Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the meeting Monday a.m. There is a tour of my home by the Real Estate folks and I need to vacant my home for the morning hours. Hopefully, someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks, Shimo aka Jeri

kerry5 · kerry5

Sorry again i need chair again this week. Will be back to chairing sunday next week Thanks kerry (aka kerisha)

Ness · Ness

Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns.....So I was just heading to bed Wed night when I heard the kitchen door open and a hushed discussion ensue between husb & a voice I havent heard for many months, the son I love with all my heart.....I stayed calm............a miracle o...

Cosmos · Cosmos

I have just read a long article online about codependency. I fit the pattern all too well. One thing that characterizes a codependent person is a low feeling of self. This makes me think of the time I spent in therapy last year, when I said to my therapist that I dont see myself as a person. I still find it di...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

my addicted son's 30th birthday. I called to let him know I have his birthday cake ready, the voice on the other end of the line with it's slurred speech, and biting remarks let me know how he plans to celebrate today. I should know better than to get my hopes up, but you still catch yourself wishing. Love...

Voyger52 · Voyger52

My steps son is just out of Jail and the drug dealers and calling him already. I tell him not to get back in the same routine. But I dont think he hears me.

Holly09 · Holly09

My A called and said he didn't think he should drive home, I am thankful for that so many times he did drive when he shouldn't. We had a fight this week (he was sober) and of course it was mostly about what I had to change that made him stressed out etc. but also about how I get no emotional support from him, he...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I JUST WANTED TO UPDATE MY CURRENT SITUATION WITH GETTING MY BR CONSULTATION & EVERYTHING THAT IS GOING THUS FAR! I AM SO NERVOUS & SCARED TO DO IT! IT IS A LONG DRAWN OUT RECOVERY! I WILL HAVE TO REALLY CONSIDER IT MORE BEFORE I DO IT! IT IS 7,600 DOLLARS BUT MY MOM IS TAKING CARE OF IT SO THAT ISN'T A...

Jozie · Jozie

Well I'm still on my Roller Coaster, for sure... But Today is a beautiful Day So trying to find the brighter side of things... Little "Belly Nervous" about this weekend tho... many that know me know that my Neice & Nephew moved FAR From me, and have been gone since last July.... So I have...

TampaGirl · TampaGirl

Hi all, I've been perusing the site and you all seem like a very nice group of people. I hope you don't mind me joining in. My husband comes home tomorrow after 4 weeks in a detox/rehab program. I have read lots about detaching, etc., but am still just so resentful. 6 weeks ago (even before he went into the p...

Ness · Ness

Wednesday was my first f2f in a couple of weeks. I had been pouting and feeling soooo sorry for myself for a good 10 days, nothing was lifting it. The meeting topic was Asking for Help, and in discussion after one of the readings it brought on an unexpected avalanche of tears, followed by a good old vent...

linds · linds

Hi, I am bringing my brother to rehab tomorrow and stumbled across this wesite tonight. I am having so many mixed emotions but mainly I am exhausted and am looking forward to sleeping tomorrow night and not worrying about him. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should say to him???

John · John

Just a general discussion question. What does Miracles In Progress mean to you? How has it helped you start or add to your program of recovery? How often do you use the MIP site? Just reply with your ideas, feelings, thoughts, and give us an idea of how you are benefiting from having MIP as a part of y...

stuckagain · stuckagain

Hello all. I'm new to this site and have been reading some of your emails. Gosh it's sooo good to know that I'm not on my own. I've known my partner for 7 years now, with a break of 2 when I filed for a non-molestation order. I couldn't do the emotional roller coaster of living with an abusive, selfish, ungra...

freeagain · freeagain

I was able to put my arms around a woman today in my f2f who was crying. I held her up. She was sad and scared and confused as her son is bipolar and a drug addict and she has turned him out. I had never met her before today and it was her first meeting. What a gift this program has given me. I was able to give her a sh...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), I'm asking prayers for Christy's Mom. She isn't doing so well these days. Christy will be with her on Tuesday. Let us all send her & her family our love and prayers. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Okay, so I did a great job on a project at work, if I do say so myself - and I do! ;) Today, the manging partner of my firm sent an email to the entire firm recognizing the good job on the work that was done but attributing it to another partner. The managing partner called it "better than gold" an...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I know I'm still a work in process when it comes to the program but my A literally sucks the life out of me! I can never do anything right (ie: didn't pack enough diapers for my daughter)... One minute we can have a decent conversation and in the same sentence he turns on me just like that?!?! He can'...

