Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Bettina · Bettina

Remember it all comes down to YOU. Don't rely on others or wait for them to do something. Try to develop such a strong sense of responsibility that you can stand up to the fiercest storms, confidently proclaiming, I will do it. Just watch me. Please confront reality, look at it squarely in the face and...

bud · bud

How can I effectively respond when a manipulator states, "you're angry", to gain control and shut down the other person? Walking away from the situation would be my first choice, but it may not be possible. Stating "ok" or "maybe you're right" doesn't seem to appl...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

My goodness, my friends-- the outpouring here is literally bringing tears to my eyes--but in a good way! haha this evening was surreal: after a full day of my oldest son helping H move out of the house, shortly after I got home from work he stopped by, had dinner (asked if it was ok), he and I had a very nic...

stephaniej · stephaniej

The decision has been almost 3 years in the making for me, and in retrospect I think the biggest barrier to me was a feeling of total and utter failure at having TWO failed marriages before I turn 40. But, nothing is changing, nothing is getting better, and it is increasingly difficult for me to maintain...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I was dating a man on and off for the last 9 months and he gave me red flags, pushed my boundaries too far last weekend and I finally threw in the towel. He was not an A, but was raised by one and slowly lots of the traits came out. I feel like an idiot like I should have known better after all this time in al-anon...

Bettina · Bettina

When we are aware that each moment of each day , each gesture and step we take, is truly mystical and full of wonder, we will live our lives with greater thought and care. We will also have greater respect and appreciation for the lives of others. Make it a great Day! Hugs, Bettina

oldergal · oldergal

"MISERY IS A CHOICE", we all get up everyday and have a choice of attitudes pick a loving, positive one please. You are a beautiful human being, no matter what you have done before you became aware of your unwanted behavior. I am counting on you to make our world a better place to live in.... O...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I came home early from work because I just wasn't feeling well and I was up really late last night. Had a good weekend and I thought things are going good and might have son back someday. But, I just don't know. I took a nap and now I just finished lighting my candles for son and others I pray for. I just star...

BNH · BNH

My husband is addicted to synthetic weed. Yes as crazy as that sounds " fake weed" aka spice or whatever you wanna call it! I knew it had gotten bad but yesterday I found out how bad it really has gotten. He used the company credit card to buy it! It has been banned here. I have tried everything in...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

My 8 month old sweet pup was attacked while we were out walking Friday night. He was on leash and he was attacked by 2 American bulldogs( think big pit bull looking dogs with strong jowls). I somehow got in the mix trying to protect the dog. My physicak wounds are healing but emotionally I am a mess. Ev...

Jen61 · Jen61

I went to a F2F Meeting tonight. I had not been in over 5 weeks. It was a good meeting and it gave me a lot of food for thought. I almost did not go but thought you have got to. I walked out feeling better.

sportychick · sportychick

I've been in Al Anon for 2 years. I'm currently living back at home as my Husband is OS for work and as we have a 2 and a half year old son and with me working full time it's easier to be back at home with the help etc. Well so I thought. My mum an Adult child I believe and non treated Al Anon. my husband is what init...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I just wanted to let everyone know that today I feel great! It's a beautiful day today in Toronto and this morning I was able to go for a nice walk while my car was getting fixed. Turns out there was nothing wrong so they didn't even cha...

1976love · 1976love

This weekend at my Saturday meeting (my favorite meeting ever) This woman gave me her phone number and said "Please call me! I want to talk you." So when I came home I did my motherly running around and finaly had a moment to sit in the quiet and call her. We discussed many things and she aske...

Pushka · Pushka

The good news is that this looks like I FINALLY might be getting a divorce, at this point we still may have to go to court at LEAST we can start moving forward on some level. The sad thing is that we don't need to go to court and that's what is REALLY sad. All this money being spent and I don't have it and neit...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: Well tonight is the surreal experience of all being in the house together (middle school daughter had a concert) the night before my H moves out. It is strange but right now at least everyone seems to be doing okay. He signed a lease and got keys today, and tomorrow am furniture will be de...

hotrod · hotrod

Hi MIP Family I am so happy today. My favorite meeting, a Monday Night Step and Tradition meeting lost our meeting space at a local hospital due to Hurricane Sandy. We have e an alternate space but the rent is $200.00 a month and difficult to make at times. We had approached the hospital several tim...

Aimee · Aimee

Hi! The subject line is how my husband describes his addiction. Pretty funny, huh? Since finding out about the betrayal of our 13 year marriage (sexual encounters with coworkers, prostitutes and random women) our relationship has been through many ups and many downs as you can probably imagine....

