Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

JBee · JBee

Hi all,I'm glad to have found this community to share and learn and I'm looking forward to meeting all of you. Where to begin...I'm 26 and I've been in a relationship with an alcoholic for two years now. The first year I didn't really notice the effects on him, or I just didn't take them too seriously. How...

xter · xter

argh... people have been posting about this issue (their ABF or AH or AGF or AW in early recovery and acting like a horrible mess - and then slipping and then being awful again...) and i really don't want to rehash it but i kinda want to just vent. i'm going away for 5 days after work tomorrow. AH said he was...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Those of you who have followed my story/struggle/recovery the past 7 mths know where I came from and how miserably impossible it was for me to Detach... It will be two weeks this Thursday and for me that is a miracle and a blessing! There has been absolutely NC. ESABF dropped my stuff off last week and s...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, went to funeral this evening, it was a quiet one, I guess alcoholics are only drawing a crowd when they are paying for drinks or providing the entertainment, I did not see many of the publicans who would have gained financially from this woman's death there, but hold it, its not to say they were...

maresie · maresie

I am on a roll in terms of decluttering and have some major projects to do. I need to get them done shortly as my life is going in many different directions now. I need to step up and take care of this. I am posting this so I have to make a update on the issue regularly. There is always something that gets in t...

maresie · maresie

I have just finished reading Beautiful Boy by David Scheff. The author and his son were on Oprah which is one reason I read the book. I think this is a great book if you are in early al anon. The author is a great writer and talks earnestly and passionately about the pain and anxiety of being involved with...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am finding myself to be a little bored lately. I try to keep busy but seem to still be bored. I am doing better this time of my life. I am getting along pretty well with my husband & somewhat better with my mom. Sometimes I just want to go to meetings again like I mentioned before without my mom there. O...

Pfunk · Pfunk

I just worked my 1st step "again" with my new sponsor. The first time, my A boyfriend was still active. Since he went into recovery and in a 1/2 house, I found myself wanting to take control and force solutions again especially after he broke off our 7 year relationship. What working th...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

to hold on. My AS drives a very old beat up truck his father and I gave him several years ago, I had a very little hope (but some hope) at that time that he would take a job, but that hope has faded with his continuing drug use. The old truck is now dying, he called me yesterday in a fit saying he was going to run...

beacheemom · beacheemom

As I am learning the ways of Al Anon, and digging deeper into the program, I am coming up with more questions I have. I know that I am supposed to focus more on me and stop the focusing on my AH. I didn't realize how hard this one would be for me. I don't want to sound like I am making excuses, I am just not sure how...

heatherranki · heatherranki

Please clarify something for me. My aoca h is attending al anon. I am too, different group. His take on looking after him seems to be playing out as shutting me out. completely. He does not even talk to me, unless our kids are around. In fact, he seems to be 2 completely different people, totally depen...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear all, am a bit upset today, a lady I know died yesterday evening from chronic alcoholism, leaving her fourteen year old daughter behind. She was my age, 44, and I liked her though she was a messy drunk, she had good qualities but was afflicted with the disease, I am going to part of the funeral and I kno...

waddleton · waddleton

Im in an "emotional growth program" for young adults with five students. It used to be six, but a close friend of mine relapsed and behaved in a way that got her kicked out. Im the only person here currently who doesn't struggle with addiction. For a lot of people, this is an after care afte...

Codependent · Codependent

I can see the red flags with guy I have been posting about. I can see all that, but what bothers me is he feeling of rejection I get after I have embarrassed myself by texting him over and over pretending I was stranded- well sort of pretending. While I know alcohol played a part in my persistence it was mo...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hello my alanon family, just wanted to do a lil catch up as I have been MIA (lol that's my dog's name) from the board and rooms for a bit. I find myself stuggling to keep up with the work building up, home life, and trying to keep the focus on me. The day-to-day drama of living with addiciton and working on cha...

beacheemom · beacheemom

Well, I said in my last reply I was going to bed, but I really need to get this off of my chest. I think it's the reason that today just wasn't a moving forward kind of day. My AH has a friend that has a house on a lake about 1 hour away from our home. This friend is truly a good man. I know my AH will want me and our gir...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi all, I am feeling a bit ashamed. My AB has been sober for 2 months and is doing really well attending meetings, keeping in contact etc. I on the other hand am becoming very resentful after everything I have been through still feel very alone. As he gets better and better he seems to be out all the time...

Inpain · Inpain

I didn't see this one coming. Some of you may have seen my earlier post. I was excited I made my first friend at al-anon and we were invited over for a cookout. It was seriously our first "dry" social event. We have three small children. My friend called and asked if it was ok to invite ano...

