Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I remember reading something about Unresolved Grief several years back. It really hit me hard. I realized that was my problem. I had so much unresolved grief stemming from choices I made that resulted in a divorce and a subsequent marriage to a sociopath and then physical violence by said sociopath....

ct1203 · ct1203

I am new to this group. Looking for somewhere to lay down my burdens. I have been married to an alcoholic for 13 years. We have 2 children. For the most part we did make a good life for ourselves, despite the problem drinking. My husband has always worked, took care of his responsibilities, and basically...

dsjnix · dsjnix

Hello, I am new to the group and new to Al anon. I am seeking an online sponsor. Can anyone point me in the right direction? -- Edited by dsjnix on Monday 7th of April 2014 09:07:26 AM

GeorgiaWife14 · GeorgiaWife14

I have never sought help but know I should have years ago. I grew up in an alcoholic home (dad) and have been married to an alcoholic for almost 23 years. he did not drink much the first 8 or so years of our marriage. When he started I became the nagging wife confronting he said he would gwt help but I began fin...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I met with my A son for lunch today. He is doing well right now with a temporary job and alcohol and drug free. He is making choices I wouldn't make, but he is 38 and must make his own choices. Our connections didn't work for today and after multiple cellphone missed calls and texts for reasons that will...

mm830 · mm830

Today I have been very introspective and prayerful. One thing that always brings me peace is going outside and just watching things. Maybe it sounds corny, but the birds, the flowers, the clouds. New leaves on the trees. And one thought that keeps coming to mind is nature renews. In its own time. When i...

el-cee · el-cee

I was reading 'Hope for Today' and came across a reading on the four M's. I have never heard of these before. They offer an explanation as to why we are attracted to alcoholics. They behaviours that are in response to living with alcoholism. They are martydom, managing, manipulation and mothering....

Emeraldloo · Emeraldloo

I thought I'd say hello. I came here as I need support. I have no one in my situation to talk to. I have a two year old an alcoholic husband. He has put us in great debt. The first year of a baby ate at our relationship and then the drinking got bad. Passed out on the front step. Injuries. Debt. I tried local a...

redred · redred

My mum is an alcoholic but will NEVER admit it. She has been emotionally torturing my poor dad for three days now. Threatening suicide, blaming him and myself for EVERYTHING that is wrong with her. He looks after her non stop but she constantly bitches at him. Ok I will admit the man is really untidy...

Jerry F · Jerry F

and so I was taught when it got that way to stop, stand still, look down at my feet and ask myself "Where am I"? and then to look straight up above me and ask "Where do you want me"? Still fighting the bank regarding the global meltdown with the illegal, immoral, sub-prime fiasc...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

seems as if when it rains it pours. . its pouring yet im strangly calm. . not really, i think maybe im avoiding. where to start. . welllll. . saturday nite. . im home. .ah out. daughter has a friend here tonight. i tend to worry what her friends think and or tell their parents when they see that my ah isnt home...

mamachief · mamachief

I'm so new at all this I don't even know where to start

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I have had some really hard days here sprinkled in between ok days, and a few good days. I will say great days when I am 100% over my A. bf or ex bf. whatever. I was not feeling good, and I actually called the phone bridge. Brilliant idea! 1.ironically the first 2 shares were exactly like my situation and tho...

xohhhgirlx · xohhhgirlx

I'm at a loss. I've been in love with someone for a while now and we have finally this past year got together. It was a long distance relationship until I moved back into town. Things went from perfect to just hurtful. He became distant(even more so than just the 8 hours distance itself). He would dis...

nurse32 · nurse32

Hi, this is my first time on here. I am a 24 year old women, nurse, mommy of 2, and divorced. i met my boyfriend almost 3 years ago after separating from my now ex husband and after he went to jail for a DWI (his 3rd in tx) i quickly became pregnant within 4 months of meeting him. He is a wonderful, amazing, lovi...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi all, I was in a situation yesterday were I wanted something, I really wanted it, I had visualisations of how my life would be if I got it. I prayed I talked to HP, I told him your WILL be done whatever the outcome I know it is for the best. I trusted that he can see around the corner and knows what is best for me...

