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since I suspect some of you might be a little codie (not taking your inventory, lol), I'm going to be codie and give you an update so you don't worry.
My 15 yo last nite had some old Adderall in her room which I was not aware of. Her and her friend decided to take some to see how it would feel. I suspected that we had something going on but played it low key, as she was fidgety, talking a mile a miute and had pupils the size of the sun.
She came out a few minutes later and admitted to the adderall and told me she had a bad migraine, her nick was sore, she felt sweaty and like she was going to puke. She subsequently puked. I called poison control and also a member had me in PM giving me info. I was also researching the effects of an OD on the net.
It was decided that while this was probably non lethal, we had to take her into the hospital to make sure. An IV and some charcoal later and some sleep or at least rest and she is better. They also wanted a pysch eval because of her history.
I'm at the pysch eval not but it looks like she isn't going to have to stay. She appears to have remorse and believe it was a bad decision. So that's good.
I called where her mom is last nite, no answer. It was late, I called at 8am this morning. I stayed calm but couldn't help myself from a few cutting remarks. I really have to get back in the program groove in dealing w/ her. She made comments about me leaving the kids at her sisters saying her sister is having a bipolar episode. Every thing her sister said made sense to me so far for the most part. I called to give her an update and she said that I could leave the kids w/ her where she was because she has company and they'd be supervised. Ugh
I can already see her gears turning to try to spin this w/ child protective services. Something else for me to let go and let HP.
Thanks to all that were concerned last nite. Sorry I had to bail abruptly.
Bob
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Glad your daughter is okay. Don't let your wife push your buttons. If you were a bad father, you'd have left your daughter to ride out the affects of the Adderall. You know that you're a good father, and the kids are better off with you. Keep believing in that.
We all get off of our program at times. It happens when we get caught up in day to day living. But you're smart enough to recognize it. It's when we don't that we can get into trouble. You're doing just fine my friend, hang in there.
Love and blessings to you and your family.
Live strong, Karilynn
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(((BIGHUG BUMP))) My thought and prayers are with You. Stay Strong, your doing great!!
Tells something that after your daughter did the (drug) that she came to you and fessed up. I know your angry she has done this. Think she should be praised for realizing that drugs, no matter what kind, are not the answer to finding ways to LET GO of her anger and confusion with the adult situations around her. You know she doesnt quite understand and really doesnt feel its right that it's there for her to have to find ways to deal. (she just wants to continue being the child, being loved by her mom and dad) She needs your reassuranceand your communication, your love.) Which I know you give her... thats why she is reaching out for help, reaching out to You. I know you realize and see this too. Your A Wonderful Father. Everything will all be ok. This too shall pass. ***God Love Her ***God Love You. *** ((ILoveYa BUMP)))
I agree is says a lot that she admitted the truth and sought your help. Kids whether we like it or not can get curiouse and experiment, especially with everything that is going on. How we deal with it is so important.
Your Wife is just trying to taker the focus off her and put it on you. You did what you had to, didn't cover it up and dealt with it and got your daughter the proper care. if she tries to spin it with protective services, she will just be hurting herself. Just be honest with them as you have been.
No matter how you feel this morning, you are doing a great job in an unbelievably tough situation. Keep taking care of you and those kids, leave the rest to HP.
Glad your daughter is ok. It must have been scary for both of you but find comfort in the fact that she trusted you enough to confess and seek help. I think that says great things about your relationship.
I also find it hard to keep my mouth shut when dealing with my A. I know what I should do and I know how to detach, but we're human, right? Just try not to let your A get to you. There's so much more power and peace in not taking the bait.
I was in chat last night but must have come in after you left. Great meeting. It was just what I needed.
Keeping you and your daughter in my prayers. Hang in there!
I am so so sorry you had to deal with this. I can imagine you feel abandoned and upset by what the A said. I think it may be a long long time before she gets to her issues. Right now she wants to play the blame game. Personally as somene who has done that I think that is a compulsion all of its own. Giving that up was as hard as giving up being manipulative. I am so so glad that you have this room for support and a program outside of it to support you too. You have really been through the wars lately.
Well, we sat for 3 hours to finally get cleared to leave. We had to wait for a pyschiatrist to clear her. At least I got some shut eye.
My A's latest salvo was to leave me a msg saying that if I left my kids w/ her sister she was calling child protective services.
Cliff notes version, she was staying at her sisters. My sil's daughter came home drunk which was against her house rules. My sil says that her daughter went after her when she told her to leave and went after her husband too. Cops came but they weren't supportive. I do know that my sil was on the phone w/ me when they were claiming she was harassing them and she was talking to me and not them. Anyways, my A is saying that my sil is bipolar and she doesn't want the kids there.
Well I can't control what she does. I know I did get angry when she started to say she was just experimenting like all kids do. That pushes a button w/ me because I feel like she was minimizing her impact on the children earlier. I resorted to a few comments about how I at least told her about this situation, unlike she did w/ my daughters cutting. But I really should have left that out of it.
My last call to her after her msg to me was, your daughter was released and she is ok, and I'm going now. She said I had an attitude, I said, no I just didn't want to talk. I gave her the report and that was all I had to say. She said, make sure you don't leave the kids alone w/ Anna, I just said, ok and hung up.
I know I shouldn't be surprised but I am still surprised at how ugly this can still become.
Bob
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My heart goes out to you ((((((((bump))))))). You sound like you handled it like a responsible father. From my experience with people, once they have had charcoal they think alot harder before trying to take pills again. This was probably a very good lesson for her and one that was thank God, as harmless as could be. There are also alot of bipolar people that function well alot of the time so I wonder if your wife is using that as a manipulation. Just a thought. It must be so hard to make decisions knowing protective services is watching you now. I sure feel for you and will be thinking of you and saying prayers. Keep updating here please. cdb xoxoxoxoxo
