Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

el-cee · el-cee

I'm slipping. I gave my son money tonight and I am pretty sure he will drink it. I can justify it. He was verbally abusive, threatening and emotionally blackmailing. I wanted to go to my meeting and I gave him money so I could have peace in my home and I could get to my meeting. My progress fell flat for a whil...

oldergal · oldergal

No problems, situaltions to solve for anyone anymore....! What tools, steps, ideas in Al-Anon can help with loneliness....? Oldergal

Lyne · Lyne

Some days I really cope well and I feel strong. Other days not so much. I'm having alot of guilt about my son who wishes I would have already left my spouse. When he is mad or disappointed with me, I just don't feel right. It hurts so much. Just a tad codependent, yes? But it has to be my decision if I am s...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My kids went to their dads and I am going ape. I always get a bit squirrely each time they leave for a long period of time after having them basically the whole school year on my own. Now I am overthinking and I keep being wishy washy about who I am going to go camping with between my friends and now both partie...

1976love · 1976love

Today my best friend asked if I wanted to go to her house and meet up with an friend. I thought "Wow, that would be really cool!" So I told my AH I was going and would bring the kids. He asked if I could drive him to the VFW and I said no, then he asked if I could drive him to his brothers house and I sa...

Tracy · Tracy

hi all, havent posted for a bit, but still very active al anon member. Love this site wanted to pop in, it has saved my sanity so many times and helped me to clarify my thoughts and feeliings. I am currently starting step 9 aand have just made amends to Hp, I am now starting my amends to myself WOW finding th...

Highlyfavored · Highlyfavored

I'm so upset, my heart is papitating, I called my sponsor and she didn't pick-up. My 26ish y.o. grandson just called and asked if he could come by and take a shower, he got mad and hung up when I started to tell him he needed to come by and pick up his belongings. I made the mistake of letting him leave some o...

Laura Baker · Laura Baker

I have recently left my husband and i am seeking a divorce. The last two days have been pretty rough. I saw a lawyer yesterday, and he plans on having papers served next week. I am too afraid to tell my husband. I have a sponsor but have a hard time picking up the phone! I'm just down and lonely right now

Rinn · Rinn

I had a big day today. I finally accepted some things that were very hard for me. My marriage is over. But I accepted in my heart that it should be. We talked a lot last night and today. I apologized for my part. I really never understood how its his problem but I have something to apologize for until n...

nikkibatts · nikkibatts

My girlfriend, whom I love very, very much, is an alcoholic. She's been in and out of recovery for a couple of years and as of Sunday had over 3 months of sobriety. She was doing very well, back to work, gaining independence, becoming a much better partner. We were the happiest I think we've been in our yea...

amethysts · amethysts

Hi! well I dont really know where to start and it may be long. I have been with my partner for 17 years, and got engaged 16 years ago. He is 36, I 33. We have always been very close and in love. He is a good man, works hard and looks after our home. He has always enjoyed a drink since I can remember and it's been t...

ntxalanon · ntxalanon

I am sure that this has been a topic many times (search didn't find much though), but my AW asked me to stop drinking. She has been fighting the disease for 6+ years and has been sober off and on with several slip ups/rehab, etc. She usually has gone for long stretches 9 months to a year then a slip. For con...

Pushka · Pushka

Ohhhh yes .. strikes again .. and I laugh and have tears at the same time .. dang hormones!! Oh well, it is what it is, court is coming fast and furious. Very interesting day today to say the least. I'm asking for some prayers especially in wisdom and doing the next right thing. It's all very scary at t...

Rinn · Rinn

it is so hard to look back at my marriage and see all the good and wonderful times, our family and kids. Addiction has truely taken it all away now. My husband is not only an addict, but really walked away from me. That was hard. he only comes around when he wants something or to use me. He steals, he was out w...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

Today AH and I celebrate 21 years of marriage. I never imagined that our relationship would be where it is today, but despite all the craziness of recent months, I am happy today. He is actively working his recovery, I'm staying on my side of the street, working on my own recovery. I truly wish I had found...

1976love · 1976love

I don't know what has happened to me, is it recovery, or I just don't care. I have read the book getting them sober and I loved every page. Tonight my AH came home from work in a crappy mood and I knew something was up, but whatever, I was happy. A little later he told me he was drinking again and all I said wa...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I feel a little queasy tonight and I think I was running a fever today. I am under an immense amount of stress lately as I try to back off and just do my own thing for awhile and not reach out to my A boyfriend. By reach out I mean I haven't really felt like telling him I love him lately, or spending time with him m...

tortuga · tortuga

.... and by the way, I am coming here regularly to hide from the roaming of this disease. exABF is back to drinking, and so I'm back as a projection surface for him and all his wrongs in life. This would have destroyed me 1 year ago, with all the attacks, and 'you are too good for me', arrogant attitude, 'my f...

