Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

paintthinnr · paintthinnr

I am so frustrated today. My best friend of 20 years is driving me nuts about my "a". It was her idea for me to go to alanon, so for that I am thankful, but she can't f-ing let it go! Every time she talks to me, she asks me if my a is drinking, what I am saying to him/doing about it, etc. ...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

My friends, I haven't been on much lately, my "A" went to jail, and I let myself slip into total "Mommy-Mode" which isn't a bad thing, but when you don't take care of yourslef, it all goes to hell no matter how hard you are trying. Well my "A" spent 25 days in the jail, and was released last Monday. Long e...

Powerless · Powerless

The good mood is continuing. Today my husband didn't have to work because of the rain. I let him sleep in, normally I would be resentful that he was sleeping like a baby and I was up with the baby and doing chores. Today I went about my chores and told myself that I would do them alone if h...

nycbt · nycbt

Yesterday my husband got the bill of sale. I am suffering from both a cold and now emotional/mentally. I cut my arm over this car issue. it is like scartchs marks with a knife. alot of people have been helping me. it is hard to change my thinking. once u cut u feel the pain at that moment leave. but then m...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

So much has happened between my "a" and myself over the weekend. I cannot share this with anyone other than my fellow Alanoner's because my family is going to go through the roof over this one. My "a" cancelled his visit with the kids on Sunday because he was busy moving into a bigger place,...

SerenityGirl · SerenityGirl

Hi there. I'm Stacy and I need some ESH. My A (boyfriend) is working the program in AA and has had some success, though when he slips it seems to get worse. Anyway, he also has had an addiction to Adderal in the past. He is STILL taking it, insisting that he needs it for his ADD, but las...

marmare · marmare

I am taking 1/2 the day off, (scary with a new job) mom has an appointment with the oncolgist this afternoon. They will tell us what the PET and CAT scan's said. They have found a hole in her hip bone. My son and his girlfriend are to be at the hospital this morning also, the doc is pret...

bobump · bobump

Hi all ! No time for an update, just checking in. Just wanted to let ya'll know I'm doing well considering all that is going on. I'd only be doing 1/2 as well w/o the program and all of ya! Bob

debilyn · debilyn

thank you leo and tlc. I spent Jan. and Feb. with my gma. She died march first, national pig day. She wanted to go. Would have been 106 April 11, 06. Was a very wonderful/horrible experience. I have been here reading. So much has taken about all I got. Couldn't even talk or listen anymore&...

rtexas · rtexas

(...in my best souther dialect...) LORD… grant me a serene fishing hole and a dock that won’t let me down… allow me the clarity of mind to understand this is fishin’ and not catchin’… Grant us your guidance that we don’t kill each other in the go-cart this year. Help me to accept that lose...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

Original talk with my husband went fairly well, telling him I wanted to seperate. He said no get a divorce and we will sit down and get this over. All was calm, so I left to get a perm and he did talk to boys about still being around for them. He then retreated to garage. Called me a couple...

Barbara · Barbara

My mother just called me (again). Said she called the social worker at court who told her to call my brothers probation officer. I called my mother Fri, told her I had received daily emails (20pgs worth) from my brother. They are all anger, anger, anger. I thought the court should know as he's putting...

bob6502 · bob6502

Hiya friends, We have a few more weeks left to conduct our Group Inventory. I encourage everyone to participate because this is part of making sure we have a healthy group. The website for the group inventory is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=647211844531 Much love in r...

kitty · kitty

JUST ANOTHER EXISTENTIAL CRISIS Who am I to think what I have to say matters... Who am I to think I could help anyone? Why is it that God made me so sensitive I wanted to jump our of my skin most of my life? Why is that I can touch someone & know what is wrong & my hands burn like fir...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

  MARCH 14 One beautiful day, a man sat down under a tree, not noticing it was full of pigeons. Shortly, the pigeons did what pigeons do best. The man shout&sh...

