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serendipity · serendipity

on friday i was all upset because my addict husband had moved in with his mother who is the classic enabler. i haven't spoken to them at all for the past 3 years- their decision- my husband chose me and his kids and sobriety over them and all of their insanity. but now he's out there and i'm don...

Barbara · Barbara

Husband will be picking up his drinking buddy on the way home from work Fri afternoon. They're going to a womans house who husband works with to move furniture. And then of course husband is using it as an excuse to not drive his drinking buddy back home! A husband informed me his drinking buddy will be sp...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I have realized that my Codependent behavior and one of my flaws in character was gravatating towards drama. My A will often say, you thrive on drama and craziness and I can't stand it!! I suppose he is right to some degree. What I have learned by working this program is that when the...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

This weekend was a great weekend despite my "a's" aweful mood. The boys had a great time for their birthday and I ended up having a party even though I said I wasn't going to. We had out of town guests come in with their children. So all together I had 8 kids in my two bedroom condo!!&nbs...

mastiff · mastiff

Hey all, last year we had a good group of members from MIP come the "Serenity in Yosemite" conference here in Yosemite California. It is an awesome conference in an awesome place with an awesome group of people!!!!! I had to write all and say that now ya all just gotta gotta come...

hudsond · hudsond

I posted last Monday that last weekend was great--well this weekend not so much! He was pretty irritable and grouchy. I tried to ignore it, but sometimes it's just so depressing! I think I kindof know a little bit of what happened. I went back to band practice on Sat. (I sing w...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I know this is probabbly going to sound dumb, but I'm not sure, so I am asking for opinions. I know that to give anyone an ultimatum is wrong. An ultimatum is saying if you do this, I wil do this or if you do not do this I will do this. It is something with a catch attached to it. An attempt to force someone to do...

seachange · seachange

Just heard this for the first time this past weekend! From a group of recovering A's and Al-Anons at a potluck! Hadn't heard it before--so forgive me if you all know it well! I think it's priceless!

~Shelagh

Goldie · Goldie

All, As a newbie I began with many quesitons. The replys were often, "work the steps, come here often and know how much we love you" I was not sure what that meant until I actually started working step 1. It is starting to sink in. I came to MIP really pissed off and hurt. ...

msykesp · msykesp

just an update on the weekend. My A told me he was planning on going to a party for a friend of his on saturday. (these friends are all a's as well) instead of freaking out and asking him not to go... I just told him he was a grown man and he is able to make his own decisions. it was veryu hard...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

hey u guys, the salesman who handled the job, that i had "screwed up" told me in a very nice email "rosie what U did was fixed--- we were SECOND lowest bid---so if we dont' get the job, its over PRICE, not what U did"..... i was so relieved that i didn'...

robinr · robinr

Hi. I am new to the board and would appreciate any advice you can give me. I have been married to my alcoholic husband for 7 years. Finally, I am reaching out to others in my situation because I feel so depressed and alone. I have done everything I know how to do to convince my husband to give up drinking. I ha...

rtexas · rtexas

I enjoyed the weekend (most of it anyway). I was scheduled to work this weekend some so we didn't plan on anything big, but I was determined to get some fun out of it. LOL Friday night, I had mentioned that going to a local park and racing the go-carts would be fun. A said she had plans. Tha...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

oh man have i been "projecting" i mean it hasn't happened yet and iam projecting it.....like a movie, i am writing and reading the END b4 i even read the NOW part......this daily i read today, was meant for me to read...it talked about staying in the present....i sooo need to stay in the NOW.....T...

sunny123 · sunny123

Hi everyone, Can someone help explain this "dry drunk" that I keep reading about? What does that exactly mean? My A husband has been threatening separation and we must move in a month because our lease is up. So the pressure is dragging me down in the middle of final exams. His threat couldn't h...

Barbara · Barbara

and now I feel like crap! geesch you know why cant they just leave me out of it? Im finally ready to disown my family. I called my mother yesterday morn and my brother was there. He has a court ordered restraining order to not see/talk/communicate with anyone in the family. When I called he answered. I c...

jmath31 · jmath31

Me and my fiance have been trying to buy this house and we have closing friday. BUT yesterday we ended up in a huge fight! He told me to call the whole thing off and that he is moving out. Somewere deep down I expected to screw this up and push him away permanantly and it seems as if I have accomplishe...

serendipity · serendipity

does anyone ever get the feeling in their stomach when crisis hits? that rush,it makes me shake and feel sick. but still i think i might be addicted to it. my a husband moved in with his mother last week. i found out friday. i was so mad. i lost all my peace. but i asked him for money i knew he got paid friday. ju...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

i went to a hell of a meet last night and we talked about LOVE----being open to it and it brought these feelings/ thoughts/ esh to mind, and thought i would share..... i think love is like watering a plant, however when i love now, i keep some of my heart in reserve.....like don't love...

