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Codependent · Codependent

As a codependent I am finding that my relationship insecurity is not just with As but with men in general. I am desperately lonely and so self-destructive when it comes to dating that my fears of always being alone just get reinforced. I know I am supposed to love myself, etc. But, honestly, I just WA...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All. As some of you know my job fell through for the summer because of an embargo on hiring. I took it well though I have two people in my employment who I have kept on as we are doing sterling work on the house. I have about four years of clutter to clear up and we are getting through this slowly but surely...

AliAlAnon · AliAlAnon

I have always been fairly careful with marriage but after four years of knowing each other (but I lived in another state) and one year of dating, I said yes to my fiance's proposal. I have just decided this is a man I can give my heart to but now am starting to wonder if he is an alcoholic. Since he started d...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family)))) I read this yesterday and thought it was just a great visual for me to hold in my mind of why I need to keep coming back. I wanted to share it with you all. A Parable by a Sponsor A member of the program of recovery, who previously had been attending meetings regularly, stopped going. A...

Overcome · Overcome

As many of you know I've been going through a divorce, my 4th. I have had a tendency in the past to go from one relationship to another, to another, to another. Well, you get the picture. Recently I was fooling myself that a "friend" of mine from Texas was just a "friend" when in actu...

david62 · david62

Hi ((((Family)))) I got another dose of my HP's sense of humor this week so I thought I would share it with you. I was sitting at work Monday, minding my own business, doing my job when my supervisor came in to my office and had a strange look on his face...one that said he has some news and he didn't think I wa...

Overcome · Overcome

Boy am I a gluten for punishment or what. After blocking husband's email, I get a request to be his friend on facebook. I hover over the accept or deline button. My curiousity gets the better of me and I hit "accept". I post on his wall that I need to get in touch with him for the finalizing of the d...

Sincerely · Sincerely

Okay............ this time i can't blame it on PMS. hormones are no excuse in this behavior. i have been angry and crappy. i can't stand to even be around my own self anymore. and when i get like this, the program and my faith are the last thing on my mind. i know what i gotta do, i have the tools and i'm c...

wildthang86 · wildthang86

Things are changing. My AH has decided to stop drinking and I am happy about that but life as we have known it, for years now, is changing. For the better but still changing. I don't know what to expect tonight when he gets home from work. I am apprehensive, excited and scared. I am so used to life being a cer...

clara · clara

Well, I took the dive off the deep end and invited daughter out to have a family holiday celebration. She was so excited and said she would come. Then on Friday, she called and said she could make it because she was having trouble with her truck. I asked her what was wrong and her reply "I am not a m...

Mystique2009 · Mystique2009

This is my first visit to this site, and I have a feeling I'm at the right place, but perhaps the reason I'm here is "denial?" All I can say is that I'm afraid my husband may be an alcoholic, and after thorough research into the subject, I'm very afraid for him and for me. Perhaps I need for some o...

mary j · mary j

iv got a big problem, my daugther has bin on a binge for a wk, she has just text me an said she want to die. what do i do? just cant do this on my own

Codependent · Codependent

Debilyn your comment touched me. I just wanted all of you to know that through it all why I come back is because I know that here I have a safe place to say the same things over and over, make the same mistakes over and over, and be welcomed with love, support, acceptance, not judgement, but also with a remi...

MrsGratitude · MrsGratitude

Got to lots of meetings this weekend. And lots of contact. Feel like I am swimming and or floating in recovery. Made me realize that I need a lot more meetings in every single 7 day stretch. Come hell or high water or holidays or traffic. And I've very grateful for the people on this board for their sha...

Overcome · Overcome

(this may be found in the daily reader) -- Edited by tea2 on Wednesday 8th of July 2009 09:50:23 PM

Overcome · Overcome

An AA speaker at al Al-Anon meeting gave the members this unusual insight from the other side of the fence: "The non-alcohoilc in the family doesn't seem to realize that the alcoholic is in a terribly vulnerable position. He must be constantly on guard, because he knows, deep down inside, how mu...

xter · xter

i took a little trip to get away from AH and the insanity for a few days. day one was fantastic. day 2, less so. i was anxious and kept thinking how happy HE must be that i'm not there, how he's probably LOVING being without me for a few days. trying SO hard not to attempt to get into his head but... days 3-5...

