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Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

Sometimes weeks come & go but bad days last forever! This is sometimes true for me in my mind--the sick part! I am resigned to the fact that some days are just bad! I know I can start my day over but sometimes I just don't want to. I want to wallow in the sickness of it; you know what I mean? I haven't gotte...

Jerry F · Jerry F

God this program works on you when you work on it. Saturday Morning and the wife has been gone for a week and not because I've had anything to do with it and the pups miss her (I think they do anyway...how do pups show they miss anyone who isn't there when they got you?) but seem to be fine using my body heat at...

fishinmama · fishinmama

Well I went to a meeting last night. cried my way there and home. On the way home though, I had a break through for me. I looked at my thinking with the ex and how I threw him out. The truth was shown to me. My heartbreak? It comes from the backfire of my manipulations. I see now that when I threw him out,...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Danz, I hope you have a very happy birthday and that your day is blessed! Happy Birthday sweet lady! Mandy

gknee · gknee

Hi everyone- Its been a tumultuous week at the homestead- to say the least. My AH lost his job of 18 years on Thursday-- the direct result of drinking and drugging and not going to work. They kept him on because he was a good producer but once his business dried up (and he didn't) they were done with him.I ha...

Becky · Becky

I am new to this source...new to a lot of things as I am finding out. I moved up to NC from FL last year to be with someone who made me happy. As time has gone on, I have found out what his true self is like. He is an angry alcoholic. One who snaps at a split second notice, one who says the most degrading things to m...

FlyingSquirrel · FlyingSquirrel

===========================================================Good night. Thank you for helping me get through it, even if it was in my own disfunct...

inhisarms · inhisarms

It has been a week today since XABF was throwin in jail for breaking into my house. Has been a tough week, murphy's law i guess. Everything went wrong this week and I mean I was on overdrive. Work was tough, kids were acting out, even my dog ran away twice. I thought I would be commited. Well, I still got up...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, Tonight is the first night of Chanukah and for all of those out there that celebrate it I wish you a great week. I can't wait to make the latkes for dinner tonight . I am hoping to have a better year than last year. Last year on the last night of Chanukah I almost set the house of fire. It was an almost...

Carol_Lynn · Carol_Lynn

Hi. I'm Carol and my husband and I live with an a friend. He is sober now, but we are still dealing with issues. the good news is I have learned to be on my own and do things/take care of myself without his help anymore. This way, he is more likely to be able to help me. And I can help him when I am taken care of m...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Hi ... I'm new and this is my first post here. I'm not new to alcoholism. My mom is still an active alcoholic (she was for the majority of my childhood), my ex husband is an alcoholic, and my new husband is in recovery. That's a lot of alcoholism. I've been going to f2f Al Anon meetings for about a year and...

Diva · Diva

Just what COULD happen during detox? THis is a serious question; as most of you know, I had no experience with alcoholism or alcoholics before I became involved with former husband - now partner. His binges last anywhere from three days to a week, and the alcohol he consumes during this time is enorm...

Shaina · Shaina

My fiance has been sober for 6 months. We havent been intimate for 5 months. We always give a quick kiss when we see each other and quick kiss and hug when we leave. No matter if its 5 times a day. When I spent the night after a long trip, the next morning he wanted to do something fun. We got up and went fis...

Ragdolls · Ragdolls

I've been in a funk all day. I'm sure it has to do with lots of things but these are the things directly bothering me and I need to vent. Last night I woke up as my AFiance was digging in my purse for a lighter (so he says) to have a cigarette. Yes, I sleep with my purse by the bed now. If it makes me feel better,...

ARSK · ARSK

My first posting My ExABF was an immature alcoholic. This was a new one for me. I had the abusive ABF and an abusive A stepfather. SO I thought I was doing well. This guy drinks but hes a fun alcoholic, later to come to find a functional alcoholic as well. I had some how stayed away from dating anything r...

QOD · QOD

I think the subject line just about sums it up!!!! Wow! Stress of life, of the holidays, of financial woes, of the A's in my life! Calgon take me away!

Dyinginside · Dyinginside

I've tried and tried again, but I just can't NOT react to my ABF who is now sober, but who is just so irrational. I have tried to say to myself 'Ok, it's his illness, he's just learning how to cope with this world without a drink etc"......... But howmuch longer should I blame his rotting brain and may...

shellyj123 · shellyj123

Sorry I haven't been here much recently. I have been reading here and there and trying to keep up somewhat, but honestly don't feel I have anything to offer anyone right now. The past month has been so crazy, and I am fighting major depression daily. I'm sure it involves the time of year, missing what I t...

jasobel · jasobel

I felt like I was doing pretty good with my alanon program, detaching from my AS's behavior, letting go and letting god, coping with my obsessive thoughts, not worrying so much about him, taking control over my own self care and my own life. Then a close friend who has cancer found out her cancer is back....