Iko · Iko

Hi there. I just went to my first Al-Anon meeting on Saturday. Even just BEING there seemed to allow me to let out a big sigh and relax for a few minutes. My dh is an active alcoholic. He's the kind that justifies his drinking because he only drinks on weekends and then it's because h...

lilleah · lilleah

Well my A came home the other night, and I had fallen asleep from the wine I drank. He was infuriated that I had drank a bottle of wine. I believe, that he saw that I had been on this web page, and saw my post(why am I so angry)b/c I had the screen up, and forgot to close it out before I fell asleep. He left,...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

Hope for Today - March 14 At one of my Al-Anon meetings, I heard an interesting way to categorize the Twelve Steps into four groups -- giving up, owning up, making up, and keeping up. Steps One through Three are about giving up. I give up the illusion that I can control the alcoholic,...

Barbara · Barbara

Please God get him help! Im starting to wonder if the court system actually helps people or if its just there to enforce the law. Its going to be a long day for our family.

nycbt · nycbt

I have been with my husband since aug 99. In that whole time he didn't have a licnese or a car. Well within the yr he has gotten his license that he is paying off. He has credit cards now. He is now in the process of getting a car. I am scared to death about him getting a car. I have had a past of cutting and the thou...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((((((((((((((Tea 2))))))))))))))))))))))))))), I know how hard this week is on you, but may I be the first of many to wish you:

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET TEA!

HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU!

I am a firm...

kitty · kitty

I suppose wtvr I was doing before, wasn't the "right" thing... I mean if I were really in a state of grace, I wouldn't be complaining or upset about anything. >sigh<

DeAnna · DeAnna

better.  

bob6502 · bob6502

Hello friends, Enclosed is the website for the Group Inventory. It is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=647211844531 Please take a moment of your time to answer these questions. The intentory is based on the same inventory that face-to-face groups use as a tool to help with the growt...

quest · quest

this is what i could really use some help with... it is my anger then tears - that crazy out of control feeling... my a, who is not living at home right now, but says he wants to, was meeting me and our 5 kids saturday for a day skiing together. on friday night he called to make arrangements...

Barbara · Barbara

Have only begun to start using some of the slogans. I used the Just for Today bookmark almost daily when I first got here in Oct. What slogans do you keep using?

penny · penny

Hi all On friday I posted about my A drinking again and how I was going to do my own thing and keep busy over the weekend, well I spent saturday with my daughter and grandson and it was fab.. I felt confident and in control of my day...Didnt get home till late, well late for me. As soon as I got i...

Mollyd · Mollyd

Hi, I'm new and have been surfing here a bit. My situation is that I have been married for 11 years to an A; Of course, it has been a rocky road - two separations and reconcilliations. Lots of things lead to him entering treatment and recovery about a year ago. Here's my problem...

Barbara · Barbara

(A)ccepts you as you are - s/he should because s/he is probably there, or has been there (B)elieves in "you" - and know the Promises are true. (C)alls you just to say "Hi" - "Have you read the Big Book today?" (D)oesnt give up on you - s/he gets you back on the 12 steps (E)nvisions the whole of you - e...

Barbara · Barbara

Im thinking of reading up on different topics when I get to each new step: (I know each step also has readings in the daily readers). What other topics would you add to each step? 1) Detachment, powerlessness, unmanageability 2) Higher power, sanity 3) decision-making, willingness, G...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

I had planned on telling my husband we were leaving yesterday, but my son screwed it up Saturday by qualifying for State Westling competition in two weeks. I'm ready to to tell him anytime, but have been waiting for the boys wrestling to finish up as not to upset their lives by living with a prick with t...

david62 · david62

Hi Everyone, I wanted to point something out to any of you who might not know this. Our conference approved literature, One Day at a Time, Courage to Change ... etc. has all been copyrighted by the WSO (World Service Office). It is okay for us to quote up to one paragraph of this material at a time...

Jeffr · Jeffr

Firstly, this board is great. Just found it a week ago, and find myself checking it all day. Great source of inspiration. My situation is a follows, and wondering if anyone else feels (or felt) like this..... My wife of 13 years has been a pretty chronic alcoholic for most of our marriage, getting wor...

dideeh · dideeh

Hi, I'm new here and looking forward to the support. My husband will not have drank for 5 years this October. He doesn't drink but he seems to be slipping into the same personality characteristics he had when he was drinking. If I have a complaint, he throws something back at me that I have d...

