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It's been awhile. I moved out for awhile so my A could find some place else to live. He was to be moved out yesterday but he was still here. I gave him and his drinkin buddies a choice to get out or I would leave again and turn everything off. He started his crap. But I stood my ground. He left with his buddies. It felt so good to sleep in my own bed. But this morning he showed up and I told him to leave. He did but he has been callin and callin. Can't stand no more of this . I go to meetings and I feel good then he brings me down.
That's great that u stood your ground & he left. That's an effective boundary so far. Focus on that good feeling you had before he "brought you down". I know it's hard but right now you are being given an opportunity to cling to the tools fo al-anon, put them into practise & use them. Don't allow him to bring you down anymore - u focus on YOU & your good feeling. That's a reality you can manifest all the time with practise. Stick tight to your boundaries & keep focusing on exactly what you can control & change ~ YOU.
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Light, Love, Peace, Blessings & Healing to Us All. God's Will Be Done. Amen.
You have set your boundaries. Hopefully he understands that he cannot cross your "line in the sand" Have you considered changing the locks on the doors?
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Clara
------------------------------------ What don't kill you, makes you stronger!!!
I have learned the hard way that the best thing for me to do was to take care of me first and set boundaries. I however have a REALLY hard time sticking to my boundaries, so you are already doing wayyyyyy better than me:)
Keep the focus on you and please don't let him bring you down. This program has so many wonderful gifts to offer, and it truly does work if you work it.
Please take care of you your friend in recovery shelly
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