Jerry F · Jerry F

Wednesday Night Turning Point Al-Anon Family Group...home meeting for me and to night very special as one of the members did the meeting on the subject of fear. It very quickly became fear using the tools of meditation and prayer. I am soooo grateful again for that meeting subject because of the memb...

Rora · Rora

I'm trying to figure out my being unhappy with my Sponsor. First, I think she talks too much ... about herself. I feel like when I am trying to discuss how I feel, she is looking at me, but waiting for the moment that she can jump in with a response. And sometimes my ideas are incomplete, then I have to int...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

As I posted a few weeks ago my husband relapsed. He is drinkng again, but since he hasn't done drugs yet he thinks he's in total control. He is obviously not, he drinks a lot, I guess he thinks normal people drink 6 days a week and have a glass of wine while cutting their hair I'm pissed right know cause he cam...

lolli09 · lolli09

Update on Need objective feedback, I ultimately called and left message that I agreed and he should take care of himself, take all the time he needed then his last message said he was soooo stressed over work and thought he might even be in a depression and he would contact me after the "Holidays&q...

John · John

Rose and John Freifeld Wish Every Member of Miracles In Progress a Happy Holiday! Photo taken 12-6-09 Toys for Tots Bikers Run - Wilmington, NC

blender_girl · blender_girl

...and not having much success. Anyone out there in MIP-land have a copy or point me to where I can get one? Thanks in advance! bg

lacewing · lacewing

Hello everyone! I would like to thank all of you whom offered up prayers for My friend and fellow Al-Anoner, Michael (HeSees) from our Chat room. He contacted me yesterday...is doing well, albeit 'feels like I have been through the mill'. He is up and exercising, walking up and down the halls, and ant...

RLC · RLC

If there is no problem with my computer or MIP then it has been almost 20 hours since the last topic was started from anyone. That has to be a first. And, for someone to tries to see the positive in everything I guess that "Ain't All Bad". HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 9th of Decembe...

blender_girl · blender_girl

Something occurred to me yesterday - I've only really been trying to detach from my AH's "bad" behavior. You know what I'm talking about - verbal abuse, lack of interest in our kids' activities, overall irresponsible behavior etc... I noticed I got so wrapped up in his "Mr. Hyde&qu...

jdaniel · jdaniel

Hi, I'm new to this (just signed up) and need some advice. I've been to some al-anon meetings over the past few years but things are heightening. My mother is an alcoholic - has admited it in the past, but never engaged with recovery. Last weekend we went out for a meal, with 4 of us there, she was the only on...

maresie · maresie

There is a very good memoir out at the moment called "Lit" by Mary Karr. Mary describes her alcoholism, relapses and eventual sobriety insightfully and this was a revelation to me. I know while I drank socially I never depended on alcohol the way an alcoholic did. I also know that I made b...

Dyinginside · Dyinginside

http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/

AlaMom · AlaMom

It has been yet again so long since posting to this board. Time constraints & busy lifestyle I use as my excuses not to visit more often both on MIP & f2f meetings. Poor excuses not to take care of spiritual & emotional well being for sure. However, if there is one thing that I know is that I...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

I have an outdoor Christmas tree that I bought last year - I had been wanting it for a long time and found it on sale for a great price. I decided to keep it in the garage after Christmas and didn't bother to take it apart. Unfortunately, my husband (while driving drunk) ran into it and ruined it (most likel...

jasobel · jasobel

Hi all - I haven't posted in a while but am back - had the stomach flu which was nasty. I have posted a bit about my boyfriend who left his sobriety, left me and went to live with someone else for 3 weeks on a huge drinking binge. Well now he is back living with me and sober and going to daily AA meetings. He is do...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

HATE IT!! Hate what alcohol does to those addicted it to it. HATE what it does to those around the addict. AH was vomiting all day yesterday and, as a consequence had seizure/fit last night. Scared h*ll out of my poor son. I am getting used to them (HATE that I'm getting used to them) Did not call ambulance...

