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Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

Hi all ....thank you for the comments to my last post. I re read them and try to digest. My emotions are like a runaway train to be quite honest. My family member did have his surgery on Monday and all went well. My AH stayed home willingly, (but....)with our daughter so I could go to the hosp last night...h...

Mnuser320 · Mnuser320

How did I become this person? I am completely unhinged.....again...after putting myself together over and over and over again over the years, I divorced (for the 3rd time...) , and relocated last year to my childhood state, bought a home and brought my mom (acoa) and my 52 year old unmarried alcoholi...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Good morning everyone, I had a revelation about revelations this morning. I have slowly had my eyes opening up and this program is working its magic. This morning I had a revelation - my AH needs to have his OWN revelations. I often have to learn my lessons a number of times before they actually "S...

mamachief · mamachief

I just can't believe it.... said he would try to stay sober lasted 9 days. Well no really not even a day. He bought a bottle the day after his seziure wasn't suppose to drive but said I refused to drive him, not true. I'm really not sure how many days he didn't drink. I've been calling him on it not sure why ch...

cerika111 · cerika111

Hi Alanon family, I have been here before, but it has been a long time. I honestly believe that Alanon saved my life and I thought I understood all of the principles... My daughter, who I watched like a hawk through high school for signs of substance abuse, has been in 7 rehabs in the last 18 months. We fo...

Starting Again · Starting Again

On Friday night I had a feeling it was beginning again. I didn't search but I just got that inkling. Saturday he went to a meeting but left half way through and came home early. He keeps finding reasons not to go. That night he went to sleep and I was awake at 12:30 searching the entire house. Finally I...

Cathyinaz · Cathyinaz

Good Morning my Friends I'm lurking on MIP but I'm not helping. I don't have it in me for some reason. I love you all and want so bad to be of service but my head is not in the right place. I'm OK...I'm not sad and upset. Just living. Go from day to day with my prayers, meetings, books and thoughts. I thin...

hopes314 · hopes314

I do alnon and it does help me stay afloat with my AH. When I get my chance I am out of there as soon as the kids are old enough. I have to hate myself so much to allow such a useless A in my life. I know he wouldn't stick around for me. There is no relationship and i understand why people get a divorce because...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. You know...it's funny with all these great things in my life I am getting cold feet....I keep telling myself to take a different route or to hold off on certain things.....hold back on my growth. Looking for reasons not to go forwa...

Jenn86 · Jenn86

I am fairly new to Al anon. I've been to 6 f2f meetings and a few online meetings. I currently live in an area that doesn't have f2f Al anon meetings so it's a bit challenging when I need support. Right now I feel frustrated because my ABF keeps asking me for money I can't afford to give. I understand thi...

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Today, is a new day for me I have met my serenity and peace. I have been unhappy with how things have been going with my AH and our marrige and also with my job. This morning my office decided to let me go because I was very liked by my doctors and patient that she felt threatned so she let me go. I have to say tha...

sadsusie · sadsusie

I had such a revelation the last few days. I am feeling more and more comfortable in my own skin. I finally feel like can be lavishly good to myself and not feel guilty about it. I can actually spend money on myself and only 15% feel like I need to say - "see what you have spent". I am looking forwar...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

April 8 ODAT Would I stand on the seashore and, like King Canure of the ancient legend, try to command the tides? It is just as fruitless to try to control the alcoholic. Yet this is what I would be attempting to force sobriety by my will power. I must honestly admit that I am not even able to control my own th...

giraffe13 · giraffe13

hi guys, I just finished this exercise and I decided 2 do a post b/c I am feeling much better and it may help you too. A friend of mine quit smoking last year, and made a flip book of things to read when he felt like smoking to help with the urges. I did the same with my A. I made a flip book of the facts I know about t...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Today is an off day for me. I am not in synch at all. I feel lost in my head. I don't have a lot to say because I am not sure that whatever will come out will make any sense at all. So, here I am feeling not at all like myself. I thought I was having a pretty good day until I got on the internet. Does anyone else feel th...

KiaOra · KiaOra

Hi all, I've been a lurker on this board for awhile and have been going to Al Anon on and off. Tonight my boyfriend came home and was extremely flustered - said he thinks he might have killed someone, and proceeds to tell me that he beat his friend into a bloody pulp. After explaining, he begins his 'woe is m...

