is back and he is spi...

Hurt Nurse · Hurt Nurse

I must say what an eye opener it was for me. I wish I would have been going through out the entire relationship. But now I know I can start working on healing myself even if he isn't going to get help for himself.

lindseymommyof2 · lindseymommyof2

Hi- I am just...lost, My Afiance has been dry for 2 months now and this is like a rollercoaster ride! I can't help but have so much anger and try to keep things in when the kids are around. I just don't know how to NOT be angry. I am trying to be happy around him, but it just crumbles-every little thing sets hi...

Acatnip · Acatnip

So I got up this morning, took care of the dogs, grabbed a cup of coffee, made note that 1/2 bottle of vodka missing since late last night and headed back to the guest room I am staying in. AH's dog (who prefers to stay with me when he is drinking) had opened his bedroom door and went in (it was cracked enough...

John · John

Hello Everyone! As indicated at the top of this message board some changes have been made regarding how the message board will be regulated. All future decisions regarding the policies and proceedures related to the Message Board will be voted on by any registered member who wishes to participa...

sdisnie · sdisnie

For you old timers out there....who have since split with their A....can you tell me your story about life after the A....did they change, did they get better...worse...how was your relationship etc.... I just want to hear other stories.... Thanks

lacewing · lacewing

Hello fellow Al-Anoner's! Does anyone know of a website where the Blue Prints for Progress Step 4 book is available online? I am in need of a copy, or a book - if someone has an extra that they are willing to donate to me. I cannot afford a new copy and any that I have found on bid/buy sites, seem to have other...

CJ recovery · CJ recovery

"I married a wonderful man (wife) and he (she) turned into a 'xxxx'." How many of us have experienced that? Most, if not all. Did that person change? Perhaps, but probably not substantially. They still possess the attributes you loved- you just ignored the bad parts (and learned of t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

THANKS FOR THE SUGGESTION! I REALLY DO NEED TO DO THE 10TH STEP EVERY DAY! AND ALSO I HAVE A REAL RESENTMENT THAT I AM CURRENTLY DEALING WITH. USUALLY THE FOCUS IS ON ME. I GUESS I JUST NEED TO KEEP THAT FOCUS THERE. THANKS FOR GIVING A HOOT! KATHLEEN

NMW · NMW

Does anybody have any good ideas on how to go places where your ex is without it bothering you?

Destynee · Destynee

Drug addict H has been thrown out of his sober house. I didn't hear from him for 3 days until last night when he calls and says he's killing himself. I called 911 and gave me the last address I had but he had been thrown out. They couldn't find him. He called again and started blaming me for everything, h...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi all, I posted yesterday about feeling angry about the possibility of an upcoming surgery. In the past when I was angry, sad, lonely....pretty much any overwhelming feeling I would turn to food. I would make mashed potatoes (lol I don't know why) and that was the best comfort food. Well I have been wo...

Rora · Rora

I've read your last post about your feelings about your soon to be exA. I've been chewing on it all night. I have had an attitude overhaul by you saying that at one time, the love that the A and you shared was the best of both of your lives. My exaH and I have been "together" for nearly 10 yrs - sep...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Been a while since I have been on here. Just wanted to give an update. Still working, still going to school and looking forward to summer. My ex AH is back in jail and calling me collect on my cell phone 2 or 3 times a day. ANNOYING. I guess because I let him stay for a few months he took that as he has a chan...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

SOMETIMES I FEEL SO SORRY FOR MYSELF FOR THE DECISIONS I MADE IN THE PAST. TODAY I HAD I BAD DAY! I GOT A NAP LIKE I HAD PLANNED BUT STILL FELT AWFUL. I BARKED AT MY HUSBAND. I COMPLAINED ABOUT AA & ALL THE SITUATIONS HE GETS INTO. I BASICALLY GOT INTO HIS BUSINESS & FOR ONCE IT WASN'T ALL ABOUT ME! AT...

kml26385 · kml26385

I just wanted to stop by and introduce myself. I am totally new to al-anon but I am feeling a deep need to learn how to handle the situation I am in. I have been with my alcoholic husband for ten years. He has been sober for four of the ten years. Recently his drinking has escalated to the point where he is d...

