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irukan · irukan

Hi all, I am new to this forum, but not to Al-Anon. Well, I still feel like a babe in the woods, as I've only been in the program since January and am still in the middle of Step 1! I have a sponsor, who I've met with twice. I've called one of the members between meetings. I am pretty fearful of commitments...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Oh dear. I've been really off this last week, little outbursts, anger, tears, anxiety, you name it. Positive mantras, prayer, meetings, I've been trying to stay on top of it but hopelessness has sort of been taking over. Today I just felt awful. I argued with the A last night, he was being cruel and I sta...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I believe the prayers and good energy you all sent helped me. Is sorta up, and down. It seems so insane to be where some of us are, who have no one. I don't believe we deserve it. Am not kidding when I say, I have not had a conversation with anyone for so many weeks. Have no one to talk about this horrible thing t...

RandomPerson · RandomPerson

So AH has been sober for three days, and today out iof nowhere he tells me he read a post i posted online at another message board, it was something stupid, like a 'what turns u on'. well, he really took it to heart even though i wasn't making it personal for me, just a general B session between me and my messa...

neshema2 · neshema2

Everyone this is Janet....My youngest grandchild...The last of em....my only girl grandbaby..I have 4 lovely grandsons but this is my princess......I went over daughter #2's house tonight b/c she really needed her computer repaired and so after a struggle I fixed it....D#2 was all lovey and kiss...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hey Everyone, I called my dad tonight after my meeting. He was drunk and out somewhere. It sounded way to loud to be a bar. Almost like he was at a store or a mall or something. This was around 9:30pm. Either way that is here nor there. He said he's talking to his work tomorrow and that if he wants to go to a famo...

pinkchip · pinkchip

This new job in the rehab has been taxing in all sort of ways. It is giving me crazy dreams. I am having a harder time detaching. Adults' problems seem more dramatic and serious. But I am not fooling myself. I am working with a very needy, entitled, and demanding population and they are inpatient me...

tortuga · tortuga

so after 1 week silence, where I managed to stay head over water, and stay calm, with my friends around that came luckily to visit from abroad.... I stayed away from exABF, and he also stayed silent, which made us probably feel safe after the events last Tuesday, were he hit me out of a anxiety attack. So t...

deborah ann · deborah ann

I live with a recovering drug/ alcoholic. He is sober for 18 years and yet his personality is very short and explosive. He has episodes of anger and we have several screaming matches a week. They usually occur on the weekends. It is like he has two personalities. He is very needy and controlling. I love h...

qwerty49 · qwerty49

Good morning. Feeling emotional this morning as I've communicated with my AM & wondering if it was a mistake. Started attended alanon & realized i no longer can deal with mums alcoholism. She is approaching end stage Hep/Liver disease. Not hospitalized but struggling to breathe, needing...

Squeak · Squeak

I'm having a really hard time trying to understand what I'm doing in my relationship. My boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic, he's been sober for 7 years. Recently he broke his foot and had to go on disability so he can't work or ride his motorcycle. At least once a week he'll call me and list a ton of re...

ryanhearted · ryanhearted

I have been online here for a few months, primarily reading posts and attending the online meetings when I can. I feel like I'm grabbing ahold of al-anon and it's helped me with my anger towards my AH. But I keep getting broadsided. And I don't know if it's because I"m naive, in denial, or just plain...

islandtime · islandtime

Another brilliant realization has just popped into my mind. Asside from every other aspect of living with my AH. I have taken on the extra burden of keeping all this disfunction under wraps. Most people think I really have it made, living the life, married to a great guy. Oh how lucky I am LOL! I am lucky...

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

My AD has broken off all communication from our family (except with her older sister) since my AH's memorial service this past January. Her twin sister, who is getting married in October, tried one last desperate attempt to make contact with her this past weekend. She and her fiancee visited the bar a...

Lyne · Lyne

I was thinking today (have alot of time to reflect while on vacation and don't have to think about work!) that if I had had never been involved with addicted spouses, and went on this message board, I would think all of you (and reading my own posts) were a bunch of cult, crazy people who need to get a life. ...

Pushka · Pushka

PP reminded me of what I keep saying to myself and needed the reminder .. I believe what I see not what I hear. The actions and words don't match there will be no follow through. Over the weekend had a very weird experience well a couple .. STBAX's mental health is completely off the charts bad. The situ...

