Al-Anon Family Group - Al-Anon Family Group

Clear4 · Clear4

I have been in Alan-on inconsistently since early 80's. Sometimes comfortable and sometimes not. What's the deal with the Lord's prayer as "Alan-on is not allied with any sect, DENOMINATION, political affiliation institution or organization". It was recently brought up in mee...

never going back · never going back

Another sleepless night. I confronted my AH laast evening with the fact that I know he's drinking again, after a year and a half of sobriety. His response? Of COURSE he's drinking again, after all he's been through, who wouldn't? He feels that if I really want to help him, I will support him (not his drin...

never going back · never going back

Can anyone recommend some books that you found particularly helpful on the subject of dealing with an alcoholic spouse? I am going to be in St. Louis tomorrow and would like to pick up some books to try to help me sort things out. I know I've heard the title "Getting Them Sober" mentioned seve...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

I feel like I have nothing left to give. Maybe that's been part of my sickness - giving too much of myself - but after this past year of focusing on myself and working on ME with my Alanon group, I just feel like I'm ready to go. I'm ready to let my AF live his own life and be free to make his own decisions. I'm...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO POSTS WHEN THEY ARE ABLE! I HAVE GOTTEN SO MANY GOOD RESPONSES FROM SO MANY PEOPLE. LYNDEBI: THANKS FOR MENTIONING THE JOURNALING IDEA! I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DO THAT EVERY DAY BUT ONLY GET THE CHANCE ONCE IN A WHILE. SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT I AM TOO DEEP! I GET SO CAUGHT UP IN MY HEAD! TO...

Shawn412 · Shawn412

Very frustrated here in Steeler Town and for once, it's not because of Big Ben. My wife (who just finished her 2nd month-long rehab a few weeks ago) and I had our 11th anniversary yesterday. Our plan was for her to take antabuse once a week per prescription with me to administer it every Sunday. Sh...

Cosmos · Cosmos

Hi I have been feeling better and better since I came into Al-Anon. It's been ups and downs, but the trend is that it's getting better. I have even managed to be happy about little things in Life. I miss my alcoholic ex-girlfriend still. I have no contact with her and have been able to stop looking into her...

never going back · never going back

I am new here, but after reading through others experiences, it seems that maybe this is where I need to be. My husband has been an alcoholic for 40 years. Things got so far out of control 3 years ago that he finally began trying to get help. When I finally went through with my threats to leave him, he joined...

annmarie · annmarie

It's a long while since I've been here. I have been by myself for a long time now, since breaking up with my abf. I am now very scared of new relationships and don't know where to start. I don't have much experience of healthy relationships and am feeling overpowered. I've been working on my self esteem a...

Tattyhead · Tattyhead

Just how much more can one person take? I have posted before about AH - now in end stages of alcoholism with liver and kidneys affected. He spends all time in bed - doesn't eat - just drinks and smokes. I have to marvel about how much the body can physically take. He still manages to drag himself over to loca...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I know i've been questioning Al anon lately with all of my craziness BUT... This is the first time in over 3 years I'm not nervous going home on a Friday night... LOVE IT!!!!

Bettina · Bettina

Hi everyone, Today I got a phone call from my XAH, he can hardly speak and he is in pain, so I called the paramedics, they had to break down the door because he was too weak to unlock it. They took him to the ER and he is in ICU in critical condition, his blood count was dangerously low, and he has internal bleed...

Hopeless · Hopeless

When someone describes their A (whether it be a drunk or dry drunk) how much a like they all are.... When I read the majority of these post I see my A in almost every one of them, it amazes me = /

maresie · maresie

when I was subsumed in the martyr role, doing far beyond any boundary for the ex A or for my roommates (I cleaned up for a long time), I had no idea how I came across to others. I felt noble, giving and responsible. Now years into recovery I can see that I alienated many many people when I gave what I didn't h...

zen78 · zen78

It's been a while since I posted here last time. I'm so lost. I started going to the meetings, but it's so hard for me to keep my peace everytime I talk to my alcoholic/addict husband. I think that he's having a rough time right now. He's now going back to the dark days after being sober and clean for a year...

glad · glad

my A (live in for 7 years, due to my not wanting to get married until I feel I can accept alcoholism for the rest of my life or he gets sober) boyfriend has so many many issues that I don't know where the emotional abuse from is childhood blends with the Alcoholism from his childhood and his current alcoho...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

Your words and experiences has given my strength, I know it is time to let him own his bad choices. God Bless you all.