Wendy · Wendy

Hi, this is my first post. I need to get this off my chest but haven't the gumption to go to a live meeting. My mom is an A as is her boyfriend of 20 years. He also uses crack. Both my husband and I were raised by A single mothers on welfare. We have 2 children (10 & 12 yrs)....

Cyn · Cyn

I dont think I am ready for a relationship I want out of it right now because I am scared. My boyfriend went to work (he is not an A, but my ex was and I am trying to move past him) and he SHOULD be home by now and he is not. I usually hear from him by now and I havent. I am freaked out beyond bel...

Juster · Juster

Hello everyone. I don't post a lot, but I sure do spend a lot of time reading other posts. This forum is about all the support I have for my disease and I so appreciate it. When I first came here, I thought, oh poor me and what I have to put up with. Now I feel that I have a much better perspecti...

Belongtome · Belongtome

I'm finally back online....been travelling, or not in a private place in which to post. I've missed the message board tremendously. You all are a life line to me. I'm doing pretty well...good days, and bad days. I went on an antidepressant in October, and it took awhile, but now...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Dear Friends, Was just sitting here thinking about life and how crazy it can be. Always tought life would be a struggle here and there, but wow everywhere I turn lately it's difficult. Hub is finally out of the house, I know it is the best thing, just wish the love would go away. The pain and frust...

debilyn · debilyn

My daughters baby's father is a young A. An abusive A. He pushed my daughter when she was holding the baby and hit her. He held his hand over her mouth. She got away and ran to another apt. called police. He ran off. She got out of there, gave thirty days notice and her friend picked them up. She is coming...

Atera · Atera

I am new to the board, and just wanted to introduce myself. I went to my first Al-Anon meeting on Tuesday, and I could feel it starting to help. I still have a long way to go, and am having a LOT of trouble and sadness. I am hoping that coming here will help in between times I can go t...

kspear · kspear

Good morning all. I've noticed over the past few days that I've really been keeping myself held hostage by my insecurities. Today is just a little more intense. It's kind of normal for me around this time of year, I suppose, as my birthday approaches and I just have kind of a lot of...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I used to dabble with poetry .... haven't written in a long while ... it was my outlet back then, a way to express all that I felt. Always meant to do something with my writing...but never have (despite encouragement from friends and teachers). I watch my daughter now doing as I did... pour...

DanaAngel · DanaAngel

Hey cdb, Noticed you are posting again- I wondered how hard you got hit with that powerful spring storm that whipped thru your way about a week ago.... Good to see you here again- Dana

bobump · bobump

since I suspect some of you might be a little codie (not taking your inventory, lol), I'm going to be codie and give you an update so you don't worry. My 15 yo last nite had some old Adderall in her room which I was not aware of. Her and her friend decided to take some to see how it would feel.&n...

jrtjosey · jrtjosey

So many of you have mentioned online dating, I can see using it as a screening tool like at Match.com, but this just dating someone you met in chat has me baffled. I don't get how you can fall in love with a computer generated person. It could b anyone's picture. We have enough issues i...

smpoli · smpoli

This is my first time using this message board, so bear w/me, please. I have only used the chat room. I have been in the Alanon program for several years. Two months ago, we found out that our son has cancer. Rhabdomyosarcoma. Very rare, especially for his age. ...

david62 · david62

Hi Everyone, I hope your Easter is/was great! I just wanted to share a little something that happened to me the other night that I cant quit chuckling about!

I went last Friday to Katy, Tx to visit my brother and his family for easter. I arrived there mid afternoon. Once before, about...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

Reading posts this morning on the joys of baseball, the wonder of seeing flowers at the side of the road that were never noticed before.... and it got me thinking of all the pleasures HP has put in my path also. Flowers... ahh yes, our first spring here (last year) was a wonderful time. Dr...

