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shanb1970 · shanb1970

My brother is currently gone 5 days drinking straight, hasn't gone to work, hasn't eaten, hasn't showered, is not answering his kids calls......he is holed up in his house...just drinking...this will be the 5th time he has done this....and lost alot, and regained alot...about to lose it all again....

neshema2 · neshema2

We praise and reward our loved ones when they do good or have a breakthrough, so why not do that for me???? I had an U G L Y coda moment where I wrote this letter (deleted and NOT sent---thanks to the ESH'rs who brought me up short---thank you all) And I did not send the letter.........i typed it......hel...

tortuga · tortuga

it had to happen. since a couple of days I'm torn between resentment and anger and melancholy and gratitude. Gratitude is where I would like to end up with, to find my peace. But I feel like I have to climb Mt.Everest...with no oxygen. I'm still doubting if I can do it. for a long time I didn't allow myself...

Grits · Grits

Hope you all can clear this up for me. We live in a rural area and there is not an NA meeting around but there is AA and Al-anon. My daughter started going to AA to deal with her addiction to pain pills and has now been clean for 30 days. She has continued to drink alcohol and it does not seem to be a problem. ...

grateful2be · grateful2be

Does anybody out there have a consolidated list of examples showing the difference between boundaries and walls in relationship to adult children in active stages of alcoholism they can post for us parents? And anybody else who'd like the same info? Thanks, family.

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am a free American last time I checked and entitled to my personal beliefs! Thanks for respecting my beliefs, just like I do yours whether I agree or not that is what makes us who we are and Thank God we are not all the same drone of a human being that can not have our own minds. I love each and every one of you m...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

The reason I felt I had to take a break from the boards for a bit was because I felt like I was always posting about 'him', the AH. I wasn't feeling healthy even though I was working my program. I think these boards became my venting place and I wanted to step away from that and gain some perspective and jus...

Gaby · Gaby

This weekend I went it visit my son in Silver Spring Christian Base Rehab. I got there in good spirits and left in good spirits. He prayed for me and with me. He knows the addiction still effects me. I see my son again.. He tells me mom I know you have access to my money one thing I ask of you is to please find me a...

Jerry F · Jerry F

By Joani Gammill...My wife just got me an early birthday present...two parts; one this book which I want to say if you have it or have read it or don't and haven't...the first 15 pages speak from inside of the addict and alcoholic. Of course she knows...she is a recovering addict; female, mom, RN, wi...

troubledheart · troubledheart

I am really hurt & confused....I made my ex leave last year because of his drug problem. I was to the point of not knowing what to do anymore. I thought & prayed many nights about what I needed to do. So I finally decided that he should move out & maybe he would see just how serious I was. I had to s...

Bettina · Bettina

The Human Spirit is as expansive as the Cosmos. This is why its so tragic to belittle yourself or to question your worth. No matter what happens continue to push back the boundaries of your "Inner Life". Ikeda

tortuga · tortuga

good morning MIP I wanted to share something which I have experienced much and paying attention to over the past 10 years. It is a way of getting to know yourself, learning to listen to your inner voice and trusting your 'gut' as some would name it. It all began over 10 years ago when I entered therapy and...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Anyone know why I can't edit or delete any of my posts? It just says "you don't have permission to do that" if I try to delete, and if I try to edit, it appears to have worked but then the post just reverts to how it was before when i refresh the page. Well, I'll try to edit this one since I just wrote i...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

My mom is now transferred to another hospital very close to returning home. I am glad that she is not going to come home too soon. I am nervous about her getting out. I guess because I had a dream about her coming home before I saw her yesterday, I feel a little apprehensive myself. Anyhow, I still feel pret...

grateful2be · grateful2be

At 64, I've gotten to the place in life where I am no longer willing to take on our culture's expectations of me as a Mother. I don't have power over my adult children's choices. I don't have to take on their burdens, their problems, the consequences for their choices. I don't have to blame myself for t...

islandtime · islandtime

I have Courage to Change Was looking at Amazon, thinking about the 12 Step Workbook...or Blueprint for Progress 4th step inventory ???? what books were helpful in working the steps?

islandtime · islandtime

In my case, I'm thinking maybe he's just not worth the effort. Yes I am and will continue to put major work into ME.....BUT I thinking putting any effort into staying together would be a waste of my energy. I think I rode this horse till it died, conuinued to sit on the dead carcus while the bizzards picked...

neshema2 · neshema2

I DID NOT SEND THIS>.....IT IS ON HOLD..>>>THINKING OF SENDING BUT HAVE NOT YET DONE SO>>>>>>>>>>NEED ESH PLEASE I will not reply back.... This is just some decisions for me and it matters not how you take it.......So if you write back, I won't reply...

