Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

maresie2 · maresie2

The A's mother decided a few weeks ago to give up being a widow (a role she was pretty firmly glued to) and marry some man she had met at a high school reunion. Keep in mind this was 51 years ago. She claims that they know each other having known each other 51 years ago. I have wisely, very...

lebe27 · lebe27

Friends, I was thinking alot about enabling tonight. I came to the realization that at least in my case enabling can be doing something for someone that they CAN'T do for themselves. By helping my A with his firewood business ie., splitting the wood, loading and unloading the t...

Becky1 · Becky1

My husband has a couple he is friends with. The guy is his best friend from 1st grade, so they have been friends a long time. I like him pretty well, but his wife gets on my nerves easily. This makes it diffucult when my AH wants me to go to their house to visit, cos I always get stuck liste...

leo · leo

Just wanted to check in with a positive post. I love time on my own it is my sacred space and when I re-energise myself. At the moment I am home with just my dogs and all my family are away in the city. I am being very selfish and hoping I get a break of at least four days. I am enjoying...

barisax · barisax

One of the gifts of recovery for me has been doing things for myself... like actually taking a vacation! Not just making a list of things to do around the house in my off time, but actually getting on a transcontinental flight... even if it's just for a long weekend. Flying has never been one of my fav...

maresie2 · maresie2

One of my biggest cravings and resentments with the A was that when I was sick he was like well gone. I have spent a lot of time just sitting stewing in resentment that he does not want to know when I am sick. If I am honest he doesn't much want to know when I am well either unless it is something he can tak...

babysteps · babysteps

I have managed the finances in our house as long as I can remember. My AH makes the money, but I pay the bills. We are on an extremely tight budget. My AH is constantly taking money out of our account without telling me, which obviously screws up our account. Last night I caught him in my wallet (again)...

hersh · hersh

(((Friends))) I have been depressed all week. Go home, go to bed, no dinner. Get up early, go to my early job before the normal one starts. Don't want to talk to AH, too awkward. So sad. I feel as if my heart is broken. Thought I would go to a meeting last night, ba...

marmare · marmare

I feel like the interview went pretty good. I felt relaxed. Both owners did the interview and I felt comfortable and was able to be myself. Sent my Thank you letter when I got home and now will wait until next week to see if I made it to the 2nd interview. Thank you all for your support...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Well today I am in a bad mood. It started yesterday. My AW has been in a great mood, almost giddy since Saturday evening. I started out "enjoying the day", 'til yesterday. Then I started getting pissed because it makes it appear she can really con...

Jasocal · Jasocal

My name's Jim. I'm married with a 9 month old son. Wouldn't you know as soon as I finally got my email confirmation to allow me to login...I'm finally getting sleepy. I guess this will be short but it's one of those nights that I have to throw a line to shore in the hopes someone will grab it. Ju...

kitty · kitty

A few of you know, 2-3 nights ago, my mom had a major problem. It effected me deeply. I believe I did the right thing, all I could. She's been talking about suicide a lot these last few weeks, I know how it feels, I've had ideations for over 25 yrs now. Suffering from depression, acting rashly...

jaja · jaja

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Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

(((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))))))), You all are so great! When I finally was able to process what was going on last night I knew that I had to get it out or I would implode (not really but it felt that way) and it was midnight so I didn't want to call anyone, so I ran here and you all were he...

Rebecca · Rebecca

hey mandy u know what..these things have a weird way of clashing... im 25..only yesterday i got a lump removed from my breast under generl anestetic in a city hospital. it was my 2nd one removed...first one i got out when i was 18. the fear that gripped me the 1st time was unbelievable... especial...

Newbie · Newbie

Hello fellow members. I was just sitting here going through the message board and I thought.. I should post my latest thought... Not sure that this will make sense but, I will give it a shot. So, for whatever reason, many of us are attracted to A's, having said that is it best to be with an A wh...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I have been thinking a lot lately about why I tolerated this crap for so long. I keep thinking it seems like the insanity is what kept us together and blinded me to the reality. I look at him now and all I see is a pitiful excuse for a man. So scared and insecure and needy and it makes me sic...

david62 · david62

Hi (((((Everyone)))))) Had a little thread of events happen to me over the weekend that I wanted to share about. The thread began last Thursday night at one of my face to face meetings that I attend weekly. There was a new gentleman that joined us at the meeting. He shared with us that the reason he wa...