Barbara · Barbara

Worked some more last night on my 4th step. Was thinking about relationships. Thought about growing up, then my early 20s and then to my present. Its all connected. Before I realized it the tears were leaking out. Maybe Im starting to heal?

toto12 · toto12

Hello roomies, Are spirituality and humor connected? Here's proof they are: In Nigeria a man was stopped in a speed trap. As he rolled down the window, he said to the policeman: "How could I be speeding, officer, I have the Holy Ghost , Maria and Jesus riding with me!" "Hmm...

d53sjurne · d53sjurne

http://www.inspiringthots.net/   &nbs...

tea2 · tea2

Ok ok, I need to gloat a bit, hehehe… I am a fan of baseball. Some are sharing what they are grateful for well I must admit, yup baseball is way up there! I live in a state that seems to have winters that last way too long. Hearing when the teams report for spring training is music to my ears –ahhh… That ser...

Barbara · Barbara

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snt · snt

Hello everyone... OK so the lastest in this drama that i call my life... Last night hubby comes by after his meeting. He says to me... a couple of people are going bowling after the meeting do you want to go with? I hestitate and ask him what his motives are...He say he doesnt unde...

angel123 · angel123

Years ago my Sponcer Mary Lee gave me this affirmation,she died of Cancer,but her memories and leasons are in my heart and mind.This she gave me at one of the lowest points in my life.I had found out my daughter was malested.And working not only to help my daughter,I also needed help f...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

Hello everyone....I survived my birthday...with the help of many of you. It's funny how I thought I'd learned so much with the ending of my relationship with my ex...who is an A. I told myself what I would put up with and wouldn't. Now I find myself beginning a new relation...

Barbara · Barbara

Nice day yesterday. Actually quite often its nice through the week and the weekend forecast is projected to be cold & wet. I work indoors M-F 930-5 and no I cant get out on my lunch break - I have a young teen to come home and check on. People come into the library and say "Oh you really should get outside...

sparkette · sparkette

Today started out like so many do - me walking around the house - my husband not taking 2 seconds to look me in the face. I walk over to him to say good morning and give him a hug and he barely acknowledges me, half-heartedly hugs me back. He only chooses to engage in conversation with me lately it seems when t...

nal · nal

Hi everyone, Thank you all so much for your responses to my post below "trying not to worry." They made me cry and think a lot (especially about trying to control things), and indeed this is something I need to give over to HP. I went and said goodbye to the dog today, and she was put d...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

well i am entering the 60th year of my life and its still hell i made an honest mistake at work, (told the truth to a guy, when the salesmen was not so honest---long story) but anyway, i am facing job loss.....the beat goes on for me....one thing after anohter &nb...

tootired · tootired

Well today he has been calling, he is on a bing again. He is paronoid and talking nonsense. I felt bad today for him, "he needs me" was the feeling I had, maybe if when I talk to him I should be kind, like he tells I should be , instead of talking direct to him about his addiction. This discussion today re-info...

toto12 · toto12

Dear Roomies, Know what a passport in Germany means? They carry identity cards here--so since USA has no identity cards (well driver's license and credit cards serve same purpose there, but not here,i suppose). We have to use passport which has our permit to stay in Germany st...

angel123 · angel123

things get better if i open my mind the real understasnding,Of where I was and where I am now.I have found in my Iife I took things way to personal always want to have approval for I never was good eough as a child to my mom.All I was was in the way.Her focus was on what my father was doing and not...she did no...

serendipity · serendipity

man did i ever lose it today. what a slip i had.found out my a husband is staying with his mother. he was so close to hitting bottom. he was so close to really wanting sanity and sobriety for himself and not for me. but his disease got him. or maybe it's juts him i don't know but he called and she went running. h...

kitty · kitty

Yesterday I woke up so positive, ready to face the day, in spite of not sleeping very regular hours & waking up at weird times of the night (mother sd this would happen w/ aging but I always slept so well ~ she's been right about a lot of things in life (lessons) that I have had to learn in my own stu...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, I mentioned in the chat room about the lesion on my right inside lower eyelid, how the doc thinks it may be skin cancer, and that I would like prayers that it won't be cancer. I am posting it on the board here, because I believe in the power of prayer, that God can heal anything, if we take it b...

lebe27 · lebe27

A received an accident settlement end of February. A decent sum but not a fortune. From the start we planned on holding aside a certain amount for a rainy day. Of course as time has gone by that amount has shrunk. We didn't "piss" the money away (something an A could literally...