Mathieu · Mathieu

I am attending the Al Anon International in Vancouver. Active in Al Anon for 22 years, I recently moved from across the border (Niagara Falls, NY) area to San Diego. I have sustained a disability, and my income is a bit lower than before. I wonder if there are any active Al Anon males out there, heter...

Pushka · Pushka

Nothing huge just reflecting on my day. I frequent my addiction of choice which is chocolate coffee and of course since I'm a spoiled brat it's not inexpensive. Anyway, starbucks my drug of choice early this AM. I had to laugh ... I'm kind of HHALTing at the moment which for me means (Hormonal, Hung...

tortuga · tortuga

...even though I probably have to say goodbye to a person in my life. He is my ex ABF, and those here for me and with me this past year know we had some storms through withdrawal. At this point, I'm 1 year in Al Anon, happy to be, because I think that's the reason I didn't go insane with it all. what happened......

grateful2be · grateful2be

My son returned from prison unexpectedly today. He was supposed to be released last week, but it didn't happen. I don't know why. This afternoon, his PO called me at work - something I have asked that office NOT to do and put my son on the phone to re-ask me if he could stay at my place until the County had...

Concerned Little Sister · Concerned Little Sister

Returned from family vacation in Mexico 1.5 weeks ago where bro-in-law binged. He adamantly denies it to this day and my sister is almost believing him. I have proof he drank from the hotel manager. He claims to have quit 1.5 years ago after a DUI. Do I withhold this information because nothing wi...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

For a few years now I've been trying to find a way out from under the As purse strings. It has been difficult given that when I got sick 7 years ago I had to stop working. Of course God led me to my REAL job which was going through the 12 steps where I came out of denial and found Him. ive had a lot of trauma to work...

Pushka · Pushka

I don't mean in terms of is it me that all of the bad stuff happens .. LOL .. I know my part in those situations for the most I think. I mean is it me that when things are going good I am just as bad as an A where I will create situations, get lax in my program and this of course doesn't happen when things are bad .. t...

Bettina · Bettina

Remember it all comes down to YOU. Don't rely on others or wait for them to do something. Try to develop such a strong sense of responsibility that you can stand up to the fiercest storms, confidently proclaiming, I will do it. Just watch me. Please confront reality, look at it squarely in the face and...

bud · bud

How can I effectively respond when a manipulator states, "you're angry", to gain control and shut down the other person? Walking away from the situation would be my first choice, but it may not be possible. Stating "ok" or "maybe you're right" doesn't seem to appl...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

My goodness, my friends-- the outpouring here is literally bringing tears to my eyes--but in a good way! haha this evening was surreal: after a full day of my oldest son helping H move out of the house, shortly after I got home from work he stopped by, had dinner (asked if it was ok), he and I had a very nic...

stephaniej · stephaniej

The decision has been almost 3 years in the making for me, and in retrospect I think the biggest barrier to me was a feeling of total and utter failure at having TWO failed marriages before I turn 40. But, nothing is changing, nothing is getting better, and it is increasingly difficult for me to maintain...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I was dating a man on and off for the last 9 months and he gave me red flags, pushed my boundaries too far last weekend and I finally threw in the towel. He was not an A, but was raised by one and slowly lots of the traits came out. I feel like an idiot like I should have known better after all this time in al-anon...

Bettina · Bettina

When we are aware that each moment of each day , each gesture and step we take, is truly mystical and full of wonder, we will live our lives with greater thought and care. We will also have greater respect and appreciation for the lives of others. Make it a great Day! Hugs, Bettina

oldergal · oldergal

"MISERY IS A CHOICE", we all get up everyday and have a choice of attitudes pick a loving, positive one please. You are a beautiful human being, no matter what you have done before you became aware of your unwanted behavior. I am counting on you to make our world a better place to live in.... O...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I came home early from work because I just wasn't feeling well and I was up really late last night. Had a good weekend and I thought things are going good and might have son back someday. But, I just don't know. I took a nap and now I just finished lighting my candles for son and others I pray for. I just star...

BNH · BNH

My husband is addicted to synthetic weed. Yes as crazy as that sounds " fake weed" aka spice or whatever you wanna call it! I knew it had gotten bad but yesterday I found out how bad it really has gotten. He used the company credit card to buy it! It has been banned here. I have tried everything in...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

My 8 month old sweet pup was attacked while we were out walking Friday night. He was on leash and he was attacked by 2 American bulldogs( think big pit bull looking dogs with strong jowls). I somehow got in the mix trying to protect the dog. My physicak wounds are healing but emotionally I am a mess. Ev...