Jkphotogal · Jkphotogal

My AH finally admitted he has a problem and went to his first AA meeting on Thursday. It was tough for him to go, but he went. So my question for all of you is, now what? He says he's going again today, but how do I encourage him to keep going without nagging?

el-cee · el-cee

This program has taught me that whatever discomfort Im feeling its all about me. I mean, I have a friend that has clear issues and she can be a bit mean and she can put you down in a sly way, she is a real negative thinker but can also be really really over the top happy. I think there are mental health issues an...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It looks like we will be moving .. I have 3 hours until I get the keys and things are CRAZY is putting it mildly. This happened all so fast and it's so great for the kids and for me. It's a beautiful 3brd 1 1/2 bath which is what I have wanted for years a town house!! The hard part is letting go of what the STBAX...

mm830 · mm830

I feel just lost right now. I am really struggling and why do I think I would get support from an A really I know better. I want so bad to just curl up in a ball and hide from everyone and everything and just stop feeling like this. I cry at my stupid desk at work, who does that. I am just so worn down to nothing. So...

Living508 · Living508

I'm feeling very preoccupied w/ thoughts about my A father. I havent seen him drink in almost a year b/c he has been "sober"...though I think he just hides it from me. Next week we are having a family reunion & I am very anxious about him drinking in front of me. I am actually always anxio...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Even though I have moved out and away from my AH, I find myself checking up on him. Last week I could tell by talking to him on the phone that he was drinking. It was a very slight clue in his voice...what I call cotton mouth. So, being the sick person I am, I kept talking to him on purpose to be sure he didn't sou...

bud · bud

Last week I sent a fruit arrangement to the nursing home staff in care taking my parents as a small thank you. Just a small token of my gratitude. It seems more than a coincidence that shortly afterwards my sister indirectly accused me of throwing her photo across my parent's room and breaking the fra...

SB · SB

Hello to all, I went a meeting on Tuesday night and drove an hour to get there...well worth my time! This meeting I went to was the very 1st one I was taken to by my sponsor probably 30 years ago! I was so scared to go in there and I've never been scared to go to a meeting, but it felt like my first time again. when...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Wow, I actually feel happy today! Even though my AH woke me up at 5am lol. I then played with my cat for about 45minutes with a new toy I bought her. Elcee, I really do think I had a spiritual awakening. I have let most of my resentment go (well at least I am on the other side of the Hill with that one; ). I am stil...

Needsomeone · Needsomeone

Hi every one I am new here. Is there anyone who wants to talk? Needsomeone

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am having an average day I guess. I feel some serenity but am concerned about my mom. I know she is in good hands. I am so grateful for a day w/o too many distractions or drama. Now I have to go on & make something out of my day. I have to focus on what matters the most & do what is in front of me. I am going...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

worries. . we fret and lose sleep. my big thing. . i.hopefully going to soon be interviewining for two new job possibikities. . wonderful-get me out of at least one highly dysfunctional place. . but. im terrified. the folks i wrk with now. .the few i trust. ihave been with for 15yrs. they know my story. t...

Tiff314 · Tiff314

Just wanted to introduce myself. I've been in AlAnon for a year now...just celebrated my birthday. And I have a REAL birthday next Wednesday. In the past year I've been through a lot. In the past two, a helluva lot. I just began to type out a few of the things I've endured but I decided to delete them....

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Well, day five of my AH not being home. I usually go out for breakfast on sunday's with my parents and today I rather stayed home and take care of alot of laundrey I had to wash. I have been doing that all day until my AH calls me and tells me he will be home later after he supposely put some door locks on, as if he...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

April 3 ODAT It really isnt so hard to believe in miracles in Al Anon. We see such miraculous changes in people who came as newcomers filled with self pity and resentment and beset with fears. There may not even have been any improvements in their alcoholic situation at home, but what they learn in Al Ano...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I made the decision to let my 5 year old live by her dad around Christmas time. I was in my clinical and had exams every other day, with work and her coming home from school everyday crying, meeting with the principle twice and hearing them say my kid was a problem, I just wanted to remove her from that schoo...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

Crazymaid? LOL. Bad grammar, I know. The break up is still in progress. I am managing to keep in mind 24/7 all the unreasonable behaviors and blaming/shaming/scolding that came my way during the relationship, averaging about 3 per hour if we were together in person. Less on the phone because I could...