Kerrymom · Kerrymom

So my AH is "in control" (his words) of his drinking, meaning only drinking every other weekend. This has been going on for almost 3 months which is longer than any other time and he says it's because he realized how bad it was for me and doesn't want to lose me and the kids, blah blah blah. He's...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sorry for all you animal lovers but I feel like I am beating a dead horse w/ all the comments I have been making. I seem to be staying on a subject that I should have dropped a long time ago. I was supposed to speak at our Alano Club on Sunday. I am feeling a bit guilty that I changed my mind & that there is not...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

My AH asked me to take him to the hospital last Friday night. I refused. It was hard because I knew his blood alcohol level was high... he had been drinking for days I don't live with him but I feel a sense of obligation sometimes. I talked to my sponsor for a while before I decided to give him the AA hotline #...

Wisdom67 · Wisdom67

hello , happy to be here and working my way threw the other side. i see clearly now since the fog has lifted thats all i have to share.

ilovedogs · ilovedogs

I went to dinner with a program friend the other night and she was talking about her sponsor and revealed that she talks to her sponsor daily. I have to admit that I was jealous because I only speak to my sponsor weekly and because she has so many other sponsees, I try not to call her the rest of the week. Gr...

neshema2 · neshema2

Just stopping in to check up on my boardies....hope u all are ok.....income tax is on last month and loved the $$ but oh so tired...daughter #2 is trying to inch her way back in and i set the boundary w/her...unless / until she gets into recovery and i see significent change there will be no my "putti...

slogan_jim · slogan_jim

Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Growth has been an integral part of my recovery in al-anon. I now feel like I am growing in a different direction from certain people in my life. I've spoken of my friends that I grew up with that frequent bars to often for my liking. T...

Melly1248 · Melly1248

Had a bit of a moment today. (a good moment, I think) That guy that I live with has been saying nothing but sweet things for the past few weeks, telling me he loves me, he misses me, he wants things to go back to how they were. I've been feeling a bit agitated because his words might be nice but in reality his di...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

I remember reading something about Unresolved Grief several years back. It really hit me hard. I realized that was my problem. I had so much unresolved grief stemming from choices I made that resulted in a divorce and a subsequent marriage to a sociopath and then physical violence by said sociopath....

ct1203 · ct1203

I am new to this group. Looking for somewhere to lay down my burdens. I have been married to an alcoholic for 13 years. We have 2 children. For the most part we did make a good life for ourselves, despite the problem drinking. My husband has always worked, took care of his responsibilities, and basically...

dsjnix · dsjnix

Hello, I am new to the group and new to Al anon. I am seeking an online sponsor. Can anyone point me in the right direction? -- Edited by dsjnix on Monday 7th of April 2014 09:07:26 AM

GeorgiaWife14 · GeorgiaWife14

I have never sought help but know I should have years ago. I grew up in an alcoholic home (dad) and have been married to an alcoholic for almost 23 years. he did not drink much the first 8 or so years of our marriage. When he started I became the nagging wife confronting he said he would gwt help but I began fin...

grateful2be · grateful2be

I met with my A son for lunch today. He is doing well right now with a temporary job and alcohol and drug free. He is making choices I wouldn't make, but he is 38 and must make his own choices. Our connections didn't work for today and after multiple cellphone missed calls and texts for reasons that will...

mm830 · mm830

Today I have been very introspective and prayerful. One thing that always brings me peace is going outside and just watching things. Maybe it sounds corny, but the birds, the flowers, the clouds. New leaves on the trees. And one thought that keeps coming to mind is nature renews. In its own time. When i...

el-cee · el-cee

I was reading 'Hope for Today' and came across a reading on the four M's. I have never heard of these before. They offer an explanation as to why we are attracted to alcoholics. They behaviours that are in response to living with alcoholism. They are martydom, managing, manipulation and mothering....

Emeraldloo · Emeraldloo

I thought I'd say hello. I came here as I need support. I have no one in my situation to talk to. I have a two year old an alcoholic husband. He has put us in great debt. The first year of a baby ate at our relationship and then the drinking got bad. Passed out on the front step. Injuries. Debt. I tried local a...

redred · redred

My mum is an alcoholic but will NEVER admit it. She has been emotionally torturing my poor dad for three days now. Threatening suicide, blaming him and myself for EVERYTHING that is wrong with her. He looks after her non stop but she constantly bitches at him. Ok I will admit the man is really untidy...

