Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

serendipity · serendipity

man did i ever lose it today. what a slip i had.found out my a husband is staying with his mother. he was so close to hitting bottom. he was so close to really wanting sanity and sobriety for himself and not for me. but his disease got him. or maybe it's juts him i don't know but he called and she went running. h...

kitty · kitty

Yesterday I woke up so positive, ready to face the day, in spite of not sleeping very regular hours & waking up at weird times of the night (mother sd this would happen w/ aging but I always slept so well ~ she's been right about a lot of things in life (lessons) that I have had to learn in my own stu...

lmt123 · lmt123

Hi all, I mentioned in the chat room about the lesion on my right inside lower eyelid, how the doc thinks it may be skin cancer, and that I would like prayers that it won't be cancer. I am posting it on the board here, because I believe in the power of prayer, that God can heal anything, if we take it b...

lebe27 · lebe27

A received an accident settlement end of February. A decent sum but not a fortune. From the start we planned on holding aside a certain amount for a rainy day. Of course as time has gone by that amount has shrunk. We didn't "piss" the money away (something an A could literally...

Jayda · Jayda

It's been over 3 weeks since anyone has heard from my brother. I don't even have a clue if he's in town or if he has left. He didn't even phone on my birthday. I'm just sick about it. I hope that wherever he is he's okay (well as okay as you can be when you're addicted to crack).

drucilla06 · drucilla06

(((friends))) darn it anyway.I was doing so well.Feeling good,positive about Alanon this time.Not sure what happened. Well, maybe it was this.Husband (A) went to another state to see his online girlfriend.They finally met.He showed me a picture that she gave him and I didn't think she was att...

lilmissy707 · lilmissy707

Hello everyone, I am an adult child of 2 alcoholics, and frankly, I've done all I can do for my father, but I'm just not willing to give up on my mom, who raised me alone from the age of 7 on. About 7 years ago, my mom got sober. It was wonderful! She was like a new person. But about 5 years ago my uncle died from...

snt · snt

Well just an update.... he came home that night before i had decided on how to actually handle the situation. saw his stuff by the door and knew. It almost got hostile but we both calmed down. we can do this civilally or not. What hurt most that night was all he had to say was "OK"...

confused · confused

I have hesitated about posting this, probably because 1. once again I feel like I am the only one in the entire world who could possibly be experiencing this 2. I fear the responses that I may get. So hopefully I can push the submit button when I am done and let my Higher Power do the res...

Barbara · Barbara

Brother returns to court May 4 for his trial. My mother & I have reason to believe he was raped while in college (things he's said in the past). My mother's psychologist recommended that she send a letter to the court asking for mental help for my brother - told mother she could even give her name, etc...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I'm annoyed. I haven't talked to any of my husband's family for a year minimum more for some of them. I stopped being involved in thier illusion and decided my efforts were being wasted on people who did not care. So I stopped trying ... what happened after was not one of them contacted me, and he stopped i...

AlaMom · AlaMom

Last night was another night of the roller coaster emotions of my husband. What started out quietly enough turned into him slamming things around and ranting & raving about everything under the sun. I, however, did not go there with him. I chose to stay serene, not let him aff...

dogscribe · dogscribe

I am very sad today. I haven’t been on here much because I can only get on at work. Just a little update on recent events. He was so drunk one Friday night – man I can’t even remember when, all these days are just melting together – but a month or so ago. He fell and hit his side o...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

It's amazing the things that stand out when you wake up from the fog of oppression and take notice of the beautiful things that HP has placed in your path... I was driving to pick the kids up from school the other day and I was driving down the road and noticed these long thick bushes bordering the...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I woke up this morning in a very sad mood. Hubby had stayed up all night with his bottle and online poker game, came to bed around 8 a.m. Last night I had gone to bed with the words "I'll be up soon" from him, I tossed the ball for our dog in the bedroom a few times and told her I bet she'd love to go to...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Hello all, quick note to update what has happened with the Doc appointments. My MRI results were negative well ... negative to them positive to me. No lesions or other signs of MS HURRAY! BOO on the fact that leaves them baffled as to why I have so many MS symptoms but no lesions or plaque as they call it. So...

angeleyes8462 · angeleyes8462

Today, I talked to my A. I hadn't talked to him in awhile. Told him I needed sometime to work on me. I think he was reseptive to that. I have to focus on me and find my inner beauty or what I call my angeleyes. With everything going on in my life right now I don't have alot of energy to focus on the us thing. Before...