cuteamy7 · cuteamy7

It's been a month since crap hit the fan after a few weeks of hatefilled phone calls and emails. Mom just sent me an email bringing up how awful I was at 12+ to her, that fights we had and her going to work upset every day. I am 44 now. From the time I was out on my own at 17 we have been buddies off and on, mostly o...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

He's been going to AA twice a week for about two months, all the while still drinking. I knew he wasn't really working the program, but figured at least he was where he needed to be for at least two hours out of his week and that he might pick something up. All this time he's said, "Yeah, AA is great. I...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I just heard on the radio that today is the anniversary of the founding of AA. The DJ called for an alcohol free day in observance, I thought that was pretty cool. I don't know if it is truly the founding day but I will use it as a good excuse to put a bit more gratitude into my day. I am grateful for a program tha...

helpme08 · helpme08

It's been a very long time since I have written on this board, but today I find myself in desperate need and I feel very alone. My diabetic AH has been drinking again and I'm having a very hard time with it. Over a year ago, I took our 7 year old son and left for about a month. Without going into all the sort...

Holly09 · Holly09

I truely believe that we do the best that we can in the situation we are in with the copeing skills that we have. Hopefully we learn and move on. I am doing the best that I can.......if that's not good enough for somone else sorry for them That is how I feel today. Holly

Rose · Rose

All I want to do is cry. I can't seem to get out of this mood. We went on vacation two weeks ago, my AH, my 7 yr old son and myself. Had a great time and we always do when we go away. Its our 'escape' from life. But the minute we got on that plane to come home I started getting into such a funk and am finding it hard to g...

barisax · barisax

I too have been reawakening some childhood memories of late. Going through many old photographs - my dad had a top notch camera and I'm finding pristine black and white negatives that are over 50 years old, that haven't seen daylight in almost as long. Pictures of me, my parents, friends some of whic...

Hopeless · Hopeless

is there different types/steps in following the program for each situation?

RJ1978 · RJ1978

I have not been on here for some time now...May 13th 2007 Mothers Day will be a day i will never forget...we lost our son to a heroin overdose. He fought hard for many years..married had two boys of his own. Life as we knew it will never be the same. He attended AA meetings for years and i believe it is the only...

kerry5 · kerry5

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=129357210417384

mack69 · mack69

From being quite young I can remember my parents arguing about the usual stuff. But also I can remember many times these arguments would come after my father came home late from the pub. When I was 13 my mom took seriously ill and nearly died. I remember very little about this time apart from the fear abou...

JimmyX · JimmyX

Hi guys, Some quick background to my situation . . . . live in UK and have an alcoholic girlfriend of some four (largely miserable) years. Me - 38. She - 41. No kids - thank goodness, bearing in mind who and what the prospective mother is currently. But I would like kids and a quiet life . . . . . We (have to) liv...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

-separated from AH almost 8 weeks ago. During that time he weaned himself off clonazepam (prescription). This was done without doctor supervision, but he survived. He suffered through many side effects inlcuding the angry outburst I described here last week. -He had been on the drug for ten years....

jettiesgirl · jettiesgirl

One of my group of friends recently asked the rest of us to please share any and all experience we have with dealing with a recovering alcoholic. Her husband has just recognized his disease, and is starting his path to recovery. Another of the group, who is a recovering alcoholic, sober for about 30 ye...

smartkat · smartkat

My brother's wife is not only hateful and verbally (and on at least one occasion, physically) abusive with him, she is neglectful with the kids. My mother and I have been stepping in to help with the kids but this only means the mother doesn't have to do what she needs to do. But she won't anyway so, if we...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So, my AH doesn't have a car right know cause he got caught drinking and driving and they took his license plates. So, he started to borrow my car until at some poin it's more like his car. Last night he told me he needed the car and I told him no, but he kept pushing until I said yes, only cause he promised that...

johnm · johnm

For me, my codependency issues progressed until they crossed the line into becoming a crippling anxiety disorder, in my case social anxiety disorder. Once I had developed a full-blown social anxiety problem, I needed additional help. I was fortunate to find a 12 Step program specifically focuse...

smartkat · smartkat

Can we get a discussion going how to detatch and how some people THINK they are detatching when they aren't? Sometimes, I go into apathy-mode when I try to detatch. Others have said they felt like they were slipping into denial when trying to detatch. Any ideas? BTW - the A in my life is my SIL and I never be...

mainemom · mainemom

and am I AWFUL for in some ways...wishing it would? My brother has been binge drinking for almost 6 years now. He had a drug and alcohol problem long before that. The binge drinking has had him in and out of Inpatient rehabs, outpatient programs, sober houses, living in many different places with fam...