Jerry F · Jerry F

and so I was taught when it got that way to stop, stand still, look down at my feet and ask myself "Where am I"? and then to look straight up above me and ask "Where do you want me"? Still fighting the bank regarding the global meltdown with the illegal, immoral, sub-prime fiasc...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

seems as if when it rains it pours. . its pouring yet im strangly calm. . not really, i think maybe im avoiding. where to start. . welllll. . saturday nite. . im home. .ah out. daughter has a friend here tonight. i tend to worry what her friends think and or tell their parents when they see that my ah isnt home...

mamachief · mamachief

I'm so new at all this I don't even know where to start

giraffe13 · giraffe13

I have had some really hard days here sprinkled in between ok days, and a few good days. I will say great days when I am 100% over my A. bf or ex bf. whatever. I was not feeling good, and I actually called the phone bridge. Brilliant idea! 1.ironically the first 2 shares were exactly like my situation and tho...

xohhhgirlx · xohhhgirlx

I'm at a loss. I've been in love with someone for a while now and we have finally this past year got together. It was a long distance relationship until I moved back into town. Things went from perfect to just hurtful. He became distant(even more so than just the 8 hours distance itself). He would dis...

nurse32 · nurse32

Hi, this is my first time on here. I am a 24 year old women, nurse, mommy of 2, and divorced. i met my boyfriend almost 3 years ago after separating from my now ex husband and after he went to jail for a DWI (his 3rd in tx) i quickly became pregnant within 4 months of meeting him. He is a wonderful, amazing, lovi...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi all, I was in a situation yesterday were I wanted something, I really wanted it, I had visualisations of how my life would be if I got it. I prayed I talked to HP, I told him your WILL be done whatever the outcome I know it is for the best. I trusted that he can see around the corner and knows what is best for me...

Jkphotogal · Jkphotogal

My AH finally admitted he has a problem and went to his first AA meeting on Thursday. It was tough for him to go, but he went. So my question for all of you is, now what? He says he's going again today, but how do I encourage him to keep going without nagging?

el-cee · el-cee

This program has taught me that whatever discomfort Im feeling its all about me. I mean, I have a friend that has clear issues and she can be a bit mean and she can put you down in a sly way, she is a real negative thinker but can also be really really over the top happy. I think there are mental health issues an...

SerenityRUS · SerenityRUS

It looks like we will be moving .. I have 3 hours until I get the keys and things are CRAZY is putting it mildly. This happened all so fast and it's so great for the kids and for me. It's a beautiful 3brd 1 1/2 bath which is what I have wanted for years a town house!! The hard part is letting go of what the STBAX...

mm830 · mm830

I feel just lost right now. I am really struggling and why do I think I would get support from an A really I know better. I want so bad to just curl up in a ball and hide from everyone and everything and just stop feeling like this. I cry at my stupid desk at work, who does that. I am just so worn down to nothing. So...

Living508 · Living508

I'm feeling very preoccupied w/ thoughts about my A father. I havent seen him drink in almost a year b/c he has been "sober"...though I think he just hides it from me. Next week we are having a family reunion & I am very anxious about him drinking in front of me. I am actually always anxio...

Newlife girl · Newlife girl

Even though I have moved out and away from my AH, I find myself checking up on him. Last week I could tell by talking to him on the phone that he was drinking. It was a very slight clue in his voice...what I call cotton mouth. So, being the sick person I am, I kept talking to him on purpose to be sure he didn't sou...

bud · bud

Last week I sent a fruit arrangement to the nursing home staff in care taking my parents as a small thank you. Just a small token of my gratitude. It seems more than a coincidence that shortly afterwards my sister indirectly accused me of throwing her photo across my parent's room and breaking the fra...

SB · SB

Hello to all, I went a meeting on Tuesday night and drove an hour to get there...well worth my time! This meeting I went to was the very 1st one I was taken to by my sponsor probably 30 years ago! I was so scared to go in there and I've never been scared to go to a meeting, but it felt like my first time again. when...

sadsusie · sadsusie

Wow, I actually feel happy today! Even though my AH woke me up at 5am lol. I then played with my cat for about 45minutes with a new toy I bought her. Elcee, I really do think I had a spiritual awakening. I have let most of my resentment go (well at least I am on the other side of the Hill with that one; ). I am stil...

Needsomeone · Needsomeone

Hi every one I am new here. Is there anyone who wants to talk? Needsomeone

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I am having an average day I guess. I feel some serenity but am concerned about my mom. I know she is in good hands. I am so grateful for a day w/o too many distractions or drama. Now I have to go on & make something out of my day. I have to focus on what matters the most & do what is in front of me. I am going...

Theoceancalls · Theoceancalls

worries. . we fret and lose sleep. my big thing. . i.hopefully going to soon be interviewining for two new job possibikities. . wonderful-get me out of at least one highly dysfunctional place. . but. im terrified. the folks i wrk with now. .the few i trust. ihave been with for 15yrs. they know my story. t...