tootired · tootired

I am so hurt. he went in treatment last month, has not be able to be sober 30 days. I saw him today and he was not sober. I am so hurt, I want to believe that we can and will get sober. He is living alone now, not with me. It hurts so bad to see him like that. I have been married to him about 30 years, I feel so stupid...

rtexas · rtexas

((((everyone)))) I feel like making a sign and wearing it around my neck that says... "I'm doing the best I can..." My feelings towards my AW have wavered between irritation to sadness for her. She doesn't want me working a program, but she wants me fixed. Right now. (Or back t...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

He removed the battery from my car this morning, so I had to find another way to work. He's a mechanic and it's kinda scary what he could do. In a fit of anger during a drunken episode once, long ago, he threatened to 'fix my breaks'. Funny - I just remembered that now. How easily...

buzzfree · buzzfree

Ok, so I am sitting here right now taking a quick break from some homework.

I am reading a chapter on "converting change into opportunity." While I am a tad restless since the school year is almost at a close, this really had me glued to it. I thought of all the dragons I have battled against in my...

Jeannie · Jeannie

I know in many of my posts I have made my husband seem like an uncaring monster. Sometimes he does seem that way, now, but not in the past. From the day I met him, part of me knew that the connection he had with his parents was not "normal". I love my Mom anda Dad with all my heart, but I have never been obsesse...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

First of all - thank you for those of you who have taken time to respond to my cries for help! Thank you for helping me to see what was blocking me from my higher power! I have had an epiphany and I need to share this: Last night after almost 2 weeks with no proper sleep, I told him that it was over.&n...

Diva · Diva

Day 17 and counting. Great! Congratulations! I had to make a big deal out of this. It deserves a separate post. Good luck, Diva

megan · megan

Mountain biking with my sister in law. Wednesday night is our night. I kick off work at 4:30 and head home. I get changed , load up my bike and we meet in the woods. I lead and she follows. Speeding through the woods. It is singletrack, narrow and winding. Steep climbs, dangerous descents, roots rocks, ou...

Barbara · Barbara

I got in the door for my lunch break right after A husband got home from work. I call him earlier today to let him know our son has a friend over and he'll be spending the night. We talked about dinner and decided to get pizza. After I walked in the door I suggested eating dinner at the pizza parlor. Of course h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So many of you recently have expressed anxiety, frustration, or just general concern over the 4th step (doing it perfectly, doing it thouroughly, doing it at all) that today's Hazelden Meditation was just too good not to post for y'all. I fully agree with this message--too many people get wra...

Barbara · Barbara

It seems to me that we shouldnt have a Step 4 without a Step 5 and then why shouldnt we ask God to remove our shortcomings? Are Steps 4-7 all interconnected? Did/do you do them all separately or together? Maybe because Ive just begun Step 4, I see Step 8 as beginning an entirely new set of Steps and...

snt · snt

Well, I have his stuff packed up most of it anyway. The locks are changed. I cant deal with the mixed signals anymore. He goes to her house everynight. I kid myself that he is still trying to decide, but who am I kidding. He made the choice. I just hav...

JulieLynn · JulieLynn

I am having a hard time getting my A off my mind lately. I haven't been able to sleep now for days. At night seems to be the worse when everything is quiet. I try to stay as busy as I can during the day so that my thoughts are not consumed with him but they catch up with me late at night. ...

gardengal · gardengal

Making one think of more positive things can aid recovery.......:idea

twinmom2 · twinmom2

Hello Group, Life is plugging along here. I assessed the damage on my car yesterday, its not bad, I buffed out the scratches. I can't do much about the dents but they're not that bad. The guy I hit called me yesterday afternoon to say he was sorry again and to let me know that he still...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, I have been doing so much thinking and taking a long hard look at my life. On Easter Sunday though we had a nice day, when I look at it nothing has changed. My husband is not here, but his ways are still with us. His not showing up and calling drunk etc. We have learned to continue on without him, but th...

nal · nal

Hi everyone, I'm an ACOA with a dad who has been sober, as far as I know, for 2+ years. It's looking like tomorrow his dog, who he loves more than anything, is going to have to be put to sleep. I'm afraid this will affect his sobriety and mental health. I know I can't control it a...

horselover58 · horselover58

Hi, I can't login to the step board. I did a few days ago (cant remember when). Now it says "account pedning." Can anyone help me? I tried to login from scratch but it told me that my "user name " was being used. No kidding lol Appreciate any help. Debbie

mastiff · mastiff

Hi all, I was thinking about all the tools that alanon has to offer for a better way to live, and all the old tools I use to use in life mearly to survive in an alcoholic home. Pre alanon, i developed a lot of "survival skills" or tools, things i used to get by, get what i thought i needed ect. I learn...