Debilyn · Debilyn

I went and saw my convict AH in the big house yesterday. He came out and looked different. Something was wrong. I have known him 39 years. I mean involved in every way. I asked about his cell mate if he had gotten out. He did. Then he turned bright red, I thought he was going to cry. I want you to know this man he...

essgee1952 · essgee1952

For the past few years, I've done the minimum when it comes to Christmas decorating. No help from AH, and fewer and fewer people coming by, even his kids. You know... Earlier this year, I reconnected with an old friend, who has been through some stuff the last couple of years and come out the other side...

Mandy123 · Mandy123

Hi family, I haven't posted recently. I have been a bit busy and trying to there is so much happening that I don't always know how to slow down the thoughts enough to get them to come out a few at a time let alone one at a time. Today was a weird day for me. I work for a social services agency. We provided case man...

supermom · supermom

Hello all. I have mentioned before that I am not the "tech-y" kind of person. What does "ESH" stand for? Thanks for the help.

inhisarms · inhisarms

I have lived my life on a roller coaster for 2 years. My xabf was and is the love of my life. He is the most amazing, intelligent, kind, genuine and loving person i have ever met when he is sober. Problem is he is an alcoholic/addict and becomes the exact opposite when he uses. He has done AA too many times...

smy922000 · smy922000

My husband is an active alcoholic. We have been married 17 years. He has tried a variety of programs, including AA and still drinks (he is not currently in AA). I have been to Al Anon but have not found that it helps me dealing with just interacting with an alcoholic. He wants to stop drinking but "c...

faith432 · faith432

Well I am new to the message board and to Al-Anon. I have been married to my A not alcoholic but ADDICT!!! He could be an alcoholic but his preference ...the preference that has ruined our life is CRACK. My A was clean and sober for 10 1/2 years 1994-2005. He gained his sobriety by accepting Jesus as hi...

QOD · QOD

It has been a really really long time since I have posted here. Life has been rolling along for me. I have been taking my ups and downs pretty well I think. Let's see, to sum things up: My exAH and I have been back to dating since Oct 2008. He lives with his grandma & I live in my house with our kids whom...

Nodaybut2day · Nodaybut2day

Hi all, I'm writing this because I have doubts about whether or not my X is actually an alcoholic or just an "alcohol abuser", as in someone who drinks heavily or moderately depending on the situation, but who is able to stop at some point. The reason I ask is because lately, since I have left m...

carolinagirl · carolinagirl

So the ex AH has been staying on the upstairs couch for about 6 weeks now. I have had another issue with oldest daughter who will probably be going to wilderness camp within the next 2 months and because of that position I cannot in good conscience rely on her to take care of her younger brother and siste...

ally · ally

Guys As i continue to grow and find a new confidence in myself in ways i never believed possible. Life is what i'm finally allowing it to be for me. I'm not overly confident. I'm very easy going, down to earth and i love to laugh and make others laugh too. People call me the likes of "crazygirl or n...

Gailey · Gailey

I was not going to go to my meeting last night as I sat in my recliner with snuggly pjs on in front of my Christmas tree. I hate to go back out when I get home from work but this has been a very trying week for me with the A son and a lot of other things. I thought to myself...how can I keep tring to urge my son to go to m...

KellyCO · KellyCO

Hello to everyone - I have been going to a great weekly Al-Anon meeting for 9 months but am new to this forum. I would love to hear from anyone with ideas about how to talk to my kids about their father's alcoholism. My daughter is 10 and my son just turned 8. I only learned of my husband's chronic drinking...

mc3 · mc3

This is a strange question coming from a child of an A. My mother left him because of his drinking but I was to young to remember what he was like then. I am 37 and just in the past few years getting to know my father. I moved closer to him to build a realationship with him. He was forced to stop drinking for h...

gknee · gknee

Hi MIP gang- tonight I did a little personal history lesson and read ovey the posts I started since I joined MIP. WOW! Eye opening. It gives actual dates to the lurid details of life with my addict husband. I actually still loved him back 4 years ago..... So this next detail I could have cut and pasted from...

Tracy · Tracy

Hi everyone, wow living in reality is tough. My ABF has had a slip after 6 months and is living back in his mums. We are having contact via the phone. He is very upet, angrey, wollowing in self pity. it was his birthday couple of days ago I took a small present and card to his mums. He asked me to call back a...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), I am asking for prayers for the family of Richard Antoun. He was an anthropology professor that was stabbed to death yesterday in his office. He was 77 years young. He had more energy at that age than 100 of me combined. A sweet, gentle kind man who life touched many. I found out at...

shadow1 · shadow1

((((Family)))) I just wanted to say a great big THANK YOU for all your support, thoughts and prayers. I'm home from the hospital and doing well..... A bit tired but over all much better than I expected Take care Kim/Shadow

Tracy · Tracy

I really need to have strenght to be couragoues to take care of me for the first time in my life rather than everyone else. People have told me in the past that my kindness is my weakness. I do tend to understand another pain and then go into the fix it mode. However I have learnt from Al anon that we are a...