Rora · Rora

I need some ESH on this topic. I can fully understand how taking care of ME will find me happiness - happiness that is right for ME. I understand how my choices and decisions need to reflect and be consistent with the consequences and outcomes that I want in my life. Where I struggle is in understanding th...

florida · florida

feeling like im fighting myself - havent been able to get out/get away by myself as i dont have my license (hopefully very soon) Boyfriend smokes to find his peace, also his religion. His smoking takes away any peace I may have at the moment How do you find your peace AND keep it? walking? nature? open to a...

Jean4444 · Jean4444

LAZY! I would rather procrastinate than go to my meeting- sleep in, be lazy, surf the web, etc. But that is always a clue that I need to get my butt in gear and get to a meeting. I did not go last week for the very same reason. Geez, what a battle it is sometimes with my own self! UGH! But, Ok, I am going, I g...

gknee · gknee

I've been thinking about the disease of alcoholism and trying to get my head around it more. I don't bristle as much when I call it a disease any longer BUT here's my issue. I'd love all of your ESH on it: If a diabetic eats candy bars and doesn't take his insulin (fully knowing that this is not good self care...

teddybearpoet · teddybearpoet

Ok.. I have been avoiding posting since i have been back in the room.. Have had a couple of people saying I should.. So here I am.. When i first came into this program.. I thought my biggest challenge was to learn how to live with alcoholism.. I knew I had alot of issues as well and knew there would be challe...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi, my daughter turns 13 today. I have promised her 4 her 16 we will visit america because her birthday is special in your country any ideas. Plus I plan to attend a convention next year with my AB if he is still sober want to go somewhere special all ideas appreciated. Hope you all have a lovely 4th July c...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Went to bed feeling like I was truly blessed and woke up feeling the same. It's been two WHOLE weeks since I FINALLY reached the point of all out insanity and had to walk away from someone that I love, one of the hardest things I've ever had to do in my life. I walked away to save myself.....someone that I d...

Codependent · Codependent

Thanks for all of the support. I have been doing a lot of introspection and once again wind up scared of my weaknesses- scared that I haven't made as much progress as I wanted to. I still have my alcohol issues that I have not let go of. I still have intimacy and sex issues and loneliness and lack of trust...

gknee · gknee

Hi all.God- I hate 3 day holiday weekends!!! AH gets in a mood and it just keeps on giving. Here's the scenario today. AH leaves the house around 4- drops 16 y/o at work and then disappears. I hang out for a while , then head to grocery store to prep for planned picnics tomorrow (which I am beginning to beli...

gknee · gknee

Here's something positive:If I hadn't been working my program and just getting on with my day--despite what my AH was doing- this is what I would have missed out on:1) a 3 mile run2) a 4th of july parade with my kids and some old friends3) a visit with some former neighbors4) a wonderful picnic at my aunt...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I took a Service Position recently at my Saturday meeting. My job is to call the person who is chairing the meeting the night before to remind them. Well, my job started this month and I happen to be out of town - but I made sure to send myself an e-mail to remind me to call the people (one of them is the regul...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I have always had my faith to sustain me. I had it during the illness and death of both of my parents to whom I had a very close, loving relationships, during the diagnosis that my youngest son was Autistic, and when I suffered a severe case of depression, it has sustained me living with my oldest so...

Overcome · Overcome

(this share can be found in the daily reader) -- Edited by tea2 on Wednesday 8th of July 2009 09:29:06 PM

mary j · mary j

this is my first posting so sorry for any mistakes. i am trying to detach from my daughter cos i know after months trying i cannot help her. she's on another binge now and this is when i panic cos she often tells her friends she has taken an overdose cos she no longer wants to live, they panic an ring me, an...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

For the first time in ages, I feel like I am slowly finding my way back to my independant, self sufficient, happy, and confident self. The journey has been long and rough at times, and it continues and will continue forever, and I am happy and looking forward to each and every day of it. I've finally allo...

blender_girl · blender_girl

I can see it when it's happening. I know it's futile to argue, but there are times when it seems I just can't help it. And it's over the dumbest stuff. Usually because the topic of conversation shifts and my AH doesn't bother to tell me, then starts talking down to me when I express confusion and atte...

koukou · koukou

I wanted to share my story for some thoughts and experiences you all went through. I am no longer living with my AH and we are divorced a year ago...I know i dont want to get back to him and our marriage has made me discover so many deffects of character which i need to work on to be a healthier and happier pers...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((((Family))))), A quick HAPPY 4th of JULY to all! Have a wonderful weekend. Celebrate the meaning of this day. I am so proud to be an American. To my military families thank you for doing what you do. Come home safe and sound to us. I am off to work for the entire weekend, but that's okay. I have lot...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

I appreciate every response to my question. There is a lot of love and wisdom here.

