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Diva · Diva

that sobriety is never forever. This lifelong addiction can be kept at bay for years and years; my own A was sober for 25 years. Sooner or later it will reappear to the devastation of all concerned with the A. My partner is sober today, but he has had several relapses in the past four years. AFTER 25 YEARS S...

butterfly6 · butterfly6

I have been attending meetings sporadically for a little while. The first meetings I think I was drug, kicking and screaming to. Not literally, but I really didn't think I needed it, nor did I have time for it. So, I've been to a few meetings now and am beginning to let g...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

My local newspaper has an article in it's LIFE section about codependency, along with a checklist and some recommended authors and books. I don't know if they'll ask for email and such like that--if so, you may just get to know what's going on in Dayton, OH!

www.daytondailynews.c...

Gailey · Gailey

Loving someone with this illness is the worst thing I have ever gone through I so agree and knowing I am not alone in feeling this way is what is keeping me sane today. (((Heidi)))..thank you! Love.....Gail p.s. There's a special place in heaven fo...

lilms · lilms

Good afternoon my friends, Just a reminder that we are all human first. Disagreements arise, misunderstandings happen yet we all belong to the same family. On that note, I celebrate you all, a part of my family. lilms

Elizabeth M · Elizabeth M

So my AH came home last night after a week of golf with his buddies. The night before he left for his vacation he came in at 4 AM. Not much of a goodbye for me or our daughter. Well he arrived home on time but not a word about how hurtful his actions were before he left. I was polite an...

allnamesrtaken · allnamesrtaken

How's that for a subject title? I do not know who I am more ticked at right now... myself... or the alcoholic in my life. some history......... My A has been on and off the wagon so much I swear the axles are going to break. He's 36 yrs old... and me being the one who picks up everyones peices and puts them...

annmarie · annmarie

Hi Everyone, Today I am so sad and just need to talk it out really. Last weekend my Abf went on another crazy binge. I was so worried. I tried not to be, but I knew he could end up in real trouble. I worried and I missed him so much. Eventually, he came back full of remorse. I told him I could not live this way any m...

ally · ally

Good Morning People Just a quick reminder of why people come into this chat room. We are all at different stages in our Recovery, No-one is any different in here. Some people can gather the strength quicker than others. But We must ALWAYS remember that this disease causes great pain to everyone...

kabbie · kabbie

We were almost "snowed" by A daughter in rehab. She has been negotiating for a weekend pass, which was granted for upcoming wkend. Started bullying me for rides to and from, money for train, etc. I put my foot down - no train money, and I wasn't ready for her to come home. Meanwhile, she recieved some mone...

barisax · barisax

I mentioned taking an art class when I was going through my divorce... something to throw myself into, new, stimulating. I thought I'd share this funny little story of my first feeling of independence. I pulled up in the parking lot the evening of my class, and called home to check my voice mail. Th...

Phil · Phil

Before I have any type, of a healthy relationship with anyone else.. I have to form a healthy relationship with myself... And in return, I will attract other healthy relationships...

Phil · Phil

God Grant me the serenity, to accept the things, I cannot change The courage to change things I can And the wisdom to know the difference.

twinkie · twinkie

I keep praying for some guidance on this one. When my A relapsed last August it prompted his ex to file for a change in custody as my A has custody of their 9 year old son. My A has been embroiled in court hearings and a guardian ad litem was appointed to repre...

hersh · hersh

(((Everyone))) Part of this program is recognizing emotions and it is so up and down, a lot of the time. Lastnight, after dropping off AH at his first AA meeting, I was panicked all of a sudden. I just prayed to God that something would sink in to him, but I was so physically affected, even...

nmike · nmike

Well Alanon Friends, My 777 posts show alot of pain but also alot of growth. Thanks for your support. I had a great weekend and a great birthday. I love the fall and Halloween. I am learning so much each and every day. It is stressful this fall. Since my AHsober moved out, I have alot of chores to do by my...

barisax · barisax

I notice that next to each member's post there is a description, "Newbie", "Member", "Veteran Member", "Senior Member", and "Service Worker" are the ones I've seen. While they are more or less self explanatory, I don't know what determines the setting. I have changed from newbie to member to vetera...