Jen61 · Jen61

I went to a F2F Meeting tonight. I had not been in over 5 weeks. It was a good meeting and it gave me a lot of food for thought. I almost did not go but thought you have got to. I walked out feeling better.

sportychick · sportychick

I've been in Al Anon for 2 years. I'm currently living back at home as my Husband is OS for work and as we have a 2 and a half year old son and with me working full time it's easier to be back at home with the help etc. Well so I thought. My mum an Adult child I believe and non treated Al Anon. my husband is what init...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I just wanted to let everyone know that today I feel great! It's a beautiful day today in Toronto and this morning I was able to go for a nice walk while my car was getting fixed. Turns out there was nothing wrong so they didn't even cha...

1976love · 1976love

This weekend at my Saturday meeting (my favorite meeting ever) This woman gave me her phone number and said "Please call me! I want to talk you." So when I came home I did my motherly running around and finaly had a moment to sit in the quiet and call her. We discussed many things and she aske...

Pushka · Pushka

The good news is that this looks like I FINALLY might be getting a divorce, at this point we still may have to go to court at LEAST we can start moving forward on some level. The sad thing is that we don't need to go to court and that's what is REALLY sad. All this money being spent and I don't have it and neit...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: Well tonight is the surreal experience of all being in the house together (middle school daughter had a concert) the night before my H moves out. It is strange but right now at least everyone seems to be doing okay. He signed a lease and got keys today, and tomorrow am furniture will be de...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi MIP Family I am so happy today. My favorite meeting, a Monday Night Step and Tradition meeting lost our meeting space at a local hospital due to Hurricane Sandy. We have e an alternate space but the rent is $200.00 a month and difficult to make at times. We had approached the hospital several tim...

Aimee · Aimee

Hi! The subject line is how my husband describes his addiction. Pretty funny, huh? Since finding out about the betrayal of our 13 year marriage (sexual encounters with coworkers, prostitutes and random women) our relationship has been through many ups and many downs as you can probably imagine....

Ms S · Ms S

I live with an active A and we own our flat jointly ( I am grateful to have some capital) I have little hope that our relationship can improve as I don`t see signs of the A stopping drinking since I started al anon a few years ago my relationship with myself is a lot better which feels miraculous and gives me h...

CeeBee · CeeBee

Hey everyone, I'm so grateful to have the Al-Anon Message Board! I'm overseas at the moment with my partner.. I joined Al-Anon more than 6 months ago, and have been to 2 - 5 meetings a week since that time. Now that I'm overseas on a remote island, I can't get to a meeting.. it's only been about a week but I'm...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Tomorrow could be one of the best days of my life & living w/o fear. I am so glad that my surgeries are coming up. My eyes will be better than ever before. I am go grateful for the means to get the surgery. Never before in my life could I have been able to afford surgery at all. So, my dad & step-mom had t...

dponlyme · dponlyme

AW has been alcohol free for over 3 weeks now and seems a lot happier and we have even gotten a little closer. We've played games together and watched movies together etc. I have started sleeping in the same bed with her and even have been intimate. I have NOT been concentrating on her recovery but I als...

sookie · sookie

I was awake literally all night tossing and turning with worry about my separated AH, who relapsed (again) this weekend and isolated himself in his apartment. I am always filled with anxiety that he will harm himself--he is filled with self-loathing. My entire night was spent flip-flopping betwee...

Melodibella · Melodibella

Hello ,first day first timer. HA ( husband is a long time alcoholic) I think is what I say, He is a work ahalolic , heavy on Doctor Rx, And I need this Al-Anon bad! I am always the one that is doing wrong, acting wrong and hes the mister nice perfect guy in everyone's eyes, so he plays. He is a God fearing man t...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

as many readers know, im married to an active functioning alcoholic. have onechild who is the light of my life and trying to keep our little family in tact despite my husb active drinking and many many issues ranging from chronic pain., to childhood abandonment issues, to seeing the world as being dow...

jojo74 · jojo74

well i hope i am posting in the right place. I am looking for advice about my best friend. i am totally confused at this point and not sure what to do next. my friend has always drunk A LOT. When we go out she ALWAYS has many big glasses of wine, always gets very drunk and has black outs, actually having sa...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Oh my not getting to a meeting for 3 and finally I get to one. And boy walking in that door and seeing all of my family I call al Alon now. I felt at home. I had some positive days and I felt almost like the old me. That drink that drove me to his side of the street is now out of the house .. Please don't take this wron...

