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Katy · Katy

So today I am off work, I have a wedding reception to attend tonight,and one of my closest friends has the most gorguss tanned skin, she owns and works on a market stall outside,I tell people it is a fake tan so my brother inlaw and sister try and rub it off her and say wow thats a good one lol, so she has bought...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Help Debber Help!! ...Okay any of you old timers figure out what comes next and what I have just done? Two little Duckies or Duckers or Duckareenos or whatever...fell out of a tree at the hotel I do work for. This has happend not too long ago also and those little ones were absconded by cats and mongooses...

katfshh · katfshh

I am having moments of weakness today and tonight. In my mind, I keep flashing memories of the good times. We reconciled after 27 years, he was sober. We were in love. We got engaged in Feb 2011. We went to Kauai last May, it was such a romantic and fun time together. I hate that I have these happy memori...

nmike · nmike

Dear MIP Alanon Friends. I have been offered a job in another state. I am in the process of moving. I have been here 24 years and raised my sons here. My AHsober moved out seven years ago after 30 years of marriage. He demanded a divorce but never filed. We tried counseling but the end result was that he said...

camelot · camelot

I am really struggling with detaching and still getting my needs met in my marriage. Detachment plays really well into my husbands inherent selfishness b/c of his alcoholism (he is dry but not working his program). He is like "Great! You're detaching? Me me me me!" So how do I detach but not...

HypStar · HypStar

I've been married to my alcoholic husband for 17 years but we've been together for 24 years. He recently completed a 28 day inpt program for alcoholism and has been sober for 5 months. He is taking his sobriety VERY seriously, attends AA almost daily, has a sponsor and is working on "steps"....

dragonflys · dragonflys

I keep going back to the same thoughts. How do I help the kids? There are so many things that I want to change... I know I need to take baby steps. My daughter has really bad eating habits. AH always folded and gave her the foods she wanted and I did too, so that my AH would not get irritated by her whining....

Bettina · Bettina

"If we seem to be weathering an endless winter, we mustn't abandon hope. As long as we have hope, spring will come without fail. " Luv, Bettina

tortuga · tortuga

My ABF is out of rehab and sober, I believe for 23 days now...but still struggling with withdrawal, and emotions coming up. I still don't fully understand how that must feel. But there is definetly a lot of distress and confusion and fear. On my side too, because I could only see him once since he is out. H...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

I am burning up this board today. I have found it to be such a comfort, I just wondered if there was one for AA that I could reccommend to hubby?

Country Boy · Country Boy

Things between me & AW are getting bad. I see our relationship going down a road where if we continue, we will end up hating each other. I have been working hard with the program & have made progress, with a tantrum or two along the way, but for the most part I have been doing pretty good. But things...

_heather_ · _heather_

How frustrated, disappointed and sad I am. My AH has been drinking again. He had a period of sobriety for about 3 months but as of last Thursday has found his way back to drinking. I am the primary in control of the finances so he has no way of buying liquor but I know if he wants to drink he will find a way...an...

lnc12 · lnc12

So much has happened since my last post, but I'll just stick to what's recent. I got offered a job yesterday at a local CVS store! I start Monday if my background check comes in at the end of this week. I was a mix of emotions yesterday; nervous, happy, excited, more nervous! Haha I told my husband and he sai...

HallOfFreedom · HallOfFreedom

Near as I can tell, my mom has been an alcoholic for a large part of my life, only recently called out on it. My dad wants us all to go to Al-Anon meetings, but I'm not really comfortable with it. I don't feel comfortable plugging in to the same meeting that my dad and three siblings do, and I'm not really comf...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Damn you alcoholism for taking away our loved ones. For making us feel like it's our fault. For having so much control over our A's feelings that they lose touch with what is REALLY important in life. I hate you for causing me to be untrusting, for causing me not to forget past things and use that to enc...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

My AH is headed back to the ER tonight for the third time in a year. About to go through withdrawl/detox again. My son took him because I told him last time that if he went back, I wouldn't be there for him. So many thoughts going through my head. Is anyone still awake out there?

Neesabean · Neesabean

Learning to let go is tough. Learning what and how to let go is tough. I've been working on it for a couple of weeks. The first weekend I actually noticed there were no freak outs in the house over the weekend. So today, I'm just really uneasy and just can't focus. I haven't really spoken to my son since...

peacewithin · peacewithin

My AH has been drinking for stright 5 years no sick time in there this time Its been 36 yrs he has and Yes it does get worse a time goes on and the longer it is the more they can tolerate the more they drink. After 2 Weeks of Very Heavy Drinking coz he was on vacation. hes ready to go back to work and he says he is go...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I had dated a few different guys and only one man kind of interested me with no red flags. So I proceeded and 7 dates later over 2 months time he asked if we could be exclusive and I said yes that I was willing to date just him and see where it goes. He is kind, funny, tall and handsome. He made me dinner and likes...

