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Next week I will be away for 2 nights for work. The last time I traveled, AH went crazy, drinking, drugging, etc. That was 6 mos ago, 2 detoxes, and almost 60 AA meetings for him since. I have to remember that I cant control cure or cause it. He will do what he is going to do. I am justfeeling anxious about it today. Off to a meeting soon.
I can understand your worry for sure. What I know about getting sober though is that it can't be contingent upon anything. If he can't stay sober without you around, he won't stay sober period. So aside from the 3 C's for you, this is an opportunity for him to grow in his program also. Just another more positive way of looking at it I hope...
What pinkchip said. Continue to work your program with your HP. Remember that your husband has his HP. I hope you have a profitable and enjoyable trip.
I carried the anxiety and fear of what my alcoholic father was doing, with me for all of my teenage life. That was before al-anon though. Through the program I learned that regardless of what I do or worry about, what will happen will happen. I then give it to my higher power.
Yay Paris...that is what it looks like, sounds like and feels like at the beginning. For me it was the "trust" wars and I lost more of them than I even thought of winning. Trust for me is "letting go and letting God"...the walk not the talk. Sometimes I relapse on the successes and go back to taking it over and mental time wasting (like last night) and then I get back to practicing trust...first three steps for me are the trust steps. One of the old timers shot me a detachment philosophy long ago when I was speaking on "I know it's just gonna fail again"!! and she asked "So what are you going to do about it"? when I answered "I don't know what to do" she replied... "Oh well"! I thought at the time it was just trite and uncaring until I "got it"...Rocket Science Recovery..."Let it Go". Practice, Practice, Practice. Isn't it amazing how much the enablers happiness and serenity depends on the successes of others. You're doing soooo much more better...grow grow grow. (((((hugs)))))
Sitting in the train station about to leave for my trip. AH just dropped me off. We were both acting weird, worried, but no drama. I'm leaving it to my HP and his. As I sit here the song Landslide by Stevie Nicks comes on. Funny, that's been my own personal theme song for recent life. Guess my HP is telling me to relax