lookingup · lookingup

Ok,now this thing we call alcoholic desease is beginning to frighten me cause my a is back home we'll to my house anyway he considers my home his home too,he is sober as far as I can tell.but it's like when he comes in messed up I wait till the next morning when he is sober and ask him what happened and he simpl...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

food! I have been working out 5 days a week for a few months now and I am toning up and feeling better. BUT, I am still sabotaging myself with over eating. It just pisses me off that after all I have learned and come through I know better. I am an emotional eater and know my triggers and still haven't put a stop...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

after all this time I finally went and spoke up to the guy who character assassinated me several years ago. It had gotten so bad and was so widespread I was never going to ever have any semblance of a life in this state. I needed to speak up. yes I tried to rescue him but he was there too WITH HIS OWN MOTIVES. N...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Had dinner with a friend this evening. It had been quite some time since we had caught up and I relayed the tale of the crazy cat lady to her. She thought it was horrifying and hilarious, and after I had finished describing what had gone down, I mentioned that even though she apparently has a huge collecti...

Jerry F · Jerry F

....Family. I was reminded at my home group meeting on the Courage To Change page of the day that Change doesn't only take time, for me it also took and takes an entire army of Al-Anon members who have changed and saved my life. The "forest for the trees" is a grateful, humble example of f...

Milo · Milo

Hi, My daughter has been an alcoholic for about a year now, and just returned from an inpatient rehab center. She has started work again, and asked to be put on anabuse. She has been home a week(she does not live in my state) and has been sick with a bad cold, so she has not attended AA yet. She says she want...

tortuga · tortuga

I have been enjoying Peace of mind more or less the past month. The reason being zero contact with ex A. Of course memories come back and i was mourning my losses.but that's part of healing right. The waves of emotion get less and less now for some reason he wrote me an email. Recalling ALL the memoriesal...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I just want to say, during a meditation this came into my mind. It seems like the biggest battle we have is the A. . but really it is our thoughts. If my thoughts are ok and I am in control, who can hurt me? Or control me? We all know this disease is not just physical, it is mental and in my experience he was ofte...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

lol. Got suckered into a "deep and meaningful" conversation with A tonight. I felt that euphoric moment- he was asking me how I FEEL and I found just the right words and got on a roll and expressed myself...I've barely said a word to him for weeks...and he almost held up one of those old-fashi...

sadsusie · sadsusie

So, I really thought that I was going to have to move out. I got myself a place, even paid extra (go me) for a DVR. the funny thing is that I didn't move in. I think that many times the PROCESS of doing things for myself and making BIG decisions and STICKING to them (to a degree) is more healing than actually f...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

many of you have reached out to me so i need to reach back. you are an AMAZING grouo of of friends, yes friends. my non cyber friends are limited and judging. . . after almost walking out 8 days ago, i am still home. i am taking a slight break from therapy as i need a break from ME. LOL.i havent pushed marr cnslg...

Beatrice · Beatrice

"A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything."

Deceived · Deceived

I have known that my. Husband(of 31 years) had a drinking problem for approx 15 years. 7 years ago he declared he was an alchoholic and joined AA. I went to one Alanon meeting, read a few books - he got his drinking under control ( only one relapse in the past 7 years) and continued to attend AA sporadicall...

Beatrice · Beatrice

"Running away from things you find unpleasant causes suffering. But facing and challenging such situations will enrich your life." Daisaku Ikeda Buddhist philosopher

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

I am blessed .. I am so blessed sometimes I forget how blessed I am .. seriously speaking I just keep taking things one day at a time and God (HP) is teaching me to trust .. holy COW .. God teaches me to trust Him and myself. Right now I'm in the process of moving literally packing up and moving a house in 4 days...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I did a simple surgery on my gums... yep I could not find any help! Was just too painful to do nothing. My son reminded me of Tom Hanks on that movie where he got stranded, using a ice skate and a rock I think it was. Well no one cared that it could kill me, but me. Meaning dentist. er said they could do nothing...

genie1000 · genie1000

When he drinks his vodka shooters in the driveway after he gets home from work, stumbles in the house and says something really stupid, I just want to push him down the stairs, shoot him or stab him, or something. No dinner tonight, honey. He brings out the violence in me. One time, I took his glasse...

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I didn't know how to title this thread. Some of you may remember that AH was planning on taking ds(our son) on a whirlwind 2 week around the world trip in October. AH was all excited about it and ds....not so much. The grandiosity of the trip, itself, was quite astonishing. He wanted to go to Tokyo, So...

lucymae · lucymae

I have attended Alanon for about 11 years but stop going about 5 months ago. It's been hard for me to go due to my schedule so I thought I would check out this forum. I currently live with an active high functioning alcoholic. My marriage is almost at an end. We are going to try counseling at my husbands req...