Cararuss · Cararuss

I have a friend whose family did an intervention and sent him to rehab. He was in a bad auto accident a few months ago due to alcohol and was recovering but starting to drink again so his family stepped in. He's 40 divorced with 3 kids. I never knew he had a "problem" and was always a laid back swee...

Alyana · Alyana

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Gailey · Gailey

What I read in C2C this morning was profound for me. It has really given me food for thought. My mother has the beginning stages of Alzhimer's disease. My son has the disease of Alcoholism. It is very frustrating to be around both of them at times. I love my mother and I love my son. They are my family. Woul...

Acatnip · Acatnip

So I mentioned I am planning to move and have taken steps to get a new place and started a new job. As I sit here studying in the bedroom I moved into to be able to get advanced work and more hours, I hear the familiar banging of AH stuck in the bathroom again. I check on him to find he is on the floor and sauced to t...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Al Anon cont. to help me in life. So much of it comes natural now. AH is still in prison, I filed for divorce the end of January. Have done all the paper work and not the court date is April 29,10. Feels great. For me it was the best thing to wait to be ready to do all this. I have no emotion for him at all. No longer...

ythannah · ythannah

I'm recognizing a pattern of emotional unavailability as a common denominator in my past partners, who were both alcoholics and non-alcoholics. Which, of course, mirrors what was familiar to me from my family of origin; seems to be what I'm comfortable with! But I never seem to be able to spot it...

kerry5 · kerry5

Again Tommorow Thursday at 9pm est is our Step/Tradition meeting> We will be on Tradition 12. I ask all oldtimers or some to come and join us and teach our new membes what the traditions mean to us and how we can use them in our lives. I would appeciate it . We need you! Thanks Kerry (aka Kerisha)

BEM · BEM

I think I was on here a couple of years ago but can't remember. I haven't been good about going to meetings and I thought I was doing o.k. - but in real denial. This has been one (very bad) year. We decided to move last year - my choice. So many things to list but summing it up my A cheated on me, got a DWI, and...

pricklypear · pricklypear

So here I am again. Thinking I can fix it.. the neverending substance abuse counselor who is great with her clients. My friend who has been in AA for the last 23 years says "draw the line...tell him to get help or go." Realize I pink slipped this guy two months ago because of suicidal behav...

AGO · AGO

Greetings to the MIP Alanon Board, I started reading here a few years ago when I began studying the effects of codependency in my life, but just read and didn't participate, for various reasons. However I read your (Moonchild) post recently and it tugged my heartstrings, but not being a parent, I felt...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

This week I had an experience that helped me understand how to detach and I wanted to share my ES&H. The Behaviors I learned Growing Up in An Alcoholic Home In the alcoholic family I grew up in, I developed a series of behaviors around crisis or perceived crisis. Whenever there was an upset, I drop...

jasobel · jasobel

Hi, my ex ABF is in a relationship with an abusive AGF. We have been apart for 4 months. This past week I guess I failed and took him in so he could leave the abusive relationship. I put him up at a hotel for a couple of nights until he could find a rental. His AGF abuses him verbally and emotionally when she dr...