Feather · Feather

Hi! I haven't posted in a long while but my life has been the usual - working my program, looking after my three children, home and working. I have had good days and bad days, more good than bad though! Just in case you don't remember my situation about 4 years ago my AH and I separated. He has his...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Hardest part is the realization that your life is all about what someone else is doing and trying to find ways to fill the holes left when you stop the obsession. I have been studying math of all things with an alanon tutor!(scary) I look forward to it (even scarier). I go to meetings...

sandie123 · sandie123

I'm not sure what is going on with me right now. Last night while I was journaling a quote came to me that one of my students use, "I don't know why I am doing this to my self!" This quote hit me hard. One of my students, an obsessed & compulsive eater, uses it everytime he gets caugth stealing foo...

Violeta · Violeta

Hi! I'm new to this forum, but not to Al-Anon. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. He's an addict since 12. He's 29 now. He's been in rehab twice, but relapsed and never went back. His main problem is alcohol, but when he gets drunk, he gets high. Lately he has been trying to stop drinking and I think...

sensitive1 · sensitive1

I have not heard from my A mother who estranged me back in April AGAIN!.... WEll today after a "gloomy" day I got a card in the mail from my mother. She seemed okay in the card...she said with love in it. BUT NOTHING bout me coming over for the upcoming holiday (Thanksgiving). BUT maybe that i...

rtexas · rtexas

(((((Family))))) I hope everyone is well today! I recieved this quote from our CEO. I thought it particularly timely with all that is going on around me and thought I would share it with you. Take care of you! "Change has considerable psychological impact on the human mind. ...

kicky · kicky

It's been 2 weeks since I separated from my A after 7years. He is living with a friend. He calls me and leaves nice messages in the mornings (sober) and at night he calls irrate. I have kept my boundaries. I haven't seen him. When he is nice and saying how much he misses me, I just say, "I'm sorry, but you ne...

Tammy · Tammy

I thought I was doing okay lately. At least the last few days. Since my husband and i split up about 7 weeks ago I have had a lot of ups and downs to say the least. We talk several times a day and I see him nearly everyday. Our talks were long in fact we have talked more in the last 7 weeks then we did in the last 6 m... >>>>

Barbara · Barbara

A check was enclosed and I want to rip it up and throw it out! I did that with an anniversary check she just sent us a few weeks ago. I want nothing to do with anyone in my family!

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, I am in a rage this morning.....as most of you know, hub stole two of my check books and wrote checkes all over the place.....I have been getting letters from magistrates for days now......he is well aware of this situation....I was feeling a little bad about pressing charges and s...

Barbara · Barbara

anyone sign up yet? Its at the SeaCrest in No Falmouth and they are starting to take reservations

laurab · laurab

Yesterday morning, at 7:00, my 29 yr old A son, called because his shoulder had popped out of it's socket. This is an old sports injury that happens once in awhile and usually he can push it back in. Of course it required PT when it first happened 3 years ago, but he never followed through and now all the mus...

Andrea12 · Andrea12

Hello Friends, Well went to the Da to presss charges, told me had to file with the police first, went to three different police stations they all kept telling me to go back to the other one...it was awful.....finally contacted an attorney.....she is going to take care of this for me....it is just a...

Rita G · Rita G

"a Housewarming Party without a House" Well this is what I wrote almost a week and half ago. The day after the contractor delivered the dirt for the slab, our area received 10-12 inches of rain. Lots of flooding. We have not heard from our contractor since then. T...

Lunamoth · Lunamoth

So much has been going on this past week. My mother has really let go, w/ the help of one of the physical therapist my father allowed us to admit her to the hospital. She has been there for four days and is being moved to a nursing home for two weeks. Then she'll be back home. I hate...

kabbie · kabbie

HELLO ALL - ANY THOUGHTS ON MY LIST? I'M SURE I'VE MISSED SOME THINGS.. THANKS, Kabbie CONTRACT (Begins the day you return home from rehab) Daily AA meetings and weekly counseling a must to stay at home. No rides except to daily AA meetings and job interviews, not on bus or train r...

rtexas · rtexas

((((Everyone)))) This is a topic that has come up since my AW and I have seperated. She showed great panic in the fact that the house looks great, that I cook and provide just fine for myself and our son, and life goes on if she's not there. It really threw her for a loop coming over to the hou...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to wish all of you who celebrate Halloween or all Saints Day: HAPPY HALLOWEEN! May you and your little goblins have an extra fun and safe day. Enjoy your trick or treating. Remember a black kitty is only bad if it's a panther!