Truth · Truth

So I had my lawyer appointment basically I have to be a cop to get anything changed. Now what?

PP · PP

I just read this prayer and would like to include all of us into its grace... Today I ask that the grace of healing flow in abundance to all humanity. This world shivers in turmoil and though I do not understand the power of grace or the influence of prayer, I need to believe that it matters when I pray for th...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. I was reading about people talking slogans and how they are used way to much. It upset me some...

Raven Juniper · Raven Juniper

Green Eyes · Green Eyes

Sorry to use a counseling term in my subject line, but it is what it is. After a meeting a couple of weeks ago, a fellow member reached out to me and asked if she could give me a call. I said, "Of course." She called me a couple of days later. She is a divorced mom with two grown children (exAH and one...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I am open to the process of dating and so I went on a few dates with a new gentlemen and it was going really well. Then he let me know about his crazy past and that he had an STD that doesn't go away. I felt like I was still attracted to addicts with hearing his past and he was honest about liking to go to bars on th...

sweeetr · sweeetr

I have been on this bord for years I have worked on me and have thought I had everything going well .... on my side anyway... my AH is functioning and I know nothing was gonna change with him cuz "he didnt have a prob" Well two DWI's later and $12000 to fight it all and still awaiting court for las...

SB · SB

Had a terrible night last...after returning home from having coffee with a close friend my AH was home drunk and my son bought a case of beer and drank them all after being sober for close to 2 months. I realize the potential for him to slip was going to be a reality when he returned home from treatment and c...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Unresolved Grief (Preview) I remember reading something about Unresolved Grief several years back. It really hit me hard. I realized that was my problem. I had so much unresolved grief stemming from choices I made that resulted in a divorce and a subsequent marriage to a sociopath and then physical violence by said sociopath....	kismetstrand	2	464	Apr 7, 2014 by Jerry F
	Here it goes... (Preview) I am new to this group. Looking for somewhere to lay down my burdens. I have been married to an alcoholic for 13 years. We have 2 children. For the most part we did make a good life for ourselves, despite the problem drinking. My husband has always worked, took care of his responsibilities, and basically...	ct1203	7	332	Apr 7, 2014 by Newlife girl
	seeking an online sponsor (Preview) Hello, I am new to the group and new to Al anon. I am seeking an online sponsor. Can anyone point me in the right direction? -- Edited by dsjnix on Monday 7th of April 2014 09:07:26 AM	dsjnix	1	180	Apr 7, 2014 by kismetstrand
	Feeling lost (Preview) I have never sought help but know I should have years ago. I grew up in an alcoholic home (dad) and have been married to an alcoholic for almost 23 years. he did not drink much the first 8 or so years of our marriage. When he started I became the nagging wife confronting he said he would gwt help but I began fin...	GeorgiaWife14	6	287	Apr 7, 2014 by PP
	My son and a turnaround (Preview) I met with my A son for lunch today. He is doing well right now with a temporary job and alcohol and drug free. He is making choices I wouldn't make, but he is 38 and must make his own choices. Our connections didn't work for today and after multiple cellphone missed calls and texts for reasons that will...	grateful2be	20	627	Apr 7, 2014 by neshema2
	Nature (Preview) Today I have been very introspective and prayerful. One thing that always brings me peace is going outside and just watching things. Maybe it sounds corny, but the birds, the flowers, the clouds. New leaves on the trees. And one thought that keeps coming to mind is nature renews. In its own time. When i...	mm830	5	269	Apr 7, 2014 by neshema2
	The four M's (Preview) I was reading 'Hope for Today' and came across a reading on the four M's. I have never heard of these before. They offer an explanation as to why we are attracted to alcoholics. They behaviours that are in response to living with alcoholism. They are martydom, managing, manipulation and mothering....	el-cee	12	1309	Apr 7, 2014 by milkwood
	New and not in a group. (Preview) I thought I'd say hello. I came here as I need support. I have no one in my situation to talk to. I have a two year old an alcoholic husband. He has put us in great debt. The first year of a baby ate at our relationship and then the drinking got bad. Passed out on the front step. Injuries. Debt. I tried local a...	Emeraldloo	9	406	Apr 7, 2014 by Emeraldloo