rosie light shines · rosie light shines

oh man, i screwed up with this job we are trying to get here at work.........the guy called LAST WEEK at least, ago, and asked me re: our employees or subs doing the actual painting.......i said they worked only for us, been with us for YEARS, but they were paid as sub...

meowpur · meowpur

I'm new here. I sure am having a lousy time. I can't seem to get my stuff together. I am always upset. I have Fibromyalgia and spinal disc problems so I am in a lot of pain. I am trying to become more assertive and not take any abuse from people in my life. I have lost s...

bigthoughts · bigthoughts

I am the child of an alcoholic, I am dating an alcoholic. I didn't know at first, it took awhile for me to realize it and now I just feel so ANGRY!! I have fallen in love with this man---a man with so many good qualities--and I am beginning to feel that I not only shouldn't be with him, I don't want to. Tonight w...

Rebecca · Rebecca

what a differance a day makes... i was trying to get on with my life.... ........when i checked my voicemail on my phone.. there was one from my ex the "A" himself... telling me he had left the country... and that he was sorry for all the pain and sufferig he caused me... all done under the influence...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Today I am grateful for my brother. When he was so ugly in two casts on his feet and a scab from the forceps at birth the family story says I took one look at him started crying and told my Mom "we should have gotten a puppy". At the time and many times after she agreed ... poor kid, two already nutty fema...

Gailey · Gailey

I am having a hard day today. I feel like my HP is trying to show me something but I don't seem to be seeing it or hearing it. Maybe it is just this...Acceptance. I was really touched by Jeff's post on "Loss of potential". That is just what I am having a hard time with today. Why does my son's life have to be...

HadEnuff · HadEnuff

We started this thing where he would get off the system he was on, trying to look for other women and give me a chance to 'prove' that I was worthy of HIM. Well I thought that it would do me no harm to start being more responsive and caring toward him, since I had pulled back consid...

katrina2000 · katrina2000

So far this morning is bringing me nothing but panick. I'm not sure even how to breath. I have a racing heart and nothing I seem to be doing is helping. I thought if I could get it out of my head maybe I could start moving. Today is my 33 birthday. I keep thinking...

Goldie · Goldie

Hi I'm new to this board. I'm hoping this is the right place to post, learn, and grow. i am just working step 1, and I'm trying to understand powerlessness. I am powerless, I understand that, but sometimes I feel helpless. My A bent to kiss me yesterday, and the stale alcohol s...

findingmyway · findingmyway

Well... here we go again. Because we're divorcing, my lawyer advised me to file my taxes separately. When my A found out, he hit the roof. He was angry I didn't ask his permission before I did this. The scary part is that he called our accountant. He threatened him but what really worried the acc...

sparkette · sparkette

thank goodness the board is up and running! This was from earlier this morning: Ok I admit it is late which means I am more emotional than usual....but I am gonna write anyways, cause I can :o) also because I just feel compelled to do so. Grateful isn't a word I use regularly. When I first came i...

kspear · kspear

Good morning, all. I just wanted to first of all thank the good folks who were in the chatroom this morning. I knew I belonged in Alanon for a while, but wonder of wonders, I believed I belonged this morning for the first time. I never realized how impacted I was by the alcoholic behavio...

Barbara · Barbara

What are you doing to keep fit physically? Most mornings I take a 30min walk outside before getting ready for work. We live on a .2mile circle which has gotten the name "gerbil track" due to the times I walk it over and over and over. I also stop at Curves 3-4 nights after work on my way home. Some nights my so...

Jeff Reynolds · Jeff Reynolds

I'm grateful for all the wisdom in the replies to my first post last week. Thank-you. My 23 year old daughter found another half-way house in Florida and begins her second week there. She found work at a restaurant. The mental image of her riding a wobbly bicycle to and from work each day, compare...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

((((((everyone))))))) On Friday I woke up thinking about the woman I met at my first F2F meeting (my Gypsy ) and how she had touched me. How what she said has stuck with me and kept me coming back to al-anon. Then the yesterday I was just having a hard day, working on being honest with mysel...

Barbara · Barbara

Since middle of March the family has been court ordered to have no contact with my younger brother. He did call my mother's house six times Monday night. My mother hopes he wasnt drinking as he has his urine test today (Wed). (How long does alcohol stay in your system?) Once he put the phone up to his radio...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

I just had a major shock to my system tonight. Just needed to write it out, I'm not sure why HP chose this to happen to me or the other person but he/she did. I was on my way to my sis in laws to drop off a chocolate cake. Coming to the turning lane, my light was green. Half way to the li...