hotrod · hotrod

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summerlee82 · summerlee82

I don't even know where to begin. I have no one to talk to because I haven't shared this "secret" with anyone other than one person at work. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing and he refuses to even talk about it. If I even try to express my concerns, he gets defensive. I met the guy of my drea...

clflint · clflint

Life is a journey. For me, the journey with my AH began 32 years ago. I was 20 years old and full of all the hope and excitement a new marriage brings. Over the years, it became apparent to me that this journey was not going to be anywhere close to what I was dreaming about the day I said, "I Do."...

flinn66 · flinn66

Last weekend I was away in Florida for a few days, nice to enjoy some welcome sunshine. My cat sitter was not available and as my ex A has been sober for a while now (although not in recovery) I asked if he could call round and feed the cat for a couple of days. Well you can probably already see where this is goi...

sookie · sookie

I am exhausted from living in limbo--paralyzed with fear about making the decision to divorce my already separated AH. I pray every night for the guidance--asking God, what am I supposed to do? I also pray for the strength to carry out God's Will...once I figure out what it is. We have 2 small kids and th...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

My friends: As a few of you have told me, the emotions are everywhere and yes I actually feel downright manic at times! A student at my school saw me laughing with another teacher and said, 'look you made Ms. D smile--I mean really smile!'. That made me realize 1) I have not been showing my real smile nea...

blondie99 · blondie99

Don't know about you all, but I am SO grateful that it is Saturday! Even though we had last Monday off for Memorial Day, it was the l-o-n-g-e-s-t shortest week ever. HP chose to give me a break after the week from hell I had. It's been pretty quiet around here and I'm taking it as an opportunity to employ th...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone Well, I get a call from my son. He is home from his visit with his father. Heard all the ups and downs but all is OK. Now I'm told by my son that he is coming for a visit this afternoon because my PARTNER told him to come this weekend again and they will go shooting the new AR15. I didn't know anyth...