	Its the cruelty that gets to me.... (Preview) My mum is an alcoholic but will NEVER admit it. She has been emotionally torturing my poor dad for three days now. Threatening suicide, blaming him and myself for EVERYTHING that is wrong with her. He looks after her non stop but she constantly bitches at him. Ok I will admit the man is really untidy...	redred	5	610	Apr 6, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Can't see the forest for the trees.... (Preview) and so I was taught when it got that way to stop, stand still, look down at my feet and ask myself "Where am I"? and then to look straight up above me and ask "Where do you want me"? Still fighting the bank regarding the global meltdown with the illegal, immoral, sub-prime fiasc...	Jerry F	12	413	Apr 6, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	just needing to connect (Preview) seems as if when it rains it pours. . its pouring yet im strangly calm. . not really, i think maybe im avoiding. where to start. . welllll. . saturday nite. . im home. .ah out. daughter has a friend here tonight. i tend to worry what her friends think and or tell their parents when they see that my ah isnt home...	Theoceancalls	7	485	Apr 6, 2014 by sadsusie
	New (Preview) I'm so new at all this I don't even know where to start	mamachief	9	297	Apr 6, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	al anon meetings were helpful to me recently (Preview) I have had some really hard days here sprinkled in between ok days, and a few good days. I will say great days when I am 100% over my A. bf or ex bf. whatever. I was not feeling good, and I actually called the phone bridge. Brilliant idea! 1.ironically the first 2 shares were exactly like my situation and tho...	giraffe13	4	324	Apr 6, 2014 by PP
	New..Sad..and in need of help. (Preview) I'm at a loss. I've been in love with someone for a while now and we have finally this past year got together. It was a long distance relationship until I moved back into town. Things went from perfect to just hurtful. He became distant(even more so than just the 8 hours distance itself). He would dis...	xohhhgirlx	4	474	Apr 6, 2014 by pinkchip
	New here, new to addiction (Preview) Hi, this is my first time on here. I am a 24 year old women, nurse, mommy of 2, and divorced. i met my boyfriend almost 3 years ago after separating from my now ex husband and after he went to jail for a DWI (his 3rd in tx) i quickly became pregnant within 4 months of meeting him. He is a wonderful, amazing, lovi...	nurse32	3	636	Apr 6, 2014 by pinkchip
	HP's will v my will (Preview) Hi all, I was in a situation yesterday were I wanted something, I really wanted it, I had visualisations of how my life would be if I got it. I prayed I talked to HP, I told him your WILL be done whatever the outcome I know it is for the best. I trusted that he can see around the corner and knows what is best for me...	Tracy	5	326	Apr 6, 2014 by grateful2be
	AH went to 1st AA meeting.... now what? (Preview) My AH finally admitted he has a problem and went to his first AA meeting on Thursday. It was tough for him to go, but he went. So my question for all of you is, now what? He says he's going again today, but how do I encourage him to keep going without nagging?	Jkphotogal	7	761	Apr 5, 2014 by Jerry F
	Its always me (Preview) This program has taught me that whatever discomfort Im feeling its all about me. I mean, I have a friend that has clear issues and she can be a bit mean and she can put you down in a sly way, she is a real negative thinker but can also be really really over the top happy. I think there are mental health issues an...	el-cee	4	447	Apr 5, 2014 by Theoceancalls
	Moving :) (Preview) It looks like we will be moving .. I have 3 hours until I get the keys and things are CRAZY is putting it mildly. This happened all so fast and it's so great for the kids and for me. It's a beautiful 3brd 1 1/2 bath which is what I have wanted for years a town house!! The hard part is letting go of what the STBAX...	SerenityRUS	10	567	Apr 5, 2014 by likemyheart
	One of those days (Preview) I feel just lost right now. I am really struggling and why do I think I would get support from an A really I know better. I want so bad to just curl up in a ball and hide from everyone and everything and just stop feeling like this. I cry at my stupid desk at work, who does that. I am just so worn down to nothing. So...	mm830	10	400	Apr 5, 2014 by xohhhgirlx
	Bad day...need some help please. (Preview) I'm feeling very preoccupied w/ thoughts about my A father. I havent seen him drink in almost a year b/c he has been "sober"...though I think he just hides it from me. Next week we are having a family reunion & I am very anxious about him drinking in front of me. I am actually always anxio...	Living508	4	265	Apr 5, 2014 by Mimi3