Deborah_ · Deborah_

My darling husband just celebrated his one year birthday sober. I sort of felt that we caught his alcoholism early, because though he had been drinking heavily for about 4 years, it had only bothered me or him for a short time. It hadn't really damaged our relationship much (we have been a couple for 12 y...

islandtime · islandtime

In the very short time I have been on here, a dam has opened and a lot of crap has been flowing out, with it have come some insites that for some reason I never saw. First I never noticed that I am affected by A in 4 different directions... 1 my AH... 2 my mentally ill A son,...3 my AD,... and finally mommy...

rehprof · rehprof

well, school starts tomorrow...I start teaching next week. I have to teach an extra class (that makes 4 in all) to make ends meet...which means I'll be working 60 hours a week between classes, office hours, committee work, and grading... my dishwasher is broken...so now I have to find the time to do th...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

I'm not understanding what my purpose here is. I know I'm sick but sick from what the alcoholic or the control manipulating ways or sick of putting up with the poor attitude and negativity that I am getting from my A ? One week I get gifts the next week the cops are at my house and I'm not even home the neighbo...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

Tonight I am asking for those who pray and don't mind an extra prayer, to keep me and my ex Abf in there. His name is T. We broke up in July due to his drinking and unpredictable behavior. In the last 2 months, his emotions have gone from desperation and suicidal sadness to anger and just complete exhaustio...

ParisMemories · ParisMemories

I came to this board and to alanon thinking there was just one A in my life that needed fixing, my husband. Lol. I had a lot to learn. My first face to face meeting turned out to be an adult child group. When I started to lose some of the panic in my daily life, I started listening to others share about their e...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Augie my pet farm pig has decided he has to get in my lap....He leans on me, slides down and pins me by my feet! geez Prudi my potted pig always sleeps with me now, under the covers of course. Be nice in winter. She is so soft and warm. Glory loves Prudie, if she things pru is in danger she starts freaking, runn...

hotrod · hotrod

http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t54781117/step-11-alanon/

Sweet Stanley · Sweet Stanley

I wanted all summer to have a camping trip with my whole family... I finally managed to get them all together for Saturday sleeplover night at a campground. It was only for one night, but I will take what I can get. I was so excited. I love when my kids and grand kids can all be together!!! I love them all SO...

Debilyn · Debilyn

You can guess who I sent that voices one to. send him the pic of Glory horses butt and said hey here is a picture of you. Taylor was in with me helping me make everyone popcorn. Neat bull snake and alligator lizard mac caught. my old potted pig Dickens not sure what else. forgot already.....

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi everyone, Recently I've had an instance where one of al-anon's 20 questions for adult-children can apply. "Do you mis-trust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?" I play recreationally in a sports league. I joined this league a few months ago, met some guys and they a...

Tiff5484 · Tiff5484

So I went to a f2f meeting and my sister shows up, she said she wanted to come but never had a schedule for it. But tonight she showed up with a open mind to alanon. She is a recovering drug addict and she always attended NA. I am so happy she went, she got something out of it as well as I did too and for me I am not a b...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I dont get how someone can go from "fine" to "messed up" in .3 seconds... and claiming AH didnt do anything, just got tired and fell asleep. I know the difference between tired and messed up, also know the difference between fell asleep and passing in and out. I'm like .... OK,.j...

deacon · deacon

I used to believe in God, I attended church for a large part of my life and then I took a look at the world. At all the cruelty done in the name of religion. At all the ignorance and bigotry in my own church while they talked 'the talk'. And I have prayed and prayed so long and hard for the last several years to no...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is a good day but I seem to want to go into the past too much. Not working the one day at a time slogan very well. I have a lot of old emails I sent to my parents before they died. Until today, I didn't know how to sort them. I am just trying to make some sense out of life. These days my mom is not the only one on m...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi all- A spouse and I are away. She is having difficulty walking. Of course I've been telling her for years that she is going to loose her mobility but of course she never listened and of course I should have been minding my own business! (Her weight is a huge problem and she admits the drinking she did...

Jerry F · Jerry F

I've read and re-read that thread and it, the responses are confidence builders. Some of the responses are so very near what and how I learned in program and others are changes in perception while I'm looking at the same picture...different angle. My wise elder Sponsor use to work that one with m...

tortuga · tortuga

I met my ex ABF this week. I didn't consider it to be a bad move, because I trusted myself. Now please don't tell me, you should have, you shouldn't have, you are playing the victim, you are this , you are that. i am working my program. I am trying to take care of myself. I do mistakes, and I know better after th...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I just started my recovery. I *engaged* in my first alanon meeting as well as a Coda meeting a few days ago. I thought I had been doing ok..I left 2 months ago. I realize now that my AH getting sober (thank god for him) is NOT the solution to my problems. I am my solution to my problems...er, well I should say m...

tortuga · tortuga

Today I woke up with this motivation. Got tired of waiting, passively, depending on other people's moods or actions.I reclaim my life, I am the director, and I also decide how I feel. Today I want to move on, away from that chaotic past, close and far,searching for truer answers. It's a bit scary , but I...