Katy · Katy

Please come back, I miss you.Katyx

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Back again - Lost and angry (Preview) Hi all, I haven't posted much but I read a lot of the messages and just want to scream at the world that the majority of the posts are exactly what I am feeling. This is a great place to come to know that you are not alone in this world. So my story continues.......my AH is still drinking. Can't seem to make it...	Rose	10	899	Mar 29, 2010 by maresie
	Today is THAT Day... (Preview) What Day... THAT Day :) I sat down at my kitchen table, 10 years ago today... I sat down & wrote a letter to My Grandma in heaven... I wanted to share a piece of it with you... "I can sit down here & I can write my memories of her: Her memory will live with me forever, along with her STRENGTH, her C...	Jozie	2	792	Mar 29, 2010 by maresie
	What To Do?? Need Serious Advice (Preview) AH has been hitting the bottle pretty hard, starting early yesterday with much drama as evident by my last post. He keeps telling me he loves me but I know he loves the bottle more. So today, left AH at home and spent the day with my daughter. I missed a call from him and he left a message saying he was "...	Acatnip	9	911	Mar 29, 2010 by maresie
	my new granddaughter....... (Preview) has just arrived. I am so excited but will not get to meet her until 4/17. We will be leaving for Japan that day. Her name is Julia and they have waited a long time for a baby. What a joy!!!!!	Gailey	8	743	Mar 29, 2010 by Rita G
	half way there (Preview) My AH is half way through his treatment. I am more confused now more than ever. I have been talking to him almost nightly since he went in. Some things are really troubling me... I'm thoroughly enjoying him being gone. I like that I can do what I want and don't have to even think about what he is doing. I li...	Sweet Stanley	4	570	Mar 29, 2010 by Kiki52
	Very down (Preview) Hi All. Just feeling down. My dear father died a week ago in hospital. They rang but I live 2 hours away and didn't get there in time. He would have been 89 next month and he has been ill for some time so in some ways it was a relief and a release for him. At last he is in peace. I have spent the last 2 days sorting ou...	Tattyhead	6	756	Mar 29, 2010 by ythannah
	dont belong here oviouselly (Preview) I am still struggling here re my family still using I cant seam to get a sponsor face to face for this program what is your advice thanks Rod from Canada	Rodney2009	9	928	Mar 29, 2010 by Rodney2009
	Postings (Preview) Hi Everyone It seems strange that there has been no new posts on this board in several hours . I was unable to attend last nights meeting, as I could not connect to the chat room Just wondering about the results. Hope everyone has a great day	hotrod	2	656	Mar 29, 2010 by hotrod
	loss a family member (Preview) I have had desire to drink in the past while thank God i did not do it but please keep me in prayers thanks Rod	Rodney2009	8	825	Mar 29, 2010 by Rodney2009
	Happy Passover (Preview) To all of my MIP that celebrates Passover this week, I wish you much joy & blessings. Enjoy the celebration. Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	0	321	Mar 29, 2010 by Karilynn
	Step 2 (Preview) Good Morning Everyone A few weeks ago we decided to post a Step a week on the Step Board. We did begin with Step One and since it has been 2 weeks since the last post I have Posted my experience with Step 2 on the Step Board. I would love to read your experience with this Step Thanks	hotrod	3	647	Mar 29, 2010 by Jozie
	Why do Weekends SUCK???? (Preview) What the heck is it about weekends? I don't get it. My husband and I pass in the night all week long and when Thursday night comes Dr. Jekyll starts to appear. Our weekends and holidays SUCK. Like I have mentioned before, my husband's drinking is not active all the time, in fact, he has not gotten drun...	rachweb	8	826	Mar 29, 2010 by Bettina
	Ugly divorce (Preview) Thank God for this website. My AH and I have been separated for 15 months. He has lived 4 hours away from me and our daughter since separating. He was/is a chronic alcoholic. He has seen our daughter for holidays, long weekends once a month, and five weeks last summer. He has only come to our town once sinc...	babysteps	5	721	Mar 29, 2010 by Bettina
