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Phil · Phil

God Grant me the serenity, to accept the things, I cannot change The courage to change things I can And the wisdom to know the difference.

twinkie · twinkie

I keep praying for some guidance on this one. When my A relapsed last August it prompted his ex to file for a change in custody as my A has custody of their 9 year old son. My A has been embroiled in court hearings and a guardian ad litem was appointed to repre...

hersh · hersh

(((Everyone))) Part of this program is recognizing emotions and it is so up and down, a lot of the time. Lastnight, after dropping off AH at his first AA meeting, I was panicked all of a sudden. I just prayed to God that something would sink in to him, but I was so physically affected, even...

nmike · nmike

Well Alanon Friends, My 777 posts show alot of pain but also alot of growth. Thanks for your support. I had a great weekend and a great birthday. I love the fall and Halloween. I am learning so much each and every day. It is stressful this fall. Since my AHsober moved out, I have alot of chores to do by my...

barisax · barisax

I notice that next to each member's post there is a description, "Newbie", "Member", "Veteran Member", "Senior Member", and "Service Worker" are the ones I've seen. While they are more or less self explanatory, I don't know what determines the setting. I have changed from newbie to member to vetera...

Feather · Feather

Hi! I haven't posted in a long while but my life has been the usual - working my program, looking after my three children, home and working. I have had good days and bad days, more good than bad though! Just in case you don't remember my situation about 4 years ago my AH and I separated. He has his...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Hardest part is the realization that your life is all about what someone else is doing and trying to find ways to fill the holes left when you stop the obsession. I have been studying math of all things with an alanon tutor!(scary) I look forward to it (even scarier). I go to meetings...

sandie123 · sandie123

I'm not sure what is going on with me right now. Last night while I was journaling a quote came to me that one of my students use, "I don't know why I am doing this to my self!" This quote hit me hard. One of my students, an obsessed & compulsive eater, uses it everytime he gets caugth stealing foo...

Violeta · Violeta

Hi! I'm new to this forum, but not to Al-Anon. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. He's an addict since 12. He's 29 now. He's been in rehab twice, but relapsed and never went back. His main problem is alcohol, but when he gets drunk, he gets high. Lately he has been trying to stop drinking and I think...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

I have not heard from my A mother who estranged me back in April AGAIN!.... WEll today after a "gloomy" day I got a card in the mail from my mother. She seemed okay in the card...she said with love in it. BUT NOTHING bout me coming over for the upcoming holiday (Thanksgiving). BUT maybe that i...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Family))))) I hope everyone is well today! I recieved this quote from our CEO. I thought it particularly timely with all that is going on around me and thought I would share it with you. Take care of you! "Change has considerable psychological impact on the human mind. ...

kicky · kicky

It's been 2 weeks since I separated from my A after 7years. He is living with a friend. He calls me and leaves nice messages in the mornings (sober) and at night he calls irrate. I have kept my boundaries. I haven't seen him. When he is nice and saying how much he misses me, I just say, "I'm sorry, but you ne...

Tammy · Tammy

I thought I was doing okay lately. At least the last few days. Since my husband and i split up about 7 weeks ago I have had a lot of ups and downs to say the least. We talk several times a day and I see him nearly everyday. Our talks were long in fact we have talked more in the last 7 weeks then we did in the last 6 m... >>>>

Barbara · Barbara

A check was enclosed and I want to rip it up and throw it out! I did that with an anniversary check she just sent us a few weeks ago. I want nothing to do with anyone in my family!

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, I am in a rage this morning.....as most of you know, hub stole two of my check books and wrote checkes all over the place.....I have been getting letters from magistrates for days now......he is well aware of this situation....I was feeling a little bad about pressing charges and s...

Barbara · Barbara

anyone sign up yet? Its at the SeaCrest in No Falmouth and they are starting to take reservations

laurab · laurab

Yesterday morning, at 7:00, my 29 yr old A son, called because his shoulder had popped out of it's socket. This is an old sports injury that happens once in awhile and usually he can push it back in. Of course it required PT when it first happened 3 years ago, but he never followed through and now all the mus...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Well went to the Da to presss charges, told me had to file with the police first, went to three different police stations they all kept telling me to go back to the other one...it was awful.....finally contacted an attorney.....she is going to take care of this for me....it is just a...

