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I was talking to my A today when he called to see if he could come over and if I would give him some gas money...could I come by and get him so he could see the kids and take him home...
I told him no I don't want him over every day (seems like that would defeat the purpose of moving) BUT I did say I was thinking about going to an alanon meeting (they have AA at the same place and time) he said he wanted to go but didn't have the gas and I told him if he wanted to go to that then I would pick him up and take him there and back...
Pretty tricky huh? So now if he wants to spend time with me he has to go to the meeting. Then I reminded him the leaders of both groups (AA and Alanon) live right up the street and I'm sure they would be happy to take him to meetings!
I'm feeling pretty slick right now. And good that I said no to him coming over. A little worried that the car ride will be oh poor me all the way though. Still have the panicky feeling and not sure what's causing it.
Way to go, Slick! I sometimes throw out little "clues" to my A, too. He's not looking for recovery, but he knows it's there.
You're probably just a little panicked feeling because that's how we get used to living, at least I did. If he does go, just be pleasant as long as he behaves himself, and just keep saying the Serenity Prayer. Or sing a little song in your head, and let him ramble. That's what I do, and it works most of the time. All you have to do is nod now and then, and he may be satisfied thinking you're listening.
Good luck with him going to a meeting. Good for you for taking care of yourself and going anyway.
Way to go, Girl! I'm sure it felt good to finally say no to him. And I'm willing to bet that the panicky feeling will fade as you stand up for yourself more often.... stick to your boundries.
It was good you reminded him that the leaders live down the street. It's best to let him seach his own recovery.
Good for you!! I hope it works, I do think that first step for him will help- I hope things get better your way, I am anixously awaiting our move to Ga.- I am hoping to get my AH in meetings there. Good luck to you!! Faith
