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Finally I have decided to stop feeling sorry for myself .I gathered up my courage and prayed I could hold it together.I went to speak to lawyer about my situation and he advised me to get out that very day .He said he was worried for my safety and my children.He asked me to contact my parents for their support.I did but they offered only this..stay with him he takes good care of you,you cannot make it on your own.You will be broke and live in poverty.Wow! what a kick in the gut.What a horrible feeling when your parents turn their backs on you.I understand they're scared of the whole situation so even though it hurts I'm not angry at them.So now I am saving as fast as I can and I'm currently seeking employment.I can do this with or without help.I look at the future and know there are brighter days ahead despite the difficulties.I refuse to be second to my AH's alcohol and porn.My children deserve better.I have heard good things come to those who wait.Well I have waited years, time to get off my butt and make my own good fortune.It is hard staying here in the mean time .I have nowhere to go and I don't want to pull the kids out of school with just a few weeks left.Hoping to find a place I can afford and get out of here.Please pray for me and my children .I still have days when for a moment, I second guess my actions even though I know it's for the best.I'm just scared of the unknown I guess.
I am so sorry to hear this and I can relate to the leaving part with a child though we stayed and my alcoholic partner I asked to leave three years ago.
What ever you decide will be the right decision for you at this time.
Prayers for you and your childrens wellbeing
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Courage is the discovery that you may not win, and trying when you know you can lose.
(((cassidy))) It's difficult to deal with the unknown, but it seems you've decided to do it over living with the unhappy situation you do know. So sorry to hear about your parents reaction. But it's good that you understand why they feel that way and aren't angry at them for it. You are doing what you think is right for you and your children. So that makes it the right thing to do. When you start second guessing yourself, just ask yourself what kind of life you want for your children. And for yourself. Keep talking to your HP and keep coming back here. You will be in my prayers.
You are in the right place. Here and in the room of alanon you will find undersanding and serenity. Know you are not alone and that with the tools of this program you will find help.
glad you turned to Al-anon for strength and courage!!
I know the Attorney you went to meant well, but they cannot see your life and what you need to do for you right now. You have to do for yourself and your children whats best for them also. Although our situations are sometimes desperate, It is the timing of things that are important.
Know that you are in the right place, right now and please turn to your hp and pray that the situation improves for you, I think trying to get a job is a step in the right direction. Cassidy please know that it will all happen for you. Never give up hope, stick to your program. Wishing you all the strength and courage that you have within you. Luv, Bettina
Aloha Cassidy...Ouch!! not good at all and like others have said I'm hoping you are getting to the rooms of Al-Anon and into the program as suggested. That is crazy making for sure!! Professionals try their best and need to be given credit for caring. I have to remember that my first divorce from the addict I was married to came on a prescription pad from my family doctor. A new set of eyes is always helpful to help me make a decision.