Jayda · Jayda

It's been over 3 weeks since anyone has heard from my brother. I don't even have a clue if he's in town or if he has left. He didn't even phone on my birthday. I'm just sick about it. I hope that wherever he is he's okay (well as okay as you can be when you're addicted to crack).

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((friends))) darn it anyway.I was doing so well.Feeling good,positive about Alanon this time.Not sure what happened. Well, maybe it was this.Husband (A) went to another state to see his online girlfriend.They finally met.He showed me a picture that she gave him and I didn't think she was att...

lilmissy707 · lilmissy707

Hello everyone, I am an adult child of 2 alcoholics, and frankly, I've done all I can do for my father, but I'm just not willing to give up on my mom, who raised me alone from the age of 7 on. About 7 years ago, my mom got sober. It was wonderful! She was like a new person. But about 5 years ago my uncle died from...

snt · snt

Well just an update.... he came home that night before i had decided on how to actually handle the situation. saw his stuff by the door and knew. It almost got hostile but we both calmed down. we can do this civilally or not. What hurt most that night was all he had to say was "OK"...

confused · confused

I have hesitated about posting this, probably because 1. once again I feel like I am the only one in the entire world who could possibly be experiencing this 2. I fear the responses that I may get. So hopefully I can push the submit button when I am done and let my Higher Power do the res...

Barbara · Barbara

Brother returns to court May 4 for his trial. My mother & I have reason to believe he was raped while in college (things he's said in the past). My mother's psychologist recommended that she send a letter to the court asking for mental help for my brother - told mother she could even give her name, etc...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I'm annoyed. I haven't talked to any of my husband's family for a year minimum more for some of them. I stopped being involved in thier illusion and decided my efforts were being wasted on people who did not care. So I stopped trying ... what happened after was not one of them contacted me, and he stopped i...