Rita G · Rita G

"a Housewarming Party without a House" Well this is what I wrote almost a week and half ago. The day after the contractor delivered the dirt for the slab, our area received 10-12 inches of rain. Lots of flooding. We have not heard from our contractor since then. T...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

So much has been going on this past week. My mother has really let go, w/ the help of one of the physical therapist my father allowed us to admit her to the hospital. She has been there for four days and is being moved to a nursing home for two weeks. Then she'll be back home. I hate...

kabbie · kabbie

HELLO ALL - ANY THOUGHTS ON MY LIST? I'M SURE I'VE MISSED SOME THINGS.. THANKS, Kabbie CONTRACT (Begins the day you return home from rehab) Daily AA meetings and weekly counseling a must to stay at home. No rides except to daily AA meetings and job interviews, not on bus or train r...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) This is a topic that has come up since my AW and I have seperated. She showed great panic in the fact that the house looks great, that I cook and provide just fine for myself and our son, and life goes on if she's not there. It really threw her for a loop coming over to the hou...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to wish all of you who celebrate Halloween or all Saints Day: HAPPY HALLOWEEN! May you and your little goblins have an extra fun and safe day. Enjoy your trick or treating. Remember a black kitty is only bad if it's a panther!

W...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Got a sponsor last nite at the f2f meeting

Then I got home and was chatting on yahoo late into the night and ran into this very interesting guy and of course he asks if I am single, married, etc. and I say seperated. Then we get into a deep discussion and he challenges me... He as...

Lexie · Lexie

((((((((friends)))))))))) I just heard from my son after coming out of his sentencing hearing. It really could not have gone any better. He will have to serve probation concurrent to what he is all ready serving....24 months. He has no additional fine! He will have a re...

Violeta · Violeta

Hi guys! I need to know what kind of activities you do with your A's. I'm tired of spending the whole weekend watching movies and would like to suggest something fun. I live in Costa Rica and almost every activity is associated with alcohol. Also I think my boyfriend is really bored with me, I guess he m...

marmare · marmare

So I put a call back for the job shadow I did last week. Said a prayer to my HP to guide me. Got online this morning looking for other opportunities when I got a phone call from a candy company that I applied at a couple weeks ago. I AM SO EXCITED. It's locally owned and it's a custom...

maresie2 · maresie2

I would really like to tell you all that the A is the only issue in my life. I have issues with all authority figures, anyone who doesn't behave humanely and anyone who is really not seeing life from my point of view. Right now I am dealing with a regional manager at work (who thankfull...

akristab · akristab

I used to believe that my AH really meant it when he said he was sorry and that he now knows that he cannot “socially” drink and party after no-showing at work, turning off his cell phone, driving our new truck under the influence and not resurfacing for days for the umpteenth time this decade. In the past...

hersh · hersh

Well.... Things have been spinning, spinning out of control for all of this year. How many bottoms can the AH hit? I always expected the worst, always expected him to be drunk. When he wasn't it was pleasant, but hated the making of plans and them being ruined because he was drunk...

maresie2 · maresie2

I signed up for benefits at one of the jobs I am at. I will not get the card for another month. When I do I will be able to get anti depressants which I badly need. I will also have a window to get dental work which I also badly need. This is huge for me in terms of self care. ...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The a showed up a few mins ago to pick up the kids and take them to get pumpkins for carving. First thing upon entering the house he runs upstairs and brushes his teeth with my toothbrush mind you. Then he comes down. I notice the aroma of alcohol eminating from him. He swears he hasn't been drinking, then g...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, What a long three weeks this has been, and I want to thank you all for your support and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I got the results this week and the lump was benign. It was fatty tissue, a bit of something that was maybe the beginning of a fibroid, and an old hemmorahage. So all in all, a b...

laurab · laurab

I had a really nice day Sunday. I went to a talk and then out to dinner with friends. I hardly thought about my A son. Then, in the car, on the way home I had an attack of guilt. Where was he while I was having a good time? Was he drunk and cold? Did he have money for food? Has he lost his job and has reg...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((My Family)))))) I found this today... I know I have read it before, but I really like it and wanted to share it with you. Take care of you! Life is attitude We create our reality through our perceptions and our way of being. I found a text which reflects perfectly what I believe abou...