Jeannie · Jeannie

Hi, The kids and I had a nice quiet Easter. I felt bad for my little guys. They asked me if they could tell Daddy about their ballgames on Saturday. I really didn't want him there, but they did, so I said ok. Well it didn't matter, he didn't show, he called about 12 noon on my cell and said he overslept. He...

aunitedway · aunitedway

"Unity presents not only the necessary climate for the growth of Al-Anon as a whole but also the atmosphere in which each member within the group may acquire peace of mind. " The Twelve Steps and Traditions (((((( BIGHUG))) to all of you for being her...

confused · confused

Well, the weekend was wonderful. And I did not feel like we "were on our best behavior", just being ourselves and letting it all unfold. My husband and I had not spent any length of time together for four monthsand we went to his sister's for Easter and had a great time. The boys absol...

search41 · search41

I tried to post this twice last night, and both times, when i hit "submit", it never submitted, for some reason. so i'm going to try again! i did end up going to the room, tho, and shared there. thanks to all who were so supportive to me last night! anyway, i was married for 16 yrs befo...

tea2 · tea2

Hello ((((all)))) I thought I would share that today happens to be one of my favorites in our Courage to Change daily reader. April 18 page 109. Because we aren’t allowed to post from our CAL literature I would like to urge anyone who hasn’t read it yet to give it a look

wishes, t

twinmom2 · twinmom2

This weekend was pretty good. The kids and I got out on Saturday morning. My A was supposed to get up with us and go downtown to the market but he stayed out too late the night before, so we got packed up and went anyway. Took the kids for an Easter egg hunt at the church, they had a blast.&...

gknee · gknee

seems like the theme today. Last nite H and I were driving home from my folks house. He had been sort of nasty toward me all day. Nothiing specific, just getting those barbs of disapproval. So, on the ride home he starts into this rant about what time our 13y/o should go to bed and get up. He just want...