Dyinginside · Dyinginside

Hi everyone, I'm new to this site. I'll make a long story short. I've been with my BF for 5 yrs. We don't live together. The 5 yrs have been very volatile to say the least. I could not for the life of me understand why our relationship was so up and down. My BF drank, but he was never a fall down drinker or a class...

MaryPoppins · MaryPoppins

Dear Friends, I am feeling quite sad lately, crying a lot. Next week is my wedding anniversary, my sixteenth. For all of the first fifteen years we were married, my husband was a horribly hard drinking serious A. I am not talking weekend binges, I am talking daily drunkenness to the point of blackout...

maresie · maresie

I have a new therapist now and our first session went pretty well. I have a full three sessions before Christmas to get started on some topics. I am now having to take a lot of responsibility for permitting the last therapist to cross significant boundaries. I know I can go into people pleasing at the d...

Debilyn · Debilyn

Saying Relapse is part of being an addict, is true. It does not have to mean the addict is using again, they can also relapse into addictive behavior, which sadly almost always ends up with the addict using again. Relapse is a processs. The addict who has had a strong program for many years, starts to not...

RLC · RLC

To all my MIP family, I would like to inform you that my brother Ray loss his 6 month battle with cancer this past Thrusday. He fought a brave battle which was no surprise to me. He was given a military funeral and buried Saturday in the town where he and I were raised, Newton, Mississippi. Th...

