The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
In a month I will be here two years. I have learned alot in the two years. I have learned that his drinking and drugs are not my fault, there is nothing I can do to make him do it. I have learn the importance of friends, I have found alot of friends in the program and out of the program. I have learn not to isloted like I used to. I go out with the girls and leave my husband behind. I have learned that it is important to have a support system. For me I am very greatful for mine. I have my friends in alanon, my mom, my sponsor and now my sponsee that I have been talking to all the time. I have learned thrur everyone that it is very important to take care of yourself. Some of the ways may be small, for me brushing my hair is a big thing, taking a shower, going out with the girls for a night of dancing, for starting to stand up for myself. Being able to stay home while my husband is out, and not getting upset when he leaves for long time. That one I am still working on. I have things to still work on. Not getting my feels hurt as quick. Eatting things I shouldn't be. Getting upset with myself for making a mistake.
I suggusted that u post and u will see how much u are not alone. That what I tell my sponsee to do. And to do something special for your self.
This program is good.
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Hey everyone watch me grow. I go thru good & bad times. each day i am getting stronger.
Sometimes I feel down that I have not got further along in this stuff. Thank you for reminding me that I am further along than I could ever have imagined.
Good for you! You sound so much stronger and happier. When I quit dating a dry drunk last January I also quit posting. With only an ex A husband in my life I felt like I no longer belonged. Boy was I wrong. Before I knew it I had issues with my sister who is an A and another friend who is an A and my ex started to make me feel crazy. I found myself spiraling into depression and seclusion again. I have not been to a f2f in a long time. I also have stayed out of the chatroom because I felt I had nothing left to give. Now I read here and only respond to a few posts. Because I am not active enough in the program I do not feel like I would say the right things to a newbie or to someone in crisis. I am slowly working my way back into the program. I wish you much luck and happiness in your endeavors. Keep working it! You are so worth it!
... and Julia and Maresie and everyone else who was here when I got here... I so love to hear that you can see growth in yourselves. You guys(gals) have really been a godsend to me, and I hope you know that.
To come here in a panic and get support from someone who can look at my situation and just give a calm, reasonable response... is amazing.
The rest of my world is just a whirlwind... you all have been the ancher that has kept me from just being blown away.
If you end up taking a little break, that's cool... but I am sure glad you are here!
Take care of you! You deserve it!
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"Good judgement comes from experience... experience comes from bad judgement" - unknown
GREAT WORK!