Lay · Lay

It has been a while since I've been on here. I will have to update soon, but I was reading through different posts one in particular caught my attention, so I am going to share my story. Especially with anyone who may feel defeated. I have different mental health problems starting with borderline perso...

Mari1978 · Mari1978

My father in law has called me the enabeler. This was many months ago when my AH was in detox for a week.( he was sober for 3 mnths after that) Tonight he was half bombed and decided to attend an AA meeting (not sure how to let my mind absorb that yet...waiting to see what tomorrow brings before I begin to get m...

Pushka · Pushka

Kids are off on their social stuff for the weekend .. daughter is excited she has a homecoming dance coming up in Oct. An event apparently that is focused and obsessed upon by all teens now instead of more like a week before it happens .. ROFL. My boy is off having a field day with a friend of his. He got t...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

What an eye-opening weekend so far. In ways I could not have anticipated! Excuse the long rambly story, but I made a decision, on my way home, that rather than come home and get upset with the A all night, I would sit down at my desk and write it out here instead. (I could have just journalled it but I guess I w...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I got another call today from my son's landlord. He wants my son out. I asked him PLEASE call the police. My son was incoherent and could even stand. The landlord told him to drive to the park and sleep it off. I couldn't let my son drive so I called the Police. They were on their way when the landlord call...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good afternoon friends Today I'm excepting the things I can not change and working to change me..one day at a time. My recovery time is much faster so now if I can control my emotions during height of the crisis I will do so much better keeping my heart and mind calm. My fear last night became so bad I got...

neshema2 · neshema2

Well alanoners, this morning, I felt kinda "BLEH!!!" and I was not going to let me wallow in that....so i picked my self up....threw on some shorts, tank top an out to the trampolene, I marched....music in the parlor blasting oldies out the sliding glass door and onto that trampolene......

rehprof · rehprof

Just saw a cartoon...stick figure with MANY word balloons over his head... He was saying "Hello, My name is Mike, and I'm a thinkaholic..." Man, could I relate... RP

MeTwo2 · MeTwo2

love these epiphanys .. after the fact .. but .. for what it's worth .. I went to a meeting the other night and someone shared their A would look at them and say 'xxxx' liar .. It wasn't what she was saying but the look on her face that made her share a little on the lighter humorous side although there's noth...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

I'm not sure where to begin with this. I've been trying to get my alcoholic brother to send my deceased mother's phone book to me but haven't had any luck. I finally gave up on that. I'm not on fb and don't want to be. I've made some attempts to find a few family and friends with whom there hasn't been any c...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I woke up this morning feeling very overwhelmed. I feel like I am tackling the world by myself. What triggered this was last night I was over at a friends house and they had just come back from a trip in the states. They kept showing of...

oldergal · oldergal

When your trust is betrayed and you become the wife whose A husband was untrue to you by internet porn and phone sex. How did you or do you learn to trust again. Does that innocent trust ever come back again. They say that the unforgiveness of someone is worse on you than the other person. If you have any exp...

mm830 · mm830

For almost four years I cannot remember having a good weekend. Starting the same pattern tonight. However, this weekend I will not worry if A is drinking, will not obsess about where he is who he is with. I will not walk on eggshells afraid to piss him off naturally he is mad at me its a given. And you know wh...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I was waiting at a stoplight this afternoon. I was rear-ended so hard my vehicle was pushed a few feet forward nearly missing traffic moving at 55 mph to 60 mph. the man who hit me - you guessed it - was high. Tried to convince me my vehicle was fine and to take off. I told him he'd have to stay. I was calli...

mm830 · mm830

Sometimes the known is easier in my head than the unknown. Interesting how many posts I read here resonate and I don't feel so alone right now. That I am so thankful for this board it is changing my thinking in so many ways. But truthfully I am scared of the unknown and I know that has to do with letting HP tak...

goodmonkey · goodmonkey

I'm leaving a city in the Pacific Northwest and going back to my home city right now. I cried a bit when I checked out of the hotel (via the TV- I couldn't let the hotel people see me cry!). I felt so safe in the hotel room all week. I was around 200 coworkers and felt very safe around them too... (Lonely at ti...