elzbeth · elzbeth

all of the image squares are supposed to be bouquets. Have a great day all Life is all about ass your either covering it, laughing it off. kicking it kissing it busting it, trying to get a piece of it, behaving like one, or you live with one!!!!! ...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

My A has been with me either at my house or in the car every day since he's been back. Today he was supposed to go talk to his old boss about a job which he could start tomorrow if he wanted. Boss calls my cell at 10:15 asking if I've seen him is he coming bla bla bla. Here's the kicker...I fe...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Does anyone else feel like they are in a constant state of panic? Not that I have anything to fear but just feel the stomach churning heart rate increasing panic feeling for no particular reason?

doxie · doxie

Hi, I thought I would come in and give you all an overdue update on what is going on in my life. Especially since being here is why I have managed to maintain a peaceful life. Not always without stress or messes, but always peaceful. (I learned that here)

The long awaited homecoming of my son is j...

tishrijo · tishrijo

I just read my post from this morning and it just shows how stressed and sad I am....forgot to mention that on top of everything else that's been going on with my brothers death, yesterday my mom called to say my cousin was killed in a wreck yesterday morning. I told her that I am so tired of all of thi...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, I was just sitting here getting ready to go to bed and I had an itch so I scratched it. And I felt a lump in my breast, I just got scared. It is almost midnight here, so way to late to do anything about it today. I know my grandmother has a history of benign tumors. I am trying not to freak out, but my hu...

marmare · marmare

So I have applied for four jobs. Two last week and two this morning. My heart not really in it until I got a call back from one applied for this morning. Office assistant, 30 minutes closer to home then my last job and it offers benefits! I go in at 2pm tomorrow. Say a small...

BlueCloud · BlueCloud

Dear Roomies, One of the important steps forward that I have made recently in my recovery, is to personalize my recovery. I have been focusing on these kinds of questions: what are my struggles? what does recovery mean to me? if I were to see improvement in X area of my life, what would I see? T...

Mike5056 · Mike5056

Hi....it's me again. Long time absent, trying to deal with things, trying to separate from her issues, becoming optimistic, being disappointed....becoming realistic....? My a partner hasn't had a drink to my knowledge since April when she was arrested at our home. Being the naive ingenue that...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Okay, I have somehow deleted my post! I'm such the computer geek - NOT! lol There was a segment on Morning Edition which is the NPR morning radio program. There was commentary by Judy Miller on Foley and Alcoholism. I purchased the transcript of it. The very last paragraph of it asks the question: h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

So, I need y'all to remind me I'm going to be okay. More than okay. I'm going to be just fine. These past two weeks I've had migrane after migrane after migrane. And they've been debilitating to the point that I've missed class after class after class. So on my sponsor's encouragement, I...

serendipity · serendipity

a friend in one of my meetings has always said that if you don't have an a in your life go get one because this program is worth it. she says grab one off the street, or from a bar just get one to qualify and the miricles will begin. i always thought no way! if i could have avoided growing up in an a home and marryi...

hersh · hersh

((Hi everyone)) Well, after listening to AH last night after he came home again drunk about how: 1. He has stuck with me through the "fat years" (I just lost 30 pounds this year-stress LOL), how come I can't stick with him through his drinking; 2. He has had a plan that he would...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I have been learning many things about me on this wonderful journey. But I guess the thing I have learned most recent is that I deserve to be happy. Lately when I had been talking to my A he would say one thing and do another. I know typical behavior but.. it made me start thinking do I really want to put up wit...

kissers · kissers

Someone in Alanon has been telling me I must do God's will. Is this true? I was thinking of starting my own business, so I could make enough money to support my children and myself. I was told that it will not work unless it is God's will. Please help.

ohera101 · ohera101

So my newest news...... My second son was born two weeks ago. My AH was here, but had to call him about 15 times to awake him from a hangover (I assume). I delivered at home, and agreed to let him stay here for his 7 day vacation from work to be with the baby. He cut it short by telling me the day after the baby w...