Barbara · Barbara

Seems to me recovery is at times too much soul-searching, can be too depressing. Id like to just walk away and focus instead on the happy exciting feelings coming my way next week (going to Disney World). As they say at Mickey's House "Dare to do what dreamers do" "Make a wish, dream a dream and y...

nmike · nmike

Well, I was snowed in for 3 days and I will try to make it to town today. I need more medication for my pre-cancerous cells. The treatment is bearable and I feel very good about taking care of this. My A although sober for a long time has such walls up that it is so hard to talk to him about anything. Everything...

leesa123 · leesa123

hi i would like to find a sponsor. i'm australian but am doing a phd in switzerland. i'm a 34 year old female. i'd appreciate it if somebody could help me

thank you leesa

Powerless · Powerless

My husband and I had a long, honest talk yesterday and I was able to express my anger at his addiction (making sure he knew i was distinguishing between him and it) and my pain and fear for him. I told him that with all of the cocaine he is liable to have a heart attack inhis truck one day and I dread the d...

Barbara · Barbara

and some let it be up to the sponsee as to how often they get in touch? Do some leave it up to the sponsee on how they are going to work the program? Id like to hear about the different sponsor experiences - thank you

Barbara · Barbara

Im finding reading the Conference Approved Literature is a hugh part of my recovery. Anyone else think this too? That and speaking up at meetings.

Juster · Juster

This is my first post. I have been visiting this site frequently before signing up. Just reading about everyone's experiences has helped me a lot. I see that I am not alone and that the problems I have are very similar to many of yours. I have an AW who is a beautiful person in ev...

Nshala · Nshala

OK, I am hoping that someone will give me some ideas of what to do with myself. I called my friend yesterday. And, he hasn't called back. I just get so worried. I know, logically, there is no reason to worry--that he can take care of himself (or at least should). And, I also know...

Barbara · Barbara

Can I myself get in trouble if I reach out and send a hang in there email?

Barbara · Barbara

"Detaching myself from a person with the flu protects me from catching the illness. Emotionally detaching from alcoholism increases the likelihood that I wont catch an overabundance of anger and anxiety."

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

SIMPLE MATH >From a strictly mathematical viewpoint: What Equals 100%? What does it mean to give MORE than 100%? Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%? We have all been in situations where someone wants you to give over 100%. How about achieving 101%? What equals 100...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Sorry I haven't posted. I was down with the flue and so where a bunch of the kids. It really walloped our household. I have been going form work to bed and back to work. Doing not much of anything else. I feel much better, just drained. The kids who where well took turns helping out and doing whatever shop...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

" I really struggled with the process of finding a sponsor. I felt as if I were asking somone to be my friend. If I had to ask then I didn't really need that kind of friend. However, what I yearned for was somone with whom I could talk deeply and who would receive my confidences with resp...

busybee1206 · busybee1206

Hi, Im new to the forum. I was wondering if this type of group deals with families of a marijuana user? If not, do you know of one? I could really use the help. I'm married to a pot smoker. Thanks

TLC2 · TLC2

I see you haven't posted for awhile, and can't help but worry about you.I know a lot of us tend to crawl into our shells when things get too much. I hope you are ok, and just busy taking care of YOU! (and those wonderful animals of course) Always praying for you. Love Ya, TLC

sweetums · sweetums

Well my kids have been expressing more and more lately that they really miss my ex-A. I haven;t taken them to see him for the past seven weeks because to honest I just didn't know how to handle the situation. Their father and I seperated many years ago and they see him reg. and so this puts my ex into a funny '...

Christy · Christy

Being with my husband again constantly for 24 hrs, I realize I may need some help. I, along with the Dr's didn't realize how "off kilter" he really is. I've been up with him since 5:30 a.m. No way could he roam around the house alone. He may try to take his meds unsupervised and take them 3x because he fo...

Debbie Lee · Debbie Lee

MARCH 13 I'm apt to think of Step Seven-"Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings" -as a Step I take tearfully and on my knees. I've had that experience, but I want to entertain the possibility that Step Seven might be taken with joy-and even humor. Sometimes the sign that I ha...

Barbara · Barbara

have you attended an anniversary? did you enjoy it? what happens? any literature available?

