Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Robinks · Robinks

HANDLE THE NEEDINESS. Neediness is an emotion created by fear and is therefore one of the prime destroyers of love. It stands to reason that if we are feeling needy, consciously or unconsciously, we are always trying to manipulate our mate with the desperate hope that they will make us feel whole. Nee...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have been seeing a great guy for the past 3 months and am moving next month and have really been trying to encourage him to move in with me. Mostly because I want to see him as much as possible and we work opposite schedules and partially because I would like to save the money that him paying half the expen...

danz123 · danz123

If you have mirc, please use it to enter the chatroom. Java is not working. John has been called and we hope to have it restored soon. hugs, danz

danz123 · danz123

May 3, 2009 (9 PM est) Business Meeting Agenda I. Review of April minutesII. Review of op meeting scheduleIII. Old businessA. Discussion of Helper service positionB. Op liaison committee report IV. New Bus...

Inpain · Inpain

I've had a good few days. I had an almost decent week. I had two really good days, felt shakey Wednesday mentally, had a F2F Wednesday night and felt a lot better TODAY however, I stepped outside the box. I lost my job in February. I worked so hard to get that job. It was perfect for me. I lost it becaus...

Sincerely · Sincerely

This vacation time for me is a time to reflect on things in my life. Through praying I am trying to forgive myself. Yep, it's not only my A that I need to forgive. I have to forgive myself for some of the ways I have reacted towards my A and others in my life. To have peace in my heart and home I can't be bitte...

cbu03 · cbu03

I have been coming to this board off and on for about a year and I have posted a couple of times in the past and I know that you are not supposed to give advice, but I am needing some help from some you that have gone through this before. My husband is an alcoholic and he got a DUI on his birthday at the end of Marc...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Finally, my A has been released from the Doctor and has gone back to work since having been home since November. It was much needed for my sainity that I take some time off of work myself. The last month I have been in a bad place emoitionally. So, 5 days off just to myself. Nothing planned other than to d...

buick23 · buick23

I keep making the mistake to let go and take it back. I also try to see beyond the black and white and am having trouble with that too. So when I take it back I repeat myself with my bf because I guess I think he will really "hear" me this time and it does not happen. When I let go and detach, I detach co...

maryam · maryam

It has been awhile since my last post, It has been two months since i left my ex/bf and the life i could not handle any longer. His alcoholism and the fact that drugs (crack) had now entered the picture was way to much for me to deal with. Before leaving there was alot of verbal abuse and was becoming violen...

lettherebepeace · lettherebepeace

last night i attended an alanon meeting for the first time since the restraining order/court drama involving my ex A-bf it was so comforting to have an hour to sit and listen to the experiences of others for that one hour i felt like i wasn't the only person in the world who was trying to make h...

andica · andica

Good Morning everyone, I am so scared, worried, nervious, anxious.... AH went to emergency room yesterday because of multiple symptoms of liver failure and detox. He is 36 years old and has been heavy drinker for at least 15-20 years (drug use from 14 - 18 years old too). The docs yesterday told him if...

peacewithin · peacewithin

One little step at a time. First of all I thought I was not enabling him I don't go up to the store and get his beer any more. Last night he asked me to run up for a pack of Cigs. I alway would do it. Well I said to him if you are to drunk to drive for some cigs I'm not getting them . I felt selfish at first but I felt go...

maresie · maresie

I had an insight yesterday when I was doing a big cleaning project. I have spent my entire life reacting to others rather than doing for me. Practically every thought was about how I felt about others rather than how I felt about myself. I sought comfort from others and then over reacted to what ever...

mermaid88 · mermaid88

I am feeling terribly lost and confused. My fiance is a recovering drug addict/ alcoholic. He has been sober for about 4 years, until last week. He has not been to an AA meeting in about 6 months. My fiance bought marijuana and brought it into our home. He offered me some, and I NEVER use drugs, and rar...

Jozie · Jozie

After doing some much pondering today, I got to think'n about "Every" word of the Serenity prayer.. "Acceptance" made me stop and have a "Lightbulb" moment.. All my life growing up in an Alcoholic home, I realized that Acceptance is something that I struggle with,...