Love Always Hopes · Love Always Hopes

It's been awhile since I've been online as much is going on...I finally got the courage to leave my ABF about a month ago. I am going through counseling and he is supposedly attending church, AA & is meeting regularly with his sponsor. There have been some WONDERFUL conversations. Conversati...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Let's keep our David in our thoughts and prayers this morning as he has surgery. I'm sure all will be well and our Elvis will be back with us real soon. I'll post as soon as I know anything. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty

canadianguy · canadianguy

Just go sent an interesting article of something we can look out for on tv in the coming months... Tom MILLION-SELLING "GETTING THEM SOBER" BOOK FEATURED IN FILM by NATIONAL INSTITUTES OF MENTAL HEALTH Baltimore---- June 11, 2010 SAMHSA (national offices of U.S. substance abuse...

Jennifer · Jennifer

The prgram works. To paraphrase the daily reading from Words to live by A Day At A Time; when the philsopher Jung was asked if he believed in God he replied "I do not believe I know" This is how I feel about AlAnon and everyone's HP, I don't have to believe I know because I see it every day. In peop...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

My addicted son was arrested last night for resiting arrest after a fight he had with his drug friends. He is now in jail and calling me to come get him out, the bail bondsmen just called and wanted to know when I could come and pay him the bail to have my son released. I don't want to pay this or get involved w...

Karilynn · Karilynn

(((Family))), Installment #2 of why cats are like addicts. For those of you who have read my post Cats are like addicts and dogs are like codependents, here's another example. True to cat/addict form: Pipers is outside focusing on one thing: Dinner, not from a can but one she can hunt. We have a gorge...

wunderbar · wunderbar

Hi all. It's been a while since I first posted, but I had a feeling I would end up coming back. Haven't (yet) made it to a face-to-face meeting, but seriously thinking about it soon. Anyway, my h is at the bar. I have no idea when he'll be home. It's almost 2am now and he has work in the morning. I'm trying hard...

shimo · shimo

I am unable to chair the meeting Monday a.m. There is a tour of my home by the Real Estate folks and I need to vacant my home for the morning hours. Hopefully, someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks, Shimo aka Jeri

kerry5 · kerry5

Sorry again i need chair again this week. Will be back to chairing sunday next week Thanks kerry (aka kerisha)

Ness · Ness

Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns.....So I was just heading to bed Wed night when I heard the kitchen door open and a hushed discussion ensue between husb & a voice I havent heard for many months, the son I love with all my heart.....I stayed calm............a miracle o...

Cosmos · Cosmos

I have just read a long article online about codependency. I fit the pattern all too well. One thing that characterizes a codependent person is a low feeling of self. This makes me think of the time I spent in therapy last year, when I said to my therapist that I dont see myself as a person. I still find it di...

DreamsOver · DreamsOver

my addicted son's 30th birthday. I called to let him know I have his birthday cake ready, the voice on the other end of the line with it's slurred speech, and biting remarks let me know how he plans to celebrate today. I should know better than to get my hopes up, but you still catch yourself wishing. Love...

Voyger52 · Voyger52

My steps son is just out of Jail and the drug dealers and calling him already. I tell him not to get back in the same routine. But I dont think he hears me.

Holly09 · Holly09

My A called and said he didn't think he should drive home, I am thankful for that so many times he did drive when he shouldn't. We had a fight this week (he was sober) and of course it was mostly about what I had to change that made him stressed out etc. but also about how I get no emotional support from him, he...

Hoot Nanny · Hoot Nanny

I JUST WANTED TO UPDATE MY CURRENT SITUATION WITH GETTING MY BR CONSULTATION & EVERYTHING THAT IS GOING THUS FAR! I AM SO NERVOUS & SCARED TO DO IT! IT IS A LONG DRAWN OUT RECOVERY! I WILL HAVE TO REALLY CONSIDER IT MORE BEFORE I DO IT! IT IS 7,600 DOLLARS BUT MY MOM IS TAKING CARE OF IT SO THAT ISN'T A...

Jozie · Jozie

Well I'm still on my Roller Coaster, for sure... But Today is a beautiful Day So trying to find the brighter side of things... Little "Belly Nervous" about this weekend tho... many that know me know that my Neice & Nephew moved FAR From me, and have been gone since last July.... So I have...

TampaGirl · TampaGirl

Hi all, I've been perusing the site and you all seem like a very nice group of people. I hope you don't mind me joining in. My husband comes home tomorrow after 4 weeks in a detox/rehab program. I have read lots about detaching, etc., but am still just so resentful. 6 weeks ago (even before he went into the p...