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	slip (Preview) I'm slipping. I gave my son money tonight and I am pretty sure he will drink it. I can justify it. He was verbally abusive, threatening and emotionally blackmailing. I wanted to go to my meeting and I gave him money so I could have peace in my home and I could get to my meeting. My progress fell flat for a whil...	el-cee	11	267	Jun 9, 2013 by Path to Serenity
	How Can Al-Anon Program Help With Loneliness (Preview) No problems, situaltions to solve for anyone anymore....! What tools, steps, ideas in Al-Anon can help with loneliness....? Oldergal	oldergal	8	259	Jun 9, 2013 by ClearTheFog
	roller coaster (Preview) Some days I really cope well and I feel strong. Other days not so much. I'm having alot of guilt about my son who wishes I would have already left my spouse. When he is mad or disappointed with me, I just don't feel right. It hurts so much. Just a tad codependent, yes? But it has to be my decision if I am s...	Lyne	6	283	Jun 9, 2013 by Path to Serenity
	I have way over reacted instead of stopped to think and now it created drama (Preview) My kids went to their dads and I am going ape. I always get a bit squirrely each time they leave for a long period of time after having them basically the whole school year on my own. Now I am overthinking and I keep being wishy washy about who I am going to go camping with between my friends and now both partie...	Breakingfree	5	524	Jun 9, 2013 by Pushka
	letting the crisis happen (Preview) Today my best friend asked if I wanted to go to her house and meet up with an friend. I thought "Wow, that would be really cool!" So I told my AH I was going and would bring the kids. He asked if I could drive him to the VFW and I said no, then he asked if I could drive him to his brothers house and I sa...	1976love	2	362	Jun 9, 2013 by pinkchip
	amends to slef (Preview) hi all, havent posted for a bit, but still very active al anon member. Love this site wanted to pop in, it has saved my sanity so many times and helped me to clarify my thoughts and feeliings. I am currently starting step 9 aand have just made amends to Hp, I am now starting my amends to myself WOW finding th...	Tracy	6	649	Jun 9, 2013 by Peggy7
	Trying to "let go and let God" (Preview) I'm so upset, my heart is papitating, I called my sponsor and she didn't pick-up. My 26ish y.o. grandson just called and asked if he could come by and take a shower, he got mad and hung up when I started to tell him he needed to come by and pick up his belongings. I made the mistake of letting him leave some o...	Highlyfavored	8	540	Jun 9, 2013 by Bettina
	Feeling down (Preview) I have recently left my husband and i am seeking a divorce. The last two days have been pretty rough. I saw a lawyer yesterday, and he plans on having papers served next week. I am too afraid to tell my husband. I have a sponsor but have a hard time picking up the phone! I'm just down and lonely right now	Laura Baker	9	509	Jun 9, 2013 by Laura Baker
	a big acceptance (Preview) I had a big day today. I finally accepted some things that were very hard for me. My marriage is over. But I accepted in my heart that it should be. We talked a lot last night and today. I apologized for my part. I really never understood how its his problem but I have something to apologize for until n...	Rinn	4	249	Jun 9, 2013 by PP
	How many chances are too many? (Preview) My girlfriend, whom I love very, very much, is an alcoholic. She's been in and out of recovery for a couple of years and as of Sunday had over 3 months of sobriety. She was doing very well, back to work, gaining independence, becoming a much better partner. We were the happiest I think we've been in our yea...	nikkibatts	10	546	Jun 8, 2013 by Bettina
	Am I mad to be thinking of leaving him? Is it me? (Preview) Hi! well I dont really know where to start and it may be long. I have been with my partner for 17 years, and got engaged 16 years ago. He is 36, I 33. We have always been very close and in love. He is a good man, works hard and looks after our home. He has always enjoyed a drink since I can remember and it's been t...	amethysts	10	461	Jun 8, 2013 by grateful2be
	AW asked me to not drink (Preview) I am sure that this has been a topic many times (search didn't find much though), but my AW asked me to stop drinking. She has been fighting the disease for 6+ years and has been sober off and on with several slip ups/rehab, etc. She usually has gone for long stretches 9 months to a year then a slip. For con...	ntxalanon	20	689	Jun 8, 2013 by Ms S
	Pretty Special Snowflakes .. (Preview) Ohhhh yes .. strikes again .. and I laugh and have tears at the same time .. dang hormones!! Oh well, it is what it is, court is coming fast and furious. Very interesting day today to say the least. I'm asking for some prayers especially in wisdom and doing the next right thing. It's all very scary at t...	Pushka	9	259	Jun 7, 2013 by grateful2be
	easing the heart ache (Preview) it is so hard to look back at my marriage and see all the good and wonderful times, our family and kids. Addiction has truely taken it all away now. My husband is not only an addict, but really walked away from me. That was hard. he only comes around when he wants something or to use me. He steals, he was out w...	Rinn	9	377	Jun 7, 2013 by grateful2be
	Wedding Anniversary (Preview) Today AH and I celebrate 21 years of marriage. I never imagined that our relationship would be where it is today, but despite all the craziness of recent months, I am happy today. He is actively working his recovery, I'm staying on my side of the street, working on my own recovery. I truly wish I had found...	ParisMemories	6	366	Jun 7, 2013 by PP