Jozie · Jozie

The Biggest Liar was my own Addiction We have lived with dishonesty- in others and in ourselves. Many of us had to learn to cope with the ovcious lies accompanying our parents' dysfunction or the enabling of that dysfunction. One of the ways we coped was to convince ourselves that our perceptions were...

Pfunk · Pfunk

Hello, I'm new to the board but have been in and out of alanon for about 15 years only taking and seriously working my program for the last year. I have been doing great, loving my program, growing within myself and rebuilding a relationship with my recovering AA boyfriend of 7 years. My A lives in a 1/2...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), Here I am my weekend off. I am sicker than a dog. and I'm trying to get better so that I can go to my niece's graduation today. I talked to both my sister and niece yesterday and said that I would most likely be at the graduation. However I wasn't sure if I could make it out to dinner. My s...

Codependent · Codependent

I hope I am not boring you all posting about my dating life, but it makes me feel better to get it out there and get feedback from you guys. After the text apology I sent a text on Thursday just casual and he responded. We didn't talk on Friday. But, Saturday I really wanted to see him. Was going out with...

serenity62 · serenity62

Hi friends, my hub jsut got out of jail (15 months) and 2 months rehab for multiple dui's. He came outta jail with a new addiction..Hydro morphine, he snorts it..so i'm trying to find a room to talk to ppl that can relate to my situation..thanks xo Serenity62..not lol

shadow1 · shadow1

(((((((Everyone)))))))) I'm in need of some ES&H please. I am totally overwhelmed with stress. It seems that things keep piling up on me. I try to deal with one thing at a time but when one issue is resolved then 2 more roll in. I try to reach out to others that are close to me they appear to be disappoin...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

I am back living in the American Midwest and in the summer there are always these weekend "fests" which are completely soaked in alcohol. Having not lived with this for awhile, I had forgotten how gross it is. I went to one last weekend and it all came back to me- totally smashed people all le...

rosielightshines · rosielightshines

ASSIGNMENT__________ STEP 3---Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him Self parenting step 3---Learn to let go of the compulsive self reliance by reaching out to our Higher Parent as we understand it ########Rosie's take "compulsive self relia...

ajay147 · ajay147

Hi everyone, I have just found this board, or maybe it found me!!! I am so so desperate for some advice. My wife is 5 months pregnant, and she won't stop drinking... What the hell do i do??? From day one, i know she has made no secret that she will have a drink "every now and then". But, on Sunday,...

ernie · ernie

June Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held June 7, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept May Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Chair Schedule is:AMMon Shimo/no altTues -Aun...

Overcome · Overcome

Some of you will remember my "checking for ticks" post, others might even remember my "I've had enough" post, under my old nick of Java, concerning my dry drunk husband. My most recent post was a decision I made to go back into the relationship entitled "doing the same thin...

Grace11 · Grace11

Thanks to all who replied to my post. happy that people bothered to reply. My husband is in rehab. Visited him each day this week and it was very nice and CALM!I was seeing some hope for a future, probably naively? Yesteray and today he was allowed home for a few hours and all we did was fight...over stupid...

beacheemom · beacheemom

for those of you that have read my posts know that one of the hardest things I was/am trying to overcome is my AH lack of motivation when it comes to our home. I had alot of anger and bitterness about this issue. Well, he texted me today and let me know that he bought a weed eater for our yard. This must sound s...

redfred · redfred

So after my last post of presenting an emplyment contract and my seeing the audit to fruition, that went totally out the window. My ex-bf wouldn't sign anything and I stood my ground and walked out. The audit was today and he had to handle it by himself. I don't know the details of the results, only what he...

redfred · redfred

First of all, THANK YOU to everyone who has taken the time to follow my little soap opera on this message board and share some of your wisdom with me. So much is happening and it's happening so fast the I have only been able (emotionally and time wise) to post the most critical information for what's happe...

Overcome · Overcome

I did not do all the things on my "to do" list and Just for that day, I didn't worry about it, I just did "the next right thing" One of the things that I added to my 'to do' list was taking my mom to another Assisted Living Facility (this makes the second one we've visited). She really li...

Suzannah · Suzannah

Even though I know I am working hard, I am changing the things I can and I am accepting the things I cannot, today has been a really hard day. Physically pain is not helping from when my legs collapsed from under me late Monday night and I knocked myself out on my kitchen floor. The fact that I buried a dear d...

Grace11 · Grace11

I have no idea what to do or where to go. I dated a recovering alcoholic for four years. Then around four years ago he was no longer recovering as he started drinking again. In a weird way it was sort of nice in the beginning because he was so relaxed with a few drinks. He had always found it difficult to relax...