Ness · Ness

Wednesday was my first f2f in a couple of weeks. I had been pouting and feeling soooo sorry for myself for a good 10 days, nothing was lifting it. The meeting topic was Asking for Help, and in discussion after one of the readings it brought on an unexpected avalanche of tears, followed by a good old vent...

linds · linds

Hi, I am bringing my brother to rehab tomorrow and stumbled across this wesite tonight. I am having so many mixed emotions but mainly I am exhausted and am looking forward to sleeping tomorrow night and not worrying about him. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should say to him???

John · John

Just a general discussion question. What does Miracles In Progress mean to you? How has it helped you start or add to your program of recovery? How often do you use the MIP site? Just reply with your ideas, feelings, thoughts, and give us an idea of how you are benefiting from having MIP as a part of y...

stuckagain · stuckagain

Hello all. I'm new to this site and have been reading some of your emails. Gosh it's sooo good to know that I'm not on my own. I've known my partner for 7 years now, with a break of 2 when I filed for a non-molestation order. I couldn't do the emotional roller coaster of living with an abusive, selfish, ungra...

freeagain · freeagain

I was able to put my arms around a woman today in my f2f who was crying. I held her up. She was sad and scared and confused as her son is bipolar and a drug addict and she has turned him out. I had never met her before today and it was her first meeting. What a gift this program has given me. I was able to give her a sh...

Karilynn · Karilynn

((((Family)))), I'm asking prayers for Christy's Mom. She isn't doing so well these days. Christy will be with her on Tuesday. Let us all send her & her family our love and prayers. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers

White Rabbit · White Rabbit

Okay, so I did a great job on a project at work, if I do say so myself - and I do! ;) Today, the manging partner of my firm sent an email to the entire firm recognizing the good job on the work that was done but attributing it to another partner. The managing partner called it "better than gold" an...

Hopeless · Hopeless

I know I'm still a work in process when it comes to the program but my A literally sucks the life out of me! I can never do anything right (ie: didn't pack enough diapers for my daughter)... One minute we can have a decent conversation and in the same sentence he turns on me just like that?!?! He can'...

cuteamy7 · cuteamy7

It's been a month since crap hit the fan after a few weeks of hatefilled phone calls and emails. Mom just sent me an email bringing up how awful I was at 12+ to her, that fights we had and her going to work upset every day. I am 44 now. From the time I was out on my own at 17 we have been buddies off and on, mostly o...

zhotdogs99 · zhotdogs99

He's been going to AA twice a week for about two months, all the while still drinking. I knew he wasn't really working the program, but figured at least he was where he needed to be for at least two hours out of his week and that he might pick something up. All this time he's said, "Yeah, AA is great. I...

Jennifer · Jennifer

I just heard on the radio that today is the anniversary of the founding of AA. The DJ called for an alcohol free day in observance, I thought that was pretty cool. I don't know if it is truly the founding day but I will use it as a good excuse to put a bit more gratitude into my day. I am grateful for a program tha...

helpme08 · helpme08

It's been a very long time since I have written on this board, but today I find myself in desperate need and I feel very alone. My diabetic AH has been drinking again and I'm having a very hard time with it. Over a year ago, I took our 7 year old son and left for about a month. Without going into all the sort...

Holly09 · Holly09

I truely believe that we do the best that we can in the situation we are in with the copeing skills that we have. Hopefully we learn and move on. I am doing the best that I can.......if that's not good enough for somone else sorry for them That is how I feel today. Holly

Rose · Rose

All I want to do is cry. I can't seem to get out of this mood. We went on vacation two weeks ago, my AH, my 7 yr old son and myself. Had a great time and we always do when we go away. Its our 'escape' from life. But the minute we got on that plane to come home I started getting into such a funk and am finding it hard to g...

barisax · barisax

I too have been reawakening some childhood memories of late. Going through many old photographs - my dad had a top notch camera and I'm finding pristine black and white negatives that are over 50 years old, that haven't seen daylight in almost as long. Pictures of me, my parents, friends some of whic...

Hopeless · Hopeless

is there different types/steps in following the program for each situation?

RJ1978 · RJ1978

I have not been on here for some time now...May 13th 2007 Mothers Day will be a day i will never forget...we lost our son to a heroin overdose. He fought hard for many years..married had two boys of his own. Life as we knew it will never be the same. He attended AA meetings for years and i believe it is the only...

kerry5 · kerry5

http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=129357210417384

mack69 · mack69

From being quite young I can remember my parents arguing about the usual stuff. But also I can remember many times these arguments would come after my father came home late from the pub. When I was 13 my mom took seriously ill and nearly died. I remember very little about this time apart from the fear abou...