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	just a slip.... (Preview) man did i ever lose it today. what a slip i had.found out my a husband is staying with his mother. he was so close to hitting bottom. he was so close to really wanting sanity and sobriety for himself and not for me. but his disease got him. or maybe it's juts him i don't know but he called and she went running. h...	serendipity	3	410	Apr 22, 2006 by Jeannie
	down on myself (Preview) Yesterday I woke up so positive, ready to face the day, in spite of not sleeping very regular hours & waking up at weird times of the night (mother sd this would happen w/ aging but I always slept so well ~ she's been right about a lot of things in life (lessons) that I have had to learn in my own stu...	kitty	7	382	Apr 22, 2006 by cdb
	prayer request... (Preview) Hi all, I mentioned in the chat room about the lesion on my right inside lower eyelid, how the doc thinks it may be skin cancer, and that I would like prayers that it won't be cancer. I am posting it on the board here, because I believe in the power of prayer, that God can heal anything, if we take it b...	lmt123	12	352	Apr 22, 2006 by cdb
	Will soon be just scraping by again (Preview) A received an accident settlement end of February. A decent sum but not a fortune. From the start we planned on holding aside a certain amount for a rainy day. Of course as time has gone by that amount has shrunk. We didn't "piss" the money away (something an A could literally...	lebe27	3	283	Apr 22, 2006 by cdb
	Need your prayers (Preview) It's been over 3 weeks since anyone has heard from my brother. I don't even have a clue if he's in town or if he has left. He didn't even phone on my birthday. I'm just sick about it. I hope that wherever he is he's okay (well as okay as you can be when you're addicted to crack).	Jayda	6	353	Apr 22, 2006 by Jayda
	in the dumps again....... (Preview) (((friends))) darn it anyway.I was doing so well.Feeling good,positive about Alanon this time.Not sure what happened. Well, maybe it was this.Husband (A) went to another state to see his online girlfriend.They finally met.He showed me a picture that she gave him and I didn't think she was att...	drucilla06	5	435	Apr 21, 2006 by tea2
	HELP! URGENT! I need help for my mom (Preview) Hello everyone, I am an adult child of 2 alcoholics, and frankly, I've done all I can do for my father, but I'm just not willing to give up on my mom, who raised me alone from the age of 7 on. About 7 years ago, my mom got sober. It was wonderful! She was like a new person. But about 5 years ago my uncle died from...	lilmissy707	7	374	Apr 21, 2006 by d53sjurne
	still hurting and confused (Preview) Well just an update.... he came home that night before i had decided on how to actually handle the situation. saw his stuff by the door and knew. It almost got hostile but we both calmed down. we can do this civilally or not. What hurt most that night was all he had to say was "OK"...	snt	8	337	Apr 21, 2006 by aunitedway
	need some esh - the impulsivity or the A is at an all time high! (Preview) I have hesitated about posting this, probably because 1. once again I feel like I am the only one in the entire world who could possibly be experiencing this 2. I fear the responses that I may get. So hopefully I can push the submit button when I am done and let my Higher Power do the res...	confused	11	417	Apr 21, 2006 by confused
	do we contact the court or let them deal with brother? (Preview) Brother returns to court May 4 for his trial. My mother & I have reason to believe he was raped while in college (things he's said in the past). My mother's psychologist recommended that she send a letter to the court asking for mental help for my brother - told mother she could even give her name, etc...	Barbara	3	299	Apr 21, 2006 by aunitedway
	Just Venting (Preview) I'm annoyed. I haven't talked to any of my husband's family for a year minimum more for some of them. I stopped being involved in thier illusion and decided my efforts were being wasted on people who did not care. So I stopped trying ... what happened after was not one of them contacted me, and he stopped i...	Jennifer	7	433	Apr 21, 2006 by QOD
	Pride & Punishment... (Preview) Last night was another night of the roller coaster emotions of my husband. What started out quietly enough turned into him slamming things around and ranting & raving about everything under the sun. I, however, did not go there with him. I chose to stay serene, not let him aff...	AlaMom	5	418	Apr 21, 2006 by QOD
	I am a Rock, I am an Island (Preview) I am very sad today. I haven’t been on here much because I can only get on at work. Just a little update on recent events. He was so drunk one Friday night – man I can’t even remember when, all these days are just melting together – but a month or so ago. He fell and hit his side o...	dogscribe	9	424	Apr 21, 2006 by isabela40
	It's amazing when... (Preview) It's amazing the things that stand out when you wake up from the fog of oppression and take notice of the beautiful things that HP has placed in your path... I was driving to pick the kids up from school the other day and I was driving down the road and noticed these long thick bushes bordering the...	twinmom2	4	341	Apr 21, 2006 by emma
	Take Me Away From Here... (Preview) I woke up this morning in a very sad mood. Hubby had stayed up all night with his bottle and online poker game, came to bed around 8 a.m. Last night I had gone to bed with the words "I'll be up soon" from him, I tossed the ball for our dog in the bedroom a few times and told her I bet she'd love to go to...	kismetstrand	7	375	Apr 21, 2006 by lebe27