Jozie · Jozie

Today is that of a new day... And at this moment, a new start, for that is my choice... I got up this morning, feeling the freshness in the air, that breeze on my face, and I tell ya, it was wonderful...I felt well rested, I felt anew... Not that anything special happened but I think I am getting a rythum to it...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

Our mind and our delusions are formless and colorless. However, our ignorance believing in true existence is harder than a rocky mountain. Our delusions are harder than steel.- Lama Zopa Rinpoche, "The Door to Satisfaction" I just thought this was so great I had to share it with y'all. W...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Okay, I gotta get it done! I gotta get back to the place where I am happy with who I am. You see, I have become some kind of person that I do not like or would not want to be around. I need a tune up and it starts with me. I have to take care of me/change my oil so to speak. I am starting my day over right now. I am...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Thank you for all the lovely birthday wishes. Christy, I am so impressed that you taught that kitty to sing. It was a lovely weekend. I took the entire weekend off and that was a treat. I did lots of chores and spring cleaning (although it felt more like summer with temperatures up i...

RLC · RLC

Hello To All, Most everyone turns their problems small, large and major over to their HP. I was taught to do that from a very young age. My main problem over the years was taking back from my HP what I had given him before he had time to solve them for me. His time table and mine were seldom the same. Prob...

Jozie · Jozie

Hi All... I am reading a book called "Perfect Daughters by a Robert Ackerman Md." it a the revised version, for Adult Daughter of Alcoholics...I hope that you all find sometimes from it, as did... And I hope that you all enjoy... AFTER A WHILE: After a while you learn the subtle difference be...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

Thanks to everyone who responded to my post. A lot of ESH! I needed that. I feel like I have been to hell and back with this man, but I still keep hangin on. He is my friend and I love him. And I dearly love his son and feel for him. He is so sweet! Yes I am learning how to let go and not let his stuff bother me. And for...

peacewithin · peacewithin

I been crying most of the night. my AH turned my sons cell phone back on, Of course he knows my SS number to get it activated again. I just feel so betrayed by my AH and just no respect. I'm tired of hurting all the time. When I get up in the afternoon coz oin my 7-7 shift. I pray Please help me today with the anger...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I'm not relying on my ex at all regarding paying for my new house. The rent there is $50 a month more than what I'm paying now and includes phone, cable and dsl. I will pick up a water bill and pay power. The current place includes water and cable but I pay phone and dsl along with the power and this new plac...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

For some reason or another the EXABF has been tormenting my thoughts off and on the past two days. I have no idea why as I have been doing really well just focusing on me and what I want, but thoughts of him have been interupting my serenity for some reason or another. Nothing major, just little reminde...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

As you know, I had found empty bottles in the house. Since then, I've been feeling very resentful towards my husband. I feel like any meeting he goes to (if he really goes) and his Out-Patient program is just a sham. I feel like I've done so much since he's gotten out of detox and he it's all been for noth...

Inpain · Inpain

I ask because, I've been this way for as long as I can remember. My first boyfriend emotionally abused me for 4 years and I went from relationship to relationship and can only recall ONE that the guy didn't drink. Interestingly neither of my parents drank. My father is however a dry drunk, and the epi...

sisdragonfly1957 · sisdragonfly1957

I knew that it would eventally happen, he has been running for almost 2 years. He is in some little town in georgia for a shop lifting Charge (six pack of beer)! Two weeks before it happened I turned him over to HP. I couldn't stand watching him destroy himself and his 9 year old son. I had to let them both go...

Gailey · Gailey

This is regarding my prior post about my son's relapse. As I was sitting drinking my coffee on Sunday morning thinking about what it will take for my son to get into recovery, the word that came to mind was HONESTY.....complete honesty with himself and others. Well...HP had something else in mind for m...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

After a few days of being suspicious of my husband's drinking, I did a search. I found an empty beer bottle hidden in the closet. I also found 3 bottle caps in his bathroom trash can (he keeps the trash can locked, under the cabinet so our son doesn't play in it). So now I feel more anxious, mad, and depres...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

My AH as I posted before, is in rehab. Last time he was in rehab, I was very involved in HIS recovery (this time I'm very involved in mine) and we he got out, we stayed together for a couple of weeks until he dumped me for some girl he met in rehab. I was devastated, still hurt from that a lot. This time I think is...

Sis63 · Sis63

Just when things seem to be going along so well, wham! Something comes along and pulls the rug out from under you. I was getting ready for work this morning and saw a bottle of prescription pills in the medicine cabinet. As we don't keep medicine there, I picked it up and realized it was an old prescriptio...

sarabell54 · sarabell54

I have been involved with an alcoholic for almost two years now. When I first met him I didn't know that he was an alcoholic. He stated that he just didn't drink and I was fine with that since I am a social drinker. About a month into our relationship he admited to me thathehad a problem. I never say him drin...