Temple · Temple

I just got a call from a boiler room operation. A young woman wanted to talk to me about my credit card ending in XXXX. Credit card ending in XXXX has been cancelled, because some scam artists got hold of it and were charging little $2 and $4 items to my account. The card company alerted me--said they d...

RunnerChick · RunnerChick

I'm not sure if anyone can relate to what I've been feeling for the past few days but, I have this sense of anxiety at times about 'working the program' right. I often wonder if my sponsor choice was right - I am being guided in a wonderful way. Am I working the steps the way I should? Am I in denial about somet...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Rather than do the usual and focus on what I did wrong or where I slipped up (and trust me, I did!), I thought I'd list out what I did right instead. 1. I'm slowly making progress on protecting myself on the financial front. I just need to get off my butt and out of the house to finish up these tasks. 2. I fi...

Jozie · Jozie

Welp... I made it thru another Long Week... I have so much going on in my life right now, it is putting me into over drive, Last night I did take the time to go up on my bed, and just Lay there, and meditate, and pushing the stress from my body... It worked "In the Moment" but then when I got up, I thin...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Thanks everyone for reading/responding to my post. Yesterday was truly a rough day and I really did not think that it would be.... Today is a new day though, and though there is still a huge sadness where there once was hurt, I am going to get through it. It just sucks ya know? It's been almost 8 months...

cidiera · cidiera

So, I moved out of my apartment cuz me and my boyfriend broke up. I had to move back home. I've been here a month, and things are going back to how I remember them as a child. Except I'm not a child, anymore. My mother can't hold a discussion about anything when it comes to something that bugs me. For example,...

Eve55 · Eve55

I'm brand new to all of this and trying the absorp alot of these concepts. Obviously understanding will take time. My concern is, this weekend there are several events that will happen that will continue to stress the relationship between myself and my husband. I tried to talk to my husband about hi...

Tracy · Tracy

hi all I have not posted for a while lots has happened. After going to a weekend conference in march I told my ab I just wanted to be friends because I had met lots of healthy people and needed to surround myself wityh these people to help my recovery. I finally accepted i couldnt fix him. I realised i was...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

I'm having a rough time tonight. The week has been harder than most with crazy at every turn it seems and I think for the most part I have held it altogether and kept moving forward in my life. And then today the EXABF dropped the last of my things off while I was at work, and I just feel this overwel...

Overcome · Overcome

My thoughts on Just For Today, a poem that is a bookmark in our program. I would like to extend a challenge to anyone that wants to participate, to work this into your life today, too, Just for Today: Just for today I will try to live through this day only and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do someth...

beacheemom · beacheemom

Today I felt more in control of my life than I have in years. I thank God for this day. I thank Him for allowing me and trusting me with three beautiful girls he sent for me to love ( my daughters). I thank Him for their laughs and smiles. I even thank Him for giving me the wisdom and courage to discipline t...

maresie · maresie

My sponsor who has never ever judged me or "should" me down suggested I keep the positive at the front of my life. Lately as you all know I have lost weight and gone all out to get healthy. As someone who was pretty much lethargic for me to exercise at all is incredible. I walk 10,000 steps a day...

Temple · Temple

I went to my second F2F meeting and learned two things. No crosstalk means we just sit and listen if somebody else is commenting, and we don't comment on the comment. Even if the other is suffering and we might have something to say that could help. Maybe that is what the sponsor is for. They were gen...

Jozie · Jozie

I wanted to Say THANK YOU to all of you that Commented Yesterday...I can now laugh at myself over the ordeal, made all my contacts, now I have to sit and wait to hear the "Rest of the Story",... I got up this morning with best thoughts of accomplishment, and a better sense of self.. For me someti...

Melissa21 · Melissa21

Im in a great mood!! Been testing 10 plus hours for a job I was referred to by someone here. Waited all day for my results and .... I PASSED!!! I got hired!!! Only 20 hours a week but the pay is pretty good so my next step is to start looking for apartments so I can get the heck out of here ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...

Eve55 · Eve55

Another question. My husband told me this morning that he promises not to drink while I'm away at work today. I let slip "Don't do that." before I could stop myself. He asked me why I said that but I changed the subject. How should I respond to his promises? He makes promises to make me "...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Was woke up the night before last at 4am by an outraged wife! To make a long story short, one of my internet friends who has been emailing/texting me has a wife! Now I had asked him several times and he swore NO NO NO.......and I had no reason whatsoever not to believe him, other than this little feeling t...