	Pain (Preview) Hi Everyone, I have been to weekend convention this weekend and had a very strange experience. I asked my Hp before I left to help me to keep the focus on me. The convention is called new beginnings and I wanted to really start to focus on my recovery. My sober ABF was attending the convention also and a...	Tracy	3	636	Mar 28, 2010 by Jerry F
	Rehab/3 day hold question (Preview) AH checked himself in last night for a voluntary three day hold to get help. I do not know if he did it to quit drinking or to prevent another suicide attempt. I was not home and he sought out his son to assist him. As a result, I have no idea what to expect. I am planning to move out and am fearful that they are go...	Acatnip	2	657	Mar 28, 2010 by Jerry F
	New here! (Preview) Hi. I'm new on here and hope to benefit from your advice and posts and to 'let off some steam' if I'm honest!! My 44 yr old sister ... married with 3 kids ... is an alcoholic and has been for years. She spent 6 weeks in a clinic on a de-tox programme 5 years ago and spent a considerable time sober. I took her...	fingersxd	10	849	Mar 28, 2010 by fingersxd
	My meeting after being absent over 1 year (Preview) Hi Everybody, You have all encouraged me. My husband relapsed 3 weeks ago and I have gone through alot of soul searching and prayer. After reading all the posts on this board and the inspiring messages, I decided to go to an Al-Anon meeting after being absent for over a year. I am so glad I went!!!! It w...	wifeofalcoholic	7	748	Mar 28, 2010 by Rodney2009
	Pray (Preview) Another lonely night thinking where is he. My A just came home awhile ago and of course...drunk. ..As he passed out on the bed, I cried out to my God "Plese take him or me, I can't take this anymore." I must have cried out for 1/2 hour repeating the same words to God..." Please, him or me,,...	weggie	4	732	Mar 28, 2010 by glad lee
	Don't Even Know Where to Start (Preview) I am currently sitting at home with my ten month old baby. Monday I pick my AH from rehab. I am such a ball of stress, I do not know what to do, where to go, how to act. I have seen him twice since he went in. I like the guy I have talked to. I just don't know him and I don't trust ANY of it. Logically, in my head I t...	CharlieDog	4	734	Mar 28, 2010 by ayjay
	I am New to Al-anon and could really use some help (Preview) Well, I am new to Al-Anon and brand new to this site. I just stumbled upon it. I could really use some advice/help. My first Al-anon meeting was Thursday, March 11. I felt invincible after the meeting. I loved it. I felt a bit sad when I got home and couldn't share any of what I learned with my husband....	rachweb	11	920	Mar 27, 2010 by breezee
	New Here and God, do I need help (Preview) My boyfriend of 1 year is an alcoholic. A month ago he called me and said "I think we need to take a break, I need to work on myself" Up to this point his drinking went from drinking on weekends to drinking every night. So I gave him his space, thinking maybe he was going to get help. But now I find ou...	Hurt Nurse	11	848	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	haaaate myself (Preview) my AH moved out and i immediately took up with someone else. another A. it was all physical at first. i thought i deserved it, i thought i could handle it and keep my emotions out of it. but then i stopped going to al anon, and i fell head over heels for this guy. he was great at first. of course. but the p...	xter	14	1209	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	tough morning (Preview) ex ABF showed up to a work event with his pregnant wife last night and i feel so low because of it. my apartment is a mess and i have no time to clean until tomorrow after my meeting and i feel so guilty about it. there's so much to do at the office, i'm overwhelmed. i was crying this morning already and i'm reac...	xter	7	562	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Stinky thoughts on replay in my head (Preview) Hey Gang, Been a long time since I have been able to get here. HALT ... I am not hungry or angry, I am lonely and tired. Full time work, 3/4 time school and that leaves enough time to sleep and play with the moostiff. My apologies for not being here to give back as much as I have recieved. It re-entered my head t...	Jennifer	4	715	Mar 27, 2010 by Jennifer