Ash · Ash

And so I take it that you grieve when you face the reality of the way it really is. With all that darkness though, there is a lot of light - or so I hopeMy head has been spinning on whether to stay or go. Right now I choose to stay. No physical threat. Just the threat of getting sucked into the lies. I panic b...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

Sometimes I feel like I am doing this. Some days I am not comfortable with the way that I cope with my ALO's sobriety. Often times I find it nearly impossible not to have my stomach twisting in knots over the fact that his meeting attendance has lapsed. Don't get me wrong - I am NOT as crazy as I once was and MY...

Veteran member · Inpain

Hey! I just noticed I became a "veteran" member!!! Pretty neat :woot: I'll celebrate by saying today I had a good day. I didn't pick up after my D.Drunk. Even after he came out of oral surgery. I left the first aid kit right where he left it, left his cup and lemon, left his scissors, and pac...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Okay...honestly I was in the other room looking for some gems and got this with the thought, "Humor and laughing is an indication of recovery". So read this and inventory your own progress. Sponsorship A man in a hot air balloon realized he was lost. So he descended a bit and shouted to a man...

lettherebepeace · lettherebepeace

well, it took threats to my life and the lives of my family members to leave my a-bf this is my second love relationship with an alcoholic then there are all those family members who are addicts i watched a movie recently called rachel getting married had no idea it was about a family dealing with add...

Holly09 · Holly09

After a lousy ending to Sunday I decided yesterday I needed time to myself so I took it! I left my boyfriend home with the kids (he had the night off from work) and went shopping and bought myself a couple of things and the boys a new dresser. I came home to supper being cooked! It was nice to have some help...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

Saturday my Ahusband finally go to rehab. I'm just sooo happy!!! I know this is just the beginning of a new struggle and that there is along way to go, but I'm glad he took this step and that he did it all buy himself. I, of course, don't take full credit for him going to rehab, but I honestly think that My chan...

maresie · maresie

I have found one key to maintaining a positive attitude is to have several small projects going. If my life is unmanageable (which it often is) I can measure my progress by how far I am moving on the projects. The more control I have the better. Of course life itself means things don't necessarily go my...

Christy · Christy

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! (This a friend of Pipers)

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I live in a condo that is heavily populated by retirees who don't particularly care for children and their antics. So the long and the short of it is that I have to move out by the end of next month. My credit is horriffic but my rental history and employment are great. I looked around and everything tha...

clara · clara

Have not heard from daughter in nearly a week. She knows I have been going through a terrible time due to my friend's death last week. But why do I expect anything from my AD. I should learn to "not expect anything", so therefore I will not be disappointed. We are going to Houston for grand...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I find myself today in a mild struggle with myself. I am working really hard on letting go of things I can not control but sometimes I get so very frustrated. I realize that it is not people that disappoint me but my expectations of them that cause the disappointment. I have two brothers, both older th...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am so pleased with my sponsor. Sometimes it takes a while to hear from her but when she gets back to me she always has something good to say. I don't see her very often but when I do, she is always there waiting with a hug. I am going to try to call her once a week. I haven't been very good at calling but I email...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Normally I love tomorrows. Normally I love work. But tomorrow I have to go to work with my tail between my legs. You see, all last week I worked my butt off, threw a hissy fit over two employees calling in sick or leaving early and had a meltdown of my own on Friday that carried over into Saturday. Havin...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I have been going to meetings at least 3 times a week since March 28. I have someone in mind that I would like to ask to be my sponsor and I'm just wondering when is a good time to ask? Is it too soon? Should I be in the program longer? She goes to my Monday night meetings and always just has the most common sen...

ernie · ernie

April Business meeting MinutesMeeting was held on April 19th 2009 Chair opened the meeting with moment of silence followed by the serenity Prayer Motion to accept March Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Ch...

Katy · Katy

I love animals, never lived in a house without any untill I got married, anyhow a year last christmas I went into a pet shop and a cockatial seem to take to me, and it was a right noisy one, probably still there because it was a bird with attitude, well hubby was sober and said we could have her, wow really, so...

nmike · nmike

Hello Alanoners, I have not been able to get on to support you all. Trouble in techno land. However, I do want to support everyone for where they are today. This disease of alcoholism and addiction manifests itself in so many different ways. I am ok. I struggle with my insides not matching my outsides....