Irishgirl · Irishgirl

Hi! I am new to this site but have wanted to join al-anon for many years but was too busy dealing with all of the A's in my life. I grew up with a functioning alcoholic mom who at least maintained a "normal" life until the only sane person in my family died (my step-father.) after he passed my life we...

maresie2 · maresie2

I work in two different locations. In one of them I get along pretty well with my manager. In the other I do not. I think I have coped with these issues in the past on obsessing when can I leave or on how unhappy I am. The manager of one of the locations is furious at me because I called in sick once...

nycbt · nycbt

In a month I will be here two years. I have learned alot in the two years. I have learned that his drinking and drugs are not my fault, there is nothing I can do to make him do it. I have learn the importance of friends, I have found alot of friends in the program and out of the program. I have learn not to isloted...

artygirl · artygirl

Hello My A/CH husband has been out of the house for 1 week. The first night he spent with a friend. The next day, his brother-in-law convinced him to go into the hospital for a few days. He checked himself right back out a couple days later. He had an opportunity to stay with his sister and her husband....

kissers · kissers

I can usually sense a pedophile when I come into contact with them. I guess it is intuition. I feel absolute hatred whenever in their presence. Now, I am being told that my feelings of hatred are wrong and that they are to be pitied. For the life of me, I cannot get rid of these feelings. Maybe it's because I...

omajoy · omajoy

First Senator Teddy Kennedy, then Mel Gibson and Robin Williams and now Congressman Mark Foley......Three high profile individuals who have gone to rehab and faced public scrutiny. In my opinion, it is a "trend" now to blame one's possible or confirmed alcoholism and commit to rehab to make...

barisax · barisax

I have been a regular in f2f Alanon for a while now, and I've been sober in AA for about twice as long. I feel I am accepted equally in both programs, and I know a number of people who belong to both. I credit my childhood exposure to Alanon with some advance knowledge of where to go when I had enough of my o...

lilms · lilms

I am a daughter, sister, foster mother, stepmother, loving partner, auntie, proud pet owner, gardener, cook, writer, lover, fighter of injustices, employee, an out and proud lesbian and on and on and on. I need to remember all of these things. I am also extremely qualified fo...

dot · dot

Group Business Meeting tonite at 7PM et in the chat room. Please join us. Agenda: Need for Ops to fill meeting schedule. Report on Meetimg Topic List. Report on Newcomers Meeting. Love in Recovery and Service - Dot

kingston · kingston

What do I do? I find my self trapped in a horrible life. My next door neighbors called the police on my Abf and he got a 2nd DUI, now mind you my neighbors are scum bags but if my A hadn’t been drinking and blew a 2.08 he wouldn’t have gotten a DUI. Now this was a year ago my A started drinking...

Akasha · Akasha

I've not been around for quite some time due to a move out of state, getting internet set up, finding a job, etc. Happy to say that my boys and I have a roof over our heads (although we share it with my mother - an A herself). I also found a fantastic job that I love (9-1-1 Dispatcher) and have sta...

lilms · lilms

Okay, I really am being a nutjob today. Hope some of you are enjoying my wacky humour. I will quit now I promise. The stuff in paranthesis is mine ( ) lilms 1. Does a clean house indicate there is a broken computer in it? (Yep, my house) 2. Why is it that no matter wha...

shadow1 · shadow1

Today I had to tell my boss about my back surgery, and that I need 4-6 weeks recovery time. I have worked for him for 20 years. The jerk has all the compassion of a dead trout. He told me that I have to find someone to cover for me or I have to quit. He told me that I don't need to worry a...

curious · curious

Okay, here is the deal. I understand that Al Anon is for me. That I have things to work on too. But, How really am I suppose to take all of this. We spent 10 thousand dollars to send my husband to rehab. The first week he is out he relapses, goes on a rampage and accuses me of a...

twinmom2 · twinmom2

((Hello group)) It has been a topsy turvy few days that started Friday evening. I got home and my neighbor told me that a certified letter was waiting for me from my condo association to say that I had 10 days to pay any back maintenance fees or they'd put a lien on my condo. Well, I realized...

tishrijo · tishrijo

Lots has happened since I last posted. First I want to start with the positive stuff. I thought very hard about my marriage and decided I didn't want to give up yet. I asked my H to stay and give us another chance. Now the sad, Tuesday I got a call that my 31 year old A brother was killed...

rxygrl · rxygrl

I have been going to face to face meetings for about 6 months now..I am trying to work my program and I do see changes. But I was wondering has anyone had problems when you start to recover in dealing with the A in your life? My A is sober and has been but at best he is not actively working a progra...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) Leading up to this weekend I had many thoughts going through my mind. As with other times when my AW would propose seperation I would get so nervious and anxious. Why? Because I love the way this is going? No... Because I am afraid of what the kids will say? N...