	Crazy Making (Preview) My AH and I have been separated for the last year, he just recently spent 30 days in rehab after totalling his car on Valentines. About 2 weeks ago I learned that he had been having a year long affair with a former student of his who is all of 22 now (he is twice that age). My son and I visited him in treatment a...	farmgirlmay	9	1657	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Struggling lately with missing the A and maybe the chaos with it (Preview) The past week I've been struggling with missing the ex AH. This surprises me in a way because there was quite awhile that I felt ok with him being gone. However.....this time last year, he was sober and things were pretty good. He had been sober from the fall on (2008) after being hospitalized for bi...	sdisnie	4	1218	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	New & Possibly Unwise to Ignore ABF request by being here? (Preview) Hi I'm new here. And new to Al-Anon. Actually, I've never even been to a meeting. I am in a committed relationship with an alcoholic. When we met, he had completed a full year in-house recovery program. Last June he started drinking occasionally and now is full blown drunk most of the time. Befor...	Love Always Hopes	11	902	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Starting Again (Preview) I have been away from Alaon for whatever reason, work, family, no time, I thought I could handle it myself. etc..I have been reading all the lit on Alaon with some great results for myself. I am starting back with my f to f meeting on Wed. I am going thru a bad time with my A as I really think he has reached ro...	weggie	4	739	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Newbie wondering if there is "too much water under the bridge" (Preview) Long (10 year relationship) story in a shortened version... We met and I fell head over heels for his passion, anger and screw you attitude. We partied A LOT. Our relationship was tumultous from the start. Lots of fighting that accompained the drinking. He asked me to marry him. While planning the...	maybethistime	10	2725	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Situation with my brother (Preview) Dear All, When I first started my posts almost four years ago, I had come out of a terrible dilemma with one of my brothers. He had taken me for a complete rid for about 7 months and I was very upset when we fell out. However, it forced me to address issues that I had with my family situation and my life improve...	maire rua	5	778	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Just Insights (Preview) Just some thoughts, now that I have reached the ripe young age of 64 its kind of freeing. Looking back over my life, I took some turns that I would like to do over, but glad Im where I am at and have few regrets. Im divorced from the xah that I was married too for 26 years and would you believe I even managed to...	Bettina	5	710	Mar 27, 2010 by maresie
	Feeling Angry (Preview) Hi all, I am needing to vent. Things have been going very well for me. I have been focusing on me and taking care of me as never before. It has been a while since I have allowed myself to obsess about somthing that I have almost forgot what the hampster wheel sounded like, but the hampster is back and he is spi...	Mandy123	6	763	Mar 27, 2010 by ayjay
	I went to my first Al Anon meeting (Preview) I must say what an eye opener it was for me. I wish I would have been going through out the entire relationship. But now I know I can start working on healing myself even if he isn't going to get help for himself.	Hurt Nurse	9	607	Mar 27, 2010 by ayjay
	stuck, angry, question about housing (Preview) Hi- I am just...lost, My Afiance has been dry for 2 months now and this is like a rollercoaster ride! I can't help but have so much anger and try to keep things in when the kids are around. I just don't know how to NOT be angry. I am trying to be happy around him, but it just crumbles-every little thing sets hi...	lindseymommyof2	3	857	Mar 27, 2010 by DreamXL
	Sheriff is here, what a way to start the day (Preview) So I got up this morning, took care of the dogs, grabbed a cup of coffee, made note that 1/2 bottle of vodka missing since late last night and headed back to the guest room I am staying in. AH's dog (who prefers to stay with me when he is drinking) had opened his bedroom door and went in (it was cracked enough...	Acatnip	5	736	Mar 27, 2010 by Acatnip