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family))), Just wanted to give you and update on the robbery. I met with the detective on Wednesday to do my deposition. I mentioned to him that my niece was back in town and was more than willing to talk to him. He said that wasn't neccessary to talk to her nor the maintenance men. He was more than...

maresie · 13

i dont know what to do... my husband has a drinking problem and its really starting to affect our whole family. i thought it was getting better and now all of a sudden hes drinking and driving, lying about how much hes had or where hes drinking at. i found out he even drank at work... he will lose his job. hes...

lizzakiss · lizzakiss

I don't even know where to start. My A gets my mind so twisted like a pretzel that a few hours after the arguement I'm beliving things probably are my fault. I feel like I'm walking through a landmine field lately, one wrong comment and BOOM. My A--who is my BF who is a dry drunk at this point-- used to te...

Holly09 · Holly09

My a boyfriend drove home drunk in my car and is now laying on our bed with dirty disgusting feet and I've told him 2 times to go wash them and he is not moving and I'm getting so pissed off I just want to choke the out of him! I don't want to sleep on the couch tonight I want to sleep in my own bed and I won't with di...

Loupiness · Loupiness

Funny how a single event ( a sentence even) can just take the wind out of my sails and make me feel like I will (or want to) drown. I am not divorced yet. Nothing but procrastination can be blamed at this point. Though nothing is certain, we had determined that most likely, if we were to get divorced and c...

Jozie · Jozie

What a weekend, full of my usual ups and downs and sideways...However, since last weeks melt down..lol.. I have slowly picked up a few lessons along the way.. I have not been speaking to my H for a couple days due to his usual, "Run" effect that seems to happen when I am in need of some assistanc...

wp · wp

Dear God, You saw me working hard for two days clearing out my closet, getting ready for a major wardrobe turnover for your warm and lovely spring , summer. You know I do ALL the work myself...no help lifting, lugging, cleaning. I even patiently controlled my instinct to rip into Hub's gnarly...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

On the way home from my F2F meeting Friday night I had to deal with a problem with my son, and some inappropriate texting to a girl in his class. Needless to say when I got home, we argued, I took his phone, then proceeded after he told me in a rather smart mouth way that "I can live without that cell ph...