Wife of A · Wife of A

Hi there I'm new here. I just don't know what to do. I have reached out to Al-anon before in terms of finding info. Right now, I feel like crap. I think my hubby is an A. Well, I know he has a problem. But he's a functioning one. In any case, I found his drinking to be a big problem. He would drink himself stupid e...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	WHAT IS A WEEK WITHOUT A FEW BAD DAYS! (Preview) Sometimes weeks come & go but bad days last forever! This is sometimes true for me in my mind--the sick part! I am resigned to the fact that some days are just bad! I know I can start my day over but sometimes I just don't want to. I want to wallow in the sickness of it; you know what I mean? I haven't gotte...	Hoot Nanny	1	651	Dec 13, 2009 by Jerry F
	I'd Like to complain but forgot how anymore.... (Preview) God this program works on you when you work on it. Saturday Morning and the wife has been gone for a week and not because I've had anything to do with it and the pups miss her (I think they do anyway...how do pups show they miss anyone who isn't there when they got you?) but seem to be fine using my body heat at...	Jerry F	5	1301	Dec 13, 2009 by Loupiness
	I got some new alanon glasses last night...I saw myself (Preview) Well I went to a meeting last night. cried my way there and home. On the way home though, I had a break through for me. I looked at my thinking with the ex and how I threw him out. The truth was shown to me. My heartbreak? It comes from the backfire of my manipulations. I see now that when I threw him out,...	fishinmama	2	611	Dec 13, 2009 by hotrod
	Happy Birthday Danz123 (Preview) Danz, I hope you have a very happy birthday and that your day is blessed! Happy Birthday sweet lady! Mandy	Mandy123	7	891	Dec 13, 2009 by Andrea12
	fall out of logical consequences (Preview) Hi everyone- Its been a tumultuous week at the homestead- to say the least. My AH lost his job of 18 years on Thursday-- the direct result of drinking and drugging and not going to work. They kept him on because he was a good producer but once his business dried up (and he didn't) they were done with him.I ha...	gknee	2	902	Dec 12, 2009 by Jerry F
	Help (Preview) I am new to this source...new to a lot of things as I am finding out. I moved up to NC from FL last year to be with someone who made me happy. As time has gone on, I have found out what his true self is like. He is an angry alcoholic. One who snaps at a split second notice, one who says the most degrading things to m...	Becky	4	761	Dec 12, 2009 by gknee
	Analyze THIS! (Preview) ===========================================================Good night. Thank you for helping me get through it, even if it was in my own disfunct...	FlyingSquirrel	6	822	Dec 12, 2009 by Rora
	I am doing too well, it scares me (Preview) It has been a week today since XABF was throwin in jail for breaking into my house. Has been a tough week, murphy's law i guess. Everything went wrong this week and I mean I was on overdrive. Work was tough, kids were acting out, even my dog ran away twice. I thought I would be commited. Well, I still got up...	inhisarms	2	865	Dec 12, 2009 by kitty
	Happy Chanukah (Preview) Hi family, Tonight is the first night of Chanukah and for all of those out there that celebrate it I wish you a great week. I can't wait to make the latkes for dinner tonight . I am hoping to have a better year than last year. Last year on the last night of Chanukah I almost set the house of fire. It was an almost...	Mandy123	6	649	Dec 12, 2009 by Karilynn
	hello :) (Preview) Hi. I'm Carol and my husband and I live with an a friend. He is sober now, but we are still dealing with issues. the good news is I have learned to be on my own and do things/take care of myself without his help anymore. This way, he is more likely to be able to help me. And I can help him when I am taken care of m...	Carol_Lynn	3	717	Dec 11, 2009 by Carol_Lynn
	New and could use some of your ESH (Preview) Hi ... I'm new and this is my first post here. I'm not new to alcoholism. My mom is still an active alcoholic (she was for the majority of my childhood), my ex husband is an alcoholic, and my new husband is in recovery. That's a lot of alcoholism. I've been going to f2f Al Anon meetings for about a year and...	White Rabbit	5	783	Dec 11, 2009 by White Rabbit
	question about detox... (Preview) Just what COULD happen during detox? THis is a serious question; as most of you know, I had no experience with alcoholism or alcoholics before I became involved with former husband - now partner. His binges last anywhere from three days to a week, and the alcohol he consumes during this time is enorm...	Diva	9	692	Dec 11, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	Dry Drunks and Affection (Preview) My fiance has been sober for 6 months. We havent been intimate for 5 months. We always give a quick kiss when we see each other and quick kiss and hug when we leave. No matter if its 5 times a day. When I spent the night after a long trip, the next morning he wanted to do something fun. We got up and went fis...	Shaina	8	1035	Dec 11, 2009 by Shaina
	In a funk today (Preview) I've been in a funk all day. I'm sure it has to do with lots of things but these are the things directly bothering me and I need to vent. Last night I woke up as my AFiance was digging in my purse for a lighter (so he says) to have a cigarette. Yes, I sleep with my purse by the bed now. If it makes me feel better,...	Ragdolls	5	750	Dec 11, 2009 by phoenix