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, i just got back from an award ceremony at my son's school. I was sent something a few weeks ago saying he would be presented a special award, which of course made me feel warm inside, and when i found out what it was, i was in tears, below is why. My oldest son is from a previous marriage, a bro...

kitty · kitty

I guess I'm still in shock over the way my mother has acted towards... since my accident Tuesday, she hasn't called to check on me once. All I have done for her, I have done out of love, it just feels like she doesn't love me. If she cannot manipulate me ~ &/or get her way, she is "dis...

mastiff · mastiff

hi all, i know for me, self worth was something i had absolutely none of when i came to alanon. I think many if not most alanoners seem to say or find the same thing when they work their steps, so i was wondering if some could share their es&h on what they did to gain self worth? Would love to...

Powerless · Powerless

Over the past few days I feel myself changing more. I have been coming here for quite some time, but he I have made more progress this weekend than I ever had. My husband did not give me his while check on Friday as he normally does and I did not ask for it. I know that the money he kept went...

maresie · maresie

I just finished watching the Mrs. Harris film on HBO. I thought it was a great reminder of many of the issues I still face. I could relate tremendously to being seduced by, lied to, have the goal posts changed and more by a man who I felt tremendous ambivalence about and who I swifly became very atta...

lilleah · lilleah

why am I so angry with my a? he hasn't been out in a long time, and he even let me go out last week. So why, when he told me he was going out tonight after work, did I get so angry? I shouldn't be. I thought maybe it was because he waited until the last minute again, but I know that if he would have told me sooner, tha...