	Message Board Decision Meeting Sunday March 28th, @ 9pm est. (Preview) Hello Everyone! As indicated at the top of this message board some changes have been made regarding how the message board will be regulated. All future decisions regarding the policies and proceedures related to the Message Board will be voted on by any registered member who wishes to participa...	John	1	643	Mar 26, 2010 by John
	Old Timers...Tell me YOUR story about life after your A (Preview) For you old timers out there....who have since split with their A....can you tell me your story about life after the A....did they change, did they get better...worse...how was your relationship etc.... I just want to hear other stories.... Thanks	sdisnie	10	1325	Mar 26, 2010 by Jennifer
	Help with an Al-Anon Book, Please? (Preview) Hello fellow Al-Anoner's! Does anyone know of a website where the Blue Prints for Progress Step 4 book is available online? I am in need of a copy, or a book - if someone has an extra that they are willing to donate to me. I cannot afford a new copy and any that I have found on bid/buy sites, seem to have other...	lacewing	4	557	Mar 26, 2010 by lacewing
	Detachment for Rachweb (and others) (Preview) "I married a wonderful man (wife) and he (she) turned into a 'xxxx'." How many of us have experienced that? Most, if not all. Did that person change? Perhaps, but probably not substantially. They still possess the attributes you loved- you just ignored the bad parts (and learned of t...	CJ recovery	7	864	Mar 26, 2010 by rachweb
	JERRY F. (Preview) THANKS FOR THE SUGGESTION! I REALLY DO NEED TO DO THE 10TH STEP EVERY DAY! AND ALSO I HAVE A REAL RESENTMENT THAT I AM CURRENTLY DEALING WITH. USUALLY THE FOCUS IS ON ME. I GUESS I JUST NEED TO KEEP THAT FOCUS THERE. THANKS FOR GIVING A HOOT! KATHLEEN	Hoot Nanny	1	719	Mar 26, 2010 by Jerry F
	Party Saturday Night (Preview) Does anybody have any good ideas on how to go places where your ex is without it bothering you?	NMW	7	813	Mar 26, 2010 by kitty
	Trying so hard to work the program.... (Preview) Drug addict H has been thrown out of his sober house. I didn't hear from him for 3 days until last night when he calls and says he's killing himself. I called 911 and gave me the last address I had but he had been thrown out. They couldn't find him. He called again and started blaming me for everything, h...	Destynee	7	1153	Mar 26, 2010 by kitty
	Changed attitudes can aid recovery.....who knew :) (Preview) Hi all, I posted yesterday about feeling angry about the possibility of an upcoming surgery. In the past when I was angry, sad, lonely....pretty much any overwhelming feeling I would turn to food. I would make mashed potatoes (lol I don't know why) and that was the best comfort food. Well I have been wo...	Mandy123	5	1008	Mar 26, 2010 by maybethistime
	Thank you Debilyn.... (Preview) I've read your last post about your feelings about your soon to be exA. I've been chewing on it all night. I have had an attitude overhaul by you saying that at one time, the love that the A and you shared was the best of both of your lives. My exaH and I have been "together" for nearly 10 yrs - sep...	Rora	4	649	Mar 26, 2010 by NMW
	Update on me (Preview) Been a while since I have been on here. Just wanted to give an update. Still working, still going to school and looking forward to summer. My ex AH is back in jail and calling me collect on my cell phone 2 or 3 times a day. ANNOYING. I guess because I let him stay for a few months he took that as he has a chan...	carolinagirl	4	651	Mar 26, 2010 by ythannah
	I feel so I feel! (Preview) SOMETIMES I FEEL SO SORRY FOR MYSELF FOR THE DECISIONS I MADE IN THE PAST. TODAY I HAD I BAD DAY! I GOT A NAP LIKE I HAD PLANNED BUT STILL FELT AWFUL. I BARKED AT MY HUSBAND. I COMPLAINED ABOUT AA & ALL THE SITUATIONS HE GETS INTO. I BASICALLY GOT INTO HIS BUSINESS & FOR ONCE IT WASN'T ALL ABOUT ME! AT...	Hoot Nanny	1	679	Mar 25, 2010 by Jerry F
	Hello from a newbie. (Preview) I just wanted to stop by and introduce myself. I am totally new to al-anon but I am feeling a deep need to learn how to handle the situation I am in. I have been with my alcoholic husband for ten years. He has been sober for four of the ten years. Recently his drinking has escalated to the point where he is d...	kml26385	6	574	Mar 25, 2010 by kml26385
