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wornoutmrsfixit


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Just wanted to give a quick update of things since the AH went to court for his reckless driving charge. His last hospital stay for detox was in early June and although he had kept up with his AA meetings and therapy/outpatient group meetings he was starting to slip again although he was not too out of control because he did manage to be competely sober without hospitalization in the week before his court hearing which was the end of July. He was ordered to put the ignition lock on his truck (his truck won't start unless he is 0% BAC) and take random drug testing at the court. He has gone back to work regularly (hasn't worked for 10 months) and has been able to start on the psychiatric medications that the doctors have wanted to try for so long. We are friendly and civil and have worked on some of the financial issues that have been needing to be dealt with. There has been no heartfelt apology or big dramatic scene of remorse and I don't even have the desire for one. It just is what it is. He is sober because of fear of going to jail and he is following the court restrictions. The restrictions are due to be in place for at least 6 months so we will see what happens. One day at a time and I live my life over here in my own apartment on my side of the street and hope for the best for him without getting emotionally wrapped up in the situation.  



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neshema2


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wornoutmrsfixit wrote:

 One day at a time and I live my life over here in my own apartment on my side of the street and hope for the best for him without getting emotionally wrapped up in the situation.  

 Yep...sounds like a good program plan to me.......I always wish my A's the best, but I don't have to live with any or deal with their drama....I can exit and disconnect anytime I want to.....(referring to my brothers and some dear friends who are A's who are NOT long distance)......I just stay in my nest, MYOB and take care of me....my dear dear friend next door got arrested, public drunk, not driving, but did spend 3 days in jail.....I did not do a thing to help  him get out....He got himself there, he can face the karma......He knows after 20 years being my "adopted younger brother" that I will not enable him..I love him to death...he is wonderful to me...But when he drinks and gets into a jam??? he is on his own...



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Debilyn


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Lotsa progress here on both your parts! Loved reading this. NOW go have some fun, you definitely sound like you need it! hugs, debilyn



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