Jerry F · Jerry F

Aloha Family....just peeping. I am on of all things a hotel computer....LOL and just checking in to repeat what RLC relayed from our phone conversation. I do miss you all and we are going thru a mother board melt down...HP and Dell and a teck will get it fixed. Stay in unity...(((((hugs)))))

smartkat · smartkat

My mother and I have provided a lot of babysitting for my SIL while she was at work but now she is off for the summer, so we didn't think she needed us to do that much babysitting this supper. But my SIL takes off to do what ever, saying she will get back in time to take care of her daughter before her husband ha...

N8SMOM · N8SMOM

Hi All! It's been a while since I've posted. Things are OK here, just living one day at a time. I got a sponsor a few months ago and have met with her every week since then. We are taking the steps slowly and I'm alreayd working Step 3. My problem is that I feel like I'm in a rut. I have no ambition at all to wor...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I'm scared for a million reasons regarding my A but the thought of him hurting me physically is haunts me..... The mental abuse was of course getting "progressively" worse and I know in my heart in due time it was bound to get physical... The day where I had enough of his binge drinking he...

Jennifer · Jennifer

Oh good grief the floodgates have released and I can't stop them, please excuse my stuffed up typing. For the last couple weeks I have felt different but had no idea why. I look at my posts and I notice changes, more freedom in writing about specifics, my regrets, what I would do different. Whether fo...

Sheila46 · Sheila46

So....my A (binge drinker) boyfriend left yesterday without telling me that he was leaving. I found out by seeing that his toothbrush and pills were gone. I had not heard anything from him. His daughter had contacted me because she was unable to reach him. I had refrained from trying to contact h...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

This morning I learned that a friend of mine in AA relapsed. She had almost 3 years of sobriety. I prayed for her family this morning - she has a 4 year old daughter and a husband also in the program. This was really just a reminder to me of how horrible this disease is and how much I hate it. It occurred to...

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Sometimes it's still pretty hard for me not to take on other people's moods. I have to really remind myself that just because someone else is grumpy and stressed, I don't need to be grumpy and stressed. I'm still working on this, though - today I had lunch with my husband and started to let his bad mood b...

smartkat · smartkat

(My mother is not computer saavy so I am posting this for her & will give her the results) My SIL got mad at my mother in the parking lot of McDonalds, yelling obsenities. Then when my mother quietly drove away, my SIL got into the car and followed her, bumping her car on purpose when my mother stopped a...

maire rua · maire rua

ex- a is annoying the hell out of me, constantly looking for attention, though it was a handy arrangement for a while, I think my time of putting up with him is done, he is starting to encroach on my boundaries so that is not acceptable. I will deal with it when calm though not while reactive, I find that my s...

scooternooch · scooternooch

Hi everyone. I will make this as short as possible. I have been working w/ my best friend of 32 years in an office setting for the last 2 years. She is the manager, I am the asst manager. it is just the 2 of us most of the time. Our supervisior visits occasionally. My friend has a prescription drug problem. I h...

Hopeless · Hopeless

This is stemming from a previous post of mine... People were trying to explain to me that an A does NOT have choice when it comes down to picking up the bottle... I don't understand this and when it was explained to me I found a lot of contradictions! I see this situation differently I feel they have a...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

I've been thinking about leaving my A fiance seriously for the last five weeks. I feel as though I've been on this sinking ship with him, and he's stuck underneath something, and I'm getting to the point where I have to decide whether to stay with him and go down, or jump off and swim to safety and sanit...

tlcate · tlcate

I haven't been around much the last 30 days or so and have missed my family here. Had a big business trip, buying my first house, and daughter just graduated. All very good things that have taken a lot of my focus. Just do the next right thing! I have been lurking, a lot from my phone, so you are here with m...

Linda Papin · Linda Papin

Hello John, to all my precious friends Thank you John for your invitation, the timing was very good. I am doing well since I posted the last time. It does not mean that life is perfect of course, it means that my coping skills have become better. I am still working on them and as long as I live, I am learni...

kablisnow · kablisnow

today i started to work towards my recovery. my husband entered rehab 4 days ago and I have really wanted to focus on getting better myself. so far i love the book and i have already learned so much. thnx to everyone who recommended it.

