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It kind of makes me feel better to not deal with him...to speak to him, to not look at him, to not be anywhere near him. When I see a text or an email come through I absolutely cringe. I can't deal with anything that he's doing or how he's living his life right now, so completely shutting myself off from it has been the best for me....or is it?
There was never closure with our relationship, it happened so fast with no speaking or deciding anything...it just happened. I miss my friend and my love...but I can't be near him etc....so is this healthy for me, or not? Will I at some point have a major break down? I wonder how he seems to be just fine going about his life. I mean we were together for 20 years....and only had each other...so I wonder if he's as lost as I am and he to may have a break down at some point? I know, I know...dont be thinking about what he's doing.. I'm trying not to!
I learned it's okay to love the person and hate the disease. As long as she was actively carrying the disease I stayed out of reach. What would I hope to gain by keeping contact other than sickness? I was taught that I am not under any obligation to put myself in threatening situations even if the threat was a headache. Just for me. Keep coming back ((((hugs))))
Well I've been doing it for about 6 months; and it has helped me as far as I can tell for now. The only communication we have is through emails and that is all the communication I will allow right now. And there are many times I just chose not to even reply. I try not to project and I know that just for today the decision I have made is what is best for me today.
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"Live in such a way that you would not be ashamed to sell your parrot to the town gossip." Will Rogers