Rora · Rora

I tend to focus on the struggles I have and post to seek the invaluable support and ESH offered here. A situation occurred the other day and I wanted to share how it helped me to realize that the tools I am gaining spread to my Non-A interactions as well. The other night I ordered a pizza for pick up. It was...

blender_girl · blender_girl

The time has come for me to make some changes. A few days of peace and quiet every few weeks is not enough for me to heal. Being in the same house the majority of the time simply takes its toll on me when my AH is drinking. I can detach most of the time, but sometimes the insanity just leaks in and takes hold....

Sincerely · Sincerely

Hello and Hugs,This month makes one year since HP guided me to MIP. That is my #1 on my gratitude list today. Even though the last year has been a tough one, it has been one of the best ones. As many newbies do, I came here hopeless and desperate of learning how to deal with the alcoholic in my life. Wha...

Overcome · Overcome

Hi MIP family. Thought I would just keep you abreast of my situation and hold myself accountable at the same time. I met with the lawyer today and had all the information that I needed for him to file an uncontested divorce, except husband's address (which I have and forgot to bring) and social security...

Overcome · Overcome

I am having trouble loading the chat room, because my computer says that my adobe reader is damaged and can't be fixed. I guess that somehow effects my Java from running and now I can't get into chat. I am going to take my computer to the "fix-it" guy, since I know nothing about computers and am...

Suzannah · Suzannah

For some years now I have this friend who over and over and over again tells me that the one thing holding me back is the fact that I hold on to my married name. She goes as far as to tell me that all the powers on earth are working against me in that name. She tells me that until I relinquish this name I will alw...

gngcrzy · gngcrzy

I spent yesterday evening with a guy who I like well enough but not LIKE like, as we used to say. Fun. Not much too it. I don't particularly even care what he thinks of me. And yet here I am obsessing about what I should have said differently or not said or... or... or... LOL I swear, my brain does this on auto...

crispin777 · crispin777

I don't know where to begin and I am almost to tired to think. I have not talked to him in almost 2 days. He is 3 weeks sober and seemingly doing great. But it also seems that i no longer have a place in his life now that he has found AA. He has checked himself in to a 12-step halfway house type place right dow...

smy922000 · smy922000

Hy husband is an alcoholic. He has tried AA and claims it doesn't work for him. Makes him feel like drinking more. He has tried to quit for about 5 years now. His older brother died of alcoholism and he says he's doomed to be just like him. The past 2 weeks he has gotten drunk every night - very drunk. I miss h...

beacheemom · beacheemom

I suppose it's normal to feel like you are on one, right? One day good, the next bad, then good and so on. No wonder we all feel like we are going crazy!! I thank God for this place. I think I have found, for me, what is going to keep me focused on me and my kids. Everytime I take the plunge and start to organize th...

lam0204 · lam0204

I went to my first face to face meeting!!!!!!!!!! it took me a long time to get there but i did it and now i am looking forward to going back...i guess i thought if he would just quit drinking everything would be fine. he is now 2 years sober and I am certainly not fine....but i am ready to work on myself for a...

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I haven't posted in such a long time. But, I'm glad to be back on here. I will be updating and look foreword to talking to everyone. I missed you all! I hope everyone is doing ok. Christina

christinajeanne · christinajeanne

I woke up last night with a pit in my stomach. That has been happening to me a lot lately. But, instead of fretting about it I just spent time with God and went back to sleep. I felt a sense of peace come over me. Then yesterday as I was going to pick up my lunch I decided to go into a local bookstore. I ran into a fr...

Jozie · Jozie

****Sooo for me today this was a tough one... I went to the mail and got out my Test Results I have been dreading... For good reason... So Choles. was Up to 216... WOW... BAD Very BAD... BUT... On a good note, My Tryglycerides that at one time was up over 880... was down to 120.. Not Great But ALOT BETTER... S...

Karilynn · Karilynn

Just checking to see if I can post yet! I can put things on the whiteboard. We'll see.

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha MIP Family...I am grateful that when I had to fall back on others for support you all were there!! It was 3+ hours before my spouse made it home and absolutely nothing I would have planned or expected or feared about came about. Every time I went to put my crown on along with my sword and shield I end...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Okay flights been delayed over 3 hours..... Instead to reacting I decided to come back here and hold myself still and read some more. How bad can it get? Actually after reading some of the post...this isn't even a knee jerk. Gratefully. (((((hugs)))))

Jerry F · Jerry F

The spouse is returning this afternoon from her annual family trip to the mainland. She called yesterday to tell me what time she would be at the Hilo Airport so that I could be there to pick her up suggesting that If I were to leave the house 10 minutes before she landed I could get there just after she got...