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	handle the neediness (Preview) HANDLE THE NEEDINESS. Neediness is an emotion created by fear and is therefore one of the prime destroyers of love. It stands to reason that if we are feeling needy, consciously or unconsciously, we are always trying to manipulate our mate with the desperate hope that they will make us feel whole. Nee...	Robinks	5	907	May 2, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Careful what you wish for... (Preview) I have been seeing a great guy for the past 3 months and am moving next month and have really been trying to encourage him to move in with me. Mostly because I want to see him as much as possible and we work opposite schedules and partially because I would like to save the money that him paying half the expen...	carolinagirl	5	948	May 2, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	Chat room down (Preview) If you have mirc, please use it to enter the chatroom. Java is not working. John has been called and we hope to have it restored soon. hugs, danz	danz123	0	393	May 1, 2009 by danz123
	May Business Meeting Agenda (Preview) May 3, 2009 (9 PM est) Business Meeting Agenda I. Review of April minutesII. Review of op meeting scheduleIII. Old businessA. Discussion of Helper service positionB. Op liaison committee report IV. New Bus...	danz123	0	382	May 1, 2009 by danz123
	Oh Hi Self Confidence. I haven't seen you in a while...where have you been? (Preview) I've had a good few days. I had an almost decent week. I had two really good days, felt shakey Wednesday mentally, had a F2F Wednesday night and felt a lot better TODAY however, I stepped outside the box. I lost my job in February. I worked so hard to get that job. It was perfect for me. I lost it becaus...	Inpain	6	1227	May 1, 2009 by Jean4444
	Vacation Day 3 - update (Preview) This vacation time for me is a time to reflect on things in my life. Through praying I am trying to forgive myself. Yep, it's not only my A that I need to forgive. I have to forgive myself for some of the ways I have reacted towards my A and others in my life. To have peace in my heart and home I can't be bitte...	Sincerely	1	578	May 1, 2009 by hotrod
	need some insight (Preview) I have been coming to this board off and on for about a year and I have posted a couple of times in the past and I know that you are not supposed to give advice, but I am needing some help from some you that have gone through this before. My husband is an alcoholic and he got a DUI on his birthday at the end of Marc...	cbu03	7	881	Apr 30, 2009 by Inpain
	A Vacation For Me (Preview) Finally, my A has been released from the Doctor and has gone back to work since having been home since November. It was much needed for my sainity that I take some time off of work myself. The last month I have been in a bad place emoitionally. So, 5 days off just to myself. Nothing planned other than to d...	Sincerely	3	772	Apr 30, 2009 by Jozie
	rambling (Preview) I keep making the mistake to let go and take it back. I also try to see beyond the black and white and am having trouble with that too. So when I take it back I repeat myself with my bf because I guess I think he will really "hear" me this time and it does not happen. When I let go and detach, I detach co...	buick23	3	765	Apr 30, 2009 by buick23
	letting go (Preview) It has been awhile since my last post, It has been two months since i left my ex/bf and the life i could not handle any longer. His alcoholism and the fact that drugs (crack) had now entered the picture was way to much for me to deal with. Before leaving there was alot of verbal abuse and was becoming violen...	maryam	5	829	Apr 30, 2009 by maresie
	working through the fear (Preview) last night i attended an alanon meeting for the first time since the restraining order/court drama involving my ex A-bf it was so comforting to have an hour to sit and listen to the experiences of others for that one hour i felt like i wasn't the only person in the world who was trying to make h...	lettherebepeace	4	899	Apr 30, 2009 by Jozie
	AH in detox... liver failure (Preview) Good Morning everyone, I am so scared, worried, nervious, anxious.... AH went to emergency room yesterday because of multiple symptoms of liver failure and detox. He is 36 years old and has been heavy drinker for at least 15-20 years (drug use from 14 - 18 years old too). The docs yesterday told him if...	andica	16	1337	Apr 30, 2009 by blender_girl
	I told him and getting better Getting over resentment is hard (Preview) One little step at a time. First of all I thought I was not enabling him I don't go up to the store and get his beer any more. Last night he asked me to run up for a pack of Cigs. I alway would do it. Well I said to him if you are to drunk to drive for some cigs I'm not getting them . I felt selfish at first but I felt go...	peacewithin	4	968	Apr 30, 2009 by maresie
	Reacting (Preview) I had an insight yesterday when I was doing a big cleaning project. I have spent my entire life reacting to others rather than doing for me. Practically every thought was about how I felt about others rather than how I felt about myself. I sought comfort from others and then over reacted to what ever...	maresie	6	879	Apr 30, 2009 by maresie
	New to Alanon...please share your wisdom with me. (Preview) I am feeling terribly lost and confused. My fiance is a recovering drug addict/ alcoholic. He has been sober for about 4 years, until last week. He has not been to an AA meeting in about 6 months. My fiance bought marijuana and brought it into our home. He offered me some, and I NEVER use drugs, and rar...	mermaid88	10	775	Apr 30, 2009 by kitty