Ms co-dependent · Ms co-dependent

Hi every one , I'm not having a good 1/2 right now .. Today was good I went to get my hair cut and color I needed.. Well I made the wrong choice! The color is my blond but my cut is chic and sassy , I had no choice but to have it cut short my ends were dead frizzie , looked bad , mistake number 2 comming home looking li...

InspiredPhotography · InspiredPhotography

Hi everyone :) I wanted to share some enlightenment. I have been reading "stop walking on eggshells" It is an amazing book. It draws so much of what I have been going through with my SO. Not only that is also allows me to be honest with myself (dealing with past traumatic events). It has draw...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Over the last couple of days, since hearing of my dad's second dui, I have a whole mix of emotions. Anger, resentment, relief....but a new one has emerged, anxiety. Anxiety over the prospect of having to potentially (key word), e...

islandtime · islandtime

been married to a AH for over 40 years. why ??don't ask me. I feel like he has sucked the sole out of me. He brings the worst out of me. I am completely alone, I have no one. A husband is supposed to be your friend, and have your back. He is supposed to be your companion. I get nothing from him.I have needs , non...

islandtime · islandtime

A couple of years ago, I dragged the AH to get marriage counceling, what a joke that was. The huge elephant in the room was that he was an AH. I danced all around it without ever coming out and saying it . Didn't want to offend him LOL!! After a few sessions, she decided what our plan of action should be........

InspiredPhotography · InspiredPhotography

It is amazing when the writing is on the wall. I came to the site exactly a year ago close to this time. Infact I posted close to my birthday. Guess what? The same things keep happening. It is almost like repeat seeing things. My SO are now living in different cities, different places and things haven...

cagirl · cagirl

I'm new on this board. A little background ... I have been attending Al Anon meetings for 18 months and I have a sponsor. Four months ago my RAH served me separation papers - we have been married for 17 years and have a 14 yr old daughter. At first he wanted a financial separation but for the past 3 month...

Sam813 · Sam813

I haven't been on here in awhile and am glad to be back :) My brother is an addict (for years now...hes 24) and I've been able to detach with love and pray for him with the help of alanon. He's been in and out of rehabs and homeless for awhile as well. He is currently sober 2 months, completed inpatient and...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

I'm so sad I just can't stand this anymore. My son asked me if he could wash some clothes....I said OK. As I was helping him put them in the washer a bottle of water fell out. I told him I would put it in the refrig. He left, I was thirsty, went to refrigerator got the bottle of water, opened it and took a big...

RandomPerson · RandomPerson

I've been reading this board for about three months now, not really sure how to 'step in' to any conversations. I'd like to start in by saying that I read a lot of posts on here and think "OMG! MY AH DOES THAT!!". It's been nice to know that I'm not the only one who is going through this. - not nice t...

Bettina · Bettina

Everyone born in this world has a unique role that only he or she can fulfill. Were this not the case, we would not be here. The Universe never acts without cause, everything invariably has a reason for being. Even the weeds people love to loathe serve a purpose. -- Edited by Bettina on Sunday 25th of...

Jerry F · Jerry F

was the topic at my face to face "Wednesday Night Turning Point AFG" meeting. One of our elders was looking for the feedback as she could not find anything in the index on "Hopeless" so she did what we all should do...brought it to a meeting and asked the fellowship. It turned o...

Lyne · Lyne

Hi-A spouse and I are away. I've put my guard down 1/100th since she has joined recovery and admitted to me she has a drinking problem and will not be drinking. This was a miracle and great news to me (and for her). So we are driving to our destination and pass a winery. She said, let's go-that would be f...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

The visit went better this time. My mom is still a little bit the same but she is coming down. It is crazy though that I can't bring anything into the hospital just basically myself. I brought her 3 cards so far. Another crazy thing: I can't read to her because I can't bring my reading glasses into the hospi...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I just went outside again to the peace of the natural that exists beyond my garage door. I noticed a hummingbird flying close to a red, shiny butterfly birdfeeder that hangs empty on a shepherd's hook. It is the second time I've noticed one there. I realized they or it is attracted to the red color tha...

qwerty49 · qwerty49

well, just kind, supportive & loving, wanting nothing in return. Just wanted to say thank you. & it's given me new hope