GailMichelle · GailMichelle

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2c5tc0pdaI&feature=relmfu

Jozie · Jozie

Have ya Ever just had one of those Weeks were Speaking always turns to Tears, and for a Reason you havne't yet found or Pin pointed... That is My Week, I am in Constant Disaray... Went to a Meeting Last Night in HOPES of Finding the Root of My Emotions and Only Came Home more Bummed then when I Left... There i...

agent46 · agent46

Hello. I attended a local Al Anon meeting today. My brother called last week and mentioned he had started in Al-Anon and he felt it was helpful. I know growing up with two alchoholic parents made for a crazy life and lots of problems. I'm very open to the help that Al Anon offers. However, I didn't know i...

Melodi · Melodi

I all. I found this board while searching for Al-Anon. I am currently married to an Alcoholic and is completely losing it and blaming it on me. I have left our house and am currently staying at a friend's house while trying to figure out what I want to do. I am going to my first meeting tonight and don't real...

aanderson0919 · aanderson0919

My husband has been in treatment for 28 days and 7 days before that for alcohol detox. He is coming on Tuesday August 7th. I have visited him once a week and watched him slowly but surely show signs of recovery. He has admitted that he has a problem and sincerly wants to be sober. He wants to work hard to...

harrish27 · harrish27

Hi, I am new to all of this, but I really need someone to listen and maybe guide me in the right direction. My stepdad has been in my life since I was two years old. He was what I would call a functioning alcoholic for most of my childhood. He was the CFO of two major businesses and always in charge. In the la...

Country Boy · Country Boy

I had a dream the other night that AW had cut down a whole row of bushes. It was WAY too many & they were cut WAY too short. I was upset. I then proceeded to tell myself not to react, you're angry & there's nothing you can do about the bushes now anyway. Let it go. Alanon thinking in a dream? Something m...

amills4294 · amills4294

Last night I lead my local F2F meeting and I was given my 1 yr in alanon coin - pretty cool. I keep playing with it and just holding it feels like it gives me strength.

santaclara · santaclara

I have been reading these pages over the last two days and am very thankful that such experience strength and hope can be found online as well as at meetings. I used to go to meetings every week and I even had a sponsor towards the end, but I went travelling and moved cities and never got back into them regu...

willowtree · willowtree

I am getting ready to start the 12 steps and I have some questions for the people who have done the 12 steps. How long did it take you to do all of them? Was there any certain step that was a major turning point for you and why? I would love to hear any experiences you had with the steps since that is what I am o...

mmerc · mmerc

I just found this forum in my soul searching... After 18 years of marriage and living with my husbands multiple addictions (alcohol 26 years ago, gambling, weed) and accompanying bouts of depression, I told him that I want a divorce. We have three teenage children and I don't want them to continue to s...

sober-son · sober-son

Hi all, I am a sober son of a raging life long alcoholic. To keep it short, my dad was raised by a drug addicted, alcoholic party girl with no father (he died early in my dads life). He has been on and off (mostly on) drinking for his entire life and is now 72 years old, cant work, broke, and drinks vodka straig...

Oksie · Oksie

As some of you may remember, my Dad has been in AA since 1979. He has not had a drop of alcohol in that time, and still talks about one day at a time. As you may also remember, he is here visiting with my Mum for three months and living in my unit under my house. Every time they visit I know there will be fights et...

ConcernedSister · ConcernedSister

I don't mean to bother anyone with a long backstory, but I'm a first time poster and not sure where to start. I'm 22 and my older brother (25) is completely tearing my family apart with his drinking. He has thyroid and ADHD problems, but started drinking in 7th grade and then smoking marijuana almost dai...

Pushka · Pushka

So I had to share this .. holy cow I don't think I have laughed this hard with my kids for the LONGEST time. Yesterday we spent the day at an amusement park and it was the best time EVER!! Those were the words of the youngest. We were all tired in a good way and the day just went so fast it was crazy!! As we ge...

Diva · Diva

I have told him to leave again and again. He has no interest in the ownership of the home, and he has no lease, nor does he pay rent, so as I understand FLorida law, he has no legal residency in my house. I have insisted he leave my house so that I can get on with my life. He goes, packs nothing, then returns d...