	Serenity Prayer & Me... (Preview) After doing some much pondering today, I got to think'n about "Every" word of the Serenity prayer.. "Acceptance" made me stop and have a "Lightbulb" moment.. All my life growing up in an Alcoholic home, I realized that Acceptance is something that I struggle with,...	Jozie	3	746	Apr 30, 2009 by shellyj123
	The Newest Me ... :) (Preview) Today is that of a new day... And at this moment, a new start, for that is my choice... I got up this morning, feeling the freshness in the air, that breeze on my face, and I tell ya, it was wonderful...I felt well rested, I felt anew... Not that anything special happened but I think I am getting a rythum to it...	Jozie	4	731	Apr 30, 2009 by Robinks
	"neurotics build castles in the sky, psychotics live in them..." (Preview) Our mind and our delusions are formless and colorless. However, our ignorance believing in true existence is harder than a rocky mountain. Our delusions are harder than steel.- Lama Zopa Rinpoche, "The Door to Satisfaction" I just thought this was so great I had to share it with y'all. W...	Tiger2006	4	3427	Apr 30, 2009 by Jean4444
	Getting it done ;-) (Preview) Okay, I gotta get it done! I gotta get back to the place where I am happy with who I am. You see, I have become some kind of person that I do not like or would not want to be around. I need a tune up and it starts with me. I have to take care of me/change my oil so to speak. I am starting my day over right now. I am...	Sincerely	8	603	Apr 29, 2009 by buick23
	A lovely birthday! (Preview) ((((Family))), Thank you for all the lovely birthday wishes. Christy, I am so impressed that you taught that kitty to sing. It was a lovely weekend. I took the entire weekend off and that was a treat. I did lots of chores and spring cleaning (although it felt more like summer with temperatures up i...	Karilynn	4	687	Apr 29, 2009 by buick23
	Sharing A Problem I Solved (Preview) Hello To All, Most everyone turns their problems small, large and major over to their HP. I was taught to do that from a very young age. My main problem over the years was taking back from my HP what I had given him before he had time to solve them for me. His time table and mine were seldom the same. Prob...	RLC	3	1089	Apr 29, 2009 by Jerry F
	Just wanted to Share... :) (Preview) Hi All... I am reading a book called "Perfect Daughters by a Robert Ackerman Md." it a the revised version, for Adult Daughter of Alcoholics...I hope that you all find sometimes from it, as did... And I hope that you all enjoy... AFTER A WHILE: After a while you learn the subtle difference be...	Jozie	4	456	Apr 29, 2009 by blender_girl
	Thanks everyone! (Preview) Thanks to everyone who responded to my post. A lot of ESH! I needed that. I feel like I have been to hell and back with this man, but I still keep hangin on. He is my friend and I love him. And I dearly love his son and feel for him. He is so sweet! Yes I am learning how to let go and not let his stuff bother me. And for...	sisdragonfly1957	2	575	Apr 29, 2009 by lettherebepeace
	Update on son :o( My life is unmanageable (Preview) I been crying most of the night. my AH turned my sons cell phone back on, Of course he knows my SS number to get it activated again. I just feel so betrayed by my AH and just no respect. I'm tired of hurting all the time. When I get up in the afternoon coz oin my 7-7 shift. I pray Please help me today with the anger...	peacewithin	3	544	Apr 29, 2009 by lettherebepeace
	Clarification... on moving (Preview) I'm not relying on my ex at all regarding paying for my new house. The rent there is $50 a month more than what I'm paying now and includes phone, cable and dsl. I will pick up a water bill and pay power. The current place includes water and cable but I pay phone and dsl along with the power and this new plac...	carolinagirl	7	935	Apr 29, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Taking those baby steps and livin in the now, and enjoying the progress. (Preview) For some reason or another the EXABF has been tormenting my thoughts off and on the past two days. I have no idea why as I have been doing really well just focusing on me and what I want, but thoughts of him have been interupting my serenity for some reason or another. Nothing major, just little reminde...	shellyj123	10	945	Apr 29, 2009 by blender_girl
	Suggestions please? (Preview) As you know, I had found empty bottles in the house. Since then, I've been feeling very resentful towards my husband. I feel like any meeting he goes to (if he really goes) and his Out-Patient program is just a sham. I feel like I've done so much since he's gotten out of detox and he it's all been for noth...	N8SMOM	7	851	Apr 29, 2009 by Tiger2006
	When does Co-dependency start? (Preview) I ask because, I've been this way for as long as I can remember. My first boyfriend emotionally abused me for 4 years and I went from relationship to relationship and can only recall ONE that the guy didn't drink. Interestingly neither of my parents drank. My father is however a dry drunk, and the epi...	Inpain	6	1408	Apr 29, 2009 by maresie
	He's in Jail! (Preview) I knew that it would eventally happen, he has been running for almost 2 years. He is in some little town in georgia for a shop lifting Charge (six pack of beer)! Two weeks before it happened I turned him over to HP. I couldn't stand watching him destroy himself and his 9 year old son. I had to let them both go...	sisdragonfly1957	7	707	Apr 29, 2009 by maresie
	a lesson learned this weekend (Preview) This is regarding my prior post about my son's relapse. As I was sitting drinking my coffee on Sunday morning thinking about what it will take for my son to get into recovery, the word that came to mind was HONESTY.....complete honesty with himself and others. Well...HP had something else in mind for m...	Gailey	6	1000	Apr 29, 2009 by Rita G