	Whats going on with me? (Preview) I don't know what has happened to me, is it recovery, or I just don't care. I have read the book getting them sober and I loved every page. Tonight my AH came home from work in a crappy mood and I knew something was up, but whatever, I was happy. A little later he told me he was drinking again and all I said wa...	1976love	9	478	Jun 7, 2013 by pinkchip
	threats from the Alcoholic (Preview) I feel a little queasy tonight and I think I was running a fever today. I am under an immense amount of stress lately as I try to back off and just do my own thing for awhile and not reach out to my A boyfriend. By reach out I mean I haven't really felt like telling him I love him lately, or spending time with him m...	giraffe13	8	777	Jun 7, 2013 by PP
	finding shelter in Al Anon during destructive storm (Preview) .... and by the way, I am coming here regularly to hide from the roaming of this disease. exABF is back to drinking, and so I'm back as a projection surface for him and all his wrongs in life. This would have destroyed me 1 year ago, with all the attacks, and 'you are too good for me', arrogant attitude, 'my f...	tortuga	2	275	Jun 7, 2013 by Tracy
	Vancouver International (Preview) I am attending the Al Anon International in Vancouver. Active in Al Anon for 22 years, I recently moved from across the border (Niagara Falls, NY) area to San Diego. I have sustained a disability, and my income is a bit lower than before. I wonder if there are any active Al Anon males out there, heter...	Mathieu	0	343	Jun 7, 2013 by Mathieu
	Having a moment .. (Preview) Nothing huge just reflecting on my day. I frequent my addiction of choice which is chocolate coffee and of course since I'm a spoiled brat it's not inexpensive. Anyway, starbucks my drug of choice early this AM. I had to laugh ... I'm kind of HHALTing at the moment which for me means (Hormonal, Hung...	Pushka	7	272	Jun 6, 2013 by yanksfan51
	I'm alright... (Preview) ...even though I probably have to say goodbye to a person in my life. He is my ex ABF, and those here for me and with me this past year know we had some storms through withdrawal. At this point, I'm 1 year in Al Anon, happy to be, because I think that's the reason I didn't go insane with it all. what happened......	tortuga	3	335	Jun 6, 2013 by ParisMemories
	My son returns (Preview) My son returned from prison unexpectedly today. He was supposed to be released last week, but it didn't happen. I don't know why. This afternoon, his PO called me at work - something I have asked that office NOT to do and put my son on the phone to re-ask me if he could stay at my place until the County had...	grateful2be	11	479	Jun 6, 2013 by Debilyn
	Tell my sister about her hubby's binge or not? (Preview) Returned from family vacation in Mexico 1.5 weeks ago where bro-in-law binged. He adamantly denies it to this day and my sister is almost believing him. I have proof he drank from the hotel manager. He claims to have quit 1.5 years ago after a DUI. Do I withhold this information because nothing wi...	Concerned Little Sister	12	631	Jun 6, 2013 by rehprof
	Moving Forward (Preview) For a few years now I've been trying to find a way out from under the As purse strings. It has been difficult given that when I got sick 7 years ago I had to stop working. Of course God led me to my REAL job which was going through the 12 steps where I came out of denial and found Him. ive had a lot of trauma to work...	WorkingThroughIt	9	465	Jun 6, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Is it me? (Preview) I don't mean in terms of is it me that all of the bad stuff happens .. LOL .. I know my part in those situations for the most I think. I mean is it me that when things are going good I am just as bad as an A where I will create situations, get lax in my program and this of course doesn't happen when things are bad .. t...	Pushka	9	337	Jun 6, 2013 by Green Eyes
	and a Little more Wisdom for Modern Life (Preview) Remember it all comes down to YOU. Don't rely on others or wait for them to do something. Try to develop such a strong sense of responsibility that you can stand up to the fiercest storms, confidently proclaiming, I will do it. Just watch me. Please confront reality, look at it squarely in the face and...	Bettina	4	219	Jun 6, 2013 by Malsey
	help please (Preview) How can I effectively respond when a manipulator states, "you're angry", to gain control and shut down the other person? Walking away from the situation would be my first choice, but it may not be possible. Stating "ok" or "maybe you're right" doesn't seem to appl...	bud	17	280	Jun 6, 2013 by bud
	Thank you all! (Preview) My goodness, my friends-- the outpouring here is literally bringing tears to my eyes--but in a good way! haha this evening was surreal: after a full day of my oldest son helping H move out of the house, shortly after I got home from work he stopped by, had dinner (asked if it was ok), he and I had a very nic...	yanksfan51	7	237	Jun 5, 2013 by Ms S
	I am going to file for divorce (Preview) The decision has been almost 3 years in the making for me, and in retrospect I think the biggest barrier to me was a feeling of total and utter failure at having TWO failed marriages before I turn 40. But, nothing is changing, nothing is getting better, and it is increasingly difficult for me to maintain...	stephaniej	10	598	Jun 5, 2013 by unsureoffuture
	Single again (Preview) I was dating a man on and off for the last 9 months and he gave me red flags, pushed my boundaries too far last weekend and I finally threw in the towel. He was not an A, but was raised by one and slowly lots of the traits came out. I feel like an idiot like I should have known better after all this time in al-anon...	Breakingfree	9	295	Jun 5, 2013 by Jackie11