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	HP working (Preview) on friday i was all upset because my addict husband had moved in with his mother who is the classic enabler. i haven't spoken to them at all for the past 3 years- their decision- my husband chose me and his kids and sobriety over them and all of their insanity. but now he's out there and i'm don...	serendipity	2	512	Apr 25, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Its Monday - Ive already been informed A husbands drinking buddy is spending Fri night at our house! (Preview) Husband will be picking up his drinking buddy on the way home from work Fri afternoon. They're going to a womans house who husband works with to move furniture. And then of course husband is using it as an excuse to not drive his drinking buddy back home! A husband informed me his drinking buddy will be sp...	Barbara	6	493	Apr 25, 2006 by horselover58
	Codependents and our Drama... (Preview) I have realized that my Codependent behavior and one of my flaws in character was gravatating towards drama. My A will often say, you thrive on drama and craziness and I can't stand it!! I suppose he is right to some degree. What I have learned by working this program is that when the...	twinmom2	3	514	Apr 25, 2006 by Dolphin123
	I feel like the same old crap is starting again (Preview) This weekend was a great weekend despite my "a's" aweful mood. The boys had a great time for their birthday and I ended up having a party even though I said I wasn't going to. We had out of town guests come in with their children. So all together I had 8 kids in my two bedroom condo!!&nbs...	twinmom2	8	489	Apr 25, 2006 by leo
	ya all gotta gotta gotta come now (Preview) Hey all, last year we had a good group of members from MIP come the "Serenity in Yosemite" conference here in Yosemite California. It is an awesome conference in an awesome place with an awesome group of people!!!!! I had to write all and say that now ya all just gotta gotta come...	mastiff	2	600	Apr 25, 2006 by megan
	this weekend--not so much! (Preview) I posted last Monday that last weekend was great--well this weekend not so much! He was pretty irritable and grouchy. I tried to ignore it, but sometimes it's just so depressing! I think I kindof know a little bit of what happened. I went back to band practice on Sat. (I sing w...	hudsond	4	522	Apr 25, 2006 by Jennifer
	Not an ultimatum (Preview) I know this is probabbly going to sound dumb, but I'm not sure, so I am asking for opinions. I know that to give anyone an ultimatum is wrong. An ultimatum is saying if you do this, I wil do this or if you do not do this I will do this. It is something with a catch attached to it. An attempt to force someone to do...	Jeannie	12	549	Apr 25, 2006 by nmike
	"Let Go and Let God Get 'Em " (Preview) Just heard this for the first time this past weekend! From a group of recovering A's and Al-Anons at a potluck! Hadn't heard it before--so forgive me if you all know it well! I think it's priceless! ~Shelagh	seachange	3	699	Apr 25, 2006 by nmike
	This stuff works! (Preview) All, As a newbie I began with many quesitons. The replys were often, "work the steps, come here often and know how much we love you" I was not sure what that meant until I actually started working step 1. It is starting to sink in. I came to MIP really pissed off and hurt. ...	Goldie	4	470	Apr 24, 2006 by Zajori
	good weekend (Preview) just an update on the weekend. My A told me he was planning on going to a party for a friend of his on saturday. (these friends are all a's as well) instead of freaking out and asking him not to go... I just told him he was a grown man and he is able to make his own decisions. it was veryu hard...	msykesp	3	411	Apr 24, 2006 by aunitedway
	guess what??? better news (Preview) hey u guys, the salesman who handled the job, that i had "screwed up" told me in a very nice email "rosie what U did was fixed--- we were SECOND lowest bid---so if we dont' get the job, its over PRICE, not what U did"..... i was so relieved that i didn'...	rosie light shines	4	450	Apr 24, 2006 by emma
	new and need help! (Preview) Hi. I am new to the board and would appreciate any advice you can give me. I have been married to my alcoholic husband for 7 years. Finally, I am reaching out to others in my situation because I feel so depressed and alone. I have done everything I know how to do to convince my husband to give up drinking. I ha...	robinr	8	619	Apr 24, 2006 by Juster
	Not sure how I feel... (Preview) I enjoyed the weekend (most of it anyway). I was scheduled to work this weekend some so we didn't plan on anything big, but I was determined to get some fun out of it. LOL Friday night, I had mentioned that going to a local park and racing the go-carts would be fun. A said she had plans. Tha...	rtexas	11	564	Apr 24, 2006 by rtexas
	i just GOTTA release and live like today is all i got (Preview) oh man have i been "projecting" i mean it hasn't happened yet and iam projecting it.....like a movie, i am writing and reading the END b4 i even read the NOW part......this daily i read today, was meant for me to read...it talked about staying in the present....i sooo need to stay in the NOW.....T...	rosie light shines	1	376	Apr 24, 2006 by Atera