Ms S · Ms S

I live with an active A and we own our flat jointly ( I am grateful to have some capital) I have little hope that our relationship can improve as I don`t see signs of the A stopping drinking since I started al anon a few years ago my relationship with myself is a lot better which feels miraculous and gives me h...

CeeBee · CeeBee

Hey everyone, I'm so grateful to have the Al-Anon Message Board! I'm overseas at the moment with my partner.. I joined Al-Anon more than 6 months ago, and have been to 2 - 5 meetings a week since that time. Now that I'm overseas on a remote island, I can't get to a meeting.. it's only been about a week but I'm...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Tomorrow could be one of the best days of my life & living w/o fear. I am so glad that my surgeries are coming up. My eyes will be better than ever before. I am go grateful for the means to get the surgery. Never before in my life could I have been able to afford surgery at all. So, my dad & step-mom had t...

dponlyme · dponlyme

AW has been alcohol free for over 3 weeks now and seems a lot happier and we have even gotten a little closer. We've played games together and watched movies together etc. I have started sleeping in the same bed with her and even have been intimate. I have NOT been concentrating on her recovery but I als...

sookie · sookie

I was awake literally all night tossing and turning with worry about my separated AH, who relapsed (again) this weekend and isolated himself in his apartment. I am always filled with anxiety that he will harm himself--he is filled with self-loathing. My entire night was spent flip-flopping betwee...

Melodibella · Melodibella

Hello ,first day first timer. HA ( husband is a long time alcoholic) I think is what I say, He is a work ahalolic , heavy on Doctor Rx, And I need this Al-Anon bad! I am always the one that is doing wrong, acting wrong and hes the mister nice perfect guy in everyone's eyes, so he plays. He is a God fearing man t...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

as many readers know, im married to an active functioning alcoholic. have onechild who is the light of my life and trying to keep our little family in tact despite my husb active drinking and many many issues ranging from chronic pain., to childhood abandonment issues, to seeing the world as being dow...

jojo74 · jojo74

well i hope i am posting in the right place. I am looking for advice about my best friend. i am totally confused at this point and not sure what to do next. my friend has always drunk A LOT. When we go out she ALWAYS has many big glasses of wine, always gets very drunk and has black outs, actually having sa...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Oh my not getting to a meeting for 3 and finally I get to one. And boy walking in that door and seeing all of my family I call al Alon now. I felt at home. I had some positive days and I felt almost like the old me. That drink that drove me to his side of the street is now out of the house .. Please don't take this wron...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53914155/step-5-alanon/

summerlee82 · summerlee82

I don't even know where to begin. I have no one to talk to because I haven't shared this "secret" with anyone other than one person at work. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing and he refuses to even talk about it. If I even try to express my concerns, he gets defensive. I met the guy of my drea...

clflint · clflint

Life is a journey. For me, the journey with my AH began 32 years ago. I was 20 years old and full of all the hope and excitement a new marriage brings. Over the years, it became apparent to me that this journey was not going to be anywhere close to what I was dreaming about the day I said, "I Do."...

flinn66 · flinn66

Last weekend I was away in Florida for a few days, nice to enjoy some welcome sunshine. My cat sitter was not available and as my ex A has been sober for a while now (although not in recovery) I asked if he could call round and feed the cat for a couple of days. Well you can probably already see where this is goi...

sookie · sookie

I am exhausted from living in limbo--paralyzed with fear about making the decision to divorce my already separated AH. I pray every night for the guidance--asking God, what am I supposed to do? I also pray for the strength to carry out God's Will...once I figure out what it is. We have 2 small kids and th...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

My friends: As a few of you have told me, the emotions are everywhere and yes I actually feel downright manic at times! A student at my school saw me laughing with another teacher and said, 'look you made Ms. D smile--I mean really smile!'. That made me realize 1) I have not been showing my real smile nea...

blondie99 · blondie99

Don't know about you all, but I am SO grateful that it is Saturday! Even though we had last Monday off for Memorial Day, it was the l-o-n-g-e-s-t shortest week ever. HP chose to give me a break after the week from hell I had. It's been pretty quiet around here and I'm taking it as an opportunity to employ th...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi Everyone Well, I get a call from my son. He is home from his visit with his father. Heard all the ups and downs but all is OK. Now I'm told by my son that he is coming for a visit this afternoon because my PARTNER told him to come this weekend again and they will go shooting the new AR15. I didn't know anyth...