Tracy · Tracy

Hi Everyone, my A had a little slip about a week ago he bought 8 cans of beer and drank one. Spent all night in the flat alone fighting the urge to drink his AA head will no longer let him try and escape through drink. He was honest with me and his sponsor. I told him I needed a break. I had said after the last...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have been much better since my "crisis again" post I started here a few days ago. I think the reality is catching up with me. Me and my alcoholic ex/girlfriend used to talk on Skype in the past and sometimes chat. Today I opened Skype and looked at some of our old conversations. I was sh...

Sheila46 · Sheila46

I have posted here a couple of times in the past. My A boyfriend is a binge drinker. I travel frequently for work and that is when he tends to drink the majority of the time. The past 6 months I have been dealing with my adult daughter making some bad choices. She has a tendency to get angry and threatens...

Courage · Courage

Opening with the Serenity Prayer AM Mon. - Shimo Tues. - Doxie Wed. - Iona Thurs. - Doxie Fri. - Blendergirl Sat. - Mandy123 Sun. Spiritual - aunitedway PM Mon. - aunitedway Tues. - kerisha Wed. - kerisha Thurs. Step/Trad - courage Fri. - aunitedway Sat. Beginners - courage Sun...

nigel3 · nigel3

**Dear moderators: This thread has been posted with John's permission. If you have any questions, please contact John. Thanks! :)** Hello everyone, and thank you for reading this post. Many thanks also to those of you who have responded with messages of support and/or donated to my cause! My name is...