Tiff314 · Tiff314

Just wanted to introduce myself. I've been in AlAnon for a year now...just celebrated my birthday. And I have a REAL birthday next Wednesday. In the past year I've been through a lot. In the past two, a helluva lot. I just began to type out a few of the things I've endured but I decided to delete them....

NavySealWife · NavySealWife

Well, day five of my AH not being home. I usually go out for breakfast on sunday's with my parents and today I rather stayed home and take care of alot of laundrey I had to wash. I have been doing that all day until my AH calls me and tells me he will be home later after he supposely put some door locks on, as if he...

kismetstrand · kismetstrand

April 3 ODAT It really isnt so hard to believe in miracles in Al Anon. We see such miraculous changes in people who came as newcomers filled with self pity and resentment and beset with fears. There may not even have been any improvements in their alcoholic situation at home, but what they learn in Al Ano...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

I made the decision to let my 5 year old live by her dad around Christmas time. I was in my clinical and had exams every other day, with work and her coming home from school everyday crying, meeting with the principle twice and hearing them say my kid was a problem, I just wanted to remove her from that schoo...

ClearTheFog · ClearTheFog

Crazymaid? LOL. Bad grammar, I know. The break up is still in progress. I am managing to keep in mind 24/7 all the unreasonable behaviors and blaming/shaming/scolding that came my way during the relationship, averaging about 3 per hour if we were together in person. Less on the phone because I could...

lookingup · lookingup

Ok,now this thing we call alcoholic desease is beginning to frighten me cause my a is back home we'll to my house anyway he considers my home his home too,he is sober as far as I can tell.but it's like when he comes in messed up I wait till the next morning when he is sober and ask him what happened and he simpl...

Breakingfree · Breakingfree

food! I have been working out 5 days a week for a few months now and I am toning up and feeling better. BUT, I am still sabotaging myself with over eating. It just pisses me off that after all I have learned and come through I know better. I am an emotional eater and know my triggers and still haven't put a stop...

WorkingThroughIt · WorkingThroughIt

after all this time I finally went and spoke up to the guy who character assassinated me several years ago. It had gotten so bad and was so widespread I was never going to ever have any semblance of a life in this state. I needed to speak up. yes I tried to rescue him but he was there too WITH HIS OWN MOTIVES. N...