W...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

Got a sponsor last nite at the f2f meeting

Then I got home and was chatting on yahoo late into the night and ran into this very interesting guy and of course he asks if I am single, married, etc. and I say seperated. Then we get into a deep discussion and he challenges me... He as...

Lexie · Lexie

((((((((friends)))))))))) I just heard from my son after coming out of his sentencing hearing. It really could not have gone any better. He will have to serve probation concurrent to what he is all ready serving....24 months. He has no additional fine! He will have a re...

Violeta · Violeta

Hi guys! I need to know what kind of activities you do with your A's. I'm tired of spending the whole weekend watching movies and would like to suggest something fun. I live in Costa Rica and almost every activity is associated with alcohol. Also I think my boyfriend is really bored with me, I guess he m...

marmare · marmare

So I put a call back for the job shadow I did last week. Said a prayer to my HP to guide me. Got online this morning looking for other opportunities when I got a phone call from a candy company that I applied at a couple weeks ago. I AM SO EXCITED. It's locally owned and it's a custom...

maresie2 · maresie2

I would really like to tell you all that the A is the only issue in my life. I have issues with all authority figures, anyone who doesn't behave humanely and anyone who is really not seeing life from my point of view. Right now I am dealing with a regional manager at work (who thankfull...

akristab · akristab

I used to believe that my AH really meant it when he said he was sorry and that he now knows that he cannot “socially” drink and party after no-showing at work, turning off his cell phone, driving our new truck under the influence and not resurfacing for days for the umpteenth time this decade. In the past...

hersh · hersh

Well.... Things have been spinning, spinning out of control for all of this year. How many bottoms can the AH hit? I always expected the worst, always expected him to be drunk. When he wasn't it was pleasant, but hated the making of plans and them being ruined because he was drunk...

maresie2 · maresie2

I signed up for benefits at one of the jobs I am at. I will not get the card for another month. When I do I will be able to get anti depressants which I badly need. I will also have a window to get dental work which I also badly need. This is huge for me in terms of self care. ...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

The a showed up a few mins ago to pick up the kids and take them to get pumpkins for carving. First thing upon entering the house he runs upstairs and brushes his teeth with my toothbrush mind you. Then he comes down. I notice the aroma of alcohol eminating from him. He swears he hasn't been drinking, then g...

Dolphin123 · Dolphin123

Hi all, What a long three weeks this has been, and I want to thank you all for your support and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I got the results this week and the lump was benign. It was fatty tissue, a bit of something that was maybe the beginning of a fibroid, and an old hemmorahage. So all in all, a b...

laurab · laurab

I had a really nice day Sunday. I went to a talk and then out to dinner with friends. I hardly thought about my A son. Then, in the car, on the way home I had an attack of guilt. Where was he while I was having a good time? Was he drunk and cold? Did he have money for food? Has he lost his job and has reg...

rtexas · rtexas

((((((My Family)))))) I found this today... I know I have read it before, but I really like it and wanted to share it with you. Take care of you! Life is attitude We create our reality through our perceptions and our way of being. I found a text which reflects perfectly what I believe abou...

kabbie · kabbie

I posted earlier about how I struggle with my financial enabling to my daughter in rehab. Thanks for all the HONEST responses, I needed to hear it. Daughter called from rehab about an hour ago. Wanted me to either take her to and from her facility this weekend (200 miles away) for a Sat eve home visit OR...

evey · evey

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Mobirdie · Mobirdie

My Ason had been clean and sober as far as I knew for 5 months. I got a call from his girlfriend on Saturday telling me that he is drinking at least 12 quarts of beer a night, has become abusive again and she fears he is now dealing drugs. My heart is broken. I found myself in the throws o...

dot · dot

Reminder to all members Group Business Meeting Wed Nov 1st at 7pm ET Agenda Old business - Newcomers Meeting - Schedule - Meeting Topics Review New Business - Change Group meeting to Sun Hope to see you there - Dot

kabbie · kabbie

Since my daughter has been in rehab, I've been trying hard to be a good listener. Sometimes I say things that don't make sense to her, and she calls me on it..thought I'd share - I took alot away from it. When my mom and I were visiting with her on Sat, we each told her that "you don't have to drink to h...

