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for years I was told (anytime I expressed my own opinion, which at times was what others didn't want to hear, I was told I had an attitude. This grew so big through the years that I felt attitude was based on feelings. all I knew is I thought there was something truly wrong with me, such as, I was difficult, unlovable, unlikable, unable to relate to others in a healthy manner, etc.. not get close, etc.. for the first time I am looking at attitude and I am seeing it. Attitude is really more about what I and others tell ourselves more so than what we feel, etc.. as I look around I can see the attitudes around me in turn through willingness to remain open to others or not. Attitude is also about being willing to keep an open mind. It may not be completely clear but it is definitely beginning to clear. changed attitudes can aid our recovery. positive self talk is important; listening to others and being willing to learn, etc., the attitude isn't out there somewhere in someone else; it's in me/us. Grateful to see it as it's awareness, acceptance of what I've been shown, and action. if anyone has more esh to expand on the topic of attitude, I would be truly in gratitude. thanks
Beautiful share. Filled with much wisdom and understanding. The only other "Attitude" that I know I have expressed is in "How" I say things. I might have siad the "Right Thing" but my tone of voice, may have said something different Thank you for your clarity
I can absolutely relate to this! The 3 A's have been a concept that is so important to me and I see how my attitude has manifested in keeping me in a place of "nonaction" for so long. Through seeing my attitude for what it is (not so much about feelings, but about a lens through which I view the world), I can begin to drop the judgment that I have placed on myself for having the "attitude." This has helped me drop the blame game that I do to myself by making myself inferior and then judging myself and others. Now, as I can relate to my attitude more as a place that was necessary for me to be for so long out of survival (and one that I got some help with in perpetuating through my family of origin), I can see it for what it was and I am now free to move forward... into action. Not easy but I am starting to feel so much freer as a result! Thanks for sharing!
Seeing too .. My own attitude is what has kept me stuck for so long as well. Hard to see the blame piece in there and all I've done through the years. I've been working on the acceptance piece as well, beginning to see it's what i'm shown through this program in Me that I need to accept. takes time, but i'm grateful to see it. thanks for your shares too. Always helps to bring about more clarity.
and not allow the past to distort my experience ..I love that we are learning to put our past into perspective as well .. it will no longer be able to dominate our thinking of today. Thanks for this reminder .. it's what I tell myself too; I'm not good enough; i'm not enough; I did something wrong, they did something wrong, they this that, etc.. seeing many patterns of comparing, you name it .. Attitude.
-- Edited by MeTwo2 on Wednesday 12th of June 2013 05:41:35 PM
Great share, really made me think. Yes my attitude is so often coloured by my perception of myself and others, my judgements and prejudices. These have been formed by my experiences over the years and are a serious 'brake' on my ability to keep an open mind. When I can keep in the moment and not allow the past to distort my experience then my attitude can change.