Bettina · Bettina

Hawaii was voted the happiest state in the Union... Must be the Aloha spirit... Do you know that Hawaii has more diversity than any other state and they celebrate their different ethnicities. Imagine , most are mixes of Japanese, Hawaiian, Portugese, Dutch, you would be going to a parade everyday...

irukan · irukan

I have been experiencing abdominal pain for the last 6 weeks, and the doctors so far cannot find anything "wrong." Of course, the pain is still here but no matter what type of stress relief I employ the pain remains.Next is either a medication or for them to look inside my intestine with a ca...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

You make me wanna shot, throw my hands up & shout, wait a minute? I am so grateful for my sense of humor. I don't get to share enough about the funny stuff. I am very serious. I have those moments when I just want to belly laugh. I am so happy that this is a safe place for me to share everything within reason...

Nancy ANN · Nancy ANN

I'm too the point tonight where I feel like I'm sinking .Don't know where to turn .I went to Alanon meetings many years ago for another situation in my life .I know I need to go back .Just need someone to listen now .My beautiful daughter is an alcoholic and so mentally unstable .This has been going on for...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t49437211/tradition-3-alanon/

tortuga · tortuga

mm830 and Melly asked me in a recent post to share how I did it. How did I stay away from A after leaving, and after he is the sweetest guy of the universe again, after he hit me the last time we actually met...? it is hard,and I didn't do it out of full conviction. Many doubts were there, some still come back fr...

islandtime · islandtime

Well it seems now that I have flung open the door, I'm kicking a few asses out of it. People that are not worthy of my friendship, or time. I thought I was friends with a couple of women, but the more I got to know them, I realized they were awful mean spirited, gossiping, back stabbing, b***. I go to a gym se...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so grateful for my cell phone these days. It does more for me than I realized. I used to almost hate it because it is touch screen & I almost always seem to touch the wrong thing. But, not these days! I am so glad that I can record like on a tape recorder my favorite songs & all. I couldn't possibly...

Bettina · Bettina

"Your Value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your Worth." Unk

Jen61 · Jen61

My husband started drinking about 8 years ago. It was not all the time, day in and day out, but he drank. He has quit before and I always felt wow, okay, we can go on. But, it did not last long. I finally told him two months ago I could not do this anymore and that he would have to leave. He was gone for 4 days...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Something happen this morning I felt odd different I think it has something to do with last night I made a hole in a shoe box and labeled it ms negativity . I looked at my self in my photos I take lots of and when I see that girl I'n the photo I seen some one other than me . I saw this girl lost but not ugly or stupid d...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

This is why I love my MIP family! You all so gently reminded me that hurting people hurt people and since a few of my new found friends are not in a recovery program I am noticing that they could probably use one. I know I have no control over them and maybe need to lower my expectations and just study with the...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I knew I would have ups and downs. Well the down came again. I got a call from my son's landlord and my son is drunk, has been for days and his landlord wants him out. I told him I can't do anything about it, he will have to call the police and whatever he needs to do. Now my anxiety has jumped up. I am doing al...

Bettina · Bettina

"Choices relating to one's partner, the balance between work & leisure time, participation in social activities, and healthy lifestyle are key factors in determining life satisfaction." (LiveHappy.com)

Bettina · Bettina

" Our greatest handicap is self-deception. We cannot recognize in ourselves the faults we criticize in others. If I could only foresee what an inspiring experience it is to search out the real me. I would not hesitate. The first step, after all, is to be completely honest in our search. "...

Growing77 · Growing77

Oh my goodness - I NEVER realise until its too late when he picks a fight and I get caught up trying to defend myself and then he's out the door with an excuse/reason to drink. So tired of this.

faith84 · faith84

To go home to my A with love. I will not resent him for his past mistakes, I will not blame him for mine. I will not inquire as to his use, I will not pry, as it is his business and not mine. I will not expect anything from him, as expectations are only upon myself. I will not worry, I will not feel anger, I will not...

afglin · afglin

Again I tried to get into the chatroom so I could attend the meetings. The java is not working. I sure hope it gets fixed. When I get the time I love to attend the meetings. LIN

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I get so mad when I work very hard to build these girls up in the nursing program that I am in and I work really hard at making them feel like they can do it! And every once in awhile they zing me with some stupid thing they say and it just pisses me off! I don't need to be brought down and I am unsure how to approach...