kabbie · kabbie

I posted earlier about how I struggle with my financial enabling to my daughter in rehab. Thanks for all the HONEST responses, I needed to hear it. Daughter called from rehab about an hour ago. Wanted me to either take her to and from her facility this weekend (200 miles away) for a Sat eve home visit OR...

evey · evey

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Mobirdie · Mobirdie

My Ason had been clean and sober as far as I knew for 5 months. I got a call from his girlfriend on Saturday telling me that he is drinking at least 12 quarts of beer a night, has become abusive again and she fears he is now dealing drugs. My heart is broken. I found myself in the throws o...

dot · dot

Reminder to all members Group Business Meeting Wed Nov 1st at 7pm ET Agenda Old business - Newcomers Meeting - Schedule - Meeting Topics Review New Business - Change Group meeting to Sun Hope to see you there - Dot

kabbie · kabbie

Since my daughter has been in rehab, I've been trying hard to be a good listener. Sometimes I say things that don't make sense to her, and she calls me on it..thought I'd share - I took alot away from it. When my mom and I were visiting with her on Sat, we each told her that "you don't have to drink to h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

In one of my buddist medatatives, the teacher challenges his students, "If one says incorrect things about our practices, the correct path is to take each idea and unravel it. Say 'This, this, is incorrect based on this reality.' Say, 'This, this is correct based on this reality.' Take each st...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am very proud. I told him that he was not going to stay here this weekend because I didn't feel comfortable about the lying in regard to stealing my son's codiene cough syrup and putting in lemon water instead. Then he showed up smelling like alcohol.... It was hard it's in the 30's tonight and the o...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))), I posted a couple of months ago about the serenity I felt in the woods with hubby. I hadn't felt that way in so long. I'm feeling that same way today. I am on vacation this week and even got an extra hour of it thanks to the time change. Hubby woke me up early this...

kabbie · kabbie

My daughter is 22 and in inpatient rehab - been there almost 30 days now. I visit it her on the weekends. I'm starting to resent having to take her out during my visits for personal supplies etc. She has no money, and is relying right now on my husband and I for financial support. I'm in Alanon, and I know I ha...

albertarose · albertarose

Hello, I'm new to this forum as well as Alanon. I have attended 4 meetings in my home home town and I find it very interesting. After the first meeting that I went to I realized I should have been going for years but I was too shy and scared. I am married to an Alcoholic and I have found my life turned upside dow...

hersh · hersh

(((Rtexas))) Just wondering how you are coping. Always sending prayers your way, and hope you had a good weekend... keep us posted on your life.... HeidiXXXX

Phil · Phil

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I was up last night thinking alot about things in my life. I faced a fear this weekend one that made me feel fear, anxiety, hurt, unworthiness. I knew it was time to face what I was feeling inside but had to get to the point of wanting to do it for me. I am glad I did. I am more at peace with myself today. I am relax...

jeeves · jeeves

Good morning everyone, I have considered a trial separation from the a wife. All she wants is a place to drink and smoke without any intrusion. Her efforts at getting a job are less than sincere and she refuses to go back to detox, rehab. She is certainly in the final stages of al...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((((Family)))))))))), Good morning! I just received my daily reading from the Hazelden Foundation (www.hazelden.org) this morning and it's a perfect way to start off my vacation. Wanted to share it with you. "Miracles are instantaneuos. They cannot be summoned, b...

nmike · nmike

Hi Alanoners, It is my birthday today. I am 57. I made decision to have a good birth day. I am realizing that I have a choice to suffer or not. And I have made alot of progress in my recovery program but I am not quite there. So, I decided that I would take the Alanon slogan of fake it until you make it or act as i...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

Hi everyone! I thank God everyday for sending my guardian angel as a comforting angel as well. See he (my angel) was there for me when I had to deal with my mothers drinking. When I had to deal with being estranged cause she wants to spend her life drinking. He helped me to realize th...

ella · ella

i have a home-group but never signed in for the online group. its very early, and i have non one to call. i am realizing that i am married (for 20 years) to someone who cannot be there for me emotionaly. i just gave up hope that it will get better. he is coming up on his one year clean, and he has a sponser, but...