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	all over the place (Preview) Hi all ....thank you for the comments to my last post. I re read them and try to digest. My emotions are like a runaway train to be quite honest. My family member did have his surgery on Monday and all went well. My AH stayed home willingly, (but....)with our daughter so I could go to the hosp last night...h...	Theoceancalls	9	471	Apr 9, 2014 by Grace7
	Anger/Resentment (Preview) How did I become this person? I am completely unhinged.....again...after putting myself together over and over and over again over the years, I divorced (for the 3rd time...) , and relocated last year to my childhood state, bought a home and brought my mom (acoa) and my 52 year old unmarried alcoholi...	Mnuser320	10	413	Apr 9, 2014 by Mnuser320
	Getting out of their way / a revelation about revelations detachment getting out of their way focus on me happiness truth (Preview) Good morning everyone, I had a revelation about revelations this morning. I have slowly had my eyes opening up and this program is working its magic. This morning I had a revelation - my AH needs to have his OWN revelations. I often have to learn my lessons a number of times before they actually "S...	sadsusie	6	13997	Apr 9, 2014 by oldergal
	ugh so annoyed (Preview) I just can't believe it.... said he would try to stay sober lasted 9 days. Well no really not even a day. He bought a bottle the day after his seziure wasn't suppose to drive but said I refused to drive him, not true. I'm really not sure how many days he didn't drink. I've been calling him on it not sure why ch...	mamachief	7	456	Apr 9, 2014 by grateful2be
	My daughter is in jail Child daughter out of control (Preview) Hi Alanon family, I have been here before, but it has been a long time. I honestly believe that Alanon saved my life and I thought I understood all of the principles... My daughter, who I watched like a hawk through high school for signs of substance abuse, has been in 7 rehabs in the last 18 months. We fo...	cerika111	14	10168	Apr 9, 2014 by cerika111
	searching for bottles (Preview) On Friday night I had a feeling it was beginning again. I didn't search but I just got that inkling. Saturday he went to a meeting but left half way through and came home early. He keeps finding reasons not to go. That night he went to sleep and I was awake at 12:30 searching the entire house. Finally I...	Starting Again	9	449	Apr 9, 2014 by grateful2be
	I don't have it in me (Preview) Good Morning my Friends I'm lurking on MIP but I'm not helping. I don't have it in me for some reason. I love you all and want so bad to be of service but my head is not in the right place. I'm OK...I'm not sad and upset. Just living. Go from day to day with my prayers, meetings, books and thoughts. I thin...	Cathyinaz	14	432	Apr 9, 2014 by ParisMemories
	i see my life (Preview) I do alnon and it does help me stay afloat with my AH. When I get my chance I am out of there as soon as the kids are old enough. I have to hate myself so much to allow such a useless A in my life. I know he wouldn't stick around for me. There is no relationship and i understand why people get a divorce because...	hopes314	5	570	Apr 9, 2014 by PP
	Questioning where this is all leading me. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. You know...it's funny with all these great things in my life I am getting cold feet....I keep telling myself to take a different route or to hold off on certain things.....hold back on my growth. Looking for reasons not to go forwa...	slogan_jim	3	469	Apr 9, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	New--Frustrated (Preview) I am fairly new to Al anon. I've been to 6 f2f meetings and a few online meetings. I currently live in an area that doesn't have f2f Al anon meetings so it's a bit challenging when I need support. Right now I feel frustrated because my ABF keeps asking me for money I can't afford to give. I understand thi...	Jenn86	3	412	Apr 9, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Today is the start of a new beginning, one door closes and hope another door opens.... (Preview) Today, is a new day for me I have met my serenity and peace. I have been unhappy with how things have been going with my AH and our marrige and also with my job. This morning my office decided to let me go because I was very liked by my doctors and patient that she felt threatned so she let me go. I have to say tha...	NavySealWife	1	283	Apr 9, 2014 by Debilyn
	My intense rage....but still love him.. (Preview) I had such a revelation the last few days. I am feeling more and more comfortable in my own skin. I finally feel like can be lavishly good to myself and not feel guilty about it. I can actually spend money on myself and only 15% feel like I need to say - "see what you have spent". I am looking forwar...	sadsusie	13	658	Apr 8, 2014 by sadsusie
	Control, Interfere, Protect vs. Improvement (Preview) April 8 ODAT Would I stand on the seashore and, like King Canure of the ancient legend, try to command the tides? It is just as fruitless to try to control the alcoholic. Yet this is what I would be attempting to force sobriety by my will power. I must honestly admit that I am not even able to control my own th...	kismetstrand	2	422	Apr 8, 2014 by Cathyinaz
	an exercise for progress (Preview) hi guys, I just finished this exercise and I decided 2 do a post b/c I am feeling much better and it may help you too. A friend of mine quit smoking last year, and made a flip book of things to read when he felt like smoking to help with the urges. I did the same with my A. I made a flip book of the facts I know about t...	giraffe13	3	750	Apr 8, 2014 by PP