kerry5 · kerry5

Would appriciate someone chairing Sunday i wont be able to make it Thanks Kerry

Holly09 · Holly09

My a boyfriend and I got into a huge fight that started over my 15yr old son being diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder and the fact that my boyfriend (not my son's real dad) doesn't believe it exists so I feel he gives me no support that is how are fight started, it ended up with him once again tel...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	MONDAY A.M. MEETING (Preview) I am unable to chair the meeting Monday a.m. There is a tour of my home by the Real Estate folks and I need to vacant my home for the morning hours. Hopefully, someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks, Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	0	324	Jun 13, 2010 by shimo
	Need Chair for Tonight June 13th 2010 (Preview) Sorry again i need chair again this week. Will be back to chairing sunday next week Thanks kerry (aka kerisha)	kerry5	0	429	Jun 13, 2010 by kerry5
	Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns..... (Preview) Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns.....So I was just heading to bed Wed night when I heard the kitchen door open and a hushed discussion ensue between husb & a voice I havent heard for many months, the son I love with all my heart.....I stayed calm............a miracle o...	Ness	3	954	Jun 13, 2010 by Ness
	Origin of codependency (Preview) I have just read a long article online about codependency. I fit the pattern all too well. One thing that characterizes a codependent person is a low feeling of self. This makes me think of the time I spent in therapy last year, when I said to my therapist that I dont see myself as a person. I still find it di...	Cosmos	2	1192	Jun 13, 2010 by DreamXL
	Today Is... (Preview) my addicted son's 30th birthday. I called to let him know I have his birthday cake ready, the voice on the other end of the line with it's slurred speech, and biting remarks let me know how he plans to celebrate today. I should know better than to get my hopes up, but you still catch yourself wishing. Love...	DreamsOver	4	666	Jun 13, 2010 by adonaisgirl
	New Here:Step son Just out of Jail and Home. (Preview) My steps son is just out of Jail and the drug dealers and calling him already. I tell him not to get back in the same routine. But I dont think he hears me.	Voyger52	2	951	Jun 13, 2010 by Bettina
	Alone (Preview) My A called and said he didn't think he should drive home, I am thankful for that so many times he did drive when he shouldn't. We had a fight this week (he was sober) and of course it was mostly about what I had to change that made him stressed out etc. but also about how I get no emotional support from him, he...	Holly09	1	632	Jun 13, 2010 by Bettina
	JUST A QUICK ONE! (Preview) I JUST WANTED TO UPDATE MY CURRENT SITUATION WITH GETTING MY BR CONSULTATION & EVERYTHING THAT IS GOING THUS FAR! I AM SO NERVOUS & SCARED TO DO IT! IT IS A LONG DRAWN OUT RECOVERY! I WILL HAVE TO REALLY CONSIDER IT MORE BEFORE I DO IT! IT IS 7,600 DOLLARS BUT MY MOM IS TAKING CARE OF IT SO THAT ISN'T A...	Hoot Nanny	1	523	Jun 12, 2010 by Jennifer
	Just for this Moment.... (Preview) Well I'm still on my Roller Coaster, for sure... But Today is a beautiful Day So trying to find the brighter side of things... Little "Belly Nervous" about this weekend tho... many that know me know that my Neice & Nephew moved FAR From me, and have been gone since last July.... So I have...	Jozie	4	921	Jun 12, 2010 by Jozie
	New Here. Husband will be home tomorrow from in-patient program. Sigh. (Preview) Hi all, I've been perusing the site and you all seem like a very nice group of people. I hope you don't mind me joining in. My husband comes home tomorrow after 4 weeks in a detox/rehab program. I have read lots about detaching, etc., but am still just so resentful. 6 weeks ago (even before he went into the p...	TampaGirl	12	1778	Jun 11, 2010 by TampaGirl
	Why I need my meetings.....and other stories (Preview) Wednesday was my first f2f in a couple of weeks. I had been pouting and feeling soooo sorry for myself for a good 10 days, nothing was lifting it. The meeting topic was Asking for Help, and in discussion after one of the readings it brought on an unexpected avalanche of tears, followed by a good old vent...	Ness	5	920	Jun 11, 2010 by hotrod
	New to the board....bringing my brother to rehab tomorrow (Preview) Hi, I am bringing my brother to rehab tomorrow and stumbled across this wesite tonight. I am having so many mixed emotions but mainly I am exhausted and am looking forward to sleeping tomorrow night and not worrying about him. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should say to him???	linds	4	819	Jun 11, 2010 by maresie
	What does MIP mean to you? (Preview) Just a general discussion question. What does Miracles In Progress mean to you? How has it helped you start or add to your program of recovery? How often do you use the MIP site? Just reply with your ideas, feelings, thoughts, and give us an idea of how you are benefiting from having MIP as a part of y...	John	19	1275	Jun 11, 2010 by Ness
	i'm here once again (Preview) Hello all. I'm new to this site and have been reading some of your emails. Gosh it's sooo good to know that I'm not on my own. I've known my partner for 7 years now, with a break of 2 when I filed for a non-molestation order. I couldn't do the emotional roller coaster of living with an abusive, selfish, ungra...	stuckagain	4	753	Jun 11, 2010 by stuckagain