peewee · peewee

I liked that gratitude alphabet, as usual :) a animals and attitudes b bats and beatitudes c cats and courage d dogs and delights e elephants and esh f frogs and fresh air g gorillas and gumption h hamsters and hello's i ...

ragingchild · ragingchild

Well, hubby and I had a nice vacation paid for by my dad (an anniversary/birthday gift) except for food and whatever we wanted to do down there. We went to Myrtle Beach and had lots of fun. We had our 8th anniversary together (married), been together for 11 yrs, and I am now 26 yrs old!...

maresie2 · maresie2

I come home today from one job to go to another job. I will only have a few hours to rest. I will be working all night long at a very very stressful job. I am tired, I am cranky I am worn out. I do not need to have another plateful of stress. The A has crashed so many cars. He has two ca...

Mindy · Mindy

Today in the chatroom we were talking about the progression of the disease and where our A's are on it. So i thought I would post it here to shar with everyone

http://www.gannett.com/go/difference/greatfalls/pages/part2/progression.html

debilyn · debilyn

I went out to, well cannot remember now. But was in my tshirt as usual. thru on my sweatshirt though. The horse were in rare form. All this food is paying off! Elgin would pretent to bite Glaes, Glaes would pretend to kick Elgin. this went on and on, then Glaes would paw at Elgin...

Phil · Phil

As a recovering alcoholic and a grateful member of Alanon...I have one question.. Are you going to stay stuck? With hope that things will change? We all know that unless the practicing alcoholic hits a bottom or realization, of some kind, that absolutely nothing is going to change.. Yet we h...

