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Diva


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So he left...What else is new?  He has left and I have taken him back so many times, my door is coming off the hinges.  This time I have made it clear to him that I do not want him back.  Oh, I see some lonely days and nights ahead, but all in all, I have my life back and I feel good about my future.

We had a trip to Hawaii planned for next Tuesday...so I have invited my best friend to go with me.  She gets a free trip to Hawaii, so she can't beat that deal.

I am not going to let this cramp my style.  I am not a young woman, but I am a good-looking one who has lots to offer the world.  This time I think I am well on my way to looking forward to a new life.

Think of me, and wish me happiness,

Diva


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nmike


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(((((Diva)))))

Have a great trip with your friend. They always leave even when they are sitting right beside you. At least mine did. I am not young either but I am making a life without my AHsober. Hard, yes, lonely, yes, but doable.

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Nancy

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Debilyn


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Hey I am your friend! hint hint, haha.

I always want you happy! You have show how unselfish you are and you shown us your hard times and good ones.

It takes almost all of us to go a few times at having them go or us going. Each time we grow stronger and it becomes apparent without them is better than the misery of their affliction.

I bet you a hula dance in a grass skirt, he will try to come back. If you lose I want a video!

Diva lonliness is a part of life, as you know. You have seen me talk of it often. It is really hard sometimes. If I could I would be heading out doing more with friends and be traveling a little. I like day trips.

You going ahead and going is great. If you feel like it, I would love to see ya at your place and other pictures. Sure enjoyed the others ya sent.

And yes you are very pretty! (o:  love,debilyn

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Good for you! (and ur friend, lol)  I found that when I get the resolve behind my decision, there is no turning back for me.  I found that the "peace and quiet" was so much better than what I lived with - with active adiction, that the quiet was a welcome gift.  As for the loneliness, coming here to the board or talking inthe chat room, takes it away.  If I got motivated, Id go outside and meet someone.

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(((Diva)))

I wish you happiness and peace.  You  so deserve it.

Please enjoy your trip and know you are never alone.

ths

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Maria123


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All I can say Diva, is YOU GO GIRL clap.gifclap.gif

Chronology, pfft, I say. You are young at heart.gif my friend and are richly deserving of having some fun.

I only wish I were with you but I am so happy you decided to take a friend. I am sure you will have the best time. Friends are the best.

Bon Voyage!
Maria

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Christy


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Spread your wings, girlfriend!!  Have a blast! 

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Jennifer


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Have a fabulous time Diva! I envy the vacation time with your best friend. The last time I went with mine was too long ago.

Jen

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N8SMOM


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WOW! This is almost a year to the date that we were supposed to go to Hawaii.

Unlike you, I cancelled our trip and have been resentful about it ever since.

GOOD FOR YOU! I'm so glad you are going without him. I hope you have a great time.

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ayjay


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How inspiring you are!!

Yes you will have highs and lows, but I really do hope you will make the most of the trip and really get lots from it with your friend.

Try not to let your mind think of him, or feel loss and insecurity and fear around the relationship and your future.

I woke up feeling a little stronger today, and this has helped feed my strength.

I happen to be due a baby soon, so am unable to get out there doing too much, i think that is why my ex finds it so easy to leave me and go off doing his own thing.  I know that will change in the future though, as long as I don't keep taking him back every time I get back on my feet.

So enjoy it and make the most of the opportunity Xx

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Fabulous ...!!! have a wonderful time.......:)

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Way to go (((Diva)))!!!!

Hope you and your friend have a spectacular time smile.gif

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((Diva))

I am glad you are feeling some peace about his exit and your future.

Have a fabulous time in Hawaii!!!

Lou

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tlcate


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Great job in not taking it personally and turning a bad situation to a good one!  I hope you have a blast in Hawaii.

Let us know how things are going. 

tlc

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lmw


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Have a great trip, Diva! You are amazing!

Linda

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Karilynn


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((((Diva))),

May this trip be the start of your new life. w00t.gif  You are ready this time, I can sense it.  Enjoy it.  clap.gif  I'm proud of you.  Turn him over to his HP and let him do the rest.  You deserve your life back.  Time to take it back and live it.  Have a wonderful trip.  Much love and blessings to you.

Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty relax.gif

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