Eve55 · Eve55

I feel like one of my husband's friends has been a terrible influence on him. Drinking and smoking pot all the time. And getting ahold of and bringing over other types of drugs that my husband never would have sought out on his own. There is a festival coming up this weekend. Previously I had gone with...

JBee · JBee

Hi all,I'm glad to have found this community to share and learn and I'm looking forward to meeting all of you. Where to begin...I'm 26 and I've been in a relationship with an alcoholic for two years now. The first year I didn't really notice the effects on him, or I just didn't take them too seriously. How...

xter · xter

argh... people have been posting about this issue (their ABF or AH or AGF or AW in early recovery and acting like a horrible mess - and then slipping and then being awful again...) and i really don't want to rehash it but i kinda want to just vent. i'm going away for 5 days after work tomorrow. AH said he was...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Those of you who have followed my story/struggle/recovery the past 7 mths know where I came from and how miserably impossible it was for me to Detach... It will be two weeks this Thursday and for me that is a miracle and a blessing! There has been absolutely NC. ESABF dropped my stuff off last week and s...

maire rua · maire rua

Dear All, went to funeral this evening, it was a quiet one, I guess alcoholics are only drawing a crowd when they are paying for drinks or providing the entertainment, I did not see many of the publicans who would have gained financially from this woman's death there, but hold it, its not to say they were...

maresie · maresie

I am on a roll in terms of decluttering and have some major projects to do. I need to get them done shortly as my life is going in many different directions now. I need to step up and take care of this. I am posting this so I have to make a update on the issue regularly. There is always something that gets in t...