Rose50 · Rose50

I got a phone call this afternoon from my son. He is in the hospital (yet again). He told me he was having a panic attack and heart palpitations on Sunday and a roommate called 911. My suspicion is that he was drinking again. He can't handle stress and with being jobless and still waiting for his unemploym...

tortuga · tortuga

got email from A.... finally he is expressing all his feelings of gratitude towards the past... about the good times. I feel guilty now for being so distant, not taking the time to talk to him. I read the post about abuse cycle, and they also make sense. and the sentence : when in doubt, don't. am really...

neshema2 · neshema2

I know this is off topic and you guys will probably scroll and "dumpster it" but thats OK...I think breakthroughs even if off topic should be shared......Who knows??? Someone new just MIGHT be able to relate to this.............. I shared this on another board and it really woke up some f...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

i surrender i give up , im emtoinal broken down. i cant think of a reason to stay here . im dont fighting with my A , to many hurtful words were tossed theres no recovery from what we both said. im to sick to get help, im so confused and he sits there and smirks and tells me how sick and twisted my mind is. i w...

faith84 · faith84

So, after enduring four years of living and overly loving a heroin addict, I FINALLY got myself to an Al Anon meeting last night. No matter how much literature I've read on the disease and codependency, no matter how many therapy sessions I have had with both my therapist and my friends and family, fo...

grateful2be · grateful2be

This morning, a beautifully clear and sunny day in my locale, I went outside to my garden where I noticed a lone pink cone flower amidst the others that have all bloomed and turned brown and hard. I noticed a lump of something in the center of it. I walked closer to investigate. It was an iridescent gr...

tortuga · tortuga

I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for my own illness. I wouldn't come here if I didn't want to learn about myself and how to accept and love all about me. I wouldn't come back here, if I wasn't tired of being victimized due to my own weaknesses. I wouldn't have found this place if I didn't notice something was...