Lay · Lay

My husband's best friend (pretty much brother) committed suicide late Wednesday night. He was a Directional Oil Driller, and he was out on a rig in North Dakota when it happened. Most of his friends and family live here in Mississippi. He has a wife and 2 small children here. We are all still just so shoc...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Lately, as I've mentioned I've been feeling really down and it doesn't seem to be going away. I am questioning if this is just a down period or if I should talk to my doctor. I'm feeling very light-headed, like I am just going throug...

Melodibella · Melodibella

It is so great to read all your stories, never even thought that I was not the only one suffering with A husband and It isn't all me! I thought I was so bad to put him through all my hate, of His doings. But I see it is Him making me feel like a loser! When things are bad between us, I give in to his ways and moved on,...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: Well, unbelievably I am down to the last weekend w H in the house. I am examining the co-dependency traits that I've got which have allowed me to get pulled into some of the craziness, and am working really heard to remember that we got to this point not because of one event, or because I hav...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

My AH and I finally had a real discussion this morning about the thousand of dollars of debt he managed to accumulate over the last two years. I have been paying all the credit card bills, but the budget is so tight, we barely have anything left over each month. It is scary. In the last two weeks he starting...

Lyne · Lyne

So I'm driving to my mom's house to deliver some stuff and I see my spouse's car parked at a local bar/restaurant. This is a place she has done alot of drinking at, and she shouldn't be there at all, even if she isn't drinking. In a few seconds I hear my HP and you guys~keep driving, don't go in a make a scene...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Darn it & dang me! Why can't I stop complaining? I have the world on a silver platter w/ many blessings & good friends & good fellowship! I am blessed beyond belief: I just can't stop finding the un-silver lining in life. I am going to have the gift of a lifetime; my vision. I have been struggl...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

I heard a woman in an Alanon meeting say this: "I saw I was powerless over my dependencies." What does this mean?

1976love · 1976love

The other day Canadian guy posted about the wife making her AH eggs for breakfast. Today my AH hasn't drank in 2 days and the weekend is approaching. Tonight we have tball and we are helping his parents after the game. I sent him a quick text saying I would ask his parents to watch our daughter so I can go...

Redfraggle · Redfraggle

Hi! My name is Red and i'm new to this group and Al-anon in general. I'm young (33) and have 2 young kids (not in school yet). I've been with DH since I was 18 and we got married after I graduated college in 2004. I met him when he was in the Coast Guard, he drank like a 20 year old enlisted Coastie...problem is...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

Okay after mylast post and talking to my sponsor I decided to get my head back on........ Here is all that I am thankful for 1. my beautiful, precocious 4 year old daughter that is healthy, smart and funny 2. my beautiful, athletic, well thought out, brilliant 15 year old, who amazes me in the young wom...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

For the longest time, I have been suffering w/ the lack of group, let alone conscience. I am definitely done trying to please the lack of interest in our Al anon unsuccessful meeting. People have been filtering in & out unable to commit. Me & another member have been keeping this meeting going...

Jozie · Jozie

So Much Always Going on in this Disease... Seems it Latches hold of me, and I am Constantly Fighting to stay up & above where I once was... Did ya Ever Loss somthing or someone that you could talk to about anything, cry & pout or Share your Happiness... Well that is where I'm At! I am the Type that w...

oldergal · oldergal

So I have been praying for this for many years, my son to have a better life than what he had. I am sincerely happy for him, but feeling a little selfish, because now that he is sober and I can enjoy a "real" person, he is leaving the area and will be 12 hours away, This is all good stuff, but I can't c...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, I am feeling very hopeless right now. I don't have much hope that things will change for me. I don't know why? I need to stop comparing myself to others and their lives. Life is getting very routine and I am seeing little signs of change. I am alone. I am lonely. I am afraid that I will echo my fat...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

The train is in the station, but I am doing my best not to get on board. AH woke up in a weird mood and it has continued all day. Strange texts, requests for money, erratic behavior, you all know what those days are like. I dont think he was drinking today, but I know he is still smoking pot. Anyway, I call...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Was a horrible week last week. Between my guy and me, and the stupid dep sheriff thing. I am still feeling beat up but better. Did learn a ton. As far as my guy, he texted me asking if he could please call me. So he did Monday afternoon. We talked two hours. I had told him days ago to at least do this, text me some...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: This is strange; I feel....calm, resolved and know I am doing the right thing. I relive periods from my past in the struggling marriage and know that this is right for me. My soon to be ex is at the same time texting me with 'will you reconsider? I dont need drinking, I can stop yesterday an...