Rachel262612 · Rachel262612

ok, I think I have been looking at this all wrong, I just realize that the decision to stay or leave an A husband, which i know I shouldn't make any rash decisions. I have been so far thinking about myself. It's not all about that, it's about my kids. I should be able to make myself happy in any situation, b...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Last week I had written about a woman who was disruptive during my meeting and made me feel uncomfortable. Well after talking with God, I thought that perhaps she needed to be at that meeting and who am I to judge who should be there and who shouldn't. With that, I decided to reach out to her this week and...

beacheemom · beacheemom

We were on the topice of our yard- AH mows it but that's it- so it needs weedeating really bad, it looks neglected and it's embarassing to me. Well, about a year ago our weedeater broke and never bought a new one. So, with me being on this new path I'm on, I called my Dad (step-dad) to see if i could borrow his f...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Sorry I haven't been by lately, things have just been super busy work wise and the home PC was hit by a bug. Anyway things have been interesting and enlightening. The last time I posted was when I had ran into EXABF in Walmart and he had shunned my son. To cut to the chase-lol, I had an occassion after than...

beacheemom · beacheemom

hi everone, I am so grateful I found this place. Some of ya'll have probably read my other post, I wrote that when I first came to the board. I was angry, angry , angry. Since then, and it's only been a day or so, I have started applying step 1 to my life. It does make me feel better to know that I have not caus...

Suzannah · Suzannah

I have found myself being asked again and again of late, "Where do I begin?" And I have noticed that there are quite a few newbies here, so I thought I would share my "Where do I start?" story. I am not here to advise I am here only to share my experience and tell you what worked for me an...

debilyn · debilyn

First thing this morn a sheriff called me, he is in my driveway. He says he has papers for me, I said,"oh what a drag!" lol of course I am a mess, lol lost a lot of fat have on baggy stretch cotton shorts,dark blue with marroon, white, yellow and turquoise paint on them. a blue tank top then a touqu...