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

Well... I finally want to go to a F2F meeting. I mean REALLY want to. Checked online and there are absolutely NONE that will work for me. (time/location/lack of babysitting, etc). Now what?

ELEKTRAWMN · ELEKTRAWMN

So A went to his 3 hour counseling session as well as his mandatory AA meeting this past week. Things have actually calmed down here. I know he'll never admit it but I think he actually got something out of his meeting. Anyway, I have a question regarding those meetings. I understand the concept abo...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting as I am out of town. Hoping someone will step up and chair for me. Thanks

justme777 · justme777

My A uses our account and spends money that should be spend on bills to drink. I make most of the money because his addiction has affected his ability to make a good living. How do you deal with finances? I am ready to transfered my direct deposit to another account but I have so many automatic bills. Askin...

PittBullLover · PittBullLover

I live in Montana in a small college town. We have 8 meetings total: Monday noon, Tuesday noon, Tuesday evening all womens group, Wednesday noon, wednesday evening, thursday evening, Friday noon and Saturday morning. There are three times as many AA meetings around here. Now, I have a few issues tha...

rehprof · rehprof

Since my exA moved out -- he has a new obsession. Guns. It's almost like a new source of esteem for him, as he has lost everything else.... I unfriended my exA on FB in part because he kept posting all these new guns he has, and not giving me a penny of child support and it made me really angry. So this morning I...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Wow, I can't believe that I've been gone a month. My AH has made efforts to be nice on the phone but he doesn't contact me at all other than the 1 phone call a day. He sent flowers and a silly postcard while we were gone. I think he thinks that all will be well when I get home and that I will forget(or overlook...

WornOutMrsFixIt · WornOutMrsFixIt

Having a really hard time today. My husband has been in fine form for the past couple of days. I have not taken him up on the argument for 3 days now but it is so hard to listen to the trash talk about myself and not respond to it. His temper is starting to scare me again and if I defend myself even in the slight...

Pecan · Pecan

I am new to this site and this is my first post. I am a 30 year old, pregnant female with an alcoholic husband. I am having a lot of difficulty dealing with him. Usually I just ignore him until he is sober. Then we talk and he is always "so sorry" and he is going to stop. Today I saw him drinking...

Elizabeth10 · Elizabeth10

The enabling doesn't have to do with my alcoholic but with others around me. I have trouble distinguishing whether I am just being selfish or not wanting to enable. It happens a lot with my best friend who grew up homeless and with two addicted parents. She asks for help with things that she could figure...

almostgivenup · almostgivenup

I am sitting here reading posts, reading replies on my previous post and my AH is playing video games and drinking beer. I am thinking of going to a meeting tonight, but I am so ANGRY that I am having to do this and he is doing NOTHING! The more he drinks, the louder he gets. He is talking to "friend...

almostgivenup · almostgivenup

I just don't know what to do or where to turn. I cannot tell anyone that my husband has started drinking heavily again. We recently moved almost 300 miles away from my family and he has been drunk every day for the last week. We have been together for 2 years, married for 3 months. The first year we live...

Amandakay · Amandakay

nyc018 · nyc018

I haven't posted in a while but have been reading. I'm having a tough time. Almost a year ago my life was spinning out of control. AH was on the descent, and long story short, almost gave himself alcohol poisoning, went crazy, got fired from his job, and finally checked into 3 wk rehab. Fast forward a year...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

So..my ah is out again...staying over at a friends house an hour from here. Heres the thing...as much as I dont like the drinking, I do enjoy an evening ALONE once in awhile. Stupid as it sounds...i feel guilty for being happy having the night to myself. Ifeel as if it is a sub consious way of condoning the...

Neesabean · Neesabean

I have been reading these boards for about a week now, bout several books, more on the way. I'm trying to grasp 'the program'. I read a meditation this morning that mentions how we can turn our will over to our HP, and that all that is needed is a beginning. Just open the door a tiny bit...we can open the d...

katfshh · katfshh

I have blocked him every which way. But, last night I got another message. This time he contacted me by sending me a message through a reunion website that I had rsvp to. I worked for an airline from 1984-1990, and they are having a reunion next month. Somehow he sent me a message through there. He said, Yo...