	I think my thinker is broken (Preview) Today is an off day for me. I am not in synch at all. I feel lost in my head. I don't have a lot to say because I am not sure that whatever will come out will make any sense at all. So, here I am feeling not at all like myself. I thought I was having a pretty good day until I got on the internet. Does anyone else feel th...	Hoot Nanny	4	385	Apr 8, 2014 by grateful2be
	Advice appreciated (Preview) Hi all, I've been a lurker on this board for awhile and have been going to Al Anon on and off. Tonight my boyfriend came home and was extremely flustered - said he thinks he might have killed someone, and proceeds to tell me that he beat his friend into a bloody pulp. After explaining, he begins his 'woe is m...	KiaOra	8	577	Apr 8, 2014 by grateful2be
	Am I just pessimistic? (Preview) So my AH is "in control" (his words) of his drinking, meaning only drinking every other weekend. This has been going on for almost 3 months which is longer than any other time and he says it's because he realized how bad it was for me and doesn't want to lose me and the kids, blah blah blah. He's...	Kerrymom	6	406	Apr 8, 2014 by PP
	it is like beating a dead horse... (Preview) Sorry for all you animal lovers but I feel like I am beating a dead horse w/ all the comments I have been making. I seem to be staying on a subject that I should have dropped a long time ago. I was supposed to speak at our Alano Club on Sunday. I am feeling a bit guilty that I changed my mind & that there is not...	Hoot Nanny	0	342	Apr 8, 2014 by Hoot Nanny
	I practiced detachment better than ever (Preview) My AH asked me to take him to the hospital last Friday night. I refused. It was hard because I knew his blood alcohol level was high... he had been drinking for days I don't live with him but I feel a sense of obligation sometimes. I talked to my sponsor for a while before I decided to give him the AA hotline #...	Newlife girl	7	525	Apr 8, 2014 by Mitsy
	wisdom (Preview) hello , happy to be here and working my way threw the other side. i see clearly now since the fog has lifted thats all i have to share.	Wisdom67	9	667	Apr 8, 2014 by PP
	How often do you talk to your sponsor? (Preview) I went to dinner with a program friend the other night and she was talking about her sponsor and revealed that she talks to her sponsor daily. I have to admit that I was jealous because I only speak to my sponsor weekly and because she has so many other sponsees, I try not to call her the rest of the week. Gr...	ilovedogs	8	693	Apr 8, 2014 by Mitsy
	Just stopping by------------------ (Preview) Just stopping in to check up on my boardies....hope u all are ok.....income tax is on last month and loved the $$ but oh so tired...daughter #2 is trying to inch her way back in and i set the boundary w/her...unless / until she gets into recovery and i see significent change there will be no my "putti...	neshema2	7	376	Apr 8, 2014 by Tasha
	Out-growing people. (Preview) Hi Everyone, My name is Slogan_Jim and I am a grateful member of al-anon. Growth has been an integral part of my recovery in al-anon. I now feel like I am growing in a different direction from certain people in my life. I've spoken of my friends that I grew up with that frequent bars to often for my liking. T...	slogan_jim	20	911	Apr 8, 2014 by Tasha
	Nearly there. (Preview) Had a bit of a moment today. (a good moment, I think) That guy that I live with has been saying nothing but sweet things for the past few weeks, telling me he loves me, he misses me, he wants things to go back to how they were. I've been feeling a bit agitated because his words might be nice but in reality his di...	Melly1248	16	672	Apr 7, 2014 by pinkchip
	Unresolved Grief (Preview) I remember reading something about Unresolved Grief several years back. It really hit me hard. I realized that was my problem. I had so much unresolved grief stemming from choices I made that resulted in a divorce and a subsequent marriage to a sociopath and then physical violence by said sociopath....	kismetstrand	2	536	Apr 7, 2014 by Jerry F
	Here it goes... (Preview) I am new to this group. Looking for somewhere to lay down my burdens. I have been married to an alcoholic for 13 years. We have 2 children. For the most part we did make a good life for ourselves, despite the problem drinking. My husband has always worked, took care of his responsibilities, and basically...	ct1203	7	387	Apr 7, 2014 by Newlife girl
	seeking an online sponsor (Preview) Hello, I am new to the group and new to Al anon. I am seeking an online sponsor. Can anyone point me in the right direction? -- Edited by dsjnix on Monday 7th of April 2014 09:07:26 AM	dsjnix	1	242	Apr 7, 2014 by kismetstrand
	Feeling lost (Preview) I have never sought help but know I should have years ago. I grew up in an alcoholic home (dad) and have been married to an alcoholic for almost 23 years. he did not drink much the first 8 or so years of our marriage. When he started I became the nagging wife confronting he said he would gwt help but I began fin...	GeorgiaWife14	6	346	Apr 7, 2014 by PP
	My son and a turnaround (Preview) I met with my A son for lunch today. He is doing well right now with a temporary job and alcohol and drug free. He is making choices I wouldn't make, but he is 38 and must make his own choices. Our connections didn't work for today and after multiple cellphone missed calls and texts for reasons that will...	grateful2be	20	689	Apr 7, 2014 by neshema2
	Nature (Preview) Today I have been very introspective and prayerful. One thing that always brings me peace is going outside and just watching things. Maybe it sounds corny, but the birds, the flowers, the clouds. New leaves on the trees. And one thought that keeps coming to mind is nature renews. In its own time. When i...	mm830	5	330	Apr 7, 2014 by neshema2