	Medical update (Preview) Hello all, quick note to update what has happened with the Doc appointments. My MRI results were negative well ... negative to them positive to me. No lesions or other signs of MS HURRAY! BOO on the fact that leaves them baffled as to why I have so many MS symptoms but no lesions or plaque as they call it. So...	Jennifer	4	276	Apr 21, 2006 by Jeannie
	Forgiveness (Preview) Today, I talked to my A. I hadn't talked to him in awhile. Told him I needed sometime to work on me. I think he was reseptive to that. I have to focus on me and find my inner beauty or what I call my angeleyes. With everything going on in my life right now I don't have alot of energy to focus on the us thing. Before...	angeleyes8462	4	371	Apr 21, 2006 by bobump
	So hurt (Preview) I am so hurt. he went in treatment last month, has not be able to be sober 30 days. I saw him today and he was not sober. I am so hurt, I want to believe that we can and will get sober. He is living alone now, not with me. It hurts so bad to see him like that. I have been married to him about 30 years, I feel so stupid...	tootired	13	502	Apr 21, 2006 by Becky1
	"I'm doing the best I can" (Preview) ((((everyone)))) I feel like making a sign and wearing it around my neck that says... "I'm doing the best I can..." My feelings towards my AW have wavered between irritation to sadness for her. She doesn't want me working a program, but she wants me fixed. Right now. (Or back t...	rtexas	8	583	Apr 21, 2006 by twinmom2
	UPDATE - but I'm still cool ... (Preview) He removed the battery from my car this morning, so I had to find another way to work. He's a mechanic and it's kinda scary what he could do. In a fit of anger during a drunken episode once, long ago, he threatened to 'fix my breaks'. Funny - I just remembered that now. How easily...	HadEnuff	9	484	Apr 21, 2006 by twinmom2
	Turning Dragons into Caterpillars (Preview) Ok, so I am sitting here right now taking a quick break from some homework. I am reading a chapter on "converting change into opportunity." While I am a tad restless since the school year is almost at a close, this really had me glued to it. I thought of all the dragons I have battled against in my...	buzzfree	5	374	Apr 21, 2006 by david62
	Reflecting on how it was (Preview) I know in many of my posts I have made my husband seem like an uncaring monster. Sometimes he does seem that way, now, but not in the past. From the day I met him, part of me knew that the connection he had with his parents was not "normal". I love my Mom anda Dad with all my heart, but I have never been obsesse...	Jeannie	10	441	Apr 21, 2006 by Barbara
	WOW - An Epiphany for ME! (Preview) First of all - thank you for those of you who have taken time to respond to my cries for help! Thank you for helping me to see what was blocking me from my higher power! I have had an epiphany and I need to share this: Last night after almost 2 weeks with no proper sleep, I told him that it was over.&n...	HadEnuff	9	516	Apr 20, 2006 by d53sjurne
	Buzzfree is smokefree!!! (Preview) Day 17 and counting. Great! Congratulations! I had to make a big deal out of this. It deserves a separate post. Good luck, Diva	Diva	13	514	Apr 20, 2006 by John_R
	Progress report (Preview) Mountain biking with my sister in law. Wednesday night is our night. I kick off work at 4:30 and head home. I get changed , load up my bike and we meet in the woods. I lead and she follows. Speeding through the woods. It is singletrack, narrow and winding. Steep climbs, dangerous descents, roots rocks, ou...	megan	12	430	Apr 20, 2006 by megan
	I have to learn to react quicker (Preview) I got in the door for my lunch break right after A husband got home from work. I call him earlier today to let him know our son has a friend over and he'll be spending the night. We talked about dinner and decided to get pizza. After I walked in the door I suggested eating dinner at the pizza parlor. Of course h...	Barbara	1	305	Apr 20, 2006 by QOD
	4th step meditation (Preview) So many of you recently have expressed anxiety, frustration, or just general concern over the 4th step (doing it perfectly, doing it thouroughly, doing it at all) that today's Hazelden Meditation was just too good not to post for y'all. I fully agree with this message--too many people get wra...	Tiger2006	3	431	Apr 20, 2006 by abbyal
	are steps 4-7 interconnected for you? (Preview) It seems to me that we shouldnt have a Step 4 without a Step 5 and then why shouldnt we ask God to remove our shortcomings? Are Steps 4-7 all interconnected? Did/do you do them all separately or together? Maybe because Ive just begun Step 4, I see Step 8 as beginning an entirely new set of Steps and...	Barbara	4	459	Apr 20, 2006 by rosie light shines
	This hurts (Preview) Well, I have his stuff packed up most of it anyway. The locks are changed. I cant deal with the mixed signals anymore. He goes to her house everynight. I kid myself that he is still trying to decide, but who am I kidding. He made the choice. I just hav...	snt	8	409	Apr 20, 2006 by nmike
	I can't seem to get him off my mind (Preview) I am having a hard time getting my A off my mind lately. I haven't been able to sleep now for days. At night seems to be the worse when everything is quiet. I try to stay as busy as I can during the day so that my thoughts are not consumed with him but they catch up with me late at night. ...	JulieLynn	5	346	Apr 20, 2006 by canadianguy