Jerry F · Jerry F

My wife and I went to dinner with my grandson and daughters on Thursday night...a going away dinner as my grandson and his wife and their two daughters are leaving, moving to the continent. The dinner was spectacular...two different chicken recipies...no its not another addiction one was a stew...

yanksfan51 · yanksfan51

Hi Everybody: Having a sort of 'up and down' kind of day. The weekend was tough, AH has one more week in the house and has used some of his time to get some nastiness out toward me. I know he is hurting, I know deep down he probably has self-hatred going on, but it is tough feeling those things come at me ('I a...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

My Mom is writing on facebook how she is on this diet that her Doctor had put her on, which I am proud of her because she is way overweight. Growing up she was always heavy, but now it is seriously dangerous and hard on her knees and she works long days and work hours. So anywho she is writing about how she is ea...

debhud · debhud

hi all, this horrid disease is killing my precious 37 year old son. his weight is down to about 100 pounds. his hands shake soon after waking up. and his body requires alcohol or he will have seizures. he has pancreatitis. he has come to the conclusion that he is just "rotting" in his ho...

Gaby · Gaby

I thought when my 21 year old went to rehab I would be able to start sleeping just knowing he is not out there high or at home stealing for his next fixed. But I am an emotional wreck. With anger hate confusion. Asking myself I did above and beyond to help him to not see him behind bars or kill himself or someon...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

Oops, my AH decided to get on my case about something today and I was getting frustrated. I let my 14.5 year old pull the car out of the driveway into the cul de sac and then park it across the street. He drove about 100 feet and went about 5 MPH. The first thing out of my AH's mouth was, "Is that even le...

tiredtonite · tiredtonite

Thanks for your encouragement and prayers of support as I travelled to my childhood home. It was a bittersweet time. I did keep my word to myself and didn't bring everything in the house home with me. It was difficult to choose what to take and what to leave behind. My brother was not available to mee...