	DRY DRUNK? (Preview) Hi everyone, Can someone help explain this "dry drunk" that I keep reading about? What does that exactly mean? My A husband has been threatening separation and we must move in a month because our lease is up. So the pressure is dragging me down in the middle of final exams. His threat couldn't h...	sunny123	4	552	Apr 24, 2006 by twinmom2
	called cops yesterday because brother was violating restraining order (Preview) and now I feel like crap! geesch you know why cant they just leave me out of it? Im finally ready to disown my family. I called my mother yesterday morn and my brother was there. He has a court ordered restraining order to not see/talk/communicate with anyone in the family. When I called he answered. I c...	Barbara	7	525	Apr 24, 2006 by rosie light shines
	Somehow I can turn my life upside down! (Preview) Me and my fiance have been trying to buy this house and we have closing friday. BUT yesterday we ended up in a huge fight! He told me to call the whole thing off and that he is moving out. Somewere deep down I expected to screw this up and push him away permanantly and it seems as if I have accomplishe...	jmath31	3	382	Apr 24, 2006 by twinmom2
	the "feeling" (Preview) does anyone ever get the feeling in their stomach when crisis hits? that rush,it makes me shake and feel sick. but still i think i might be addicted to it. my a husband moved in with his mother last week. i found out friday. i was so mad. i lost all my peace. but i asked him for money i knew he got paid friday. ju...	serendipity	7	650	Apr 24, 2006 by aunitedway
	i love but i love with CARE (Preview) i went to a hell of a meet last night and we talked about LOVE----being open to it and it brought these feelings/ thoughts/ esh to mind, and thought i would share..... i think love is like watering a plant, however when i love now, i keep some of my heart in reserve.....like don't love...	rosie light shines	1	519	Apr 24, 2006 by Faith73
	am I doing the right thing? (Preview) Hi, this is my first post. I need to get this off my chest but haven't the gumption to go to a live meeting. My mom is an A as is her boyfriend of 20 years. He also uses crack. Both my husband and I were raised by A single mothers on welfare. We have 2 children (10 & 12 yrs)....	Wendy	5	425	Apr 24, 2006 by Atera
	Letting go and letting my hp (Preview) I dont think I am ready for a relationship I want out of it right now because I am scared. My boyfriend went to work (he is not an A, but my ex was and I am trying to move past him) and he SHOULD be home by now and he is not. I usually hear from him by now and I havent. I am freaked out beyond bel...	Cyn	6	432	Apr 24, 2006 by Atera
	The Good in an A (Preview) Hello everyone. I don't post a lot, but I sure do spend a lot of time reading other posts. This forum is about all the support I have for my disease and I so appreciate it. When I first came here, I thought, oh poor me and what I have to put up with. Now I feel that I have a much better perspecti...	Juster	8	568	Apr 24, 2006 by angeleyes8462
	Hi everybody (Preview) I'm finally back online....been travelling, or not in a private place in which to post. I've missed the message board tremendously. You all are a life line to me. I'm doing pretty well...good days, and bad days. I went on an antidepressant in October, and it took awhile, but now...	Belongtome	1	369	Apr 24, 2006 by hudsond
	Any Advice??? (Preview) Dear Friends, Was just sitting here thinking about life and how crazy it can be. Always tought life would be a struggle here and there, but wow everywhere I turn lately it's difficult. Hub is finally out of the house, I know it is the best thing, just wish the love would go away. The pain and frust...	Andrea12	13	741	Apr 24, 2006 by aunitedway
	can I murder him? (Preview) My daughters baby's father is a young A. An abusive A. He pushed my daughter when she was holding the baby and hit her. He held his hand over her mouth. She got away and ran to another apt. called police. He ran off. She got out of there, gave thirty days notice and her friend picked them up. She is coming...	debilyn	15	677	Apr 24, 2006 by Belongtome
	Hello everyone! (Preview) I am new to the board, and just wanted to introduce myself. I went to my first Al-Anon meeting on Tuesday, and I could feel it starting to help. I still have a long way to go, and am having a LOT of trouble and sadness. I am hoping that coming here will help in between times I can go t...	Atera	5	442	Apr 24, 2006 by Atera
	Really hurting today (Preview) Good morning all. I've noticed over the past few days that I've really been keeping myself held hostage by my insecurities. Today is just a little more intense. It's kind of normal for me around this time of year, I suppose, as my birthday approaches and I just have kind of a lot of...	kspear	7	486	Apr 24, 2006 by Gailey
	Heart Cry (Preview) I used to dabble with poetry .... haven't written in a long while ... it was my outlet back then, a way to express all that I felt. Always meant to do something with my writing...but never have (despite encouragement from friends and teachers). I watch my daughter now doing as I did... pour...	kismetstrand	10	564	Apr 23, 2006 by mac57
	cdb, did you get unburied??? lol (Preview) Hey cdb, Noticed you are posting again- I wondered how hard you got hit with that powerful spring storm that whipped thru your way about a week ago.... Good to see you here again- Dana	DanaAngel	1	414	Apr 23, 2006 by cdb