serendipity · serendipity

my ex ah has been hanging around my house alot and he and i have gone out a few times to dinner and movie. i haven't "slipped" intimatly with him since that one time on labor day. but i have fallen back into "our pattern". he acts a certain way when getting sober in aa and i know what to do. i did it for 12 years. i...

afmom03 · afmom03

MSKM301 · MSKM301

I sit here, completely exhausted from my day. My husband is out smoking crack again. Who knows where. My emotions have gone from not caring to crazy rages on his cell phone voice mail, to calming down and reading my kids a book to help them sleep. Now I have logged on here, if for nothing else to keep me focu...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Dear Friends, My life has taken a total change, some things by choice, and in many ways just were no alternative avenues to take. I have heard from my so called husband, he is in detox, he is in for a big reality check when he gets out, I am saleing his car today, no one has the right to be on the r...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I was talking to my A today when he called to see if he could come over and if I would give him some gas money...could I come by and get him so he could see the kids and take him home... I told him no I don't want him over every day (seems like that would defeat the purpose of moving) BUT I did say I was thinking ab...

marmare · marmare

I know all the healthy ways to take care of me.....I know all the phrases to help me stay healthy. I know being honest about my feelings is a good thing when my A is sober. Then why do I keep trying to explain to him how left out of his life I am. Why do I keep going in circles. He truly...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

(((Hi all))), Ok this was weird and funny so I wanted to share it. Last night I was dreaming. I was trying to find an oyster burried in a shrimp. (yes strange, but hey it's me). While I was hunting for it I felt the tingle of my body trying to wake me up because I had to go to the restroom. Well in my deam I tol...