Country Boy · Country Boy

Uuuggghhh. Just had a consultation with a divorce lawyer today. I'm feeling pretty sad that marriage to AW is heading this way. She doesn't know I went to see a lawyer, for all I know, she's already seen one herself. About a month ago we both agreed we couldn't live this way any longer. I have been working...

amills4294 · amills4294

It's amazing how reading these messages and daily events can dredge up so much crap. I have to admit that I still have sooooo much anger welled up inside me at my A mom. I don't know if it's anger that's burying the hurt or it's just anger. I know what the program says to do with it. I know I should just turn...

orchidlover · orchidlover

One of the core issues I had with the ex A and all A's and addicts really was their inability to say No. I would set a limit and they'd test it to the ceiling. They resented, loathed and scapegoated me for daring to say no. After a couple of years of working on No and meaning it I am able to see that I had my own i...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

For the last few days I've been praying the serenity prayer to help me with not relapsing and getting back into my insanity. My 17 y.o. grandson got sick last Thursday, Friday he called and asked me if he could stay at my house, he said I knew how to take care of him. I said OK and picked him up, Mon. I had to...

imom · imom

I am watching the Olympic Opening Ceremony with my kids while my AH is out drinking with his dad. I am thoroughly enjoying my time with my kids. I feel sad for him that he continues to miss out on so many moments with them. I am resentful for the fact that my daughter has so much daddy anxiety about when he...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello My Friend, Having a grand child is an amazing experience. I am lucky, my graddaughter lives with me. I am glad to hear that you are smiling again. That is an amazing feeling to have. I hope you are finding peace and joy as life progresses. Just remember everyday above ground is a good day. And...

Nickie Jo · Nickie Jo

How do you condense a life time of alcoholic family members? My adopted Dad, and Mom and AH, and son in law too... The main reason I have come here is I work shift work, and 10 to 12 hour shifts, I have not gotten to where I can go to a f2f meeting so, I am absorbing all I can right now. I am not a spring chicken...

silent · silent

why is my a b/f keeps teiing me i should have more faith in him he even sent me a poster that said marriege is only a peice of paper that haveing faith and respect etc.in yur partner is most important,lol,am i missing something here ,lol im beginning to feel like he is twisting my brain,or trying,guess he f...