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	At the beginning, yet at the end (Preview) Hi all,I'm glad to have found this community to share and learn and I'm looking forward to meeting all of you. Where to begin...I'm 26 and I've been in a relationship with an alcoholic for two years now. The first year I didn't really notice the effects on him, or I just didn't take them too seriously. How...	JBee	8	617	Jul 1, 2009 by Jean4444
	very keyed up and angry (Preview) argh... people have been posting about this issue (their ABF or AH or AGF or AW in early recovery and acting like a horrible mess - and then slipping and then being awful again...) and i really don't want to rehash it but i kinda want to just vent. i'm going away for 5 days after work tomorrow. AH said he was...	xter	10	554	Jul 1, 2009 by Jean4444
	Hard to believe it.......I still can't believe it........ESH for those trying to Detach (Preview) Those of you who have followed my story/struggle/recovery the past 7 mths know where I came from and how miserably impossible it was for me to Detach... It will be two weeks this Thursday and for me that is a miracle and a blessing! There has been absolutely NC. ESABF dropped my stuff off last week and s...	shellyj123	8	617	Jul 1, 2009 by maresie
	Clarity of thinking after funeral (Preview) Dear All, went to funeral this evening, it was a quiet one, I guess alcoholics are only drawing a crowd when they are paying for drinks or providing the entertainment, I did not see many of the publicans who would have gained financially from this woman's death there, but hold it, its not to say they were...	maire rua	2	518	Jul 1, 2009 by maresie
	Overcoming procrastination. (Preview) I am on a roll in terms of decluttering and have some major projects to do. I need to get them done shortly as my life is going in many different directions now. I need to step up and take care of this. I am posting this so I have to make a update on the issue regularly. There is always something that gets in t...	maresie	6	519	Jul 1, 2009 by maresie
	Recommendation book Beautiful Boy. (Preview) I have just finished reading Beautiful Boy by David Scheff. The author and his son were on Oprah which is one reason I read the book. I think this is a great book if you are in early al anon. The author is a great writer and talks earnestly and passionately about the pain and anxiety of being involved with...	maresie	3	2988	Jul 1, 2009 by maresie
	A LITTLE BORED...BUT OK (Preview) I am finding myself to be a little bored lately. I try to keep busy but seem to still be bored. I am doing better this time of my life. I am getting along pretty well with my husband & somewhat better with my mom. Sometimes I just want to go to meetings again like I mentioned before without my mom there. O...	Hoot Nanny	3	444	Jun 30, 2009 by debilyn
	Free At Last (Preview) I just worked my 1st step "again" with my new sponsor. The first time, my A boyfriend was still active. Since he went into recovery and in a 1/2 house, I found myself wanting to take control and force solutions again especially after he broke off our 7 year relationship. What working th...	Pfunk	5	664	Jun 30, 2009 by canadianguy
	Trying So Hard..... (Preview) to hold on. My AS drives a very old beat up truck his father and I gave him several years ago, I had a very little hope (but some hope) at that time that he would take a job, but that hope has faded with his continuing drug use. The old truck is now dying, he called me yesterday in a fit saying he was going to run...	DreamsOver	4	581	Jun 30, 2009 by RLC
	how to focus on myself under my circumstances (Preview) As I am learning the ways of Al Anon, and digging deeper into the program, I am coming up with more questions I have. I know that I am supposed to focus more on me and stop the focusing on my AH. I didn't realize how hard this one would be for me. I don't want to sound like I am making excuses, I am just not sure how...	beacheemom	7	591	Jun 30, 2009 by maresie
	What am I not understanding?? in tears.... (Preview) Please clarify something for me. My aoca h is attending al anon. I am too, different group. His take on looking after him seems to be playing out as shutting me out. completely. He does not even talk to me, unless our kids are around. In fact, he seems to be 2 completely different people, totally depen...	heatherranki	6	611	Jun 30, 2009 by maresie
	death from alcoholism (Preview) Dear all, am a bit upset today, a lady I know died yesterday evening from chronic alcoholism, leaving her fourteen year old daughter behind. She was my age, 44, and I liked her though she was a messy drunk, she had good qualities but was afflicted with the disease, I am going to part of the funeral and I kno...	maire rua	7	584	Jun 30, 2009 by maresie
	My friends keep relapsing...Is this worth it? (Preview) Im in an "emotional growth program" for young adults with five students. It used to be six, but a close friend of mine relapsed and behaved in a way that got her kicked out. Im the only person here currently who doesn't struggle with addiction. For a lot of people, this is an after care afte...	waddleton	4	529	Jun 29, 2009 by kismetstrand
	My issues (Preview) I can see the red flags with guy I have been posting about. I can see all that, but what bothers me is he feeling of rejection I get after I have embarrassed myself by texting him over and over pretending I was stranded- well sort of pretending. While I know alcohol played a part in my persistence it was mo...	Codependent	1	392	Jun 29, 2009 by debilyn
	A quick hello and an invitation. (Preview) Hello my alanon family, just wanted to do a lil catch up as I have been MIA (lol that's my dog's name) from the board and rooms for a bit. I find myself stuggling to keep up with the work building up, home life, and trying to keep the focus on me. The day-to-day drama of living with addiciton and working on cha...	Mandy123	1	533	Jun 29, 2009 by belle1