Diane43 · Diane43

I can't take the rejection, humiliation and bs of this relationship any longer... I called him last nite to talk, but think he is avoiding my calls.. I remained calm and left a message for him to call me back. Until I put closure to this, I can't move on. I would really...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	frustrated (Preview) I am so frustrated today. My best friend of 20 years is driving me nuts about my "a". It was her idea for me to go to alanon, so for that I am thankful, but she can't f-ing let it go! Every time she talks to me, she asks me if my a is drinking, what I am saying to him/doing about it, etc. ...	paintthinnr	5	409	Mar 15, 2006 by leo
	To Leave or Not to Leave, hmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm (Preview) My friends, I haven't been on much lately, my "A" went to jail, and I let myself slip into total "Mommy-Mode" which isn't a bad thing, but when you don't take care of yourslef, it all goes to hell no matter how hard you are trying. Well my "A" spent 25 days in the jail, and was released last Monday. Long e...	Dolphin123	7	450	Mar 15, 2006 by leo
	Working my Program (Preview) The good mood is continuing. Today my husband didn't have to work because of the rain. I let him sleep in, normally I would be resentful that he was sleeping like a baby and I was up with the baby and doing chores. Today I went about my chores and told myself that I would do them alone if h...	Powerless	5	411	Mar 15, 2006 by jrtjosey
	he got it (Preview) Yesterday my husband got the bill of sale. I am suffering from both a cold and now emotional/mentally. I cut my arm over this car issue. it is like scartchs marks with a knife. alot of people have been helping me. it is hard to change my thinking. once u cut u feel the pain at that moment leave. but then m...	nycbt	9	488	Mar 15, 2006 by maresie
	We're back on today (Preview) So much has happened between my "a" and myself over the weekend. I cannot share this with anyone other than my fellow Alanoner's because my family is going to go through the roof over this one. My "a" cancelled his visit with the kids on Sunday because he was busy moving into a bigger place,...	twinmom2	5	542	Mar 15, 2006 by mebjk
	Need ESH (Preview) Hi there. I'm Stacy and I need some ESH. My A (boyfriend) is working the program in AA and has had some success, though when he slips it seems to get worse. Anyway, he also has had an addiction to Adderal in the past. He is STILL taking it, insisting that he needs it for his ADD, but las...	SerenityGirl	3	460	Mar 14, 2006 by nmike
	Yet another update (Preview) I am taking 1/2 the day off, (scary with a new job) mom has an appointment with the oncolgist this afternoon. They will tell us what the PET and CAT scan's said. They have found a hole in her hip bone. My son and his girlfriend are to be at the hospital this morning also, the doc is pret...	marmare	3	361	Mar 14, 2006 by nmike
	no time for update just checking in (Preview) Hi all ! No time for an update, just checking in. Just wanted to let ya'll know I'm doing well considering all that is going on. I'd only be doing 1/2 as well w/o the program and all of ya! Bob	bobump	11	566	Mar 14, 2006 by RamzDear
	hanging on (Preview) thank you leo and tlc. I spent Jan. and Feb. with my gma. She died march first, national pig day. She wanted to go. Would have been 106 April 11, 06. Was a very wonderful/horrible experience. I have been here reading. So much has taken about all I got. Couldn't even talk or listen anymore&...	debilyn	8	518	Mar 14, 2006 by Maria123
	Vacation Prayer... (Preview) (...in my best souther dialect...) LORD… grant me a serene fishing hole and a dock that won’t let me down… allow me the clarity of mind to understand this is fishin’ and not catchin’… Grant us your guidance that we don’t kill each other in the go-cart this year. Help me to accept that lose...	rtexas	1	354	Mar 14, 2006 by Maria123
	Cat Is Out (Preview) Original talk with my husband went fairly well, telling him I wanted to seperate. He said no get a divorce and we will sit down and get this over. All was calm, so I left to get a perm and he did talk to boys about still being around for them. He then retreated to garage. Called me a couple...	jrtjosey	6	516	Mar 14, 2006 by tiredtonite
	court is now twisting my words - restraining order (Preview) My mother just called me (again). Said she called the social worker at court who told her to call my brothers probation officer. I called my mother Fri, told her I had received daily emails (20pgs worth) from my brother. They are all anger, anger, anger. I thought the court should know as he's putting...	Barbara	1	421	Mar 14, 2006 by Maria123
	Group Inventory (Preview) Hiya friends, We have a few more weeks left to conduct our Group Inventory. I encourage everyone to participate because this is part of making sure we have a healthy group. The website for the group inventory is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=647211844531 Much love in r...	bob6502	1	399	Mar 14, 2006 by Maria123
	A Poem - Who Am I? (Preview) JUST ANOTHER EXISTENTIAL CRISIS Who am I to think what I have to say matters... Who am I to think I could help anyone? Why is it that God made me so sensitive I wanted to jump our of my skin most of my life? Why is that I can touch someone & know what is wrong & my hands burn like fir...	kitty	4	551	Mar 14, 2006 by bobump