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	and a Little more Wisdom for Modern Life (Preview) Remember it all comes down to YOU. Don't rely on others or wait for them to do something. Try to develop such a strong sense of responsibility that you can stand up to the fiercest storms, confidently proclaiming, I will do it. Just watch me. Please confront reality, look at it squarely in the face and...	Bettina	4	205	Jun 6, 2013 by Malsey
	help please (Preview) How can I effectively respond when a manipulator states, "you're angry", to gain control and shut down the other person? Walking away from the situation would be my first choice, but it may not be possible. Stating "ok" or "maybe you're right" doesn't seem to appl...	bud	17	263	Jun 6, 2013 by bud
	Thank you all! (Preview) My goodness, my friends-- the outpouring here is literally bringing tears to my eyes--but in a good way! haha this evening was surreal: after a full day of my oldest son helping H move out of the house, shortly after I got home from work he stopped by, had dinner (asked if it was ok), he and I had a very nic...	yanksfan51	7	219	Jun 5, 2013 by Ms S
	I am going to file for divorce (Preview) The decision has been almost 3 years in the making for me, and in retrospect I think the biggest barrier to me was a feeling of total and utter failure at having TWO failed marriages before I turn 40. But, nothing is changing, nothing is getting better, and it is increasingly difficult for me to maintain...	stephaniej	10	579	Jun 5, 2013 by unsureoffuture
	Single again (Preview) I was dating a man on and off for the last 9 months and he gave me red flags, pushed my boundaries too far last weekend and I finally threw in the towel. He was not an A, but was raised by one and slowly lots of the traits came out. I feel like an idiot like I should have known better after all this time in al-anon...	Breakingfree	9	276	Jun 5, 2013 by Jackie11
	Wisdom for Modern Life-Thoughts for the Day! (Preview) When we are aware that each moment of each day , each gesture and step we take, is truly mystical and full of wonder, we will live our lives with greater thought and care. We will also have greater respect and appreciation for the lives of others. Make it a great Day! Hugs, Bettina	Bettina	1	944	Jun 5, 2013 by PP
	One of My Favorite Saying's (Preview) "MISERY IS A CHOICE", we all get up everyday and have a choice of attitudes pick a loving, positive one please. You are a beautiful human being, no matter what you have done before you became aware of your unwanted behavior. I am counting on you to make our world a better place to live in.... O...	oldergal	5	237	Jun 5, 2013 by LeenieBeanie
	It's a sad day (Preview) I came home early from work because I just wasn't feeling well and I was up really late last night. Had a good weekend and I thought things are going good and might have son back someday. But, I just don't know. I took a nap and now I just finished lighting my candles for son and others I pray for. I just star...	Cathyinaz	11	467	Jun 5, 2013 by LeenieBeanie
	Needing Help (Preview) My husband is addicted to synthetic weed. Yes as crazy as that sounds " fake weed" aka spice or whatever you wanna call it! I knew it had gotten bad but yesterday I found out how bad it really has gotten. He used the company credit card to buy it! It has been banned here. I have tried everything in...	BNH	3	304	Jun 5, 2013 by PP
	OT: my puppy was attacked (Preview) My 8 month old sweet pup was attacked while we were out walking Friday night. He was on leash and he was attacked by 2 American bulldogs( think big pit bull looking dogs with strong jowls). I somehow got in the mix trying to protect the dog. My physicak wounds are healing but emotionally I am a mess. Ev...	ilovedogs	9	426	Jun 5, 2013 by Pushka
	F2F Meetings. (Preview) I went to a F2F Meeting tonight. I had not been in over 5 weeks. It was a good meeting and it gave me a lot of food for thought. I almost did not go but thought you have got to. I walked out feeling better.	Jen61	3	148	Jun 5, 2013 by Pushka
	How to detach from my Mothers crap (Preview) I've been in Al Anon for 2 years. I'm currently living back at home as my Husband is OS for work and as we have a 2 and a half year old son and with me working full time it's easier to be back at home with the help etc. Well so I thought. My mum an Adult child I believe and non treated Al Anon. my husband is what init...	sportychick	6	657	Jun 5, 2013 by Debilyn
	Feeling great! (Preview) Hi everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. I just wanted to let everyone know that today I feel great! It's a beautiful day today in Toronto and this morning I was able to go for a nice walk while my car was getting fixed. Turns out there was nothing wrong so they didn't even cha...	slogan_jim	6	207	Jun 5, 2013 by Jerry F
	a positive update (Preview) This weekend at my Saturday meeting (my favorite meeting ever) This woman gave me her phone number and said "Please call me! I want to talk you." So when I came home I did my motherly running around and finaly had a moment to sit in the quiet and call her. We discussed many things and she aske...	1976love	9	405	Jun 5, 2013 by yanksfan51
	Another court date .. (Preview) The good news is that this looks like I FINALLY might be getting a divorce, at this point we still may have to go to court at LEAST we can start moving forward on some level. The sad thing is that we don't need to go to court and that's what is REALLY sad. All this money being spent and I don't have it and neit...	Pushka	6	315	Jun 5, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Tomorrow is moveout (Preview) Hi Everybody: Well tonight is the surreal experience of all being in the house together (middle school daughter had a concert) the night before my H moves out. It is strange but right now at least everyone seems to be doing okay. He signed a lease and got keys today, and tomorrow am furniture will be de...	yanksfan51	13	474	Jun 4, 2013 by el-cee