	july 4th weekend is already making nervous- couple of ?'s (Preview) Well, I said in my last reply I was going to bed, but I really need to get this off of my chest. I think it's the reason that today just wasn't a moving forward kind of day. My AH has a friend that has a house on a lake about 1 hour away from our home. This friend is truly a good man. I know my AH will want me and our gir...	beacheemom	10	444	Jun 29, 2009 by Inpain
	programme slip (Preview) Hi all, I am feeling a bit ashamed. My AB has been sober for 2 months and is doing really well attending meetings, keeping in contact etc. I on the other hand am becoming very resentful after everything I have been through still feel very alone. As he gets better and better he seems to be out all the time...	Tracy	5	648	Jun 29, 2009 by rosielightshines
	{sigh} Expectations... (Preview) I didn't see this one coming. Some of you may have seen my earlier post. I was excited I made my first friend at al-anon and we were invited over for a cookout. It was seriously our first "dry" social event. We have three small children. My friend called and asked if it was ok to invite ano...	Inpain	5	579	Jun 29, 2009 by xter
	Addictions Hold... (Preview) The Biggest Liar was my own Addiction We have lived with dishonesty- in others and in ourselves. Many of us had to learn to cope with the ovcious lies accompanying our parents' dysfunction or the enabling of that dysfunction. One of the ways we coped was to convince ourselves that our perceptions were...	Jozie	1	556	Jun 29, 2009 by abbyal
	Needing Experience, Strengh and Hope (Preview) Hello, I'm new to the board but have been in and out of alanon for about 15 years only taking and seriously working my program for the last year. I have been doing great, loving my program, growing within myself and rebuilding a relationship with my recovering AA boyfriend of 7 years. My A lives in a 1/2...	Pfunk	4	895	Jun 29, 2009 by Pfunk
	Boy did I loose it! (Preview) ((((Family)))), Here I am my weekend off. I am sicker than a dog. and I'm trying to get better so that I can go to my niece's graduation today. I talked to both my sister and niece yesterday and said that I would most likely be at the graduation. However I wasn't sure if I could make it out to dinner. My s...	Karilynn	8	518	Jun 29, 2009 by Andrea12
	Dating (Preview) I hope I am not boring you all posting about my dating life, but it makes me feel better to get it out there and get feedback from you guys. After the text apology I sent a text on Thursday just casual and he responded. We didn't talk on Friday. But, Saturday I really wanted to see him. Was going out with...	Codependent	4	490	Jun 29, 2009 by brownmf
	Naranon chatrooms?? (Preview) Hi friends, my hub jsut got out of jail (15 months) and 2 months rehab for multiple dui's. He came outta jail with a new addiction..Hydro morphine, he snorts it..so i'm trying to find a room to talk to ppl that can relate to my situation..thanks xo Serenity62..not lol	serenity62	3	4772	Jun 29, 2009 by brownmf
	Need help Please!!!! (Preview) (((((((Everyone)))))))) I'm in need of some ES&H please. I am totally overwhelmed with stress. It seems that things keep piling up on me. I try to deal with one thing at a time but when one issue is resolved then 2 more roll in. I try to reach out to others that are close to me they appear to be disappoin...	shadow1	7	660	Jun 29, 2009 by Suzannah
	summer weekend festivals- yuck (Preview) I am back living in the American Midwest and in the summer there are always these weekend "fests" which are completely soaked in alcohol. Having not lived with this for awhile, I had forgotten how gross it is. I went to one last weekend and it all came back to me- totally smashed people all le...	Jean4444	3	384	Jun 28, 2009 by debilyn
	my STEP 3 on RE-parenting me (Preview) ASSIGNMENT__________ STEP 3---Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood him Self parenting step 3---Learn to let go of the compulsive self reliance by reaching out to our Higher Parent as we understand it ########Rosie's take "compulsive self relia...	rosielightshines	2	623	Jun 28, 2009 by debilyn
	what can i do? (Preview) Hi everyone, I have just found this board, or maybe it found me!!! I am so so desperate for some advice. My wife is 5 months pregnant, and she won't stop drinking... What the hell do i do??? From day one, i know she has made no secret that she will have a drink "every now and then". But, on Sunday,...	ajay147	7	923	Jun 28, 2009 by ajay147
	June Business Meeting Minutes (Preview) June Business meeting Minutes Meeting was held June 7, 2009 Meeting opened with the serenity prayer Motion to accept May Business Meeting Minutes as posted on the Board - Voted on and accepted Chair meeting schedule was posted and revisedCurrent Chair Schedule is:AMMon Shimo/no altTues -Aun...	ernie	0	506	Jun 28, 2009 by ernie
	Delusional husband plays games. (Preview) Some of you will remember my "checking for ticks" post, others might even remember my "I've had enough" post, under my old nick of Java, concerning my dry drunk husband. My most recent post was a decision I made to go back into the relationship entitled "doing the same thin...	Overcome	6	594	Jun 28, 2009 by Melissa21
	thanks (Preview) Thanks to all who replied to my post. happy that people bothered to reply. My husband is in rehab. Visited him each day this week and it was very nice and CALM!I was seeing some hope for a future, probably naively? Yesteray and today he was allowed home for a few hours and all we did was fight...over stupid...	Grace11	3	592	Jun 27, 2009 by Jerry F