	March 14th Courage To Change (Preview)   MARCH 14 One beautiful day, a man sat down under a tree, not noticing it was full of pigeons. Shortly, the pigeons did what pigeons do best. The man shout&sh...	Debbie Lee	4	4271	Mar 14, 2006 by kismetstrand
	New here. (Preview) Hi there. I just went to my first Al-Anon meeting on Saturday. Even just BEING there seemed to allow me to let out a big sigh and relax for a few minutes. My dh is an active alcoholic. He's the kind that justifies his drinking because he only drinks on weekends and then it's because h...	Iko	8	420	Mar 14, 2006 by nycbt
	bruised (Preview) Well my A came home the other night, and I had fallen asleep from the wine I drank. He was infuriated that I had drank a bottle of wine. I believe, that he saw that I had been on this web page, and saw my post(why am I so angry)b/c I had the screen up, and forgot to close it out before I fell asleep. He left,...	lilleah	8	503	Mar 14, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	for barbara (Preview) Hope for Today - March 14 At one of my Al-Anon meetings, I heard an interesting way to categorize the Twelve Steps into four groups -- giving up, owning up, making up, and keeping up. Steps One through Three are about giving up. I give up the illusion that I can control the alcoholic,...	rosie light shines	1	383	Mar 14, 2006 by Barbara
	my brother returns to court today for his pretrial (Preview) Please God get him help! Im starting to wonder if the court system actually helps people or if its just there to enforce the law. Its going to be a long day for our family.	Barbara	4	373	Mar 14, 2006 by maresie
	my husband getting a car (Preview) I have been with my husband since aug 99. In that whole time he didn't have a licnese or a car. Well within the yr he has gotten his license that he is paying off. He has credit cards now. He is now in the process of getting a car. I am scared to death about him getting a car. I have had a past of cutting and the thou...	nycbt	4	500	Mar 14, 2006 by maresie
	Happy Birthday Tea2 (Preview) ((((((((((((((((((((Tea 2))))))))))))))))))))))))))), I know how hard this week is on you, but may I be the first of many to wish you: HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! HAPPY BIRTHDAY SWEET TEA! HAPPY BIRTHDAY TO YOU! I am a firm...	Karilynn	11	463	Mar 14, 2006 by tea2
	state of grace (Preview) I suppose wtvr I was doing before, wasn't the "right" thing... I mean if I were really in a state of grace, I wouldn't be complaining or upset about anything. >sigh<	kitty	5	443	Mar 14, 2006 by nmike
	the rollercoaster ride of emtion.. (Preview) better.	DeAnna	8	644	Mar 14, 2006 by nmike
	Group Inventory (Preview) Hello friends, Enclosed is the website for the Group Inventory. It is: http://www.surveymonkey.com/s.asp?u=647211844531 Please take a moment of your time to answer these questions. The intentory is based on the same inventory that face-to-face groups use as a tool to help with the growt...	bob6502	2	360	Mar 14, 2006 by d53sjurne
	mfp- my first post (Preview) this is what i could really use some help with... it is my anger then tears - that crazy out of control feeling... my a, who is not living at home right now, but says he wants to, was meeting me and our 5 kids saturday for a day skiing together. on friday night he called to make arrangements...	quest	6	522	Mar 14, 2006 by quadmj
	Slogans - whats your favorite? what do you keep returning to? (Preview) Have only begun to start using some of the slogans. I used the Just for Today bookmark almost daily when I first got here in Oct. What slogans do you keep using?	Barbara	5	453	Mar 13, 2006 by nikkilou
	What a Transformation (Preview) Hi all On friday I posted about my A drinking again and how I was going to do my own thing and keep busy over the weekend, well I spent saturday with my daughter and grandson and it was fab.. I felt confident and in control of my day...Didnt get home till late, well late for me. As soon as I got i...	penny	3	397	Mar 13, 2006 by Ria
	Newbie with a question (Preview) Hi, I'm new and have been surfing here a bit. My situation is that I have been married for 11 years to an A; Of course, it has been a rocky road - two separations and reconcilliations. Lots of things lead to him entering treatment and recovery about a year ago. Here's my problem...	Mollyd	6	422	Mar 13, 2006 by Mollyd
	A Friend / A Sponsor (Preview) (A)ccepts you as you are - s/he should because s/he is probably there, or has been there (B)elieves in "you" - and know the Promises are true. (C)alls you just to say "Hi" - "Have you read the Big Book today?" (D)oesnt give up on you - s/he gets you back on the 12 steps (E)nvisions the whole of you - e...	Barbara	1	379	Mar 13, 2006 by Ria
	Topics and the steps - what topics did you find helpful and with what step? (Preview) Im thinking of reading up on different topics when I get to each new step: (I know each step also has readings in the daily readers). What other topics would you add to each step? 1) Detachment, powerlessness, unmanageability 2) Higher power, sanity 3) decision-making, willingness, G...	Barbara	1	350	Mar 13, 2006 by rosie light shines