lilms · lilms

Hi all, Was getting some stuff ready for work today and came across this. It seems that so many of us are looking for normal (whatever the heck that is). Well today I opened my email at work and found the answer. Normal is a setting on your washing machine. Thank goodness now I c...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	the moher from helll (Preview) The A's mother decided a few weeks ago to give up being a widow (a role she was pretty firmly glued to) and marry some man she had met at a high school reunion. Keep in mind this was 51 years ago. She claims that they know each other having known each other 51 years ago. I have wisely, very...	maresie2	2	394	Oct 7, 2006 by maresie2
	Enabling (Preview) Friends, I was thinking alot about enabling tonight. I came to the realization that at least in my case enabling can be doing something for someone that they CAN'T do for themselves. By helping my A with his firewood business ie., splitting the wood, loading and unloading the t...	lebe27	3	396	Oct 7, 2006 by debilyn
	A Drunken Baby Shower??? (Preview) My husband has a couple he is friends with. The guy is his best friend from 1st grade, so they have been friends a long time. I like him pretty well, but his wife gets on my nerves easily. This makes it diffucult when my AH wants me to go to their house to visit, cos I always get stuck liste...	Becky1	15	519	Oct 7, 2006 by MaNature26
	peace perfect peace (Preview) Just wanted to check in with a positive post. I love time on my own it is my sacred space and when I re-energise myself. At the moment I am home with just my dogs and all my family are away in the city. I am being very selfish and hoping I get a break of at least four days. I am enjoying...	leo	5	343	Oct 7, 2006 by sandie123
	Airborne Al-Anon (Preview) One of the gifts of recovery for me has been doing things for myself... like actually taking a vacation! Not just making a list of things to do around the house in my off time, but actually getting on a transcontinental flight... even if it's just for a long weekend. Flying has never been one of my fav...	barisax	4	378	Oct 7, 2006 by barisax
	being sick and giving up the craving (Preview) One of my biggest cravings and resentments with the A was that when I was sick he was like well gone. I have spent a lot of time just sitting stewing in resentment that he does not want to know when I am sick. If I am honest he doesn't much want to know when I am well either unless it is something he can tak...	maresie2	5	443	Oct 7, 2006 by leo
	Taking a big risk (Preview) I have managed the finances in our house as long as I can remember. My AH makes the money, but I pay the bills. We are on an extremely tight budget. My AH is constantly taking money out of our account without telling me, which obviously screws up our account. Last night I caught him in my wallet (again)...	babysteps	5	439	Oct 6, 2006 by isabela40
	Enough.... (Preview) (((Friends))) I have been depressed all week. Go home, go to bed, no dinner. Get up early, go to my early job before the normal one starts. Don't want to talk to AH, too awkward. So sad. I feel as if my heart is broken. Thought I would go to a meeting last night, ba...	hersh	4	428	Oct 6, 2006 by Maria123
	It went pretty good (Preview) I feel like the interview went pretty good. I felt relaxed. Both owners did the interview and I felt comfortable and was able to be myself. Sent my Thank you letter when I got home and now will wait until next week to see if I made it to the 2nd interview. Thank you all for your support...	marmare	5	303	Oct 6, 2006 by Karilynn
	Resentments (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Well today I am in a bad mood. It started yesterday. My AW has been in a great mood, almost giddy since Saturday evening. I started out "enjoying the day", 'til yesterday. Then I started getting pissed because it makes it appear she can really con...	rtexas	7	595	Oct 6, 2006 by twinmom2
	Hi, introducing myself...need help (Preview) My name's Jim. I'm married with a 9 month old son. Wouldn't you know as soon as I finally got my email confirmation to allow me to login...I'm finally getting sleepy. I guess this will be short but it's one of those nights that I have to throw a line to shore in the hopes someone will grab it. Ju...	Jasocal	15	495	Oct 6, 2006 by Juster
	10/3 Another Infamous Day (Preview) A few of you know, 2-3 nights ago, my mom had a major problem. It effected me deeply. I believe I did the right thing, all I could. She's been talking about suicide a lot these last few weeks, I know how it feels, I've had ideations for over 25 yrs now. Suffering from depression, acting rashly...	kitty	5	481	Oct 6, 2006 by just me
	screaming match of the century (Preview)   This	jaja	3	426	Oct 6, 2006 by hersh
	RE: Terrified, I just found a lump (Preview) (((((((((((((((((Family)))))))))))))))))))))))), You all are so great! When I finally was able to process what was going on last night I knew that I had to get it out or I would implode (not really but it felt that way) and it was midnight so I didn't want to call anyone, so I ran here and you all were he...	Dolphin123	7	601	Oct 6, 2006 by hersh