Bettina · Bettina

I wanted to share this little amusing story. Since the A passed lots of memories are surfacing, sad ones, funny ones. Today I was sharing and made a comment how A's can be clever and wanted to share a laugh, some may think its funny, some may not, but I find that being with the alcoholic all those years, I co...

hisimage · hisimage

My older DD dislikes her AD my AH so very much. Of course it is due to the drinking, or who he is when he drinks. I've talked often to both of my daughters about this, so much so that they can not stand anything that creates a person to be under the influence. Although I don't know much about Al anon, I know en...

missy1234 · missy1234

My mother is Alcholic and blames me for her problems i moved 12 hours away and she is still making my life miserable i recently went for a visit and found out she is telling lies to friends and family about me and ruined my vaction with my husband and 3 small kids I have not done anything or asked her for any...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

There's been so much posted in the last few days about anger, resentment, detachment, all so totally relevant to me right now. And just checking in, reading through the posts a couple of times a day has helped me stay in control, even though I've been feeling low, angry and kinda all over the place. I do...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I am grateful for the other posts on detachment. At a meeting last night someone pointed out that I was not detaching in love. I left home and my AH about 2 months ago. He just got out of Rehab yesterday after about 20days. He seems committed and I am proud of his progress. But I am coming to realize over and o...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Hi All It's been such a busy week. Absolutely crazy at work but I got the job done and feel good about it. I'm thinking next week will just the same so I will be up to the challenge. Haven't had much time to think about my son and how he might be doing but a little while ago I started thinking about him. Is he...

Pushka · Pushka

STBAX is out of the psych ward and I am concerned at this point. There are a lot of little things that have come into play, what my part is and isn't .. well I'm not creating a crisis however I'm not being passive either. The charges are there and he's going to have to deal with them. I have given all inform...

islandtime · islandtime

I'm just new on here today, and have a lot to say.... SORRY everybody, I haven't had anybody to talk to, and also reading a lot of your posts, a few thoughts have been sparked. One thing I really need to do, is stop being mad and bitter. I have gotten to the place that I will seldom even look at my AH, I talk as l...