	When to let the cat out!? (Preview) I had planned on telling my husband we were leaving yesterday, but my son screwed it up Saturday by qualifying for State Westling competition in two weeks. I'm ready to to tell him anytime, but have been waiting for the boys wrestling to finish up as not to upset their lives by living with a prick with t...	jrtjosey	5	502	Mar 13, 2006 by whitie
	Quoting from Al-Anon Literature (Preview) Hi Everyone, I wanted to point something out to any of you who might not know this. Our conference approved literature, One Day at a Time, Courage to Change ... etc. has all been copyrighted by the WSO (World Service Office). It is okay for us to quote up to one paragraph of this material at a time...	david62	3	408	Mar 13, 2006 by mebjk
	Post Rehab/Still not happy (Preview) Firstly, this board is great. Just found it a week ago, and find myself checking it all day. Great source of inspiration. My situation is a follows, and wondering if anyone else feels (or felt) like this..... My wife of 13 years has been a pretty chronic alcoholic for most of our marriage, getting wor...	Jeffr	8	441	Mar 13, 2006 by Becky1
	dry drunk syndrom (Preview) Hi, I'm new here and looking forward to the support. My husband will not have drank for 5 years this October. He doesn't drink but he seems to be slipping into the same personality characteristics he had when he was drinking. If I have a complaint, he throws something back at me that I have d...	dideeh	2	556	Mar 13, 2006 by lin0606
	do you ever find recovery to be too much and walk away for a while? (Preview) Seems to me recovery is at times too much soul-searching, can be too depressing. Id like to just walk away and focus instead on the happy exciting feelings coming my way next week (going to Disney World). As they say at Mickey's House "Dare to do what dreamers do" "Make a wish, dream a dream and y...	Barbara	4	491	Mar 13, 2006 by Becky1
	I bottomed out with my A (Preview) Well, I was snowed in for 3 days and I will try to make it to town today. I need more medication for my pre-cancerous cells. The treatment is bearable and I feel very good about taking care of this. My A although sober for a long time has such walls up that it is so hard to talk to him about anything. Everything...	nmike	3	588	Mar 13, 2006 by Becky1
	i seek a sponsor (Preview) hi i would like to find a sponsor. i'm australian but am doing a phd in switzerland. i'm a 34 year old female. i'd appreciate it if somebody could help me thank you leesa	leesa123	4	363	Mar 13, 2006 by Becky1
	A tragedy (Preview) My husband and I had a long, honest talk yesterday and I was able to express my anger at his addiction (making sure he knew i was distinguishing between him and it) and my pain and fear for him. I told him that with all of the cocaine he is liable to have a heart attack inhis truck one day and I dread the d...	Powerless	9	439	Mar 13, 2006 by Becky1
	are some sponsors more involved than others? (Preview) and some let it be up to the sponsee as to how often they get in touch? Do some leave it up to the sponsee on how they are going to work the program? Id like to hear about the different sponsor experiences - thank you	Barbara	1	566	Mar 13, 2006 by Jerry F
	did you find alot of your recovery depended on the reading you were doing (Preview) Im finding reading the Conference Approved Literature is a hugh part of my recovery. Anyone else think this too? That and speaking up at meetings.	Barbara	5	380	Mar 13, 2006 by nmike
	I'm New Here (Preview) This is my first post. I have been visiting this site frequently before signing up. Just reading about everyone's experiences has helped me a lot. I see that I am not alone and that the problems I have are very similar to many of yours. I have an AW who is a beautiful person in ev...	Juster	15	559	Mar 13, 2006 by Juster
	Anyone else have this problem? (Preview) OK, I am hoping that someone will give me some ideas of what to do with myself. I called my friend yesterday. And, he hasn't called back. I just get so worried. I know, logically, there is no reason to worry--that he can take care of himself (or at least should). And, I also know...	Nshala	6	549	Mar 13, 2006 by Gailey
	brother has a restraining order now on the entire family not just mother (Preview) Can I myself get in trouble if I reach out and send a hang in there email?	Barbara	4	510	Mar 13, 2006 by Barbara
	Hope for Today - pg 68 - Detachment (Preview) "Detaching myself from a person with the flu protects me from catching the illness. Emotionally detaching from alcoholism increases the likelihood that I wont catch an overabundance of anger and anxiety."	Barbara	0	514	Mar 13, 2006 by Barbara
	Ha! Gotta love it... (Preview) SIMPLE MATH >From a strictly mathematical viewpoint: What Equals 100%? What does it mean to give MORE than 100%? Ever wonder about those people who say they are giving more than 100%? We have all been in situations where someone wants you to give over 100%. How about achieving 101%? What equals 100...	kismetstrand	4	468	Mar 13, 2006 by Ria