	Update for anyone in chat last nite (Preview) since I suspect some of you might be a little codie (not taking your inventory, lol), I'm going to be codie and give you an update so you don't worry. My 15 yo last nite had some old Adderall in her room which I was not aware of. Her and her friend decided to take some to see how it would feel.&n...	bobump	8	564	Apr 23, 2006 by Andrea12
	OK I Don't Get It!!! (Preview) So many of you have mentioned online dating, I can see using it as a screening tool like at Match.com, but this just dating someone you met in chat has me baffled. I don't get how you can fall in love with a computer generated person. It could b anyone's picture. We have enough issues i...	jrtjosey	9	650	Apr 23, 2006 by cdb
	MIP is awesome! (Preview) This is my first time using this message board, so bear w/me, please. I have only used the chat room. I have been in the Alanon program for several years. Two months ago, we found out that our son has cancer. Rhabdomyosarcoma. Very rare, especially for his age. ...	smpoli	8	589	Apr 23, 2006 by maresie
	A Visit from the Easter Beagle! (Preview) Hi Everyone, I hope your Easter is/was great! I just wanted to share a little something that happened to me the other night that I cant quit chuckling about! I went last Friday to Katy, Tx to visit my brother and his family for easter. I arrived there mid afternoon. Once before, about...	david62	7	596	Apr 23, 2006 by maresie
	What makes you happy? (Preview) Reading posts this morning on the joys of baseball, the wonder of seeing flowers at the side of the road that were never noticed before.... and it got me thinking of all the pleasures HP has put in my path also. Flowers... ahh yes, our first spring here (last year) was a wonderful time. Dr...	kismetstrand	5	531	Apr 23, 2006 by Becky1
	the tears are starting to come, maybe im start to heal (Preview) Worked some more last night on my 4th step. Was thinking about relationships. Thought about growing up, then my early 20s and then to my present. Its all connected. Before I realized it the tears were leaking out. Maybe Im starting to heal?	Barbara	4	452	Apr 23, 2006 by aunitedway
	spirituality and humor (Preview) Hello roomies, Are spirituality and humor connected? Here's proof they are: In Nigeria a man was stopped in a speed trap. As he rolled down the window, he said to the policeman: "How could I be speeding, officer, I have the Holy Ghost , Maria and Jesus riding with me!" "Hmm...	toto12	1	421	Apr 23, 2006 by jrtjosey
	Awsome,I cried and understood as I watched (Preview) http://www.inspiringthots.net/   &nbs...	d53sjurne	5	564	Apr 23, 2006 by aunitedway
	Simple Gratitude (Preview) Ok ok, I need to gloat a bit, hehehe… I am a fan of baseball. Some are sharing what they are grateful for well I must admit, yup baseball is way up there! I live in a state that seems to have winters that last way too long. Hearing when the teams report for spring training is music to my ears –ahhh… That ser...	tea2	8	504	Apr 23, 2006 by Karilynn
	Im in the habit of negative projection (Preview) How do I change it?	Barbara	4	546	Apr 23, 2006 by d53sjurne
	oh what to do.... (Preview) Hello everyone... OK so the lastest in this drama that i call my life... Last night hubby comes by after his meeting. He says to me... a couple of people are going bowling after the meeting do you want to go with? I hestitate and ask him what his motives are...He say he doesnt unde...	snt	4	494	Apr 23, 2006 by isabela40
	affirmations( a gift) (Preview) Years ago my Sponcer Mary Lee gave me this affirmation,she died of Cancer,but her memories and leasons are in my heart and mind.This she gave me at one of the lowest points in my life.I had found out my daughter was malested.And working not only to help my daughter,I also needed help f...	angel123	4	509	Apr 23, 2006 by Ria
	Ending the week with a smile (Preview) Hello everyone....I survived my birthday...with the help of many of you. It's funny how I thought I'd learned so much with the ending of my relationship with my ex...who is an A. I told myself what I would put up with and wouldn't. Now I find myself beginning a new relation...	katrina2000	3	419	Apr 23, 2006 by Ria
	why do I let WEATHER affect me so? (Preview) Nice day yesterday. Actually quite often its nice through the week and the weekend forecast is projected to be cold & wet. I work indoors M-F 930-5 and no I cant get out on my lunch break - I have a young teen to come home and check on. People come into the library and say "Oh you really should get outside...	Barbara	4	536	Apr 23, 2006 by d53sjurne
	today (Preview) Today started out like so many do - me walking around the house - my husband not taking 2 seconds to look me in the face. I walk over to him to say good morning and give him a hug and he barely acknowledges me, half-heartedly hugs me back. He only chooses to engage in conversation with me lately it seems when t...	sparkette	5	550	Apr 23, 2006 by cedarpines
	Thank you... (Preview) Hi everyone, Thank you all so much for your responses to my post below "trying not to worry." They made me cry and think a lot (especially about trying to control things), and indeed this is something I need to give over to HP. I went and said goodbye to the dog today, and she was put d...	nal	1	435	Apr 22, 2006 by Ria
	life has kicked my butt AGAIN (Preview) well i am entering the 60th year of my life and its still hell i made an honest mistake at work, (told the truth to a guy, when the salesmen was not so honest---long story) but anyway, i am facing job loss.....the beat goes on for me....one thing after anohter &nb...	rosie light shines	9	677	Apr 22, 2006 by emma