	This one is for Dolphin123... (Preview) hey mandy u know what..these things have a weird way of clashing... im 25..only yesterday i got a lump removed from my breast under generl anestetic in a city hospital. it was my 2nd one removed...first one i got out when i was 18. the fear that gripped me the 1st time was unbelievable... especial...	Rebecca	1	363	Oct 6, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Challenging (Preview) Hello fellow members. I was just sitting here going through the message board and I thought.. I should post my latest thought... Not sure that this will make sense but, I will give it a shot. So, for whatever reason, many of us are attracted to A's, having said that is it best to be with an A wh...	Newbie	4	311	Oct 6, 2006 by Dolphin123
	Thinking out loud (Preview) I have been thinking a lot lately about why I tolerated this crap for so long. I keep thinking it seems like the insanity is what kept us together and blinded me to the reality. I look at him now and all I see is a pitiful excuse for a man. So scared and insecure and needy and it makes me sic...	carolinagirl	6	451	Oct 6, 2006 by maresie2
	When a Man Loves a Woman (Preview) Hi (((((Everyone)))))) Had a little thread of events happen to me over the weekend that I wanted to share about. The thread began last Thursday night at one of my face to face meetings that I attend weekly. There was a new gentleman that joined us at the meeting. He shared with us that the reason he wa...	david62	21	3652	Oct 6, 2006 by bobbo
	words to live by.... (Preview) all of the image squares are supposed to be bouquets. Have a great day all *Life is all about ass* *your either covering it,* *laughing it off.* *kicking it* *kissing it* *busting it,* *trying to get a piece of it,* *behaving like one,* *or you live with one!!!!!* *...*	elzbeth	0	387	Oct 6, 2006 by elzbeth
	Why can't I just let go? (Preview) My A has been with me either at my house or in the car every day since he's been back. Today he was supposed to go talk to his old boss about a job which he could start tomorrow if he wanted. Boss calls my cell at 10:15 asking if I've seen him is he coming bla bla bla. Here's the kicker...I fe...	carolinagirl	8	526	Oct 5, 2006 by Jerry F
	Constant State of Panic Attack? (Preview) Does anyone else feel like they are in a constant state of panic? Not that I have anything to fear but just feel the stomach churning heart rate increasing panic feeling for no particular reason?	carolinagirl	7	613	Oct 5, 2006 by kissers
	Long overdue update (Preview) Hi, I thought I would come in and give you all an overdue update on what is going on in my life. Especially since being here is why I have managed to maintain a peaceful life. Not always without stress or messes, but always peaceful. (I learned that here) The long awaited homecoming of my son is j...	doxie	7	492	Oct 5, 2006 by Andrea12
	Left something out (Preview) I just read my post from this morning and it just shows how stressed and sad I am....forgot to mention that on top of everything else that's been going on with my brothers death, yesterday my mom called to say my cousin was killed in a wreck yesterday morning. I told her that I am so tired of all of thi...	tishrijo	4	311	Oct 5, 2006 by hersh
	I am terrified, I just found a lump. (Preview) Hi all, I was just sitting here getting ready to go to bed and I had an itch so I scratched it. And I felt a lump in my breast, I just got scared. It is almost midnight here, so way to late to do anything about it today. I know my grandmother has a history of benign tumors. I am trying not to freak out, but my hu...	Dolphin123	20	493	Oct 5, 2006 by Mobirdie
	Guess what? (Preview) So I have applied for four jobs. Two last week and two this morning. My heart not really in it until I got a call back from one applied for this morning. Office assistant, 30 minutes closer to home then my last job and it offers benefits! I go in at 2pm tomorrow. Say a small...	marmare	11	415	Oct 5, 2006 by Rita G
	Personalizing Recovery (Preview) Dear Roomies, One of the important steps forward that I have made recently in my recovery, is to personalize my recovery. I have been focusing on these kinds of questions: what are my struggles? what does recovery mean to me? if I were to see improvement in X area of my life, what would I see? T...	BlueCloud	6	427	Oct 5, 2006 by maresie2
	How do you deal with an alcoholic that doesn't drink? (Preview) Hi....it's me again. Long time absent, trying to deal with things, trying to separate from her issues, becoming optimistic, being disappointed....becoming realistic....? My a partner hasn't had a drink to my knowledge since April when she was arrested at our home. Being the naive ingenue that...	Mike5056	11	637	Oct 5, 2006 by barisax
	Transcript Take II! (Preview) Okay, I have somehow deleted my post! I'm such the computer geek - NOT! lol There was a segment on Morning Edition which is the NPR morning radio program. There was commentary by Judy Miller on Foley and Alcoholism. I purchased the transcript of it. The very last paragraph of it asks the question: h...	Karilynn	0	393	Oct 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	Remind me I'm going to be okay (Preview) So, I need y'all to remind me I'm going to be okay. More than okay. I'm going to be just fine. These past two weeks I've had migrane after migrane after migrane. And they've been debilitating to the point that I've missed class after class after class. So on my sponsor's encouragement, I...	Tiger2006	15	589	Oct 5, 2006 by maresie2
	go find an alcoholic (Preview) a friend in one of my meetings has always said that if you don't have an a in your life go get one because this program is worth it. she says grab one off the street, or from a bar just get one to qualify and the miricles will begin. i always thought no way! if i could have avoided growing up in an a home and marryi...	serendipity	5	515	Oct 5, 2006 by Becky1