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	Humour in all our affairs:-) (Preview) So today I am off work, I have a wedding reception to attend tonight,and one of my closest friends has the most gorguss tanned skin, she owns and works on a market stall outside,I tell people it is a fake tan so my brother inlaw and sister try and rub it off her and say wow thats a good one lol, so she has bought...	Katy	1	434	Aug 3, 2012 by Jozie
	Co-duck pendency (Preview) Help Debber Help!! ...Okay any of you old timers figure out what comes next and what I have just done? Two little Duckies or Duckers or Duckareenos or whatever...fell out of a tree at the hotel I do work for. This has happend not too long ago also and those little ones were absconded by cats and mongooses...	Jerry F	17	768	Aug 3, 2012 by Jozie
	Feeling weak tonight ...sad (Preview) I am having moments of weakness today and tonight. In my mind, I keep flashing memories of the good times. We reconciled after 27 years, he was sober. We were in love. We got engaged in Feb 2011. We went to Kauai last May, it was such a romantic and fun time together. I hate that I have these happy memori...	katfshh	8	667	Aug 3, 2012 by pinkchip
	Life changes and moving on (Preview) Dear MIP Alanon Friends. I have been offered a job in another state. I am in the process of moving. I have been here 24 years and raised my sons here. My AHsober moved out seven years ago after 30 years of marriage. He demanded a divorce but never filed. We tried counseling but the end result was that he said...	nmike	4	540	Aug 3, 2012 by Pushka
	Detaching and still getting needs met (Preview) I am really struggling with detaching and still getting my needs met in my marriage. Detachment plays really well into my husbands inherent selfishness b/c of his alcoholism (he is dry but not working his program). He is like "Great! You're detaching? Me me me me!" So how do I detach but not...	camelot	9	724	Aug 3, 2012 by jitsuka
	Being told I need to change .... (Preview) I've been married to my alcoholic husband for 17 years but we've been together for 24 years. He recently completed a 28 day inpt program for alcoholism and has been sober for 5 months. He is taking his sobriety VERY seriously, attends AA almost daily, has a sponsor and is working on "steps"....	HypStar	10	686	Aug 3, 2012 by dragonflys
	Is it too late for them? Has the damage already been done? (Preview) I keep going back to the same thoughts. How do I help the kids? There are so many things that I want to change... I know I need to take baby steps. My daughter has really bad eating habits. AH always folded and gave her the foods she wanted and I did too, so that my AH would not get irritated by her whining....	dragonflys	10	727	Aug 3, 2012 by dragonflys
	Spring cannot be far behind! (Preview) "If we seem to be weathering an endless winter, we mustn't abandon hope. As long as we have hope, spring will come without fail. " Luv, Bettina	Bettina	2	376	Aug 3, 2012 by likemyheart
	letting go...in reality! (Preview) My ABF is out of rehab and sober, I believe for 23 days now...but still struggling with withdrawal, and emotions coming up. I still don't fully understand how that must feel. But there is definetly a lot of distress and confusion and fear. On my side too, because I could only see him once since he is out. H...	tortuga	7	806	Aug 3, 2012 by Jerry F
	Is there a message board like this for AA? (Preview) I am burning up this board today. I have found it to be such a comfort, I just wondered if there was one for AA that I could reccommend to hubby?	WornOutMrsFixIt	5	490	Aug 3, 2012 by WornOutMrsFixIt
	Think its time to seperate (Preview) Things between me & AW are getting bad. I see our relationship going down a road where if we continue, we will end up hating each other. I have been working hard with the program & have made progress, with a tantrum or two along the way, but for the most part I have been doing pretty good. But things...	Country Boy	6	660	Aug 2, 2012 by orchidlover
	AH goes back to the bottle (Preview) How frustrated, disappointed and sad I am. My AH has been drinking again. He had a period of sobriety for about 3 months but as of last Thursday has found his way back to drinking. I am the primary in control of the finances so he has no way of buying liquor but I know if he wants to drink he will find a way...an...	_heather_	7	627	Aug 2, 2012 by _heather_
	Spending a few days apart (Preview) So much has happened since my last post, but I'll just stick to what's recent. I got offered a job yesterday at a local CVS store! I start Monday if my background check comes in at the end of this week. I was a mix of emotions yesterday; nervous, happy, excited, more nervous! Haha I told my husband and he sai...	lnc12	3	511	Aug 2, 2012 by orchidlover
	Christian Alternative (Preview) Near as I can tell, my mom has been an alcoholic for a large part of my life, only recently called out on it. My dad wants us all to go to Al-Anon meetings, but I'm not really comfortable with it. I don't feel comfortable plugging in to the same meeting that my dad and three siblings do, and I'm not really comf...	HallOfFreedom	23	8499	Aug 2, 2012 by All I can be
	Gotta get it out (Preview) Damn you alcoholism for taking away our loved ones. For making us feel like it's our fault. For having so much control over our A's feelings that they lose touch with what is REALLY important in life. I hate you for causing me to be untrusting, for causing me not to forget past things and use that to enc...	ELEKTRAWMN	11	677	Aug 2, 2012 by jitsuka