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	What should I do? (Preview) My brother is currently gone 5 days drinking straight, hasn't gone to work, hasn't eaten, hasn't showered, is not answering his kids calls......he is holed up in his house...just drinking...this will be the 5th time he has done this....and lost alot, and regained alot...about to lose it all again....	shanb1970	19	523	Sep 18, 2013 by shanb1970
	Giving my adult self a reward for overcoming (Preview) We praise and reward our loved ones when they do good or have a breakthrough, so why not do that for me???? I had an U G L Y coda moment where I wrote this letter (deleted and NOT sent---thanks to the ESH'rs who brought me up short---thank you all) And I did not send the letter.........i typed it......hel...	neshema2	9	367	Sep 17, 2013 by neshema2
	working through resentment towards gratitude: an odyssey!!! (Preview) it had to happen. since a couple of days I'm torn between resentment and anger and melancholy and gratitude. Gratitude is where I would like to end up with, to find my peace. But I feel like I have to climb Mt.Everest...with no oxygen. I'm still doubting if I can do it. for a long time I didn't allow myself...	tortuga	5	312	Sep 17, 2013 by el-cee
	Can you be an addict and not an alcoholic? (Preview) Hope you all can clear this up for me. We live in a rural area and there is not an NA meeting around but there is AA and Al-anon. My daughter started going to AA to deal with her addiction to pain pills and has now been clean for 30 days. She has continued to drink alcohol and it does not seem to be a problem. ...	Grits	6	461	Sep 17, 2013 by Grits
	Walls vs boundaries in relationship to adult children in active stages of alcoholsim? (Preview) Does anybody out there have a consolidated list of examples showing the difference between boundaries and walls in relationship to adult children in active stages of alcoholism they can post for us parents? And anybody else who'd like the same info? Thanks, family.	grateful2be	14	836	Sep 17, 2013 by Melly1248
	Am I being reactionary? I want to put this on my fb status? (Preview) I am a free American last time I checked and entitled to my personal beliefs! Thanks for respecting my beliefs, just like I do yours whether I agree or not that is what makes us who we are and Thank God we are not all the same drone of a human being that can not have our own minds. I love each and every one of you m...	Breakingfree	24	874	Sep 17, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	I'm back, looking for perspective (Preview) The reason I felt I had to take a break from the boards for a bit was because I felt like I was always posting about 'him', the AH. I wasn't feeling healthy even though I was working my program. I think these boards became my venting place and I wanted to step away from that and gain some perspective and jus...	ilovedogs	24	641	Sep 17, 2013 by ilovedogs
	A great visit with my son :) (Preview) This weekend I went it visit my son in Silver Spring Christian Base Rehab. I got there in good spirits and left in good spirits. He prayed for me and with me. He knows the addiction still effects me. I see my son again.. He tells me mom I know you have access to my money one thing I ask of you is to please find me a...	Gaby	6	349	Sep 17, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	The interventionist (Preview) By Joani Gammill...My wife just got me an early birthday present...two parts; one this book which I want to say if you have it or have read it or don't and haven't...the first 15 pages speak from inside of the addict and alcoholic. Of course she knows...she is a recovering addict; female, mom, RN, wi...	Jerry F	2	260	Sep 17, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	hurt & confused (Preview) I am really hurt & confused....I made my ex leave last year because of his drug problem. I was to the point of not knowing what to do anymore. I thought & prayed many nights about what I needed to do. So I finally decided that he should move out & maybe he would see just how serious I was. I had to s...	troubledheart	7	425	Sep 17, 2013 by troubledheart
	Perspective! (Preview) The Human Spirit is as expansive as the Cosmos. This is why its so tragic to belittle yourself or to question your worth. No matter what happens continue to push back the boundaries of your "Inner Life". Ikeda	Bettina	2	182	Sep 17, 2013 by grateful2be
	my experience with power of dreams (Preview) good morning MIP I wanted to share something which I have experienced much and paying attention to over the past 10 years. It is a way of getting to know yourself, learning to listen to your inner voice and trusting your 'gut' as some would name it. It all began over 10 years ago when I entered therapy and...	tortuga	4	458	Sep 17, 2013 by Melly1248
	edit/delete? (Preview) Anyone know why I can't edit or delete any of my posts? It just says "you don't have permission to do that" if I try to delete, and if I try to edit, it appears to have worked but then the post just reverts to how it was before when i refresh the page. Well, I'll try to edit this one since I just wrote i...	Melly1248	4	288	Sep 17, 2013 by Melly1248
	just a few minutes to reflect (Preview) My mom is now transferred to another hospital very close to returning home. I am glad that she is not going to come home too soon. I am nervous about her getting out. I guess because I had a dream about her coming home before I saw her yesterday, I feel a little apprehensive myself. Anyhow, I still feel pret...	Hoot Nanny	1	140	Sep 17, 2013 by grateful2be