	Calm then guilty... (Preview) ((Hi everyone)) Well, after listening to AH last night after he came home again drunk about how: 1. He has stuck with me through the "fat years" (I just lost 30 pounds this year-stress LOL), how come I can't stick with him through his drinking; 2. He has had a plan that he would...	hersh	7	533	Oct 5, 2006 by hersh
	Letting go (Preview) I have been learning many things about me on this wonderful journey. But I guess the thing I have learned most recent is that I deserve to be happy. Lately when I had been talking to my A he would say one thing and do another. I know typical behavior but.. it made me start thinking do I really want to put up wit...	DoN4me	6	371	Oct 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	Is this Alanon's belief? (Preview) Someone in Alanon has been telling me I must do God's will. Is this true? I was thinking of starting my own business, so I could make enough money to support my children and myself. I was told that it will not work unless it is God's will. Please help.	kissers	17	428	Oct 5, 2006 by Karilynn
	New Baby (Preview) So my newest news...... My second son was born two weeks ago. My AH was here, but had to call him about 15 times to awake him from a hangover (I assume). I delivered at home, and agreed to let him stay here for his 7 day vacation from work to be with the baby. He cut it short by telling me the day after the baby w...	ohera101	5	318	Oct 5, 2006 by Maria123
	New! many years worth of venting! (Preview) Hi! I am new to this site but have wanted to join al-anon for many years but was too busy dealing with all of the A's in my life. I grew up with a functioning alcoholic mom who at least maintained a "normal" life until the only sane person in my family died (my step-father.) after he passed my life we...	Irishgirl	4	402	Oct 5, 2006 by Irishgirl
	double binds (Preview) I work in two different locations. In one of them I get along pretty well with my manager. In the other I do not. I think I have coped with these issues in the past on obsessing when can I leave or on how unhappy I am. The manager of one of the locations is furious at me because I called in sick once...	maresie2	5	321	Oct 4, 2006 by leo
	doing good (Preview) In a month I will be here two years. I have learned alot in the two years. I have learned that his drinking and drugs are not my fault, there is nothing I can do to make him do it. I have learn the importance of friends, I have found alot of friends in the program and out of the program. I have learn not to isloted...	nycbt	5	342	Oct 4, 2006 by nycbt
	another update... (Preview) Hello My A/CH husband has been out of the house for 1 week. The first night he spent with a friend. The next day, his brother-in-law convinced him to go into the hospital for a few days. He checked himself right back out a couple days later. He had an opportunity to stay with his sister and her husband....	artygirl	4	450	Oct 4, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Is it wrong to feel hatred for pedophiles? (Preview) I can usually sense a pedophile when I come into contact with them. I guess it is intuition. I feel absolute hatred whenever in their presence. Now, I am being told that my feelings of hatred are wrong and that they are to be pitied. For the life of me, I cannot get rid of these feelings. Maybe it's because I...	kissers	10	534	Oct 4, 2006 by kissers
	the excuse of rehab (Preview) First Senator Teddy Kennedy, then Mel Gibson and Robin Williams and now Congressman Mark Foley......Three high profile individuals who have gone to rehab and faced public scrutiny. In my opinion, it is a "trend" now to blame one's possible or confirmed alcoholism and commit to rehab to make...	omajoy	5	462	Oct 4, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Being AA in Alanon (Preview) I have been a regular in f2f Alanon for a while now, and I've been sober in AA for about twice as long. I feel I am accepted equally in both programs, and I know a number of people who belong to both. I credit my childhood exposure to Alanon with some advance knowledge of where to go when I had enough of my o...	barisax	17	613	Oct 4, 2006 by barisax
	I am me (Preview) I am a daughter, sister, foster mother, stepmother, loving partner, auntie, proud pet owner, gardener, cook, writer, lover, fighter of injustices, employee, an out and proud lesbian and on and on and on. I need to remember all of these things. I am also extremely qualified fo...	lilms	7	385	Oct 4, 2006 by maresie2
	Group Business Meeting (Preview) Group Business Meeting tonite at 7PM et in the chat room. Please join us. Agenda: Need for Ops to fill meeting schedule. Report on Meetimg Topic List. Report on Newcomers Meeting. Love in Recovery and Service - Dot	dot	1	329	Oct 4, 2006 by kerry5
	NEED ADVICE. Thank you (Preview) What do I do? I find my self trapped in a horrible life. My next door neighbors called the police on my Abf and he got a 2nd DUI, now mind you my neighbors are scum bags but if my A hadn’t been drinking and blew a 2.08 he wouldn’t have gotten a DUI. Now this was a year ago my A started drinking...	kingston	15	621	Oct 4, 2006 by Ria
	Angry/Resentful towards A's sobriety (Preview) I've not been around for quite some time due to a move out of state, getting internet set up, finding a job, etc. Happy to say that my boys and I have a roof over our heads (although we share it with my mother - an A herself). I also found a fantastic job that I love (9-1-1 Dispatcher) and have sta...	Akasha	6	538	Oct 4, 2006 by Akasha