	What are YOU grateful for? (Preview) Making one think of more positive things can aid recovery.......:idea	gardengal	5	334	Apr 20, 2006 by jrtjosey
	A Quick update... (Preview) Hello Group, Life is plugging along here. I assessed the damage on my car yesterday, its not bad, I buffed out the scratches. I can't do much about the dents but they're not that bad. The guy I hit called me yesterday afternoon to say he was sorry again and to let me know that he still...	twinmom2	2	293	Apr 20, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Running out of choices (long) (Preview) Hi, I have been doing so much thinking and taking a long hard look at my life. On Easter Sunday though we had a nice day, when I look at it nothing has changed. My husband is not here, but his ways are still with us. His not showing up and calling drunk etc. We have learned to continue on without him, but th...	Jeannie	5	335	Apr 20, 2006 by Jennifer
	Trying not to worry... (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm an ACOA with a dad who has been sober, as far as I know, for 2+ years. It's looking like tomorrow his dog, who he loves more than anything, is going to have to be put to sleep. I'm afraid this will affect his sobriety and mental health. I know I can't control it a...	nal	12	564	Apr 20, 2006 by Jeannie
	Trouble with Step board (Preview) Hi, I can't login to the step board. I did a few days ago (cant remember when). Now it says "account pedning." Can anyone help me? I tried to login from scratch but it told me that my "user name " was being used. No kidding lol Appreciate any help. Debbie	horselover58	1	240	Apr 20, 2006 by confused
	whatcha got in your toolbelt? (Preview) Hi all, I was thinking about all the tools that alanon has to offer for a better way to live, and all the old tools I use to use in life mearly to survive in an alcoholic home. Pre alanon, i developed a lot of "survival skills" or tools, things i used to get by, get what i thought i needed ect. I learn...	mastiff	8	613	Apr 20, 2006 by Barbara
	oops i hope i didn't mess up (Preview) oh man, i screwed up with this job we are trying to get here at work.........the guy called LAST WEEK at least, ago, and asked me re: our employees or subs doing the actual painting.......i said they worked only for us, been with us for YEARS, but they were paid as sub...	rosie light shines	5	332	Apr 20, 2006 by megan
	Hi Kids (Preview) I'm new here. I sure am having a lousy time. I can't seem to get my stuff together. I am always upset. I have Fibromyalgia and spinal disc problems so I am in a lot of pain. I am trying to become more assertive and not take any abuse from people in my life. I have lost s...	meowpur	4	301	Apr 20, 2006 by leo
	So Angry (Preview) I am the child of an alcoholic, I am dating an alcoholic. I didn't know at first, it took awhile for me to realize it and now I just feel so ANGRY!! I have fallen in love with this man---a man with so many good qualities--and I am beginning to feel that I not only shouldn't be with him, I don't want to. Tonight w...	bigthoughts	5	332	Apr 19, 2006 by just me
	LIFE CHANGES.... (Preview) what a differance a day makes... i was trying to get on with my life.... ........when i checked my voicemail on my phone.. there was one from my ex the "A" himself... telling me he had left the country... and that he was sorry for all the pain and sufferig he caused me... all done under the influence...	Rebecca	3	344	Apr 19, 2006 by just me
	Today's love and gratitude thought (Preview) Today I am grateful for my brother. When he was so ugly in two casts on his feet and a scab from the forceps at birth the family story says I took one look at him started crying and told my Mom "we should have gotten a puppy". At the time and many times after she agreed ... poor kid, two already nutty fema...	Jennifer	3	345	Apr 19, 2006 by Maria123
	Acceptance (Preview) I am having a hard day today. I feel like my HP is trying to show me something but I don't seem to be seeing it or hearing it. Maybe it is just this...Acceptance. I was really touched by Jeff's post on "Loss of potential". That is just what I am having a hard time with today. Why does my son's life have to be...	Gailey	3	316	Apr 19, 2006 by mebjk
	Really Suffering Today ... (Preview) We started this thing where he would get off the system he was on, trying to look for other women and give me a chance to 'prove' that I was worthy of HIM. Well I thought that it would do me no harm to start being more responsive and caring toward him, since I had pulled back consid...	HadEnuff	8	463	Apr 19, 2006 by mebjk
	trying to breath (Preview) So far this morning is bringing me nothing but panick. I'm not sure even how to breath. I have a racing heart and nothing I seem to be doing is helping. I thought if I could get it out of my head maybe I could start moving. Today is my 33 birthday. I keep thinking...	katrina2000	8	421	Apr 19, 2006 by Diva
	Helpless VS Powerless (Preview) Hi I'm new to this board. I'm hoping this is the right place to post, learn, and grow. i am just working step 1, and I'm trying to understand powerlessness. I am powerless, I understand that, but sometimes I feel helpless. My A bent to kiss me yesterday, and the stale alcohol s...	Goldie	6	313	Apr 19, 2006 by aunitedway