	The REAL gift my AH gave me today... (Preview) for those of you that have read my posts know that one of the hardest things I was/am trying to overcome is my AH lack of motivation when it comes to our home. I had alot of anger and bitterness about this issue. Well, he texted me today and let me know that he bought a weed eater for our yard. This must sound s...	beacheemom	5	951	Jun 27, 2009 by beacheemom
	I've been offered an interview for a new job (Preview) So after my last post of presenting an emplyment contract and my seeing the audit to fruition, that went totally out the window. My ex-bf wouldn't sign anything and I stood my ground and walked out. The audit was today and he had to handle it by himself. I don't know the details of the results, only what he...	redfred	5	652	Jun 27, 2009 by rosielightshines
	FYI - Some of the legalities of my situation with my ex-bf (Preview) First of all, THANK YOU to everyone who has taken the time to follow my little soap opera on this message board and share some of your wisdom with me. So much is happening and it's happening so fast the I have only been able (emotionally and time wise) to post the most critical information for what's happe...	redfred	5	500	Jun 27, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Just For Today...report (Preview) I did not do all the things on my "to do" list and Just for that day, I didn't worry about it, I just did "the next right thing" One of the things that I added to my 'to do' list was taking my mom to another Assisted Living Facility (this makes the second one we've visited). She really li...	Overcome	3	439	Jun 27, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Need some love tonight... (Preview) Even though I know I am working hard, I am changing the things I can and I am accepting the things I cannot, today has been a really hard day. Physically pain is not helping from when my legs collapsed from under me late Monday night and I knocked myself out on my kitchen floor. The fact that I buried a dear d...	Suzannah	14	1033	Jun 27, 2009 by Jozie
	At a loss (Preview) I have no idea what to do or where to go. I dated a recovering alcoholic for four years. Then around four years ago he was no longer recovering as he started drinking again. In a weird way it was sort of nice in the beginning because he was so relaxed with a few drinks. He had always found it difficult to relax...	Grace11	7	919	Jun 27, 2009 by Grace11
	Progress (Preview) I just got a call from a boiler room operation. A young woman wanted to talk to me about my credit card ending in XXXX. Credit card ending in XXXX has been cancelled, because some scam artists got hold of it and were charging little $2 and $4 items to my account. The card company alerted me--said they d...	Temple	3	663	Jun 27, 2009 by Jean4444
	Doing it Right (Preview) I'm not sure if anyone can relate to what I've been feeling for the past few days but, I have this sense of anxiety at times about 'working the program' right. I often wonder if my sponsor choice was right - I am being guided in a wonderful way. Am I working the steps the way I should? Am I in denial about somet...	RunnerChick	4	759	Jun 27, 2009 by Suzannah
	Things I did Right this week (Preview) Rather than do the usual and focus on what I did wrong or where I slipped up (and trust me, I did!), I thought I'd list out what I did right instead. 1. I'm slowly making progress on protecting myself on the financial front. I just need to get off my butt and out of the house to finish up these tasks. 2. I fi...	blender_girl	3	820	Jun 26, 2009 by Bella333
	I made it thru But.... (Preview) Welp... I made it thru another Long Week... I have so much going on in my life right now, it is putting me into over drive, Last night I did take the time to go up on my bed, and just Lay there, and meditate, and pushing the stress from my body... It worked "In the Moment" but then when I got up, I thin...	Jozie	8	825	Jun 26, 2009 by Jozie
	A new day..... (Preview) Thanks everyone for reading/responding to my post. Yesterday was truly a rough day and I really did not think that it would be.... Today is a new day though, and though there is still a huge sadness where there once was hurt, I am going to get through it. It just sucks ya know? It's been almost 8 months...	shellyj123	1	375	Jun 26, 2009 by Temple
	can't stand living situation (Preview) So, I moved out of my apartment cuz me and my boyfriend broke up. I had to move back home. I've been here a month, and things are going back to how I remember them as a child. Except I'm not a child, anymore. My mother can't hold a discussion about anything when it comes to something that bugs me. For example,...	cidiera	8	1147	Jun 26, 2009 by Melissa21
	Time for change? (Preview) I'm brand new to all of this and trying the absorp alot of these concepts. Obviously understanding will take time. My concern is, this weekend there are several events that will happen that will continue to stress the relationship between myself and my husband. I tried to talk to my husband about hi...	Eve55	9	936	Jun 26, 2009 by RunnerChick
	update/sobriety (Preview) hi all I have not posted for a while lots has happened. After going to a weekend conference in march I told my ab I just wanted to be friends because I had met lots of healthy people and needed to surround myself wityh these people to help my recovery. I finally accepted i couldnt fix him. I realised i was...	Tracy	3	736	Jun 26, 2009 by Karilynn
	Overwelmingly sad and in need of some ESH (Preview) I'm having a rough time tonight. The week has been harder than most with crazy at every turn it seems and I think for the most part I have held it altogether and kept moving forward in my life. And then today the EXABF dropped the last of my things off while I was at work, and I just feel this overwel...	shellyj123	12	1102	Jun 26, 2009 by Karilynn