	Thank You HP (Preview) Hi MIP Family I am so happy today. My favorite meeting, a Monday Night Step and Tradition meeting lost our meeting space at a local hospital due to Hurricane Sandy. We have e an alternate space but the rent is $200.00 a month and difficult to make at times. We had approached the hospital several tim...	hotrod	8	268	Jun 4, 2013 by hotrod
	Sex Addict with a minor in Alcoholism (Preview) Hi! The subject line is how my husband describes his addiction. Pretty funny, huh? Since finding out about the betrayal of our 13 year marriage (sexual encounters with coworkers, prostitutes and random women) our relationship has been through many ups and many downs as you can probably imagine....	Aimee	6	470	Jun 4, 2013 by PP
	I am sad and sorry (Preview) I live with an active A and we own our flat jointly ( I am grateful to have some capital) I have little hope that our relationship can improve as I don`t see signs of the A stopping drinking since I started al anon a few years ago my relationship with myself is a lot better which feels miraculous and gives me h...	Ms S	6	639	Jun 4, 2013 by Ms S
	I keep wondering what is wrong with me? Am I ungrateful? Broken? (Preview) Hey everyone, I'm so grateful to have the Al-Anon Message Board! I'm overseas at the moment with my partner.. I joined Al-Anon more than 6 months ago, and have been to 2 - 5 meetings a week since that time. Now that I'm overseas on a remote island, I can't get to a meeting.. it's only been about a week but I'm...	CeeBee	6	578	Jun 4, 2013 by bud
	Ok here I go: (Preview) Tomorrow could be one of the best days of my life & living w/o fear. I am so glad that my surgeries are coming up. My eyes will be better than ever before. I am go grateful for the means to get the surgery. Never before in my life could I have been able to afford surgery at all. So, my dad & step-mom had t...	Hoot Nanny	2	187	Jun 3, 2013 by el-cee
	Everything is going well-- but I have some issues with myself (Preview) AW has been alcohol free for over 3 weeks now and seems a lot happier and we have even gotten a little closer. We've played games together and watched movies together etc. I have started sleeping in the same bed with her and even have been intimate. I have NOT been concentrating on her recovery but I als...	dponlyme	5	231	Jun 3, 2013 by Aloha
	Somehow...you are given what you need (Preview) I was awake literally all night tossing and turning with worry about my separated AH, who relapsed (again) this weekend and isolated himself in his apartment. I am always filled with anxiety that he will harm himself--he is filled with self-loathing. My entire night was spent flip-flopping betwee...	sookie	6	325	Jun 3, 2013 by youfoundme
	Baby in Al-Anon (Preview) Hello ,first day first timer. HA ( husband is a long time alcoholic) I think is what I say, He is a work ahalolic , heavy on Doctor Rx, And I need this Al-Anon bad! I am always the one that is doing wrong, acting wrong and hes the mister nice perfect guy in everyone's eyes, so he plays. He is a God fearing man t...	Melodibella	6	376	Jun 3, 2013 by youfoundme
	parenting and the active alc spouse parenting activ alc spouse (Preview) as many readers know, im married to an active functioning alcoholic. have onechild who is the light of my life and trying to keep our little family in tact despite my husb active drinking and many many issues ranging from chronic pain., to childhood abandonment issues, to seeing the world as being dow...	Theoceancalls	10	604	Jun 3, 2013 by MeTwo2
	advice about friend (Preview) well i hope i am posting in the right place. I am looking for advice about my best friend. i am totally confused at this point and not sure what to do next. my friend has always drunk A LOT. When we go out she ALWAYS has many big glasses of wine, always gets very drunk and has black outs, actually having sa...	jojo74	3	171	Jun 3, 2013 by jojo74
	Got to a meeting finally (Preview) Oh my not getting to a meeting for 3 and finally I get to one. And boy walking in that door and seeing all of my family I call al Alon now. I felt at home. I had some positive days and I felt almost like the old me. That drink that drove me to his side of the street is now out of the house .. Please don't take this wron...	Ms co-dependent	5	298	Jun 3, 2013 by Ms co-dependent
	STEP 5 (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t53914155/step-5-alanon/	hotrod	4	435	Jun 3, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Am I giving up too much??? (Preview) I don't even know where to begin. I have no one to talk to because I haven't shared this "secret" with anyone other than one person at work. I don't know if I'm doing the right thing and he refuses to even talk about it. If I even try to express my concerns, he gets defensive. I met the guy of my drea...	summerlee82	11	541	Jun 3, 2013 by Geo
	Life is a journey (Preview) Life is a journey. For me, the journey with my AH began 32 years ago. I was 20 years old and full of all the hope and excitement a new marriage brings. Over the years, it became apparent to me that this journey was not going to be anywhere close to what I was dreaming about the day I said, "I Do."...	clflint	5	322	Jun 3, 2013 by clflint
