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Holly09


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My a boyfriend drove home drunk in my car and is now laying on our bed with dirty disgusting feet and I've told him 2 times to go wash them and he is not moving and I'm getting so pissed off I just want to choke the furiousout of him!  I don't want to sleep on the couch tonight I want to sleep in my own bed and I won't with dirt in it!  It's not fair furious.
Holly

-- Edited by debilyn on Sunday 26th of April 2009 10:51:53 PM

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abbyal


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solution # 1 - don't let him drive your car again .  #2 roll him off the bed , he probably won't notice.

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Hi Holly,

Hang in there.  I hear your anger, and disappointment.  I have been there and, actually did choke him ( I would not recommend that).  It solved nothing. 

This disease is not fair.  Please take care of yourself and  your child.  Read some literature, post here, make a telephone call.  When he is sober you can set up boundries that will work for you.

You ae not alone and it will get better.

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Holly09


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He's not driving my car again other than to work and back shouldn't be a problem doesn't drink during the week.  I'm sleeping on the couch going to watch some Desperate Housewives and then go to sleep or maybe read some more from Getting Them Sober.  I'm much more calm now smile thanks for letting me vent!  Holly.

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I really know how you feel I just went throught the stinky feet and the smell of Alochol and smoking and his gass from the beer I just started crying. Thank god I work nights.

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Learn how to detach.  There is a good primer at www.coping.org. Being irritated and focused on him is exhausting.  When you are detached you can create more options for yourself. Being obsessed is like having tunnel vision.

Maresie.

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