	Mothers (Preview) At 64, I've gotten to the place in life where I am no longer willing to take on our culture's expectations of me as a Mother. I don't have power over my adult children's choices. I don't have to take on their burdens, their problems, the consequences for their choices. I don't have to blame myself for t...	grateful2be	25	628	Sep 17, 2013 by grateful2be
	Book suggestions anyone?? (Preview) I have Courage to Change Was looking at Amazon, thinking about the 12 Step Workbook...or Blueprint for Progress 4th step inventory ???? what books were helpful in working the steps?	islandtime	5	351	Sep 17, 2013 by Jerry F
	maybe he's just not worth it (Preview) In my case, I'm thinking maybe he's just not worth the effort. Yes I am and will continue to put major work into ME.....BUT I thinking putting any effort into staying together would be a waste of my energy. I think I rode this horse till it died, conuinued to sit on the dead carcus while the bizzards picked...	islandtime	7	465	Sep 16, 2013 by RunnerChick
	OFF TOPIC...Thinking of sending this to abusive sister (Preview) I DID NOT SEND THIS>.....IT IS ON HOLD..>>>THINKING OF SENDING BUT HAVE NOT YET DONE SO>>>>>>>>>>NEED ESH PLEASE I will not reply back.... This is just some decisions for me and it matters not how you take it.......So if you write back, I won't reply...	neshema2	10	308	Sep 16, 2013 by PP
	Opening my heart (Preview) It has been a while since I've been on here. I will have to update soon, but I was reading through different posts one in particular caught my attention, so I am going to share my story. Especially with anyone who may feel defeated. I have different mental health problems starting with borderline perso...	Lay	4	300	Sep 16, 2013 by Raven Juniper
	Enabling? (Preview) My father in law has called me the enabeler. This was many months ago when my AH was in detox for a week.( he was sober for 3 mnths after that) Tonight he was half bombed and decided to attend an AA meeting (not sure how to let my mind absorb that yet...waiting to see what tomorrow brings before I begin to get m...	Mari1978	11	573	Sep 16, 2013 by Mari1978
	Weekend :) (Preview) Kids are off on their social stuff for the weekend .. daughter is excited she has a homecoming dance coming up in Oct. An event apparently that is focused and obsessed upon by all teens now instead of more like a week before it happens .. ROFL. My boy is off having a field day with a friend of his. He got t...	Pushka	3	323	Sep 16, 2013 by Pushka
	Everyone is crazy except for me! (Preview) What an eye-opening weekend so far. In ways I could not have anticipated! Excuse the long rambly story, but I made a decision, on my way home, that rather than come home and get upset with the A all night, I would sit down at my desk and write it out here instead. (I could have just journalled it but I guess I w...	Melly1248	7	437	Sep 16, 2013 by faith84
	My son (Preview) I got another call today from my son's landlord. He wants my son out. I asked him PLEASE call the police. My son was incoherent and could even stand. The landlord told him to drive to the park and sleep it off. I couldn't let my son drive so I called the Police. They were on their way when the landlord call...	Cathyinaz	18	520	Sep 16, 2013 by hisimage
	I'm dong better today (Preview) Good afternoon friends Today I'm excepting the things I can not change and working to change me..one day at a time. My recovery time is much faster so now if I can control my emotions during height of the crisis I will do so much better keeping my heart and mind calm. My fear last night became so bad I got...	Cathyinaz	13	511	Sep 16, 2013 by AngelicH57
	I honestly don't feel any rancor (Preview) Well alanoners, this morning, I felt kinda "BLEH!!!" and I was not going to let me wallow in that....so i picked my self up....threw on some shorts, tank top an out to the trampolene, I marched....music in the parlor blasting oldies out the sliding glass door and onto that trampolene......	neshema2	12	796	Sep 16, 2013 by tiredtonite
	A bit of an epiphany (Preview) Just saw a cartoon...stick figure with MANY word balloons over his head... He was saying "Hello, My name is Mike, and I'm a thinkaholic..." Man, could I relate... RP	rehprof	6	348	Sep 16, 2013 by lgnutah
	dam defects .. Never saw this .. kinda funny but duh .. (Preview) love these epiphanys .. after the fact .. but .. for what it's worth .. I went to a meeting the other night and someone shared their A would look at them and say 'xxxx' liar .. It wasn't what she was saying but the look on her face that made her share a little on the lighter humorous side although there's noth...	MeTwo2	8	496	Sep 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	Estranged Family (Preview) I'm not sure where to begin with this. I've been trying to get my alcoholic brother to send my deceased mother's phone book to me but haven't had any luck. I finally gave up on that. I'm not on fb and don't want to be. I've made some attempts to find a few family and friends with whom there hasn't been any c...	tiredtonite	6	476	Sep 15, 2013 by tiredtonite
	Feeling Overwhelmed (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I woke up this morning feeling very overwhelmed. I feel like I am tackling the world by myself. What triggered this was last night I was over at a friends house and they had just come back from a trip in the states. They kept showing of...	slogan_jim	14	559	Sep 15, 2013 by cwya
	On Trust and Infidelity (Preview) When your trust is betrayed and you become the wife whose A husband was untrue to you by internet porn and phone sex. How did you or do you learn to trust again. Does that innocent trust ever come back again. They say that the unforgiveness of someone is worse on you than the other person. If you have any exp...	oldergal	17	699	Sep 15, 2013 by islandtime