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	Finding surrender and acceptance really hard (Preview) Hi all, I am new to this forum, but not to Al-Anon. Well, I still feel like a babe in the woods, as I've only been in the program since January and am still in the middle of Step 1! I have a sponsor, who I've met with twice. I've called one of the members between meetings. I am pretty fearful of commitments...	irukan	16	1063	Aug 29, 2013 by hotrod
	I got bread from the hardware store! (Preview) Oh dear. I've been really off this last week, little outbursts, anger, tears, anxiety, you name it. Positive mantras, prayer, meetings, I've been trying to stay on top of it but hopelessness has sort of been taking over. Today I just felt awful. I argued with the A last night, he was being cruel and I sta...	Melly1248	14	693	Aug 29, 2013 by hotrod
	Just letting things out a little. (Preview) I believe the prayers and good energy you all sent helped me. Is sorta up, and down. It seems so insane to be where some of us are, who have no one. I don't believe we deserve it. Am not kidding when I say, I have not had a conversation with anyone for so many weeks. Have no one to talk about this horrible thing t...	Debilyn	4	420	Aug 28, 2013 by Sweet Stanley
	Not sure how to react! (Preview) So AH has been sober for three days, and today out iof nowhere he tells me he read a post i posted online at another message board, it was something stupid, like a 'what turns u on'. well, he really took it to heart even though i wasn't making it personal for me, just a general B session between me and my messa...	RandomPerson	6	504	Aug 28, 2013 by neshema2
	This is probably why I take her nonsense (Preview) Everyone this is Janet....My youngest grandchild...The last of em....my only girl grandbaby..I have 4 lovely grandsons but this is my princess......I went over daughter #2's house tonight b/c she really needed her computer repaired and so after a struggle I fixed it....D#2 was all lovey and kiss...	neshema2	7	354	Aug 28, 2013 by neshema2
	Spoke with my dad (Preview) Hey Everyone, I called my dad tonight after my meeting. He was drunk and out somewhere. It sounded way to loud to be a bar. Almost like he was at a store or a mall or something. This was around 9:30pm. Either way that is here nor there. He said he's talking to his work tomorrow and that if he wants to go to a famo...	slogan_jim	5	445	Aug 28, 2013 by Lyne
	Not sure if it's for me (Preview) This new job in the rehab has been taxing in all sort of ways. It is giving me crazy dreams. I am having a harder time detaching. Adults' problems seem more dramatic and serious. But I am not fooling myself. I am working with a very needy, entitled, and demanding population and they are inpatient me...	pinkchip	23	701	Aug 28, 2013 by Tasha
	coming here to write, rather than answering his calls and mails...plz support me keeping grounded. (Preview) so after 1 week silence, where I managed to stay head over water, and stay calm, with my friends around that came luckily to visit from abroad.... I stayed away from exABF, and he also stayed silent, which made us probably feel safe after the events last Tuesday, were he hit me out of a anxiety attack. So t...	tortuga	7	500	Aug 28, 2013 by ryanhearted
	living with a recovering alcoholic and drug user (Preview) I live with a recovering drug/ alcoholic. He is sober for 18 years and yet his personality is very short and explosive. He has episodes of anger and we have several screaming matches a week. They usually occur on the weekends. It is like he has two personalities. He is very needy and controlling. I love h...	deborah ann	8	1780	Aug 28, 2013 by ryanhearted
	Painful detachment text message to my AM (Preview) Good morning. Feeling emotional this morning as I've communicated with my AM & wondering if it was a mistake. Started attended alanon & realized i no longer can deal with mums alcoholism. She is approaching end stage Hep/Liver disease. Not hospitalized but struggling to breathe, needing...	qwerty49	11	503	Aug 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	At a loss (Preview) I'm having a really hard time trying to understand what I'm doing in my relationship. My boyfriend is a recovering alcoholic, he's been sober for 7 years. Recently he broke his foot and had to go on disability so he can't work or ride his motorcycle. At least once a week he'll call me and list a ton of re...	Squeak	12	447	Aug 28, 2013 by Jerry F
	Just need support (Preview) I have been online here for a few months, primarily reading posts and attending the online meetings when I can. I feel like I'm grabbing ahold of al-anon and it's helped me with my anger towards my AH. But I keep getting broadsided. And I don't know if it's because I"m naive, in denial, or just plain...	ryanhearted	8	532	Aug 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	keeper of the secret (Preview) Another brilliant realization has just popped into my mind. Asside from every other aspect of living with my AH. I have taken on the extra burden of keeping all this disfunction under wraps. Most people think I really have it made, living the life, married to a great guy. Oh how lucky I am LOL! I am lucky...	islandtime	14	521	Aug 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	AD Continues to Isolate detachment (Preview) My AD has broken off all communication from our family (except with her older sister) since my AH's memorial service this past January. Her twin sister, who is getting married in October, tried one last desperate attempt to make contact with her this past weekend. She and her fiancee visited the bar a...	Green Eyes	8	3414	Aug 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	bunch of looney people (Preview) I was thinking today (have alot of time to reflect while on vacation and don't have to think about work!) that if I had had never been involved with addicted spouses, and went on this message board, I would think all of you (and reading my own posts) were a bunch of cult, crazy people who need to get a life. ...	Lyne	8	2190	Aug 28, 2013 by hotrod