laurab · laurab

Today has been a long long lonely day. My husband is away for 11 days. My 3 older children are busy with their families and far from here, the weather is cold and rainy, I have eaten way too much and I am trying so hard to understand detach with love from my A son. How will he know I love him, if I stay far a...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Simple to read...not always simple to do (Preview) God Grant me the serenity, to accept the things, I cannot change The courage to change things I can And the wisdom to know the difference.	Phil	5	339	Nov 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	Am I doing the right thing? (Preview) I keep praying for some guidance on this one. When my A relapsed last August it prompted his ex to file for a change in custody as my A has custody of their 9 year old son. My A has been embroiled in court hearings and a guardian ad litem was appointed to repre...	twinkie	9	486	Nov 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	Now comes the fear.... (Preview) (((Everyone))) Part of this program is recognizing emotions and it is so up and down, a lot of the time. Lastnight, after dropping off AH at his first AA meeting, I was panicked all of a sudden. I just prayed to God that something would sink in to him, but I was so physically affected, even...	hersh	7	467	Nov 2, 2006 by Jerry F
	On 777 posts (Preview) Well Alanon Friends, My 777 posts show alot of pain but also alot of growth. Thanks for your support. I had a great weekend and a great birthday. I love the fall and Halloween. I am learning so much each and every day. It is stressful this fall. Since my AHsober moved out, I have alot of chores to do by my...	nmike	3	297	Nov 2, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Question about the board (Preview) I notice that next to each member's post there is a description, "Newbie", "Member", "Veteran Member", "Senior Member", and "Service Worker" are the ones I've seen. While they are more or less self explanatory, I don't know what determines the setting. I have changed from newbie to member to vetera...	barisax	8	351	Nov 1, 2006 by Lexie
	Sad today... (Preview) Hi! I haven't posted in a long while but my life has been the usual - working my program, looking after my three children, home and working. I have had good days and bad days, more good than bad though! Just in case you don't remember my situation about 4 years ago my AH and I separated. He has his...	Feather	5	245	Nov 1, 2006 by Feather
	The hardest part of this (Preview) Hardest part is the realization that your life is all about what someone else is doing and trying to find ways to fill the holes left when you stop the obsession. I have been studying math of all things with an alanon tutor!(scary) I look forward to it (even scarier). I go to meetings...	carolinagirl	6	461	Nov 1, 2006 by Phil
	Struggling and NEED support (Preview) I'm not sure what is going on with me right now. Last night while I was journaling a quote came to me that one of my students use, "I don't know why I am doing this to my self!" This quote hit me hard. One of my students, an obsessed & compulsive eater, uses it everytime he gets caugth stealing foo...	sandie123	8	404	Nov 1, 2006 by peewee
	Hello (Preview) Hi! I'm new to this forum, but not to Al-Anon. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. He's an addict since 12. He's 29 now. He's been in rehab twice, but relapsed and never went back. His main problem is alcohol, but when he gets drunk, he gets high. Lately he has been trying to stop drinking and I think...	Violeta	7	443	Nov 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Got a card from my mom! (Preview) I have not heard from my A mother who estranged me back in April AGAIN!.... WEll today after a "gloomy" day I got a card in the mail from my mother. She seemed okay in the card...she said with love in it. BUT NOTHING bout me coming over for the upcoming holiday (Thanksgiving). BUT maybe that i...	sensitive1	3	198	Nov 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Change... a quote (Preview) (((((Family))))) I hope everyone is well today! I recieved this quote from our CEO. I thought it particularly timely with all that is going on around me and thought I would share it with you. Take care of you! "Change has considerable psychological impact on the human mind. ...	rtexas	5	329	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Did my A really love me? (Preview) It's been 2 weeks since I separated from my A after 7years. He is living with a friend. He calls me and leaves nice messages in the mornings (sober) and at night he calls irrate. I have kept my boundaries. I haven't seen him. When he is nice and saying how much he misses me, I just say, "I'm sorry, but you ne...	kicky	6	378	Nov 1, 2006 by Orchid Lady
	Making myself CRAZY (Preview) I thought I was doing okay lately. At least the last few days. Since my husband and i split up about 7 weeks ago I have had a lot of ups and downs to say the least. We talk several times a day and I see him nearly everyday. Our talks were long in fact we have talked more in the last 7 weeks then we did in the last 6 m... >>>>	Tammy	7	326	Nov 1, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	Birthday card from my mother and (Preview) A check was enclosed and I want to rip it up and throw it out! I did that with an anniversary check she just sent us a few weeks ago. I want nothing to do with anyone in my family!	Barbara	3	306	Nov 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Going the Da to press charges (Preview) Hello Friends, I am in a rage this morning.....as most of you know, hub stole two of my check books and wrote checkes all over the place.....I have been getting letters from magistrates for days now......he is well aware of this situation....I was feeling a little bad about pressing charges and s...	Andrea12	11	560	Nov 1, 2006 by carolinagirl