	Slice of life lightly toasted (Preview) Okay, I really am being a nutjob today. Hope some of you are enjoying my wacky humour. I will quit now I promise. The stuff in paranthesis is mine ( ) lilms 1. Does a clean house indicate there is a broken computer in it? (Yep, my house) 2. Why is it that no matter wha...	lilms	3	327	Oct 3, 2006 by doxie
	Some people have no compassion (Preview) Today I had to tell my boss about my back surgery, and that I need 4-6 weeks recovery time. I have worked for him for 20 years. The jerk has all the compassion of a dead trout. He told me that I have to find someone to cover for me or I have to quit. He told me that I don't need to worry a...	shadow1	11	603	Oct 3, 2006 by Karilynn
	I get it, BUT (Preview) Okay, here is the deal. I understand that Al Anon is for me. That I have things to work on too. But, How really am I suppose to take all of this. We spent 10 thousand dollars to send my husband to rehab. The first week he is out he relapses, goes on a rampage and accuses me of a...	curious	8	612	Oct 3, 2006 by curious
	The benefits of pausing and observing (Preview) ((Hello group)) It has been a topsy turvy few days that started Friday evening. I got home and my neighbor told me that a certified letter was waiting for me from my condo association to say that I had 10 days to pay any back maintenance fees or they'd put a lien on my condo. Well, I realized...	twinmom2	2	556	Oct 3, 2006 by Rita G
	A very sad week (Preview) Lots has happened since I last posted. First I want to start with the positive stuff. I thought very hard about my marriage and decided I didn't want to give up yet. I asked my H to stay and give us another chance. Now the sad, Tuesday I got a call that my 31 year old A brother was killed...	tishrijo	9	376	Oct 3, 2006 by leo
	question about recovery (Preview) I have been going to face to face meetings for about 6 months now..I am trying to work my program and I do see changes. But I was wondering has anyone had problems when you start to recover in dealing with the A in your life? My A is sober and has been but at best he is not actively working a progra...	rxygrl	7	394	Oct 3, 2006 by Mike5056
	I find myself in a strange place... (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) Leading up to this weekend I had many thoughts going through my mind. As with other times when my AW would propose seperation I would get so nervious and anxious. Why? Because I love the way this is going? No... Because I am afraid of what the kids will say? N...	rtexas	8	497	Oct 3, 2006 by twinmom2
	feel like someone should reprimand me (Preview) my ex ah has been hanging around my house alot and he and i have gone out a few times to dinner and movie. i haven't "slipped" intimatly with him since that one time on labor day. but i have fallen back into "our pattern". he acts a certain way when getting sober in aa and i know what to do. i did it for 12 years. i...	serendipity	4	489	Oct 3, 2006 by serendipity
	A Break from the Drinking, to write this... (Preview)	afmom03	3	406	Oct 3, 2006 by Mike5056
	here we go again... (Preview) I sit here, completely exhausted from my day. My husband is out smoking crack again. Who knows where. My emotions have gone from not caring to crazy rages on his cell phone voice mail, to calming down and reading my kids a book to help them sleep. Now I have logged on here, if for nothing else to keep me focu...	MSKM301	4	320	Oct 3, 2006 by Tammy
	Holding the Lords Hand tightly (Preview) Hello Dear Friends, My life has taken a total change, some things by choice, and in many ways just were no alternative avenues to take. I have heard from my so called husband, he is in detox, he is in for a big reality check when he gets out, I am saleing his car today, no one has the right to be on the r...	Andrea12	13	485	Oct 3, 2006 by AndiLynn
	Feeling slick (Preview) I was talking to my A today when he called to see if he could come over and if I would give him some gas money...could I come by and get him so he could see the kids and take him home... I told him no I don't want him over every day (seems like that would defeat the purpose of moving) BUT I did say I was thinking ab...	carolinagirl	3	319	Oct 2, 2006 by faith
	What am I doing? (Preview) I know all the healthy ways to take care of me.....I know all the phrases to help me stay healthy. I know being honest about my feelings is a good thing when my A is sober. Then why do I keep trying to explain to him how left out of his life I am. Why do I keep going in circles. He truly...	marmare	8	517	Oct 2, 2006 by nmike
	Hmmmmmmm too much alanon? (Preview) (((Hi all))), Ok this was weird and funny so I wanted to share it. Last night I was dreaming. I was trying to find an oyster burried in a shrimp. (yes strange, but hey it's me). While I was hunting for it I felt the tingle of my body trying to wake me up because I had to go to the restroom. Well in my deam I tol...	Dolphin123	10	522	Oct 2, 2006 by purplebutterfly
	Normal (Preview) Hi all, Was getting some stuff ready for work today and came across this. It seems that so many of us are looking for normal (whatever the heck that is). Well today I opened my email at work and found the answer. Normal is a setting on your washing machine. Thank goodness now I c...	lilms	3	296	Oct 2, 2006 by sld488
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