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I went to a meeting last night and the topic was honesty. I realize how important it is to be honest both with others and yourself. I know that as I am working the program and am getting more honest with myself, especially those hard times with things I don’t want to hear, I am slowly changing for the better. I realize how hard it is to deal with some of the truth about my past and sometimes present… but the fact is it IS my past and present, whether I like it or not.
What I really realized last night, about honesty, was about how much wasted time and energy there one spends when you are not being honest. If you are not honest with others you must remember what you have said so they will not catch you in your lie. If you are not honest with yourself then you are losing precious time for growth which is presently being spent being in denial. I know how easy it is to not be honest about my feelings: how scared I am, how angry I am, how sad I am... and the list goes on. I know there are many times I don't want to dive into these feelings cause I'm afraid of what I will find or I don't feel I have the strength to deal with them… so I lie to myself about how I am really feeling. I know I am not being honest with myself but I never thought of the wasted energy on holding back or the wasted time I could spend on growth or the pain behind the denial.
I need to remember the importance of honesty, primarily when dealing with myself… this is where I struggle the most. I don’t know if there are any slogans that go with honesty or any tricks anyone uses to help them stay deeply and truly honest with their feelings and facts. I’d appreciate any comments, thoughts or tricks.
I'm very eloquent, myself, and can often persuade myself that my motives are so pure, that my feelings are what I want them to be, rather than what they truly are... Really need a built-in BS detector!
Great post. I find the person I have the most difficult time being honest with is me! Why is that? Especially when I work my steps, I have to stop and rethink and ask myself if I am bsing myself! But the program really doesn't work if you are not honest with yourself. Kind of like an alcoholic saying "Well I can take just one drink today. There's no harm in that." Thanks for making think.
Live strong,
Karilynn & Pipers Kitty
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I understand completely. Im tring to be honest with my self as I work through all the emotional things going on inside of me.
Im realising that I have to work from the inside out. Its been a slow process with a lot of emotions along the way. Pain brings about growth which gives you healing.