JimmyX · JimmyX

Hi guys, Some quick background to my situation . . . . live in UK and have an alcoholic girlfriend of some four (largely miserable) years. Me - 38. She - 41. No kids - thank goodness, bearing in mind who and what the prospective mother is currently. But I would like kids and a quiet life . . . . . We (have to) liv...

looking_for_peace · looking_for_peace

-separated from AH almost 8 weeks ago. During that time he weaned himself off clonazepam (prescription). This was done without doctor supervision, but he survived. He suffered through many side effects inlcuding the angry outburst I described here last week. -He had been on the drug for ten years....

jettiesgirl · jettiesgirl

One of my group of friends recently asked the rest of us to please share any and all experience we have with dealing with a recovering alcoholic. Her husband has just recognized his disease, and is starting his path to recovery. Another of the group, who is a recovering alcoholic, sober for about 30 ye...

smartkat · smartkat

My brother's wife is not only hateful and verbally (and on at least one occasion, physically) abusive with him, she is neglectful with the kids. My mother and I have been stepping in to help with the kids but this only means the mother doesn't have to do what she needs to do. But she won't anyway so, if we...

Priscilla83 · Priscilla83

So, my AH doesn't have a car right know cause he got caught drinking and driving and they took his license plates. So, he started to borrow my car until at some poin it's more like his car. Last night he told me he needed the car and I told him no, but he kept pushing until I said yes, only cause he promised that...

johnm · johnm

For me, my codependency issues progressed until they crossed the line into becoming a crippling anxiety disorder, in my case social anxiety disorder. Once I had developed a full-blown social anxiety problem, I needed additional help. I was fortunate to find a 12 Step program specifically focuse...

smartkat · smartkat

Can we get a discussion going how to detatch and how some people THINK they are detatching when they aren't? Sometimes, I go into apathy-mode when I try to detatch. Others have said they felt like they were slipping into denial when trying to detatch. Any ideas? BTW - the A in my life is my SIL and I never be...