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	Realtionships in General (Preview) As a codependent I am finding that my relationship insecurity is not just with As but with men in general. I am desperately lonely and so self-destructive when it comes to dating that my fears of always being alone just get reinforced. I know I am supposed to love myself, etc. But, honestly, I just WA...	Codependent	8	1072	Jul 7, 2009 by RunnerChick
	uncertainty but taking it a day at a time (Preview) Dear All. As some of you know my job fell through for the summer because of an embargo on hiring. I took it well though I have two people in my employment who I have kept on as we are doing sterling work on the house. I have about four years of clutter to clear up and we are getting through this slowly but surely...	maire rua	2	558	Jul 7, 2009 by Rita G
	Just Got Engaged and He's Probably an Alcoholic: What Do I Do? (Preview) I have always been fairly careful with marriage but after four years of knowing each other (but I lived in another state) and one year of dating, I said yes to my fiance's proposal. I have just decided this is a man I can give my heart to but now am starting to wonder if he is an alcoholic. Since he started d...	AliAlAnon	10	2439	Jul 7, 2009 by maresie
	A Parable by a Sponsor (Preview) Hi ((((Family)))) I read this yesterday and thought it was just a great visual for me to hold in my mind of why I need to keep coming back. I wanted to share it with you all. A Parable by a Sponsor A member of the program of recovery, who previously had been attending meetings regularly, stopped going. A...	david62	11	1162	Jul 7, 2009 by teddybearpoet
	A lost soul (Preview) As many of you know I've been going through a divorce, my 4th. I have had a tendency in the past to go from one relationship to another, to another, to another. Well, you get the picture. Recently I was fooling myself that a "friend" of mine from Texas was just a "friend" when in actu...	Overcome	5	862	Jul 7, 2009 by maresie
	An Attitude Adjustment..with a pinch of humor (Preview) Hi ((((Family)))) I got another dose of my HP's sense of humor this week so I thought I would share it with you. I was sitting at work Monday, minding my own business, doing my job when my supervisor came in to my office and had a strange look on his face...one that said he has some news and he didn't think I wa...	david62	8	686	Jul 7, 2009 by maresie
	Husband attacks me on Facebook (Preview) Boy am I a gluten for punishment or what. After blocking husband's email, I get a request to be his friend on facebook. I hover over the accept or deline button. My curiousity gets the better of me and I hit "accept". I post on his wall that I need to get in touch with him for the finalizing of the d...	Overcome	14	773	Jul 7, 2009 by maresie
	I'm my worse enemy! (Preview) Okay............ this time i can't blame it on PMS. hormones are no excuse in this behavior. i have been angry and crappy. i can't stand to even be around my own self anymore. and when i get like this, the program and my faith are the last thing on my mind. i know what i gotta do, i have the tools and i'm c...	Sincerely	4	673	Jul 7, 2009 by Ash
	He stopped drinking, but for how long? (Preview) Things are changing. My AH has decided to stop drinking and I am happy about that but life as we have known it, for years now, is changing. For the better but still changing. I don't know what to expect tonight when he gets home from work. I am apprehensive, excited and scared. I am so used to life being a cer...	wildthang86	3	832	Jul 7, 2009 by wildthang86
	Adaughter and the 4th of July week end---update (Preview) Well, I took the dive off the deep end and invited daughter out to have a family holiday celebration. She was so excited and said she would come. Then on Friday, she called and said she could make it because she was having trouble with her truck. I asked her what was wrong and her reply "I am not a m...	clara	3	798	Jul 7, 2009 by Loupiness
	Am I in trouble? (Preview) This is my first visit to this site, and I have a feeling I'm at the right place, but perhaps the reason I'm here is "denial?" All I can say is that I'm afraid my husband may be an alcoholic, and after thorough research into the subject, I'm very afraid for him and for me. Perhaps I need for some o...	Mystique2009	8	930	Jul 7, 2009 by Mystique2009
	i need help (Preview) iv got a big problem, my daugther has bin on a binge for a wk, she has just text me an said she want to die. what do i do? just cant do this on my own	mary j	12	644	Jul 7, 2009 by Diva
	Why I come back... (Preview) Debilyn your comment touched me. I just wanted all of you to know that through it all why I come back is because I know that here I have a safe place to say the same things over and over, make the same mistakes over and over, and be welcomed with love, support, acceptance, not judgement, but also with a remi...	Codependent	5	820	Jul 6, 2009 by Sincerely
	Weekend recovery... (Preview) Got to lots of meetings this weekend. And lots of contact. Feel like I am swimming and or floating in recovery. Made me realize that I need a lot more meetings in every single 7 day stretch. Come hell or high water or holidays or traffic. And I've very grateful for the people on this board for their sha...	MrsGratitude	1	504	Jul 6, 2009 by Sincerely
	July 6 reading from One Day At A Time in Al-Anon (Preview) (this may be found in the daily reader) -- Edited by tea2 on Wednesday 8th of July 2009 09:50:23 PM	Overcome	2	568	Jul 6, 2009 by wildthang86