	Digging In (Preview) For almost four years I cannot remember having a good weekend. Starting the same pattern tonight. However, this weekend I will not worry if A is drinking, will not obsess about where he is who he is with. I will not walk on eggshells afraid to piss him off naturally he is mad at me its a given. And you know wh...	mm830	16	481	Sep 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	Hit and Run and recovery (Preview) I was waiting at a stoplight this afternoon. I was rear-ended so hard my vehicle was pushed a few feet forward nearly missing traffic moving at 55 mph to 60 mph. the man who hit me - you guessed it - was high. Tried to convince me my vehicle was fine and to take off. I told him he'd have to stay. I was calli...	grateful2be	26	641	Sep 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	Acceptance and Willingness to Change (Preview) Sometimes the known is easier in my head than the unknown. Interesting how many posts I read here resonate and I don't feel so alone right now. That I am so thankful for this board it is changing my thinking in so many ways. But truthfully I am scared of the unknown and I know that has to do with letting HP tak...	mm830	8	543	Sep 15, 2013 by islandtime
	Happy to go home, sad to go home... (Preview) I'm leaving a city in the Pacific Northwest and going back to my home city right now. I cried a bit when I checked out of the hotel (via the TV- I couldn't let the hotel people see me cry!). I felt so safe in the hotel room all week. I was around 200 coworkers and felt very safe around them too... (Lonely at ti...	goodmonkey	8	441	Sep 15, 2013 by bulebelle
	Hawaii Jerry!!!! (Preview) Hawaii was voted the happiest state in the Union... Must be the Aloha spirit... Do you know that Hawaii has more diversity than any other state and they celebrate their different ethnicities. Imagine , most are mixes of Japanese, Hawaiian, Portugese, Dutch, you would be going to a parade everyday...	Bettina	16	524	Sep 15, 2013 by maryjane
	Chronic pain and higher power (Preview) I have been experiencing abdominal pain for the last 6 weeks, and the doctors so far cannot find anything "wrong." Of course, the pain is still here but no matter what type of stress relief I employ the pain remains.Next is either a medication or for them to look inside my intestine with a ca...	irukan	17	646	Sep 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	wait a minute. (Preview) You make me wanna shot, throw my hands up & shout, wait a minute? I am so grateful for my sense of humor. I don't get to share enough about the funny stuff. I am very serious. I have those moments when I just want to belly laugh. I am so happy that this is a safe place for me to share everything within reason...	Hoot Nanny	4	336	Sep 15, 2013 by hotrod
	My hearts breaking .Alcoholic daughter threating suicide .We can't let her live with us . (Preview) I'm too the point tonight where I feel like I'm sinking .Don't know where to turn .I went to Alanon meetings many years ago for another situation in my life .I know I need to go back .Just need someone to listen now .My beautiful daughter is an alcoholic and so mentally unstable .This has been going on for...	Nancy ANN	18	874	Sep 15, 2013 by grateful2be
	TRADITION 3 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t49437211/tradition-3-alanon/	hotrod	3	888	Sep 14, 2013 by fixitall
	what comes after the courage to leave... (Preview) mm830 and Melly asked me in a recent post to share how I did it. How did I stay away from A after leaving, and after he is the sweetest guy of the universe again, after he hit me the last time we actually met...? it is hard,and I didn't do it out of full conviction. Many doubts were there, some still come back fr...	tortuga	9	393	Sep 14, 2013 by Melly1248
	getting away from other bad people too (Preview) Well it seems now that I have flung open the door, I'm kicking a few asses out of it. People that are not worthy of my friendship, or time. I thought I was friends with a couple of women, but the more I got to know them, I realized they were awful mean spirited, gossiping, back stabbing, b***. I go to a gym se...	islandtime	10	548	Sep 14, 2013 by lgnutah
	slogans, quotes & sayings on my cell phone! (Preview) I am so grateful for my cell phone these days. It does more for me than I realized. I used to almost hate it because it is touch screen & I almost always seem to touch the wrong thing. But, not these days! I am so glad that I can record like on a tape recorder my favorite songs & all. I couldn't possibly...	Hoot Nanny	5	2016	Sep 14, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Value (Preview) "Your Value doesn't decrease based on someone's inability to see your Worth." Unk	Bettina	5	288	Sep 14, 2013 by neshema2
	Believing in the future (Preview) My husband started drinking about 8 years ago. It was not all the time, day in and day out, but he drank. He has quit before and I always felt wow, okay, we can go on. But, it did not last long. I finally told him two months ago I could not do this anymore and that he would have to leave. He was gone for 4 days...	Jen61	5	369	Sep 14, 2013 by neshema2
	Woke up to see the fog is gone (Preview) Something happen this morning I felt odd different I think it has something to do with last night I made a hole in a shoe box and labeled it ms negativity . I looked at my self in my photos I take lots of and when I see that girl I'n the photo I seen some one other than me . I saw this girl lost but not ugly or stupid d...	Ms co-dependent	7	487	Sep 13, 2013 by neshema2