	Wisdom for Modern Life-Thoughts for the Day! (Preview) When we are aware that each moment of each day , each gesture and step we take, is truly mystical and full of wonder, we will live our lives with greater thought and care. We will also have greater respect and appreciation for the lives of others. Make it a great Day! Hugs, Bettina	Bettina	1	963	Jun 5, 2013 by PP
	One of My Favorite Saying's (Preview) "MISERY IS A CHOICE", we all get up everyday and have a choice of attitudes pick a loving, positive one please. You are a beautiful human being, no matter what you have done before you became aware of your unwanted behavior. I am counting on you to make our world a better place to live in.... O...	oldergal	5	254	Jun 5, 2013 by LeenieBeanie
	It's a sad day (Preview) I came home early from work because I just wasn't feeling well and I was up really late last night. Had a good weekend and I thought things are going good and might have son back someday. But, I just don't know. I took a nap and now I just finished lighting my candles for son and others I pray for. I just star...	Cathyinaz	11	484	Jun 5, 2013 by LeenieBeanie
	Needing Help (Preview) My husband is addicted to synthetic weed. Yes as crazy as that sounds " fake weed" aka spice or whatever you wanna call it! I knew it had gotten bad but yesterday I found out how bad it really has gotten. He used the company credit card to buy it! It has been banned here. I have tried everything in...	BNH	3	323	Jun 5, 2013 by PP
	OT: my puppy was attacked (Preview) My 8 month old sweet pup was attacked while we were out walking Friday night. He was on leash and he was attacked by 2 American bulldogs( think big pit bull looking dogs with strong jowls). I somehow got in the mix trying to protect the dog. My physicak wounds are healing but emotionally I am a mess. Ev...	ilovedogs	9	446	Jun 5, 2013 by Pushka
	F2F Meetings. (Preview) I went to a F2F Meeting tonight. I had not been in over 5 weeks. It was a good meeting and it gave me a lot of food for thought. I almost did not go but thought you have got to. I walked out feeling better.	Jen61	3	168	Jun 5, 2013 by Pushka
	How to detach from my Mothers crap (Preview) I've been in Al Anon for 2 years. I'm currently living back at home as my Husband is OS for work and as we have a 2 and a half year old son and with me working full time it's easier to be back at home with the help etc. Well so I thought. My mum an Adult child I believe and non treated Al Anon. my husband is what init...	sportychick	6	678	Jun 5, 2013 by Debilyn
	Feeling great! (Preview) Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I just wanted to let everyone know that today I feel great! It's a beautiful day today in Toronto and this morning I was able to go for a nice walk while my car was getting fixed. Turns out there was nothing wrong so they didn't even cha...	slogan_jim	6	226	Jun 5, 2013 by Jerry F
	a positive update (Preview) This weekend at my Saturday meeting (my favorite meeting ever) This woman gave me her phone number and said "Please call me! I want to talk you." So when I came home I did my motherly running around and finaly had a moment to sit in the quiet and call her. We discussed many things and she aske...	1976love	9	421	Jun 5, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Another court date .. (Preview) The good news is that this looks like I FINALLY might be getting a divorce, at this point we still may have to go to court at LEAST we can start moving forward on some level. The sad thing is that we don't need to go to court and that's what is REALLY sad. All this money being spent and I don't have it and neit...	Pushka	6	333	Jun 5, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Tomorrow is moveout (Preview) Hi Everybody: Well tonight is the surreal experience of all being in the house together (middle school daughter had a concert) the night before my H moves out. It is strange but right now at least everyone seems to be doing okay. He signed a lease and got keys today, and tomorrow am furniture will be de...	yanksfan51	13	493	Jun 4, 2013 by el-cee
	Thank You HP (Preview) Hi MIP Family I am so happy today. My favorite meeting, a Monday Night Step and Tradition meeting lost our meeting space at a local hospital due to Hurricane Sandy. We have e an alternate space but the rent is $200.00 a month and difficult to make at times. We had approached the hospital several tim...	hotrod	8	286	Jun 4, 2013 by hotrod
	Sex Addict with a minor in Alcoholism (Preview) Hi! The subject line is how my husband describes his addiction. Pretty funny, huh? Since finding out about the betrayal of our 13 year marriage (sexual encounters with coworkers, prostitutes and random women) our relationship has been through many ups and many downs as you can probably imagine....	Aimee	6	489	Jun 4, 2013 by PP
	I am sad and sorry (Preview) I live with an active A and we own our flat jointly ( I am grateful to have some capital) I have little hope that our relationship can improve as I don`t see signs of the A stopping drinking since I started al anon a few years ago my relationship with myself is a lot better which feels miraculous and gives me h...	Ms S	6	661	Jun 4, 2013 by Ms S
	I keep wondering what is wrong with me? Am I ungrateful? Broken? (Preview) Hey everyone, I'm so grateful to have the Al-Anon Message Board! I'm overseas at the moment with my partner.. I joined Al-Anon more than 6 months ago, and have been to 2 - 5 meetings a week since that time. Now that I'm overseas on a remote island, I can't get to a meeting.. it's only been about a week but I'm...	CeeBee	6	596	Jun 4, 2013 by bud
