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hi all I have not posted for a while lots has happened. After going to a weekend conference in march I told my ab I just wanted to be friends because I had met lots of healthy people and needed to surround myself wityh these people to help my recovery. I finally accepted i couldnt fix him. I realised i was obsessed with him and his recovery and needed to focus on myself. I never ended it to change him I did it for me and my recovery. Well something amazing happened he rang me a couple of weeks later and told me he was in AA and that he didnt want to live like he was anymore. He has been sober for a couple of months now he attends lots of meetings has a sponsor and has even been to a convention its amazing watching him grow.
I am still attending meetings and trying to stay focused on my recovery. when people in meetings used to get angrey with their sober A's I couldnt understand I wanted what they had. Although he no longer drinks he still suffers from alcoholism and has been very anxious learning to face reality. I have come out of my fluffy cloud now and realise we both have lots of hard work to do. Things are improving but I realise I have asickness I am an obsessive co dependent. I have been trying to do whats right for me keep the focus on me and some people dont like this.
Its tough this programme but its the most amazing thing that has ever happened to me and even if my AB goes backwards tomorrow I know I will be o.k thanks to al non thanks for listening
Thank you for sharing Tracey. It's nice to hear a story of somebody making it to AA and really trying on the road to recovery. I'm 100% in agreement that you need to surround yourself with health-ier people to improve your chances of your own recovery. Focusing on yourself is critical, whether others understand that or not. I salute your forward march!
Take care.
Redfred
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yes, well done, getting obsessed with others is a habit of mine also and it has not served me well in the past, keeping the focus on me upsets others at times, but they are getting used to it, I've also learned to take care of myself health wise, dental wise etc and its so worth it,
Amazing the transformations that takes place isn't it? No one said that this was an easy road, but it is so worth it. I firmly believe that everyone could benefit from some kind of 12 step program wether or not they have addiction issues. It's just such a healing and empowering program. I wish both you much success in your recoveries. I can hear such strength in your post. Well done, I'm proud of you. Keep up the great work. Love and blessings to you.
Live strong, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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