Topic		Started By	Replies	Views	Last Post
	Lord's Prayer (Preview) I have been in Alan-on inconsistently since early 80's. Sometimes comfortable and sometimes not. What's the deal with the Lord's prayer as "Alan-on is not allied with any sect, DENOMINATION, political affiliation institution or organization". It was recently brought up in mee...	Clear4	8	2958	Jun 16, 2010 by Clear4
	Why am I the one who can't sleep? (Preview) Another sleepless night. I confronted my AH laast evening with the fact that I know he's drinking again, after a year and a half of sobriety. His response? Of COURSE he's drinking again, after all he's been through, who wouldn't? He feels that if I really want to help him, I will support him (not his drin...	never going back	9	991	Jun 16, 2010 by ythannah
	book suggestions? (Preview) Can anyone recommend some books that you found particularly helpful on the subject of dealing with an alcoholic spouse? I am going to be in St. Louis tomorrow and would like to pick up some books to try to help me sort things out. I know I've heard the title "Getting Them Sober" mentioned seve...	never going back	7	1143	Jun 16, 2010 by never going back
	I just don't want to try anymore. (Preview) I feel like I have nothing left to give. Maybe that's been part of my sickness - giving too much of myself - but after this past year of focusing on myself and working on ME with my Alanon group, I just feel like I'm ready to go. I'm ready to let my AF live his own life and be free to make his own decisions. I'm...	zhotdogs99	9	1123	Jun 16, 2010 by zhotdogs99
	thanks for being here, all y'all!(SOMETHING FOR LYNDEBI) (Preview) THANKS TO EVERYONE WHO POSTS WHEN THEY ARE ABLE! I HAVE GOTTEN SO MANY GOOD RESPONSES FROM SO MANY PEOPLE. LYNDEBI: THANKS FOR MENTIONING THE JOURNALING IDEA! I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO DO THAT EVERY DAY BUT ONLY GET THE CHANCE ONCE IN A WHILE. SOMETIMES I FEEL THAT I AM TOO DEEP! I GET SO CAUGHT UP IN MY HEAD! TO...	Hoot Nanny	2	765	Jun 16, 2010 by lyndebi
	My Plan Not Working (Preview) Very frustrated here in Steeler Town and for once, it's not because of Big Ben. My wife (who just finished her 2nd month-long rehab a few weeks ago) and I had our 11th anniversary yesterday. Our plan was for her to take antabuse once a week per prescription with me to administer it every Sunday. Sh...	Shawn412	9	946	Jun 15, 2010 by Shawn412
	I wish I could attend Al-Anon in my dreams as well. (Preview) Hi I have been feeling better and better since I came into Al-Anon. It's been ups and downs, but the trend is that it's getting better. I have even managed to be happy about little things in Life. I miss my alcoholic ex-girlfriend still. I have no contact with her and have been able to stop looking into her...	Cosmos	5	760	Jun 15, 2010 by Cosmos
	handling a relapse? (Preview) I am new here, but after reading through others experiences, it seems that maybe this is where I need to be. My husband has been an alcoholic for 40 years. Things got so far out of control 3 years ago that he finally began trying to get help. When I finally went through with my threats to leave him, he joined...	never going back	6	843	Jun 15, 2010 by Bettina
	scared of new relationships (Preview) It's a long while since I've been here. I have been by myself for a long time now, since breaking up with my abf. I am now very scared of new relationships and don't know where to start. I don't have much experience of healthy relationships and am feeling overpowered. I've been working on my self esteem a...	annmarie	4	1186	Jun 15, 2010 by Bettina
	Just venting (again!) (Preview) Just how much more can one person take? I have posted before about AH - now in end stages of alcoholism with liver and kidneys affected. He spends all time in bed - doesn't eat - just drinks and smokes. I have to marvel about how much the body can physically take. He still manages to drag himself over to loca...	Tattyhead	4	807	Jun 15, 2010 by Bettina
	It must be working... (Preview) I know i've been questioning Al anon lately with all of my craziness BUT... This is the first time in over 3 years I'm not nervous going home on a Friday night... LOVE IT!!!!	Hopeless	5	783	Jun 14, 2010 by never going back
	Need your prayers (Preview) Hi everyone, Today I got a phone call from my XAH, he can hardly speak and he is in pain, so I called the paramedics, they had to break down the door because he was too weak to unlock it. They took him to the ER and he is in ICU in critical condition, his blood count was dangerously low, and he has internal bleed...	Bettina	9	1338	Jun 14, 2010 by Bettina
	It's Really Sad/Interesting... (Preview) When someone describes their A (whether it be a drunk or dry drunk) how much a like they all are.... When I read the majority of these post I see my A in almost every one of them, it amazes me = /	Hopeless	5	787	Jun 14, 2010 by buick23
	Martyr role (Preview) when I was subsumed in the martyr role, doing far beyond any boundary for the ex A or for my roommates (I cleaned up for a long time), I had no idea how I came across to others. I felt noble, giving and responsible. Now years into recovery I can see that I alienated many many people when I gave what I didn't h...	maresie	7	903	Jun 14, 2010 by Ness
	I'm insane, I need help! (Preview) It's been a while since I posted here last time. I'm so lost. I started going to the meetings, but it's so hard for me to keep my peace everytime I talk to my alcoholic/addict husband. I think that he's having a rough time right now. He's now going back to the dark days after being sober and clean for a year...	zen78	5	775	Jun 14, 2010 by zen78