	Maybe it's time to be worried (Preview) Well... here we go again. Because we're divorcing, my lawyer advised me to file my taxes separately. When my A found out, he hit the roof. He was angry I didn't ask his permission before I did this. The scary part is that he called our accountant. He threatened him but what really worried the acc...	findingmyway	6	396	Apr 19, 2006 by aunitedway
	Gratitude (Preview) thank goodness the board is up and running! This was from earlier this morning: Ok I admit it is late which means I am more emotional than usual....but I am gonna write anyways, cause I can :o) also because I just feel compelled to do so. Grateful isn't a word I use regularly. When I first came i...	sparkette	8	405	Apr 19, 2006 by sparkette
	Amazing (Preview) Good morning, all. I just wanted to first of all thank the good folks who were in the chatroom this morning. I knew I belonged in Alanon for a while, but wonder of wonders, I believed I belonged this morning for the first time. I never realized how impacted I was by the alcoholic behavio...	kspear	2	280	Apr 19, 2006 by hudsond
	so how are YOU keeping fit physically? (Preview) What are you doing to keep fit physically? Most mornings I take a 30min walk outside before getting ready for work. We live on a .2mile circle which has gotten the name "gerbil track" due to the times I walk it over and over and over. I also stop at Curves 3-4 nights after work on my way home. Some nights my so...	Barbara	7	395	Apr 19, 2006 by irena
	The Loss of Potential Is Still So Sad (Preview) I'm grateful for all the wisdom in the replies to my first post last week. Thank-you. My 23 year old daughter found another half-way house in Florida and begins her second week there. She found work at a restaurant. The mental image of her riding a wobbly bicycle to and from work each day, compare...	Jeff Reynolds	11	434	Apr 19, 2006 by Jeff Reynolds
	To those who responded to my last 2 posts, please read :-) (Preview) ((((((everyone))))))) On Friday I woke up thinking about the woman I met at my first F2F meeting (my Gypsy ) and how she had touched me. How what she said has stuck with me and kept me coming back to al-anon. Then the yesterday I was just having a hard day, working on being honest with mysel...	Lunamoth	7	334	Apr 19, 2006 by hudsond
	brother called my mother 6xs Mon night (Preview) Since middle of March the family has been court ordered to have no contact with my younger brother. He did call my mother's house six times Monday night. My mother hopes he wasnt drinking as he has his urine test today (Wed). (How long does alcohol stay in your system?) Once he put the phone up to his radio...	Barbara	2	288	Apr 19, 2006 by hudsond
	HP worked a miracle tonight... (Preview) I just had a major shock to my system tonight. Just needed to write it out, I'm not sure why HP chose this to happen to me or the other person but he/she did. I was on my way to my sis in laws to drop off a chocolate cake. Coming to the turning lane, my light was green. Half way to the li...	twinmom2	5	290	Apr 19, 2006 by d53sjurne
	He chose not to come (Preview) Hi, The kids and I had a nice quiet Easter. I felt bad for my little guys. They asked me if they could tell Daddy about their ballgames on Saturday. I really didn't want him there, but they did, so I said ok. Well it didn't matter, he didn't show, he called about 12 noon on my cell and said he overslept. He...	Jeannie	7	449	Apr 19, 2006 by smpoli
	Grateful for the Unity of Alanon (Preview) "Unity presents not only the necessary climate for the growth of Al-Anon as a whole but also the atmosphere in which each member within the group may acquire peace of mind. " The Twelve Steps and Traditions (((((( BIGHUG))) to all of you for being her...	aunitedway	5	613	Apr 19, 2006 by d53sjurne
	it works it really does!!! (Preview) Well, the weekend was wonderful. And I did not feel like we "were on our best behavior", just being ourselves and letting it all unfold. My husband and I had not spent any length of time together for four monthsand we went to his sister's for Easter and had a great time. The boys absol...	confused	5	1911	Apr 19, 2006 by smpoli
	Need to turn it over big time (Preview) I tried to post this twice last night, and both times, when i hit "submit", it never submitted, for some reason. so i'm going to try again! i did end up going to the room, tho, and shared there. thanks to all who were so supportive to me last night! anyway, i was married for 16 yrs befo...	search41	6	287	Apr 18, 2006 by search41
	todays reading (Preview) Hello ((((all)))) I thought I would share that today happens to be one of my favorites in our Courage to Change daily reader. April 18 page 109. Because we aren’t allowed to post from our CAL literature I would like to urge anyone who hasn’t read it yet to give it a look wishes, t	tea2	4	345	Apr 18, 2006 by d53sjurne
	A moral to this story.... (Preview) This weekend was pretty good. The kids and I got out on Saturday morning. My A was supposed to get up with us and go downtown to the market but he stayed out too late the night before, so we got packed up and went anyway. Took the kids for an Easter egg hunt at the church, they had a blast.&...	twinmom2	4	374	Apr 18, 2006 by jrtjosey
	trying to regain serenity (Preview) seems like the theme today. Last nite H and I were driving home from my folks house. He had been sort of nasty toward me all day. Nothiing specific, just getting those barbs of disapproval. So, on the ride home he starts into this rant about what time our 13y/o should go to bed and get up. He just want...	gknee	5	388	Apr 18, 2006 by Jeannie
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