	The roller coaster continues (Preview) Even though I have moved out and away from my AH, I find myself checking up on him. Last week I could tell by talking to him on the phone that he was drinking. It was a very slight clue in his voice...what I call cotton mouth. So, being the sick person I am, I kept talking to him on purpose to be sure he didn't sou...	Newlife girl	3	399	Apr 5, 2014 by el-cee
	I did WHAT?!!! (Preview) Last week I sent a fruit arrangement to the nursing home staff in care taking my parents as a small thank you. Just a small token of my gratitude. It seems more than a coincidence that shortly afterwards my sister indirectly accused me of throwing her photo across my parent's room and breaking the fra...	bud	7	542	Apr 5, 2014 by bud
	Very concerned...don't know what to do (Preview) Hello to all, I went a meeting on Tuesday night and drove an hour to get there...well worth my time! This meeting I went to was the very 1st one I was taken to by my sponsor probably 30 years ago! I was so scared to go in there and I've never been scared to go to a meeting, but it felt like my first time again. when...	SB	8	373	Apr 5, 2014 by pinkchip
	Feeling Happy, wow. (Preview) Wow, I actually feel happy today! Even though my AH woke me up at 5am lol. I then played with my cat for about 45minutes with a new toy I bought her. Elcee, I really do think I had a spiritual awakening. I have let most of my resentment go (well at least I am on the other side of the Hill with that one; ). I am stil...	sadsusie	9	631	Apr 5, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	New (Preview) Hi every one I am new here. Is there anyone who wants to talk? Needsomeone	Needsomeone	6	265	Apr 5, 2014 by milkwood
	just another day in recovery (Preview) I am having an average day I guess. I feel some serenity but am concerned about my mom. I know she is in good hands. I am so grateful for a day w/o too many distractions or drama. Now I have to go on & make something out of my day. I have to focus on what matters the most & do what is in front of me. I am going...	Hoot Nanny	1	147	Apr 5, 2014 by el-cee
	sane people sleep.at this hour (Preview) worries. . we fret and lose sleep. my big thing. . i.hopefully going to soon be interviewining for two new job possibikities. . wonderful-get me out of at least one highly dysfunctional place. . but. im terrified. the folks i wrk with now. .the few i trust. ihave been with for 15yrs. they know my story. t...	Theoceancalls	8	433	Apr 5, 2014 by Jerry F
	Hello...I'm New Here... (Preview) Just wanted to introduce myself. I've been in AlAnon for a year now...just celebrated my birthday. And I have a REAL birthday next Wednesday. In the past year I've been through a lot. In the past two, a helluva lot. I just began to type out a few of the things I've endured but I decided to delete them....	Tiff314	13	452	Apr 4, 2014 by Tiff314
	Im not going to let him break me down.... (Preview) Well, day five of my AH not being home. I usually go out for breakfast on sunday's with my parents and today I rather stayed home and take care of alot of laundrey I had to wash. I have been doing that all day until my AH calls me and tells me he will be home later after he supposely put some door locks on, as if he...	NavySealWife	9	459	Apr 4, 2014 by NavySealWife
	April 3 ODAT (Preview) April 3 ODAT It really isnt so hard to believe in miracles in Al Anon. We see such miraculous changes in people who came as newcomers filled with self pity and resentment and beset with fears. There may not even have been any improvements in their alcoholic situation at home, but what they learn in Al Ano...	kismetstrand	3	284	Apr 4, 2014 by grateful2be
	Okay so I have honestly been in in a funk lately...... (Preview) I made the decision to let my 5 year old live by her dad around Christmas time. I was in my clinical and had exams every other day, with work and her coming home from school everyday crying, meeting with the principle twice and hearing them say my kid was a problem, I just wanted to remove her from that schoo...	Breakingfree	9	387	Apr 4, 2014 by Melly1248
	I won't be crazymade any more (Preview) Crazymaid? LOL. Bad grammar, I know. The break up is still in progress. I am managing to keep in mind 24/7 all the unreasonable behaviors and blaming/shaming/scolding that came my way during the relationship, averaging about 3 per hour if we were together in person. Less on the phone because I could...	ClearTheFog	9	445	Apr 4, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	I'm back with new news (Preview) Ok,now this thing we call alcoholic desease is beginning to frighten me cause my a is back home we'll to my house anyway he considers my home his home too,he is sober as far as I can tell.but it's like when he comes in messed up I wait till the next morning when he is sober and ask him what happened and he simpl...	lookingup	4	381	Apr 4, 2014 by lookingup