	So Disappointed Tonight (Preview) My AH is headed back to the ER tonight for the third time in a year. About to go through withdrawl/detox again. My son took him because I told him last time that if he went back, I wouldn't be there for him. So many thoughts going through my head. Is anyone still awake out there?	WornOutMrsFixIt	9	542	Aug 2, 2012 by Pushka
	Unsettled feeling (Preview) Learning to let go is tough. Learning what and how to let go is tough. I've been working on it for a couple of weeks. The first weekend I actually noticed there were no freak outs in the house over the weekend. So today, I'm just really uneasy and just can't focus. I haven't really spoken to my son since...	Neesabean	8	674	Aug 2, 2012 by flinn66
	He Quit Again (DETACHMENT) (Preview) My AH has been drinking for stright 5 years no sick time in there this time Its been 36 yrs he has and Yes it does get worse a time goes on and the longer it is the more they can tolerate the more they drink. After 2 Weeks of Very Heavy Drinking coz he was on vacation. hes ready to go back to work and he says he is go...	peacewithin	5	665	Aug 2, 2012 by peacewithin
	Dating a healthy man is gooooood! update (Preview) I had dated a few different guys and only one man kind of interested me with no red flags. So I proceeded and 7 dates later over 2 months time he asked if we could be exclusive and I said yes that I was willing to date just him and see where it goes. He is kind, funny, tall and handsome. He made me dinner and likes...	Breakingfree	14	665	Aug 2, 2012 by katfshh
	Somhttp://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2c5tc0pdaI&feature=relmfue (Preview) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=L2c5tc0pdaI&feature=relmfu	GailMichelle	4	430	Aug 2, 2012 by Jennifer
	Still Strugglin... Just Wish I Knew Why! (Preview) Have ya Ever just had one of those Weeks were Speaking always turns to Tears, and for a Reason you havne't yet found or Pin pointed... That is My Week, I am in Constant Disaray... Went to a Meeting Last Night in HOPES of Finding the Root of My Emotions and Only Came Home more Bummed then when I Left... There i...	Jozie	4	625	Aug 1, 2012 by glad lee
	Ist Al-Anon meeting today and first post here (Preview) Hello. I attended a local Al Anon meeting today. My brother called last week and mentioned he had started in Al-Anon and he felt it was helpful. I know growing up with two alchoholic parents made for a crazy life and lots of problems. I'm very open to the help that Al Anon offers. However, I didn't know i...	agent46	5	547	Aug 2, 2012 by CDK
	New here and going to first Al-Anon meeting tonight (Preview) I all. I found this board while searching for Al-Anon. I am currently married to an Alcoholic and is completely losing it and blaming it on me. I have left our house and am currently staying at a friend's house while trying to figure out what I want to do. I am going to my first meeting tonight and don't real...	Melodi	4	471	Aug 2, 2012 by Jerry F
	Husband Coming Home Next Week From Treatment--Help!! (Preview) My husband has been in treatment for 28 days and 7 days before that for alcohol detox. He is coming on Tuesday August 7th. I have visited him once a week and watched him slowly but surely show signs of recovery. He has admitted that he has a problem and sincerly wants to be sober. He wants to work hard to...	aanderson0919	14	645	Aug 1, 2012 by abbyal
	Bad situation with parents (Preview) Hi, I am new to all of this, but I really need someone to listen and maybe guide me in the right direction. My stepdad has been in my life since I was two years old. He was what I would call a functioning alcoholic for most of my childhood. He was the CFO of two major businesses and always in charge. In the la...	harrish27	6	504	Aug 1, 2012 by harrish27
	It must be sinking in (Preview) I had a dream the other night that AW had cut down a whole row of bushes. It was WAY too many & they were cut WAY too short. I was upset. I then proceeded to tell myself not to react, you're angry & there's nothing you can do about the bushes now anyway. Let it go. Alanon thinking in a dream? Something m...	Country Boy	3	376	Aug 1, 2012 by Pushka
	Got my 1 yr anniversary coin! (Preview) Last night I lead my local F2F meeting and I was given my 1 yr in alanon coin - pretty cool. I keep playing with it and just holding it feels like it gives me strength.	amills4294	9	570	Aug 1, 2012 by tiredtonite
	An Al-anon rock bottom? (Preview) I have been reading these pages over the last two days and am very thankful that such experience strength and hope can be found online as well as at meetings. I used to go to meetings every week and I even had a sponsor towards the end, but I went travelling and moved cities and never got back into them regu...	santaclara	9	760	Aug 1, 2012 by santaclara
	Question about your 12 step experience (Preview) I am getting ready to start the 12 steps and I have some questions for the people who have done the 12 steps. How long did it take you to do all of them? Was there any certain step that was a major turning point for you and why? I would love to hear any experiences you had with the steps since that is what I am o...	willowtree	4	614	Jul 31, 2012 by orchidlover
	Can a person change? (Preview) I just found this forum in my soul searching... After 18 years of marriage and living with my husbands multiple addictions (alcohol 26 years ago, gambling, weed) and accompanying bouts of depression, I told him that I want a divorce. We have three teenage children and I don't want them to continue to s...	mmerc	15	665	Jul 31, 2012 by Oksie