	July 5th reading for One Day at a Time in Al-Anon (Preview) An AA speaker at al Al-Anon meeting gave the members this unusual insight from the other side of the fence: "The non-alcohoilc in the family doesn't seem to realize that the alcoholic is in a terribly vulnerable position. He must be constantly on guard, because he knows, deep down inside, how mu...	Overcome	3	996	Jul 6, 2009 by wildthang86
	took a geographical this weekend... (Preview) i took a little trip to get away from AH and the insanity for a few days. day one was fantastic. day 2, less so. i was anxious and kept thinking how happy HE must be that i'm not there, how he's probably LOVING being without me for a few days. trying SO hard not to attempt to get into his head but... days 3-5...	xter	1	747	Jul 6, 2009 by glad lee
	Happiness is an inside job... (Preview) I need some ESH on this topic. I can fully understand how taking care of ME will find me happiness - happiness that is right for ME. I understand how my choices and decisions need to reflect and be consistent with the consequences and outcomes that I want in my life. Where I struggle is in understanding th...	Rora	11	892	Jul 6, 2009 by beacheemom
	how do you find Peace? (Preview) feeling like im fighting myself - havent been able to get out/get away by myself as i dont have my license (hopefully very soon) Boyfriend smokes to find his peace, also his religion. His smoking takes away any peace I may have at the moment How do you find your peace AND keep it? walking? nature? open to a...	florida	7	1051	Jul 5, 2009 by nmike
	I don't want to go....but that means I really need to! (Preview) LAZY! I would rather procrastinate than go to my meeting- sleep in, be lazy, surf the web, etc. But that is always a clue that I need to get my butt in gear and get to a meeting. I did not go last week for the very same reason. Geez, what a battle it is sometimes with my own self! UGH! But, Ok, I am going, I g...	Jean4444	11	970	Jul 5, 2009 by nmike
	the disease thing (Preview) I've been thinking about the disease of alcoholism and trying to get my head around it more. I don't bristle as much when I call it a disease any longer BUT here's my issue. I'd love all of your ESH on it: If a diabetic eats candy bars and doesn't take his insulin (fully knowing that this is not good self care...	gknee	7	1021	Jul 5, 2009 by Dave Harm
	Been wanting to hide out (Preview) Ok.. I have been avoiding posting since i have been back in the room.. Have had a couple of people saying I should.. So here I am.. When i first came into this program.. I thought my biggest challenge was to learn how to live with alcoholism.. I knew I had alot of issues as well and knew there would be challe...	teddybearpoet	4	779	Jul 5, 2009 by Sincerely
	daughter teenager today (Preview) Hi, my daughter turns 13 today. I have promised her 4 her 16 we will visit america because her birthday is special in your country any ideas. Plus I plan to attend a convention next year with my AB if he is still sober want to go somewhere special all ideas appreciated. Hope you all have a lovely 4th July c...	Tracy	2	568	Jul 5, 2009 by rosielightshines
	I'm expecting a miracle:)or should I say another one?:) (Preview) Went to bed feeling like I was truly blessed and woke up feeling the same. It's been two WHOLE weeks since I FINALLY reached the point of all out insanity and had to walk away from someone that I love, one of the hardest things I've ever had to do in my life. I walked away to save myself.....someone that I d...	shellyj123	5	786	Jul 5, 2009 by Lilly Burn
	Scared of myself (Preview) Thanks for all of the support. I have been doing a lot of introspection and once again wind up scared of my weaknesses- scared that I haven't made as much progress as I wanted to. I still have my alcohol issues that I have not let go of. I still have intimacy and sex issues and loneliness and lack of trust...	Codependent	7	708	Jul 5, 2009 by TerryTrains
	Sanity check (Preview) Hi all.God- I hate 3 day holiday weekends!!! AH gets in a mood and it just keeps on giving. Here's the scenario today. AH leaves the house around 4- drops 16 y/o at work and then disappears. I hang out for a while , then head to grocery store to prep for planned picnics tomorrow (which I am beginning to beli...	gknee	6	821	Jul 5, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	Gratitude (Preview) Here's something positive:If I hadn't been working my program and just getting on with my day--despite what my AH was doing- this is what I would have missed out on:1) a 3 mile run2) a 4th of july parade with my kids and some old friends3) a visit with some former neighbors4) a wonderful picnic at my aunt...	gknee	4	690	Jul 5, 2009 by glad lee
	Had to Laugh (Preview) I took a Service Position recently at my Saturday meeting. My job is to call the person who is chairing the meeting the night before to remind them. Well, my job started this month and I happen to be out of town - but I made sure to send myself an e-mail to remind me to call the people (one of them is the regul...	N8SMOM	2	772	Jul 5, 2009 by Jerry F
	What Do You Do When You Start To Lose Your Faith? (Preview) I have always had my faith to sustain me. I had it during the illness and death of both of my parents to whom I had a very close, loving relationships, during the diagnosis that my youngest son was Autistic, and when I suffered a severe case of depression, it has sustained me living with my oldest so...	DreamsOver	10	1069	Jul 4, 2009 by DD
	July 4th reading from One Day at a Time in Al-Anon (Preview) (this share can be found in the daily reader) -- Edited by tea2 on Wednesday 8th of July 2009 09:29:06 PM	Overcome	1	585	Jul 4, 2009 by redfred