	What to expect when they get out of rehab??? (Preview) I have a friend whose family did an intervention and sent him to rehab. He was in a bad auto accident a few months ago due to alcohol and was recovering but starting to drink again so his family stepped in. He's 40 divorced with 3 kids. I never knew he had a "problem" and was always a laid back swee...	Cararuss	8	4653	Mar 25, 2010 by Kiki52
	Life Updates (Preview) http://www.activeboard.com/forum.spark?aBID=42727&p=3&topicID=34237870	Alyana	10	802	Mar 25, 2010 by Karilynn
	C2C 3/24 (Preview) What I read in C2C this morning was profound for me. It has really given me food for thought. My mother has the beginning stages of Alzhimer's disease. My son has the disease of Alcoholism. It is very frustrating to be around both of them at times. I love my mother and I love my son. They are my family. Woul...	Gailey	5	847	Mar 25, 2010 by Karilynn
	A long night ahead (Preview) So I mentioned I am planning to move and have taken steps to get a new place and started a new job. As I sit here studying in the bedroom I moved into to be able to get advanced work and more hours, I hear the familiar banging of AH stuck in the bathroom again. I check on him to find he is on the floor and sauced to t...	Acatnip	8	767	Mar 25, 2010 by Acatnip
	just stuff (o: (Preview) Al Anon cont. to help me in life. So much of it comes natural now. AH is still in prison, I filed for divorce the end of January. Have done all the paper work and not the court date is April 29,10. Feels great. For me it was the best thing to wait to be ready to do all this. I have no emotion for him at all. No longer...	Debilyn	10	898	Mar 25, 2010 by Katy
	Emotional Unavailability in A's (Preview) I'm recognizing a pattern of emotional unavailability as a common denominator in my past partners, who were both alcoholics and non-alcoholics. Which, of course, mirrors what was familiar to me from my family of origin; seems to be what I'm comfortable with! But I never seem to be able to spot it...	ythannah	11	1142	Mar 24, 2010 by ythannah
	Calling All Older timers Again :) (Preview) Again Tommorow Thursday at 9pm est is our Step/Tradition meeting> We will be on Tradition 12. I ask all oldtimers or some to come and join us and teach our new membes what the traditions mean to us and how we can use them in our lives. I would appeciate it . We need you! Thanks Kerry (aka Kerisha)	kerry5	0	525	Mar 24, 2010 by kerry5
	needing support (Preview) I think I was on here a couple of years ago but can't remember. I haven't been good about going to meetings and I thought I was doing o.k. - but in real denial. This has been one (very bad) year. We decided to move last year - my choice. So many things to list but summing it up my A cheated on me, got a DWI, and...	BEM	4	722	Mar 24, 2010 by Bettina
	I AM SO STUBBORN (Preview) So here I am again. Thinking I can fix it.. the neverending substance abuse counselor who is great with her clients. My friend who has been in AA for the last 23 years says "draw the line...tell him to get help or go." Realize I pink slipped this guy two months ago because of suicidal behav...	pricklypear	6	722	Mar 24, 2010 by kitty
	To Moonchild (Preview) Greetings to the MIP Alanon Board, I started reading here a few years ago when I began studying the effects of codependency in my life, but just read and didn't participate, for various reasons. However I read your (Moonchild) post recently and it tugged my heartstrings, but not being a parent, I felt...	AGO	10	611	Mar 24, 2010 by moonchild
	Work It Your Worth It: How I Used Detachment to Maintain My Serenity This Week (Preview) This week I had an experience that helped me understand how to detach and I wanted to share my ES&H. The Behaviors I learned Growing Up in An Alcoholic Home In the alcoholic family I grew up in, I developed a series of behaviors around crisis or perceived crisis. Whenever there was an upset, I drop...	BlueCloud	6	603	Mar 24, 2010 by blender_girl
	Alcoholism and Abuse (Preview) Hi, my ex ABF is in a relationship with an abusive AGF. We have been apart for 4 months. This past week I guess I failed and took him in so he could leave the abusive relationship. I put him up at a hotel for a couple of nights until he could find a rental. His AGF abuses him verbally and emotionally when she dr...	jasobel	4	607	Mar 24, 2010 by DreamXL
	Shelly 123! (Preview) Please come back, I miss you.Katyx	Katy	0	550	Mar 24, 2010 by Katy
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