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and now I feel like crap! geesch you know why cant they just leave me out of it? Im finally ready to disown my family.
I called my mother yesterday morn and my brother was there. He has a court ordered restraining order to not see/talk/communicate with anyone in the family. When I called he answered. I could tell he was not in his right frame of mind - was either depressed or had been drinking. He's trying to get through some of his things. He was suppose to have a police escort to do so but went ahead on his own. He told me he had also gone to my mothers house on Sat. He said he believes he's going back to jail anywhere from 6-24months. Laws changed in the past yr or so and the term is worse now on anyone commiting physical harm against anyone over 65yrs.
He then let my mother have the phone. I asked if she wanted me to call the cops and she said no. "I just want this over". I asked if brother had been drinking she said Yes. I asked when he came she said he woke her up at 3am when he came in her house (she never changed the locks).
I wasnt sure if I should call the cops as he was violating his restraining order. I went ahead and called.
Waited all day yesterday and called my mother last night. She doesnt want to speak with me. Mad at me. Ive done what I can and Im ready to leave them be. Just get myself out of it. If/When she calls (brother goes back to court May 4) hang up on her. She cant keep talking to me about this and expect me to just standby. She obviously doesnt want help. God shes in your hands now
I agree with Bob, she has to hit her bottom with this, as we all do.
I think that would be a hard decission, calling the police on my brother to protect my mother. You did what you thought was right, and that shows how much you love both of them. If he would have done something else to her, his situation would worsen.
Keep coming back.
Much Love,
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Hello Barbara , tough call u made yesterday but a good one. Think of how badly u would feel if your brother had hurt your mom after drinking all day and you hadn't called the police. You did the right thing. Louise sometimes we do have to protect those who cannot or will not protect themselves . (mom)
wow, that's a hard place to be, I think you did what you thought was best and i agree with abbyal, where sometimes we need to protect our loved one's who can not protect themselves. Try not to be so hard on yourself, keep taking care of you.
Good for you! I know it doesn't feel like it, but you made such a wise choice! I hope things will get better for you. Take care of you now. You protected your mother and brother!
You can't control anyone but yourself. You did what you thought was best in the situation, how can that be a bad thing? way to turn this over to your HP.
Josey
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Julianne - It's best to move on. You cannot look back in anger in life. It's too short
i agree with "bobump' the MORE energy U spend on ur relatives, the LESS energy U have for takin care of U......so, if U crash from a heart attack over stress.....R THESE people gonna take care of U?????
ask urself ????S about what U want what U need and R U meeting UR needs or theirs, and WHOSE are most important.......................peace / rosie