	My addiction...... (Preview) food! I have been working out 5 days a week for a few months now and I am toning up and feeling better. BUT, I am still sabotaging myself with over eating. It just pisses me off that after all I have learned and come through I know better. I am an emotional eater and know my triggers and still haven't put a stop...	Breakingfree	14	287	Apr 3, 2014 by Debilyn
	Spoke up. Finally. (Preview) after all this time I finally went and spoke up to the guy who character assassinated me several years ago. It had gotten so bad and was so widespread I was never going to ever have any semblance of a life in this state. I needed to speak up. yes I tried to rescue him but he was there too WITH HIS OWN MOTIVES. N...	WorkingThroughIt	2	235	Apr 3, 2014 by bud
	My Silver Lining. (Preview) Had dinner with a friend this evening. It had been quite some time since we had caught up and I relayed the tale of the crazy cat lady to her. She thought it was horrifying and hilarious, and after I had finished describing what had gone down, I mentioned that even though she apparently has a huge collecti...	Melly1248	4	260	Apr 3, 2014 by Breakingfree
	A Humble Mahalo to my MIP Ohana (Preview) ....Family. I was reminded at my home group meeting on the Courage To Change page of the day that Change doesn't only take time, for me it also took and takes an entire army of Al-Anon members who have changed and saved my life. The "forest for the trees" is a grateful, humble example of f...	Jerry F	12	309	Apr 3, 2014 by tortuga
	What to do? (Preview) Hi, My daughter has been an alcoholic for about a year now, and just returned from an inpatient rehab center. She has started work again, and asked to be put on anabuse. She has been home a week(she does not live in my state) and has been sick with a bad cold, so she has not attended AA yet. She says she want...	Milo	4	198	Apr 3, 2014 by grateful2be
	been there, done that,….but still triggers! (Preview) I have been enjoying Peace of mind more or less the past month. The reason being zero contact with ex A. Of course memories come back and i was mourning my losses.but that's part of healing right. The waves of emotion get less and less now for some reason he wrote me an email. Recalling ALL the memoriesal...	tortuga	10	344	Apr 3, 2014 by giraffe13
	our thoughts are our worst enemies (Preview) I just want to say, during a meditation this came into my mind. It seems like the biggest battle we have is the A. . but really it is our thoughts. If my thoughts are ok and I am in control, who can hurt me? Or control me? We all know this disease is not just physical, it is mental and in my experience he was ofte...	giraffe13	12	336	Apr 3, 2014 by giraffe13
	Concerto in BS major. (Preview) lol. Got suckered into a "deep and meaningful" conversation with A tonight. I felt that euphoric moment- he was asking me how I FEEL and I found just the right words and got on a roll and expressed myself...I've barely said a word to him for weeks...and he almost held up one of those old-fashi...	Melly1248	20	688	Apr 3, 2014 by el-cee
	Detachment and other lessons learned (Preview) So, I really thought that I was going to have to move out. I got myself a place, even paid extra (go me) for a DVR. the funny thing is that I didn't move in. I think that many times the PROCESS of doing things for myself and making BIG decisions and STICKING to them (to a degree) is more healing than actually f...	sadsusie	10	585	Apr 3, 2014 by el-cee
	new update (Preview) many of you have reached out to me so i need to reach back. you are an AMAZING grouo of of friends, yes friends. my non cyber friends are limited and judging. . . after almost walking out 8 days ago, i am still home. i am taking a slight break from therapy as i need a break from ME. LOL.i havent pushed marr cnslg...	Theoceancalls	6	230	Apr 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Irish Proverb (Preview) "A good laugh and a long sleep are the two best cures for anything."	Beatrice	8	314	Apr 2, 2014 by Breakingfree
	Beginner (Preview) I have known that my. Husband(of 31 years) had a drinking problem for approx 15 years. 7 years ago he declared he was an alchoholic and joined AA. I went to one Alanon meeting, read a few books - he got his drinking under control ( only one relapse in the past 7 years) and continued to attend AA sporadicall...	Deceived	4	877	Apr 2, 2014 by oldergal