Tiger2006 · Tiger2006

In one of my buddist medatatives, the teacher challenges his students, "If one says incorrect things about our practices, the correct path is to take each idea and unravel it. Say 'This, this, is incorrect based on this reality.' Say, 'This, this is correct based on this reality.' Take each st...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

I am very proud. I told him that he was not going to stay here this weekend because I didn't feel comfortable about the lying in regard to stealing my son's codiene cough syrup and putting in lemon water instead. Then he showed up smelling like alcohol.... It was hard it's in the 30's tonight and the o...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((((Family))))), I posted a couple of months ago about the serenity I felt in the woods with hubby. I hadn't felt that way in so long. I'm feeling that same way today. I am on vacation this week and even got an extra hour of it thanks to the time change. Hubby woke me up early this...

kabbie · kabbie

My daughter is 22 and in inpatient rehab - been there almost 30 days now. I visit it her on the weekends. I'm starting to resent having to take her out during my visits for personal supplies etc. She has no money, and is relying right now on my husband and I for financial support. I'm in Alanon, and I know I ha...

albertarose · albertarose

Hello, I'm new to this forum as well as Alanon. I have attended 4 meetings in my home home town and I find it very interesting. After the first meeting that I went to I realized I should have been going for years but I was too shy and scared. I am married to an Alcoholic and I have found my life turned upside dow...

hersh · hersh

(((Rtexas))) Just wondering how you are coping. Always sending prayers your way, and hope you had a good weekend... keep us posted on your life.... HeidiXXXX

Phil · Phil

To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...

DoN4me · DoN4me

I was up last night thinking alot about things in my life. I faced a fear this weekend one that made me feel fear, anxiety, hurt, unworthiness. I knew it was time to face what I was feeling inside but had to get to the point of wanting to do it for me. I am glad I did. I am more at peace with myself today. I am relax...