	Just for today (Preview) My thoughts on Just For Today, a poem that is a bookmark in our program. I would like to extend a challenge to anyone that wants to participate, to work this into your life today, too, Just for Today: Just for today I will try to live through this day only and not tackle all my problems at once. I can do someth...	Overcome	3	1052	Jun 26, 2009 by Melissa21
	grateful for today (Preview) Today I felt more in control of my life than I have in years. I thank God for this day. I thank Him for allowing me and trusting me with three beautiful girls he sent for me to love ( my daughters). I thank Him for their laughs and smiles. I even thank Him for giving me the wisdom and courage to discipline t...	beacheemom	4	809	Jun 26, 2009 by Temple
	Working with the positive in front. (Preview) My sponsor who has never ever judged me or "should" me down suggested I keep the positive at the front of my life. Lately as you all know I have lost weight and gone all out to get healthy. As someone who was pretty much lethargic for me to exercise at all is incredible. I walk 10,000 steps a day...	maresie	7	980	Jun 26, 2009 by maire rua
	Went to second meeting. (Preview) I went to my second F2F meeting and learned two things. No crosstalk means we just sit and listen if somebody else is commenting, and we don't comment on the comment. Even if the other is suffering and we might have something to say that could help. Maybe that is what the sponsor is for. They were gen...	Temple	5	619	Jun 25, 2009 by nmike
	As for Today.... (Preview) I wanted to Say THANK YOU to all of you that Commented Yesterday...I can now laugh at myself over the ordeal, made all my contacts, now I have to sit and wait to hear the "Rest of the Story",... I got up this morning with best thoughts of accomplishment, and a better sense of self.. For me someti...	Jozie	2	713	Jun 25, 2009 by debilyn
	BEST news in a long time!!! (Preview) Im in a great mood!! Been testing 10 plus hours for a job I was referred to by someone here. Waited all day for my results and .... I PASSED!!! I got hired!!! Only 20 hours a week but the pay is pretty good so my next step is to start looking for apartments so I can get the heck out of here ASAP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!...	Melissa21	13	1007	Jun 25, 2009 by Melissa21
	Promises (Preview) Another question. My husband told me this morning that he promises not to drink while I'm away at work today. I let slip "Don't do that." before I could stop myself. He asked me why I said that but I changed the subject. How should I respond to his promises? He makes promises to make me "...	Eve55	6	1075	Jun 25, 2009 by Melissa21
	Progress and growth-Part #1 (Preview) Was woke up the night before last at 4am by an outraged wife! To make a long story short, one of my internet friends who has been emailing/texting me has a wife! Now I had asked him several times and he swore NO NO NO.......and I had no reason whatsoever not to believe him, other than this little feeling t...	shellyj123	3	642	Jun 25, 2009 by kitty
	ok, just thought, just now (Preview) ok, I think I have been looking at this all wrong, I just realize that the decision to stay or leave an A husband, which i know I shouldn't make any rash decisions. I have been so far thinking about myself. It's not all about that, it's about my kids. I should be able to make myself happy in any situation, b...	Rachel262612	5	817	Jun 25, 2009 by ajay147
	Update on Last Week's Meeting (Preview) Last week I had written about a woman who was disruptive during my meeting and made me feel uncomfortable. Well after talking with God, I thought that perhaps she needed to be at that meeting and who am I to judge who should be there and who shouldn't. With that, I decided to reach out to her this week and...	N8SMOM	3	756	Jun 25, 2009 by kitty
	forgot to mention what I told my AH tonight- sorry so many posts (Preview) We were on the topice of our yard- AH mows it but that's it- so it needs weedeating really bad, it looks neglected and it's embarassing to me. Well, about a year ago our weedeater broke and never bought a new one. So, with me being on this new path I'm on, I called my Dad (step-dad) to see if i could borrow his f...	beacheemom	2	589	Jun 25, 2009 by beacheemom
	Just an update:) (Preview) Sorry I haven't been by lately, things have just been super busy work wise and the home PC was hit by a bug. Anyway things have been interesting and enlightening. The last time I posted was when I had ran into EXABF in Walmart and he had shunned my son. To cut to the chase-lol, I had an occassion after than...	shellyj123	3	769	Jun 25, 2009 by Jerry F
	confused on what I am supposed to do- just a few questions (Preview) hi everone, I am so grateful I found this place. Some of ya'll have probably read my other post, I wrote that when I first came to the board. I was angry, angry , angry. Since then, and it's only been a day or so, I have started applying step 1 to my life. It does make me feel better to know that I have not caus...	beacheemom	8	1178	Jun 25, 2009 by maresie
	Starting out - nothing changes until something changes - that way I gave myself self worth (Preview) I have found myself being asked again and again of late, "Where do I begin?" And I have noticed that there are quite a few newbies here, so I thought I would share my "Where do I start?" story. I am not here to advise I am here only to share my experience and tell you what worked for me an...	Suzannah	7	2088	Jun 25, 2009 by maresie
	talked with Ah (Preview) First thing this morn a sheriff called me, he is in my driveway. He says he has papers for me, I said,"oh what a drag!" lol of course I am a mess, lol lost a lot of fat have on baggy stretch cotton shorts,dark blue with marroon, white, yellow and turquoise paint on them. a blue tank top then a touqu...	debilyn	9	740	Jun 25, 2009 by maresie
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