	The four M's (Preview) I was reading 'Hope for Today' and came across a reading on the four M's. I have never heard of these before. They offer an explanation as to why we are attracted to alcoholics. They behaviours that are in response to living with alcoholism. They are martydom, managing, manipulation and mothering....	el-cee	12	1572	Apr 7, 2014 by milkwood
	New and not in a group. (Preview) I thought I'd say hello. I came here as I need support. I have no one in my situation to talk to. I have a two year old an alcoholic husband. He has put us in great debt. The first year of a baby ate at our relationship and then the drinking got bad. Passed out on the front step. Injuries. Debt. I tried local a...	Emeraldloo	9	477	Apr 7, 2014 by Emeraldloo
	Its the cruelty that gets to me.... (Preview) My mum is an alcoholic but will NEVER admit it. She has been emotionally torturing my poor dad for three days now. Threatening suicide, blaming him and myself for EVERYTHING that is wrong with her. He looks after her non stop but she constantly bitches at him. Ok I will admit the man is really untidy...	redred	5	667	Apr 6, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	Can't see the forest for the trees.... (Preview) and so I was taught when it got that way to stop, stand still, look down at my feet and ask myself "Where am I"? and then to look straight up above me and ask "Where do you want me"? Still fighting the bank regarding the global meltdown with the illegal, immoral, sub-prime fiasc...	Jerry F	12	477	Apr 6, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	just needing to connect (Preview) seems as if when it rains it pours. . its pouring yet im strangly calm. . not really, i think maybe im avoiding. where to start. . welllll. . saturday nite. . im home. .ah out. daughter has a friend here tonight. i tend to worry what her friends think and or tell their parents when they see that my ah isnt home...	Theoceancalls	7	544	Apr 6, 2014 by sadsusie
	New (Preview) I'm so new at all this I don't even know where to start	mamachief	9	355	Apr 6, 2014 by KennyFenderjazz
	al anon meetings were helpful to me recently (Preview) I have had some really hard days here sprinkled in between ok days, and a few good days. I will say great days when I am 100% over my A. bf or ex bf. whatever. I was not feeling good, and I actually called the phone bridge. Brilliant idea! 1.ironically the first 2 shares were exactly like my situation and tho...	giraffe13	4	381	Apr 6, 2014 by PP
	New..Sad..and in need of help. (Preview) I'm at a loss. I've been in love with someone for a while now and we have finally this past year got together. It was a long distance relationship until I moved back into town. Things went from perfect to just hurtful. He became distant(even more so than just the 8 hours distance itself). He would dis...	xohhhgirlx	4	537	Apr 6, 2014 by pinkchip
	New here, new to addiction (Preview) Hi, this is my first time on here. I am a 24 year old women, nurse, mommy of 2, and divorced. i met my boyfriend almost 3 years ago after separating from my now ex husband and after he went to jail for a DWI (his 3rd in tx) i quickly became pregnant within 4 months of meeting him. He is a wonderful, amazing, lovi...	nurse32	3	700	Apr 6, 2014 by pinkchip
	HP's will v my will (Preview) Hi all, I was in a situation yesterday were I wanted something, I really wanted it, I had visualisations of how my life would be if I got it. I prayed I talked to HP, I told him your WILL be done whatever the outcome I know it is for the best. I trusted that he can see around the corner and knows what is best for me...	Tracy	5	389	Apr 6, 2014 by grateful2be
	AH went to 1st AA meeting.... now what? (Preview) My AH finally admitted he has a problem and went to his first AA meeting on Thursday. It was tough for him to go, but he went. So my question for all of you is, now what? He says he's going again today, but how do I encourage him to keep going without nagging?	Jkphotogal	7	813	Apr 5, 2014 by Jerry F
	Its always me (Preview) This program has taught me that whatever discomfort Im feeling its all about me. I mean, I have a friend that has clear issues and she can be a bit mean and she can put you down in a sly way, she is a real negative thinker but can also be really really over the top happy. I think there are mental health issues an...	el-cee	4	504	Apr 5, 2014 by Theoceancalls
	Moving :) (Preview) It looks like we will be moving .. I have 3 hours until I get the keys and things are CRAZY is putting it mildly. This happened all so fast and it's so great for the kids and for me. It's a beautiful 3brd 1 1/2 bath which is what I have wanted for years a town house!! The hard part is letting go of what the STBAX...	SerenityRUS	10	629	Apr 5, 2014 by likemyheart
	One of those days (Preview) I feel just lost right now. I am really struggling and why do I think I would get support from an A really I know better. I want so bad to just curl up in a ball and hide from everyone and everything and just stop feeling like this. I cry at my stupid desk at work, who does that. I am just so worn down to nothing. So...	mm830	10	459	Apr 5, 2014 by xohhhgirlx
	Bad day...need some help please. (Preview) I'm feeling very preoccupied w/ thoughts about my A father. I havent seen him drink in almost a year b/c he has been "sober"...though I think he just hides it from me. Next week we are having a family reunion & I am very anxious about him drinking in front of me. I am actually always anxio...	Living508	4	335	Apr 5, 2014 by Mimi3