	New to this site (Preview) My first posting My ExABF was an immature alcoholic. This was a new one for me. I had the abusive ABF and an abusive A stepfather. SO I thought I was doing well. This guy drinks but hes a fun alcoholic, later to come to find a functional alcoholic as well. I had some how stayed away from dating anything r...	ARSK	3	666	Dec 11, 2009 by ARSK
	Oh the Stress!!! (Preview) I think the subject line just about sums it up!!!! Wow! Stress of life, of the holidays, of financial woes, of the A's in my life! Calgon take me away!	QOD	2	659	Dec 11, 2009 by QOD
	IMPOSSIBLE not to react!!!!!!!! (Preview) I've tried and tried again, but I just can't NOT react to my ABF who is now sober, but who is just so irrational. I have tried to say to myself 'Ok, it's his illness, he's just learning how to cope with this world without a drink etc"......... But howmuch longer should I blame his rotting brain and may...	Dyinginside	9	1129	Dec 11, 2009 by Dyinginside
	I really just want to give up........I don't know how much more I can handle.... (Preview) Sorry I haven't been here much recently. I have been reading here and there and trying to keep up somewhat, but honestly don't feel I have anything to offer anyone right now. The past month has been so crazy, and I am fighting major depression daily. I'm sure it involves the time of year, missing what I t...	shellyj123	2	915	Dec 10, 2009 by Aloha
	Finding peace in the program in a c (Preview) I felt like I was doing pretty good with my alanon program, detaching from my AS's behavior, letting go and letting god, coping with my obsessive thoughts, not worrying so much about him, taking control over my own self care and my own life. Then a close friend who has cancer found out her cancer is back....	jasobel	2	912	Dec 10, 2009 by jasobel
	The meeting was on fear... (Preview) Wednesday Night Turning Point Al-Anon Family Group...home meeting for me and to night very special as one of the members did the meeting on the subject of fear. It very quickly became fear using the tools of meditation and prayer. I am soooo grateful again for that meeting subject because of the memb...	Jerry F	5	1464	Dec 10, 2009 by Maria123
	I'm unhappy with my Sponsor... (Preview) I'm trying to figure out my being unhappy with my Sponsor. First, I think she talks too much ... about herself. I feel like when I am trying to discuss how I feel, she is looking at me, but waiting for the moment that she can jump in with a response. And sometimes my ideas are incomplete, then I have to int...	Rora	7	1108	Dec 10, 2009 by carolinagirl
	Tired (Preview) As I posted a few weeks ago my husband relapsed. He is drinkng again, but since he hasn't done drugs yet he thinks he's in total control. He is obviously not, he drinks a lot, I guess he thinks normal people drink 6 days a week and have a glass of wine while cutting their hair I'm pissed right know cause he cam...	Priscilla83	6	763	Dec 10, 2009 by blender_girl
	Update on "need objective feedback" (Preview) Update on Need objective feedback, I ultimately called and left message that I agreed and he should take care of himself, take all the time he needed then his last message said he was soooo stressed over work and thought he might even be in a depression and he would contact me after the "Holidays&q...	lolli09	6	828	Dec 10, 2009 by lolli09
	Happy Holidays! (Preview) *Rose and John Freifeld Wish Every Member of Miracles In Progress a Happy Holiday!* Photo taken 12-6-09 Toys for Tots Bikers Run - Wilmington, NC	John	7	815	Dec 10, 2009 by Karilynn
	Looking for "Mommy, What's Drunk" pamphlet (Preview) ...and not having much success. Anyone out there in MIP-land have a copy or point me to where I can get one? Thanks in advance! bg	blender_girl	5	1620	Dec 10, 2009 by blender_girl
	Update on my friend Michael - whom I posted asking for a prayer... (Preview) Hello everyone! I would like to thank all of you whom offered up prayers for My friend and fellow Al-Anoner, Michael (HeSees) from our Chat room. He contacted me yesterday...is doing well, albeit 'feels like I have been through the mill'. He is up and exercising, walking up and down the halls, and ant...	lacewing	4	691	Dec 10, 2009 by lacewing
	20 hours Since The Last Topic Started !! That's A First I Think? (Preview) If there is no problem with my computer or MIP then it has been almost 20 hours since the last topic was started from anyone. That has to be a first. And, for someone to tries to see the positive in everything I guess that "Ain't All Bad". HUGS, RLC -- Edited by RLC on Wednesday 9th of Decembe...	RLC	2	620	Dec 10, 2009 by canadianguy
	Detaching from the "good" behavior (Preview) Something occurred to me yesterday - I've only really been trying to detach from my AH's "bad" behavior. You know what I'm talking about - verbal abuse, lack of interest in our kids' activities, overall irresponsible behavior etc... I noticed I got so wrapped up in his "Mr. Hyde&qu...	blender_girl	7	1369	Dec 10, 2009 by Tracy
	An evening with my A. mother (Preview) Hi, I'm new to this (just signed up) and need some advice. I've been to some al-anon meetings over the past few years but things are heightening. My mother is an alcoholic - has admited it in the past, but never engaged with recovery. Last weekend we went out for a meal, with 4 of us there, she was the only on...	jdaniel	2	806	Dec 10, 2009 by Jerry F
	Recommendation for understanding the alcoholic. (Preview) There is a very good memoir out at the moment called "Lit" by Mary Karr. Mary describes her alcoholism, relapses and eventual sobriety insightfully and this was a revelation to me. I know while I drank socially I never depended on alcohol the way an alcoholic did. I also know that I made b...	maresie	5	872	Dec 10, 2009 by mc3