	MA AlAnon convention Apr 13-15 (Preview) anyone sign up yet? Its at the SeaCrest in No Falmouth and they are starting to take reservations	Barbara	0	231	Nov 1, 2006 by Barbara
	a little bit stronger (Preview) Yesterday morning, at 7:00, my 29 yr old A son, called because his shoulder had popped out of it's socket. This is an old sports injury that happens once in awhile and usually he can push it back in. Of course it required PT when it first happened 3 years ago, but he never followed through and now all the mus...	laurab	4	283	Nov 1, 2006 by hersh
	Update And A Little Venting (Preview) Hello Friends, Well went to the Da to presss charges, told me had to file with the police first, went to three different police stations they all kept telling me to go back to the other one...it was awful.....finally contacted an attorney.....she is going to take care of this for me....it is just a...	Andrea12	9	508	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Rescheduling that Party (Preview) "a Housewarming Party without a House" Well this is what I wrote almost a week and half ago. The day after the contractor delivered the dirt for the slab, our area received 10-12 inches of rain. Lots of flooding. We have not heard from our contractor since then. T...	Rita G	3	393	Nov 1, 2006 by maresie2
	Praying for a better day (Preview) So much has been going on this past week. My mother has really let go, w/ the help of one of the physical therapist my father allowed us to admit her to the hospital. She has been there for four days and is being moved to a nursing home for two weeks. Then she'll be back home. I hate...	Lunamoth	4	305	Nov 1, 2006 by Jennifer
	Boundaries for daughter's return home after rehab (Preview) HELLO ALL - ANY THOUGHTS ON MY LIST? I'M SURE I'VE MISSED SOME THINGS.. THANKS, Kabbie CONTRACT (Begins the day you return home from rehab) Daily AA meetings and weekly counseling a must to stay at home. No rides except to daily AA meetings and job interviews, not on bus or train r...	kabbie	12	4574	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Don't NEED the A (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) This is a topic that has come up since my AW and I have seperated. She showed great panic in the fact that the house looks great, that I cook and provide just fine for myself and our son, and life goes on if she's not there. It really threw her for a loop coming over to the hou...	rtexas	13	549	Nov 1, 2006 by kicky
	Happy Halloween (Preview) ((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to wish all of you who celebrate Halloween or all Saints Day: HAPPY HALLOWEEN! May you and your little goblins have an extra fun and safe day. Enjoy your trick or treating. Remember a black kitty is only bad if it's a panther! W...	Karilynn	8	365	Nov 1, 2006 by peewee
	Struggling (Preview) Got a sponsor last nite at the f2f meeting Then I got home and was chatting on yahoo late into the night and ran into this very interesting guy and of course he asks if I am single, married, etc. and I say seperated. Then we get into a deep discussion and he challenges me... He as...	carolinagirl	13	349	Oct 31, 2006 by albertarose
	answered prayer (Preview) ((((((((friends)))))))))) I just heard from my son after coming out of his sentencing hearing. It really could not have gone any better. He will have to serve probation concurrent to what he is all ready serving....24 months. He has no additional fine! He will have a re...	Lexie	9	304	Oct 31, 2006 by twinkie
	Sober activities (Preview) Hi guys! I need to know what kind of activities you do with your A's. I'm tired of spending the whole weekend watching movies and would like to suggest something fun. I live in Costa Rica and almost every activity is associated with alcohol. Also I think my boyfriend is really bored with me, I guess he m...	Violeta	8	501	Oct 31, 2006 by Karilynn
	Another Interview! ! ! (Preview) So I put a call back for the job shadow I did last week. Said a prayer to my HP to guide me. Got online this morning looking for other opportunities when I got a phone call from a candy company that I applied at a couple weeks ago. I AM SO EXCITED. It's locally owned and it's a custom...	marmare	6	274	Oct 31, 2006 by Tammy
	authoirity figures (Preview) I would really like to tell you all that the A is the only issue in my life. I have issues with all authority figures, anyone who doesn't behave humanely and anyone who is really not seeing life from my point of view. Right now I am dealing with a regional manager at work (who thankfull...	maresie2	8	308	Oct 31, 2006 by carolinagirl
	When is enough really enough? (Preview) I used to believe that my AH really meant it when he said he was sorry and that he now knows that he cannot “socially” drink and party after no-showing at work, turning off his cell phone, driving our new truck under the influence and not resurfacing for days for the umpteenth time this decade. In the past...	akristab	5	395	Oct 31, 2006 by carolinagirl