	Ok here I go: (Preview) Tomorrow could be one of the best days of my life & living w/o fear. I am so glad that my surgeries are coming up. My eyes will be better than ever before. I am go grateful for the means to get the surgery. Never before in my life could I have been able to afford surgery at all. So, my dad & step-mom had t...	Hoot Nanny	2	207	Jun 3, 2013 by el-cee
	Everything is going well-- but I have some issues with myself (Preview) AW has been alcohol free for over 3 weeks now and seems a lot happier and we have even gotten a little closer. We've played games together and watched movies together etc. I have started sleeping in the same bed with her and even have been intimate. I have NOT been concentrating on her recovery but I als...	dponlyme	5	250	Jun 3, 2013 by Aloha
	Somehow...you are given what you need (Preview) I was awake literally all night tossing and turning with worry about my separated AH, who relapsed (again) this weekend and isolated himself in his apartment. I am always filled with anxiety that he will harm himself--he is filled with self-loathing. My entire night was spent flip-flopping betwee...	sookie	6	343	Jun 3, 2013 by youfoundme
	Baby in Al-Anon (Preview) Hello ,first day first timer. HA ( husband is a long time alcoholic) I think is what I say, He is a work ahalolic , heavy on Doctor Rx, And I need this Al-Anon bad! I am always the one that is doing wrong, acting wrong and hes the mister nice perfect guy in everyone's eyes, so he plays. He is a God fearing man t...	Melodibella	6	396	Jun 3, 2013 by youfoundme
	parenting and the active alc spouse parenting activ alc spouse (Preview) as many readers know, im married to an active functioning alcoholic. have onechild who is the light of my life and trying to keep our little family in tact despite my husb active drinking and many many issues ranging from chronic pain., to childhood abandonment issues, to seeing the world as being dow...	Theoceancalls	10	623	Jun 3, 2013 by MeTwo2
	advice about friend (Preview) well i hope i am posting in the right place. I am looking for advice about my best friend. i am totally confused at this point and not sure what to do next. my friend has always drunk A LOT. When we go out she ALWAYS has many big glasses of wine, always gets very drunk and has black outs, actually having sa...	jojo74	3	184	Jun 3, 2013 by jojo74
	Got to a meeting finally (Preview) Oh my not getting to a meeting for 3 and finally I get to one. And boy walking in that door and seeing all of my family I call al Alon now. I felt at home. I had some positive days and I felt almost like the old me. That drink that drove me to his side of the street is now out of the house .. Please don't take this wron...	Ms co-dependent	5	333	Jun 3, 2013 by Ms co-dependent
	STEP 5 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53914155/step-5-alanon/	hotrod	4	456	Jun 3, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Am I giving up too much??? (Preview) I don't even know where to begin. I have no one to talk to because I haven't shared this "secret" with anyone other than one person at work. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing and he refuses to even talk about it. If I even try to express my concerns, he gets defensive. I met the guy of my drea...	summerlee82	11	559	Jun 3, 2013 by Geo
	Life is a journey (Preview) Life is a journey. For me, the journey with my AH began 32 years ago. I was 20 years old and full of all the hope and excitement a new marriage brings. Over the years, it became apparent to me that this journey was not going to be anywhere close to what I was dreaming about the day I said, "I Do."...	clflint	5	342	Jun 3, 2013 by clflint
	Trust betrayed - will I ever learn? (Preview) Last weekend I was away in Florida for a few days, nice to enjoy some welcome sunshine. My cat sitter was not available and as my ex A has been sober for a while now (although not in recovery) I asked if he could call round and feed the cat for a couple of days. Well you can probably already see where this is goi...	flinn66	11	803	Jun 3, 2013 by flinn66
	Praying for knowledge of God's Will... (Preview) I am exhausted from living in limbo--paralyzed with fear about making the decision to divorce my already separated AH. I pray every night for the guidance--asking God, what am I supposed to do? I also pray for the strength to carry out God's Will...once I figure out what it is. We have 2 small kids and th...	sookie	9	791	Jun 3, 2013 by sookie
	As promised, my daily thoughts, like it or not! (Preview) My friends: As a few of you have told me, the emotions are everywhere and yes I actually feel downright manic at times! A student at my school saw me laughing with another teacher and said, 'look you made Ms. D smile--I mean really smile!'. That made me realize 1) I have not been showing my real smile nea...	yanksfan51	11	549	Jun 3, 2013 by Lyne
	the practice of grace and thankfulness (Preview) Don't know about you all, but I am SO grateful that it is Saturday! Even though we had last Monday off for Memorial Day, it was the l-o-n-g-e-s-t shortest week ever. HP chose to give me a break after the week from hell I had. It's been pretty quiet around here and I'm taking it as an opportunity to employ th...	blondie99	6	645	Jun 2, 2013 by PP
	Mixed Feelings (Preview) Hi Everyone Well, I get a call from my son. He is home from his visit with his father. Heard all the ups and downs but all is OK. Now I'm told by my son that he is coming for a visit this afternoon because my PARTNER told him to come this weekend again and they will go shooting the new AR15. I didn't know anyth...	Cathyinaz	8	375	Jun 2, 2013 by Bettina
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