	Great info on how to detach (Preview) http://www.livestrong.com/article/14712-developing-detachment/	Dyinginside	9	1400	Dec 10, 2009 by mc3
	Sea of Chaos (Preview) It has been yet again so long since posting to this board. Time constraints & busy lifestyle I use as my excuses not to visit more often both on MIP & f2f meetings. Poor excuses not to take care of spiritual & emotional well being for sure. However, if there is one thing that I know is that I...	AlaMom	4	1009	Dec 9, 2009 by maresie
	Christmas Resentment (Preview) I have an outdoor Christmas tree that I bought last year - I had been wanting it for a long time and found it on sale for a great price. I decided to keep it in the garage after Christmas and didn't bother to take it apart. Unfortunately, my husband (while driving drunk) ran into it and ruined it (most likel...	N8SMOM	6	1049	Dec 9, 2009 by N8SMOM
	New Sobriety Behavior Confusing (Preview) Hi all - I haven't posted in a while but am back - had the stomach flu which was nasty. I have posted a bit about my boyfriend who left his sobriety, left me and went to live with someone else for 3 weeks on a huge drinking binge. Well now he is back living with me and sober and going to daily AA meetings. He is do...	jasobel	3	1179	Dec 9, 2009 by Jerry F
	Hate it! (Preview) HATE IT!! Hate what alcohol does to those addicted it to it. HATE what it does to those around the addict. AH was vomiting all day yesterday and, as a consequence had seizure/fit last night. Scared h*ll out of my poor son. I am getting used to them (HATE that I'm getting used to them) Did not call ambulance...	Tattyhead	6	1015	Dec 9, 2009 by Tattyhead
	?Another bad addict in prison situation. (Preview) I went and saw my convict AH in the big house yesterday. He came out and looked different. Something was wrong. I have known him 39 years. I mean involved in every way. I asked about his cell mate if he had gotten out. He did. Then he turned bright red, I thought he was going to cry. I want you to know this man he...	Debilyn	5	760	Dec 9, 2009 by maresie
	I Decorated For Me! (Preview) For the past few years, I've done the minimum when it comes to Christmas decorating. No help from AH, and fewer and fewer people coming by, even his kids. You know... Earlier this year, I reconnected with an old friend, who has been through some stuff the last couple of years and come out the other side...	essgee1952	8	814	Dec 8, 2009 by lolli09
	Giving what I can, and getting so much more (Preview) Hi family, I haven't posted recently. I have been a bit busy and trying to there is so much happening that I don't always know how to slow down the thoughts enough to get them to come out a few at a time let alone one at a time. Today was a weird day for me. I work for a social services agency. We provided case man...	Mandy123	1	511	Dec 8, 2009 by Maria123
	ESH question (Preview) Hello all. I have mentioned before that I am not the "tech-y" kind of person. What does "ESH" stand for? Thanks for the help.	supermom	1	409	Dec 8, 2009 by Mandy123
	The roller coaster came to a crashing halt (Preview) I have lived my life on a roller coaster for 2 years. My xabf was and is the love of my life. He is the most amazing, intelligent, kind, genuine and loving person i have ever met when he is sober. Problem is he is an alcoholic/addict and becomes the exact opposite when he uses. He has done AA too many times...	inhisarms	9	1204	Dec 8, 2009 by Dyinginside
	Confused... dry drunk behavior? Please help (Preview) My husband is an active alcoholic. We have been married 17 years. He has tried a variety of programs, including AA and still drinks (he is not currently in AA). I have been to Al Anon but have not found that it helps me dealing with just interacting with an alcoholic. He wants to stop drinking but "c...	smy922000	12	1670	Dec 8, 2009 by Dyinginside
	New to admitting I am co-dependant...WHAT!!!REALLY!!! (Preview) Well I am new to the message board and to Al-Anon. I have been married to my A not alcoholic but ADDICT!!! He could be an alcoholic but his preference ...the preference that has ruined our life is CRACK. My A was clean and sober for 10 1/2 years 1994-2005. He gained his sobriety by accepting Jesus as hi...	faith432	4	867	Dec 8, 2009 by Jerry F
	I'm Back!!! And boy has life been crazy! (Preview) It has been a really really long time since I have posted here. Life has been rolling along for me. I have been taking my ups and downs pretty well I think. Let's see, to sum things up: My exAH and I have been back to dating since Oct 2008. He lives with his grandma & I live in my house with our kids whom...	QOD	2	579	Dec 8, 2009 by QOD
	Can a drinker stop drinking? (Preview) Hi all, I'm writing this because I have doubts about whether or not my X is actually an alcoholic or just an "alcohol abuser", as in someone who drinks heavily or moderately depending on the situation, but who is able to stop at some point. The reason I ask is because lately, since I have left m...	Nodaybut2day	10	1362	Dec 8, 2009 by Nodaybut2day
	My latest dilemma (Preview) So the ex AH has been staying on the upstairs couch for about 6 weeks now. I have had another issue with oldest daughter who will probably be going to wilderness camp within the next 2 months and because of that position I cannot in good conscience rely on her to take care of her younger brother and siste...	carolinagirl	6	828	Dec 8, 2009 by Tenderheartsks
	I Have A Question (Preview) Guys As i continue to grow and find a new confidence in myself in ways i never believed possible. Life is what i'm finally allowing it to be for me. I'm not overly confident. I'm very easy going, down to earth and i love to laugh and make others laugh too. People call me the likes of "crazygirl or n...	ally	8	668	Dec 8, 2009 by Mattie