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	Iam convinced... (Preview) that sobriety is never forever. This lifelong addiction can be kept at bay for years and years; my own A was sober for 25 years. Sooner or later it will reappear to the devastation of all concerned with the A. My partner is sober today, but he has had several relapses in the past four years. AFTER 25 YEARS S...	Diva	12	598	Nov 2, 2006 by snoopy
	Recovery (Preview) I have been attending meetings sporadically for a little while. The first meetings I think I was drug, kicking and screaming to. Not literally, but I really didn't think I needed it, nor did I have time for it. So, I've been to a few meetings now and am beginning to let g...	butterfly6	8	437	Nov 2, 2006 by butterfly6
	Codependcy article (Preview) My local newspaper has an article in it's LIFE section about codependency, along with a checklist and some recommended authors and books. I don't know if they'll ask for email and such like that--if so, you may just get to know what's going on in Dayton, OH! www.daytondailynews.c...	Tiger2006	4	349	Nov 2, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Heidi wrote....................... (Preview) Loving someone with this illness is the worst thing I have ever gone through I so agree and knowing I am not alone in feeling this way is what is keeping me sane today. (((Heidi)))..thank you! Love.....Gail p.s. There's a special place in heaven fo...	Gailey	1	299	Nov 2, 2006 by hersh
	Human First (Preview) Good afternoon my friends, Just a reminder that we are all human first. Disagreements arise, misunderstandings happen yet we all belong to the same family. On that note, I celebrate you all, a part of my family. lilms	lilms	1	338	Nov 2, 2006 by canadianguy
	Back from vacation (Preview) So my AH came home last night after a week of golf with his buddies. The night before he left for his vacation he came in at 4 AM. Not much of a goodbye for me or our daughter. Well he arrived home on time but not a word about how hurtful his actions were before he left. I was polite an...	Elizabeth M	3	252	Nov 2, 2006 by Lunamoth
	So the ambulance just left... (Preview) How's that for a subject title? I do not know who I am more ticked at right now... myself... or the alcoholic in my life. some history......... My A has been on and off the wagon so much I swear the axles are going to break. He's 36 yrs old... and me being the one who picks up everyones peices and puts them...	allnamesrtaken	12	460	Nov 2, 2006 by hersh
	wisdom to know the difference (Preview) Hi Everyone, Today I am so sad and just need to talk it out really. Last weekend my Abf went on another crazy binge. I was so worried. I tried not to be, but I knew he could end up in real trouble. I worried and I missed him so much. Eventually, he came back full of remorse. I told him I could not live this way any m...	annmarie	6	388	Nov 2, 2006 by hersh
	PLEASE REMEMBER PEOPLE ARE HURTING (Preview) Good Morning People Just a quick reminder of why people come into this chat room. We are all at different stages in our Recovery, No-one is any different in here. Some people can gather the strength quicker than others. But We must ALWAYS remember that this disease causes great pain to everyone...	ally	5	394	Nov 2, 2006 by shadow1
	Snowed (Preview) We were almost "snowed" by A daughter in rehab. She has been negotiating for a weekend pass, which was granted for upcoming wkend. Started bullying me for rides to and from, money for train, etc. I put my foot down - no train money, and I wasn't ready for her to come home. Meanwhile, she recieved some mone...	kabbie	9	468	Nov 2, 2006 by kabbie
	A moment when I first took care of myself (Preview) I mentioned taking an art class when I was going through my divorce... something to throw myself into, new, stimulating. I thought I'd share this funny little story of my first feeling of independence. I pulled up in the parking lot the evening of my class, and called home to check my voice mail. Th...	barisax	3	344	Nov 2, 2006 by Noni
	Took this kid a long time to learn this one.. (Preview) Before I have any type, of a healthy relationship with anyone else.. I have to form a healthy relationship with myself... And in return, I will attract other healthy relationships...	Phil	6	381	Nov 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	Simple to read...not always simple to do (Preview) God Grant me the serenity, to accept the things, I cannot change The courage to change things I can And the wisdom to know the difference.	Phil	5	348	Nov 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	Am I doing the right thing? (Preview) I keep praying for some guidance on this one. When my A relapsed last August it prompted his ex to file for a change in custody as my A has custody of their 9 year old son. My A has been embroiled in court hearings and a guardian ad litem was appointed to repre...	twinkie	9	497	Nov 2, 2006 by Karilynn
	Now comes the fear.... (Preview) (((Everyone))) Part of this program is recognizing emotions and it is so up and down, a lot of the time. Lastnight, after dropping off AH at his first AA meeting, I was panicked all of a sudden. I just prayed to God that something would sink in to him, but I was so physically affected, even...	hersh	7	471	Nov 2, 2006 by Jerry F
