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I posted last Monday that last weekend was great--well this weekend not so much! He was pretty irritable and grouchy. I tried to ignore it, but sometimes it's just so depressing! I think I kindof know a little bit of what happened. I went back to band practice on Sat. (I sing with the church praise band). I had missed the last two Sundays, I think in his head he thought maybe I would get out of the "church" thing. He always makes snide comments on how I go everytime the doors are open (I go normally once a week---oh blow me down with my overwhelming religious streak!!!) ANYWAY! So Saturday night he was just picking on me and rude, then Sunday after I got back from church he was just mean. Trying to "show" me how annoying I was to him, always in his business and "smothering" him. So I went outside and weeded my flower bed. Tried to get the lawn mower going so I could mow the lawn, basically I just tried to stay away from him. Later after I had ignored him for a while he came outside to "pick" on me. When I wouldn't go for the bait he said "Aren't I just a s***", and I said yes you are. Later that night when we were going to sleep he said "Thanks for loving me." (It's amazing how they think if they say things like that it makes everything else o.k.)
Anyway so today I am up at school on our spring break thinking about getting some work done, but choosing to be on the website instead.
Sometimes I think I could handle it if my A were always mean and grumpy...or I can handle it when he's that cute little boy. What messes with my mind is when I have to "predict" whether Dr. Jekyll or Mr. Hyde will walk through the door.
My A, too, picks on me til I think I'll blow a fuse some days. I've been weeding my flowers too. Sun am I decided to commune with my HP in the flower beds, and my A said "A good wife would fix her husband breakfast". I said, "I'm a wicked woman", and headed to the flower beds for 6 hours...then perched on the sofa and watched TV awhile.
Hang in there, and keep your focus on you and your needs...he will be happy, or not, but you can choose to be. Don't let your happiness be decided by his moods...been there done that, and when I can remember to work my program, then my happiess is inside me.
I loved your post! I did the same thing this weekend! . Gardening is one of my favorite things to do., its a "super stress reliever." Better than aspirin anyday. MY PLAN B! The "A " is not going to like what I do no matter what it is. I am going to make the best of my every day. The best of my life while I can. (((Enjoying *Inner Serenity))
Sorry you had a "not so" weekend. Sometimes I think my A is jealous that I have a belief system and hobbies in my life. When I have patience I try to remember that ... doesn't always work.
Sounds like you kept your cool, and peace while dealing with a mean grouch this weekend. WAY TO GO! I hope the next one is much better.
I spent the whole weekend gardening too. And today I feel like one big bruise that was attacked by a rose bush LOL My puppy's new favorite trick id to unplant what I just planted and dig holes where they are not supposed to be ... in between he attacks the hose ... it now sprinkles UGGGGHHH
I did the same thing this weekend! 
. Gardening is one of my favorite things to do., its a "super stress reliever." 
Better than aspirin anyday. 
MY PLAN B! The "A " is not going to like what I do no matter what it is. I am going to make the best of my every day. The best of my life while I can. (((Enjoying *Inner Serenity))
HUG))