	What the disease says .. (Preview) PP reminded me of what I keep saying to myself and needed the reminder .. I believe what I see not what I hear. The actions and words don't match there will be no follow through. Over the weekend had a very weird experience well a couple .. STBAX's mental health is completely off the charts bad. The situ...	Pushka	2	353	Aug 28, 2013 by grateful2be
	Worried about my AA's health (Preview) My darling husband just celebrated his one year birthday sober. I sort of felt that we caught his alcoholism early, because though he had been drinking heavily for about 4 years, it had only bothered me or him for a short time. It hadn't really damaged our relationship much (we have been a couple for 12 y...	Deborah_	4	444	Aug 27, 2013 by neshema2
	dealing with my mother (Preview) In the very short time I have been on here, a dam has opened and a lot of crap has been flowing out, with it have come some insites that for some reason I never saw. First I never noticed that I am affected by A in 4 different directions... 1 my AH... 2 my mentally ill A son,...3 my AD,... and finally mommy...	islandtime	4	415	Aug 27, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	feeling overwhelmed (Preview) well, school starts tomorrow...I start teaching next week. I have to teach an extra class (that makes 4 in all) to make ends meet...which means I'll be working 60 hours a week between classes, office hours, committee work, and grading... my dishwasher is broken...so now I have to find the time to do th...	rehprof	8	572	Aug 27, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Please explain to me quality time!? (Preview) I'm not understanding what my purpose here is. I know I'm sick but sick from what the alcoholic or the control manipulating ways or sick of putting up with the poor attitude and negativity that I am getting from my A ? One week I get gifts the next week the cops are at my house and I'm not even home the neighbo...	Ms co-dependent	7	514	Aug 27, 2013 by WorkingThroughIt
	Prayers requested (Preview) Tonight I am asking for those who pray and don't mind an extra prayer, to keep me and my ex Abf in there. His name is T. We broke up in July due to his drinking and unpredictable behavior. In the last 2 months, his emotions have gone from desperation and suicidal sadness to anger and just complete exhaustio...	giraffe13	10	421	Aug 27, 2013 by neshema2
	Family Tree (Preview) I came to this board and to alanon thinking there was just one A in my life that needed fixing, my husband. Lol. I had a lot to learn. My first face to face meeting turned out to be an adult child group. When I started to lose some of the panic in my daily life, I started listening to others share about their e...	ParisMemories	6	427	Aug 27, 2013 by 1911A1
	more pics. (Preview) Augie my pet farm pig has decided he has to get in my lap....He leans on me, slides down and pins me by my feet! geez Prudi my potted pig always sleeps with me now, under the covers of course. Be nice in winter. She is so soft and warm. Glory loves Prudie, if she things pru is in danger she starts freaking, runn...	Debilyn	4	497	Aug 27, 2013 by Sweet Stanley
	11th STEP (Preview) http://stepwork.activeboard.com/t54781117/step-11-alanon/	hotrod	0	509	Aug 27, 2013 by hotrod
	GGGGGRRRRRR! (Preview) I wanted all summer to have a camping trip with my whole family... I finally managed to get them all together for Saturday sleeplover night at a campground. It was only for one night, but I will take what I can get. I was so excited. I love when my kids and grand kids can all be together!!! I love them all SO...	Sweet Stanley	10	558	Aug 27, 2013 by neshema2
	eden pictures (Preview) You can guess who I sent that voices one to. send him the pic of Glory horses butt and said hey here is a picture of you. Taylor was in with me helping me make everyone popcorn. Neat bull snake and alligator lizard mac caught. my old potted pig Dickens not sure what else. forgot already.....	Debilyn	2	481	Aug 27, 2013 by neshema2
	Trouble trusting my own feelings! (Preview) Hi everyone, Recently I've had an instance where one of al-anon's 20 questions for adult-children can apply. "Do you mis-trust your own feelings and the feelings expressed by others?" I play recreationally in a sports league. I joined this league a few months ago, met some guys and they a...	slogan_jim	4	595	Aug 27, 2013 by DavidG
	Great experience tonight (Preview) So I went to a f2f meeting and my sister shows up, she said she wanted to come but never had a schedule for it. But tonight she showed up with a open mind to alanon. She is a recovering drug addict and she always attended NA. I am so happy she went, she got something out of it as well as I did too and for me I am not a b...	Tiff5484	6	254	Aug 27, 2013 by hotrod
	.3 sec (Preview) I dont get how someone can go from "fine" to "messed up" in .3 seconds... and claiming AH didnt do anything, just got tired and fell asleep. I know the difference between tired and messed up, also know the difference between fell asleep and passing in and out. I'm like .... OK,.j...	sweeetr	4	267	Aug 27, 2013 by grateful2be
	What do you do it you don't believe in a HP? (Preview) I used to believe in God, I attended church for a large part of my life and then I took a look at the world. At all the cruelty done in the name of religion. At all the ignorance and bigotry in my own church while they talked 'the talk'. And I have prayed and prayed so long and hard for the last several years to no...	deacon	11	667	Aug 27, 2013 by slogan_jim