	hope (Preview) I was able to put my arms around a woman today in my f2f who was crying. I held her up. She was sad and scared and confused as her son is bipolar and a drug addict and she has turned him out. I had never met her before today and it was her first meeting. What a gift this program has given me. I was able to give her a sh...	freeagain	4	711	Jun 11, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Prayers for Christy's Mom (Preview) ((((Family)))), I'm asking prayers for Christy's Mom. She isn't doing so well these days. Christy will be with her on Tuesday. Let us all send her & her family our love and prayers. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers	Karilynn	10	906	Jun 11, 2010 by Ness
	Oh MAN. (Preview) Okay, so I did a great job on a project at work, if I do say so myself - and I do! ;) Today, the manging partner of my firm sent an email to the entire firm recognizing the good job on the work that was done but attributing it to another partner. The managing partner called it "better than gold" an...	White Rabbit	11	802	Jun 10, 2010 by buick23
	I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired! (Preview) I know I'm still a work in process when it comes to the program but my A literally sucks the life out of me! I can never do anything right (ie: didn't pack enough diapers for my daughter)... One minute we can have a decent conversation and in the same sentence he turns on me just like that?!?! He can'...	Hopeless	7	879	Jun 10, 2010 by buick23
	Responded to Mom (Preview) It's been a month since crap hit the fan after a few weeks of hatefilled phone calls and emails. Mom just sent me an email bringing up how awful I was at 12+ to her, that fights we had and her going to work upset every day. I am 44 now. From the time I was out on my own at 17 we have been buddies off and on, mostly o...	cuteamy7	7	820	Jun 10, 2010 by cuteamy7
	A says he can get sober without AA and I think it's ridiculous (Preview) He's been going to AA twice a week for about two months, all the while still drinking. I knew he wasn't really working the program, but figured at least he was where he needed to be for at least two hours out of his week and that he might pick something up. All this time he's said, "Yeah, AA is great. I...	zhotdogs99	13	1307	Jun 10, 2010 by All I can be
	Anniversary? (Preview) I just heard on the radio that today is the anniversary of the founding of AA. The DJ called for an alcohol free day in observance, I thought that was pretty cool. I don't know if it is truly the founding day but I will use it as a good excuse to put a bit more gratitude into my day. I am grateful for a program tha...	Jennifer	8	761	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	I can really use some encouragement (Preview) It's been a very long time since I have written on this board, but today I find myself in desperate need and I feel very alone. My diabetic AH has been drinking again and I'm having a very hard time with it. Over a year ago, I took our 7 year old son and left for about a month. Without going into all the sort...	helpme08	6	962	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	The best that we can (Preview) I truely believe that we do the best that we can in the situation we are in with the copeing skills that we have. Hopefully we learn and move on. I am doing the best that I can.......if that's not good enough for somone else sorry for them That is how I feel today. Holly	Holly09	6	674	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	Just having a bad day (Preview) All I want to do is cry. I can't seem to get out of this mood. We went on vacation two weeks ago, my AH, my 7 yr old son and myself. Had a great time and we always do when we go away. Its our 'escape' from life. But the minute we got on that plane to come home I started getting into such a funk and am finding it hard to g...	Rose	8	723	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	We Will Not Regret The Past (Preview) I too have been reawakening some childhood memories of late. Going through many old photographs - my dad had a top notch camera and I'm finding pristine black and white negatives that are over 50 years old, that haven't seen daylight in almost as long. Pictures of me, my parents, friends some of whic...	barisax	1	784	Jun 10, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Al Anon in living with the A vs. Not Living... (Preview) is there different types/steps in following the program for each situation?	Hopeless	7	761	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	The end... (Preview) I have not been on here for some time now...May 13th 2007 Mothers Day will be a day i will never forget...we lost our son to a heroin overdose. He fought hard for many years..married had two boys of his own. Life as we knew it will never be the same. He attended AA meetings for years and i believe it is the only...	RJ1978	11	967	Jun 10, 2010 by Priscilla83
	For the LOVE of NIGEL3 :) (Preview) http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=129357210417384	kerry5	3	594	Jun 10, 2010 by kerry5
	somebody say something to give me some hope..please (Preview) From being quite young I can remember my parents arguing about the usual stuff. But also I can remember many times these arguments would come after my father came home late from the pub. When I was 13 my mom took seriously ill and nearly died. I remember very little about this time apart from the fear abou...	mack69	5	753	Jun 10, 2010 by Peggy7
	Dry Drunk . . . . Your Experiences please (Preview) Hi guys, Some quick background to my situation . . . . live in UK and have an alcoholic girlfriend of some four (largely miserable) years. Me - 38. She - 41. No kids - thank goodness, bearing in mind who and what the prospective mother is currently. But I would like kids and a quiet life . . . . . We (have to) liv...	JimmyX	9	1425	Jun 9, 2010 by nmike