	so sad (Preview) this is my first posting so sorry for any mistakes. i am trying to detach from my daughter cos i know after months trying i cannot help her. she's on another binge now and this is when i panic cos she often tells her friends she has taken an overdose cos she no longer wants to live, they panic an ring me, an...	mary j	11	962	Jul 4, 2009 by mary j
	Independance Day (Preview) For the first time in ages, I feel like I am slowly finding my way back to my independant, self sufficient, happy, and confident self. The journey has been long and rough at times, and it continues and will continue forever, and I am happy and looking forward to each and every day of it. I've finally allo...	shellyj123	0	394	Jul 4, 2009 by shellyj123
	Wondering at my need to be right (Preview) I can see it when it's happening. I know it's futile to argue, but there are times when it seems I just can't help it. And it's over the dumbest stuff. Usually because the topic of conversation shifts and my AH doesn't bother to tell me, then starts talking down to me when I express confusion and atte...	blender_girl	9	466	Jul 4, 2009 by kitty
	No longer with AH but still suffering (Preview) I wanted to share my story for some thoughts and experiences you all went through. I am no longer living with my AH and we are divorced a year ago...I know i dont want to get back to him and our marriage has made me discover so many deffects of character which i need to work on to be a healthier and happier pers...	koukou	8	1079	Jul 4, 2009 by koukou
	Happy 4th of July! (Preview) (((((Family))))), A quick HAPPY 4th of JULY to all! Have a wonderful weekend. Celebrate the meaning of this day. I am so proud to be an American. To my military families thank you for doing what you do. Come home safe and sound to us. I am off to work for the entire weekend, but that's okay. I have lot...	Karilynn	0	365	Jul 4, 2009 by Karilynn
	Thanks To All That Travel Along Side...... (Preview) I appreciate every response to my question. There is a lot of love and wisdom here.	DreamsOver	2	724	Jul 4, 2009 by Jerry F
	Program working... (Preview) I tend to focus on the struggles I have and post to seek the invaluable support and ESH offered here. A situation occurred the other day and I wanted to share how it helped me to realize that the tools I am gaining spread to my Non-A interactions as well. The other night I ordered a pizza for pick up. It was...	Rora	6	812	Jul 4, 2009 by rosielightshines
	Changing the things I can (Preview) The time has come for me to make some changes. A few days of peace and quiet every few weeks is not enough for me to heal. Being in the same house the majority of the time simply takes its toll on me when my AH is drinking. I can detach most of the time, but sometimes the insanity just leaks in and takes hold....	blender_girl	5	1155	Jul 4, 2009 by rosielightshines
	My 1 year Alanon Anniversary (Preview) Hello and Hugs,This month makes one year since HP guided me to MIP. That is my #1 on my gratitude list today. Even though the last year has been a tough one, it has been one of the best ones. As many newbies do, I came here hopeless and desperate of learning how to deal with the alcoholic in my life. Wha...	Sincerely	6	1013	Jul 3, 2009 by wp
	Met with lawyer today (Preview) Hi MIP family. Thought I would just keep you abreast of my situation and hold myself accountable at the same time. I met with the lawyer today and had all the information that I needed for him to file an uncontested divorce, except husband's address (which I have and forgot to bring) and social security...	Overcome	6	509	Jul 3, 2009 by crispin777
	Having Computer Problems (Preview) I am having trouble loading the chat room, because my computer says that my adobe reader is damaged and can't be fixed. I guess that somehow effects my Java from running and now I can't get into chat. I am going to take my computer to the "fix-it" guy, since I know nothing about computers and am...	Overcome	6	677	Jul 3, 2009 by danz123
	To change or not to change... (Preview) For some years now I have this friend who over and over and over again tells me that the one thing holding me back is the fact that I hold on to my married name. She goes as far as to tell me that all the powers on earth are working against me in that name. She tells me that until I relinquish this name I will alw...	Suzannah	8	610	Jul 3, 2009 by koukou
	Old habits die hard (Preview) I spent yesterday evening with a guy who I like well enough but not LIKE like, as we used to say. Fun. Not much too it. I don't particularly even care what he thinks of me. And yet here I am obsessing about what I should have said differently or not said or... or... or... LOL I swear, my brain does this on auto...	gngcrzy	1	544	Jul 2, 2009 by Codependent
	Husband in recovery....worse than ever (Preview) I don't know where to begin and I am almost to tired to think. I have not talked to him in almost 2 days. He is 3 weeks sober and seemingly doing great. But it also seems that i no longer have a place in his life now that he has found AA. He has checked himself in to a 12-step halfway house type place right dow...	crispin777	13	577	Jul 2, 2009 by crispin777
	New here and so sad (Preview) Hy husband is an alcoholic. He has tried AA and claims it doesn't work for him. Makes him feel like drinking more. He has tried to quit for about 5 years now. His older brother died of alcoholism and he says he's doomed to be just like him. The past 2 weeks he has gotten drunk every night - very drunk. I miss h...	smy922000	11	644	Jul 2, 2009 by blender_girl