	my f2f last night (Preview) I was not going to go to my meeting last night as I sat in my recliner with snuggly pjs on in front of my Christmas tree. I hate to go back out when I get home from work but this has been a very trying week for me with the A son and a lot of other things. I thought to myself...how can I keep tring to urge my son to go to m...	Gailey	4	691	Dec 8, 2009 by Rita G
	How do I talk to my kids about their father's alcoholism? (Preview) Hello to everyone - I have been going to a great weekly Al-Anon meeting for 9 months but am new to this forum. I would love to hear from anyone with ideas about how to talk to my kids about their father's alcoholism. My daughter is 10 and my son just turned 8. I only learned of my husband's chronic drinking...	KellyCO	7	2909	Dec 8, 2009 by Nodaybut2day
	how do you convince your A, they are an A? (Preview) This is a strange question coming from a child of an A. My mother left him because of his drinking but I was to young to remember what he was like then. I am 37 and just in the past few years getting to know my father. I moved closer to him to build a realationship with him. He was forced to stop drinking for h...	mc3	9	1111	Dec 8, 2009 by maresie
	How do u extract the A from the house? (Preview) Hi MIP gang- tonight I did a little personal history lesson and read ovey the posts I started since I joined MIP. WOW! Eye opening. It gives actual dates to the lurid details of life with my addict husband. I actually still loved him back 4 years ago..... So this next detail I could have cut and pasted from...	gknee	3	845	Dec 8, 2009 by kitty
	letting go (Preview) Hi everyone, wow living in reality is tough. My ABF has had a slip after 6 months and is living back in his mums. We are having contact via the phone. He is very upet, angrey, wollowing in self pity. it was his birthday couple of days ago I took a small present and card to his mums. He asked me to call back a...	Tracy	4	797	Dec 8, 2009 by Dyinginside
	Prayers for victim's family. (Preview) ((((Family)))), I am asking for prayers for the family of Richard Antoun. He was an anthropology professor that was stabbed to death yesterday in his office. He was 77 years young. He had more energy at that age than 100 of me combined. A sweet, gentle kind man who life touched many. I found out at...	Karilynn	6	861	Dec 7, 2009 by wp
	Thank you!! (Preview) ((((Family)))) I just wanted to say a great big THANK YOU for all your support, thoughts and prayers. I'm home from the hospital and doing well..... A bit tired but over all much better than I expected Take care Kim/Shadow	shadow1	7	671	Dec 7, 2009 by wp
	courage (Preview) I really need to have strenght to be couragoues to take care of me for the first time in my life rather than everyone else. People have told me in the past that my kindness is my weakness. I do tend to understand another pain and then go into the fix it mode. However I have learnt from Al anon that we are a...	Tracy	2	747	Dec 7, 2009 by inhisarms
	I'm just so confused, I'm scared (Preview) Hi everyone, I'm new to this site. I'll make a long story short. I've been with my BF for 5 yrs. We don't live together. The 5 yrs have been very volatile to say the least. I could not for the life of me understand why our relationship was so up and down. My BF drank, but he was never a fall down drinker or a class...	Dyinginside	9	1082	Dec 7, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	Feeling VERY VERY sad, need help with this (Preview) Dear Friends, I am feeling quite sad lately, crying a lot. Next week is my wedding anniversary, my sixteenth. For all of the first fifteen years we were married, my husband was a horribly hard drinking serious A. I am not talking weekend binges, I am talking daily drunkenness to the point of blackout...	MaryPoppins	9	923	Dec 7, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	new therapist (Preview) I have a new therapist now and our first session went pretty well. I have a full three sessions before Christmas to get started on some topics. I am now having to take a lot of responsibility for permitting the last therapist to cross significant boundaries. I know I can go into people pleasing at the d...	maresie	3	855	Dec 7, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	Relapse is more than using again. (Preview) Saying Relapse is part of being an addict, is true. It does not have to mean the addict is using again, they can also relapse into addictive behavior, which sadly almost always ends up with the addict using again. Relapse is a processs. The addict who has had a strong program for many years, starts to not...	Debilyn	12	1783	Dec 7, 2009 by MrsGratitude
	Tribute To My Brother (Preview) To all my MIP family, I would like to inform you that my brother Ray loss his 6 month battle with cancer this past Thrusday. He fought a brave battle which was no surprise to me. He was given a military funeral and buried Saturday in the town where he and I were raised, Newton, Mississippi. Th...	RLC	8	930	Dec 7, 2009 by tea2
	I'm new.. ish (Preview) Hi there I'm new here. I just don't know what to do. I have reached out to Al-anon before in terms of finding info. Right now, I feel like crap. I think my hubby is an A. Well, I know he has a problem. But he's a functioning one. In any case, I found his drinking to be a big problem. He would drink himself stupid e...	Wife of A	2	781	Dec 7, 2009 by canadianguy
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