	Questions for those with experience...(long) (Preview) -separated from AH almost 8 weeks ago. During that time he weaned himself off clonazepam (prescription). This was done without doctor supervision, but he survived. He suffered through many side effects inlcuding the angry outburst I described here last week. -He had been on the drug for ten years....	looking_for_peace	7	1120	Jun 9, 2010 by maresie
	This is Brilliant! (closed) (Preview) One of my group of friends recently asked the rest of us to please share any and all experience we have with dealing with a recovering alcoholic. Her husband has just recognized his disease, and is starting his path to recovery. Another of the group, who is a recovering alcoholic, sober for about 30 ye...	jettiesgirl	5	708	Jun 9, 2010 by maresie
	How to respond to someone who chooses to stay in a very bad relationship? (Preview) My brother's wife is not only hateful and verbally (and on at least one occasion, physically) abusive with him, she is neglectful with the kids. My mother and I have been stepping in to help with the kids but this only means the mother doesn't have to do what she needs to do. But she won't anyway so, if we...	smartkat	11	859	Jun 9, 2010 by sirpher
	Shame on me (Preview) So, my AH doesn't have a car right know cause he got caught drinking and driving and they took his license plates. So, he started to borrow my car until at some poin it's more like his car. Last night he told me he needed the car and I told him no, but he kept pushing until I said yes, only cause he promised that...	Priscilla83	8	895	Jun 9, 2010 by Priscilla83
	Codependency and Social Anxiety Disorder codependency social anxiety disorder 12 step program (Preview) For me, my codependency issues progressed until they crossed the line into becoming a crippling anxiety disorder, in my case social anxiety disorder. Once I had developed a full-blown social anxiety problem, I needed additional help. I was fortunate to find a 12 Step program specifically focuse...	johnm	2	8802	Jun 9, 2010 by tlcate
	Detatchment vs not caring - and other confusions (Preview) Can we get a discussion going how to detatch and how some people THINK they are detatching when they aren't? Sometimes, I go into apathy-mode when I try to detatch. Others have said they felt like they were slipping into denial when trying to detatch. Any ideas? BTW - the A in my life is my SIL and I never be...	smartkat	17	1460	Jun 8, 2010 by GailMichelle
	When will it end? (Preview) and am I AWFUL for in some ways...wishing it would? My brother has been binge drinking for almost 6 years now. He had a drug and alcohol problem long before that. The binge drinking has had him in and out of Inpatient rehabs, outpatient programs, sober houses, living in many different places with fam...	mainemom	4	1183	Jun 8, 2010 by Bettina
	Peeping.... (Preview) Aloha Family....just peeping. I am on of all things a hotel computer....LOL and just checking in to repeat what RLC relayed from our phone conversation. I do miss you all and we are going thru a mother board melt down...HP and Dell and a teck will get it fixed. Stay in unity...(((((hugs)))))	Jerry F	4	893	Jun 8, 2010 by Priscilla83
	What to do about a mother who won't take care of her own child? mother child children neglect (Preview) My mother and I have provided a lot of babysitting for my SIL while she was at work but now she is off for the summer, so we didn't think she needed us to do that much babysitting this supper. But my SIL takes off to do what ever, saying she will get back in time to take care of her daughter before her husband ha...	smartkat	2	8495	Jun 8, 2010 by Mobirdie
	In a Rut (Preview) Hi All! It's been a while since I've posted. Things are OK here, just living one day at a time. I got a sponsor a few months ago and have met with her every week since then. We are taking the steps slowly and I'm alreayd working Step 3. My problem is that I feel like I'm in a rut. I have no ambition at all to wor...	N8SMOM	5	572	Jun 8, 2010 by Karilynn
	Scared... (Preview) I'm scared for a million reasons regarding my A but the thought of him hurting me physically is haunts me..... The mental abuse was of course getting "progressively" worse and I know in my heart in due time it was bound to get physical... The day where I had enough of his binge drinking he...	Hopeless	21	940	Jun 8, 2010 by Hopeless
	Egads, what step is this? (Preview) Oh good grief the floodgates have released and I can't stop them, please excuse my stuffed up typing. For the last couple weeks I have felt different but had no idea why. I look at my posts and I notice changes, more freedom in writing about specifics, my regrets, what I would do different. Whether fo...	Jennifer	1	504	Jun 8, 2010 by Karilynn
	Be Careful What You Wish for... (Preview) So....my A (binge drinker) boyfriend left yesterday without telling me that he was leaving. I found out by seeing that his toothbrush and pills were gone. I had not heard anything from him. His daughter had contacted me because she was unable to reach him. I had refrained from trying to contact h...	Sheila46	9	691	Jun 7, 2010 by Bettina
	On my mind today (Preview) This morning I learned that a friend of mine in AA relapsed. She had almost 3 years of sobriety. I prayed for her family this morning - she has a 4 year old daughter and a husband also in the program. This was really just a reminder to me of how horrible this disease is and how much I hate it. It occurred to...	White Rabbit	4	799	Jun 7, 2010 by Bettina
	Takin' on other people's moods (Preview) Sometimes it's still pretty hard for me not to take on other people's moods. I have to really remind myself that just because someone else is grumpy and stressed, I don't need to be grumpy and stressed. I'm still working on this, though - today I had lunch with my husband and started to let his bad mood b...	White Rabbit	2	795	Jun 7, 2010 by hotrod