	Hurting people hurt people (Not a new revelation) (Preview) This is why I love my MIP family! You all so gently reminded me that hurting people hurt people and since a few of my new found friends are not in a recovery program I am noticing that they could probably use one. I know I have no control over them and maybe need to lower my expectations and just study with the...	Breakingfree	6	394	Sep 14, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	OH BOY (Preview) I knew I would have ups and downs. Well the down came again. I got a call from my son's landlord and my son is drunk, has been for days and his landlord wants him out. I told him I can't do anything about it, he will have to call the police and whatever he needs to do. Now my anxiety has jumped up. I am doing al...	Cathyinaz	21	492	Sep 14, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	CHOICES (Preview) "Choices relating to one's partner, the balance between work & leisure time, participation in social activities, and healthy lifestyle are key factors in determining life satisfaction." (LiveHappy.com)	Bettina	1	504	Sep 14, 2013 by tortuga
	Today's Reminder (Preview) " Our greatest handicap is self-deception. We cannot recognize in ourselves the faults we criticize in others. If I could only foresee what an inspiring experience it is to search out the real me. I would not hesitate. The first step, after all, is to be completely honest in our search. "...	Bettina	11	379	Sep 14, 2013 by grateful2be
	Starting a fight to drink (Preview) Oh my goodness - I NEVER realise until its too late when he picks a fight and I get caught up trying to defend myself and then he's out the door with an excuse/reason to drink. So tired of this.	Growing77	13	519	Sep 13, 2013 by Bettina
	Today I Vow... (Preview) To go home to my A with love. I will not resent him for his past mistakes, I will not blame him for mine. I will not inquire as to his use, I will not pry, as it is his business and not mine. I will not expect anything from him, as expectations are only upon myself. I will not worry, I will not feel anger, I will not...	faith84	4	275	Sep 13, 2013 by Bettina
	Java still down?: (Preview) Again I tried to get into the chatroom so I could attend the meetings. The java is not working. I sure hope it gets fixed. When I get the time I love to attend the meetings. LIN	afglin	2	148	Sep 13, 2013 by afglin
	You know I work hard to build people up and many others really don't! (Preview) I get so mad when I work very hard to build these girls up in the nursing program that I am in and I work really hard at making them feel like they can do it! And every once in awhile they zing me with some stupid thing they say and it just pisses me off! I don't need to be brought down and I am unsure how to approach...	Breakingfree	9	415	Sep 13, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	I heard from my son (Preview) I got a phone call this afternoon from my son. He is in the hospital (yet again). He told me he was having a panic attack and heart palpitations on Sunday and a roommate called 911. My suspicion is that he was drinking again. He can't handle stress and with being jobless and still waiting for his unemploym...	Rose50	11	475	Sep 13, 2013 by Katytexasmom
	he is fighting in writing to get me back, and I am struggling to detach.... (Preview) got email from A.... finally he is expressing all his feelings of gratitude towards the past... about the good times. I feel guilty now for being so distant, not taking the time to talk to him. I read the post about abuse cycle, and they also make sense. and the sentence : when in doubt, don't. am really...	tortuga	14	373	Sep 13, 2013 by goodmonkey
	this is NOT about my A's or NA's but it IS a WOWZA step 4 revelation (Preview) I know this is off topic and you guys will probably scroll and "dumpster it" but thats OK...I think breakthroughs even if off topic should be shared......Who knows??? Someone new just MIGHT be able to relate to this.............. I shared this on another board and it really woke up some f...	neshema2	28	716	Sep 13, 2013 by goodmonkey
	i give up i do not want to live (Preview) i surrender i give up , im emtoinal broken down. i cant think of a reason to stay here . im dont fighting with my A , to many hurtful words were tossed theres no recovery from what we both said. im to sick to get help, im so confused and he sits there and smirks and tells me how sick and twisted my mind is. i w...	Ms co-dependent	19	2177	Sep 13, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	First Al Anon Meeting Last Night (Preview) So, after enduring four years of living and overly loving a heroin addict, I FINALLY got myself to an Al Anon meeting last night. No matter how much literature I've read on the disease and codependency, no matter how many therapy sessions I have had with both my therapist and my friends and family, fo...	faith84	7	447	Sep 13, 2013 by DavidG
	What have I missed? (Preview) This morning, a beautifully clear and sunny day in my locale, I went outside to my garden where I noticed a lone pink cone flower amidst the others that have all bloomed and turned brown and hard. I noticed a lump of something in the center of it. I walked closer to investigate. It was an iridescent gr...	grateful2be	9	413	Sep 13, 2013 by grateful2be
	I'm here because I want healing! (Preview) I wouldn't be here if it wasn't for my own illness. I wouldn't come here if I didn't want to learn about myself and how to accept and love all about me. I wouldn't come back here, if I wasn't tired of being victimized due to my own weaknesses. I wouldn't have found this place if I didn't notice something was...	tortuga	9	392	Sep 13, 2013 by ClearTheFog
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