	Whole family was sick (Preview) Sorry I haven't posted. I was down with the flue and so where a bunch of the kids. It really walloped our household. I have been going form work to bed and back to work. Doing not much of anything else. I feel much better, just drained. The kids who where well took turns helping out and doing whatever shop...	Jeannie	2	435	Mar 13, 2006 by doxie
	Sponsorship, Hope for Today, Feb. 11th (Preview) " I really struggled with the process of finding a sponsor. I felt as if I were asking somone to be my friend. If I had to ask then I didn't really need that kind of friend. However, what I yearned for was somone with whom I could talk deeply and who would receive my confidences with resp...	Lunamoth	1	488	Mar 13, 2006 by mebjk
	Is Al Anon only for families of alcoholics? (Preview) Hi, Im new to the forum. I was wondering if this type of group deals with families of a marijuana user? If not, do you know of one? I could really use the help. I'm married to a pot smoker. Thanks	busybee1206	8	1449	Mar 13, 2006 by busybee1206
	Debilyn? Where are you? (Preview) I see you haven't posted for awhile, and can't help but worry about you.I know a lot of us tend to crawl into our shells when things get too much. I hope you are ok, and just busy taking care of YOU! (and those wonderful animals of course) Always praying for you. Love Ya, TLC	TLC2	1	336	Mar 13, 2006 by leo
	I was so selfish! (Preview) Well my kids have been expressing more and more lately that they really miss my ex-A. I haven;t taken them to see him for the past seven weeks because to honest I just didn't know how to handle the situation. Their father and I seperated many years ago and they see him reg. and so this puts my ex into a funny '...	sweetums	2	404	Mar 13, 2006 by nmike
	Hubby not as well as I thought.. (Preview) Being with my husband again constantly for 24 hrs, I realize I may need some help. I, along with the Dr's didn't realize how "off kilter" he really is. I've been up with him since 5:30 a.m. No way could he roam around the house alone. He may try to take his meds unsupervised and take them 3x because he fo...	Christy	10	496	Mar 13, 2006 by Karilynn
	March 13th Courage to Change (Preview) MARCH 13 I'm apt to think of Step Seven-"Humbly asked Him to remove our shortcomings" -as a Step I take tearfully and on my knees. I've had that experience, but I want to entertain the possibility that Step Seven might be taken with joy-and even humor. Sometimes the sign that I ha...	Debbie Lee	1	514	Mar 13, 2006 by Midnight
	AlAnon anniversary meeting (Preview) have you attended an anniversary? did you enjoy it? what happens? any literature available?	Barbara	1	387	Mar 13, 2006 by abbyal
	my precious son (Preview) hi all, i just got back from an award ceremony at my son's school. I was sent something a few weeks ago saying he would be presented a special award, which of course made me feel warm inside, and when i found out what it was, i was in tears, below is why. My oldest son is from a previous marriage, a bro...	mastiff	15	700	Mar 12, 2006 by Jayda
	Bittersweet (Preview) I guess I'm still in shock over the way my mother has acted towards... since my accident Tuesday, she hasn't called to check on me once. All I have done for her, I have done out of love, it just feels like she doesn't love me. If she cannot manipulate me ~ &/or get her way, she is "dis...	kitty	4	431	Mar 12, 2006 by kitty
	Self Worth- what do you do for it? (Preview) hi all, i know for me, self worth was something i had absolutely none of when i came to alanon. I think many if not most alanoners seem to say or find the same thing when they work their steps, so i was wondering if some could share their es&h on what they did to gain self worth? Would love to...	mastiff	8	779	Mar 12, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Changing my Behaviors (Preview) Over the past few days I feel myself changing more. I have been coming here for quite some time, but he I have made more progress this weekend than I ever had. My husband did not give me his while check on Friday as he normally does and I did not ask for it. I know that the money he kept went...	Powerless	4	422	Mar 12, 2006 by Lunamoth
	Mrs Harris (Preview) I just finished watching the Mrs. Harris film on HBO. I thought it was a great reminder of many of the issues I still face. I could relate tremendously to being seduced by, lied to, have the goal posts changed and more by a man who I felt tremendous ambivalence about and who I swifly became very atta...	maresie	0	399	Mar 12, 2006 by maresie
	why am I so angry? (Preview) why am I so angry with my a? he hasn't been out in a long time, and he even let me go out last week. So why, when he told me he was going out tonight after work, did I get so angry? I shouldn't be. I thought maybe it was because he waited until the last minute again, but I know that if he would have told me sooner, tha...	lilleah	7	603	Mar 12, 2006 by d53sjurne
	This has to stop (Preview) I can't take the rejection, humiliation and bs of this relationship any longer... I called him last nite to talk, but think he is avoiding my calls.. I remained calm and left a message for him to call me back. Until I put closure to this, I can't move on. I would really...	Diane43	11	509	Mar 12, 2006 by diamond
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