	DUI - message from HP???? (Preview) Well.... Things have been spinning, spinning out of control for all of this year. How many bottoms can the AH hit? I always expected the worst, always expected him to be drunk. When he wasn't it was pleasant, but hated the making of plans and them being ruined because he was drunk...	hersh	8	468	Oct 31, 2006 by athena12
	self care (Preview) I signed up for benefits at one of the jobs I am at. I will not get the card for another month. When I do I will be able to get anti depressants which I badly need. I will also have a window to get dental work which I also badly need. This is huge for me in terms of self care. ...	maresie2	6	278	Oct 31, 2006 by maresie2
	why do I have to care? (Preview) The a showed up a few mins ago to pick up the kids and take them to get pumpkins for carving. First thing upon entering the house he runs upstairs and brushes his teeth with my toothbrush mind you. Then he comes down. I notice the aroma of alcohol eminating from him. He swears he hasn't been drinking, then g...	carolinagirl	7	524	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Biopsy Results (Preview) Hi all, What a long three weeks this has been, and I want to thank you all for your support and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I got the results this week and the lump was benign. It was fatty tissue, a bit of something that was maybe the beginning of a fibroid, and an old hemmorahage. So all in all, a b...	Dolphin123	25	474	Oct 31, 2006 by Noni
	I know guilt is non productive..but (Preview) I had a really nice day Sunday. I went to a talk and then out to dinner with friends. I hardly thought about my A son. Then, in the car, on the way home I had an attack of guilt. Where was he while I was having a good time? Was he drunk and cold? Did he have money for food? Has he lost his job and has reg...	laurab	5	343	Oct 31, 2006 by Noni
	A small gift... (Preview) ((((((My Family)))))) I found this today... I know I have read it before, but I really like it and wanted to share it with you. Take care of you! Life is attitude We create our reality through our perceptions and our way of being. I found a text which reflects perfectly what I believe abou...	rtexas	7	441	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	I did it - I had NO to money (Preview) I posted earlier about how I struggle with my financial enabling to my daughter in rehab. Thanks for all the HONEST responses, I needed to hear it. Daughter called from rehab about an hour ago. Wanted me to either take her to and from her facility this weekend (200 miles away) for a Sat eve home visit OR...	kabbie	6	355	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	fake it til you make it??? (Preview) AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG???????????????	evey	9	770	Oct 31, 2006 by AndiLynn
	Fast track back behind step 1 (Preview) My Ason had been clean and sober as far as I knew for 5 months. I got a call from his girlfriend on Saturday telling me that he is drinking at least 12 quarts of beer a night, has become abusive again and she fears he is now dealing drugs. My heart is broken. I found myself in the throws o...	Mobirdie	6	513	Oct 31, 2006 by Christy
	Group Business Meet'g (Preview) Reminder to all members Group Business Meeting Wed Nov 1st at 7pm ET Agenda Old business - Newcomers Meeting - Schedule - Meeting Topics Review New Business - Change Group meeting to Sun Hope to see you there - Dot	dot	0	211	Oct 30, 2006 by dot
	Saying the right thing (Preview) Since my daughter has been in rehab, I've been trying hard to be a good listener. Sometimes I say things that don't make sense to her, and she calls me on it..thought I'd share - I took alot away from it. When my mom and I were visiting with her on Sat, we each told her that "you don't have to drink to h...	kabbie	4	300	Oct 30, 2006 by maresie2
	"Unraveling Incorrect Ideas" (Preview) In one of my buddist medatatives, the teacher challenges his students, "If one says incorrect things about our practices, the correct path is to take each idea and unravel it. Say 'This, this, is incorrect based on this reality.' Say, 'This, this is correct based on this reality.' Take each st...	Tiger2006	2	430	Oct 30, 2006 by hudsond
	I made him go home (Preview) I am very proud. I told him that he was not going to stay here this weekend because I didn't feel comfortable about the lying in regard to stealing my son's codiene cough syrup and putting in lemon water instead. Then he showed up smelling like alcohol.... It was hard it's in the 30's tonight and the o...	carolinagirl	5	315	Oct 30, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Serenity II (Preview) ((((((Family))))), I posted a couple of months ago about the serenity I felt in the woods with hubby. I hadn't felt that way in so long. I'm feeling that same way today. I am on vacation this week and even got an extra hour of it thanks to the time change. Hubby woke me up early this...	Karilynn	5	261	Oct 30, 2006 by chris52
	Mom is angry about money (Preview) My daughter is 22 and in inpatient rehab - been there almost 30 days now. I visit it her on the weekends. I'm starting to resent having to take her out during my visits for personal supplies etc. She has no money, and is relying right now on my husband and I for financial support. I'm in Alanon, and I know I ha...	kabbie	2	342	Oct 30, 2006 by Tiger2006