	Journal entry or post- about being less than valuable ( to him, not in my mind) (Preview) my A (live in for 7 years, due to my not wanting to get married until I feel I can accept alcoholism for the rest of my life or he gets sober) boyfriend has so many many issues that I don't know where the emotional abuse from is childhood blends with the Alcoholism from his childhood and his current alcoho...	glad	5	974	Jun 14, 2010 by ythannah
	Thank You All.... (Preview) Your words and experiences has given my strength, I know it is time to let him own his bad choices. God Bless you all.	DreamsOver	1	576	Jun 14, 2010 by pineapple
	What is going on??? (Preview) It's been awhile since I've been online as much is going on...I finally got the courage to leave my ABF about a month ago. I am going through counseling and he is supposedly attending church, AA & is meeting regularly with his sponsor. There have been some WONDERFUL conversations. Conversati...	Love Always Hopes	5	723	Jun 14, 2010 by lyndebi
	Prayers for David (Preview) (((Family))), Let's keep our David in our thoughts and prayers this morning as he has surgery. I'm sure all will be well and our Elvis will be back with us real soon. I'll post as soon as I know anything. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers Kitty	Karilynn	14	954	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	All good media helps... (Preview) Just go sent an interesting article of something we can look out for on tv in the coming months... Tom MILLION-SELLING "GETTING THEM SOBER" BOOK FEATURED IN FILM by NATIONAL INSTITUTES OF MENTAL HEALTH Baltimore---- June 11, 2010 SAMHSA (national offices of U.S. substance abuse...	canadianguy	2	680	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Today I will remember ... (Preview) The prgram works. To paraphrase the daily reading from Words to live by A Day At A Time; when the philsopher Jung was asked if he believed in God he replied "I do not believe I know" This is how I feel about AlAnon and everyone's HP, I don't have to believe I know because I see it every day. In peop...	Jennifer	3	595	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Need To Ask A Question Please.... (Preview) My addicted son was arrested last night for resiting arrest after a fight he had with his drug friends. He is now in jail and calling me to come get him out, the bail bondsmen just called and wanted to know when I could come and pay him the bail to have my son released. I don't want to pay this or get involved w...	DreamsOver	4	877	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	Another example of how cats are like addicts! (Preview) (((Family))), Installment #2 of why cats are like addicts. For those of you who have read my post Cats are like addicts and dogs are like codependents, here's another example. True to cat/addict form: Pipers is outside focusing on one thing: Dinner, not from a can but one she can hunt. We have a gorge...	Karilynn	12	1103	Jun 14, 2010 by Andrea12
	He's at the bar, I'm trying not to freak out. (Preview) Hi all. It's been a while since I first posted, but I had a feeling I would end up coming back. Haven't (yet) made it to a face-to-face meeting, but seriously thinking about it soon. Anyway, my h is at the bar. I have no idea when he'll be home. It's almost 2am now and he has work in the morning. I'm trying hard...	wunderbar	8	787	Jun 13, 2010 by tealexis
	MONDAY A.M. MEETING (Preview) I am unable to chair the meeting Monday a.m. There is a tour of my home by the Real Estate folks and I need to vacant my home for the morning hours. Hopefully, someone will be able to step up and chair for me. Thanks, Shimo aka Jeri	shimo	0	345	Jun 13, 2010 by shimo
	Need Chair for Tonight June 13th 2010 (Preview) Sorry again i need chair again this week. Will be back to chairing sunday next week Thanks kerry (aka kerisha)	kerry5	0	446	Jun 13, 2010 by kerry5
	Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns..... (Preview) Why I need my meetings....part 2.......The Prodigal Returns.....So I was just heading to bed Wed night when I heard the kitchen door open and a hushed discussion ensue between husb & a voice I havent heard for many months, the son I love with all my heart.....I stayed calm............a miracle o...	Ness	3	977	Jun 13, 2010 by Ness
	Origin of codependency (Preview) I have just read a long article online about codependency. I fit the pattern all too well. One thing that characterizes a codependent person is a low feeling of self. This makes me think of the time I spent in therapy last year, when I said to my therapist that I dont see myself as a person. I still find it di...	Cosmos	2	1214	Jun 13, 2010 by DreamXL
	Today Is... (Preview) my addicted son's 30th birthday. I called to let him know I have his birthday cake ready, the voice on the other end of the line with it's slurred speech, and biting remarks let me know how he plans to celebrate today. I should know better than to get my hopes up, but you still catch yourself wishing. Love...	DreamsOver	4	682	Jun 13, 2010 by adonaisgirl
	New Here:Step son Just out of Jail and Home. (Preview) My steps son is just out of Jail and the drug dealers and calling him already. I tell him not to get back in the same routine. But I dont think he hears me.	Voyger52	2	966	Jun 13, 2010 by Bettina
	Alone (Preview) My A called and said he didn't think he should drive home, I am thankful for that so many times he did drive when he shouldn't. We had a fight this week (he was sober) and of course it was mostly about what I had to change that made him stressed out etc. but also about how I get no emotional support from him, he...	Holly09	1	649	Jun 13, 2010 by Bettina