	He needs me (Preview) Well today he has been calling, he is on a bing again. He is paronoid and talking nonsense. I felt bad today for him, "he needs me" was the feeling I had, maybe if when I talk to him I should be kind, like he tells I should be , instead of talking direct to him about his addiction. This discussion today re-info...	tootired	3	481	Apr 22, 2006 by jrtjosey
	What me worry? (Preview) Dear Roomies, Know what a passport in Germany means? They carry identity cards here--so since USA has no identity cards (well driver's license and credit cards serve same purpose there, but not here,i suppose). We have to use passport which has our permit to stay in Germany st...	toto12	3	435	Apr 22, 2006 by emma
	Feelings (Preview) things get better if i open my mind the real understasnding,Of where I was and where I am now.I have found in my Iife I took things way to personal always want to have approval for I never was good eough as a child to my mom.All I was was in the way.Her focus was on what my father was doing and not...she did no...	angel123	2	521	Apr 22, 2006 by d53sjurne
	just a slip.... (Preview) man did i ever lose it today. what a slip i had.found out my a husband is staying with his mother. he was so close to hitting bottom. he was so close to really wanting sanity and sobriety for himself and not for me. but his disease got him. or maybe it's juts him i don't know but he called and she went running. h...	serendipity	3	550	Apr 22, 2006 by Jeannie
	down on myself (Preview) Yesterday I woke up so positive, ready to face the day, in spite of not sleeping very regular hours & waking up at weird times of the night (mother sd this would happen w/ aging but I always slept so well ~ she's been right about a lot of things in life (lessons) that I have had to learn in my own stu...	kitty	7	564	Apr 22, 2006 by cdb
	prayer request... (Preview) Hi all, I mentioned in the chat room about the lesion on my right inside lower eyelid, how the doc thinks it may be skin cancer, and that I would like prayers that it won't be cancer. I am posting it on the board here, because I believe in the power of prayer, that God can heal anything, if we take it b...	lmt123	12	506	Apr 22, 2006 by cdb
	Will soon be just scraping by again (Preview) A received an accident settlement end of February. A decent sum but not a fortune. From the start we planned on holding aside a certain amount for a rainy day. Of course as time has gone by that amount has shrunk. We didn't "piss" the money away (something an A could literally...	lebe27	3	423	Apr 22, 2006 by cdb
	Need your prayers (Preview) It's been over 3 weeks since anyone has heard from my brother. I don't even have a clue if he's in town or if he has left. He didn't even phone on my birthday. I'm just sick about it. I hope that wherever he is he's okay (well as okay as you can be when you're addicted to crack).	Jayda	6	490	Apr 22, 2006 by Jayda
	in the dumps again....... (Preview) (((friends))) darn it anyway.I was doing so well.Feeling good,positive about Alanon this time.Not sure what happened. Well, maybe it was this.Husband (A) went to another state to see his online girlfriend.They finally met.He showed me a picture that she gave him and I didn't think she was att...	drucilla06	5	584	Apr 21, 2006 by tea2
	HELP! URGENT! I need help for my mom (Preview) Hello everyone, I am an adult child of 2 alcoholics, and frankly, I've done all I can do for my father, but I'm just not willing to give up on my mom, who raised me alone from the age of 7 on. About 7 years ago, my mom got sober. It was wonderful! She was like a new person. But about 5 years ago my uncle died from...	lilmissy707	7	531	Apr 21, 2006 by d53sjurne
	still hurting and confused (Preview) Well just an update.... he came home that night before i had decided on how to actually handle the situation. saw his stuff by the door and knew. It almost got hostile but we both calmed down. we can do this civilally or not. What hurt most that night was all he had to say was "OK"...	snt	8	490	Apr 21, 2006 by aunitedway
	need some esh - the impulsivity or the A is at an all time high! (Preview) I have hesitated about posting this, probably because 1. once again I feel like I am the only one in the entire world who could possibly be experiencing this 2. I fear the responses that I may get. So hopefully I can push the submit button when I am done and let my Higher Power do the res...	confused	11	530	Apr 21, 2006 by confused
	do we contact the court or let them deal with brother? (Preview) Brother returns to court May 4 for his trial. My mother & I have reason to believe he was raped while in college (things he's said in the past). My mother's psychologist recommended that she send a letter to the court asking for mental help for my brother - told mother she could even give her name, etc...	Barbara	3	442	Apr 21, 2006 by aunitedway
	Just Venting (Preview) I'm annoyed. I haven't talked to any of my husband's family for a year minimum more for some of them. I stopped being involved in thier illusion and decided my efforts were being wasted on people who did not care. So I stopped trying ... what happened after was not one of them contacted me, and he stopped i...	Jennifer	7	569	Apr 21, 2006 by QOD
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