	New to forum (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this forum as well as Alanon. I have attended 4 meetings in my home home town and I find it very interesting. After the first meeting that I went to I realized I should have been going for years but I was too shy and scared. I am married to an Alcoholic and I have found my life turned upside dow...	albertarose	6	463	Oct 30, 2006 by shadow1
	RTexas??? (Preview) (((Rtexas))) Just wondering how you are coping. Always sending prayers your way, and hope you had a good weekend... keep us posted on your life.... HeidiXXXX	hersh	1	225	Oct 30, 2006 by rtexas
	Letting Go Takes Love... (Preview) To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...	Phil	7	387	Oct 30, 2006 by kabbie
	Serenity (Preview) I was up last night thinking alot about things in my life. I faced a fear this weekend one that made me feel fear, anxiety, hurt, unworthiness. I knew it was time to face what I was feeling inside but had to get to the point of wanting to do it for me. I am glad I did. I am more at peace with myself today. I am relax...	DoN4me	1	198	Oct 30, 2006 by Karilynn
	Should she stay or should she go? (Preview) Good morning everyone, I have considered a trial separation from the a wife. All she wants is a place to drink and smoke without any intrusion. Her efforts at getting a job are less than sincere and she refuses to go back to detox, rehab. She is certainly in the final stages of al...	jeeves	6	449	Oct 30, 2006 by Noni
	Grateful for recovery (Preview) ((((((((Family)))))))))), Good morning! I just received my daily reading from the Hazelden Foundation (www.hazelden.org) this morning and it's a perfect way to start off my vacation. Wanted to share it with you. *"Miracles are instantaneuos. They cannot be summoned, b...*	Karilynn	1	340	Oct 30, 2006 by Andrea12
	I am acting as if today.... (Preview) Hi Alanoners, It is my birthday today. I am 57. I made decision to have a good birth day. I am realizing that I have a choice to suffer or not. And I have made alot of progress in my recovery program but I am not quite there. So, I decided that I would take the Alanon slogan of fake it until you make it or act as i...	nmike	9	570	Oct 30, 2006 by Barbara
	My guardian angels was there to help me!! (Preview) Hi everyone! I thank God everyday for sending my guardian angel as a comforting angel as well. See he (my angel) was there for me when I had to deal with my mothers drinking. When I had to deal with being estranged cause she wants to spend her life drinking. He helped me to realize th...	sensitive1	3	533	Oct 30, 2006 by Jerry F
	new to onlinealaon (Preview) i have a home-group but never signed in for the online group. its very early, and i have non one to call. i am realizing that i am married (for 20 years) to someone who cannot be there for me emotionaly. i just gave up hope that it will get better. he is coming up on his one year clean, and he has a sponser, but...	ella	4	327	Oct 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Gratitude fever (Preview) I liked that gratitude alphabet, as usual :) a animals and attitudes b bats and beatitudes c cats and courage d dogs and delights e elephants and esh f frogs and fresh air g gorillas and gumption h hamsters and hello's i ...	peewee	4	358	Oct 29, 2006 by peewee
	Long Rough Week (Preview) Well, hubby and I had a nice vacation paid for by my dad (an anniversary/birthday gift) except for food and whatever we wanted to do down there. We went to Myrtle Beach and had lots of fun. We had our 8th anniversary together (married), been together for 11 yrs, and I am now 26 yrs old!...	ragingchild	4	336	Oct 29, 2006 by ragingchild
	totally worn out from stress (Preview) I come home today from one job to go to another job. I will only have a few hours to rest. I will be working all night long at a very very stressful job. I am tired, I am cranky I am worn out. I do not need to have another plateful of stress. The A has crashed so many cars. He has two ca...	maresie2	6	395	Oct 29, 2006 by maresie2
	Disease Progession Diagram of alcoholics (Preview) Today in the chatroom we were talking about the progression of the disease and where our A's are on it. So i thought I would post it here to shar with everyone http://www.gannett.com/go/difference/greatfalls/pages/part2/progression.html	Mindy	0	317	Oct 29, 2006 by Mindy
	frosty and fiesty at Eden (Preview) I went out to, well cannot remember now. But was in my tshirt as usual. thru on my sweatshirt though. The horse were in rare form. All this food is paying off! Elgin would pretent to bite Glaes, Glaes would pretend to kick Elgin. this went on and on, then Glaes would paw at Elgin...	debilyn	3	281	Oct 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	Life Is Short (Preview) As a recovering alcoholic and a grateful member of Alanon...I have one question.. Are you going to stay stuck? With hope that things will change? We all know that unless the practicing alcoholic hits a bottom or realization, of some kind, that absolutely nothing is going to change.. Yet we h...	Phil	10	497	Oct 29, 2006 by Karilynn
	must get a life (Preview) Today has been a long long lonely day. My husband is away for 11 days. My 3 older children are busy with their families and far from here, the weather is cold and rainy, I have eaten way too much and I am trying so hard to understand detach with love from my A son. How will he know I love him, if I stay far a...	laurab	5	337	Oct 29, 2006 by danz123
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