	JUST A QUICK ONE! (Preview) I JUST WANTED TO UPDATE MY CURRENT SITUATION WITH GETTING MY BR CONSULTATION & EVERYTHING THAT IS GOING THUS FAR! I AM SO NERVOUS & SCARED TO DO IT! IT IS A LONG DRAWN OUT RECOVERY! I WILL HAVE TO REALLY CONSIDER IT MORE BEFORE I DO IT! IT IS 7,600 DOLLARS BUT MY MOM IS TAKING CARE OF IT SO THAT ISN'T A...	Hoot Nanny	1	540	Jun 12, 2010 by Jennifer
	Just for this Moment.... (Preview) Well I'm still on my Roller Coaster, for sure... But Today is a beautiful Day So trying to find the brighter side of things... Little "Belly Nervous" about this weekend tho... many that know me know that my Neice & Nephew moved FAR From me, and have been gone since last July.... So I have...	Jozie	4	938	Jun 12, 2010 by Jozie
	New Here. Husband will be home tomorrow from in-patient program. Sigh. (Preview) Hi all, I've been perusing the site and you all seem like a very nice group of people. I hope you don't mind me joining in. My husband comes home tomorrow after 4 weeks in a detox/rehab program. I have read lots about detaching, etc., but am still just so resentful. 6 weeks ago (even before he went into the p...	TampaGirl	12	1796	Jun 11, 2010 by TampaGirl
	Why I need my meetings.....and other stories (Preview) Wednesday was my first f2f in a couple of weeks. I had been pouting and feeling soooo sorry for myself for a good 10 days, nothing was lifting it. The meeting topic was Asking for Help, and in discussion after one of the readings it brought on an unexpected avalanche of tears, followed by a good old vent...	Ness	5	939	Jun 11, 2010 by hotrod
	New to the board....bringing my brother to rehab tomorrow (Preview) Hi, I am bringing my brother to rehab tomorrow and stumbled across this wesite tonight. I am having so many mixed emotions but mainly I am exhausted and am looking forward to sleeping tomorrow night and not worrying about him. Does anyone have any suggestions on what I should say to him???	linds	4	833	Jun 11, 2010 by maresie
	What does MIP mean to you? (Preview) Just a general discussion question. What does Miracles In Progress mean to you? How has it helped you start or add to your program of recovery? How often do you use the MIP site? Just reply with your ideas, feelings, thoughts, and give us an idea of how you are benefiting from having MIP as a part of y...	John	19	1293	Jun 11, 2010 by Ness
	i'm here once again (Preview) Hello all. I'm new to this site and have been reading some of your emails. Gosh it's sooo good to know that I'm not on my own. I've known my partner for 7 years now, with a break of 2 when I filed for a non-molestation order. I couldn't do the emotional roller coaster of living with an abusive, selfish, ungra...	stuckagain	4	771	Jun 11, 2010 by stuckagain
	hope (Preview) I was able to put my arms around a woman today in my f2f who was crying. I held her up. She was sad and scared and confused as her son is bipolar and a drug addict and she has turned him out. I had never met her before today and it was her first meeting. What a gift this program has given me. I was able to give her a sh...	freeagain	4	728	Jun 11, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Prayers for Christy's Mom (Preview) ((((Family)))), I'm asking prayers for Christy's Mom. She isn't doing so well these days. Christy will be with her on Tuesday. Let us all send her & her family our love and prayers. Thank you, Karilynn & Pipers	Karilynn	10	922	Jun 11, 2010 by Ness
	Oh MAN. (Preview) Okay, so I did a great job on a project at work, if I do say so myself - and I do! ;) Today, the manging partner of my firm sent an email to the entire firm recognizing the good job on the work that was done but attributing it to another partner. The managing partner called it "better than gold" an...	White Rabbit	11	820	Jun 10, 2010 by buick23
	I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired! (Preview) I know I'm still a work in process when it comes to the program but my A literally sucks the life out of me! I can never do anything right (ie: didn't pack enough diapers for my daughter)... One minute we can have a decent conversation and in the same sentence he turns on me just like that?!?! He can'...	Hopeless	7	894	Jun 10, 2010 by buick23
	Responded to Mom (Preview) It's been a month since crap hit the fan after a few weeks of hatefilled phone calls and emails. Mom just sent me an email bringing up how awful I was at 12+ to her, that fights we had and her going to work upset every day. I am 44 now. From the time I was out on my own at 17 we have been buddies off and on, mostly o...	cuteamy7	7	837	Jun 10, 2010 by cuteamy7
	A says he can get sober without AA and I think it's ridiculous (Preview) He's been going to AA twice a week for about two months, all the while still drinking. I knew he wasn't really working the program, but figured at least he was where he needed to be for at least two hours out of his week and that he might pick something up. All this time he's said, "Yeah, AA is great. I...	zhotdogs99	13	1319	Jun 10, 2010 by All I can be
