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On the way home from my F2F meeting Friday night I had to deal with a problem with my son, and some inappropriate texting to a girl in his class. Needless to say when I got home, we argued, I took his phone, then proceeded after he told me in a rather smart mouth way that "I can live without that cell phone" proceeded to smash it to bits and make his wish come true. We both cried and argued and argued and cried ourselves to sleep. I woke up this am to find we were both still very upset. My son had plans with his Big Brother and I had seperate afternoon plans of my own. We talked about the night before and the arguing and reached some conclusions and went our seperate ways for the afternoon, with both of us feeling much better. I realized as he drove away with his Big Brother that not one more second of my time can be spent worrying, caring or obsessing over EXABF. If he was DUMB enough to walk away, I am finally going to be SMART enough to let him go. My son and our relationship which has been overly strained from all my stress and his puberty:), is my main concern right now. While he went and did his afternoon thing, I went on a motorcycle ride with a male friend of mine and had a wonderful time. The day was awesome, the sky a brilliant blue and a perfect breeze in the air. We rode to a State Park and sat and talked for hours and just enjoyed the day. Everytime I could feel my mind projecting or wondering I pulled myself immediately back into the NOW. It was so nice. When we were walking back to the bike to head home, he held my hand and it was such a wonderfully calming feeling. I thought this must be what it is like to be with someone and NOT be stressed and trying to figure things out and analyze it all. It was just nice and a really serene time. Serenity Park was definitely what I needed:) The ride home took me, him and my HP through even more beautiful skylines, and warm sunshine. It was a wonderful drive and just what I needed to remember what it is that really matters. I came home and spent the rest of the day with my son, and I think he and I will be just fine. I hope that my MIP family is enjoying their weekend also and being safe, grateful and blessed. Keeping it in the NOW.... shelly
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Put down the magnifying glass and pick up the mirror!
wow shelly you sound SO much better- you are getting the hang of it! Stay in the present moment and enjoy these incredibly beautiful moments we have, all strung together like a necklace of pearls. In this post you sound like an adult. Its not easy but it sounds like things are looking up for your and YOU and HP made it happen, no one else. Hugs, J.
Funny I just read your post. And the post after yours is the same thing about sons and cell phones those darn thing and kids. Take care Shelly it does get better good days and bad one.
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I put my hand in yours and together we can do what we could not do alone.
I knew you could do it... :) I am sure you handled it the best you could at the moment, and sounds like things are coming back to focus.. I too had a few moments myself these last two days... things I needed to happen, and needed to move forward...
Well now what you got that ride out of the way and seen how great it is, ready to have your own :) I need a riden' buddy :) OHHHH the trouble we could find :P
Glad you Turned it Around... Glad you stayed in TODAY/This Moment...
Sounds like you had a very nice time and you were able to clear your head for a while. I always find myself to be a much better parent when i am able to do that. Everyone wins in that situation. Good for you!