	>>Help with Dad (Preview) Hi all, I am a sober son of a raging life long alcoholic. To keep it short, my dad was raised by a drug addicted, alcoholic party girl with no father (he died early in my dads life). He has been on and off (mostly on) drinking for his entire life and is now 72 years old, cant work, broke, and drinks vodka straig...	sober-son	13	657	Jul 31, 2012 by orchidlover
	A truce (Preview) As some of you may remember, my Dad has been in AA since 1979. He has not had a drop of alcohol in that time, and still talks about one day at a time. As you may also remember, he is here visiting with my Mum for three months and living in my unit under my house. Every time they visit I know there will be fights et...	Oksie	13	658	Jul 31, 2012 by Oksie
	First Time Poster.... Help! (Preview) I don't mean to bother anyone with a long backstory, but I'm a first time poster and not sure where to start. I'm 22 and my older brother (25) is completely tearing my family apart with his drinking. He has thyroid and ADHD problems, but started drinking in 7th grade and then smoking marijuana almost dai...	ConcernedSister	6	755	Jul 31, 2012 by orchidlover
	Life with Mom (Preview) So I had to share this .. holy cow I don't think I have laughed this hard with my kids for the LONGEST time. Yesterday we spent the day at an amusement park and it was the best time EVER!! Those were the words of the youngest. We were all tired in a good way and the day just went so fast it was crazy!! As we ge...	Pushka	7	459	Jul 31, 2012 by amills4294
	Good God, he is crazy! And I will not allow him to take me down with him! (Preview) I have told him to leave again and again. He has no interest in the ownership of the home, and he has no lease, nor does he pay rent, so as I understand FLorida law, he has no legal residency in my house. I have insisted he leave my house so that I can get on with my life. He goes, packs nothing, then returns d...	Diva	5	815	Jul 31, 2012 by Rocky38
	F2F Meeting... Or not. (Preview) Well... I finally want to go to a F2F meeting. I mean REALLY want to. Checked online and there are absolutely NONE that will work for me. (time/location/lack of babysitting, etc). Now what?	ELEKTRAWMN	3	556	Jul 30, 2012 by ELEKTRAWMN
	Question about AA and religion (Preview) So A went to his 3 hour counseling session as well as his mandatory AA meeting this past week. Things have actually calmed down here. I know he'll never admit it but I think he actually got something out of his meeting. Anyway, I have a question regarding those meetings. I understand the concept abo...	ELEKTRAWMN	9	658	Jul 30, 2012 by ELEKTRAWMN
	MONDAY A.M. AL-ANON MEETING (Preview) I am unable to chair the Monday a.m. meeting as I am out of town. Hoping someone will step up and chair for me. Thanks	shimo	0	253	Jul 30, 2012 by shimo
	financial problems how do you cope. (Preview) My A uses our account and spends money that should be spend on bills to drink. I make most of the money because his addiction has affected his ability to make a good living. How do you deal with finances? I am ready to transfered my direct deposit to another account but I have so many automatic bills. Askin...	justme777	7	701	Jul 30, 2012 by Debilyn
	Alcoholics in Al Anon (Preview) I live in Montana in a small college town. We have 8 meetings total: Monday noon, Tuesday noon, Tuesday evening all womens group, Wednesday noon, wednesday evening, thursday evening, Friday noon and Saturday morning. There are three times as many AA meetings around here. Now, I have a few issues tha...	PittBullLover	8	777	Jul 30, 2012 by PittBullLover
	New Obsession - Gu ns (Preview) Since my exA moved out -- he has a new obsession. Guns. It's almost like a new source of esteem for him, as he has lost everything else.... I unfriended my exA on FB in part because he kept posting all these new guns he has, and not giving me a penny of child support and it made me really angry. So this morning I...	rehprof	6	816	Jul 29, 2012 by Pushka
	Going back home tomorrow night! (Preview) Wow, I can't believe that I've been gone a month. My AH has made efforts to be nice on the phone but he doesn't contact me at all other than the 1 phone call a day. He sent flowers and a silly postcard while we were gone. I think he thinks that all will be well when I get home and that I will forget(or overlook...	ilovedogs	1	380	Jul 29, 2012 by katfshh
	NEED some support (Preview) Having a really hard time today. My husband has been in fine form for the past couple of days. I have not taken him up on the argument for 3 days now but it is so hard to listen to the trash talk about myself and not respond to it. His temper is starting to scare me again and if I defend myself even in the slight...	WornOutMrsFixIt	6	551	Jul 29, 2012 by katfshh
	I am feeling drained (Preview) I am new to this site and this is my first post. I am a 30 year old, pregnant female with an alcoholic husband. I am having a lot of difficulty dealing with him. Usually I just ignore him until he is sober. Then we talk and he is always "so sorry" and he is going to stop. Today I saw him drinking...	Pecan	4	469	Jul 29, 2012 by Pecan
	Struggling with Enabling/Resentment (Preview) The enabling doesn't have to do with my alcoholic but with others around me. I have trouble distinguishing whether I am just being selfish or not wanting to enable. It happens a lot with my best friend who grew up homeless and with two addicted parents. She asks for help with things that she could figure...	Elizabeth10	9	744	Jul 29, 2012 by flinn66