	Thoughts (Preview) "Running away from things you find unpleasant causes suffering. But facing and challenging such situations will enrich your life." Daisaku Ikeda Buddhist philosopher	Beatrice	9	289	Apr 2, 2014 by bud
	Good News :) (Preview) I am blessed .. I am so blessed sometimes I forget how blessed I am .. seriously speaking I just keep taking things one day at a time and God (HP) is teaching me to trust .. holy COW .. God teaches me to trust Him and myself. Right now I'm in the process of moving literally packing up and moving a house in 4 days...	SerenityRUS	9	373	Apr 2, 2014 by bud
	I am better!!!!! (Preview) I did a simple surgery on my gums... yep I could not find any help! Was just too painful to do nothing. My son reminded me of Tom Hanks on that movie where he got stranded, using a ice skate and a rock I think it was. Well no one cared that it could kill me, but me. Meaning dentist. er said they could do nothing...	Debilyn	9	452	Apr 2, 2014 by Diva
	I really want to kill him!! (Preview) When he drinks his vodka shooters in the driveway after he gets home from work, stumbles in the house and says something really stupid, I just want to push him down the stairs, shoot him or stab him, or something. No dinner tonight, honey. He brings out the violence in me. One time, I took his glasse...	genie1000	10	588	Apr 2, 2014 by Diva
	Proud of my son; fallout from AH (Preview) I didn't know how to title this thread. Some of you may remember that AH was planning on taking ds(our son) on a whirlwind 2 week around the world trip in October. AH was all excited about it and ds....not so much. The grandiosity of the trip, itself, was quite astonishing. He wanted to go to Tokyo, So...	ilovedogs	9	279	Apr 2, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	New to the forum (Preview) I have attended Alanon for about 11 years but stop going about 5 months ago. It's been hard for me to go due to my schedule so I thought I would check out this forum. I currently live with an active high functioning alcoholic. My marriage is almost at an end. We are going to try counseling at my husbands req...	lucymae	14	495	Apr 2, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Well my bubble got burst (Preview) So I had my lawyer appointment basically I have to be a cop to get anything changed. Now what?	Truth	19	515	Apr 2, 2014 by SerenityRUS
	Awesome prayer (Preview) I just read this prayer and would like to include all of us into its grace... Today I ask that the grace of healing flow in abundance to all humanity. This world shivers in turmoil and though I do not understand the power of grace or the influence of prayer, I need to believe that it matters when I pray for th...	PP	6	218	Apr 2, 2014 by mm830
	Just for Today (Preview) Just for today, I will try to live through this day only, and not tackle my whole life problem at once. I can do something for twelve hours that would appall me if I felt that I had to keep it up for a lifetime. I was reading about people talking slogans and how they are used way to much. It upset me some...	Cathyinaz	10	440	Apr 1, 2014 by Jerry F
	For Cathy and anyone who needs a warm fuzzy;) (Preview)	Raven Juniper	7	284	Apr 1, 2014 by Jerry F
	Supporting a Fellow Al-Anoner Without Enabling (Preview) Sorry to use a counseling term in my subject line, but it is what it is. After a meeting a couple of weeks ago, a fellow member reached out to me and asked if she could give me a call. I said, "Of course." She called me a couple of days later. She is a divorced mom with two grown children (exAH and one...	Green Eyes	10	527	Apr 1, 2014 by tiredtonite
	Being single, had another false start (Preview) I am open to the process of dating and so I went on a few dates with a new gentlemen and it was going really well. Then he let me know about his crazy past and that he had an STD that doesn't go away. I felt like I was still attracted to addicts with hearing his past and he was honest about liking to go to bars on th...	Breakingfree	9	403	Apr 1, 2014 by grateful2be
	Opinions wanted (Preview) I have been on this bord for years I have worked on me and have thought I had everything going well .... on my side anyway... my AH is functioning and I know nothing was gonna change with him cuz "he didnt have a prob" Well two DWI's later and $12000 to fight it all and still awaiting court for las...	sweeetr	12	396	Apr 1, 2014 by Breakingfree
	What a night... (Preview) Had a terrible night last...after returning home from having coffee with a close friend my AH was home drunk and my son bought a case of beer and drank them all after being sober for close to 2 months. I realize the potential for him to slip was going to be a reality when he returned home from treatment and c...	SB	5	388	Apr 1, 2014 by el-cee
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