	never been on a rollercoaster like this one! (Preview) I suppose it's normal to feel like you are on one, right? One day good, the next bad, then good and so on. No wonder we all feel like we are going crazy!! I thank God for this place. I think I have found, for me, what is going to keep me focused on me and my kids. Everytime I take the plunge and start to organize th...	beacheemom	9	719	Jul 2, 2009 by beacheemom
	my first f2f (Preview) I went to my first face to face meeting!!!!!!!!!! it took me a long time to get there but i did it and now i am looking forward to going back...i guess i thought if he would just quit drinking everything would be fine. he is now 2 years sober and I am certainly not fine....but i am ready to work on myself for a...	lam0204	3	809	Jul 2, 2009 by Overcome
	Back on here (Preview) I haven't posted in such a long time. But, I'm glad to be back on here. I will be updating and look foreword to talking to everyone. I missed you all! I hope everyone is doing ok. Christina	christinajeanne	3	460	Jul 2, 2009 by blender_girl
	Discovery and Choices (Preview) I woke up last night with a pit in my stomach. That has been happening to me a lot lately. But, instead of fretting about it I just spent time with God and went back to sleep. I felt a sense of peace come over me. Then yesterday as I was going to pick up my lunch I decided to go into a local bookstore. I ran into a fr...	christinajeanne	2	377	Jul 2, 2009 by Mobirdie
	Courage to Change (Preview) ****Sooo for me today this was a tough one... I went to the mail and got out my Test Results I have been dreading... For good reason... So Choles. was Up to 216... WOW... BAD Very BAD... BUT... On a good note, My Tryglycerides that at one time was up over 880... was down to 120.. Not Great But ALOT BETTER... S...	Jozie	3	589	Jul 2, 2009 by Jozie
	Testing.....Testing....Testing..... (Preview) Just checking to see if I can post yet! I can put things on the whiteboard. We'll see.	Karilynn	2	531	Jul 2, 2009 by Tofy
	A warm and sincere Mahalo (Preview) Aloha MIP Family...I am grateful that when I had to fall back on others for support you all were there!! It was 3+ hours before my spouse made it home and absolutely nothing I would have planned or expected or feared about came about. Every time I went to put my crown on along with my sword and shield I end...	Jerry F	11	629	Jul 1, 2009 by Suzannah
	How bad can it get? (Preview) Okay flights been delayed over 3 hours..... Instead to reacting I decided to come back here and hold myself still and read some more. How bad can it get? Actually after reading some of the post...this isn't even a knee jerk. Gratefully. (((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	9	937	Jul 1, 2009 by Suzannah
	I'll do it different this time... (Preview) The spouse is returning this afternoon from her annual family trip to the mainland. She called yesterday to tell me what time she would be at the Hilo Airport so that I could be there to pick her up suggesting that If I were to leave the house 10 minutes before she landed I could get there just after she got...	Jerry F	8	631	Jul 1, 2009 by Suzannah
	Should I make a call? (Preview) I feel like one of my husband's friends has been a terrible influence on him. Drinking and smoking pot all the time. And getting ahold of and bringing over other types of drugs that my husband never would have sought out on his own. There is a festival coming up this weekend. Previously I had gone with...	Eve55	9	590	Jul 1, 2009 by glad lee
	At the beginning, yet at the end (Preview) Hi all,I'm glad to have found this community to share and learn and I'm looking forward to meeting all of you. Where to begin...I'm 26 and I've been in a relationship with an alcoholic for two years now. The first year I didn't really notice the effects on him, or I just didn't take them too seriously. How...	JBee	8	607	Jul 1, 2009 by Jean4444
	very keyed up and angry (Preview) argh... people have been posting about this issue (their ABF or AH or AGF or AW in early recovery and acting like a horrible mess - and then slipping and then being awful again...) and i really don't want to rehash it but i kinda want to just vent. i'm going away for 5 days after work tomorrow. AH said he was...	xter	10	548	Jul 1, 2009 by Jean4444
	Hard to believe it.......I still can't believe it........ESH for those trying to Detach (Preview) Those of you who have followed my story/struggle/recovery the past 7 mths know where I came from and how miserably impossible it was for me to Detach... It will be two weeks this Thursday and for me that is a miracle and a blessing! There has been absolutely NC. ESABF dropped my stuff off last week and s...	shellyj123	8	611	Jul 1, 2009 by maresie
	Clarity of thinking after funeral (Preview) Dear All, went to funeral this evening, it was a quiet one, I guess alcoholics are only drawing a crowd when they are paying for drinks or providing the entertainment, I did not see many of the publicans who would have gained financially from this woman's death there, but hold it, its not to say they were...	maire rua	2	512	Jul 1, 2009 by maresie
	Overcoming procrastination. (Preview) I am on a roll in terms of decluttering and have some major projects to do. I need to get them done shortly as my life is going in many different directions now. I need to step up and take care of this. I am posting this so I have to make a update on the issue regularly. There is always something that gets in t...	maresie	6	511	Jul 1, 2009 by maresie
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