	Anniversary? (Preview) I just heard on the radio that today is the anniversary of the founding of AA. The DJ called for an alcohol free day in observance, I thought that was pretty cool. I don't know if it is truly the founding day but I will use it as a good excuse to put a bit more gratitude into my day. I am grateful for a program tha...	Jennifer	8	776	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	I can really use some encouragement (Preview) It's been a very long time since I have written on this board, but today I find myself in desperate need and I feel very alone. My diabetic AH has been drinking again and I'm having a very hard time with it. Over a year ago, I took our 7 year old son and left for about a month. Without going into all the sort...	helpme08	6	981	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	The best that we can (Preview) I truely believe that we do the best that we can in the situation we are in with the copeing skills that we have. Hopefully we learn and move on. I am doing the best that I can.......if that's not good enough for somone else sorry for them That is how I feel today. Holly	Holly09	6	707	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	Just having a bad day (Preview) All I want to do is cry. I can't seem to get out of this mood. We went on vacation two weeks ago, my AH, my 7 yr old son and myself. Had a great time and we always do when we go away. Its our 'escape' from life. But the minute we got on that plane to come home I started getting into such a funk and am finding it hard to g...	Rose	8	739	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	We Will Not Regret The Past (Preview) I too have been reawakening some childhood memories of late. Going through many old photographs - my dad had a top notch camera and I'm finding pristine black and white negatives that are over 50 years old, that haven't seen daylight in almost as long. Pictures of me, my parents, friends some of whic...	barisax	1	802	Jun 10, 2010 by Sweet Stanley
	Al Anon in living with the A vs. Not Living... (Preview) is there different types/steps in following the program for each situation?	Hopeless	7	774	Jun 10, 2010 by maresie
	The end... (Preview) I have not been on here for some time now...May 13th 2007 Mothers Day will be a day i will never forget...we lost our son to a heroin overdose. He fought hard for many years..married had two boys of his own. Life as we knew it will never be the same. He attended AA meetings for years and i believe it is the only...	RJ1978	11	988	Jun 10, 2010 by Priscilla83
	For the LOVE of NIGEL3 :) (Preview) http://www.facebook.com/group.php?gid=129357210417384	kerry5	3	610	Jun 10, 2010 by kerry5
	somebody say something to give me some hope..please (Preview) From being quite young I can remember my parents arguing about the usual stuff. But also I can remember many times these arguments would come after my father came home late from the pub. When I was 13 my mom took seriously ill and nearly died. I remember very little about this time apart from the fear abou...	mack69	5	769	Jun 10, 2010 by Peggy7
	Dry Drunk . . . . Your Experiences please (Preview) Hi guys, Some quick background to my situation . . . . live in UK and have an alcoholic girlfriend of some four (largely miserable) years. Me - 38. She - 41. No kids - thank goodness, bearing in mind who and what the prospective mother is currently. But I would like kids and a quiet life . . . . . We (have to) liv...	JimmyX	9	1443	Jun 9, 2010 by nmike
	Questions for those with experience...(long) (Preview) -separated from AH almost 8 weeks ago. During that time he weaned himself off clonazepam (prescription). This was done without doctor supervision, but he survived. He suffered through many side effects inlcuding the angry outburst I described here last week. -He had been on the drug for ten years....	looking_for_peace	7	1143	Jun 9, 2010 by maresie
	This is Brilliant! (closed) (Preview) One of my group of friends recently asked the rest of us to please share any and all experience we have with dealing with a recovering alcoholic. Her husband has just recognized his disease, and is starting his path to recovery. Another of the group, who is a recovering alcoholic, sober for about 30 ye...	jettiesgirl	5	725	Jun 9, 2010 by maresie
	How to respond to someone who chooses to stay in a very bad relationship? (Preview) My brother's wife is not only hateful and verbally (and on at least one occasion, physically) abusive with him, she is neglectful with the kids. My mother and I have been stepping in to help with the kids but this only means the mother doesn't have to do what she needs to do. But she won't anyway so, if we...	smartkat	11	875	Jun 9, 2010 by sirpher
	Shame on me (Preview) So, my AH doesn't have a car right know cause he got caught drinking and driving and they took his license plates. So, he started to borrow my car until at some poin it's more like his car. Last night he told me he needed the car and I told him no, but he kept pushing until I said yes, only cause he promised that...	Priscilla83	8	913	Jun 9, 2010 by Priscilla83
	Codependency and Social Anxiety Disorder codependency social anxiety disorder 12 step program (Preview) For me, my codependency issues progressed until they crossed the line into becoming a crippling anxiety disorder, in my case social anxiety disorder. Once I had developed a full-blown social anxiety problem, I needed additional help. I was fortunate to find a 12 Step program specifically focuse...	johnm	2	9327	Jun 9, 2010 by tlcate
	Detatchment vs not caring - and other confusions (Preview) Can we get a discussion going how to detatch and how some people THINK they are detatching when they aren't? Sometimes, I go into apathy-mode when I try to detatch. Others have said they felt like they were slipping into denial when trying to detatch. Any ideas? BTW - the A in my life is my SIL and I never be...	smartkat	17	1502	Jun 8, 2010 by GailMichelle
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