	Resentment is a horrible feeling! (vent) (Preview) I am sitting here reading posts, reading replies on my previous post and my AH is playing video games and drinking beer. I am thinking of going to a meeting tonight, but I am so ANGRY that I am having to do this and he is doing NOTHING! The more he drinks, the louder he gets. He is talking to "friend...	almostgivenup	9	1041	Jul 29, 2012 by flinn66
	So sad (Preview) I just don't know what to do or where to turn. I cannot tell anyone that my husband has started drinking heavily again. We recently moved almost 300 miles away from my family and he has been drunk every day for the last week. We have been together for 2 years, married for 3 months. The first year we live...	almostgivenup	15	833	Jul 29, 2012 by katfshh
	Good 'ole fashion Winnie the Pooh Wisdom (Preview)	Amandakay	6	492	Jul 29, 2012 by katfshh
	More family problems (Preview) I haven't posted in a while but have been reading. I'm having a tough time. Almost a year ago my life was spinning out of control. AH was on the descent, and long story short, almost gave himself alcohol poisoning, went crazy, got fired from his job, and finally checked into 3 wk rehab. Fast forward a year...	nyc018	4	566	Jul 29, 2012 by rehprof
	hes out again...not sure I care (Preview) So..my ah is out again...staying over at a friends house an hour from here. Heres the thing...as much as I dont like the drinking, I do enjoy an evening ALONE once in awhile. Stupid as it sounds...i feel guilty for being happy having the night to myself. Ifeel as if it is a sub consious way of condoning the...	Theoceancalls	1	385	Jul 28, 2012 by pinkchip
	Healthy relationships (Preview) I have been reading these boards for about a week now, bout several books, more on the way. I'm trying to grasp 'the program'. I read a meditation this morning that mentions how we can turn our will over to our HP, and that all that is needed is a beginning. Just open the door a tiny bit...we can open the d...	Neesabean	6	1167	Jul 28, 2012 by manalanon
	Now he is jumping through hoops to contact me. (Preview) I have blocked him every which way. But, last night I got another message. This time he contacted me by sending me a message through a reunion website that I had rsvp to. I worked for an airline from 1984-1990, and they are having a reunion next month. Somehow he sent me a message through there. He said, Yo...	katfshh	9	779	Jul 28, 2012 by katfshh
	Consultation with lawyer (Preview) Uuuggghhh. Just had a consultation with a divorce lawyer today. I'm feeling pretty sad that marriage to AW is heading this way. She doesn't know I went to see a lawyer, for all I know, she's already seen one herself. About a month ago we both agreed we couldn't live this way any longer. I have been working...	Country Boy	10	691	Jul 28, 2012 by Pushka
	drama and pent up anger (Preview) It's amazing how reading these messages and daily events can dredge up so much crap. I have to admit that I still have sooooo much anger welled up inside me at my A mom. I don't know if it's anger that's burying the hurt or it's just anger. I know what the program says to do with it. I know I should just turn...	amills4294	4	578	Jul 28, 2012 by Pushka
	In ability to hear no. (Preview) One of the core issues I had with the ex A and all A's and addicts really was their inability to say No. I would set a limit and they'd test it to the ceiling. They resented, loathed and scapegoated me for daring to say no. After a couple of years of working on No and meaning it I am able to see that I had my own i...	orchidlover	2	571	Jul 28, 2012 by ilovedogs
	Changing what I can! (Preview) For the last few days I've been praying the serenity prayer to help me with not relapsing and getting back into my insanity. My 17 y.o. grandson got sick last Thursday, Friday he called and asked me if he could stay at my house, he said I knew how to take care of him. I said OK and picked him up, Mon. I had to...	Highlyfavored	2	366	Jul 28, 2012 by Nickie Jo
	sad or resentful? i don't know...maybe both (Preview) I am watching the Olympic Opening Ceremony with my kids while my AH is out drinking with his dad. I am thoroughly enjoying my time with my kids. I feel sad for him that he continues to miss out on so many moments with them. I am resentful for the fact that my daughter has so much daddy anxiety about when he...	imom	2	370	Jul 28, 2012 by Theoceancalls
	Peace Rocky (Preview) Hello My Friend, Having a grand child is an amazing experience. I am lucky, my graddaughter lives with me. I am glad to hear that you are smiling again. That is an amazing feeling to have. I hope you are finding peace and joy as life progresses. Just remember everyday above ground is a good day. And...	Andrea12	2	363	Jul 28, 2012 by Rocky38
	So thankful you are here! (Preview) How do you condense a life time of alcoholic family members? My adopted Dad, and Mom and AH, and son in law too... The main reason I have come here is I work shift work, and 10 to 12 hour shifts, I have not gotten to where I can go to a f2f meeting so, I am absorbing all I can right now. I am not a spring chicken...	Nickie Jo	4	550	Jul 27, 2012 by orchidlover
	feeling drained (Preview) why is my a b/f keeps teiing me i should have more faith in him he even sent me a poster that said marriege is only a peice of paper that haveing faith and respect etc.in yur partner is most important,lol,am i missing something here ,lol im beginning to feel like he is twisting my brain,or trying,guess he f...	silent	4	521	Jul 27, 2012 by orchidlover
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