	a day of reflection... (Preview) Today is a good day but I seem to want to go into the past too much. Not working the one day at a time slogan very well. I have a lot of old emails I sent to my parents before they died. Until today, I didn't know how to sort them. I am just trying to make some sense out of life. These days my mom is not the only one on m...	Hoot Nanny	1	327	Aug 26, 2013 by el-cee
	notice self-improvement (Preview) Hi all- A spouse and I are away. She is having difficulty walking. Of course I've been telling her for years that she is going to loose her mobility but of course she never listened and of course I should have been minding my own business! (Her weight is a huge problem and she admits the drinking she did...	Lyne	6	327	Aug 26, 2013 by el-cee
	Continuation of Powerless and Hopeless (Preview) I've read and re-read that thread and it, the responses are confidence builders. Some of the responses are so very near what and how I learned in program and others are changes in perception while I'm looking at the same picture...different angle. My wise elder Sponsor use to work that one with m...	Jerry F	4	522	Aug 26, 2013 by Tasha
	how did I end up here? (Preview) I met my ex ABF this week. I didn't consider it to be a bad move, because I trusted myself. Now please don't tell me, you should have, you shouldn't have, you are playing the victim, you are this , you are that. i am working my program. I am trying to take care of myself. I do mistakes, and I know better after th...	tortuga	13	527	Aug 26, 2013 by norasq
	My feelings are taking over my logic... medication (Preview) I just started my recovery. I engaged in my first alanon meeting as well as a Coda meeting a few days ago. I thought I had been doing ok..I left 2 months ago. I realize now that my AH getting sober (thank god for him) is NOT the solution to my problems. I am my solution to my problems...er, well I should say m...	sadsusie	8	499	Aug 26, 2013 by grateful2be
	action versus re-action (Preview) Today I woke up with this motivation. Got tired of waiting, passively, depending on other people's moods or actions.I reclaim my life, I am the director, and I also decide how I feel. Today I want to move on, away from that chaotic past, close and far,searching for truer answers. It's a bit scary , but I...	tortuga	3	398	Aug 26, 2013 by ryanhearted
	Know matter what I do (Preview) Hi every one , I'm not having a good 1/2 right now .. Today was good I went to get my hair cut and color I needed.. Well I made the wrong choice! The color is my blond but my cut is chic and sassy , I had no choice but to have it cut short my ends were dead frizzie , looked bad , mistake number 2 comming home looking li...	Ms co-dependent	20	585	Aug 26, 2013 by PP
	POWERFUL ENLIGHTMENT! (Preview) Hi everyone :) I wanted to share some enlightenment. I have been reading "stop walking on eggshells" It is an amazing book. It draws so much of what I have been going through with my SO. Not only that is also allows me to be honest with myself (dealing with past traumatic events). It has draw...	InspiredPhotography	2	440	Aug 26, 2013 by Bettina
	Anxiety about my dad/me. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is slogan_jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Over the last couple of days, since hearing of my dad's second dui, I have a whole mix of emotions. Anger, resentment, relief....but a new one has emerged, anxiety. Anxiety over the prospect of having to potentially (key word), e...	slogan_jim	7	433	Aug 26, 2013 by PP
	first time on here (Preview) been married to a AH for over 40 years. why ??don't ask me. I feel like he has sucked the sole out of me. He brings the worst out of me. I am completely alone, I have no one. A husband is supposed to be your friend, and have your back. He is supposed to be your companion. I get nothing from him.I have needs , non...	islandtime	15	473	Aug 26, 2013 by grateful2be
	going to a therapist (Preview) A couple of years ago, I dragged the AH to get marriage counceling, what a joke that was. The huge elephant in the room was that he was an AH. I danced all around it without ever coming out and saying it . Didn't want to offend him LOL!! After a few sessions, she decided what our plan of action should be........	islandtime	6	522	Aug 26, 2013 by RandomPerson
	A Year Later (Preview) It is amazing when the writing is on the wall. I came to the site exactly a year ago close to this time. Infact I posted close to my birthday. Guess what? The same things keep happening. It is almost like repeat seeing things. My SO are now living in different cities, different places and things haven...	InspiredPhotography	6	358	Aug 26, 2013 by InspiredPhotography
	RAH moving forward with divorce, I'm having a hard time letting go (Preview) I'm new on this board. A little background ... I have been attending Al Anon meetings for 18 months and I have a sponsor. Four months ago my RAH served me separation papers - we have been married for 17 years and have a 14 yr old daughter. At first he wanted a financial separation but for the past 3 month...	cagirl	6	794	Aug 26, 2013 by Bettina
	What about mental illness (Preview) I haven't been on here in awhile and am glad to be back :) My brother is an addict (for years now...hes 24) and I've been able to detach with love and pray for him with the help of alanon. He's been in and out of rehabs and homeless for awhile as well. He is currently sober 2 months, completed inpatient and...	Sam813	6	970	Aug 26, 2013 by islandtime
	Just let me go (Preview) I'm so sad I just can't stand this anymore. My son asked me if he could wash some clothes....I said OK. As I was helping him put them in the washer a bottle of water fell out. I told him I would put it in the refrig. He left, I was thirsty, went to refrigerator got the bottle of water, opened it and took a big...	Cathyinaz	27	676	Aug 26, 2013 by sweeetr