	On 777 posts (Preview) Well Alanon Friends, My 777 posts show alot of pain but also alot of growth. Thanks for your support. I had a great weekend and a great birthday. I love the fall and Halloween. I am learning so much each and every day. It is stressful this fall. Since my AHsober moved out, I have alot of chores to do by my...	nmike	3	302	Nov 2, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Question about the board (Preview) I notice that next to each member's post there is a description, "Newbie", "Member", "Veteran Member", "Senior Member", and "Service Worker" are the ones I've seen. While they are more or less self explanatory, I don't know what determines the setting. I have changed from newbie to member to vetera...	barisax	8	361	Nov 1, 2006 by Lexie
	Sad today... (Preview) Hi! I haven't posted in a long while but my life has been the usual - working my program, looking after my three children, home and working. I have had good days and bad days, more good than bad though! Just in case you don't remember my situation about 4 years ago my AH and I separated. He has his...	Feather	5	254	Nov 1, 2006 by Feather
	The hardest part of this (Preview) Hardest part is the realization that your life is all about what someone else is doing and trying to find ways to fill the holes left when you stop the obsession. I have been studying math of all things with an alanon tutor!(scary) I look forward to it (even scarier). I go to meetings...	carolinagirl	6	473	Nov 1, 2006 by Phil
	Struggling and NEED support (Preview) I'm not sure what is going on with me right now. Last night while I was journaling a quote came to me that one of my students use, "I don't know why I am doing this to my self!" This quote hit me hard. One of my students, an obsessed & compulsive eater, uses it everytime he gets caugth stealing foo...	sandie123	8	411	Nov 1, 2006 by peewee
	Hello (Preview) Hi! I'm new to this forum, but not to Al-Anon. I've been with my boyfriend for 4 years now. He's an addict since 12. He's 29 now. He's been in rehab twice, but relapsed and never went back. His main problem is alcohol, but when he gets drunk, he gets high. Lately he has been trying to stop drinking and I think...	Violeta	7	448	Nov 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Got a card from my mom! (Preview) I have not heard from my A mother who estranged me back in April AGAIN!.... WEll today after a "gloomy" day I got a card in the mail from my mother. She seemed okay in the card...she said with love in it. BUT NOTHING bout me coming over for the upcoming holiday (Thanksgiving). BUT maybe that i...	sensitive1	3	202	Nov 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Change... a quote (Preview) (((((Family))))) I hope everyone is well today! I recieved this quote from our CEO. I thought it particularly timely with all that is going on around me and thought I would share it with you. Take care of you! "Change has considerable psychological impact on the human mind. ...	rtexas	5	334	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Did my A really love me? (Preview) It's been 2 weeks since I separated from my A after 7years. He is living with a friend. He calls me and leaves nice messages in the mornings (sober) and at night he calls irrate. I have kept my boundaries. I haven't seen him. When he is nice and saying how much he misses me, I just say, "I'm sorry, but you ne...	kicky	6	386	Nov 1, 2006 by Orchid Lady
	Making myself CRAZY (Preview) I thought I was doing okay lately. At least the last few days. Since my husband and i split up about 7 weeks ago I have had a lot of ups and downs to say the least. We talk several times a day and I see him nearly everyday. Our talks were long in fact we have talked more in the last 7 weeks then we did in the last 6 m... >>>>	Tammy	7	331	Nov 1, 2006 by Elizabeth M
	Birthday card from my mother and (Preview) A check was enclosed and I want to rip it up and throw it out! I did that with an anniversary check she just sent us a few weeks ago. I want nothing to do with anyone in my family!	Barbara	3	312	Nov 1, 2006 by ZiggyDoodles
	Going the Da to press charges (Preview) Hello Friends, I am in a rage this morning.....as most of you know, hub stole two of my check books and wrote checkes all over the place.....I have been getting letters from magistrates for days now......he is well aware of this situation....I was feeling a little bad about pressing charges and s...	Andrea12	11	568	Nov 1, 2006 by carolinagirl
	MA AlAnon convention Apr 13-15 (Preview) anyone sign up yet? Its at the SeaCrest in No Falmouth and they are starting to take reservations	Barbara	0	236	Nov 1, 2006 by Barbara
	a little bit stronger (Preview) Yesterday morning, at 7:00, my 29 yr old A son, called because his shoulder had popped out of it's socket. This is an old sports injury that happens once in awhile and usually he can push it back in. Of course it required PT when it first happened 3 years ago, but he never followed through and now all the mus...	laurab	4	288	Nov 1, 2006 by hersh