	Trust betrayed - will I ever learn? (Preview) Last weekend I was away in Florida for a few days, nice to enjoy some welcome sunshine. My cat sitter was not available and as my ex A has been sober for a while now (although not in recovery) I asked if he could call round and feed the cat for a couple of days. Well you can probably already see where this is goi...	flinn66	11	784	Jun 3, 2013 by flinn66
	Praying for knowledge of God's Will... (Preview) I am exhausted from living in limbo--paralyzed with fear about making the decision to divorce my already separated AH. I pray every night for the guidance--asking God, what am I supposed to do? I also pray for the strength to carry out God's Will...once I figure out what it is. We have 2 small kids and th...	sookie	9	770	Jun 3, 2013 by sookie
	As promised, my daily thoughts, like it or not! (Preview) My friends: As a few of you have told me, the emotions are everywhere and yes I actually feel downright manic at times! A student at my school saw me laughing with another teacher and said, 'look you made Ms. D smile--I mean really smile!'. That made me realize 1) I have not been showing my real smile nea...	yanksfan51	11	527	Jun 3, 2013 by Lyne
	the practice of grace and thankfulness (Preview) Don't know about you all, but I am SO grateful that it is Saturday! Even though we had last Monday off for Memorial Day, it was the l-o-n-g-e-s-t shortest week ever. HP chose to give me a break after the week from hell I had. It's been pretty quiet around here and I'm taking it as an opportunity to employ th...	blondie99	6	624	Jun 2, 2013 by PP
	Mixed Feelings (Preview) Hi Everyone Well, I get a call from my son. He is home from his visit with his father. Heard all the ups and downs but all is OK. Now I'm told by my son that he is coming for a visit this afternoon because my PARTNER told him to come this weekend again and they will go shooting the new AR15. I didn't know anyth...	Cathyinaz	8	360	Jun 2, 2013 by Bettina
	AH's best friend (Preview) My husband's best friend (pretty much brother) committed suicide late Wednesday night. He was a Directional Oil Driller, and he was out on a rig in North Dakota when it happened. Most of his friends and family live here in Mississippi. He has a wife and 2 small children here. We are all still just so shoc...	Lay	9	229	Jun 1, 2013 by Lay
	I feel like I've been strong for way to long. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Lately, as I've mentioned I've been feeling really down and it doesn't seem to be going away. I am questioning if this is just a down period or if I should talk to my doctor. I'm feeling very light-headed, like I am just going throug...	slogan_jim	8	425	Jun 1, 2013 by flinn66
	Loving this site! (Preview) It is so great to read all your stories, never even thought that I was not the only one suffering with A husband and It isn't all me! I thought I was so bad to put him through all my hate, of His doings. But I see it is Him making me feel like a loser! When things are bad between us, I give in to his ways and moved on,...	Melodibella	3	221	Jun 1, 2013 by ryanhearted
	the last weekend (Preview) Hi Everybody: Well, unbelievably I am down to the last weekend w H in the house. I am examining the co-dependency traits that I've got which have allowed me to get pulled into some of the craziness, and am working really heard to remember that we got to this point not because of one event, or because I hav...	yanksfan51	12	448	Jun 1, 2013 by blondie99
	Financial Worries (Preview) My AH and I finally had a real discussion this morning about the thousand of dollars of debt he managed to accumulate over the last two years. I have been paying all the credit card bills, but the budget is so tight, we barely have anything left over each month. It is scary. In the last two weeks he starting...	ParisMemories	8	476	Jun 1, 2013 by ParisMemories
	Proud of myself today (Preview) So I'm driving to my mom's house to deliver some stuff and I see my spouse's car parked at a local bar/restaurant. This is a place she has done alot of drinking at, and she shouldn't be there at all, even if she isn't drinking. In a few seconds I hear my HP and you guys~keep driving, don't go in a make a scene...	Lyne	12	223	Jun 1, 2013 by Rumaghose
	totally complaining again: why can't I stop? (Preview) Darn it & dang me! Why can't I stop complaining? I have the world on a silver platter w/ many blessings & good friends & good fellowship! I am blessed beyond belief: I just can't stop finding the un-silver lining in life. I am going to have the gift of a lifetime; my vision. I have been struggl...	Hoot Nanny	2	371	Jun 1, 2013 by Jerry F
	What does this term mean? (Preview) I heard a woman in an Alanon meeting say this: "I saw I was powerless over my dependencies." What does this mean?	WorkingThroughIt	4	248	Jun 1, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	reminded of the egg story (Preview) The other day Canadian guy posted about the wife making her AH eggs for breakfast. Today my AH hasn't drank in 2 days and the weekend is approaching. Tonight we have tball and we are helping his parents after the game. I sent him a quick text saying I would ask his parents to watch our daughter so I can go...	1976love	4	196	Jun 1, 2013 by grateful2be
	Hi, my name is "red" new (Preview) Hi! My name is Red and i'm new to this group and Al-anon in general. I'm young (33) and have 2 young kids (not in school yet). I've been with DH since I was 18 and we got married after I graduated college in 2004. I met him when he was in the Coast Guard, he drank like a 20 year old enlisted Coastie...problem is...	Redfraggle	7	257	May 31, 2013 by Redfraggle
	Attitude of Gratitiude (Preview) Okay after mylast post and talking to my sponsor I decided to get my head back on........ Here is all that I am thankful for 1. my beautiful, precocious 4 year old daughter that is healthy, smart and funny 2. my beautiful, athletic, well thought out, brilliant 15 year old, who amazes me in the young wom...	Breakingfree	4	141	May 31, 2013 by PP