	Al-Anon is Right and I was Wrong (Preview) After a few days of being suspicious of my husband's drinking, I did a search. I found an empty beer bottle hidden in the closet. I also found 3 bottle caps in his bathroom trash can (he keeps the trash can locked, under the cabinet so our son doesn't play in it). So now I feel more anxious, mad, and depres...	N8SMOM	9	1213	Apr 29, 2009 by Tiger2006
	Learning NOT to share (Preview) My AH as I posted before, is in rehab. Last time he was in rehab, I was very involved in HIS recovery (this time I'm very involved in mine) and we he got out, we stayed together for a couple of weeks until he dumped me for some girl he met in rehab. I was devastated, still hurt from that a lot. This time I think is...	Priscilla83	7	789	Apr 29, 2009 by Tiger2006
	Feeling kicked in the Stomach (Preview) Just when things seem to be going along so well, wham! Something comes along and pulls the rug out from under you. I was getting ready for work this morning and saw a bottle of prescription pills in the medicine cabinet. As we don't keep medicine there, I picked it up and realized it was an old prescriptio...	Sis63	4	1092	Apr 29, 2009 by Tiger2006
	HI Everyone... First Post :) (Preview) I have been involved with an alcoholic for almost two years now. When I first met him I didn't know that he was an alcoholic. He stated that he just didn't drink and I was fine with that since I am a social drinker. About a month into our relationship he admited to me thathehad a problem. I never say him drin...	sarabell54	7	1163	Apr 29, 2009 by Mariner
	Facing reality (Preview) And so I take it that you grieve when you face the reality of the way it really is. With all that darkness though, there is a lot of light - or so I hopeMy head has been spinning on whether to stay or go. Right now I choose to stay. No physical threat. Just the threat of getting sucked into the lies. I panic b...	Ash	5	1120	Apr 29, 2009 by glad lee
	Waiting for the Other shoe to drop? (Preview) Sometimes I feel like I am doing this. Some days I am not comfortable with the way that I cope with my ALO's sobriety. Often times I find it nearly impossible not to have my stomach twisting in knots over the fact that his meeting attendance has lapsed. Don't get me wrong - I am NOT as crazy as I once was and MY...	RunnerChick	8	2737	Apr 28, 2009 by lizzakiss
	Veteran member (Preview) Hey! I just noticed I became a "veteran" member!!! Pretty neat :woot: I'll celebrate by saying today I had a good day. I didn't pick up after my D.Drunk. Even after he came out of oral surgery. I left the first aid kit right where he left it, left his cup and lemon, left his scissors, and pac...	Inpain	4	712	Apr 28, 2009 by Inpain
	some humor snuck in from the other room (Preview) Okay...honestly I was in the other room looking for some gems and got this with the thought, "Humor and laughing is an indication of recovery". So read this and inventory your own progress. Sponsorship A man in a hot air balloon realized he was lost. So he descended a bit and shouted to a man...	Jerry F	15	642	Apr 28, 2009 by canadianguy
	i left my A-bf (Preview) well, it took threats to my life and the lives of my family members to leave my a-bf this is my second love relationship with an alcoholic then there are all those family members who are addicts i watched a movie recently called rachel getting married had no idea it was about a family dealing with add...	lettherebepeace	11	965	Apr 28, 2009 by carolinagirl
	What I did for me yesterday (Preview) After a lousy ending to Sunday I decided yesterday I needed time to myself so I took it! I left my boyfriend home with the kids (he had the night off from work) and went shopping and bought myself a couple of things and the boys a new dresser. I came home to supper being cooked! It was nice to have some help...	Holly09	5	522	Apr 28, 2009 by kitty
	Good news!! (Preview) Saturday my Ahusband finally go to rehab. I'm just sooo happy!!! I know this is just the beginning of a new struggle and that there is along way to go, but I'm glad he took this step and that he did it all buy himself. I, of course, don't take full credit for him going to rehab, but I honestly think that My chan...	Priscilla83	6	926	Apr 28, 2009 by Priscilla83
	Setting small goals for myself. (Preview) I have found one key to maintaining a positive attitude is to have several small projects going. If my life is unmanageable (which it often is) I can measure my progress by how far I am moving on the projects. The more control I have the better. Of course life itself means things don't necessarily go my...	maresie	7	1681	Apr 28, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	Happy Birthday Karilynn!!! (Preview) HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! (This a friend of Pipers)	Christy	15	1055	Apr 28, 2009 by thinkstoomuch
	Have to move (Preview) I live in a condo that is heavily populated by retirees who don't particularly care for children and their antics. So the long and the short of it is that I have to move out by the end of next month. My credit is horriffic but my rental history and employment are great. I looked around and everything tha...	carolinagirl	5	759	Apr 28, 2009 by blender_girl
	have not heard from daughter in nearly a week---worried and wondering (Preview) Have not heard from daughter in nearly a week. She knows I have been going through a terrible time due to my friend's death last week. But why do I expect anything from my AD. I should learn to "not expect anything", so therefore I will not be disappointed. We are going to Houston for grand...	clara	11	1109	Apr 27, 2009 by clara