	Update And A Little Venting (Preview) Hello Friends, Well went to the Da to presss charges, told me had to file with the police first, went to three different police stations they all kept telling me to go back to the other one...it was awful.....finally contacted an attorney.....she is going to take care of this for me....it is just a...	Andrea12	9	513	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Rescheduling that Party (Preview) "a Housewarming Party without a House" Well this is what I wrote almost a week and half ago. The day after the contractor delivered the dirt for the slab, our area received 10-12 inches of rain. Lots of flooding. We have not heard from our contractor since then. T...	Rita G	3	399	Nov 1, 2006 by maresie2
	Praying for a better day (Preview) So much has been going on this past week. My mother has really let go, w/ the help of one of the physical therapist my father allowed us to admit her to the hospital. She has been there for four days and is being moved to a nursing home for two weeks. Then she'll be back home. I hate...	Lunamoth	4	316	Nov 1, 2006 by Jennifer
	Boundaries for daughter's return home after rehab (Preview) HELLO ALL - ANY THOUGHTS ON MY LIST? I'M SURE I'VE MISSED SOME THINGS.. THANKS, Kabbie CONTRACT (Begins the day you return home from rehab) Daily AA meetings and weekly counseling a must to stay at home. No rides except to daily AA meetings and job interviews, not on bus or train r...	kabbie	12	4646	Nov 1, 2006 by Karilynn
	Don't NEED the A (Preview) ((((Everyone)))) This is a topic that has come up since my AW and I have seperated. She showed great panic in the fact that the house looks great, that I cook and provide just fine for myself and our son, and life goes on if she's not there. It really threw her for a loop coming over to the hou...	rtexas	13	554	Nov 1, 2006 by kicky
	Happy Halloween (Preview) ((((((Family))))))))), Just wanted to wish all of you who celebrate Halloween or all Saints Day: HAPPY HALLOWEEN! May you and your little goblins have an extra fun and safe day. Enjoy your trick or treating. Remember a black kitty is only bad if it's a panther! W...	Karilynn	8	371	Nov 1, 2006 by peewee
	Struggling (Preview) Got a sponsor last nite at the f2f meeting Then I got home and was chatting on yahoo late into the night and ran into this very interesting guy and of course he asks if I am single, married, etc. and I say seperated. Then we get into a deep discussion and he challenges me... He as...	carolinagirl	13	358	Oct 31, 2006 by albertarose
	answered prayer (Preview) ((((((((friends)))))))))) I just heard from my son after coming out of his sentencing hearing. It really could not have gone any better. He will have to serve probation concurrent to what he is all ready serving....24 months. He has no additional fine! He will have a re...	Lexie	9	308	Oct 31, 2006 by twinkie
	Sober activities (Preview) Hi guys! I need to know what kind of activities you do with your A's. I'm tired of spending the whole weekend watching movies and would like to suggest something fun. I live in Costa Rica and almost every activity is associated with alcohol. Also I think my boyfriend is really bored with me, I guess he m...	Violeta	8	507	Oct 31, 2006 by Karilynn
	Another Interview! ! ! (Preview) So I put a call back for the job shadow I did last week. Said a prayer to my HP to guide me. Got online this morning looking for other opportunities when I got a phone call from a candy company that I applied at a couple weeks ago. I AM SO EXCITED. It's locally owned and it's a custom...	marmare	6	279	Oct 31, 2006 by Tammy
	authoirity figures (Preview) I would really like to tell you all that the A is the only issue in my life. I have issues with all authority figures, anyone who doesn't behave humanely and anyone who is really not seeing life from my point of view. Right now I am dealing with a regional manager at work (who thankfull...	maresie2	8	317	Oct 31, 2006 by carolinagirl
	When is enough really enough? (Preview) I used to believe that my AH really meant it when he said he was sorry and that he now knows that he cannot “socially” drink and party after no-showing at work, turning off his cell phone, driving our new truck under the influence and not resurfacing for days for the umpteenth time this decade. In the past...	akristab	5	397	Oct 31, 2006 by carolinagirl
	DUI - message from HP???? (Preview) Well.... Things have been spinning, spinning out of control for all of this year. How many bottoms can the AH hit? I always expected the worst, always expected him to be drunk. When he wasn't it was pleasant, but hated the making of plans and them being ruined because he was drunk...	hersh	8	480	Oct 31, 2006 by athena12
	self care (Preview) I signed up for benefits at one of the jobs I am at. I will not get the card for another month. When I do I will be able to get anti depressants which I badly need. I will also have a window to get dental work which I also badly need. This is huge for me in terms of self care. ...	maresie2	6	286	Oct 31, 2006 by maresie2
	why do I have to care? (Preview) The a showed up a few mins ago to pick up the kids and take them to get pumpkins for carving. First thing upon entering the house he runs upstairs and brushes his teeth with my toothbrush mind you. Then he comes down. I notice the aroma of alcohol eminating from him. He swears he hasn't been drinking, then g...	carolinagirl	7	528	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Biopsy Results (Preview) Hi all, What a long three weeks this has been, and I want to thank you all for your support and kind words, thoughts and prayers. I got the results this week and the lump was benign. It was fatty tissue, a bit of something that was maybe the beginning of a fibroid, and an old hemmorahage. So all in all, a b...	Dolphin123	25	479	Oct 31, 2006 by Noni