	2 people--no group conscience. (Preview) For the longest time, I have been suffering w/ the lack of group, let alone conscience. I am definitely done trying to please the lack of interest in our Al anon unsuccessful meeting. People have been filtering in & out unable to commit. Me & another member have been keeping this meeting going...	Hoot Nanny	5	368	May 31, 2013 by el-cee
	I AM a Constant Work in Progress.... (Preview) So Much Always Going on in this Disease... Seems it Latches hold of me, and I am Constantly Fighting to stay up & above where I once was... Did ya Ever Loss somthing or someone that you could talk to about anything, cry & pout or Share your Happiness... Well that is where I'm At! I am the Type that w...	Jozie	4	335	May 31, 2013 by Jozie
	Well I Guess He Is Sober (Preview) So I have been praying for this for many years, my son to have a better life than what he had. I am sincerely happy for him, but feeling a little selfish, because now that he is sober and I can enjoy a "real" person, he is leaving the area and will be 12 hours away, This is all good stuff, but I can't c...	oldergal	6	308	May 31, 2013 by pinkchip
	Tired of being tired (Preview) Hi everyone, I am feeling very hopeless right now. I don't have much hope that things will change for me. I don't know why? I need to stop comparing myself to others and their lives. Life is getting very routine and I am seeing little signs of change. I am alone. I am lonely. I am afraid that I will echo my fat...	slogan_jim	12	753	May 31, 2013 by Auntyaya
	CrazyTrain is in the station (Preview) The train is in the station, but I am doing my best not to get on board. AH woke up in a weird mood and it has continued all day. Strange texts, requests for money, erratic behavior, you all know what those days are like. I dont think he was drinking today, but I know he is still smoking pot. Anyway, I call...	ParisMemories	6	363	May 31, 2013 by Ms S
	And the beat goes on (Preview) Was a horrible week last week. Between my guy and me, and the stupid dep sheriff thing. I am still feeling beat up but better. Did learn a ton. As far as my guy, he texted me asking if he could please call me. So he did Monday afternoon. We talked two hours. I had told him days ago to at least do this, text me some...	Debilyn	6	422	May 31, 2013 by grateful2be
	ESH please, moveout looms ever closer (Preview) Hi Everybody: This is strange; I feel....calm, resolved and know I am doing the right thing. I relive periods from my past in the struggling marriage and know that this is right for me. My soon to be ex is at the same time texting me with 'will you reconsider? I dont need drinking, I can stop yesterday an...	yanksfan51	10	256	May 31, 2013 by orchidlover
	The family disease.. (Preview) My wife and I went to dinner with my grandson and daughters on Thursday night...a going away dinner as my grandson and his wife and their two daughters are leaving, moving to the continent. The dinner was spectacular...two different chicken recipies...no its not another addiction one was a stew...	Jerry F	11	565	May 31, 2013 by orchidlover
	trying to live in the now (Preview) Hi Everybody: Having a sort of 'up and down' kind of day. The weekend was tough, AH has one more week in the house and has used some of his time to get some nastiness out toward me. I know he is hurting, I know deep down he probably has self-hatred going on, but it is tough feeling those things come at me ('I a...	yanksfan51	5	628	May 30, 2013 by Lyne
	Judging my Mother again on fb in fact! (Preview) My Mom is writing on facebook how she is on this diet that her Doctor had put her on, which I am proud of her because she is way overweight. Growing up she was always heavy, but now it is seriously dangerous and hard on her knees and she works long days and work hours. So anywho she is writing about how she is ea...	Breakingfree	3	338	May 30, 2013 by Jerry F
	for the first time, i am losing hope... (Preview) hi all, this horrid disease is killing my precious 37 year old son. his weight is down to about 100 pounds. his hands shake soon after waking up. and his body requires alcohol or he will have seizures. he has pancreatitis. he has come to the conclusion that he is just "rotting" in his ho...	debhud	9	358	May 30, 2013 by el-cee
	My sons in rehab but yet I am living with fear and mixed emotions. (Preview) I thought when my 21 year old went to rehab I would be able to start sleeping just knowing he is not out there high or at home stealing for his next fixed. But I am an emotional wreck. With anger hate confusion. Asking myself I did above and beyond to help him to not see him behind bars or kill himself or someon...	Gaby	4	215	May 30, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Is that legal? (Preview) Oops, my AH decided to get on my case about something today and I was getting frustrated. I let my 14.5 year old pull the car out of the driveway into the cul de sac and then park it across the street. He drove about 100 feet and went about 5 MPH. The first thing out of my AH's mouth was, "Is that even le...	ilovedogs	13	469	May 30, 2013 by Breakingfree
	Update (Preview) Thanks for your encouragement and prayers of support as I travelled to my childhood home. It was a bittersweet time. I did keep my word to myself and didn't bring everything in the house home with me. It was difficult to choose what to take and what to leave behind. My brother was not available to mee...	tiredtonite	3	364	May 30, 2013 by tiredtonite
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