	Working on letting go of family... (Preview) I find myself today in a mild struggle with myself. I am working really hard on letting go of things I can not control but sometimes I get so very frustrated. I realize that it is not people that disappoint me but my expectations of them that cause the disappointment. I have two brothers, both older th...	shellyj123	7	555	Apr 27, 2009 by clara
	sponsorship (Preview) I am so pleased with my sponsor. Sometimes it takes a while to hear from her but when she gets back to me she always has something good to say. I don't see her very often but when I do, she is always there waiting with a hug. I am going to try to call her once a week. I haven't been very good at calling but I email...	Hoot Nanny	1	487	Apr 27, 2009 by Jozie
	Dreading Work Tomorrow (Preview) Normally I love tomorrows. Normally I love work. But tomorrow I have to go to work with my tail between my legs. You see, all last week I worked my butt off, threw a hissy fit over two employees calling in sick or leaving early and had a meltdown of my own on Friday that carried over into Saturday. Havin...	Sincerely	13	692	Apr 27, 2009 by Sincerely
	How Long Before Getting a Sponsor? (Preview) I have been going to meetings at least 3 times a week since March 28. I have someone in mind that I would like to ask to be my sponsor and I'm just wondering when is a good time to ask? Is it too soon? Should I be in the program longer? She goes to my Monday night meetings and always just has the most common sen...	N8SMOM	7	670	Apr 27, 2009 by blender_girl
	April Business Minutes (Preview) April Business meeting MinutesMeeting was held on April 19th 2009 Chair opened the meeting with moment of silence followed by the serenity Prayer Motion to accept March Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Ch...	ernie	0	1133	Apr 27, 2009 by ernie
	Is this awarness,and am I getting better? (Preview) I love animals, never lived in a house without any untill I got married, anyhow a year last christmas I went into a pet shop and a cockatial seem to take to me, and it was a right noisy one, probably still there because it was a bird with attitude, well hubby was sober and said we could have her, wow really, so...	Katy	4	909	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	Making Choices-Theirs and Ours (Preview) Hello Alanoners, I have not been able to get on to support you all. Trouble in techno land. However, I do want to support everyone for where they are today. This disease of alcoholism and addiction manifests itself in so many different ways. I am ok. I struggle with my insides not matching my outsides....	nmike	5	739	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	Update on robbery. (Preview) ((((Family))), Just wanted to give you and update on the robbery. I met with the detective on Wednesday to do my deposition. I mentioned to him that my niece was back in town and was more than willing to talk to him. He said that wasn't neccessary to talk to her nor the maintenance men. He was more than...	Karilynn	9	549	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	dont know what to do (Preview) i dont know what to do... my husband has a drinking problem and its really starting to affect our whole family. i thought it was getting better and now all of a sudden hes drinking and driving, lying about how much hes had or where hes drinking at. i found out he even drank at work... he will lose his job. hes...	13	8	680	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	It's official, I'm crazy. (Preview) I don't even know where to start. My A gets my mind so twisted like a pretzel that a few hours after the arguement I'm beliving things probably are my fault. I feel like I'm walking through a landmine field lately, one wrong comment and BOOM. My A--who is my BF who is a dry drunk at this point-- used to te...	lizzakiss	5	1374	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	I'm so irritated! (Preview) My a boyfriend drove home drunk in my car and is now laying on our bed with dirty disgusting feet and I've told him 2 times to go wash them and he is not moving and I'm getting so pissed off I just want to choke the out of him! I don't want to sleep on the couch tonight I want to sleep in my own bed and I won't with di...	Holly09	5	797	Apr 27, 2009 by maresie
	avoiding the inevitable... (Preview) Funny how a single event ( a sentence even) can just take the wind out of my sails and make me feel like I will (or want to) drown. I am not divorced yet. Nothing but procrastination can be blamed at this point. Though nothing is certain, we had determined that most likely, if we were to get divorced and c...	Loupiness	2	375	Apr 27, 2009 by carolinagirl
	My Roller Coaster is going forward again : ) (Preview) What a weekend, full of my usual ups and downs and sideways...However, since last weeks melt down..lol.. I have slowly picked up a few lessons along the way.. I have not been speaking to my H for a couple days due to his usual, "Run" effect that seems to happen when I am in need of some assistanc...	Jozie	3	1013	Apr 27, 2009 by blender_girl
	Spring volcano in my shed...WHY (Preview) Dear God, You saw me working hard for two days clearing out my closet, getting ready for a major wardrobe turnover for your warm and lovely spring , summer. You know I do ALL the work myself...no help lifting, lugging, cleaning. I even patiently controlled my instinct to rip into Hub's gnarly...	wp	7	522	Apr 27, 2009 by Karilynn
	Being Grateful (Preview) On the way home from my F2F meeting Friday night I had to deal with a problem with my son, and some inappropriate texting to a girl in his class. Needless to say when I got home, we argued, I took his phone, then proceeded after he told me in a rather smart mouth way that "I can live without that cell ph...	shellyj123	5	539	Apr 27, 2009 by Rora
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