	I know guilt is non productive..but (Preview) I had a really nice day Sunday. I went to a talk and then out to dinner with friends. I hardly thought about my A son. Then, in the car, on the way home I had an attack of guilt. Where was he while I was having a good time? Was he drunk and cold? Did he have money for food? Has he lost his job and has reg...	laurab	5	353	Oct 31, 2006 by Noni
	A small gift... (Preview) ((((((My Family)))))) I found this today... I know I have read it before, but I really like it and wanted to share it with you. Take care of you! Life is attitude We create our reality through our perceptions and our way of being. I found a text which reflects perfectly what I believe abou...	rtexas	7	445	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	I did it - I had NO to money (Preview) I posted earlier about how I struggle with my financial enabling to my daughter in rehab. Thanks for all the HONEST responses, I needed to hear it. Daughter called from rehab about an hour ago. Wanted me to either take her to and from her facility this weekend (200 miles away) for a Sat eve home visit OR...	kabbie	6	361	Oct 31, 2006 by Tiger2006
	fake it til you make it??? (Preview) AAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG???????????????	evey	9	781	Oct 31, 2006 by AndiLynn
	Fast track back behind step 1 (Preview) My Ason had been clean and sober as far as I knew for 5 months. I got a call from his girlfriend on Saturday telling me that he is drinking at least 12 quarts of beer a night, has become abusive again and she fears he is now dealing drugs. My heart is broken. I found myself in the throws o...	Mobirdie	6	519	Oct 31, 2006 by Christy
	Group Business Meet'g (Preview) Reminder to all members Group Business Meeting Wed Nov 1st at 7pm ET Agenda Old business - Newcomers Meeting - Schedule - Meeting Topics Review New Business - Change Group meeting to Sun Hope to see you there - Dot	dot	0	215	Oct 30, 2006 by dot
	Saying the right thing (Preview) Since my daughter has been in rehab, I've been trying hard to be a good listener. Sometimes I say things that don't make sense to her, and she calls me on it..thought I'd share - I took alot away from it. When my mom and I were visiting with her on Sat, we each told her that "you don't have to drink to h...	kabbie	4	313	Oct 30, 2006 by maresie2
	"Unraveling Incorrect Ideas" (Preview) In one of my buddist medatatives, the teacher challenges his students, "If one says incorrect things about our practices, the correct path is to take each idea and unravel it. Say 'This, this, is incorrect based on this reality.' Say, 'This, this is correct based on this reality.' Take each st...	Tiger2006	2	439	Oct 30, 2006 by hudsond
	I made him go home (Preview) I am very proud. I told him that he was not going to stay here this weekend because I didn't feel comfortable about the lying in regard to stealing my son's codiene cough syrup and putting in lemon water instead. Then he showed up smelling like alcohol.... It was hard it's in the 30's tonight and the o...	carolinagirl	5	320	Oct 30, 2006 by Tiger2006
	Serenity II (Preview) ((((((Family))))), I posted a couple of months ago about the serenity I felt in the woods with hubby. I hadn't felt that way in so long. I'm feeling that same way today. I am on vacation this week and even got an extra hour of it thanks to the time change. Hubby woke me up early this...	Karilynn	5	270	Oct 30, 2006 by chris52
	Mom is angry about money (Preview) My daughter is 22 and in inpatient rehab - been there almost 30 days now. I visit it her on the weekends. I'm starting to resent having to take her out during my visits for personal supplies etc. She has no money, and is relying right now on my husband and I for financial support. I'm in Alanon, and I know I ha...	kabbie	2	346	Oct 30, 2006 by Tiger2006
	New to forum (Preview) Hello, I'm new to this forum as well as Alanon. I have attended 4 meetings in my home home town and I find it very interesting. After the first meeting that I went to I realized I should have been going for years but I was too shy and scared. I am married to an Alcoholic and I have found my life turned upside dow...	albertarose	6	467	Oct 30, 2006 by shadow1
	RTexas??? (Preview) (((Rtexas))) Just wondering how you are coping. Always sending prayers your way, and hope you had a good weekend... keep us posted on your life.... HeidiXXXX	hersh	1	229	Oct 30, 2006 by rtexas
	Letting Go Takes Love... (Preview) To let go does not mean to stop caring, it means I can't do it for someone else. To let go is not to cut myself off, it's the realization I can't control another. To let go is not to enable, but allow learning from natural consequences. To let g...	Phil	7	391	Oct 30, 2006 by kabbie
	Serenity (Preview) I was up last night thinking alot about things in my life. I faced a fear this weekend one that made me feel fear, anxiety, hurt, unworthiness. I knew it was time to face what I was feeling inside but had to get to the point of wanting to do it for me. I am glad I did. I am more at peace with myself today. I am relax...	DoN4me	1	203	Oct 30, 2006 by Karilynn
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