	When to press charges? charges verbal abuse (Preview) (My mother is not computer saavy so I am posting this for her & will give her the results) My SIL got mad at my mother in the parking lot of McDonalds, yelling obsenities. Then when my mother quietly drove away, my SIL got into the car and followed her, bumping her car on purpose when my mother stopped a...	smartkat	5	3061	Jun 7, 2010 by Jennifer
	sick and tired of ex-a (Preview) ex- a is annoying the hell out of me, constantly looking for attention, though it was a handy arrangement for a while, I think my time of putting up with him is done, he is starting to encroach on my boundaries so that is not acceptable. I will deal with it when calm though not while reactive, I find that my s...	maire rua	2	625	Jun 7, 2010 by maresie
	new here, need advise (Preview) Hi everyone. I will make this as short as possible. I have been working w/ my best friend of 32 years in an office setting for the last 2 years. She is the manager, I am the asst manager. it is just the 2 of us most of the time. Our supervisior visits occasionally. My friend has a prescription drug problem. I h...	scooternooch	6	964	Jun 7, 2010 by c1grace
	The Power Of Choice.. (Preview) This is stemming from a previous post of mine... People were trying to explain to me that an A does NOT have choice when it comes down to picking up the bottle... I don't understand this and when it was explained to me I found a lot of contradictions! I see this situation differently I feel they have a...	Hopeless	9	733	Jun 7, 2010 by Hopeless
	Planning to leave but need help figuring some things out (Preview) I've been thinking about leaving my A fiance seriously for the last five weeks. I feel as though I've been on this sinking ship with him, and he's stuck underneath something, and I'm getting to the point where I have to decide whether to stay with him and go down, or jump off and swim to safety and sanit...	zhotdogs99	6	920	Jun 7, 2010 by DT1221
	Proud Momma (Preview) I haven't been around much the last 30 days or so and have missed my family here. Had a big business trip, buying my first house, and daughter just graduated. All very good things that have taken a lot of my focus. Just do the next right thing! I have been lurking, a lot from my phone, so you are here with m...	tlcate	6	786	Jun 7, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	I am grateful, more than ever!! (Preview) Hello John, to all my precious friends Thank you John for your invitation, the timing was very good. I am doing well since I posted the last time. It does not mean that life is perfect of course, it means that my coping skills have become better. I am still working on them and as long as I live, I am learni...	Linda Papin	0	416	Jun 7, 2010 by Linda Papin
	Bought the book " getting them sober " today (Preview) today i started to work towards my recovery. my husband entered rehab 4 days ago and I have really wanted to focus on getting better myself. so far i love the book and i have already learned so much. thnx to everyone who recommended it.	kablisnow	3	698	Jun 7, 2010 by afglin
	It's Me (Preview) Hi Everyone, my A had a little slip about a week ago he bought 8 cans of beer and drank one. Spent all night in the flat alone fighting the urge to drink his AA head will no longer let him try and escape through drink. He was honest with me and his sponsor. I told him I needed a break. I had said after the last...	Tracy	2	609	Jun 7, 2010 by afglin
	New evidence from the past (Preview) Hi I have been much better since my "crisis again" post I started here a few days ago. I think the reality is catching up with me. Me and my alcoholic ex/girlfriend used to talk on Skype in the past and sometimes chat. Today I opened Skype and looked at some of our old conversations. I was sh...	Cosmos	6	861	Jun 6, 2010 by sdisnie
	Here we go again..... (Preview) I have posted here a couple of times in the past. My A boyfriend is a binge drinker. I travel frequently for work and that is when he tends to drink the majority of the time. The past 6 months I have been dealing with my adult daughter making some bad choices. She has a tendency to get angry and threatens...	Sheila46	8	878	Jun 6, 2010 by JimmyX
	June Chat Room Business Meeting Agenda (Preview) Opening with the Serenity Prayer AM Mon. - Shimo Tues. - Doxie Wed. - Iona Thurs. - Doxie Fri. - Blendergirl Sat. - Mandy123 Sun. Spiritual - aunitedway PM Mon. - aunitedway Tues. - kerisha Wed. - kerisha Thurs. Step/Trad - courage Fri. - aunitedway Sat. Beginners - courage Sun...	Courage	0	440	Jun 6, 2010 by Courage
	Kindness of stranger update (Preview) Dear moderators: This thread has been posted with John's permission. If you have any questions, please contact John. Thanks! :) Hello everyone, and thank you for reading this post. Many thanks also to those of you who have responded with messages of support and/or donated to my cause! My name is...	nigel3	3	773	Jun 5, 2010 by nigel3
	Need Chair for Sunday &7pm meeting June 6th 2010 (Preview) Would appriciate someone chairing Sunday i wont be able to make it Thanks Kerry	kerry5	0	252	Jun 5, 2010 by kerry5
	what a horrible day today has been (Preview) My a boyfriend and I got into a huge fight that started over my 15yr old son being diagnosed with Oppositional Defiance Disorder and the fact that my boyfriend (not my son's real dad) doesn't believe it exists so I feel he gives me no support that is how are fight started, it ended up with him once again tel...	Holly09	6	743	Jun 5, 2010 by Holly09
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