	The roller coaster continues (Preview) Even though I have moved out and away from my AH, I find myself checking up on him. Last week I could tell by talking to him on the phone that he was drinking. It was a very slight clue in his voice...what I call cotton mouth. So, being the sick person I am, I kept talking to him on purpose to be sure he didn't sou...	Newlife girl	3	462	Apr 5, 2014 by el-cee
	I did WHAT?!!! (Preview) Last week I sent a fruit arrangement to the nursing home staff in care taking my parents as a small thank you. Just a small token of my gratitude. It seems more than a coincidence that shortly afterwards my sister indirectly accused me of throwing her photo across my parent's room and breaking the fra...	bud	7	613	Apr 5, 2014 by bud
	Very concerned...don't know what to do (Preview) Hello to all, I went a meeting on Tuesday night and drove an hour to get there...well worth my time! This meeting I went to was the very 1st one I was taken to by my sponsor probably 30 years ago! I was so scared to go in there and I've never been scared to go to a meeting, but it felt like my first time again. when...	SB	8	440	Apr 5, 2014 by pinkchip
	Feeling Happy, wow. (Preview) Wow, I actually feel happy today! Even though my AH woke me up at 5am lol. I then played with my cat for about 45minutes with a new toy I bought her. Elcee, I really do think I had a spiritual awakening. I have let most of my resentment go (well at least I am on the other side of the Hill with that one; ). I am stil...	sadsusie	9	704	Apr 5, 2014 by Sweet Stanley
	New (Preview) Hi every one I am new here. Is there anyone who wants to talk? Needsomeone	Needsomeone	6	326	Apr 5, 2014 by milkwood
	just another day in recovery (Preview) I am having an average day I guess. I feel some serenity but am concerned about my mom. I know she is in good hands. I am so grateful for a day w/o too many distractions or drama. Now I have to go on & make something out of my day. I have to focus on what matters the most & do what is in front of me. I am going...	Hoot Nanny	1	205	Apr 5, 2014 by el-cee
	sane people sleep.at this hour (Preview) worries. . we fret and lose sleep. my big thing. . i.hopefully going to soon be interviewining for two new job possibikities. . wonderful-get me out of at least one highly dysfunctional place. . but. im terrified. the folks i wrk with now. .the few i trust. ihave been with for 15yrs. they know my story. t...	Theoceancalls	8	502	Apr 5, 2014 by Jerry F
	Hello...I'm New Here... (Preview) Just wanted to introduce myself. I've been in AlAnon for a year now...just celebrated my birthday. And I have a REAL birthday next Wednesday. In the past year I've been through a lot. In the past two, a helluva lot. I just began to type out a few of the things I've endured but I decided to delete them....	Tiff314	13	512	Apr 4, 2014 by Tiff314
	Im not going to let him break me down.... (Preview) Well, day five of my AH not being home. I usually go out for breakfast on sunday's with my parents and today I rather stayed home and take care of alot of laundrey I had to wash. I have been doing that all day until my AH calls me and tells me he will be home later after he supposely put some door locks on, as if he...	NavySealWife	9	521	Apr 4, 2014 by NavySealWife
	April 3 ODAT (Preview) April 3 ODAT It really isnt so hard to believe in miracles in Al Anon. We see such miraculous changes in people who came as newcomers filled with self pity and resentment and beset with fears. There may not even have been any improvements in their alcoholic situation at home, but what they learn in Al Ano...	kismetstrand	3	347	Apr 4, 2014 by grateful2be
	Okay so I have honestly been in in a funk lately...... (Preview) I made the decision to let my 5 year old live by her dad around Christmas time. I was in my clinical and had exams every other day, with work and her coming home from school everyday crying, meeting with the principle twice and hearing them say my kid was a problem, I just wanted to remove her from that schoo...	Breakingfree	9	448	Apr 4, 2014 by Melly1248
	I won't be crazymade any more (Preview) Crazymaid? LOL. Bad grammar, I know. The break up is still in progress. I am managing to keep in mind 24/7 all the unreasonable behaviors and blaming/shaming/scolding that came my way during the relationship, averaging about 3 per hour if we were together in person. Less on the phone because I could...	ClearTheFog	9	508	Apr 4, 2014 by ClearTheFog
	I'm back with new news (Preview) Ok,now this thing we call alcoholic desease is beginning to frighten me cause my a is back home we'll to my house anyway he considers my home his home too,he is sober as far as I can tell.but it's like when he comes in messed up I wait till the next morning when he is sober and ask him what happened and he simpl...	lookingup	4	446	Apr 4, 2014 by lookingup
	My addiction...... (Preview) food! I have been working out 5 days a week for a few months now and I am toning up and feeling better. BUT, I am still sabotaging myself with over eating. It just pisses me off that after all I have learned and come through I know better. I am an emotional eater and know my triggers and still haven't put a stop...	Breakingfree	14	354	Apr 3, 2014 by Debilyn
	Spoke up. Finally. (Preview) after all this time I finally went and spoke up to the guy who character assassinated me several years ago. It had gotten so bad and was so widespread I was never going to ever have any semblance of a life in this state. I needed to speak up. yes I tried to rescue him but he was there too WITH HIS OWN MOTIVES. N...	WorkingThroughIt	2	299	Apr 3, 2014 by bud
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