	New here, need advice and an ear. (Preview) I've been reading this board for about three months now, not really sure how to 'step in' to any conversations. I'd like to start in by saying that I read a lot of posts on here and think "OMG! MY AH DOES THAT!!". It's been nice to know that I'm not the only one who is going through this. - not nice t...	RandomPerson	18	4275	Aug 25, 2013 by grateful2be
	Wisdom for the Modern World (Preview) Everyone born in this world has a unique role that only he or she can fulfill. Were this not the case, we would not be here. The Universe never acts without cause, everything invariably has a reason for being. Even the weeds people love to loathe serve a purpose. -- Edited by Bettina on Sunday 25th of...	Bettina	3	377	Aug 25, 2013 by hotrod
	Powerless vs Hopeless... (Preview) was the topic at my face to face "Wednesday Night Turning Point AFG" meeting. One of our elders was looking for the feedback as she could not find anything in the index on "Hopeless" so she did what we all should do...brought it to a meeting and asked the fellowship. It turned o...	Jerry F	15	1301	Aug 25, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	slap upside the head (Preview) Hi-A spouse and I are away. I've put my guard down 1/100th since she has joined recovery and admitted to me she has a drinking problem and will not be drinking. This was a miracle and great news to me (and for her). So we are driving to our destination and pass a winery. She said, let's go-that would be f...	Lyne	7	526	Aug 25, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	visit went better (Preview) The visit went better this time. My mom is still a little bit the same but she is coming down. It is crazy though that I can't bring anything into the hospital just basically myself. I brought her 3 cards so far. Another crazy thing: I can't read to her because I can't bring my reading glasses into the hospi...	Hoot Nanny	3	224	Aug 25, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Drinking from the well (Preview) I just went outside again to the peace of the natural that exists beyond my garage door. I noticed a hummingbird flying close to a red, shiny butterfly birdfeeder that hangs empty on a shepherd's hook. It is the second time I've noticed one there. I realized they or it is attracted to the red color tha...	grateful2be	9	597	Aug 25, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	Touched by the amazing loving people on here... I didn't know there were people still left in the world that were...... (Preview) well, just kind, supportive & loving, wanting nothing in return. Just wanted to say thank you. & it's given me new hope	qwerty49	9	486	Aug 25, 2013 by Breakingfree
	On the lighter side (Preview) I wanted to share this little amusing story. Since the A passed lots of memories are surfacing, sad ones, funny ones. Today I was sharing and made a comment how A's can be clever and wanted to share a laugh, some may think its funny, some may not, but I find that being with the alcoholic all those years, I co...	Bettina	6	375	Aug 25, 2013 by Cathyinaz
	My daughter just let me have it (Preview) My older DD dislikes her AD my AH so very much. Of course it is due to the drinking, or who he is when he drinks. I've talked often to both of my daughters about this, so much so that they can not stand anything that creates a person to be under the influence. Although I don't know much about Al anon, I know en...	hisimage	5	484	Aug 25, 2013 by el-cee
	new on here (Preview) My mother is Alcholic and blames me for her problems i moved 12 hours away and she is still making my life miserable i recently went for a visit and found out she is telling lies to friends and family about me and ruined my vaction with my husband and 3 small kids I have not done anything or asked her for any...	missy1234	7	409	Aug 25, 2013 by MeTwo2
	Anger. (Preview) There's been so much posted in the last few days about anger, resentment, detachment, all so totally relevant to me right now. And just checking in, reading through the posts a couple of times a day has helped me stay in control, even though I've been feeling low, angry and kinda all over the place. I do...	Melly1248	4	472	Aug 25, 2013 by John
	Detaching with...well, with fear (Preview) I am grateful for the other posts on detachment. At a meeting last night someone pointed out that I was not detaching in love. I left home and my AH about 2 months ago. He just got out of Rehab yesterday after about 20days. He seems committed and I am proud of his progress. But I am coming to realize over and o...	sadsusie	11	623	Aug 24, 2013 by John
	This might be crazy but I believe (Preview) Hi All It's been such a busy week. Absolutely crazy at work but I got the job done and feel good about it. I'm thinking next week will just the same so I will be up to the challenge. Haven't had much time to think about my son and how he might be doing but a little while ago I started thinking about him. Is he...	Cathyinaz	5	317	Aug 24, 2013 by Rose50
	Update many little things (Preview) STBAX is out of the psych ward and I am concerned at this point. There are a lot of little things that have come into play, what my part is and isn't .. well I'm not creating a crisis however I'm not being passive either. The charges are there and he's going to have to deal with them. I have given all inform...	Pushka	7	426	Aug 24, 2013 by Jill
	getting rid of anger (Preview) I'm just new on here today, and have a lot to say.... SORRY everybody, I haven't had anybody to talk to, and also reading a lot of your posts, a few thoughts have been sparked. One thing I really need to do, is stop being mad and bitter. I have gotten to the place that I will seldom even look at my AH, I talk as l...	islandtime	5	510	Aug 24, 2013 by Melly1248
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