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Happy anniversary, Jerry! Glad you're going to wear your new shirt. If it were me, one of the sweetest gifts I could receive for my anniversary would be a letter from my husband telling me from his heart what I've meant to him - what he's learned from me - what he's received from me. Then, the foot massage. You aaaaasssssskkkkkkkdddd.
-- Edited by grateful2be on Tuesday 20th of August 2013 08:52:32 PM
August 20th!! Okay I know about it and don't remember it like she does until I get to the breakfast table and see the card and package. Then I have to go into self acceptance of the man who doesn't have as close a connection with his "female side" as maybe it's thought that I should. What the hell am I talking about?? August 20th is our wedding anniversary!! Today is number 19th and this marriage has lasted much longer than the two before it and that is about program. Still I do the best I can with what I have and if you had asked me "what day is it today" I would have told you straight up, "It's our anniversary" an then I barely get by with what do I offer to celebrate it? I wanna and already have used the "forgetting is a man's thing" excuse and still I'm reminded that I came in second on the remembering. I'm taking her out to dinner and I'll wear my new shirt which was wrapped up this morning with the card. It's not a tie dyed tee shirt or a Harley Davidson Live to Ride model. It's a really nice and different semi-formal mauve creation which I like. Mostly I wear tees, shorts and slippers cause you all know where I'm from. I know I'll give her another foot massage after dinner using her favorite "tuberrose" scented lotion. Then maybe I go get a present for her for the next one. LOL that will work...what do you think? hmmmm listening. (((((hugs)))))
Gosh, I hope none of my lady friends read this post.. they will think dinner and foot messages are the order of the day! LOL (Visualizes a foot being put in front of me.. 'want to make me happy tonight?"
Happy 19th Jerry... God has blessed you both very well!
John
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" And what did we gain? A new life, with purpose, meaning and constant progress, and all the contentment and fulfillment that comes from such growth."
um, for next year try the Jeff Foxworthy idea - tattoo your wife's birthday and your anniversary on your left wrist right above your watch. Or do what I do with important dates, have your cell phone alarm go off the week before. With today's technology there isn't much of an excuse for not getting the special days for someone you love - and really, how many of us like the feeling we get when we see that gift and remember too late what we'd forgotten? not me. I remember a great visual for how a woman feels when a man does something that disappoints them, drop of a big rock.
On the flip side, I can only imagine the trust I'd have to have in a man to give him my feet to rub!
Happy Anniversary Jerry and wife!
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I am strong in the broken places. ~ Unknown
All changes, even the most longed for, have their melancholy; for what we leave behind us is a part of ourselves; we must die to one life before we can enter another! ~ Anatole France
Happy Anniversary Jerry. My husband is still in the 'learning' category too. My expectations are in check now, and my happiness is my responsibility... so that has helped us both in this department. If he forgets - I get myself something and I don't feel guilty at all about getting something I DO NOT need, and I refuse to feel like crap and ruin another special day because of something that is out of my control. Been there done... one hundred times at least!
The best gift EEEEEEEEEEEEVVVVVEEEERRRRR - hired a cleaning lady for the year to come every other week. No cleaning for a year covered all the important dates - and I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVED it! Win win for the forgetful type, and the arguing over who was going to vacuum... peace and serenity on so many levels. It's not too late to dial the number and set up an appointment for a cleaning lady (craigslist)... and write about it in the card you pick up down the street... love you Jer... may all that is good come to you : )
Geez, Tasha. I know this is Jerry's thread and what a great idea! I keep trying to talk my cats into cleaning with me since they both make messes, too. They just sit and mew at me. I think I might give myself an anniversary present. Let me see now, uhhhhhhhmmm. Okay! I can celebrate the anniversary of letting go of trying to convince my cats to help me clean. Grin. I'm gone so much that by the time I get home for what is usually my only day off, I resent myself for having housework to do.
Oh, oh, Tasha I LOVE it. I've just recently decided to STOP buying gifts for my A, who has actually never given me a gift. So OUR Christmas gift this year can be a cleaner! Once a month for 6 months-just a little break for me- then it will be birthday time (we share the same birthday) and I can buy the next 6 months worth.
That's GOLD.
I'm making a space in my budget to save for it right now.
